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Gary Engler Obituary

Gary G. Engler
March 8, 2021Gary G. Engler was called to be with his Lord and Savior on March 8, 2021. Born in Abilene, KS, Gary was the son of Louis Kasper and Anna Relda Engler. He is survived by his wife of fifty-seven years Linda (Seaberg), his children Naemi (John Blanchard) Engler, Sarah (Patrick) Rofrano, and Eric Engler. He is also survived by his three grandchildren, Paige Engler, Nicholas Rofrano, and Zachary Engler, as well as by many loving nephews, nieces, and cousins. He was predeceased by his parents and his sisters, Cleo Eileen Megenity, Anne Arlene Dull, Lois Maxine Frohardt and Jean Elizabeth Lohse, and daughter-in-law Kelly Engler. Family was very important to Gary and he took every opportunity to show his love and share his observations.
A graduate of Bassick High School in Bridgeport, CT, he excelled in football, basketball and baseball. Gary graduated from Arnold College of the University of Bridgeport where he was Alpha Gamma Phi fraternity president as well as co-captain of the UB football team. He was the Assistant Physical Director at the Bridgeport, CT YMCA before he was called to active duty in the United States Army. He continued his education by receiving his master's degree from the University of Rhode Island and his 5th-year Supervisory Certification from the University of Connecticut.
While at Joel Barlow High School in Redding, CT, Gary held the position of Athletic Director, physical education instructor, and coached three sports. As head football coach, he led Barlow to a 63-28 record, winning the Western Connecticut Conference (WCC) title five times and receiving the Connecticut Interscholastic Athletic Conference Merit Award four times. Gary was named Assistant Coach, West Squad for the 1972 Nutmeg Football Bowl, along with being named the 1974 Bridgeport Post Class A Football Coach of the Year. In basketball, Gary led the team to five state tournament appearances, and added a WCC Northern Division championship along with winning the WCC Holiday Tournament. In baseball, where he coached three seasons, his team won two WCC championships and one state Class S title. In 2014, Gary was inducted into the Joel Barlow Hall of Fame.
Gary moved to Westerly, Rhode Island with his family and was employed by Stonington High School for 22 years as a physical education teacher, Athletic Director, head football coach, and department chairman. He was also a Supervisor of Health and Physical Education, K-12, for the Town of Stonington.
In his retirement, Gary was humbled to learn of the impacts he had on those he taught, coached, and mentored throughout the years. Former players and students continued to reach out to him, bringing back wonderful memories with their stories, enabling Gary to see the outstanding men and women they had become.
Prior to moving to Westerly, Gary taught Sunday School at Covenant Congregational Church in Bridgeport, CT where he also worked with the teen youth group. In Westerly, as a member of Central Baptist Church, Gary taught Sunday School for 40 years. He served as a Deacon and Church Moderator and, as Church Librarian, organized and expanded the Church Library. He was also the Chair of the Avondale Chapel Committee, overseeing all aspects of the Chapel and leading the Adult Bible Fellowship Study. Gary was recently named Deacon Emeritus at Central Baptist Church.
Heartfelt thanks are given to the caregivers at Hope Hospice who gave Gary loving care and held the family's hands.
Due to COVID-19, a Celebration of Life and interment will be held at a later date. The family suggests donations to the Avondale Chapel Window Fund, c/o Central Baptist Church, 16 Elm Street, Westerly, RI 02891, in Gary's memory. Gaffney-Dolan Funeral Home, 59 Spruce St., Westerly is in care of the arrangements. For online condolences, please visit www.gaffneydolanfuneralhome.com

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Published by Danbury News Times on Mar. 9, 2021.

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kathy richards

March 4, 2024

a life well done-a faithful servant-missed kathyr.

Jack Youngs

September 22, 2021

so sorry to hear about Gary...many fond memories of days gone by...Jack

Kevin Kelliher

March 27, 2021

To the Engler family,

Duty, honor, and selfless service are core tenets/values all soldiers of the U.S Armed Forces must internalize and embody to ameliorate a cohesive, hardcore, fighting unit . These are no different whether in business, sport or with family. In Vince Lombardi's famous 1970 speech "What It Takes To Be Number One" reflects these thoughts regarding leadership.

With regard to the aforementioned, Coach Engler was the apitomy of respect, commitment, and preparation. His "train the trainer" philosophy was a framework for teaching potential coaches, teachers, instructors or subject matter experts to enable them to train other people regardless of what business they're in. It was important to him, when reaching adulthood, we would have the "best tools" necessary to teach others.
Paying it forward, as a parent/teacher/coach, met that future generations have the best tools to become successful in adulthood/careers!

Why is all this important? As a high school student the examples Gary set lead me to retired careers in the military, education and coaching. As an athlete, my post high school success was greatly influenced by sound planning, preparation and focused execution while appropriately making adjustments along the way. High school is an immense time for cognitive growth into adulthood . . . and what an important time it was for me.

Coach Engler played an extremely import role in my life. I can't pay it back but I can pay it forward.


Thank You Coach

Kevin Kelliher

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John Macomber and family

March 14, 2021

Gary Engler was more than a mentor, coach and teacher to young people. He also brought those same talents too many seniors as opportunities arose. As a senior who studied under Gary’s tutelage at the Avondale Bible study group I can attest to that. For me personally it was through his mentoring, coaching and teaching that I was brought to a close relationship with the Lord than I had previously known. I will miss Gary as will many others. But we will find comfort in the knowledge that through our friendship over many years, some of him will be in all of us. Our sincerest condolences to the Engler family.

Steven Trinkaus

March 13, 2021

Coach Engler was the best coach and physical education teacher I ever had. Every team member was important to him, and he gently and if needed not so gently pushed us to be the best athlete and more importantly the best person could be. A win was great, but a loss while it hurt for awhile was not the end of the world. I was the manager of the football team during my junior year at Joel Barlow and that team suffered a tough loss to Newtown (only one that year). On the bus back to Redding, I sat with Coach Engler on an otherwise very quiet bus. He put his arm around my shoulders as I too felt the sting of the tough loss and said "this loss hurt but we will be better for it". Coach Engler taught many things, but most importantly was if you give 110% in whatever you do, good things will happen. I am so thankful that I got to spend time with Coach a few year ago in Rhode Island and tell me what a difference he made in my life and likely many others. He will be missed, but his lessons will live in those who were coached by him for all time.

Christopher Wriedt

March 11, 2021

To the Engler Family,
I want to express my sincerest condolences to all of you. I had many a game coaching against Coach Engler. He was a fine coach and educator but an even a better person. He will be missed by all.
Respectfully, Coach Wriedt

Carl Johnson

March 11, 2021

The Engler Family,

My sincere sympathy on your loss. Gary was a gentleman who devoted his professional life to the young people he taught and coached with compassion and energy. He had a commitment to excellence not matched by many in any profession. He will be missed by many in the Stonington community which he made a better place. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jay Macko

March 10, 2021

Gary was the most thorough person I've met whether it was coaching, teaching or administrating. As his assistant coach, I never learned more about the importance of detail than I did from him. Always honest, friendly with a great sense of humor, perhaps the thing I remember most is how devoted he was to everything he did.

Judy Lathrop & Skip Terwilliger

March 10, 2021

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

KATHY RICHARDS

March 10, 2021

LINDA-AM SO SORRY TO READ ABOUT GARY I DID NOT EVEN KNOW HE WAS SICK.HE WAS SUCH A GENTLE AND KIND PERSON.HE WILL BE MISSED.

Nancy Gibson

March 10, 2021

We were blessed to know Gary. He will be missed tremendously. Good and faithful servant of our Lord.

John Mathews

March 10, 2021

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.I got to understand Gary more when I had the chance to volunteer with him at a local church.Working with school age boy's.Gary taught me to find the good in all aspects of life.We were blessed being able to help and watch kids learn and grow.Gary was a great man and mentor.With love John J.Mathews jr.

Patty Nunes

March 10, 2021

Linda, Paul and I were so saddened this morning to read of Gary's passing. We both think of him fondly. I remember when he and I worked together on a committee at Pleasant St Baptist Church- he was such a gentleman.
Our sincere condolences to you, and your family

Chris Polakowski

March 10, 2021

It was with fondness and gratitude that I write this about Coach Engler. I was fortunate to have Coach as both my football and basketball coach in the early 1970s. When playing under Coach Engler, you clearly learned more than the game. You learned about discipline. You learned about following your role on the team. You learned about preparing is more important than the the consequent play. You learned, not to be selfish. You learned what a real leader is to say and be. I have been able to put all those things to good use. My profession is physical education teacher. I've coached several sports after school, much like Coach Engler. I've brought up two wonderful kids to adulthood. I've used many of the things I learned from Coach Engler in my personal and professional life. It is with the most sincere thoughts and blessings that I write about Coach Engler. Rest in Pease Coach. You've completed your journey to the benefit of hundreds of youngsters.

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