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Joseph Zuccala Obituary
He was my best friend
The term "best friend" is something that rolls off our tongues very easily during our lives. Maybe it was that kid you sat next to in kindergarten or the one who lived down the street that you climbed trees with. Maybe it was that special person who shared four years with you in high school or your college fraternity [you know, the one you haven't seen since graduation so many years ago]. We've all had many who we have generously given the label "best friend".
I had a special one who was taken from me on September 11th. When I talk with people about that incredible day, I always tell them "I lost my best friend". It was not until the memorial service for Joe at St. Patrick's Cathedral last September that I really understood what that meant. During the service, my wife told me to look around. The Cathedral was packed. Who were these people and where did they come from? That's when I realized, they were here to remember my "best friend"...their "best friend".
I have never met anyone who was "best friend" to so many people. Joe's wife, Madeleine, as well as, his two daughters, Jolaine and Kaylene, not only lost a husband and father, they also lost their best friend. He was best friend to his three sisters and even all of his in-laws. So many individuals whose lives he touched came to St. Patrick's that day to remember their best friend: his fraternity brothers at the University of Dayton; his fellow Army officers who lived with him in Korea; many of his unofficially adopted kids from our neighborhood who he helped nurture to young adulthood; his colleagues whose careers he enhanced at Societe Generale, Arab American Bank and Citigroup; his friends from Westchester who loved to party with him even after they moved to California. It seems as if the only one who lost their best friend that day and not in attendance was Joe's Yellow Lab, Bailey-a classic role reversal... "dog's best friend".
Words cannot give justice to why we all feel this way. It may have been his sense of humor; his love for having a good time; his sage advice. I'm sure all would agree that it was, primarily, his big heart. Joe would always be there if you needed him. He loved his family, his dogs, goodmusic and an enjoyable meal followed by a fine cigar. Most of all he loved each of us, his best friends. We miss you Big Guy. We love you.
Tribute written by Tim Horgan; submitted by Madeleine Zuccala.
'Everybody's Best Friend'
Joe Zuccala left a big void when he died, and not just because he was 6-foot-5 and weighed about 275. Mr. Zuccala, 54, a banking consultant who was at Fuji Bank in the south tower on Sept. 11, was, as his pal Tim Horgan put it, "everybody's best friend," and that included his wife, Madeleine, his two daughters and Mr. Horgan's two sons.
Mr. Zuccala's appetite for life and for fun, especially music, matched his size. Generally, he was an oldies guy. He gave a party at his house in Croton-on-Hudson, N.Y., a few years ago; everyone had to come dressed as they did for their high school prom. But he was branching out. A few weeks before he died, Mr. Zuccala was persuaded, against his better judgment, to attend a Bon Jovi concert at the Meadowlands. "His wife was really into them, but he didn't want to go," Mr. Horgan said. "But by the end of the evening, to the extent that he could dance, he was dancing in the aisles."
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Patrick Gruno
September 11, 2024
RIP Sir I will always remember the day. God Bless !
Laura Hildebrandt
September 11, 2024
We can never forget! Rest in peace and prayers
Christina
September 11, 2023
We will never forget. Rest in peace.
The Kindred Family
February 3, 2020
Joe is very sadly missed and will always be remembered. Everyday may God give his strength to continue to cope.
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Maurice Ghysels
September 15, 2019
Joe, I have pointed so many family and friends to your memorial at the World Trade Center. I think of you often.
I dont know your family but your daughters must be beautiful as you, for you live in them.
As ever,
Maurice
Joyce Daino
September 14, 2019
Hey big guy, another year has passed since that horrific day when God called you home way too soon. This year was a particularly tough one & I couldn't figure out why but perhaps it's because Clive left us not too long ago. But you know that because you were probably there when he arrived. When I think of you both I remember the story of you riding in the ambulance the time Clive had to go to the hospital & the EMT had to ask you to stop making him laugh lol. You were one of a kind Joe in the best possible way. I can't imagine how Barbara is feeling this anniversary with both her special people gone. You may be gone 18 years (how is that even possible) Joe but you will never be forgotten. You were the best boss & mentor I ever had & I will always treasure the 5 years I worked for you. Soar with the Angels & do me a biggy - give Clive a big hug from me ok.
Sally Nussbaum
September 11, 2019
He loved to read good books. He was an acquaintance of mine.
Peggy Childers
September 11, 2019
To the family and friends of Joseph J. Zuccala:
Please know that Joe will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not allow those we lost on 9/11 be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you.
Joyce Daino
September 18, 2018
Hey big guy, so sorry this is a week late in coming. But not for a moment have you been out of my thoughts. I can't believe another year has gone by. I spoke with Clive & Barbara to see how they're holding up. Clive sounds great, while Barbara has had her challenges walking. I recently was sharing with someone about you & how great a boss & mentor you were to me & while we worked real hard we also had tons of fun. You really were one of a kind & I'll always treasure that time I had working for you. Soar with the Angels big guy.
john murro
September 15, 2018
He was a wonderful cousin. every summer whe I was a kid I would spend a week with him in GlenCove. AS adults I would meet up with him on the E train on our wat to our offices on Park AVe. He was always a gentlemen and I miss him. Pray for me Cuz.
Johnny Murro
LaLonda King
September 14, 2018
Good morning, I live in Oklahoma and we had a 9/11 memorial 5K run this morning. I ran with an American flag, which represented that someone had fallen, and mine had Joseph's name on it. I took the personal initiative to find out who i ran for this morning, and this is where it brought me. This lets you know that God is still in control, inspite of everything that happens. Just know that you and your family are forever in our hearts and prayer. "Never Forgotten"
Joyce Daino
September 12, 2017
Hey big guy, yep it's that time of year again the 16th anniversary when you were killed & taken from your family & loved ones. I think of you so often & always share with friends & people I meet what a wonderful man, boss & mentor you were. I don't know if you ever knew how many lives you touched. You were a big teddy bear who fiercely loved his family, was there for me through a difficult divorce & you did the same for so many others. Soar with the angels big guy & watch over us down here ok.
Bjorn Andersen
September 12, 2017
I miss Joe so much and would do anything to have a drink with him and talk about anything. I want to shake his hand and tell him that I always thought he was the funniest guy in the neighborhood, and that Madilane was always the most beautiful woman on our street. You were all my favorite family when I was growing up. Your dad made me laugh so much. I heard many adult humour jokes before I was even a young adult and I loved it. I have only recently learned of his love for music, which is something that shapped my own life and healed some of my suffering and made life more palatable. I wish I could come over and see you guys and have a drink and listen to music. I had no idea that it was a pasion for him.
I was 17 years old on that terrible day and I had no way of know how it would make me feel for the rest of my life. I've cried harder for Joe and his family, and for everyone taken from their families, loved ones, and their own lives, this year than on any previous annaversay of the attacks. There's no way to transcribe the emotional swells that have been tearing me up on the inside for the last 2 days.
I have an incredible long term memory and I have vivid images of Joe at neighborhood parties with intoxicated adults making me laugh and forget the fear that I had of social gatherings.
Madilane, I love you, and to the girls who I know I will botch the spelling of your names, let's just say: Joe & Kay, I miss you and love you both so much. Would love to see you ladies one day. Hope all your families and loved ones are happy and healthy.
God bless you all.
Eva Andersen
September 11, 2017
We still live across the street and see your house every day... it still evokes a profound sense of loss and sadness not to see you out there in the yard walking your lab or down at the train station headed for work... the most difficult scene is to see Madeline without you... you guys were a lovely, hysterically funny couple and your daughters helped create a beautiful loving family... WE WILL NEVER FORGET how you made us laugh! Erik, Eva, Bjorn and Liv Andersen
December 24, 2016
Merry Christmas Cuz.
Johnny
Alison Lowther
December 23, 2016
I visited NYC in 2016 and came to see the memorial. I happened to stand next to your name at the memory pool, I wanted to see what you looked like. I didn't know you but you look a very nice man.
September 11, 2016
You treated me and everyone with such kindness and love. You made me laugh when I felt I was losing my mind as a new parent while working at Citi. You sat me down in your office and shared parenting advice and workforce strategies which helped me get my stuff together. I thanked over and over again. I'm still grateful for your wisdom. You are often thought of and will ever be forgotten!
Karen M.
September 10, 2016
I think of Mr. Zuccala every 9/11. I was lucky to work on the same floor as him at Citi. As a secretary in a financial institution, I was really a nobody. But he was such a nice man no matter who you were, and I will never forget that.
Michael Herskovitz
September 10, 2016
Joe,
I won't forget your kind and friendly nature.
Michael
Eisenhower Park 9/11 Memorial
September 9, 2016
Hey big guy, another 9/11 anniversary is upon us this Sunday. This year 15 years, which I really can't even comprehend because for me it feels like yesterday at times. Last night was the Eisenhower Park Memorial Ceremony & mother nature cooperated this year. I was again honored & blessed to read name, including yours. I let people know you were the best boss I ever worked for, my mentor & made work fun for all of us. Of course you know my best memory (& there are so many) was during the college football championships when you ran the pool. You had an all day meeting & you asked if I would mind & be ok with taking the bets that day. I went home & put my plan together. I got a sun visor & a cigar from the dining room we oversaw. I sat at my desk & as the guys came up would say "step right up folks & place your bets". They went crazy laughing & even went into the meeting to pull you out for "an emergency" because they said you've got to see this. You loved it. We worked hard but played hard too - thanks to you. You remain in my heart & in the hearts of so many you have touched throughout your short life. Hope you get to play a few games of tennis in heaven Joe.
Gus Scacco
September 8, 2016
Joe was a great gentleman who helped me when I was starting out in my career and directed me to help others. I think of him often and wanted to thank God for his help and advice.
Joyce Daino
September 12, 2015
Hey there big guy, can't believe it's been 14 years since they took you away from your family & loved ones. At times it feels like yesterday. Sadly they had to cancel the Eisenhower Park ceremony due to the weather, I was schedule to read names again & have the honor of reading yours.
Was talking to Clive the other day & he & Barbara are having fun traveling, a different place each month. I haven't talked to Ray in awhile but hopefully sometime soon.
How's your tennis game doing lol?
Miss you big guy & will never forget you!!!!
Joycie
September 12, 2015
You are always in my heart Cuz. I pray for you all the time, please say a prayer for me. Iknow you are in heaven.
Love, cousin Johnny
GERRY ZAHN
September 11, 2015
I HAD A TREE PLANTED ON THE CURBSITE IN FRONT OF MY HOUSE AND A PICTURE OF YOU AND MADDIE ON MY COFFEE TABLE. SO MANY MEMORIES AT THE ZUCCALA HOUSE. AUNT JAY AND UNCLE JOE ARE BLESSED TO HAVE YOU WITH THEM I AM SURE YOUR CHILDREN REMEMBER WHAT A REMARKABLE FATHER YOU WERE...REST IN PEACE.
COUSIN GERRY MURRO ZAHN
December 30, 2014
Cousin JOE, I was talking to Pete Ventura about you recently. Pete and I are members at Wheatley Hills Golf Club as well as Vietnam Vets. We love you and will never forget love cousin johnny
Ann Cofresi
December 29, 2014
Worked with Joe at Citi in the Blueshift/Citi-fi group. He brought a smile to everyone's face, everyday -
Thank you Joe - You are missed Joe!
September 12, 2014
Love you cousin Joe. I remember being jammed in on the E train with you on the way to work on Park ave. You were always so polite to the women. I still drive past the houses on Nassau where my mother sisters and brothers were born,especially Grandpa and your dad's house. I love you and miss you. Save me a spot on that express train in Heaven.
Love cousin Johnny
Joyce Daino
September 11, 2014
Hey big guy, can't believe another year has passed since you were killed that horrible day. I didn't make it to the Eisenhower Pk Memorial this past week to read your name but honored you from where I was like I do every year. This year I was thinking about you playing tennis at Sogen's client outing & wondered if you got to play in heaven. I know a crazy thought but a fun memory.
Soar with the angels Joe.
September 13, 2013
Joe, I will always remember you. Thank you for writing such a nice letter of recommendation for me on July 4, 2001. I still think of you often, and while I have never met your family and friends (at home), I will always remember what a great boss you were and how much I admired you. I find it such an irony that you would boast about avoiding combat in Vietnam by playing basketball. Yes, I laughed with you when you said you were the tallest Italian there ever was. You still are a giant to me, Joe.
I ended up going back into public education, and I've been a superintendent in California for years. But I still keep in touch occasionally with Don Parsons. You were so fun and fair. I remember working Saturdays with you, and you were the happiest when you were the most challenge. I thought you were older, but now I am older than when you left us. Your mark on my life lives on, however, and I wish your family well.
As ever,
Maurice Ghysels
Linda Dempster
September 12, 2013
Joe you will always be in my heart ,you were a wonderful person and I truly miss you.
Rest in peace.
Linda Dempster former SG employee.
September 12, 2013
My dad was talking about you yesterday. lots of laughs in your parents basement bar. Allot of scotch flowing. Love you.
Cousin Johnny Murro
Joyce Daino
September 11, 2013
Hey big guy, it's that time of year again. The 12th anniversary of the day you were taken from your family & friends. I had the honor this year of reading your name at the Eisenhower Pk 9/11 Memorial. I think of you so often Joe & still can't believe your gone. I love telling stories of the fun I had working for you, especially the day I collected bets for you for the college basketball games & the faces of your buddies who came up to my desk when I had my visor on & a cigar in my mouth chanting "step right up folks & place your bets" lol. When we walked down the hall we were mutt & jeff in height & you were the 1st person who called me Joyceee & it was so endearing.
Besides the fun times Joe I remember what an amazing person you were & the kindness you extended to everyone.
I will always remember you Joe
anthony maffea
September 10, 2013
From the Maffea family.
Joyce Daino
September 11, 2012
Hi Big guy,
I can't believe it's been 11 yrs since you were taken away from your family & friends. This year I was able to go to the Eisenhower Park Memorial Ceremony for the 1st time. As I sat there I thought I was hearing things when my friend read your name because you lived in Croton. But then I remembered you grew up in Glen Cove & when a number of us from SoGen attended a family funeral when I worked for you. I guess a full circle moment for me.
I love telling friends funny stories especially when college football is on. You are forever in my heart Joe & will never forget you.
Love, Joyce
Joe Alfano
September 11, 2012
I knew " Joe Zook " at the University Of Dayton - great guy.We were in ROTC together in college and both were from Long Island.
He was the best!
Rebecca Walters
June 8, 2012
Soon I will be getting things in order for the Facebook, "Remember Me" Page. This year, Responders who have since lost their lives will be added. I think I am going to arrange it again so people may pick the name of the person they want to honour.. not only on one day... but always. I gave someone your name last year, before the page had overwhelming response.. and I had ended up choosing your name too as my Hero to honour always. I planted some flowers in my garden today and I planted one for you. I have learned that you have left a void in so many lives and the stories I have heard about you since I started the memorial have really touched my life. I will be proud to honour you as my hero... again.
Ross Rainwater
September 11, 2011
Joe and I, as young 2LTs in the Army, were assigned as OICs of military funeral teams in early 1969. We were both assigned to Ft. Knox at the time and our two teams traveled Ohio, providing military honors, mostly to funerals of Vietnam casualties. A high honor, although not fun duty, to be sure, but Joe's good humor during our training helped keep it more tolerable.
He told us what his nickname had been in college, so I and other officers began calling him "Joe Zook."
Save me a place in "Fiddler's Green," Joe.
Joyce Daino
September 11, 2011
Hey big guy, I'm still missing you & think of you so often. Tomorrow I will visit the 9/11 Memorial & be able to touch your name name & pay my respects to you. Should I try to tell you a joke, nah we both know I wouldn't remember the punch line. I wish I had a visor & a cigar to wear there, now that you'd appreciate.
Joe, I'm forever blessed to have known you.
Joycie
Rebecca Walters
September 10, 2011
I feel honoured to pray for you and your family not only on this 10th anniversary, but always. I chose your name, as I was giving out names for a facebook memorial group "Remember Me". Not only did I assign you to someone else, but I chose to remember you as well. We have had over 8,000 people join the page to receive a name. Every single victim is now being remembered by someone. I've been told that you were the most amazing person they ever knew, and so many people looked up to you and loved you, and it breaks my heart to know that you being taken has left such a void in so many lives. I am proud to have you as my hero ~ Rebecca Walters
September 3, 2011
hey cousin Joe, I know YOU are looking down on us. I often think of the weekends I spent with you in Glen Cove. Playing ball at the Cole school and getting candy at that corner stor by Nassu Ave. Latr in life we would meet up on the morning E-train on the way to our offices.
God called you home early becuse he had a mission for you. God bless.
love,
Cousin johnny murro
Eleanore
September 2, 2011
I received Joseph's name from my church. Everyone was given names of the victims of 9-11, to pray for them and their families in the weeks leading up to the 10th anniversary of the terrorist attacks. Joseph and his family will be in my prayers.
Rebecca Walters
September 2, 2011
I have started a facebook page called Remember Me. Each person who joins, receives the name of someone to honour who died on 9/11. I have just given a member Joseph's name. Your loved one is not forgotten and prayed for.
Joyce Daino
September 12, 2010
Hey big guy, I can't believe it's been 9 yrs since that horrible day. I think of you often & as a matter of fact just told someone about when you interviewed me for the job & asked me to tell a joke & how you offered me the job even when I told you I never can remember the punch line but could laugh at them. There are so many great stories I can tell about you, but none of them compare to how huge your heart was. I talked to Ray on Friday & he's going to be a grandpa again. His daughter who had a bone marrow transplant the same month you died & was told she probably couldn't conceive because of the chemo. What a miracle Joe. I'll be calling Clive & Barbara tomorrow to see how they're doing after this weekend. Big hugs to you in heaven Joe. Love, Joycie
Michael Flores
August 9, 2010
I am sorry to say I just found out about Joe's death on 9/11.
I worked with Joe at Bank Earnings International and on the few trips/projects we worked together, I came to know Joe as a dedicated family man, a terrific banker and a great human being.
My prayers are with his family.
God Bless Joe!
Joyce Daino
September 12, 2009
Hey big guy,
Another year has past since that fateful day & it feels like yesterday. Oh how I wish you were still here to see you grandkids. Saw pics Kaylene posted on Facebook of your newest JT & he is the cutest little guy.
I will never forget you Joe & what you meant to me. Big hug to you in heaven, Love Joycie
Marci Bilello
September 10, 2009
I wanted to let you know that I still think about you and your family. I hope that Madylin and the girls (and their kids too) are doing well. This whole thing was so shocking and still is today.
Joyce Daino
April 12, 2009
Hey big guy, just dropping in to wish you a Happy Easter in heaven. Can you believe Kaylene's going to be a mommy in a few weeks? I wish you were here to see all your grandkids -
Miss you big guy. Joyce
Patricia Cole-Delamater
March 19, 2009
What a lovely man & Lovely Family.
You are truly Missed Joe !
Ross Rainwater
November 8, 2008
Joe and I, as young 2LTs in the Army, were assigned as OICs of military funeral teams in early 1969. We were both assigned to Ft. Knox at the time and our two teams traveled Ohio, providing military honors, mostly to funerals of Vietnam casualties. A high honor, although not fun duty, to be sure, but Joe's good humor during our training helped keep it more tolerable.
He told us what his nickname had been in college, so I and other officers began calling him "Joe Zook."
Save me a place in "Fiddler's Green," Joe.
Joyce D
September 12, 2008
Hey big guy,
Can't believe it's been 7 yrs. I went to the ceremony for the first time this year & carried your pic along with my other friends I lost that day, including Clive's daughter Astrid. I went to the pit which was so difficult yet felt peace. I place a rose there for you. I'll be going to the reunion for SoGen in Oct so I can remember all the good times Joe & maybe take another step in my healing.
I miss you Joe & pray for you always
Love,
Joycie
walter duryea
July 6, 2008
I don't know if this is the son of joe zuccala who I worked with years ago in the uniform indusry, if it is, I send the utmost sympathy, The father always talked about how proud he was of his sons, Please let me know if this is the son. thank you
[email protected]
anonymous anonymous
June 23, 2008
My deepest sympathy goes to the Zuccala family. Mr. Zuccala hired me to work at SocGen. It did not strike me until today that he passed on that tragic day. Mr. Zuccala was in my thoughts today so I googled his name and I was in shock. I am a Federal Air Marshal now. Mr. Zuccala'a professionalism and personal motivational strength will only enable me to do my job even more diligently. R.I.P.
Mary Zuccala
April 9, 2008
I don't know if you'll remember me but my name is Mary Zuccala. I was married to Philip Zuccala from Glen Cove. His father was the barber known as Tony Zuc. I was a former real estate broker and had the listing on your house way back when. Cried when I found out about Joe. Love to you all.
Joyce Daino
January 24, 2008
Hi Joe,
Thinking of you today when they announced on the news about SoGen's over $7B embezzlement- WOW I can imagine what you must be saying in heaven. Talked to Ray today too & he's doing great. He became a grandpa in August. He sounds great.
Miss you & am sending you a big hug!
Doug Abraham
November 17, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Mary Ann Martin
September 12, 2007
Another Sept.11th Anniversary! It has been six years of missing Joe! We spent the day watching the ceremony and waiting for the name "Zuccala". Today seemed different than the other Sept. 11 Anniversaries. It rained (poured) instead of the bright sunny skys of the past. It is a new moon, a day for wishes. My wish is for PEACE; that there be peace for Joe's family and Peace for all the world. We will never forget this special man, his face, his song, his dance and his love for family and friends! Never forget that there is a special Angel looking over us all that we can pray to. Love to All and kiss those babies for us. Mary Ann, Jim, Diana, Laura, Lisa & Brian
Joyce Daino
September 11, 2007
Hey big guy,
I talked to Madeline this weekend & she sounds great. Of course we laughed about some of my stories about you. There will never be another you Joe & I will forever carry you in my heart. The world is a sadder place without you. Miss you big guy
Love, Joycie
Earl Laks
September 11, 2007
To Joe’s family and friends,
I think about him often and on this sad anniversary I want to share a story of another life he touched.
I knew Joe from 98-01 when he was working for Citi. We were both part of the senior team that built and ran the internet bank. As many have said here, he was a friend and a mentor. (He also turned me on to the Dixie Chicks song “Goodbye Earl” which he sang every time he saw me).
In late 2000 the project was cancelled and the staff had to go find jobs elsewhere. In what turned out to be our last conversation, I was chatting with Joe about the future, it was looking pretty good for both of us. I told him I was moving to San Antonio to make a new life and if I could not transfer with Citi I would find a job elsewhere. Joe asked me if I had ever heard of this company there called USAA, a military insurance company, I should definitely check them out. As I was never in the military and never heard of them, I thanked him for the advice and filed the conversation far away in the back of my mind. At this point the economy was strong, the dot com bubble had not popped, and I optimistically moved to San Antonio without a job. Very shortly thereafter the recession hit strong and I could not find a job, as things were just starting to get better 9/11 happened. As the days went on I sadly read the e-mail news about Joe.
In the succeeding months job searching became impossible. At this point I was out of work for just over a year and getting a bit desperate. In early 2002 I was visiting NYC, I found myself at some downtown subway station where there was a 9/11 memorial. All the victims names were on the wall. Almost all the names had a note scribbled next to them, with a tear, I wrote, “thanks Joe”, it seemed to simply sum up a good relationship. At that moment, our last conversation came to mind. When I got back to Texas, I checked out this company, got a in contact with an ex-Citi employee who worked there. I told him how I came to know about USAA through Joe.
The happy ending is that three weeks later I was gainfully employed again working for USAA. I absolutely credit Joe for the sequence of events that led me to get the job. I stayed there for 18 months weathering the economic storm eventually finding my way back to Citi.
I have told this story many times, today seemed a good day to write it down. Joe’s family should know that in the main lobby of the Citi center of San Antonio, there is a memorial to the Citi staff that perished on 9/11. I stop and look at Joes’ picture every time I go by.
P Tabbernor
April 25, 2007
In remembrance....
Dennis Petito
December 13, 2006
Joe was my friend. We worked together at SG from 1979 til 1987 when I left. His gift to me on my departure was an African Bull Frog which he christened Jean Jacques. I was supposed to have dinner with Joe and Bob Minutaglio the day after the Towers fell. I was coming up from Houston. I miss Joe and think of him often. But I remember him with a beard, not clean-shaven as he is here. He would give me a bear hug and a kiss when we would meet. It's an Italian thing and I loved him for it.
I miss Joe. He was my friend. He IS my friend.
Karen Zuccala
November 1, 2006
We have never met, but I wanted to share my condolences for the loss of Joseph Zuccala.
I did not have the honour of meeting Joseph, but I remember reading his name on the September 11th memorial and remember thinking to myself if it was possible that we are distantly related. We share the same last name and I live in Ontario Canada.
I shared the loss of Joseph with my grandparents and they mentioned that we do have relatives that settled in the US, but I am afriad we lost touch.
Perhaps it is just a coincidence that we share the same last name.
Regardless, I thought I would let you know that the loss of Joseph touched more people than you know and the tradegy of that day will never be forgotten.
My sincere regrets for your loss.
Nancy
September 12, 2006
Jolaine,
I don't know you but I just read your note to your dad and it was very touching. It made me realize how long it's been since I've reached out like that to my own dad, who I lost five years earlier. Your dad sounds like an amazing man, and you sound like you had the same type of relationship I had with mine. I'm sure he is well aware of and is watching over your twins. You and your family are forever in my thoughts and prayers.
Nancy
kathy barresi henzel
September 11, 2006
To the Zuccala Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you today, tomorrow and always.
Love, The Barresi Family
Tricia Cole
September 11, 2006
I also worked with Joe at Citibank in Long Island City. He was this big guy that gave the best bear hugs - he had this amazing gift of being able to make you feel better with one of those hugs. I've never known a kinder soul. As I watched those buildings burn on that horrible day, I had no idea that Joe was there. Joe is now an Angel with wings so big he can give us all bear hugs at the same time. I am honored to have ever known Joe and the amazing man that he was. God bless him and his family.
Gregory Moore
September 11, 2006
To The Zuccala Family:
Joe was my boss here at Citibank, where I'm now sitting on the 8th floor, near Joe's old office, as I listen to the memorial events on the radio. Looking out the window, where we all watched the terrible events take place 5 years ago today, it remains unbelievable that Joe was taken that day. I wanted to let you know that Joe is very much in the thoughts and prayers of his "Citibank family". He was a kind, vital and wonderful colleague, and his loss is still keenly felt, five years later. A comforting aphorism I once read is, "When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure." I hope that your treasured memories of Joe remain vivid through the years, and please know that we, at Citibank, still carry Joe's memory in our hearts.
Joyce Daino
September 10, 2006
Hey big guy,
I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes on the eve of Sept 11th remembering you. You know I've been struggling with survival guilt & also know if you could you'd come down & either give me a swift kick or a great big hug. I still feel hurt for losing touch with you after you left SoGen, I guess we all think we always have time. I've never had another boss like you Joe & doubt I ever will. I won't throw my wedding video out because you on there dancing with Madeline. At least I'll always have that part of you. I will always miss you. Tonight I'm going to sign Joycie - you were the first to call me that & I still laugh when someone does.
Margaret Bay
August 30, 2006
To all the Zuccalas',
My thoughts and prayers are with you on this anniversary. He would be so very proud to have twin grandchildren!! Congratulations!!
Your Dad was an absolutely amazing man and I think of him every day.
Most Sincerely,
Margaret Bay
Debra Santucci
August 21, 2006
Dear Joe:
Dom & I think of you all the time. Sometimes with laughter and other time with tears. I always admired how you had the ability to make people feel good or smile even at a tough time. I will never forget the encampment at Gettysburg, when my Mom was very sick. I couldn't leave till morning & I was a mess. It was you and Tim who managed to help me through it and make me laugh a little to forget my troubles for one day. I will always be grateful and I often think how blessed I was to have a friend like you at that time. I feel sadness for the people who will never know you kindness. Also, I don't remember if I ever thanked you for always being so nice to my Dad, Joe. He would say "I like that big fellow Joe. Is he coming over the house today?" He was a handful, but when you saw him you were always patient as you listened to all of his stories. I will always be grateful for that. Joe, your family is growing beautifully and those babies are adorable. I am sure you know are are beeming in heaven. I am so happy to write this note to you. I want you to know we all miss you and are forever grateful for having you as our friend.
Jolaine
August 21, 2006
Dad,
It has been an eternity without you here yet at times it still feels like yesterday. I am not one to share my feelings publicly, but I thought it might make me feel a bit better right now as I am missing you still so very much. So much has happened since you have left us. Kaylene and I have both gotten married and you became the grandfather you always wanted to be in January to two beautiful little girls. Yes, I got punished the way you wanted me too with TWIN GIRLS!! They are so funny and have such personalities on them. They make Ch. and I smile and melt everyday. It is times such as these that I miss you more because I wish you could be here to celebrate these moments of joy with us. What I miss the most is your bear hugs that relieved any pain that was in my life. You made it all go away so easily, I can only wish I can do that for my own girls. Sometimes I get so frustrated on the way things are without you here, it makes me want to scream. But then other times I know you would be so proud of all the things we have learned to do without you. Mom has learned how to pay her bills on line and has gotten very good at using the internet. Mom now runs the house like a pro. She still can’t pump her own gas yet though, but I am working on it! She misses you, and I can not imagine how hard it is to enjoy her life without you now. I know she can move on, but hasn’t yet. It is all still so raw for her and I hope you can help her find it within to forgive what has happened so she can grow. Kay is still as funny as ever and will always be able to bring a smile to all who knew you with her quick humor. She is just starting to learn that she can make her own decisions without you; she just has to use her heart and head together. Marc is still learning who he really is inside, which is no easy task. Diana is learning that there is more to her then her mind and business. I have learned how to be more honest, whether people like it or not, and I am trying to learn how to share my emotions. Sad to say all of us still spend more money then we should... but we look good doing it!
Do you know that there are hundreds of men in Zurich that wear Old Spice aftershave? I have often walked by men in the street with your scent and stopped in my tracks to look for you. Do you know that I still find myself accidentally calling your cell phone after all these years to talk? Do you know that I pray every night for you to take care of Mom and Kaylene and to always watch over them for me when I cant? Do you know that your DGO brothers live up to your name with your foundation and all the hard work that it entails? Do you know how much I miss writing you these letters? I think in all my 23 years we had together there were only a handful of days we never spoke. Remember how we used to fight with each other and I would always write you a letter of apology and leave it in you and Moms bed? You always wrote me one back too and left it on my bathroom mirror. I miss your dumb jokes and your rants about how we spend too much money on our credit cards. I miss how you knew there was a problem before I did. You handled us each with such care and compassion, it will NEVER be forgotten. Everyone remembers you as their Best Friend. I remember that I am and always will be a part of you. I belong to you and Mom, to which there is no greater honor. I love you Dad. Thank you for being my rock, here on earth and in heaven.
Love always,
Jo
Mary Ann Martin
August 8, 2006
We cannot believe that it is almost 5 years! It seems like only yesterday! Joe, you are truly missed. The girls are both married and you are a Grandfather to two beautiful baby girls. I am sure you are their Guardian Angel. Our love, prayers and support to Madelaine. We recently visited ground zero with my sister from California and saw Joe's name on the wall. The emotions were just as real and raw as almost 5 years ago. We will never forget and we honor a very special man. Love, Mary Ann, Jim and the girls.
A. Zuccala
July 22, 2006
I am deeply touched by the comments that people have made about Joseph J. Zuccala. I think that there must be a tremendous association with the name Zuccala, and "fatherhood" because I am a Zuccala too!!, and I cannot imagine life without my dad (G. Zuccala). Although words are certainly not enough, I want to express my deepest condolences to the Zuccala family who are missing their husband and father due to the World Trade Centre tragedy.
Bryant McFarlane
January 6, 2006
Madeleine, Jolaine & Kaylene,
It has been over 4 years and I regretably say it has taken me this long to express myself on Joe's passing. My dad attended Joe's funeral and I extend my deepest sympathies. I meant to tell you so many times that I saw Joe in January 2001 on a visit from CA. It was a mock interview so that he could give me pointers. It was at the citigroup building in queens and I remember it like it was yesterday. He told me I had to sit up strait, be more assertive, speak more clearly. I appreciate the time he gave me that day. He showed me pictures of all of you in Austrailia. I was really happy to hear that all of you were living life to the fullest.
I grew up with you girls and I can't imagine the pain you have endured in your loss. I hear that Joliane & Kaylene are living abroad now and that you are doing well. My best to all of you. Maybe I will see Jolaine at a Hen Hud reuinion one day. If not, I just want you to know that I thought about Joe when this tragedy happened and even now, whenever I am reminded of 9/11 I think of Joe and you three women. I wish you all the best in life and hope that you know that for me, Joe will always be remembered. Your friend- Bryant McFarlane
Vickie Schneider
September 11, 2005
Dear Madeleine, Jolaine and Kaylene-
4 years have passed - and I just wanted you to know that my thoughts remain with you all - and I hope that the memories of your dad are as warm and as near as ever. We won't ever forget 9/11.
Love, Vickie
c.a.l.
June 6, 2005
My deepest sympathies to Joe's family and friends...Peace
Chris Young
February 22, 2005
I had the pleasure of dating Mr Zuccala's daughter during her last year of college. Everyone loved when Mr Z would come in town to visit his daughter while she was in school. He would go out with everyone and be like one of the guys. He was everybody's best friend and everybody loved him. I can say this with all sincerety, I have never met a man that was as close to his family in every aspect than he was. I know he is greatly missed. God bless you all.
Margaret Bay
September 21, 2004
My Dearest Joe, I left flowers in your memory @ ground zero on 9/11.
I think of you everyday. My Mom is now in Heaven with you along side your Dad. My Mom knows all about you and your wonderful family. Please be with her. Make her feel
good, she is having a difficult time leaving us, the past year was terrible.
I wish your family enormous happiness, I know you were the backbone. I miss you and wish we could talk again. Big Kiss, Margaret Bay
Joyce Daino
September 12, 2004
Well Joe it's been 3 years and I still can't believe you're gone. I think of you often and usually laugh when I do. I'll always remember the fun I had working for you. Taking bets for the college basketball games and your face when you came back from a meeting and I had a visor on and a cigar in my mouth playing the part of your bookie. Yes we definitely were a great team. Mut and Jeff they called us because I'm a mere 5'1". You were the first to call me Joyceeee and I laughed. I spoke with Jolaine Fri and can't believe she's all grown up and married. I know you're up there watching over us and guiding us as you did when you were with us. God Bless you Joe
David Zuccala
September 5, 2004
Because you are a Zuccala I'm sure you were a great guy, and everyones best friend.
God Bless your family
August 5, 2004
I remember Joe from the Big Chill Dance days - a fund raiser for his local school district. This was clearly a man who liked to have fun, was a 'team player', had an amazing presence, and is sorely missed by his community. My prayers continue for his wife and family, for strength and peace.
Corey Karren
February 16, 2004
I just wonted to say I am still thinking about the world’s big loss on September 11, my hart and prayers to the families. You will always live strong in my hart and mind.
By no means Never forget September 11, 2001
We Love you all
-Corey
Margaret Bay
September 14, 2003
My Dearest Joe,
I am so sad you are not with us any longer! My heart is with your family for their loss.
Please find my Dad in Heaven and tell him how much I miss him . I know you are in good company.
I will always remember you and your spirit. And, I promise never to forget 9/11!
Fondly, Margaret Healy Bay
William Lynch
September 11, 2003
A basketball star for the University of Dayton, a soldier, a banker, and a man who was never late for anything in his life! It was indeed a unique experience to know you.
Rest in peace.
Coralie
September 3, 2003
What a touching tribute....we will never forget.
John Lentini
September 16, 2002
Well, I have written far more of these than anyone should ever be in a position to, but I was never quite sure if I would be able to actually
write this one. Somehow, for many reasons, the timing seems somewhat
comfortable for this now. Reading through others fond memories and
statements, I see so much that fits so perfectly for Mr. Z. He truly
was larger than life, and his heart was larger than him (despite his
formidable size). It is true that he lived and loved life (and others)
more than anyone I've ever known. However, it is frustrating to expect
mere words to adequately express what this man was. It is natural to
wax poetic over someone when they are gone, but the real truth is Joe
Zuccala never needed to leave us to be eulogized. Anyone who knew him
would enthusiastically revere how incredible he was in life. One need only meet him once to be touched by his extraordinary graces. You would instantly feel as though (and wish) you had known him your entire life. And in many ways you had. He was the ideal we all strive to be. He was the friend and family we all want and deserve. He was, first and foremost, the consummate friend and family man, yet he also managed to play the consummate professional with equal aplomb and success. I know in my heart that I am supposed to somehow make something better of myself, my life, or this world in order to properly honor this loss, but I fear that I am losing that struggle thus far. I know that you will help me along the way as time endures, big guy! I love you always. You are sorely missed by all who ever knew you, but you must've known that would be the case . . .
anne jones
September 12, 2002
hands across the border god bless
Karen Kelleher
September 12, 2002
As a school wide activity we were presented with wristbands, which held the names of people who died on September 11th. I received Mr. Zuccala's name. We were encouraged to find out what we could about our victim on the Internet. It seems like he was a very wonderful family man while also being great at his job. I only wish that I could have met such a strong person and in some way have through this message board. By discovering the impact he made on all of your lives, I feel very honored to be wearing his name. I will continue to pray for her family and friends through this difficult time. The strength that all of him family and friends have to go on and continue there lives is amazing and a true model for me.
Age:17 Saint Agnes Academy: Senior
DANA W. CUNNINGHAM
September 11, 2002
MAY GOD BLESS YOU BIG JOE AS WE ALL CALLED HIM AT SOCIETE GENERALE BACK IN THE LATE 80'S. HE WAS A GIANT AMOUNG GREAT MEN IN THIS WORLD TODAY. ALWAYS KIND AND FUNNY. FULL OF JOKES AND GOOD HUMOR. I ENJOYED WORKING WITH HIM WHILE HE WAS AT SG BANK FOR 10 YEARS BACK IN THE EARLY 90'S . THEN HE LEFT SOCIETE GENERALE
TO WORK DOWNTOWN AT THE WTC. REST IN PEACE JOSEPH WE ALL LOVED YOU, BUT GOD LOVED YOU BEST.
mary maguire-macnab
September 11, 2002
Madeline......our thoughts and prayers are with you.....mary & alistair macnab (formerly of BA TEO)
Michael Ibarra
September 11, 2002
I've had the pleasure of working with Joe at Societe Generale during the mid 80's. He remains in my mind as the type of person that anyone would wish to be like, funny ( I mean always!) yet serious enough to be a kick-ass biz man. I remember visiting him in his office one day and the first thing I saw were huge pictures of his beautiful family, that is how I will always remember him, a big funny, sincere guy with an even bigger heart.
God Bless you Joe...
-mike
Michael & Debbie McCallion
September 11, 2002
What can be said of Joe Z – when saying anything would not be enough.
But we must try.
It is good to speak of the love he had for his family, his willingness to lend a hand, his sense of humor, his giving of himself. It is good to speak of his sincerity and a friendship that was real. It is good to say that he was a good father and husband. We will speak of a good human being that enriched our lives and the lives of those who knew him. We will always remember.
So how does one remember Joe Z when memories are painful?
We will remember the laughter at preparing for the school fund raisers, we will remember with gratitude you and your family’s help and support in coming along for a long ride to a small upstate town when my family needed both help and support, we will remember the Halloween costumes and the outdoor parties at your house --- when it seemed that it always rained. We will remember the outrageous sense of humor and we will remember the caring. We will remember a life, well lived, and ended too early by those who do not know the meaning of love and of family and friendship.
Joe, Madeleine, Jolaine and Kaylene our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Celeste Kelly
September 10, 2002
My sincere condolences to the family and to those who were friends of Joe Zuccala. I have a dear friend who has known and loved Joe and his family for many years. The stories she shared with me are endless and each one more priceless than the one before it. He touched so many lives and his light shines in so many hearts today and always. The tapestry of his life is woven in the hearts of those who knew and loved him. May God bless the family and friends who are better for having known and loved this special man.
Catherine Tsigakos
September 10, 2002
I had the pleasure to call Joe Z. my friend from the moment we started working together at Citi f/i. His friendship was sincere and genuine and I treasure it always. He has touched countless lives and is sorely missed. My heartfelt condolences go out to the Zuccala family.
Vince Passione
September 10, 2002
Joe,
It has been a year. Your friends from Citi f/i still speak of you often and our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family.
Carlos Dos Santos
August 12, 2002
Joe,
Just in case you think that I've stop thinking about you, you're wrong! I'm indebted to you for 37 years of true friendship, so one year can't erase that (even with my crappy memory). I think of Maddie and the "squirrels" a lot and feel their loss. I think of the coming years that we were supposed to share as two sensible yet wacky guys and wonder how I'm supposed to do this by myself!?
I think I'll take a train ride to Croton-on-Hudson, get off, smoke a cigar and catch the next train back to Yonkers.
Your Bella
Helen Kowalski Orgill
August 12, 2002
I went to high school with Joe and am very saddened to learn of his death. I remember him as being kind and funny. The tributes in this guest book attest to the fulfillment of the promise he showed then. My sincerest sympathies to the Zuccala family.
Ray Cervone
July 20, 2002
Joe hired me at Societe Generale in 1986 and I worked for him for several years. These years were among the best years of my career thanks to the big guy. He was by far the best boss a person could have. He had a heart that was bigger than he was and a sense of humor to match. To know him was to love him.
Sometimes you wonder why bad things happen to good people but I guess God, in his infinite wisdom decided that Joe belonged in heaven. There he will guide and protect his family and friends of which he had many.
I extend my deepest sympathy to Joe's wife Madeline and his daughters.
Nancy Honig
June 23, 2002
Although I never got to meet Joe, I have heard from my dear friend MaryAnn what a special person he was. After reading and crying over these tributes, I know she has truly not exaggerated. My heart goes out to his family and hope that they have been able to take some comfort in the many memories that they must have of Joe. It appears to me, after seeing these tributes, that he spent most of his life making wonderful ones.
Mary Ann Martin
May 28, 2002
Joe Zuccala is larger than life. What I remember is Joe's sense of humor and fun, his love of music and his love of his friends and especially his beloved family. We remember all the "Big Chill" dances and Joe's own style of dancing. We fondly remember: The Pointy Sisters,Village People,Tempations,Blue moon, the Blues Brothers and all the other skits. Despite his "two left feet" and non-operatic tune, Joe's voice and hearty laugh will be in our minds and hearts forever. When you hear a familar song just think of Joe and you will smile just as he is now, "smiling down on us". During the troubled times that we live in; when we are sad, depressed, in tears, just close your eyes, hum or sing, "The Way You Do The Things You Do" by the Temptations and you will see Joe dancing and singing, Big As Life! It will immediately brighten your mood and day!! Our sincere condolences to his family, Joe you are missed. Love and Memories, The Martin Family, Mary Ann, Jim, Laura, Lisa, Diana & Chuck
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