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Ryan Balmer Obituary
Services will take place Tuesday at Bubbs Funeral Home in Mishawaka, Ind., with burial at South Lawn Cemetery in Mishawaka.
Survivors include his wife of nine years, Danielle (Daniels) Balmer of Roy; sons Joshua Balmer of Virginia, and Anthony Balmer of Roy; a daughter, Gabrielle "Gabby" Balmer of Roy; his mother, Patricia Balmer of Mishawaka; brothers Michael Balmer, Tom Balmer and Rick Balmer, all of South Bend, Ind., Mark Balmer of Fort Wayne, Ind., and Ron Balmer of Granger, Ind.; and sisters Sherri Balmer, Lori Rayl and Amy Woodruff, all of Mishawaka.
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Memories and Condolences
for Ryan Balmer
Charlie Gili
August 26, 2025
Hello,
We wanted to let you; your family and friends know that we have made a small donation to the Tunnel To Towers Foundation in honor of Ryan A. Balmer US Air Force Special Agent.
We realize that this is a small tribute, but we do this with all respect and sincerity and we want you to know that it is made possible by thousands of like-minded individuals from across the American youth hockey community, their families and friends and others who support our mission.
We will not forget. May God Bless you and keep you safe and strong.
Sincerely,
Charlie Gili & Family
On Behalf of our family mission: US Hockey Players Support Our Troops Inc.
Scott
April 6, 2025
Every new class of agents conducts a memorial run to honor our fallen brothers and sisters, and I was humbled to learn that someone from my hometown gave their all. As we ran, I thought about your family and prayed for them as my own. You've inspired me to give nothing less than my best in the defense of others.
Bella
June 13, 2023
Never met you currently researching all the fallen in Indiana since 9-11 what a tribute you have! love love love how in 2022 you still are impacting people. I hope your sons and daughters feel your impact as well. It sure seems like they have. Tough hill climb ... life without their father but they are Balmer´s and Balmer´s get it done and then some!!!
DMT
May 30, 2022
Ryan,
It's been 18 years since you trained me to be a Loadmaster. You watched out for me, bought me my first beer (legally), and made me laugh while teaching me important lessons. When we lost you it inspired me to use what you gave me to help others. Every time we launch on a Rescue or a Combat Mission I know you are flying right by my side. I use the lessons you taught me to train the next generation. I'm so incredibly lucky to have known you. Thanks for always watching over us.
October 31, 2019
Just thinking about you bro.
kd r
June 5, 2017
Thinking of him and his family today...and of the events of ten years ago.
Rob Odom
March 26, 2017
Hey bro.. looking back 20 years ago and how I made you laugh so hard you started to cry over the Major in the bathroom stall next to me. It's funny how something so silly sticks with you for life! Miss you bro!
March 17, 2016
I thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday
And days before that too
I think of you in silence
I often speak your name
Now all I have is memories
And your picture in a frame
Your memory is my keepsake
with which we'll never part
God has you in his keeping
You will always be in my Heart
~by Rose de Leon~
Love and Miss you
February 14, 2015
I love you and I miss you so very much
Tommie Atwood
September 11, 2013
Thank You Patriot, You are Remembered by ALL!
Peggy Childers
June 11, 2013
June 5, 2013
To the family and friends of Tech. Ryan A. Balmer:
It has truly been my honor to sign Ryan's guest book these past few years. Unfortunately, due to complications from my Multiple Sclerosis, this may be the last message I'm able to write. Please forgive me and know that Ryan will always be remembered in my home.
With love and respect ~ Peggy
Peggy Childers
June 7, 2012
June 5, 2012
To the family and friends of Tech. Ryan A. Balmer:
Always remembering Ryan. "Some gave all."
May 12, 2012
What a testament to Ryan. It shows he was a man who lived a life well-lived. I thank him for his sacrifice and am sorry for the pain the family has to endure.
April 13, 2012
Happy Birthday my baby brother love and miss you
March 25, 2012
Drove past the old hood today enroute to my nieces and just had so many good flashbacks...remember so clearly the day you brought Gabby over to Jon and Kacy's to show her off. Sheesh, can't believe it will be five years soon. RIP knowing your family is together and well taken care of. I just remember your humor and smile and love of your kids...life isn't fair, but you are not lost!
March 7, 2012
So i sit here and think of u all the time and how much i miss you. I wish you were here to see the family. I know u see us from above but it is not the same. The time is coming close to mark ur 5 years, I cant believe its been that long, I carry you pictures in my wallet every day. I have ur name tattoo on my leg and when ppl ask me i tell then who ryan is. He was a great uncle son father husband and brother. He is my hero. I love u uncle ryan thank u for everything u have done for us and u may be gone but never forgotten love you so much and i cant wait to see u at the gates and be able to hug u again.
Shanette
March 4, 2012
Danielle, friends, family, and loved ones of Ryan,
I pray that you find comfort in knowing that Ryan is always with you, and that the Lord blesses you with comfort, love, and healing as you all try to continue living and keeping Ryans legacy alive. Blessings to you all.
Leeann
November 7, 2011
Ryan, Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being with our family. You are an awesome husband, father, friend, Son in Law. You are highly respected for your sacrifice. OUR HERO thinking of you. Love you today and eveyday. Watch over Danielle and the kids, wow the kids are growing so fast. Time goes by so quickly we must be on our toes and not let anything good pass us by. Thank you for everything that you did while you were here with us. I know you still are around just in a different way watching over us. You are an Angel Hero. I still remember the times when you and I would joke around and punch each other and the laughter and jokes...Love you forever!!
Julio Rodriguez
September 1, 2011
To the families of our American Heroes,
I want to thank each of you for your personal
sacrifices on behalf of my family and America.
May God comfort your souls and bring peace in
your hearts that your loss is not in vain.
God Bless our valiant warriors families in the
ages to come.
RIP courageous ones!
Psalm 25:20
A greatful Veteran
MSgt USAF (Ret)
Vietnam 64,65,66,68-6
Kris Bunsold ( Marburger )
August 25, 2011
Love and miss u. I will never forget u, u were a good man. I knew u would be because your family is wonderful. God bless u.
Kris Bunsold ( Marburger )
August 25, 2011
I grew up with Ryan, his mom and my mom were best friends. he was a great kid, funny lovable, he made us all laugh. I will always remember the good times we had growing up. Love and miss u.
Vilka Tzouras
August 11, 2011
My name is Vilka Tzouras and I would like to extend my sincerest condolences to the family and friends of Tech. Sgt. Ryan A. Balmer for their loss. I am writing on behalf of Frankie Cuadra who has made a lifelong commitment to paint the portraits of fallen soldiers as a gift to the families. If you wish to have Frankie paint a portrait of Ryan in honor of his memory, please send us a photo and a shipping address to [email protected]. You can see Frankie's story on ABC News here: http://bitsy.me/2lo
In Frankie's own words: "They are heroes and for me to just be able to do something for the families so they can keep... how can I say, keep them alive."
Peggy Childers
June 5, 2011
To the family and friends of Tech. Ryan A. Balmer:
Please accept my remembrance of Ryan on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
June 5, 2011
Ryan,
We honor and remember you today. Never forgotten.
AFOSI #2648
EDET 2408
June 5, 2011
Never forgotten. We pause today to honor your sacrifice.
Leeann
June 3, 2011
Ryan sometimes it seems as if it were yesterday that you left for your heavenly home. We will always love you and we will never forget the sacrifice you gave for all of us. Thinking of you today and everyday. Thanks for being our hero. There aren't words for how thankful we are to have had you for such a short time in our lives, you made us laugh, cry, and entertained us often with your crazy sense of humor. Watch over everyone from your home with the Lord. We are blessed to have known you here on this earth and someday we will see you again. We will never let our hero die in our hearts and minds. Love you
courtney r
April 14, 2011
i love you and miss u so much
April 13, 2011
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I love & miss you
Leeann
April 13, 2011
Ryan, we will forever remember you. Happy Birthday in heaven. We love you and miss you. Watch over us, especially Danielle and the children.
Elizabeth Raab
January 15, 2011
Your legacy will forever live on in the hearts of those who knew you and shared in your struggle to protect our country and the ultimate sacrifice you gave so that we can be grateful for what we have. Your family, friends, loved ones and fellow soldiers will stay in my thoughts and prayers.
A Proud Military Mom.
Leeann
August 12, 2010
Forever and ever a light will always be on for you. You brought such a beautiful light to me, Lambert and Danielle, Anthony, Gabby. Thank you a billion times for what you did for all of us.
Leeann
August 12, 2010
My dear Ryan, Each and everyday we think of you. We love you dearly with all of our hearts. Continue to watch over Danielle and the kids and keep them safe from harm. You will always be a hero in our hearts and minds and will never forget you. Anthony is getting to be such a big boy I can't believe it when I see him and he looks so much like you and has many of your mannerisms, he likes to joke and play games, like punching me all the time like you used to do. God bless you richly for all the good you did here. Super hero I love and miss you.
Stephen Toepel, USAF, ret
June 26, 2010
Ryan,
Hope you are resating in peace. May God bless your family and Thank you.
June 5, 2010
WOW!! 3 years has passed. It doesn't seem that long. It's so hard for me to believe your gone sometimes. Watch over Danielle and the kids especially Josh and all of us. We all miss you so much.
I Love You and I miss you
Peggy Childers
June 5, 2010
To the family and friends of Tech. Ryan A. Balmer:
Remembering Ryan on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
J E
June 5, 2010
Ryan,
I shared a moment with a marine who was walking in the parade with an artificial leg on Memorial Day. We locked eyes, I raised my hands to him in tribute, we both began to cry... I miss you and send you love and respect for always standing up for what you believed in, even when we were kids.
TSgt Williams
June 4, 2010
Three years ago I was deployed to Kirkuk AB, Iraq when a Light Armored Vehicle (LAV) rolled into my compound on the back of a armored wrecker. I immediately knew what had happened. Even though I did not know Ryan very well, I will never forget the events that unfolded on that day. I am proud to call you "Brother" in our Air Force family. God Bless your family and friends on this eve of your passing. I will always remember!
Leeann
March 31, 2010
Ryan my dear hero. I think of you often and miss you. Please watch over Danielle and the children. All my love to you for everything you ever did in this life. Hugs and kisses to you!
March 2, 2010
Just thinking about ya!!
Love and Miss ya
Nik
Leeann
December 15, 2009
Ryan, as special days go by you are always in our thoughts and prayers and hope that your watching over everyone. It still seems as if it were yesterday that you were still here on this earth with us. I know you are here all the time anyway. The little jokes, the babies laughing and talking and waving at you. I would love to be an innocent child just so that I could say hi to you and see you as they do. It is tough during the holidays for everyone especially Danielle, I just want to hold her and tell her that everything will be ok, but it is so hard to know what to say at times like this. I will do my best with the Lords guidance. We miss the heck out of you but you are in good hands and we will all see you again someday. Love you HERO!!!
Leeann
November 4, 2009
Ryan, thinking of you today and everyday, its almost veterans day again, I know your with us all the time. Please hold Danielle and the kids in your arms. You are and always will be our hero!!! Keep an eye on us. We Love and miss you so much. You are in a good place and I won't wish you back, Just take care of Danielle and the kids..Love you Very Very much
Tom Spring
October 1, 2009
Ryan... rarely does a day go by that I don't think of you and Matt. It was an honor to work with you and I like to think I'm a better person for having known you. I'm so sorry that I wasn't there with you that day brother. Rest easy and know that you are missed.
September 27, 1997 One of the best days of my life!
Danielle Balmer
September 3, 2009
Babe,
I love you and miss you so much. I wish you could've been here to see your baby girl on her first day of preschool. She was such a big girl,so excited and proud of herself. I really missed you that day (not that it's any different than any other day), but you were always so excited and supportive of the kids on their big "firsts." For that reason, among a million other, you were such an awesome Dad. In Anthony's short 7 years with you, you taught him so many important values, as well as showed him how to be a good person. Everything you did will forever be a part of who he is, and I am so thankful that he has that from you.
Gabby is so much like you that it's amazing. She is charming and hilarious, just like you! I sometimes fantasize what it would be like if you were still here - you two would be like two peas in a pod! I can see you two feeding off one another and her never being in trouble because all she would have to do is run to you.
They both love talking about you with me, friends and family and that's something that I doubt will ever end. You may not be here on earth anymore, but you live on in our hearts and daily lives. Your spirit is alive and well in our home, we miss you and love you so very, very much!!!
YOUR PROUD AND LOVING WIFE FOREVER,
Danielle
rob o
August 11, 2009
Ryan... This is 2 yrs later. I just Found out form Jasper. Man it was funny when he wrecked your mustang!!!!! Its been 12 yrs but i still luv ya bro. CRF FOR LIFE
Leeann
July 6, 2009
HI, my hero. I was thinking of you and all the other sevice men that keep us free as we watched to 4th of July parade. It was really awesome. Thanks to you and all the others, You and all of them are truly heroes in every sense of the word. Your sacrifice will never go unnoticed. We love you and miss you, thank you for watching over everyone. Love you very much
June 29, 2009
Hey Riley,
Just wanted to thank you and God for watching over Andrea and keeping her safe while she was on her trip. She had a awesome time.
Thanks again
Love and Miss Ya,
Nik
Leeann
June 16, 2009
My dear Ryan, memories are so sweet. And yet it doesn't seem right with out you here. Anthony looks so much like you and he is one heck of a baseball player. And he passed to the next grade in school..I am so proud of his report card and him. We love and miss you, watch over Danielle and the kids and the rest of us as we think of you each day. God bless and keep you in the palm of hand always. Love you!!!!
June 9, 2009
Hi Riley,
Andrea is in yours and Gods hands know. Please take care of her and safe.
I love you and I miss you,
Nik
Jeff Wysong
June 7, 2009
Ryan,
These last few days have been really tough for me. There are so many feelings I have inside and I have had a tough time dealing with them all. I wanted to write this on June 5th but I just couldn't find the words. I wanted to call Danielle and talk to her on that day as well but I just couldn't gather up the right words or the strength to attempt to be there for her and the kids. I am ashamed that I couldn't do that for them. It should get easier with every day that passes but for me it seems to get worse. I miss you bro! Please continue to look over your family and keep them safe. I know you are because of the love they feel and share every day. You left a mark in a lot of people's hearts brother. Thank you for everything you ever did for everyone around you. You were a great agent, a great man, and a great friend. I'll see you when I get there!
-Junior
JME
June 7, 2009
Ryan,
I get busy during this few days of the year. I wonder if my daughter realizes that her birthday is during such a difficult time for those around her. I'm glad that her plans took place away from home and I worked this weekend which kept me distracted and out of her sight. I bought her tickets for an event in August so that maybe we can all be in a celebratory mood and not just pretending. I hurt for your wife, children, mother, niece, and the rest of your family. The world was a nicer place because you were in it. Thanks for knowing at ten what we all wish we knew about life at 30. You will simply never be forgotten.
Danielle Balmer
June 6, 2009
Babe,
I cannot believe that yesterday marked 2 years since you left this earth. There is not a second that goes by that I do not miss you and think of you. Sometimes it feels like it's been a lifetime since I last heard that thunderous laugh of yours that I miss so much, but other times it feels like it was just yesterday. I miss your beautiful laugh, the smile that made everything better, the way you used to kiss my forehead and hold me in those big arms I loved. I miss the way you used to make me laugh and the way we just knew what one another was thinking without even trying. I really miss watching you with the kids. I would give anything to see the look in your eyes again and theirs, when you were together. The love you felt for the kids and I just seemed to shine through your eyes and I felt so lucky to just be a part of it.
I will forever love you, and my love for you will never, ever die. I believe we had the love and marriage that most people only dream of and I will always be grateful for it.
You were an amazing man, you put your heart and soul into our family, as well as your career. You made it look so easy, and I think that because it was honest and pure it was easy for you. I have never met someone with as much integrity, character and love as you. I can only hope and pray that your children follow in your footsteps. We still talk about you all of the time and laugh about all of our good times and the silly things you used to do.
I have finally gotten to the point where I can smile and laugh when thinking of you, us and our life together instead of cry.
Thank you for giving me such a wonderful life, for showing me and the kids what pure and true love really is. You also showed us what how great life can be. THANK YOU!
We love you and miss you more than you could ever know. We will never forget you and what you gave us in our time together - those memories are held deep in our hearts and will never fade.
I love you, Babe!!!
riley
June 6, 2009
It was two years ago tonight that I knelt in Iraq and prayed for the wife and family of Ryan to be blessed and strengthened as they received the bad news of his injury. For those of us who tried to save him, his memory and name live on with us...and in that memory there is both sadness and a prompting to be better. I continue to pray that God will bless his wife, children, and extended family.
Tom Bennett
June 5, 2009
Ryan,
I just want to say you are missed in this world. I still can’t believe this happened. It still bothers me thinking of hearing the news while in Jakarta Indonesia. It took me awhile to write this. You were a great person and I remember all the fun we had as cops and in the Academy together. Just wanted to let you know I keep a picture of you and I. Thanks for always being a friend. Danielle I wish I could have been there in his place. He had so much to live for; the kids and you meant the world to him. Even the last time we talked prior to him leaving for the deployment, you all were all he talked about. Ryan you are a true hero.
Michael Iezzi
June 5, 2009
Ryan,
Thinking and praying for you on your 2nd Heavenly Anniversary. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends", John 15:13.
June 5, 2009
Hey Riley,
It's 4:30am. I've been trying to sleep but I can't. I can't stop thinking about you, Andrea leaving in a few days for Europe, things she still needs for her trip, etc. I had to hold my crying in til Jeremy left for work. He would of never left if he knew I was having a hard time. I think he knew cuz he left for work a little later then usual. We can't afford for him to miss work. He's on vacation next week so thats a bonus.
Andrea leaves Tuesday for Europe so if you and God would watch over her and keep her safe I'd appericate it.
The whole family is having dinner at the post tonight sense today marks 2 years. It doesn't seem like it's been that long. I wish Danielle and the kids could be with us today. We all miss you terribly.
I Love You,
Nikki
Peggy Childers
June 5, 2009
To the family of Tech. Ryan A. Balmer:
Ryan gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Leeann
May 23, 2009
My dearest Ryan, Thinking of you as Memorial day approaches. Let your light shine down on us. We will forever have you in our thoughts and prayers. We think and talk about you everyday. We will always have your love and kindness and craziness in our hearts that will help us go on in this life. Our love always and forever. Lambert and Leeann
Michael Miller
May 15, 2009
As Memorial Day 2009 approaches, I just want to let everyone know that the City of Mishawaka and its citizens will forever remember TSgt Balmer. On Veteran's Day 2007, Mishawaka American Legion Post 161 officially renamed the post Ryan A. Balmer American Legion Post 161 to preserve his memory for eternity. May his soul and the souls of all of our fallen heroes rest in peace.
Michael Miller, Past Commander, Ryan A. Balmer American Legion Post 161
April 13, 2009
Happy Birthday Riley!
I felt you with me yesterday and today. I miss you terribly. Sometimes I feel broken and I don't know how to fix it. I watched the kids hunt for easter eggs and it reminded me of how much fun we had as kids racing for each egg, trading candy and getting trouble cuz our clothes got dirty. We all had a good time chit chatting at Mayme's. I don't know why but every holiday the family is together I expect you to call then reality sets in. Reality bites!!
I love you and I miss you
Nikki
Leeann
April 13, 2009
Happy Birthday my dear Ryan. You will always be remembered. If only you were still here with Danielle and the kids. But, I know you are in the Lords hands and you are safe. Keep watch over Your wife and children. God bless you and keep you in his Loving arms.
Michael Iezzi
April 13, 2009
Ryan,
Happy Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Danielle Balmer
March 2, 2009
Babe,
I just wanted to say I love you, I miss you and there's not a minute that passes that goes by that I don't wish you were still alive. Lately it feels as if things are getting worse instead of getting better. My heart hurts when I think about how long it's been since I last heard your voice - it seems like a lifetime, and at the same time my heart breaks even more because I know it's going to be so very, very long before I get to hear it again and see that smile that I loved so much. I hate having to try every single day to live in a world without you, it's harder than I could have ever imagined. I didn't even know the human body could cry so many tears and the heart could break so much over and over again. You were an amazing man, husband to me and Dad to our kids. It breaks my heart for the kids to not have you here - I see how much Anthony needs you, and out of the need he has become a very "old" nine year old - he was outside fixing his bike yesterday like he thought you would have. It breaks my heart to see him watch his friends and their Dad's wrestle and play video games together, the saddness in his eyes is too much for me to handle sometimes. And your little girl, she is starting to wonder why her Daddy is not around. She has asked a couple of times if we can go see you, she doesn't understand at two years old why we can't go see Daddy in heaven. It breaks my heart to see her little face wonder why she can't see her Daddy. Sometimes I don't know what's worse, the time that's gone by and trying to work through that or thinking about the many years that are ahead of us until this is all done. I have found myself wishing and wishing that I could wake up and that this would all just be a horrible dream and you could still be alive and that life could be perfect again. At times the pain and knowing that this is just the beginning is overwhelming and it feels like I'm going to crush underneath it all. This wasn't how it was supposed to be - you promised me that you would be here to be a pain in my butt when we were in our 80's. We were supposed to grow old together and still be walking down the street holding hands like we knew we would. We were supposed to watch our children grow and laugh at all the silly things they did or said. I don't know who I am or what I'm doing in this life without you. The Danielle that died with you sometimes stops for a short visit, but other than that I don't know who I am. But you know me, I'm stubborn and not a quitter - so every day, I get up and try my very best to make the best of this situation that is now my life. One day I hope that life will make some kind of sense to me again and that I will know security and happiness. I am so grateful to you and the life you gave me, you were more than I could've ever even hoped for. I was so lucky and proud to be your wife. I hope you're doing well, Anthony thinks you play video games and eat Krispey Kreme donuts all day long. LOL So, if that's the case I'm sure you're having a great time - you and Matt up there playing practical jokes on one another. :o) I LOVE YOU BABE WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL, FOREVER AND EVER.
Leeann
December 21, 2008
Thank you Elias for the beautiful words and God bless you in your lifes duties. I am Ryan's mother in law and I love him dearly and miss him. But I do know that he doesn't want us to be sad, crying, and down all the time, I know he is with all of us all the time. He will forever be remembered and I know he is watching over my daughter, Danielle and the children. Thank you again
Special Agent Ryan Balmer - Fallen Agent Display: OSI Det. 426
Elias Lopez
December 1, 2008
I just want to say Thank you from the deepest part of me. I cannot imagine the bereavement that is unquenchable by an abundance of sympathies and condolences. My name is Elias and I am an intern at the OSI Det. 426 in New York City. I've done a lot of cool things during my time here and when I was given my last assignment to make a Fallen Agent display for those who died during combat operations, I really didn't think much of it. I took it as an opportunity to impress the agents with my creativity and the speed that I could create a project. I knew that it was a big deal to pay our respects to our brothers who gave everything, even their very lives so that others may live, but it never really became a part of me. In my creative pursuit, I sought to make the captions as personable as possible, but soon became lost in my own tears as I began reading their stories and the testimonies of those who love these men of valor most. I'm am so thankful that I was able to share your hearts, especially you Danielle. You are an angel amongst men, and your strength shall be a beacon of light to those who have had such indescribably plight. Stay strong and keep looking homeward. Remember him in the music and the bittersweet memories of laughter, dance, and whispers that will resonate evermore.
I am so very grateful for the opportunity to make a memorial for these men of valor that the world is unworthy of. It has been my privilege to read your stories as I begin my own journey in the imprints of their footsteps and will never let their memory fade from the sands of time. I love you all and only hope that I can be half the man that Ryan and all of our fallen agents have proven to be. May my tears be counted amongst yours as we venture to a new horizon... there we shall find another and a beauty in the closeness to those whom we really haven't lost at all. They are with us always and will meet us when we too are unfairly taken from this crazy, mixed up world.
Your Loving Wife Danielle
November 11, 2008
Babe,
I am finding it so hard to get thru this day. It hit me this morning that today is Veteran's Day, a day to remember our nation's Veterans and their sacrifices. It's also difficult, because in one month it will two years since you left for your deployment, and the last time I saw you alive. It will also be a year and a half since you left this earth. There is not a minute that I do not think of you and wish you were still here. Words cannot describe how much I miss you and how much I wish you were still here with us.
You were such an amazing man, and you made me incrediably happy! I miss your laughter, as well as the way you made me laugh. I also miss the comfort that came from just being around you, I was the luckiest girl in the world to be yours!!! I miss your excitment and the way you lived your life. I wish you could be here to play with the kids and watch them grow. Anthony is looking more and more like you every day. I know he wishes you could be here to go to Boy Scouts with him just like all the other boys with their Dads. I wish so much that Gabby could have her Daddy here too, that she could be "Daddy's girl" and the could have had the chance to know what I great Daddy she had.
I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANY WORDS COULD EVER BEGIN TO DESCRIBE!!
November 5, 2008
Riley,
I miss you so much my heart hurts. Your on my mind alot. I can get though most days without thinking of you, Ty keeps me pretty busy. It's at night after the kids are in bed when you pop in my head. That's when the "what if's" or the "I wish's" and the "Why's" start. I miss talking to you the most. There's so many things going on in the world to talk about. The new president, the kids, music, war etc. Metallica's new cd isn't all that great by the way!
Matt's been asking about you and the dumb things we did as kids. Most days it's easy to tell him a story other times it takes all I have to finish one. I try not to cry in front of him for fear he won't ask again. He's alot like you. Sensetive, very athletic and considerate of others feelings. He wants to be an OSI agent when he grows up. He misses you alot. We heard Personal Jesus the other day and Matt remembered listening to that with you on the way to the store when you were in Georgia. Ya know, if my boys grow up to be half the man you are I'll be happy.
I love you and I miss you!!
Nik
SA Jeff "Junior" Wysong
October 29, 2008
Bro,
I can't begin to describe just how hard this is for me still. To deal with your loss has been harder than anything I've ever experienced. I still tell everyone the story about the chem sticks the night before our last mission...the mission we lost you on! They get a good laugh with me! ;-) I know you watch over all of us everyday, but please watch over your family...I know they still need you so much! Until I see you again brother, take care. I miss you!
Leeann and Lambert
October 17, 2008
Ryan, still think of you each day. You were honored at the wedding, although I know you were there with us. It still seems like yesterday when the Lord called you home, I know that you are in a good place and will never have to face war again. The admiration that we hold for you is of the highest. Watch over danielle and the kids as the Lord holds you in his hands.Love and miss you. Hugs and kisses to you forever.
Lori LaFollette
September 21, 2008
Hey Ryan!! I can't belive it has been a little over a year since you have left us. I think about you and the things we did as kids. I wish we could have been closer as we got older. I am glad to call you my cousin. God bless you Ryan. God Bless the men and women that are serving our country.
Miss ya and love ya Ryan!!!
Leeann
August 13, 2008
Ryan, I know that you are with all of us all the time, I know you are safe and that you watch over all of us. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you, you are so very awesome, you touched so many hearts and lives in your short time on this earth, we thank God for the time he did let you be with us and touch our lives. Still miss you smile, you jokes and just know that you will forever be in my heart. God will guide you and us to new things, just know that you will never be forgotten...Love you so much and miss you..
Becky Coy
June 30, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and we thank god everyday for brave men & women like your soldier for defending our country. We are building a wall in honor of all those who have lost their lives in Iraq & Afghanistan. It's called Wall of Heroes. If you would like more information please contact me at [email protected].
June 28, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Tech Balmer!
Leeann
June 15, 2008
HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!! Ryan
Thank you for being the best father in the world to my grandchildren...They will always have wonderful memories of you, we will make sure of that. They will know how very awesome you are forever...Love and miss you
Leeann
June 13, 2008
Ryan, I can't believe it has already been 12 short months since you went to be with the Lord..Not a day goes by that I don't think of you and wish you were still here with us.So many tributes and memorials to you and you deserve nothing less. You did it all in your short life time. I know you are preparing beautiful places for all of us in heaven. May the Angels and Saints and the Lord hold you close, and let them see that beautiful smile. And give them some of that joking around and that silly grin..Love you my "son" God bless you and keep you in the palm of his hand.And keep an eye on us down here always. Till we see you again someday, and that day will be ever so glorious.
JME owner
June 6, 2008
I can't believe it's been a year already. The pain of losing you is still so fresh for everyone. I am honored to have been at the memorial service when your picture was hung on the Wall of heroes. I am glad that if you had to be away from your family in your last days they were spent with such honor and in the company of our country's finest men and women. I am glad that I got to see our military in a softer more personal light at a time when so many of us are only seeing the loss of this war. I am proud to have known you and lucky to be included by such an accepting family. They always make me feel like there is nowhere I belong more than there with them honoring your memory even in their most private grieving moments. Thank you for being a part of my childhood and thank you for your sacrifice for my freedom and safety.
Nik
June 5, 2008
Riley,
Today has been hard. Missing you has become away of life now. Most days it's still hard to believe your gone. We all talk about you alot. We all went to D.C. to see your your portriot hung on the Wall of Hero's at OSI HQ. It's a beautiful painting. Your name is now and forever on the Fallen Hero's Memorial Wall. I was proud to see your name on that wall. Being in D.C. for your memorial services gave patriotism a new meaning for me. I think it's safe to say that, the whole family feels the same way.
I watch Anthony and Matt play and I see us when we were kids. I watch Andrea and Josh talk, joke and play around together and I see us as teenager's. Megan just loves Gabby. I just hope and pray they all will be as close as we were thoughtout their lives.
Thank you Riley for everything!
I Love you and I'm so proud of you.
Kate Hanson (Delinski)
June 5, 2008
One year has gone by so quickly. I think of Ryan and the family he left behind often.
Safely Home
Michael Iezzi
June 5, 2008
Ryan,
Thinking and praying for you on the 1st anniversary of your passing into eternal glory. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends", John 15:13.
In Memory of Ryan ~ (Debra Estep)
June 5, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Ryan, but I am remembering
his service. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
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Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom and MIL
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the Buck family
May 16, 2008
To the family and friends of Tech. Ryan A. Balmer, our thoughts and prayers are with you in your loss. What he has done for our freedom will not be forgotten. May God comfort and bless your family.
Mrs. Ryan Balmer
May 15, 2008
Babe,
Over the last few days the kids and I, as well as your family, have attended the many ceremonies in your honor (as well as the other 180 heroes who paid the ultimate sacrifice.) They've included; inducting you into the "Hall of Heroes" at HQ, the Candle Light Vigil at the National Law Enforcement Officer's Memorial Wall, where your name is now engraved, as well as the wreath laying ceremony today on the the lawn of our nation's capital building. My heart both bursts with pride everytime I hear them call your name, but it also breaks even more BECAUSE they call YOUR name. You deserve NOTHING LESS than what has been done to honor you, your life, and your sacrifice. I know you, and I know you're thinking that you we're just doing your job and we are all just going "overboard with the hero stuff" for you. :o) There are MANY, MANY people out there, as well as myself, who know you deserve all of it, and as long as there are ceremonies in your honor, I will proudly be there, standing beside our children and families, serving as a living memorial to you. I can't believe it's been almost a year since I last heard your beautiful voice and laugh, or received one of your sweet e-cards. This last year has been one that I really didn't think I would make it through. But with your strength and our love, as well as the love and support from friends and family, I did.
I could go on and on, but I just wanted to tell you again how proud I am of you, your life, and more than anything, just how blessed I was to have been "yours" for 11 years. I love you Babe, can't wait to see you again.
Leeann Daniels
April 18, 2008
My dear Ryan, wish you were here with us to celebrate your birthday. I hope you saw the balloons and the card that we let go on your special day....I think of you everyday and wish that you could be here with us...Miss you soooo much...Love you like a son, Mom in law,,,Leeann
C
April 16, 2008
Happy Belated bday uncle ryan we love you and miss you
Happy Birthday
Michael Iezzi
April 14, 2008
Ryan,
Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
April 13, 2008
Happy Birthday Riley!
A W
April 13, 2008
Ryan,
Happy Birthday! Over the past 20 years, I always took note of April 13th and wondered where you were and what was going on in your life. I knew you would be one to never be forgotten by those that you touched, but wow, you have done so much more. I now have hero to add to the list to describe you. I can't fully describe what you have meant to me, but what I can I have shared with my kids and the people around me. The laughter, sarcasm and goofiness will never be forgotten, along with the love and sincerity of your actions. I knew you long ago but the memories seem just like yesterday. You will always be a special person in my heart. Thank you for serving our country and believing you could make a difference, because you have.
Jeff (Junior) Wysong
April 11, 2008
Ryan, brother...I miss you more and more each day. I'd like to say that it gets easier with time, but I can't. I got to spend the last days of your life with you and I will never forget your warm personalilty and your sharp sarcasm! ;-) We got close quickly and I wish that you'd had more time on this earth. I miss you brother. I think of you and Matt every day. Please know that I did everything I could that day to get you home to your family. One day I'll get to meet Danielle and the kids and I hope they know just how much you meant to me. I really look forward to meeting the family of someone so special so we can laugh and reminisce over times past. I have so many funny stories to tell them about you in Kirkuk (don't worry...I won't tell Danielle ALL the dirt...just kidding bro!). I love ya brother. Watch over your family ok? Talk to you soon.
Junior
JME
March 24, 2008
Dear Ryan,
I can't believe you are gone. When you moved out of this world, you took not just a piece of my heart, but a piece of my childhood. We lose pieces of our childhood a little at a time and in many ways and each time, my eyes are left a little wider open and I lose another bit of naivety that will never return. Sometimes, being a grown up really stinks and we all grew up a little more when we had to face losing you. Now that we have all had a little time to begin to heal, I think this year the spring thaw is happening within each of our hearts as well as outside. With the spring comes new life, new hope, and a new perspective. I'm only just realizing that since you took a piece of each of us with you, a part of each of us now resides in heaven. I'm going to try to find comfort in that knowing. This Easter, I'm thankful for more than one man who gave his life for us. I'm glad you are together. I'll see you again one day and know you'll still be smiling.
Don Jones
March 24, 2008
God Bless Ryan and his family.
LEEANN DANIELS
February 22, 2008
Ryan it has been a few months now that you have been gone, I still can't believe it, I think of you every day and hope that you are watching over us, and I am sure you are in the Lords hands and have no worries, time is of the essence for all of us, your spirit will live on forever, you were not only a son in law, you were my "son" I miss seeing your face and hearing your jokes, I wish you didn't have to go so soon, I still have trouble with my daughter being a widow at such a young age, and my little man Anthony having to grow up without you here, my parents loved you dearly and thought the world revolved around you, rest assured myself, Angie, Trevor,Evan, Lacey and Dusty and your new niece that will be here in a couple of weeks will all know you and remember you as a good brother in law, son in law, uncle Ryan, you are the best and always will be, we miss you like crazy, but know that you are with Jesus now and thank you for being our angel, Lambert often talks about the time you guys went golfing and you skipped your ball across the water to the green, what an awesome shot you are...I hope and pray everyday and with every thought that we will see you again and can continue seeing your face, laughing, talking, joking, trying to see if your still tougher than your mom in law....We love you with all of our being and know that your are a TRUE HERO IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD...We trust in the Lord and the holy spirit that with time it may get a little easier with the mercy and grace of God...Thank you Ryan for being a wonderful husband to my daughter and a great father to my grandchildren....I love you
and will see you again some day in heaven where there are no wars,hate,and all the other negative things that we live with here on this earth....I feel your presence all the time as does the rest of us I only wish we could talk to you in person....With all my love and prayers....your mother in law,,,,,LEEANN WE NOW ALL HAVE ANOTHER ANGEL TO WATCH OVER US..
Nik
December 30, 2007
I think about you everyday. Some days with tears other days with a smile. We all miss you terribly! We also talk about you alot! Christmas at Mayme's felt empty and unusually quiet even though everyone was there. Danielle and the babies spent Christmas with us, unfortunately Josh couldn't be here. Hopefully, he can come for the summer. I remember our last phone conversion we talked for 2 hrs. I called to congratulate you on finalizing the adoption. We told each other some hilarous jokes. Talked about the kids, spouses, and jobs. You tried your interrigation techniques on me, which might of been easier if we were in the same room and not on the phone. But the one thing sticks in my mind more then anything else we said to each other that day, you said you picked that time to go to Iraq b/c Gabby wouldn't be doing anything fun and you would be back for her first birthday b/c you didn't want to miss that. I often wonder had you waited to go would things of turned out differently? I LOVE AND MISS YOU XOXOXO
Randy Taylor
November 28, 2007
I was fortunate to have met and worked with Ryan both academically and in Iraq. Ryan and I attended the same FLETC class and later served together in Kirkuk, Iraq. I remember Ryan arrived just before Christmas 2006. He drew my name for our Christmas gift exchange. I had gotten Talladega Nights starring Will Ferrell from Ryan. I will treasure that movie for the remainder of my life, it will always remind me of watching the movie and laughing with him and the other members of our detachment. Ryan was a devoted family man and would often speak of Danielle and his children. The names, Josh, Anthony and Gabby will forever be in mind as they were the topic of one of the last conversations I had with Ryan. After work every evening Ryan would put his PT gear on and go to the gym. He jokingly told me that Danielle expected him to have big arms when he returned. Let there be no doubt, Ryan was an exceptionally strong person, both physically and mentally. To Ryan’s family, know that I will always remember your husband, son and father… God Bless.
Phillips Family
November 19, 2007
Thinking of each of your families, especially during the upcoming Holidays.
May God watch over the entire Balmer family and may God Bless Ryan.
Peggie Writtenhouse
October 4, 2007
My deepest and most heartfelt sympathy to the family of Ryan Balmer. Thanks for your Soldier's Courage, Service and Dedication to our Country and Freedom.
The price he and his family have paid, will never be forgotten.
In the days to come if you find yourself feeling like you can‘t go on , recall the years and days you were blessed by his presence, this is the one thing that cannot be taken away from you are your memories, may you find comfort there and may God’s Peace strengthen you through the difficult days ahead and the emptiness in your hearts!
I am the Sister of a hero, who made the Ultimate Sacrifice in 2005 in Taji, Iraq and time does make it hurt less.
"And God shall wipe away every tear from their eyes,
there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying,
there shall be no more pain.
For the former things have passed away."
Revelations 21:4
NOW SERVING IN GOD’S ARMY
In His Memory,
Master Sgt James F. Hayes
1st Battalion, 320th Field Artillery Regiment, 101st Airborne Division Fort Campbell KY
Major Tom Spring
September 25, 2007
I was Ryan's commander in Iraq from the time he arrived in December until I left in April. I first met Ryan at pre-deployment training in New Jersey in September... he was going home afterward for a while and I was leaving straight from training to Iraq. I was lucky to have him alongside me both in training and in Kirkuk. He was one of my best in Iraq... he sat about 3 feet from me in the office and we often rode together out on missions. I'll never forget Ryan's perpetual smile or his pride and love for his family and children. It was an honor to lead such a fine man. You will be missed Ryan.
Courtney Rayl
August 21, 2007
UNCLE RYAN,
Hey it's crazy thats your not here anymore. It still seems like we are waiting for you to come home from over there, but I know it's not going to happen! It sucks bad that this is happening over there to the troops no one should have to do it but you guys do and am thankful to have a great and wonderful Uncle like you that kept your family safe. I know that family will agree. We are missing you like crazy and I can't wait to see you again at the leary gates when I get to see you again. I miss you so much and I love you so much. I am glad to have you as one of my angels. I would not ask for a better angel like you. I love you Uncle Ryan
August 18, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Tech Balmer and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
Theresa LeeAnn Laurence
August 11, 2007
Dear Balmer Family,
I am so sorry about what happened to your son,
he was a good man, i never got a chance to
know him, but from the news reports that i've watched, he seemed like an awesome guy and
a cool person to be around. i hope that you all
find comfort, and closure. you are all in my prayers always and forever
may the lord bless you and keep you all safe
you are loved.
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