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James Wiley Obituary
Sept. 26, 1961 - Sept. 18, 2008
A Mass of Christian burial will be held for Lt. Col. James Leon Wiley Jr., 46, of Germany, formerly of North Bend at 4 p.m. on Friday, Sept. 26, at Holy Redeemer Catholic Church, 2250 16th St., North Bend, with the Rev. Karl Schray officiating. A reception will follow in the Parish Hall of the church. A funeral service will be held at 11 a.m. on Saturday, Sept. 27, at the North Bend High School gymnasium, 2323 Pacific Ave., North Bend, followed by a graveside committal service at Sunset Memorial Park, 63060 Millington Frontage Road, Coos Bay.
Jim was born Sept. 26, 1961, in North Bend, to Jim and Ruth (Dennhardt) Wiley. He died Sept. 18, 2008, at Bagram Airfield in Afghanistan.
He attended Roosevelt, Hillcrest and Bangor elementary schools in North Bend. He also attended North Bend Junior High and North Bend High School. Jim played for the football and wrestling teams, but his biggest accomplishment was his academic endeavors. Jim was a member of The National Honor Society and named an Oregon Scholar, before graduating in 1979.
In the fall of 1979, Jim began college at Oregon State in Corvallis. A year later, he decided to attend Southwestern Oregon Community College for a year, while working at Albertsons in North Bend. In 1981, he became a Duck at the University of Oregon. Jim graduated in 1985, with a Bachelor of Science in business. In 1986, he began his military career by enlisting in the Oregon National Guard. He earned a second degree from the University of Oregon in 1988, and his commission through the ROTC with the honor of being a distinguished military graduate. Later that year, Jim decided school was a pretty good thing and he went to Willamette Law School and earned his law degree in 1991.
Jim met and married Teresa Harding after his graduation from law school. At this time, Jim began his active duty service for the Judge Advocate General (JAG) with the U.S. Army. He was assigned to Fort Carson, Colo., as special assistant prosecutor with the 4th Infantry Division. Jim, Teresa and their daughter, Jamie, loaded a truck with all of their belongings and moved to Colorado. While at Fort Carson, they welcomed two more daughters, Ruth and Sarah.
Jim and Teresa's next stop would be at Fort Campbell, Ky. Jim was with the 101st Airborne Division (air assault) serving as a trial defense attorney. While at Fort Campbell, he was deployed to Sinai, Egypt, in support of the Multinational Force and Observers for six months. Jim called his parents one night very excited. He and his family would be stationed in Germany. Their family packed up their belongings again and set off on a new and exciting journey. Jim worked in Mannaheim, Germany, with the 21st TSC and the 5th Signal Command as a senior trial counsel and command judge advocate.
Jim loved to travel and has always wanted to go to Europe. He must have liked it because the Wiley family established roots in Germany and lived there for 12 years. Jim served as the team leader in the 330th Rear Operations Center, officer in charge at Kaiserslautern Legal Services Center and at Chief of Claims and Legal Services as a civilian attorney. A year ago, Jim decided to put on his Army uniform and continued to serve his country as an attorney at headquarters, 21st Theater Support Command at Camp Phoenix, Afghanistan.
Lt. Col. James Leon Wiley Jr. served more than 20 years in the Army. He received the Bronze Star, Meritorious Service Medal, Army Commendation Medal with four oak leaf clusters, National Defense Service Medal with oak leaf cluster, Global War on Terrorism Service Medal, Multinational Force and Observer Medal, Army Reserve Component Overseas Training Ribbon, Army Service Ribbon, Overseas Service Ribbon, Combat Action Badge and Air Assault Badge.
Jim loved to give to the children in Afghanistan. He always knew this would be impossible without the help of others around him. Jim was touched when he received the article from The World showing the women who were making hats. He was grateful to those who helped with this project.
Jim loved to travel with his family and show them all of the exciting wonders of the world. Road trips were always happening at the Wiley house. His home is filled with many souvenirs of their travels.
Jim always told us he was "just" a soldier, no better, no less than the man in front of him or behind him. His uniform was made of the same bolt of material that clothed each soldier and they each had a purpose. He would tell his mother he wasn't a hero, but he was a damn good soldier.
His family believes Jim is on a wonderful new mission now. His parents will miss the phone ringing and his voice asking, "Hey Mom and Pops, what are you doing?"
Jim is survived by his wife, Teresa and daughters, Jamie Noelle, Ruth Nadine and Sarah Teresa all of Germany; brother and his wife, Rick and Megan Wiley and their daughters, Amber and Krista of North Bend; parents, Jim and Ruth Wiley of North Bend; father and mother-in-law, Donald and Dena Harding of Redmond; stepmother-in-law, Sharon Yates; cousin, Lou Ann Lovell and her daughter, Amanda of North Bend; uncles and aunts, Leon and Wilma Owings of Springfield, Clark Wiley of Springfield, Jerry and Becky Wiley of Creswell and Carl and Julie Dennhardt of Puyallup, Wash.; and many cousins.
He was preceded in death by his grandparents, Clark and Mary Wiley and Curtis and Lucile Dennhardt.
The family suggests memorial contributions to the Holy Redeemer Catholic Church Alter Society, Humanitarian Fund, 2250 16th St., North Bend, OR 97459 or any veterans organization.
Arrangements are under the direction of North Bend Chapel, 756-0440.
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This obituary was originally published in The World.
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Bill Kuimelis
March 2, 2024
Jim and I went through the Judge Advocate Officer Basic Course together. I will never forget what a genuinely kind and thoughtful person he was. I came to the course with absolutely no military experience. I could always count on Jim to show me how things were supposed to be done and to keep me from doing something stupid. Later, we were stationed in Germany at the same time, and we would often see one another. It was always a pleasure to spend time with Jim. This is my first time writing here, but I often think of Jim.
John Lawrence
December 2, 2022
Jim was one of my fraternity brothers and I remember him fondly. Jim was one of the smartest men I have ever met. After all of these years I still think about him and miss him.
Dean Lynch
November 12, 2021
Don't know why I came across this here again today after a number of years, but I know it reminded me of how I miss Jim and what a good man he was. Sending my respects to him, his family, and his friends.
Stuart Pennington
May 26, 2020
Today was one of those lazy spring days when as young kids we would have eaten our sandwiches under the big tree in the Circle. I have his picture with all the Afghan kids up on the bulletin board next to my son's pictures from I-Day. Blessed are the peacemakers.
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Ruth Wiley
May 26, 2020
Joe.... What a wonderful treat to see your name. I will never forget you bringing Jim home. His last trip across the North Bend Bridge..... Jim loved to travel and that was the end of his journey on earth. Someday I would love to meet you again. I see Arlington, Virginia listed on your note. We come back each Memorial Day weekend to take part in the TAPS Conference. This year was done on line... but if you are still there we would love to meet you next year and buy lunch. I don't know if you knew Keith June but he is in Arlington also and we meet him when we are back there. Once again, thank you for being Jim's friend. Forever you will hold a special place in our heart.
Joe M
May 25, 2020
Over 11 years now, and wanted to let the family know Jim isn't forgotten. A great friend and Soldier, who is missed every day. Got to know him at the 21st TSC in K-town, grew to great friendship over the years. Was privileged to be part of the team that brought him home for the last time to his family.
Ruth Wiley
September 22, 2018
Thank you Heather. You post means so much to me.... To know that Jim touched your life. God Bless you for being with us as we walk this journey. You kind words.... God bless you young lady. Know you can contact me at [email protected].
Ruth Wiley
September 22, 2018
Another birthday is coming and I wonder how we make it through this day. It has been ten long years and yet I still close my eyes, if only for a moment, and see that cute little boy with blond hair waiting for a special cake. We would get the beaters out, a large bowl and get ready to create a masterpiece. Powdered sugar and butter would top the cake and then in the blink of an eye we would add the candles and decorations. The days soon slipped into years and each birthday brought a different kind of excitement but always a cake, always made at home.
September 26 it will once again be Jimmy's birthday. It is hard to believe that he would have been 57 this year. We will once again celebrate the wonderful day Jimmy came into our lives. I am always saddened when I think I will never have the chance to hold him, to hug him... To see those beautiful blue eyes. To hear his stories and never know if he waa telling me a story or the truth.
I will always bend my knee and thank God that he gave us Jimmy because you see I would not trade a day of his life. We were blessed with our son, brother, father and so much more if only for a short time. On his birthday this year we will once again think about the life we had.... no one can take away our memories. You see it is not how or when he died but how Jimmy lived, the differences he made, the love that he left in my heart. We will once again share the day with family and friends. A day unplanned, filled with tears but most of all laughter.
Heather Masten
September 21, 2018
I think of Jim often. I didn't know him that long, but am grateful for the opportunity to have met such a caring and charismatic man. A big thanks for keeping this post going.
Ruth Wiley
September 20, 2018
Remembering our son..... We do not let a day go by that we don't think of Jim... Tears still come... We love to hear from his friends because they keep his memory alive.... We love to hear stories we have already heard and new ones that warm our hearts. Thank you to all who have kept Jimmy's memory alive. We love all of you.
Scott
September 18, 2018
Mr. and Mrs. Wiley, thank you for keeping this page for Jim going. I regularly think of Jim and how funny and smart he was. Very creative thinker.
Hope you are doing well on this anniversary.
Ruth Wiley
May 24, 2015
Thank you for you message. It touches our hearts when Jim is remembered. If you would ever like to reach us, my e-mail address is [email protected]. Your message received this Memorial Day is a wonderful gift.... God Bless you!!
Kenneth B
May 23, 2015
I was deployed with LTC Wiley around 2007 timeframe at Camp Stone in Herat, Afghanistan. I worked in the S2 and interacted with him several times. I was always impressed with how politely and professionaly he carried himself. He deeply cared about everything he was doing in Afghanistan. I was shocked to learn about his passing when I received an email in 2009 from another officer we were deployed with. I am sorry for your loss. The Army lost a great officer.
October 3, 2014
Today we laid your cousin to rest next to you.... Give her a hug from all of us when she gets through those Golden Gates.... Love you son... Mom and Dad
June 11, 2014
Each time someone new adds a message, it touches our hearts. Thank you "Old Man Weiss" You may contact us if you would like.... [email protected].... Jim's mom and dad
Old Man Weiss
June 8, 2014
Thinking of you and your family, Jim. You are not forgotten.
September 21, 2013
The years have slipped by ever so quickly and yet it seems like an eternity. I miss you every day, every moment. If we only had time to tell one more story. We love you so much son..... Mom and Dad
H MASTEN
September 17, 2013
Thinking of Jim and his family today.
stephen malone
April 5, 2013
Not a day goes by that I dont think of Jimmie.
April 3, 2013
Even now, I think for many of us who knew LTC Wiley his loss still hurts immensely.
Ruth and Jim Wiley
November 7, 2012
Dean... thank you for the wonderful note. It always touches my heart and yes, brings a tear to my eye when people let us know they are thinking of Jim...... It is so hard to loose a child.... I know he was more than a child to others but to his father and I he will always be our son... someone to laugh with, someone to cry with, and always someone to love.... Thank you for touching our hearts.... Please feel free to drop us a note at [email protected]...
Dean
November 4, 2012
LTCol Wiley's family! I served with him at Camp Stone, Afghanistan. He was a funny guy and I had some long talks with him. In fact, I spoken to him twice the night before he took his wings to heaven. I think of you often and goggle your name to read this page.
LTC (ret) Heather Masten
September 18, 2012
Mr and Mrs Wiley, I served with Jim in Afghanistan. I only met him a few times, but he left a permanent memory with me as a compassionate and understanding Soldier. I am grateful to have known and served withe him. I am so sorry for your loss.
Mom and Dad Wiley
September 17, 2012
Dear Son,
Tomorrow is four years since we last heard your voice, listened to your laugh, or thought of you without tears in our eyes. You are missed by many and loved by more.... Someday we will meet again and it will be a joyous reunion. With so much love... Mom and Dad
Dorothy Edwards Varland
May 27, 2012
On this Memorial Day weekend I thank all the brave soldiers that died for this country. We will remember you forever.
Thank you!
Jim and Ruth Wiley
May 8, 2012
Stuart,
You are now and always have been a wonderful memory of days that have passed. I am so pleased that you have Jim's picture up. I am also so proud to hear about Alex at Annapolis. I would love to have a picture of him to hang next to Jim's here. Do you remember when you two dug up the sign in the Florida Circle and the policeman came and helped you guys fill in the hole? You two... you made the world smile.
God Bless you and your family,
Jim and Ruth Wiley
Stuart
May 6, 2012
Mr. & Mrs. Wiley,
I have Jim's picture on my bulletin board next to my son Alex's pictures. Alex is finishing his 2nd Class year at Annapolis. I have told him the stories about Jim and I sitting in the circle on Florida Street and Jim eating the center of his sandwich, but leaving the crust. Alex leaves the crust, too. I just saw a picture of Jim from kindergarten that Diane Lund's Mom took when we graduated back in May of 1967. We had a lot of fun growing up in a small town. I always remember that infectious smile of his. I have a belief that nobody is really ever gone as long as they are remembered. I say those peoples names and that keeps them alive for me. When people ask about the picture, I tell them the stories. I am still so sorry for your loss. God Bless You.
Stuart
Mo'
April 13, 2012
Not a days goes by that I dont think about Jim. he will always hold a special place in my heart. I miss you bro', I miss u.
Mom and Dad
April 12, 2012
I come back to this page often to read the things that friends and family have written. You were love by many and we all miss you.
September 24, 2011
Happy Birthday Jim I miss you everyday, You were my friend. I will never forget your kindness.
T.A.
Mom and Dad
September 23, 2011
Jim would have celebrated his birthday on Monday, September 26. It would have marked 50 years for him. We loved him and miss him so much. His spirit will be with us always.
Peggy Childers
September 18, 2011
To the family and friends of Lt. Col. James Wiley:
Please accept my remembrance of James on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Keith June
November 22, 2010
To the family of Jim Wiley. I just found out today that Jim was gone. Jim and I were great friends. I absolutely loved him. He truly was a brother. He saved my butt any number of times, but personally and professionally. I talked to him in 2008 and he told me that he had been activated for Afghanistan. It was the last time I talked to him. What a wonderful spirit. Jim could somehow make any situation better. He just had that gift. He had talked about moving to DC and I was looking forward to seeing him and Theresa in the states. I cannot begin to say how heartbroken I am. May God bless Jim and his family. Thanks for being a true brother. As long as there is breath in this body, my friend, you will live on. Love, Keith
Ruth Wiley
October 24, 2010
I keep coming back to this site to read the wonderful messages each of you have sent. You help keep warm memories alive in my heart. My God always bless you and keep you safe.
Ruth Wiley, Jim's mom
Peggy Childers
September 19, 2010
To the family and friends of Lt. Col. James Wiley:
Remembering James on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
The gang is all here:-) Ktown legal center
stephen malone
July 8, 2010
Jim & Rick
Stephen Malone
July 8, 2010
Stephen Malone
July 8, 2010
Jim and the girls in Germany
Stephen Malone
July 8, 2010
Peggy Childers
September 18, 2009
To the family of Lt. Col. James Wiley:
James gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Marquita Dunn
September 17, 2009
First off I would like to give my sympathy to Mr. Wiley's family. Mr. Wiley and my mother worked together and during the summers I would also work at the office. I will never forget going the office and always seeing him with a smile on his face and encouraging words. I to joined the military and because of his support and him writing me a letter of recommendation I became an officer. I will always be thankful for the support that he showed. Thank you Mr. Wiley for all that you have done and for all of the lives that you have touched.
My brother helping those in need
Stephen Malone
July 24, 2009
Angela Moore
July 23, 2009
My heart goes out to Reese and the Girls. We were stationed at Fort Carson together and again, in Germany. Even though I just found this out, know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers. Jim always impresesd me by the way he took care of his clients. Nothing to big or small and each left with feeling that they were the most important issue at hand. Jim touched more lives than we can even imagine. Rest in Peace Jim.
Angela Moore
Angela Moore
Edward Yeager
July 8, 2009
My sympathy to the Wiley family. Today is July 8 2009 and I've just learned of Jim's death. I found the information while browsing on the JAG website. I met Jim Wiley in September 2001. I went to K-town for two weeks of annual training. It was to be a fun trip to Germany but our second day there was 9/11. Jim was a great guy and to a young JAG officer a great source of information and to me a source of calm during a difficult time. I know that Jim is missed by many. MAJ J. Edward Yeager.
C. David (Butch) Vesely
May 27, 2009
My heartfelt sympathy to the Wiley family and friends in the loss of Jim. Jim was my friend and legal advisor. He was my "eye patient" at the Landstuhl Regional Medical Center, Germany. We met during his mid-tour R&R. He was vividly enthusiastic about his job and truly felt he was doing good things for Afganistan and her children. I retired shortly after Jim returned to Afganistan and was shocked to learn of his passing. The Wiley's have lost a son, husband and father. I lost a true friend. Our country lost a Patriot and the world has lost a good man. I'm sure Jim is in heaven with God. That's where all good people go. I'm sure Jim will continue to effect our lives. One day we will meet again my friend.
C David Vesely
Stephen Malone
May 15, 2009
Jim every time I see your girls or talk to Reese, I feel you in my heart. I will continue to honor your memory and do the little things which made you such a special person. I love Jim, one day we will meet again my friend. Rest in peace, knowing that I will look over Reese, Sarah, Jamie & Ruthie
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
April 27, 2009
My heartfelt sympathy to the Wiley family and friends in the loss of James. I did not know James, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. My heart was touched by the many wonderful/beautiful things written about you. James you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
"TO LIVE IN THE HEARTS
OF THOSE YOU LEAVE BEHIND
IS NEVER TO DIE"
~Robert Orr~
Carla
March 28, 2009
My Name was Carla Wiley, came across this link while searcing for family legacy.
Sandy Bonesteel
November 4, 2008
My condolences to the family of Lt. Col. James Wiley. May they know that there are many, many people who are grieving with them; and that care very deeply about them.
An early picture of the brothers of Lambda Chi Alpha at Oregon
Mike Clark
November 2, 2008
Theresa and girls,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Jim was my fraternity brother in college. I will never forget him. "Jims" was one of a kind.
While you were in Germany, Jim and I reestablished contact and emailed one another several times. We traded family pictures and stories. I want Jim's girls to know how proud their father was of them. It came through in every note he sent me - the love and pride he had for you all. I'm sure it is of little comfort, but know that I have explained to my children who Jim was - how he served his country - how I think he is a hero - and what his, and now your sacrifice means.
Jim was a gentle, kind, giving man. The world will be colder without him. But know that there are those of us you can call on if ever we can help.
I took an oath as a fraternity brother - to help my brother and his family if I can. I meant it. Please call on me anytime I can serve you.
Thought I would share this picture. Jim is leaning on me.
Tim St. Laurent
October 27, 2008
My deepest condolences to the Wiley family. I had the great fortune to be stationed with Jim in Herat, Afghanistan, and we rode together on humanitarian assistance convoys during the brutal winter of early 2008. Jim had a huge heart and only wished the best for the people (especially the children) of Afghanistan. He was great company at Camp Stone, and he was forever talking about his family. What a great man and a tragic loss. You'll be greatly missed Jim.
CDR Tim St. Laurent, USN
Juan S
October 26, 2008
I was in Herat, Afghanistan with Lt Col Wiley last year for about 4 months. He would stop by the Troop Medical Clinic and talk to us Air Force medics all the time. He was genuine, personable, and very approachable. He talked about his kids often, he loved to talk. He will be missed.
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October 25, 2008
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Scott Lytle
October 23, 2008
I am very sorry to hear about Jim and my sympathies go out to his wife and childern. I was fortunate enough to go through law school with him and learned a great deal from him. He went on to do great things and I can only hope to be 1/2 the person he turned out to be.
Stephanie Rafoss
October 20, 2008
Prayer for Peace
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved, as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive,
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Amen
Jennifer White
October 15, 2008
Dearest Teresa, Jamie, Ruth and Sarah, you are heavy in my thoughts. I will never forget the champagne road trip, the cats or Jim's infamous stories. Much peace and love to you all during this time of darkness.
Billy Hamby
October 14, 2008
My deepest sympathy to the Wiley Family. I had the honor of working with him in Herat, Afghanistan. He was one of the funniest people I knew. He was full of great advice. He will trully be missed by me.
Spc. Billy J Hamby
South Carolina National Guard
Steven Engle
October 14, 2008
My deepest sympathies go out to Jim's family and friends. I had the pleasure of both working with Jim on active duty in Germany in the 90's and as a reservist on AT in Kaiserslautern and what I will always remember most was his positive outlook, encouraging words, and cheerful disposition. Jim was a great guy, outstanding lawyer, and excellent officer. Remember the good times and how much he loved you.
Debbi
October 11, 2008
To the family and parents of James I want you to know that you are not alone in the grief you are feeling. I too know what you are going through and what you will go through in the coming weeks and months ahead. You will have many questions as to why? You will have many things to get ready or go through and that should be done in time. Sometimes it just can’t be faced and that’s ok, for you will know when the time is right for you. There is no right or wrong way to grieve it’s an individual journey that unfortunately we now have to take. I ask that God give the comfort, strength and courage that you are going to need. When and if the time is right for you please contact me. You can cry, vent, or just talk as only another person who has been where you are can really know what you are going through. May God continue to be with you and heal you
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In memory of my son
Spc Harry (Buck) Winkler III
KIA 11/12/06 Samarra, Iraq
82nd Airborne 2-505th PIR
Pam Robertson
October 11, 2008
I am deeply saddened at the loss of this brave young soldier, a hero. My heart goes out to you at this time and in the days ahead. May your memories bring you some comfort. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
In loving memory of my nephew
Lance Cpl James Davenport KIA 11/22/06 Al Anbar Province
ANTHONY MOORE
October 7, 2008
I remember the Col as a guy that would tell you the funniest jokes and keep you laughing all day. May he rest in peace! God Bless!
Anthony Moore
October 7, 2008
I remember the Col as a guy that would tell you the funniest jokes and keep you laughing all day. May he rest in peace! God Bless!
JIM TRULOVE
October 3, 2008
MY HEART GOES OUT TO ALL OF JIMS FAMILY.. I DID NOT HIM, BUT HE WAS SOME OF MY BLOOD LINE.. MY PRAYERS GOES OUT T0 MY COUSIN RUTH AND HER HUSBAND JIM
WE LOVE YOU BOTH
JIM AND SHANNON TRULOVE
Janet and Norman Green
October 3, 2008
It is so sad to know that James is gone from us but Aunt Lucile has her grandson with her again. We will all miss him but we will see him when we get to Heaven. We love you Ruth and Jim and family. You are in our prayers always. Love Janet, Norman, Dale, Aunt Violet, Anastasia Gage, Garett, Grace
keith moore
October 3, 2008
To the family of Lt.Col.James Wiley,my family sends its deepest regards for your loss of this brave soldier.Though no words can describe what you must be going thru, remember there are so many many others who really do care.Thank You James for serving this great country,may you now rest in peace with The Almighty.
Bob Magallon
October 2, 2008
Jim and I went to College together. I had the pleasure of meeting... via email and phone... his wonderful family... and I am so very sorry for the loss. Jim is/was an exceptional spirit and gift to this world. I will miss him... although I will never forget him... God Bless the Wiley Family... and all those that held him close in their hearts. Bob
Valorie
October 2, 2008
My prayers and thoughts are with you.
I know how you feel losing a "HERO",Becoming a "Gold Star" Mother myself on 25 March.. The sacrafice our sons and daughters are making on a daily basis should tell us all..These young HEROS knew full well what they were doing and did it proudly When you hug your loved ones tonight.... Remember... We also hugged ours and they were protecting you..We.. as Americans need to make the "Ultimate Sacrafice" by supporting all our military(HEROS)...the Proud Mom of SGT. Jason W. Swiger
5th Squadron, 73rd Cavalry Regiment, 3rd Brigade
linda lee
October 1, 2008
Ruth, Jim and Family. My heart goes out to all of you during this sad time. God bless you, and your special son. ( He is a Hero to all.)
Annette Zacher
October 1, 2008
Teresa, I know that words, however kind, cannot mend your heartache, your loss just seems so wrong.
May you find strength,
in the love of family,
and in the warm embrace,
of friends.
The love Jim had for you,
will reach you from the stars,
you'll feel it from the heavens,
it will heal the scars.
With deepest sympathy,
Heike Poole
October 1, 2008
To Jim's whole family.
If tears could build a stairway
And memories were a lane
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again
No farewell words were spoken
No time to say goodbye
You were gone before we knew it
And only God knows why
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And burning tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one will ever know
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store
Since you'll never be forgotten
We pledge to you today
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay
MacDaniel
September 30, 2008
To the Wiley family,
I know there are no words to say, except how sorry I am for your loss. May you hold James' memory in your heart and please remember he shall never be forgotten.
...For you every single soldier
Those who served so honorable
Your life was forever altered
While I’m home safe and free
I stand with grateful admiration
I stand respectful and so proud
I know I’m only a civilian
And I don’t even know if it’s allowed.
But I salute you; allow me the honor
to salute you with permission let me say
Even though I hold no rank know that from my heart
My humble gratitude comes from the deepest part.
I salute you.
Suzanne MacDaniel
A Proud Aunt
Sgt. David M.Fisher
KIA 12/1/04
Dennise Hughey
September 29, 2008
Mrs. Wiley and family;
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I can relate on how you are feeling just losing a loved one myself not that long ago, but always remember the happy times and thoughts because those are the ones that you will cherish forever.
stephen malone
September 29, 2008
Jim, my brother, my friend. Rest in peace knowing that I will honor your wishes and look after everything that was important to you. I love you bro'...............
Mo'
Doug Barrett
September 29, 2008
My deepest condolences to Jim’s family,
I had the pleasure and honor to know and work with LTC Wiley. Jim served as our regional JAG for the last seven months I was in Afghanistan. Jim always provided sound advice on legal issues and was available to meet any personal needs of the troops , me included. He provided great service by mentoring the 207th Afghan Corps JAG, legal officers, and CID chief with legal and ethical issues. Their military courts are better for his service.
I am stunned at the news of his death. My heart is filled with sadness with this loss.
Jim and I had many meals and conversations together, we spoke of home, family, love our country and a shared desire to help the people of Afghanistan. Jim was a person I could just visit with in Afghanistan and our discussions helped me complete my tour of duty, I am indebted to him for that support. Jim’s professional assistance allowed me to do some things at home that will be constant reminders to me of a friend.
Family was always a topic of conversation for us, Jim spoke with great pride and love for his wife and daughters‘, he would often pull up photos of family and home when we had the chance to visit. I remember his excitement at departure for R & R leave and the joy he expressed on his return over his time with family.
My prayers are with Jim's loved ones.
kathi poppert
September 28, 2008
James, first of all I want to thank you for my freedom, you shall never be forgotten, to the Wiley family I am so sorry for your loss, I know above being an American Hero James is your family and my heart breaks for you all. though we dont know eachother we will now always be connected as my nephew PFC Aaron J Ward age 19 while serving in Iraq on May 6 2008 was K.I.A. and also added to the long list of American Hero's who paid the ultimate price for our freedom. now we shall stand proud as they did, never to be forgotten. rest in peace James your now in Gods hands and know that America Love's you.... and again I thank you from the bottom of my heart...
Proud Army aunt of PFC Aaron J Ward 170th military police Fort Lewis WA, the dragon slayers
RIP PFC Aaron J. Ward 4/28/89 - 5/6/08 )KIS)
Gary Tolle
September 28, 2008
James, I just wanted to say thank you for your brave and honorable service to a grateful nation, a nation in mourning for our fallen hero’s. You like so many other sailors and soldiers chose to serve our nation when needed most and with your life you protected the very core of what America stands for. My nephew PFC Aaron J. Ward also made that sacrifice on 5/6/2008 when he was killed in action in Iraq. As I mourn for my nephew I mourn for you and so many other brave soldiers and know that you all will forever be in my thoughts and prayers, we as a nation will never forget you. I stand tall and salute you James and from the bottom of my heart I thank you for the nights we at home could sleep without fear and know that we are safe. To the Wiley family, words cannot express the pain we now share, but our families will forever have a bond and we will be thinking of James and your family and will keep you in our thoughts & prayers. Please accept my heart felt condolences and my prayer that god help you cope with this tragic loss and may the memories of your HERO carry you through each day. From one Gold Star family to another!
Tim Holt
September 27, 2008
I went to school with Jim long ago. Reading of his life I had to smile at what great things he'd done in the almost thirty years since i'd seen him. And shed a tear for his passing as well.
Oddly enough I'd thought of him this last week before hearing of his death - laughing a bit at a memory of something he'd said once in class. Seeding his picture then, smiling and surrounded by children, I could so much see that friend from so long ago.
My thoughts and prayers to the family.
Margaret & Dee Kimbro
September 27, 2008
I thought of you & your family when I got this email..
My heart & Prayers go out to you at this time forever .Margaret & Dee Kimbro
That Little Penny
Remember this every time you pass that little penny in the parking lot.
I always thought that it was for good luck, but I love this version better.
I found a penny today
laying on the ground.
But it's not just a penny,
this little coin I've found.
Found pennies come from heaven,
that's what my Grandpa told me.
He said Angels toss them down.
Oh, how I loved that story.
He said when an Angel misses you,
they toss a penny down;
Sometimes just to cheer you up,
to make a smile out of your frown.
So, don't pass by that penny
when you're feeling blue.
It may be a penny from heaven
that an Angel's tossed to you
Mary Jane Rush
September 27, 2008
I remember James as a third grade student in my class at Hillcrest School in North Bend. He was a smart, funny kid with a twinkle in his eye. I enjoyed him thoroughly and won't forget him!
My husband and I have Jim's family in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Bill & Mary Jane Rush
Coos Bay, OR
Stormy Hall
September 27, 2008
I would like to express my deep sympathy for your family and also express my gratitude for James' service to our country. I knew James in High School and thought of him as a good person.
Wendy Campbell
September 27, 2008
Theresa and girls,
Our family was shocked and saddened when we heard the news of Jim's death. Know that our prayers are with all of you in this difficult time. Feel God's arms wrapped around you cradling you in His love. God Bless you all.
Thom, Wendy and girls
Heather Masten
September 27, 2008
To the family: my thoughts and prayers are with you as you endure such a deep loss to your family. I cannot imagine the pain and emptiness that you must feel in his absence. Jim was a true gentleman in every respect and brightened every room he entered. His compassion was extraordinary. He postively touched everyone he came in contact with, to include me. I am honored to have met and worked with such a great attorney and person. He will live on forever in my memories and the way I live my life. My deepest condolences.
Rosie Schroeer-Santiago
September 27, 2008
Dearest Wiley Family,
I had the pleasure of knowing Jim by having met him during a troublesome time in my life. Overtime, I will say that he took me in as a client, but in the end he became my friend.
Through his unconditional support and unwavering efforts I made it through something that many people might have found to be unbearable. Words cannot express how deeply I appreciate what he had given to me. He went well above what he had to do to help me seek the resolutions that I so desperately needed.
Over time he helped me to find the inner strength to carry on with his friendship and support. I would like to thank you for sharing this wonderful gift that Jim always gave to all that crossed his path.
Now as you lay Jim to rest may only the sweetest of memories fill your hearts. As your soul heals... you may need to shed some tears. God has given them to us...so feel free to let them flow. Let laughs creep in....its okay to give yourself that gift. I will pray that time be your friend and give you comfort.
May God Bless & keep you always; Jim may your soul rest in peace.
Tezra Woody
September 26, 2008
Teresa,
I cannot fathom the depth of your loss. My heart aches for you and the girls, and for myself. Jim was my first boss when I was a new Judge Advocate. He didn't just teach me the ropes, he instilled confidence in my legal skills, he developed my problem solving techniques, and he was my friend. I loved him. Its that simple. I will see you and the girls next month. I love you.
MAJ Tezra Woody
Jenny Medina
September 26, 2008
To Mrs. Wiley and the girls,
I met you all while on Annual Training in Ktown at the Legal Center. I can still remember how LTC Wiley welcomed us during our stay in Ktown. He took us to his house and introduced us to his great family. We had so much fun the night that we all went out. At that time I had recently gotten engaged and remember thinking to myself, I really hope that my marriage will bring me as much happiness as both Jim and Reese showed. They complimented each other so well. Although, they had been married for a long time, you could still see that they were both crazy about each other. I admired that. To Jamie, Sarah and Ruth: Always remember what a great man your dad was. He was such an amazing person and he touched the lives of so many not only soldiers but civilians as well. He was working so hard in Afghanistan to improve our relation with the Afghanis. I remember getting emails from him to please help him in his mission to provide vitamins for the Afghani children. He was always willing to help anyone that needed his help. Mrs. Wiley and girls you are in my thought and prayers. Many of us have felt the pain of losing such a great human being. Remember that he is with God and that he will forever be watching over you. Jim loved you guys more than anything in this world and he was so proud of you all. I remember sitting in his office and him talking about all of you with such pride and always with a big smile.
To Jim, I know that you’re with God and I hope that you continue to smile just like you did during your time here with us. Thank you so much for having had the pleasure of meeting you. Although, I never told you I learned so much from you and your family during my short stay in Ktown. My heart goes out to your Reese, Jaime, Sarah, Ruth, and your parents. May God Bless you all and I pray that God gives you the strength that you need to cope with Jim’s loss.
Gary Allain
September 26, 2008
Lt. Col. James Wiley
you are my hero
may god keep you in his arms forever.
Sue Anne Eckerd Guidara
September 26, 2008
Dear Cousin Ruthie & Jim:
Just a word to let you know we are thinking of you in this trying time and are so very sad and upset about Jimmy. We love you and will keep you in our prayers. Just keep this in mind Aunt Lucille has already welcomed Jimmy home and has her arms around him.
Lew and Alice Holt
September 25, 2008
My wife, Alice, and I wish to extend our love to the parents and family of James Wiley. We lived in North Bend for 41 years. I didn't know James well but I remember him "as a kid" and knew his mother and grandmother.
Shirley and Richard Mitts
September 25, 2008
Ruthand family, Our condolences and love are with you. We are so sorry for your loss.
GILBERT BUSTER
September 25, 2008
We are going to miss you Buddy! You have been a great and wonderful friend and to the parents, thanks so much for your son who has help me get through some tough days in Germany; Jim, rest for I have the torch!
Rob Fellrath
September 25, 2008
I had the pleasure of working in the same office as Jim for about a year and a half. Jim always had a smile on his face and a minute to talk if I needed anything.
Jim and I were both in the Army Reserves. When I was up for promotion, I wasn't getting much help from my unit, so I asked Jim. He stopped what he was doing and sat down to explain the process to me. Over the next few months, we spent long time going over my promotion packet, making sure everything was right. Jim made a difficult and frustrating process a lot easier for me. I will never forget his help.
I cried when I heard Jim died. No one had a bigger heart than Jim. His job in Germany was as chief of client services for the Kaiserslautern Legal Center, which meant that he spent most of his time helping soldiers and their families with their personal legal issues. It can be a tough job and wear on you. Jim loved it. He loved helping people.
Outside of the office, I saw Jim nearly every day in the post gym. Jim loved working out and talking with his friends at the gym. Jim seemed to know everyone and everyone liked him.
Jim was a loving father and husband. I remember seeming his wife, Theresa, and three daughters over at the office all the time. They always seemed very happy.
Jim was also a pretty funny guy. He had a thousand stories about the wild things he used to do when he was younger. I'm smiling now thinking about how hard I laughed when he used to tell his stories.
Jim, we all miss you, my friend. Rest well and thanks for a job well done.
Sherril Talley
September 25, 2008
Ruth and Jim and family, I was so sorry to read about your son. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you. Sincerely
Donna Cash
September 25, 2008
To the Wiley family:
I just heard about your loss and was so saddened. After reading about his life I know that you will have many memories to cherish. Please know that I am praying for you all. Donna Cash
Claudia and Charmian
September 25, 2008
We are so very sorry for your loss. Jim accomplished so much in life and we know you were so proud of him. We are proud of him for serving our country. Please know , Jim and Ruth, Rick and Megan, and Jims wife and daughters, you are all in our thoughts and prayers. May God smile upon your precious face Lt. Col. James L. Wiley Jr.
Rasheed Diallo
September 25, 2008
I am so blessed that our paths have crossed in Germany. Thank you for the memories. May God bestow his love and grace upon you and your family.
Master Sergeant Diallo
US Army Reserve
Your Soldier, Your Friend
Melissa Corcoran
September 25, 2008
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2008
My thoughts and prayers are with your family always,
Natalie Santos
September 25, 2008
I had the pleasure of meeting Jim and his family (Teresa, Jamie, Ruthie and Sarah) while I worked with him as a fellow reservist in Kaiserslautern, Germany.
I remember my first impression of Jim...a man with a lot to say, a lot of advice and support, and a big huge smile and laugh...I was immediately drawn to him as a Brother (or Sister:) in Arms.
When I met Teresa and the girls, I was impressed with how bright and fiesty they all were, and how they complimented him so much, and completed his life.
I was shocked and mortified when I heard of his death, and am now drawn to tell Teresa, Jamie, Ruthie, and Sarah that my heart is with you during your time of grief. I know that Jim is now walking with God, and watching over you---so remember, he is always with you. I know that he loved you all more than anything in the World!
To Jim's Parents and his Brother and his family, I wanted to tell you that my prayers lie with your family as you prepare for his funeral and internment. I wanted to thank you Jim and Ruth, for raising such a caring, unselfish, and honorable human being.
Last, I wanted to tell Jim (Because I know he is watching), that I will miss you so much! I will miss the dedication you had to your Soldiers, your fellow officers, and your community in Germany. God Bless you all.
Dan and Becky Witmer
September 25, 2008
I learned today a friend passed away,
Struck down in the prime of life.
A tear stained face for the human race,
Our thoughts turned to his wife.
Jesus please touch her heart,
Erase her children’s pain,
For what today the world has lost,
Heaven has surly gained.
REST, LT Col Jim Wiley, you touched many Sir.
P.J. Keizer
September 24, 2008
It is a sad day. Jim was a good man. He thought of others. He was bright and capable. He served to protect our way of life. He has given all he can.
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