Shirley M. Schaff

Shirley M. Schaff

Shirley Schaff Obituary

Published by M.B. Kilmer Funeral Home from Mar. 29 to Apr. 1, 2008.
FORT EDWARD Shirley M. Schaff, 71, of White Birch Estates, passed away Friday, March 28, 2008, at her home. Born on May 9, 1936, in Whitehall, she was the daughter of the late Ernest and Lillian (Gordon) Webster. Shirley attended Whitehall school and worked as a waitress at the Plattsburgh Air Force Base, the Lake George Diner and Tower Pizza of Ticonderoga. Her life revolved around her family and she enjoyed the family BBQs for every occasion. She enjoyed OTB and horse racing, Cash Word Tickets, Professional Wrestling, the N.Y. Yankees, playing poker, and her brother's music with his band "Low Riders." She was one of the founders of PORT, Parents of Run Away Teens, and cut the ribbon at the opening of Save-A-Lot in Glens Falls. Shirley married Frederick W. Schaff Jr. on July 2, 1964, in Fort Edward. Besides her parents she was also predeceased by her sisters and brothers: Clarence "Red" Webster, Joan McDonald, Harriet Hildreth, Richard "Dick" Webster and Lillian Kretzer. Her sons-in-law, James Zanta and Kevin McCarthy Sr.; and best friend, Mickey Hill, also predeceased her. Survivors besides her husband of 43 years, include her children: Patricia J. Zanta of Hudson Falls, Jacqueline M. Shores and her husband, Edward, of Porters Corners, Frederick W. Schaff III and his wife, Dawn, of Hudson Falls, Tammy L. Gosline of Chicago and her husband, Daniel Gosline, of Fort Edward, William F. Schaff of Concord, N.H., Carol A. Cook and her companion, Joseph Dominy, of Fort Edward, Penny S. Fleeman and her husband, John, of Kingsbury, Alice M. McCarthy of Fort Edward, Jan Schaff and her companion, Shawn Lemery, of Argyle and Michael Schaff and his companions, Randall Sharlow and Mike Hudson, of Niskayuna; her grandchildren, Frank, Joseph, Shawna, Bridget, Tiffanie, Johnny, Edward, Lucas, Justin, Britney, Amber, Daniel Jr., William "Billy Joe," Taylor, Dakota, Kimberly, Savannah, Shawn, Jessica, Alisha "Leaky," Johnny, Kirstie, Kevin Jr., Brianna, Sierra; and many great-grandchildren; her sisters and brothers: Doris Olcott and her husband, Ronnie, of Ticonderoga, Ernest Webster and his wife, Joann, of Fort Ann, Geraldine McDonald and her husband, Stanley, of Whitehall, Annie Ritchie and her husband, Mike, of Hampton and Robert Webster and his companion, Amy, of Hudson Falls; her best friend, Teresa Whaley; and several nieces, nephews and cousins. Friends may call from 4 to 7 p.m. Monday, March 31, 2008, at the M.B. Kilmer Funeral Home, 82 Broadway, Fort Edward. Besides The Post-Star Web site, e-mail condolences may be sent at our Web site at www.kilmers.com. Services will be conducted at 7 p.m. Monday at the funeral home with the Rev. Thomas Babiuch, pastor of St. Joseph Church, Fort Edward, officiating. Burial will be later in the spring in Greenmount Cemetery, Whitehall. Donations may be made in Shirley's memory to Moreau Emergency Squad, 1583 state Route 9, Fort Edward, NY 12828. A special thank you to the home health aide, Tanya Brouillette, for her help and compassion.

This obituary was originally published in the Post Star.

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May 18, 2008

alice schaff-mccarthy posted to the memorial.

May 11, 2008

FRED SCHAFF posted to the memorial.

May 10, 2008

carol cook(schaff) posted to the memorial.

alice schaff-mccarthy

May 18, 2008

hey mom its may 18 and every day is hard.you were not only my mom you were my best friend,we shared so many you and i together.its so hard not having you here.i never thought i would lose you and kevin all in one year but it happened and even know i have wayne in my life,my true love and only love is gone..mom imiss you and kev so much ,i feel like im going crazy.imom you will always be the best mom in the world.i just wish the night before you died i just wish you called me one more time that night to say i love you..i will always love you and i know someday we will be together you,kev,and me..god took the two most important people in my life its just not fair..life is not fair.well me and the kids love and miss you and there daddy.ill talk soon but mom i love you so much.i just cant beleive that god took you both away from me..love you guys..your little girl alice.

FRED SCHAFF

May 11, 2008

I MOM I MISS YOU SO MUCH ME AND DAWN ARE TAKINK CARE OF DAD FOR YOU HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MOM LOVE YOU HOPPY

carol cook(schaff)

May 10, 2008

Mom,
Today was a beautiful as was yesterday, Happy Birthday, I miss you so much . Today we put you with Gramma, where we know you will be safe. I took it very hard for all of us, we were all there except for Tammy, she wanted so badly to be here but just couldnt make it. Dad is doing ok we had a BBQ for you at my house we had such a good time Dad said that you would have loved it. (I sent him home with some goodies that you always loved for me to do for you). I hope that you are resting now you are at your final resting place and Dad says he cant wait to see you again. But we told him not to soon because Im not ready to loose him too. Mom you have such a beautiful view and Gramma is looking over you as she always did when she and you were here. I miss you mommy and cant bare to say goodbye I just cant do it, not yet. Well I will come and see you tomorrow, Its Mothers Day and I need to spend some time with you , just you and me... until then reat my dear mother and I love and miss you dearly. Love Carol

Cheryl Duron

May 9, 2008

God looked around his Garden and He found an empty place. He then looked down upon this earth,and saw your tired face.He put His arms around you and lifted you to rest, God's garden must be beautiful,He always takes the best. He knew you were suffering; He knew you were in pain. He knew that you would not get well again.He saw the road was getting rough and the hills were to hard to climb.So he closed your weary eyelids, and whispered,"Peace be thine"It broke our hearts to lose you but you didn't go alone. For part of us went with you the day God called you home.We'll always love you.
YOUR FAMILY
In Memory of the day God Blessed this world with your presence. May 9th!

Jan Schaff

April 29, 2008

Dear mom, I'm just sitting here thinking about you. I can't believe it's been a month since you've been gone. I miss you so much it hurts. It's all so unreal to me. I just keep waiting for the phone to ring and to hear your voice on the other end. I've been in a fog since you've been gone. I don't know what's going on around me. It's like i'm walking around in a daze. I feel like i'm standing still standing and the world is just passing me by. I can't seem to focus on anything and my head is so messed up. There are so many unanswered questions. I wish we could go back to a week before you passed. I wish you would have said something we could have helped you, or at least we could have tried to understand what you were going through. I wish I could have been there for you. We are trying to get a place out near dad now. I feel so bad we couldn't have done this before you passed. I can't go through this again. It's pretty sad that something like this had to happen to make you realize that family is the most important thing in life. Everyone is so busy with their job and caught up in their own lives you never take the time to stop and spend it with family because you always think you have another day, but that is not always true. You never know just how much time we all have left so you should be grateful for everyday you have and spend it with the ones you love. You need to realize that when the day is over thats all that really matters in life. You were all about family and you were right. All you ever wanted was for us all to spend more time with you and dad. We all though we had more time, we were wrong. Mom you've taught me alot and you continue to teach me even after your gone. I know your up there watching over me and the girls. I know you will always be there for us and I thank you for that. I wish I would have thanked you when yoiu were here. Please know I love you and you will always be in my heart and my memories. You were a wonderful mother and i just wish you knew how much I appreciate everything you did for me and Mike. You saved us, if it wasen't for you who knows were we would be today. So if you can hear me mom thank you for always being there for me and for making me the person I am today. I love you so much and someday I know we will be together again. so for now I say goodnight rest mom and know we will never forget you. Love always, Jan

Penny Fleeman

April 21, 2008

Mom,It's only been 3 weeks but it seems like a lifetime already.I feel so alone,theres no one to talk to anymore about things that I could only talk to u about. I go to call u and then I remmember u wont be there to answer.Jessicas birthday is on the 28th and I dont think I am going to do very good on that day knowing its the day u left us.I will be strong for u and her.Dad is doing better from being sick and in the hospital. Mom it was very hard keeping him in there .He wanted to go home so he could be with u.I sat with him for quite a few days by myself all day and helped him with whatever he needed or just to have someone to talk to .Things are ok with the kids and me, John needs to have a chest exray done in may because they said he a density spot on one of his lungs .Hopefully everything turns out good with the next one.All of us love u very much and miss u very much.Love Penny

ALICE SCHAFF-MCCARTHY

April 19, 2008

HEY MOM,ITS APRIL 19 I CANT BELEIVE U BEEN GONE FOR THIS LONG. GOD I MISS HEARING YOUR VOICE EVERYDAY.I WAKE UP EVERYMORNING LOOKING AT THE PHONE WAITING FOR IT TO RING.BUT IT DONT.I MISS U SO MUCH MOM. IT HURTS SO BAD THAT IN THE LAST 8 IN THE HALF MONTHS I LOST THE TWO MOST IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN MY LIFE AND THAT IT U AND KEVIN. I LOOKED FORWARD TO WAKING UP TO SEE KEVIN AND TO HEAR YOUR VOICE , BUT NOW I WAKE UP TO U BOTH GONE.DAD IS DOING OK JUST MISSES U LIKE CRAZY,LIKE WHEN KEVIN DIED ,I KNOW HOW HE IS FEELING ,BUT IN TIME IT WILL GET EASY,BUT LIKE I SAID IN TIME. ITS BEEN EIGHT MONTHS AND MY HEART STILL IS SO LOST AND SO BROKEN.I WILL WRITE SOON BUT JUST REMEMBER I LOVE U SO MUCH AND I MISS HEARING YOUR VOICE.I LOVE YOU MOMMY.TELL KEV I LOVE HIM AND MISS YOU BOTH..

elaina blackmer

April 18, 2008

I cant belive that all this time i have know shirley , that it would hurt so much to have a person missing in this world . i see the heart ache in the faces and in the words of all there children ,, it saddens me to no point . miss you all love u elaina

Jan Schaff

April 17, 2008

Dear Mom, I'm sorry I didn't write sooner. I've tried believe me, but every time I see your face when I sign on to view your book it's just too much to bare. I miss you so much it hurts. I guess by signing this it's like actually saying your gone but I can't accept that. I love you so much and it kills me that I didn't get to talk to you the night before you passed. Why didn't you call? You always called but not that night. Mom I just wish I could have said goodbye. We all miss you so much. Shawn has been a rock for me mom. I don't know what I would do without him. Sierra, she's so little she doesn't understand I guess it's better that way. But Brianna is so smart, you would be so proud of her. Even with her surgery and loosing you all in one week she still brought home 100's on her tests. Her surgery went good, thank you. I know you were worried for me. I just wish I could hear your voice again mom, I miss talking to you. You always had an answer for me. I have to catch myself when something happens, I find myself reaching for the phone only to remember you won't be on the other end. I would give anything to have you back. You were the best mother in the world. Dad misses you so much. He had us scared for a while but he's doing better now. We are all there for him and just taking it one day at a time. Thats all we can do you were our world even if you didn't know it. I can't stop thinking about everything I wanted to say to you it's just not the same without you here. But I know your not hurting anymore and I know your looking down on us all taking care of us just like you did when u were here. But until the day we are all together again mom rest please we will all be ok, you always worried about everyone. It's your turn to rest but remember that I will always love you and I will always keep you close to me in my heart. Love Always, Jan

ALICE SCHAFF-MCCARTHY

April 17, 2008

MOM I JUST WANTED TO SAY I LOVE U WITH ALL MY HEART.ALSO IM WORKING WITH HEATHERFOR A FEW DAYS.CAROL AND I R GETTING ALONG SO GREAT,I LOVE HER SO MUCH.WAYNE HAS BEEN HELPING ALOT SO DONT WORRY ILL BE ALRIGHT.ILL WRITE AGAIN GIVE KEV AHUG AND KISS FOR ME.AND U KNOW I LOVE YOU.KIRSTIE AND KEVIE BOTH SAID THEY LOVE U AND TO GIVE THERE DADDY A HUG AND KISS FOR THEM.TALK LATER.LOVE SCOOCH

ALICE SCHAFF-MCCARTHY

April 14, 2008

TO THE BEST MOM IN THE WORLD.I MISS U SO MUCH IT HURTS.I MISS HEARING YOUR VOICE AND HEARING THE WORDS I LOVE U..DONT WORRY ILL STAY CLOSE TO CAROL U ALWAYS WANTED ME AND CAROL TO BE CLOSE AND WE WILL.MOM SHE IS ALL I GOT I LOVE HER SO MUCH.I KNOW GOD IS TAKING CARE OF U AND SO IS KEV.DAD IS FEELING BETTER AND WE TOLD HIM TO BE STRONGE .MOM ITS GOING TO TAKE TIME BUT WE WILL ALL BE THERE FOR HIM SO DONT WORRY.U LOOKED SO PRETTY MOM I THINK ABOUT U ALL THE TIME SO I WANT U TO REST NOW BECAUSE YOUR PAIN IS GONE.GIVE KEV AND GINNY A HUG AND KISS FOR ME.ILL WRITE AGAIN BUT JUST REMEMBER I WILL LOVE U TILL THE DAY I DIE..SWEET DREAMS AND I LOVE YOU..LOVE YOUR LITTLE GIRL ALICE

Heather bachler

April 14, 2008

To: a woman i had only known for a short time and only got to meet once but spent many days talking to you over the phone about ur son Bill
when ever i had a hard time understanding him you were always there to liston and seemed to known what to say to make me feel better and make me smile i'm not sure who i'll talk too now when times get hard over here but i do know you will always hear me now as you look down from the heavens above and i'm greatful that the Lord let me meet you and i do know ur gonna be missed vary much
and there is some words that are gonna forever be with me and thats what you said 6 months back to me and that was please find it in ur heart to forgive my son he is a good man

Heather bachler

April 14, 2008

i just want to say how sorry i'am to the family for thier lose and my prayers are with u all in ur time of need and may the Lord be with u all

Karen Wann

April 13, 2008

I just want to send my condolences to all of you, my memories of Aunt Shirley were funny times at her house when we went to the Bar-B-Ques. Your Mom and My Aunt our in heaven with our Lord Jesus. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love, when my Dad and Mom passed away it was hard to believe that they were gone, but I was coforted by the thoughts of them in heaven with Jesus and not here on earth suffering any longer. God Bless and take care of each other always, Love Karen Wann (Your Cousin)

jackie schaff shores

April 13, 2008

mom I'm just sitting hear missingI love you so very much i miss talking to you 4 or more times a day its hard not seeing you at house but you are always in my heart
love JACKIE
write me

Carol Schaff(cook)

April 13, 2008

Mom,
Today is the first day that I have been alone, so its just you and me right now. As I sit here and listen to your cd that Michael made for your services, Im remembering the good times and the bad times that we had and I realize that there are more good then bad. Dad is getting better thank you for that because I couldnt bare losing both of you so soon. He says hes going to help with that rose garden for you. he stills cries so much for you, I told that you would not want him to giveup, so he is fighting but not as hard as I would like him to, but he is getting better. Mom I miss you so much words can't even explain. I never knew losing you would hurt so much the pain is unexplainable. Please help me with keep him with us for awhile longer (a long while please). I only wish I had one more day with you mom so I could tell you all the things that I didnt get a chance to, but I know that you can here me, because I talk to you alot. I will write again until then rest by dear mother, rest your beautiful head.
Love you forever and always,

your daughter Carol

April 11, 2008

carol i dont know if u got my messages but i d like for u to contact me please,, i need to chat with you it s elaina n i wish to send u something via email and my address is [email protected]. im so sorry for u sorrows,, man i just cant seem to come to the grasps to think of what s going o n and ur the one whom lost alot right now i read all of the familys words and i sit and cry just sems to hit me right in the heart ur guys were always family and will be i miss u and ur mom and wish u the best with dad and get him better he needs u call me my number is in the book but i m looking to get ur email addy so get ahold of me please elaina

ALICE SCHAFF-MCCARTHY

April 11, 2008

TODAY ITS BEEN TWO WEEKS SINCE U BEEN GONE AND MY HEART HURTS SO BAD NOT HEARING YOUR VOICE EVERYDAY.I KNOW U R AT REST AND YOUR BODY DOESNT HURT ANYMORE BUT DAD IS SICK RIGHT NOW.I TELL HIM IT WILL BE ALRIGHT,IT JUST WILL TAKE TIME LIKE U TOLD ME WITH KEV.I TOLD HIM ITS ALRIGHT TO CRY.WHAT IM DOING IS TRYING TO TELL HIM THE SAME THING U TOLD ME.BUT ITS HARD BECAUSE HES MY DADDY AND YOUR MY MOMMY.I JUST WANT U TO KNOW THAT IM THINKING OF U AND THAT I MISS U AND LOVE U SO MUCH.I CAN TELL U ONE THING THIS WORLD IS NOT THE SAME WITHOUT U.MOM U WERE THE ROCK OF THIS FAMILY.TOMORROW IS KIRSTIE 16 B-DAY I ONLY WISH U WERE HERE.LITTLE KEV IS REALLY TAKING THIS HARD,HE SAID ITS TO MUCH FOR HIM TO HANDLE IN 8 MONTHS.BUT DONT WORRY HE IS A STRONGE BOY.WELL ILL WRITE AGAIN BUT I JUST WANTED TO TELL U THAT WE ALL LOVE AND MISS U SO MUCH. DONT WORRY ABOUT DADDY HES IN GOOD HANDS. GIVE KEV A HUG AND KISS FOR ALL OF US. I LOVE U MOMMY NOW AND FOREVER.YOUR LITTLE GIRL ALICE.

Carol Schaff(Cook)

April 10, 2008

Mom,
Today I sit and think, WHY, but to do that only drives me crazy. I couldn't save you that morning it hurts so much when I think about that.You are resting now But Dad is suffering so much hes so sick and misses you so much words cant even explain. Please guide us with him and be his guardian angel and lead us in the right direction for him. Mom we didnt get along at times but I loved u with all my heart all the time and always will. I did my best to be a good daughter because I had a great role model dont take crap from anyone and to take care of myself. Mom I hope you are resting because as I said before you just looked so tired. Now you are at peace, so help me help Dad to be at peace to. He loves you and misses You as I do too.
Now rest your beautiful head my dear mother.

Love always and forever,
your daughter
Carol

william schaff

April 10, 2008

mom i will mess u so much wish i could have told u how much i love u and ur the best mom a son could have i hurt everday when i think about u and it hurts to go thought everyday now knowing ur not here and wont be here every again but ur will allways be in my thought and in my heart and i will love u now and forever ur son bill

Nancy Weast (Hildreth)

April 8, 2008

My condolences to the family. All my memories of Aunt Shirley were fun and laughter, the life of the party(BBQ) when we would go and visit.U are in Heaven now where the streets are paved of gold, where u are singing and dancing with the angels, We will rejoyce once again Aunt Shirley.. Till then give my mommy a kiss and a hug....Love You Always!

ALICE{SCOOCH} SCHAFF-MCCARTHY

April 8, 2008

TODAY HAS BEEN 12 DAYS SINCE U BEEN GONE AND MY HEART HURTS SO BAD. MOM I CAN REMEMBER WHEN I WAS SICK ON EAST STREET, I HAD A BAD FEVER AND U AND DAD RUBBED ME DOWN WITH YOUR FAMOUS OINMENT AND TOLD ME I WILL BE OK. I REALLY MISS U SO MUCH. IM ONLY 35 AND IN THE PAST 8 MONTHS GOD TOOK THE MOST TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN MY LIFE, YOU AND MY HUSBAND BUT LIKE U TOLDME AFTER KEV DIED BE STRONGE,DONT CRY. I CAN DO ONE THING FOR U , I'LL BE STRONGE, BUT I HAVE TO CRY. I KNOW U R GONE BUT NOT FORGOTTON. I LOVE U SO MUCH MOMMY. I MISS HEARING YOUR VOICE, I MISS GIVING U HUGS AND KISSES. I KNOW I HAVE SOME DIFFERENCES WITH SOME SISTERS AND BROTHERS AT TIMES, BUT I PROMISE I WILL DO MY BEST. KIRSTIE AND KEVIE SAID THEY LOVE U AND MISS U. ALSO THEY KEEP ASKING WHY DID GOD HAVE TO TAKE U AND DADDY THERE. WELL I WILL WRITE AGAIN BUT I JUST WANTED TO SAY THAT I LOVE YOU MOM NOW AND FOREVER. U WILL ALWAYS BE THE BEST MOM IN THE WORLD...

BOBBY & KIM HILDRETH

April 7, 2008

OUR THOUGHTS ARE WITH THE FAMILY,REMEMBER TRY NOT TO MOURNE,BUT CELEBRATE HER BEAUTIFUL LIFE.

Cheryl Duron

April 7, 2008

My condolences to all of you . I pray our Lord keep you close to him . You are all in my prayers.When I think of Aunt Shirley laughter comes bubbling up from within. She brought laughter to many I am sure. I will hold the family up in Prayer.I ask that our Lord bring you peace in knowing Aunt Shirley ran the race and won the prize ,to a life where there is no pain !no more dying nor crying! In that I leave you with lots of Love and Prayer sent to you all .May God comfort you in this time of loss.
Love Cheryl Duron (Hildreth)

Colleen vredenburg

April 6, 2008

To Fred Schaff II & Family
I am sorry for your loss. I will always love and miss Shirley. she was the closest thing i had to a mom. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this time of difficulty. You all were my family for 13 years. I love you all. Best wishes & god bless you all.
Sincerly,
Colleen vredenberg

colleen vredenburg

April 6, 2008

To Fred Schaff II & Family
I am sorry for your loss. I will always love and miss Shirley. she was the closest and best thing i had to a mom. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this time of difficulty you all were my family for 13 years. I love you all. Best wishes & god bless you all.
Sincerly,
colleen vredenburg

Lucas Schaff

April 6, 2008

Dear Grampa
just to let you know im sorry Grammy Jelly Belly died. i love her and be missing her. but im still here and i love you bunches grampa.
Love,
Lucas Schaff

Fred Schaff

April 6, 2008

Mom I miss you very much and i will always have the memories with you. So mom just to let you know your love is always in my heart.

Dawn Schaff

April 6, 2008

To my husband and his family im deeply sorry for your loss. I was just getting to know my mother in-law. when ever Fred and I would go over to visit Shirley and Fred. I would always hear of all the stories of good times with her kids and family. I know you all are dealing with this in different ways just remember one thing she is in all of you and she will live on in each one of her grandchildren and great grandchildren and so on. i can only say i wish i got to know her more she seemed like a really great mom,wife and grandmother. to my husband i want you to know i wish i could take away the pain you feel. I hope our marriage last as long as your parents did. I love you always and forever your wife Dawn.

Penny Schaff. Fleeman

April 6, 2008

Mom,Today is day 10 its harder today than the first day u were taken from us.I know that our relationship wasn't always the best but I do love u and miss u so much.Why didn't you tell how sick u really were? Dad is being very brave but we all know he misses u very much.Please don't take him from us yet I wouldn't be able to handle that .I feel so lost without u here its been hard not calling u because your not there to answer I wish u were there so I could hear your voice once more.Even with this large family. U know I was always alone but u were always there to bring me home.God wanted it this way and I don't thinkits fair because he took my MOM up there. I love u mom .Penny

Ernie & joeann

April 4, 2008

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

ALICE SCHAFF-MCCARTHY

April 4, 2008

TODAY ITS BEEN 1 WEEK SINCE U BEEN GONE .I CANT BELEVIE HOW FAST IT WENT,YA I CAN MOM..AFTER KEV PASTED ME AND U BECAME CLOSER THEN EVER.U TOLD ME EVERYNIGHT AFTER HE PASTED THAT U LOVED ME AND NOT TO WORRY ,BE STRONGE BECAUSE U SAID THATS WHAT KEV WOULD WANT.I WAS BEING STRONGE TILL I GOT THE CALL LAST FRIDAY THAT MY MOMMY WAS GONE..THE TWO MOST IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN MY LIFE ARE NOW WITH EACH OTHER..THEY SAY GOD TAKE THE GOOD ONES AND ILL BE DAMNED HE DID.ITS NOT FAIR..THAT SONG THERES HOLES IN THE FLOOR IN HEAVEN IT REALLY FITS U AND KEV CAUSE I KNOW U BOTH R WATCHING DOWN ON US..DONT WORRY ABOUT DADDY WE R ALL THERE FOR HIM,IM JUST REAL SCARED RIGHT NOW MOM.U WERE THE ONE THAT KEPT ME GOING WITH THE TALKS WE HAD...ILL WRITE AGAIN TO THE MOST CAREING,LOVEING,AND PRETTIEST MOM IN THE WORLD...YOUR R STILL THE BEST AND I LOVE U WITH ALL MY HEART..YOUR LITTLE GIRL FOREVER ALICE...P.S.PLEASE DONT KEEP WORRING ABOUT ME I WILL BE FINE,JUST U AND KEV TAKE CARE OF EACH OTHER TILL I COME UP THERE AND THEN I WILL SHOW HOW TO RAISE SOME HELL..LOVE BOTH OF U.

christine & Frank smith

April 3, 2008

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Taylor Gosline

April 2, 2008

Gramma,
There are not enough words to explain how much i miss and love you..you will be missed very, very much...you looked so peaceful laying there and i know you are in heaven shinning down on us.. i just wish i had one more day with you so i could see the most beautiful smile upon your face...grandpa really misses you so much..you where and still are the light of his life...gramma when i die i want you to be the one who opens up heavens gates for me...

Friends
Written with a pen,sealed with a kiss if you are my friend please answer me this,are we friends or are we not,you told me once but i forgot,so tell me now and tell me true so i can say im here for you..of all the friends i've ever met your the one i wont forget ill go up to heaven and wait for you,ill give the angels back thier wings and risk the loss of everything, there isnt a thing i wouldnt do to have a friend just like you!!!!

This poem is dedicated to my gramma

R.I.P

gone but will never be forgotten..
I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART

kevin mccarthy

April 2, 2008

hey im sorry gram i miss ya like crazy and i wish u were here i hate all the dieing going on in my life it sucks ... well gram i love u so much tell my father i said hi and i love him

Joanne Brooks

April 2, 2008

To Your Family who are left to cope with you leaving,
As we all long to talk and hold you Aunt Shirley we all understand that you had a mission to deal with long from this life, You see The party is in Heaven and God needed you to get the party arranged in the event of your celebration in Heaven. Only you knew how to get people to talk even when they did not want to. always there with a comforting word or a hug. You will always be my special aunt (fat Lady) and uncle Fred you will always be her captain of any ship she sails. Never forget the shoe box twins. Love ya ll aunt Shirley and family my Prayers are with you Tell mom i said hi aunt shirley. .

The Blackmer's

April 1, 2008

The Woman with the most Beautiful smile and the most happyset kids ,friends and loved ones , you were beautiful . on ur last day shareing it with us ,, i sit and have the tears of joy happynes and sorrow.. but i know u are watching us from up there in heaven . Kev wont let no one bother ya and we will miss u something feirce . Fred is lost woth out you and will never get you far from his mind .. He will rejoice with you , just dont take him from all just yet we miss u and need time for him to enjoy life a lil longer .. you r my mom s friend and she is sadend she could nt say goodbye she wanted to but he Hubby is to frail also , very difficult to take him places but she will always rember the time s spent with you ,fred and the kids ... now as we say good bye we say I LOVE YOU too, be good up there ,, love Elaina , June, Roy all of the 13 Blackmer children

alice schaff-mccarthy

April 1, 2008

dear mommy,its the next day after your wake and i miss you so much..but you really looked so nice last night,daddy was being stronge but at times it got real hard for him...but dont worry hes ok so dont worry about him everyone will look after him....its real hard without u because mom you were the rock of this family....you were the kindest mom any one could have..but remember what i said kev is up there with you so tell him i said hi and that i love him plus i will always love you ..the kids will miss u but they told me to tell u that there daddy is up there to watch over you..ill write again mom just remember i will love u forever..ill see again mom and kev ...love you both..love your little girl alice

Denise Oudekerk

April 1, 2008

I didn't know Shirley all that well, but, I do know her son William. I am very sorry for your familiy's loss at this time.

APRIL DICKINSON

April 1, 2008

DON'T THINK OF HER AS GONE AWAY HER JOURNEY'S JUST BEGUN LIFE HOLD SO MANY FACETS THIS EARTH IS ONLY ONE. JUST THINK OF HER AS RESTING FROM THE SORROWS AND THE TEARS IN PLACE OF WARMTH AND COMFORT WHERE THERE ARE NO DAYS AND YEARS.THINK HOW SHE MUST BE WISHING THAT WE COULD KNOW TODAY HOW NOTHING BUT OUR SADNESS CAN REALLY PASS AWAY. AND THINK OF HER AS LIVING IN THE HEARTS OF THOSE SHE TOUCHED FOR NOTHING LOVED IS EVER LOST AND SHE WAS LOVED SO MUCH BY HER FAMILY. TAMMY I KNOW IT'LL BE HARD BUT TIME DOES HEAL . YOU TAKE CARE YOU KNOW I'M ONLY A PHONE CALL AWAY . LOVE YA APRIL DICKINSON

Christine Parker

April 1, 2008

Fred and family I am sorry for the loss of your mother. I did not her that much but i can tell she was a very caring and loving person and that she love her husband very much. She always ask how i was doing when she called to talk to you on the phone fred. from your mother-in-law chris.

carol Cook

March 31, 2008

Mom,
You looked the most beatiful today ( except for the little smirk on your face) I hoped that you approved of your last day with us, boy Mom what a turn you were very loved and will be greatly missed. You would have been proud of Daddy, he was so glad he said ,that you looked very beautiful and he even called you sweetheart, he kissed you so tenderly,we all had a good cry. Mommy he loved so much and he feels so alone but he was much better since he got to say goodbye to his precious wife and best friend and he says he will see you soon. I promise you Mom that I will take very good care of him, you have my word.
Love your daughter
Carol

As I said before my dear mother rest, rest your beautiful head xoxoxo

Erica Wilson

March 31, 2008

Sorry I could'nt make it say goodbye to Shirley. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys. I will miss her dearly. Call if you need anything.

lisa talmage

March 31, 2008

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Melissa Smith

March 31, 2008

Sorry I couldn't be there ,but my thoughts are with you guy;now & always. Your mom was a nice woman & will be missed by all.

Kim Etu

March 31, 2008

To the Schaff family I am so sorry about Shirley she was a great person and did everything for her family and friends. She will be greatly missed.

cindy wilkins

March 31, 2008

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Lynette Senecal

March 31, 2008

Carol and family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time when your hearts are filled with sorrow. Stand strong for your dad. I'm here for you, just call, whether its a shoulder to cry on or a friend to talk to.
Love, Lynette

March 31, 2008

Alice my Dear Friend . I am going to miss her so much you have to be strong.. i know it s a hard thing you just lost ur Kev . I miss him sooo .If You need me . Give a holla anytime k..This is so hard she will be missed , as i sit here with tears running from my face i am going to say i love ya all .. Elaina

June blackmer

March 31, 2008

Each day we count our blessings and say a prayer or two . Thank you Dear Lord for the time we shared with you . In Loveing memory of my Dearest friend Shirley Shaft ..The last i seen your smiling face was in the summer , sun shining upon you in a final embrace .Until we meet again My dear friend I will love chreish and miss you .. your a good friend June Blackmer... Hang in there Fred God needed her to watch over all her children and grand children from above May God Blees all of you and You r children Lots of LOve June

Elaina M Blackmer

March 31, 2008

God granted me the sencerity to walk along the path of life, He will also take mine one day .Unitl he does I am going to miss you Aunt Shirly . God looked around his garden, seen an empty space and though he d fill it with you r smiling face. He may have taken you from us but he will never take our memories that you have embraced.Keep smiling from up above because we are down here waiting for you r love. Uncle Fred keep Your chin up . Always wear a smile , She will be careing from above .. Everone is going to miss you We LOVE you .. Elaina M Blackmer ..

Mika Woodcock

March 31, 2008

I'm so sorry for all of your family and i will miss you shirley and we all hope you are watching our evey move and we wish the best of luck to your husband fread. GOD BLESS YOU and taylor, tammy, na dalice really miss you alot.

Marie Martin (McDonald)

March 31, 2008

Dear Uncle Fred,

Sorry to hear about Aunt Shirley. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Rosemary Columbetti

March 31, 2008

We haven't seen each other in years, I could never find you when I came back from Las Vegas. If any of you need anything feel free to contact me at 747-4091.
Rosemary Columbetti
May God Be with you during these troubled times.

Tiffany Bovee

March 31, 2008

Dear Schaff Family,
I am Fred's step daughter Tiffany. I know that most of you don't know me, but i knew your mom. Dad used to bring me and my son kotah over with him to help with the yard work, and brought kotah over there a couple times for dinner when i was working. Shirley was definately a special woman. Someone who cares and has a big heart. A great sense of humor. We will miss her. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this time of sorrow.

Scott and Heather McKernon

March 31, 2008

My Deepest Sympathies to all of you especially Carol and Fred. My Prayers are with you in this time. If there is anythingyou need call on me Carol..

Liz (Walrath)Sherwood

March 31, 2008

We were so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.

ben and tanya brouillette

March 30, 2008

to the entire schaff family,our hearts,prayers and many hugs go out to all of you.

BILL&CHRIS YOUNES

March 30, 2008

CAROL&FAMILY LOVE FOLLOWS US'NO MATTER HOW FAR.I CANNOT TAKE AWAY YOUR PAIN,BUT I CAN LISTEN IF YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. SHE IS NOT ALONE...AND NEITHER ARE YOU.

mike m

March 30, 2008

she was a very nice lady.it was a pleasure to know her..

Randy Sharlow

March 30, 2008

Deepest Sympathy...May the memories of your loved one bring you comfort in the days to come..To the family..your Mom will always be with you in spirit...God Bless you and give you strength in your time of need....prayers are with you.

Brandi Tubbs

March 30, 2008

i just wanna tell every one that i am sorry for your loss. in the little time i knew her and cared for her i also grew close to her. her smile every morning was the best part of being there for her. i am sorry that i can't be ther to say my final good byes, but i am thinking of her and all of you. she will be missed. god bless.

june and roy blackmer

March 30, 2008

YOU WILL BE REMEMBERED

you will be rememebered
when the flowers bloom in the spring
and in the summertime
remembered in the fun that summer brings
you will remembered when the fall brings leaves of gold
in the winter time u will be remembered in the stories that are told and u will be remembered eachday right from the start
from the memories we once shared that forever live in my heart,

forever ur friends
june and roy blackmer
queensbury new york

Laurie Smith

March 30, 2008

Mike, Memories are something that are with you always, cherish them, they are special and they are yours. No one can ever take them from you. My thoughts, prayers and love go out to you and your loved ones at this time. I'm always here if you ever need me...you know that! Love, "Aunt" Laurie

Pamela Plude-Blackmer

March 30, 2008

RIP My friend, I never thought there would ever be a day that this would come and the angels took you away, i have had some wondeful memories and they will allways be etched im head forever I am going to miss u Till we meet again, Lots of Love to u and The familes
allways Pamela Plude-Blackmer

Sonny & Lori Kretzer

March 30, 2008

Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you grieve. May god bless and watch over you.

Mike Hudson

March 30, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

alice schaff-mccarthy

March 30, 2008

to the best mom in the world,i just wanted to say one thing god its not the same without you...i miss you so much mommy i love you..i know u will be alright up there because big kev is with you and beleive me he wont let anyone mess with u..you were the best mom that anyone could have..im going to miss you mommy now and forever...and i know even that u r not here your still worrying about me,but dont ill be fine....ill write again mom but just remember i love you sooooooooooooo,much now and till i come up with you and big kev......love you both and try not to hog the place you guys...love u forever.

Mike Hudson

March 30, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Tom Ball

March 30, 2008

My condolances are with you all, as for I went through this myself, Fred if you need anything just let Ernie and I know if we can do anything. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

Sally David

March 30, 2008

Fred,
We have known Shirley about all our life. We know you have lost your best friend but you will be with her again some-day. Know that she is with other loved ones and awaits you there.
Our deepest heart-felt sympathy is with you and yours at this time of loss.

Sally & Leonard David

shawna giernacky

March 30, 2008

we all miss and love you gramma,we wil all do our best to take care of gramdpa

tiffanie

March 30, 2008

gramma,
you will always and forever be in my heart, nothing will ever make me forget all the wonderful times our family had together with barbaq's and our 4th of julys in ticonderoga and even all those times u told us your not moving from that table untill u eat all those vegetables, and all the thousands of other great times our family had together. you were the best grandmother someone could ever have . some children wish that they could have a wonderful grandmother but your grandchildren never had to wish or wonder because we always had a wonderful one. no matter what you always tryed to help everyone you could and u will never be forgotten.

i love you always and forever gramma!!!!!

The Brennan Family

March 30, 2008

Carol & Family,
Our deepest condolences go out to you and your family at this very difficult time. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

june morse

March 29, 2008

im so sorry to here of your loss ... my prayers go out to you and your family in this time of need ..

cynthia walkup

March 29, 2008

i am deeply sorrry for your loss ...i knew shirley and she was a great woman,, our deepist sympathy s cindy

Carol Cook (Schaff)

March 29, 2008

Mom, I miss so much already doing my best to take care of everyone and Dad, he is so devastated and so alone, I hope that you are feeling no more pain you were so tired and now you can be with your parents(Gram and Gramp)and all your brothers and sisters, hope that they were glad to see you because we all miss you so much I hope we did everything the right way and hope you approve of what we did for you on your final day with us ...

love and miss you dearly,

love your daughter Carol (Peanut)

Now Rest My Dear Mother

Kelly Stiver (Schaff)

March 29, 2008

No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.

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