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Bill Heitin
October 26, 2006
To the Finer Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Bill, Suzanne, Marni & Julia Heitin
Rick Mori
October 19, 2006
My time with Steve was very short, he brought his Falcon Wagon over to my shop on 26th Street a couple of years ago, what a guy, we clicked right away, I last saw Steve about a year ago at the Marina Green on a Sunday afternoon where he was walking with his Wife and son, my thoughts and prayers are with his family.
C. Strack
October 11, 2006
Finer, or must I call him Steve, was one of my closest friends. He always insisted on being called Steve, and for 8 years he's been Finer to me, perhaps I must officially relent.
I have read the other entries, and I agree whole-heartedly. Finer was
a man of big bear hugs. He is the most creatively driven person I know. He always had a funny response to everything. He told me that Cassius was being inconsiderate one day for not sitting on the other
end of the couch. Cassius always wanted to snuggle right up to us.
I still have not wrapped my arms around his absence. It came out of
left field. That being said, as I told Todd, Steve really packed a
punch in his short time here. Between Acme, his bi-coastal life,
international family and complete passion for the garage lifestyle, he is a man of fulfilled dreams. He did live every day as if it was his
last, and that I am grateful for.
To Momma Finer, I hope you have much support at home and I am here when you want to talk. I know you told me that Stevie was your baby, and how your kids meant the world to you. There's no reason to stop loving him now.
Tom Cory
October 11, 2006
Steve had more heart than anybody I know. I met Steve at the Oyama Karate Dojo. And every night he showed up he gave it his all. Even if Sensei would say "light sparring" Steve went all out. He only knew one speed - Full on, hard core, no holds bar brawlin.
In retrospect I kind of feel bad for hitting him so hard. But he would'nt have had it any other way.
Christin Hokenstad
October 11, 2006
Alas, I, as we all were, was simply shocked to hear about Steve's death. I think my denial has delayed me writing this note.
First I just want to express my deepest sympathy and condolences to his entire family. . . not much more can be said.
Second, upon some reflection I was able to come to a place of immense gratitude for Steve's life. He was such an enthusiast for life . . . his passion and commitment is exemplary. In addition, his ability to manage his life with grace while under pressure has shaped how I approach my work regularly.
I am whole heartedly grateful for having known Steve. I am sorry that is was not for longer . . . and yet I want to acknowledge to the world that his spirit does truly live on.
Gina (Tan) Klumb
October 10, 2006
Dear Yuki, Abi, Mike and Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I received Brook's email of the news while in Hawaii, a day before my wedding, and honestly, I didn't want to open it. So I waited until the day after the wedding, (hoping that I misread the subject heading) to read it. But alas, the truth was crushing. I can't imagine what all of you must be going through. I just hope that in time, your wounds will heal, and Steve's memory will be fondly kept. He was a wonderful, positive and witty ProBusiness workmate/friend,who also introduced me to the SF City life - which I can't thank him enough for! He will be missed. If there is anything that I can do for you, please let me know! My thoughts are with you.
robert balcioni
October 10, 2006
Steve was a man who lived life the way most of us wanted to. I met Steve at a very ruff time in my life and when he was building the nova,I noticed it and said "I smell a nova",he came out and said yah brotha i got one here come check it out. just met the guy and he invited me in for a beer and told me about what he was building.He's a great memorie and i will miss him greatly.
my thoughts and prayers go to his family, and i would like to thank them as well for giving us Steve to have as a friend
Mike Litchfield
October 10, 2006
I worked with Steve at cornerhardware and have to say that he had one of the most original minds I've ever come across. He was always energetic and excited about whatever he was doing, he was frequently outrageous, usually hilarious. And he had a big heart. With all the commotion and excitement around him, that last trait was easy to overlook: He was extraordinarily kind, generous and compassionate. He enjoyed life to the fullest and so leaves that remarkable example for all of us to follow. All in all, a remarkable man.
Kelley Garnhum Cooksey
October 7, 2006
Dear Lorna,Phil,Elisha & Michael
I have thought about writing for a week now. Words fail...How can i express how sorry i am,how sad i am..in just a few words(it seems so inadequate). Steven was my only guy friend as a kid. we squabbled like brother and sister-then went back to playing. He was always good to me. There are many memories. Once, when i was sad,he drove me to burger king to get a bite to eat and gave me a pep talk. I haven't seem him in so long, but i thought of him and all of you so often. The thing i remember most was his mischievous smile and giggle, which was usually there right before he got into trouble.I just want to tell you all how sorry i am. You are all in my prayers.
Love, Kelley Ann Garnhum Cooksey
Doug Mavilia
October 4, 2006
Dear Mike and family,
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you all during this difficult time.
John, Bob & Chip The Silvas
October 3, 2006
Please accept our deepest sympathies.
Cheryl Brady/Boston MedFlight
October 2, 2006
To Phil,
My sincere condolences to you and your family on the loss of your son. Please know my thoughts are with you at this time.
October 2, 2006
Phil, I am sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your son. My deepest sympathy. Larry MacDougall, Boston Med Flight.
Linda Greenberg/Boston MedFlight
October 2, 2006
Phil, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Fran Litner
October 1, 2006
Dear Lorna, Michael, and Elisha,
So saddened to hear of the terrible loss of Steven. My heart goes out to you. With deep sympathy and Love, Fran Litner
Brian Cotoni (Boston Medflight)
October 1, 2006
Phil and your family: My deepest sympathies for your loss. Please know that we're thinking of you during this difficult time.
Jill Wilson
October 1, 2006
Lorna, Phil, Michael, and Elisha, I cannot express how sorry I am to hear of Steven's passing. I'm lucky enough to have known him as a child, but not as an adult and it is truly my loss. I remember kick-ball games on Garden St., Steven eating a raw onion, and Steven holding me upside down over the toilet threatening to flush my head!! The fact that he didn't flush my head was a testament to what a great kid he really was. Like Dawn, I remember his smiling face and the fact that he could find fun in any situation. I wish I could be there to pay my respects in person. I miss all of you all the time, and Steven will forever be in my thoughts. Love, Carrot.
Marilyn Fischer
October 1, 2006
I was so saddened by the loss of Steven. I knew him since he was very young and a wonderful funny person. He was best friends with my daughter. He was always at our home in Stoughton and came to visit us when we lived in Florida with his brother Michael. Steven will be sadly missed. I send my deepest sympathies to his family.
Mark & Vicki Miller
October 1, 2006
Dearest Finers,
After being at a conference all of this past week I opened my e-mail this evening to find news of the sudden loss of Steve. We were shocked and saddened at this news. Our most sincere and deepest condolences go out to you.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
I remember all of the great times we had in Sharon when all of us were young, single and full of boundless energy.
We will say a special prayer today for Steve and for your family.
Mark & Vicki
Helen Berkowitz
October 1, 2006
Dear Lorna,
One cannot imagine what you and your family are feeling right now. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Helen, Steve, Jonathan, Max and Sarah Berkowitz
Dawn (Garnhum)Alexander
September 30, 2006
Lorna,Phil,Michael and Elisha,
Our family was so devastated to hear of Steven's passing.My memories of Steven are from so long ago, but what I remember most was his smile. I hope all the stories and memories everyone shares with you bring you comfort. My deepest sympathy.
Traci Powers
September 30, 2006
Phil, I'm so sad to hear about your loss. Please know my thoughts are with you. May God be with you and your family in such a difficult time. Traci Powers, Boston Medflight
September 30, 2006
Words cannot express how sad we are at Steven's passing. We enjoyed all the holidays we spent with Michael, Steven and Elisha growing up. The Chanukah parties hold such special memories for us. Steven was such a warm and caring person who always lived life to the fullest. It was so great to see him become a wonderful husband and proud father. We will always miss him and remember him with love in our hearts.
Love always,
Auntie Selma, Uncle (Unk) Syd, Cousins Michelle, Meryl & Ken and Matthew and Alex.
Paula Eskoz
September 30, 2006
If someone had told my cousin Steven when he was small that he would only live to be 40 years old, I have found myself wondering if he would have lived his life any differently. My feeling is no, that Steven would have lived his life just as he did. This brings me a little comfort and makes me smile. Although his role as a dad was all too short, I'm happy he experienced this, something that I know he loved. And I'll always remember Steven dancing at his wedding. His positive, outgoing spirit will be missed by our entire family - we love you, Steven.
Andrew Farkas
September 30, 2006
Phil,
We were all sorry to hear about the loss of your son...our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. All your friends at Boston Medflight
Jill Phaneuf
September 30, 2006
Phil,
Your friends at Boston MedFlight were saddened to hear of your son's death. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this time. We wish you well.
Wendy Ponzio
September 29, 2006
There aren't enough words to describe my nephew Steven & how much pride I hold in my heart just to have known him. He flew through childhood (I think he only had one speed - RUN). Steven, Michael & Elisha would dance & sing in Gram & Papa's playroom while I played the piano. He loved New Year's Eve because Gram always had all kinds of goodies to munch on in front of the fireplace, while waiting for the New Year's Ball to drop. Then Steve became an AMAZING man. Always handled a challenge with courage, pride & tenacity. His love of dogs (Cassius), his honesty & wisecracks, his kindness & his gentle soul all made Steven... Steven.
But best of all - he gave the BEST hugs.
My heart will always have a piece missing.
Always, WW
Brett Finer
September 28, 2006
This is a note that I recently wrote to Kathy and Phil. I thought it would be nice to share it along with all these other kind words that are written below about my cousin Steven.....
Dear Kathy and Phil,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Although Steve lived so far away and I saw him infrequently, I felt an unusually strong bond with Steve. I have done a lot of thinking about this bond, and I think it is due to being the younger Finer male sibling. Both of our brothers are older and much more anal and structured; Steve and I are more live in the moment kind of guys, and when I saw him, I think he reminded me of myself a little bit. He had strange, exquisite, and interesting tastes; He did whatever he wanted to do and followed his dreams. I was always envious of his new life where he was much more relaxed and happy out in California. I will never forget the time 2 years ago when I had the pleasure of going to dinner with Steve and Yuki. They took me for a drive all around San Francisco in his car that he was so proud of, and showed me an amazing view of San Francisco at night that I could never have gotten to on my own. I have been in contact with Steve over the past few years and have begged him to come to New York city where I wanted to show him around my city(as he did for me) and return the dinner he bought for me. He was so adamant about treating me to dinner, saying that when he comes to my city its on me! This of course now will never happen. I am so saddened by the news I heard a few days ago. I cannot even attempt to fathom how you must feel. I hope that you take this email as me reaching out and offering my condolences to you, Yuki, Michael, Alisha and Lorna. I wish I could talk to Steve again. I would love to pick his brain, to see his tattoo again, to chat about and hear his thoughts on the Finer family--which he was not hesitant to speak the truth about. If there is anything at all that I can do for you in any way shape or form, please let me know.
With love and my deepest sympathy,
Brett Finer
John and Julie Velcamp
September 28, 2006
Steve was one the most kind, engaging, ethusiastic and positive people ever to grace our lives. We regret not spending more time with him to reflect back the love and light he gave out. He welcomed others from all walks of life and was always supportive. Steve never shrank from challenges or difficulties. Godspeed, Steve.
Amy Fischer
September 28, 2006
There are no words for how I feel at this moment. Steve taught me so much and he lived everyday to the fullest. He was such a dear friend and I am blessed to have had in my life. My thoughts are with the family.
Heather Puliafico
September 27, 2006
I will always remember my childhood crush on Steven. He was the cool older boy who always made me feel included. One time upon bumping into him working at Mad Maggies he was so excited to see me after all those years it felt like no time had past at all. We're all in shock to learn of this untimely news and wish the best for his family. My brothers, Eric & Joey, and I are all sad beyond words. Lorna is like a godmother to us so its like losing a brother.
Love and thoughts, Heather
Lori Robbins
September 27, 2006
Steven always had a smile that you knew he was hiding something special and unspoken between you.
My whole family will miss him beyond words.
Love always to the whole family, Lori
Brook Sutton
September 27, 2006
Steve always had an incredible amount of energy and enthusiasm about everything. I remember well when he first moved to SF and JT had given him my number to call, so I could introduce him around and show him a city where he didn't really know anyone. Shortly afterwards, He was the one introducing us to new people! Always generous, hosting events, and bringing people together. You will be deeply missed, my friend.
Jon Behrens
September 27, 2006
I met Steve through a resume he posted for webmaster position I was trying to fill back in '98. He still lived in Boston and we were headquartered in Pleasanton, CA. After several phone interviews, I flew him out and he showed up in a 3 piece suit complete with matching briefcase. We interviewed him, and true to form, Steve turned the interview into a one-man show. After the interview, I leaned over to my colleague and he said "I don't know what this guy knows about the web but if we hire him, there will never be a dull moment in the department. We hired him, and Steve went on to light up the room with his wit, rants, and energy while simultaneously building all things web… Over time, Steve became one of my closest friends as he bought his house in Bernal Heights, moved onto new web adventures, and eventually met and married Yuki. I can tell you that he had no greater joy than talking about ABI and his new family…Steve was also in a renaissance period. In one of our recent conversations, he quipped that the last honest men on the planet were the craftsman: Those who worked with tools and created tangible products and art for our enjoyment and use. He liked to work with his hands and was endlessly pursuing projects in all aspects of his life.
Steve will be greatly missed and has made a permanent impression on me. He truly was a one of a kind, and ultimately -- beyond all the sarcasm and jokes-- a loyal friend.
Roger Lerrick and Family
September 27, 2006
11 years ago this month I met Steve at his brother Mike’s wedding. I liked him immediately, Of course what is not to like? He was always charged with energy, a wonderful sense of dry humor, but a genuineness that made it clear to me that Steve was more than just a party friend, Steve, like his brother Mike, was someone who you can call a true friend. An invite to a party Steve was hosting was a sure bet for a good time, a chance to meet lots of people and to know that every detail was taken care of. My ears are still ringing from the last time I saw him take to the drums. Steve was a wonderful host to old and new friends alike. For me, he was there with advice when I needed it, a good laugh when I needed one, and someone I could count on, someone who I could call a true friend.
I recall when Steve moved to San Francisco I took him around and showed him where to go for furniture, helped him find a place to live etc. After he settled into the Marina (yes for a brief time Steve lived among the city’s yuppies), he invited me over for a house warming party. Typical Steve, every neighbor in the building was there, and all his new friends attended, Steve had more friends in 30 days than I had in 5 years.
A week ago Tuesday Steve wrote to me and told me he had a new job; he was very excited about it and asked me to call him to get the details. I am extremely saddened by news of his passing and I am still not over it, I feel like I lost one of my best friends and the City of San Francisco has lost one of its most loved residents. My pain is lessened knowing he was able to experience love from his wife and son, that both his parents and his siblings cared for him deeply, and the week he left us, he was doing some of what Steve loved best: cars, motorcycles and the internet.
I have looked at pictures of Steve, friends he has made, events he attended, parties he sponsored, places he has visited. I think of the business he ran, being a loving father, being a caring husband, and it dawned on me, that Steven might has left us at age 40, but if you ask me, I think he lived for 120 years. Steve, you are forever in my thoughts.
Barb Finer
September 27, 2006
To my sweet nephew: miss you already. Will remember you always.
love, Auntie Barbie
Christian Amsler
September 27, 2006
Steve was an enthusiastic man about most everything. What started off as a weekly drum lesson at his place soon grew into a friendship that I will sadly miss. I know wherever Steve is now, he's flashing that grin of gusto at us all.
Goodbye Sensai
David Ash
September 27, 2006
I first met Steve while working at Corporate Software many moons ago. I remember he was always the man with a plan and wasn't afraid to act on it. I think the last time I saw him was at my friend John's wedding, but was always interested to hear what he was up to. He will be missed by all of us who were lucky enough to know him.
John & Mary Torello
September 27, 2006
Just a little over 10 years ago, Steve talked me into going on a blind date with him and his date. I had little interest in this plan. However, Steve was able to convince me with his enthusiasm, wit and a cup of coffee. I had no clue at the time that my blind date would end up being my future wife and life partner.
Four years later, on our first anniversary, Mary and I went on a trip to San Francisco. One day while we were there, Steve had just received delivery of his ’66 Nova. The driver of the car transport would only deliver it within proximity of his house. I remember a few of us having to push it down Caesar Chavez Boulevard in the middle of the afternoon rush-hour traffic, laughing like teenagers all along the way. Somehow, we managed to get it onto his street and into his garage. Must have been the beer!
Two weeks ago, Steve and I exchanged emails. He has said how things were well; he was busy with the business, he was enjoying being a Dad and he was looking forward to a little “wrench time”. Somehow,cars were always a topic of our conversations.
Steve was a great friend, and he truly valued both family and friendship. He enjoyed playing the role of “entertainment coordinator” and was able to bring different circles of friends together. He was a dreamer and eternal optimist. He knew what he wanted and wasn’t afraid to pursue his dreams. He always took life head-on; he lived and enjoyed life to the fullest. These are just a few of the things I admired about him, and some of the things to take away in living my own life.
We will miss you Steve.
Godspeed, friend
Farzaneh
September 27, 2006
Steve was always full of positive energy and loved life.
you'll be missed boss...
MJ Rosenthal
September 27, 2006
Steven was an amazing man, and I will miss him deeply. Even with all of the miles apart, I loved getting his emails and hearing about his life. I will miss him deeply along with everyone who knew and loved him.
Ken Berger
September 27, 2006
I will forever miss my "brutha" and garage jam band mate. Steve you were the very best.
Mike Walkman
September 27, 2006
Steve was a great influence at many junctures in my life. Because of this, he will always be a part of me. I am very sorry to have lost the opportunity for further adventures.
Todd Borglund
September 27, 2006
Steve was the man, myth, and legend. He lived life to the fullest and had energy that most of us wish we had. He will always be one of my best friends.
Sterling Borglund
September 27, 2006
Steve was a great guy and a good friend. My brother Todd was one of his best friends and is deeply saddened by his lost. My deepest sympathy to his wife and son and family.
Sterling Borglund
Larry Ross
September 27, 2006
So very sorry to hear about Steven as the news of his passing reached me in Sharon. May all who loved him find peace.
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