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Jay DeLashmit Obituary
News Death Notice
DeLASHMIT, Jay 48 of Evansville, Indiana, formerly of Dayton, passed away Tuesday, February 3, 2009 unexpectedly at his home. Survivors include: His wife of 25 years: Kara Ernspiger DeLashmit of Evansville, IN; Daughter: Kalah Walker and husband Brett of Dayton, OH; Brother: Doug (Beverly) DeLashmit of Tucson, AZ; Niece: Sara DeLashmit of Tucson, AZ; Nephews: Ben Titus of Tucson, AZ and Ryan DeLashmit of Greenfield, IN, who was recently deployed to Afghanistan. Sisters in Law: Kathie Ernspiger, Sue Ernspiger, Kris Brown, and Kim (Lawrence "Beaver") Mattingly, all of Evansville, IN; Niece: Shelley (Patrick) Thompson of Belleville, IL; Great Nephew: Tyler Thompson of Belleville, IL; Nephews: Frank, Sam and Daniel Mattingly and Nathan Brown, all of Evansville, IN; Niece: Emma Mattingly of Evansville, IN; Father in Law and Mother in Law: Daniel and Nell Ernspiger of Evansville, IN. Funeral Services will be held at 1:30 pm, Sunday, February 8, 2009 at Boone Funeral Home East Chapel - 5330 Washington Avenue with Reverend Dr. George Huffsmith officiating. The Vanderburgh County Retired Veterans Club will perform full military rites. Burial will be Private. Friends may call from Noon until 7:00 pm, Saturday, February 7, 2009 at Boone Funeral Home - East Chapel and again from 11:30 am until time of service at 1:30 pm, Sunday, February 8, 2009. Memorial Contributions may be made to: The American Heart Association, 6100 W. 96th St., Suite 200, Indianapolis, IN 46278 or United Caring Shelters, 324 N.W. 6th St., Evansville, IN 47708 or Help Hospitalized Veterans, 36585 Penfield Ln., Winchester, CA 92596. Condolences may be made to the family online at courierpress.com
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Memories and Condolences
for Jay DeLashmit
Joyce Barnard-Bailey
May 22, 2009
I know this is way beyond his passing, but I only heard of it today, Fri., May 22, 2009. My first cousin, Jay, has passed away and I am so sorry for his loss. We grew up close when we were young and unfortunately,lost touch as we grew older, but seeing his phots reminds me that he's the same sweet kid I remember, for you, see, I'm his older cousin- 7 years older to be exact and I remember spending so much time with he and Doug growing up ... still have photos/video of us as kids - those were the days. Jay, your photos show that you haven't changed and for that we are all grateful. To Doug - I am sorry for your loss, as you are the lone Delashmit and I know that must be hard. Your are in my thoughts and prayers, as is all of the people who clearly loved and charished Jay. I'm still in shock, even though we haven't seen each other or been close for years - I only hope you have/had some sor of memory of me. Your 1st cousin, Joyce Barnard-Bailey.
Leann English
May 21, 2009
I was just looking up old friends on Google and found this memorial. I dated Jay for a short time in my much younger years. From what I remember he was a very sweet man. From what I read here, he continued that pattern. So sorry for the loss to his family & children.
I'm sure he turned out to be a wonderful father & husband...God Speed!
Kris Brown
March 11, 2009
To Jay-
You now reside in unknown space,
A place we cannot know.
Transformed-you are beyond our reach,
Outside this earthly glow.
Do you soar with wings of eagle?
Do you ride the crest of wave?
On crowded streets we search for you.
Only memory can save.
You left behind-both young and old,
With aching hearts and stinging tear.
Our thoughts shall oft return to you
With the hope that you are near.
kalah delashmit-walker
March 10, 2009
http://www.jaydelashmit.us/
This is a website dedicated to my dad, there are pictures and comments, one of his best friends Jon made it!
Brian Davis
March 8, 2009
Dear Kara and Family,
I served with Jay while he was stationed at Chanute AFB. Jay was on my flight and when I first met him. I realized quick, Jay was a friend to all and always eager to help. We had a lot of fun patroling the streets of Chanute together. Jay was one of the trully great guys and eventhough it has been years since I have last seen or talked to him, my air force memories always included Jay and I've always considered him a great friend. Jay had a sense of humor and smile that was like no other.......my heart is saddened for "Our" loss, my prayers and thoughts are with you.
Kalah Delashmit-Walker
March 4, 2009
Dad... yesterday was one month since you have been gone.. I miss you more than ever today. But i know you are here with me.. I miss you and love you...
Roy Griffith
February 19, 2009
Jay,
Thanks for the memories back in high school. I'm sorry to say that I didn't have the pleasure of meeting your family, but I am certain they too are great people. Rest well and keep God laughing till I get there.
Kalah DeLashmit-Walker
February 13, 2009
I miss you dad. I think about you every single second of every day. I always did.. and i always will. I miss you so much... i love you.
Tom and Joyce Gamble
February 10, 2009
We were sorry to hear of Jay's passing. Our thoughts and prayers go out to Kara, Kahla, Doug, and other loved ones of Jay's. We have
many fond memories of Jay and Doug growing up.
Dawn Lane Medvescek Class of 1979
February 10, 2009
Dear DeLashmit Family ~
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Jay was such a huge part of our high school years and memories. Jay was such a great guy with a contagious smile and wonderful sense of humor. I know he was taken from you far too soon and I pray you can find a small bit of comfort in knowing how fondly he is remembered as we reflect on those memories and times we spent with him that were made so special by Jay just being Jay.
Jay ~ I hope you have that smile on as you're walking with the angels!
Many Blessings,
Nicolette Poyzer
February 10, 2009
Jay - we love you, however the UK would like you to take back the snow you sent us all. We do not have any snow plows so are basically at a standstill. Seriously who is going to make me brats in beer and beer can chicken, who is going to explain the rules of 'American' football to me, who is going to listen to Jons IT geek speak and who is going to ride them coasters with Jared? You are thats who as wherever we are you are with us in our hearts, minds, jokes and stories. It will not be possible to forget you as you have touched our lives and we feel so proud to have called you our best friend. Even though you never got to meet Jared, he will know you believe me!!!! Send us some sunshine soon. Love your best UK friends Jon, Nicolette and Jared
Terre Riney
February 9, 2009
Kara and the Ernspiger family,
My sympathy for the untimely loss of your husband. You are fortunate to have such a loving family for support. Love and prayers.
Greg Gamble
February 9, 2009
Let me tell you a story that shows some of Jay's character. My family grew up down the street from Jay and his parents. Jay and I were on the track team together. One day after school, before practice, I was walking around the school with some other guys. It had rained recently and there were many large puddles. I think because I was on the smaller side of the scale, the other kids took a hold of me and threw me in one of the puddles. I was soaked to the bone. The tormenting continued...for awhile...apparently, Jay and one of his friends overheard things (I did not say anything to anyone...I was trying to be invisible and live through practice that day and get home). Next thing one heard in the locker room was what one could best describe as locker room justice. I did not have any more issues with those guys ever again. I hope this memory helps you. Peace be with you all.
Donna (Lopez) Perkins
February 8, 2009
Jay was a great and sweet guy. I have lots of funny memories of high school with Jay. The GCHS class of 79 will miss him. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Dirk and Tracie Mangold
February 8, 2009
Kara, Kayla and the Ernspiger family -
Dirk and I were so shocked and saddened to hear of your unexpected loss. We know how important family is and know Jay will be dearly missed. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Let us know if there is anything we can do to help, at anytime.
Wendy Wright Oguz
February 8, 2009
jay was such a wonderful young man in High School. I was proud to call him a good friend. God be with you and your family at this difficult time. God Bless.
Bill & Dian Blueher
February 7, 2009
Kara
So sorry to hear of Jay's passing, but being surrounded by family and friends during this difficult time must be very comforting.
We have not been in contact for many years but think of you often and think fondly of the times spent with Jay and Doug during their growing up in Greenfield. You are in our thoughts and prayers, take care of yourself.
Gregg Hall
February 7, 2009
May God Bless you at this time.....I have my own wonderful memories of Jay from the time we were small through High School.....playing sports together or just being kids. I know he surely will be missed from all of us from High school.
Jamie King (Trego) DFAS
February 7, 2009
Kara and Kayla,
Im so sorry for your loss. My family and I will keep your family in our prayers and thoughts. We havent talked for years, but know that we will always be thinking of you.
Love always,
Randy Sexton
February 7, 2009
Doug, I'm so sorry to hear of Jay's passing. He was a great guy and I still remember us all playing Legion baseball together and your Dad coaching us when we were kids. Take care and God bless. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Beth Koch
February 7, 2009
Kara and all the Ernspigers;
I love you guys. And I am sorry for your unspeakable loss. Kara, a special message for you: We are all called to love and to keep on loving, and we are called to love even when we are hurting. The anguish feels like forever--but look for the sign, Jay will send you one to show that he is now in the loving arms to which we all return--and there is great peace for us when we receive that sign. I believe all of our loved ones who have passed send us messages in this way--even though that sounds impossible. Laura sent me a streaming gleaming sunset--it was days after I arrived home from her funeral, but I knew instinctively that it was her. All--Have faith and lean together. And love each other. I am praying for each of you to be consoled. Peace. And Love, Beth
mjd
February 7, 2009
He would leave the earth with it's troubles and fly.
He knew the warmth of a clear spring sky.
We spent days full of flying, he and I.
A tail chase, a roll, great summer delight.
Good conversation and a cookout at night.
Cheers Pal,
striker
Doug Curtis and Family
February 7, 2009
God Bless your families in this time of loss. I have fond memories of high school times shared with Jay both on and off of the athletic field.
Kathie Ernspiger
February 7, 2009
Jay, this was much too soon. You are leaving a big hole in this family that no one will be able to fill. I'm going to miss that goofy grin that became so familiar and lovable this past year. We will take care of Kara and Kalah for you, but no one will be able to do it like you did. Be well and safe and happy my friend, my brother (in-law).
With love
Kim Mattingly
February 7, 2009
Just rest now. We'll pick up the kids. And don't worry about Mom and Dad. We'll get them to the doctor. You'll be at the Reds games with us this summer. We'll look for you there. And where ever we are, we'll drink a cold one for you. Just rest now.
Kimberly Parker
February 6, 2009
Kara and Kalah,
I hope all of your memories of Jay will help you through this sad time. He will be remembered by a lot of people. I know this is a very difficult time for you both as well as the rest of the family. I send my deepest sympathies to you.
Neal and Ruth Ann Koch
February 6, 2009
Dear Kara,
Neal and I send our heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. We know all too well there is no understanding of times like this. Please know you and your family will be in our hearts and prayers in the coming days.
Rhonda Poe Bennett
February 6, 2009
I went to high school with Jay, and he was a really great guy. My prayers go out to his family.
John Robbins
February 6, 2009
Kara......May you be comforted knowing that Heaven Holds the Ones We've loved and Lost.
We are here if you need Anything.
Chelsea Owens
February 6, 2009
Kalah & Family,
I am shocked and sadden by the loss of your father. I have lots of great memories of him that I will cherish forever. He loved you very much and he showed it everytime you were together. I'm so glad I got to see him recently and he seemed very happy. I know he is in a better place now and he will be with you everyday. I love you and hope you find peace and healing. Let me know if you need anything.
Love
Chelsea, Damien, and Owens Family
Michael and John Hussong
February 6, 2009
Dear Kara and Family,
Michael and I wish to express our deepest sympathies for your loss. We will always keep Jay in our hearts.
Dorothy Gravois
February 6, 2009
Kara and Family
My prayers are with all of you.
Love
Dorothy
LORETTA BROWN
February 6, 2009
Kara,
I want to offer my sympathies on the loss of your husband. I think you and I may have met only once, but I also work at the VA Clinic, having recently returned to EOPC from the Owensboro Clinic.
I wanted you to know how sad I feel for you and your family.
Loretta Brown
Sister Sue
February 6, 2009
Sweet Baby Jay...Over the years, he made me laugh so hard I nearly wet my pants...well, maybe I actually did. Once or twice, he made me so mad I had to hit him up-side his head. He made me love him like a brother. I never expected him to make me so sad I would cry.
Guess he will always be in my heart!
Jennifer Wilson Wright
February 6, 2009
Our thoughts and prayers are with in your time of grief. Jay was a funny, sweet guy, and we were blessed to have him as part of our class of 1979. God Bless.
Marcia Westenbarger Griffin
February 6, 2009
Dear Kara & Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thomas Keplar
February 6, 2009
See you in heavan buddy.
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