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Dolores Costa Obituary
Giving defined Dolores M. Costa. "My wife had a heart of gold -- she was very soft," said her husband, Charles, who said people were drawn to her blue eyes and her smile.
"She would be up at 5 o'clock every morning to go to work, and from the minute she got up she was giving," he said. "She was giving to me, to her home, to strangers in the street. She gave herself. And when she was at her job, she was giving 110 percent."
Mrs. Costa, who would have turned 54 on Sept. 13, rose to the position of vice president at Fred Alger Management, on the 93rd floor of 1 World Trade Center.
Her evenings were spent crocheting colorful afghans for friends and talking with her husband about life. Mornings she fed finches, warblers and sparrows that lived in the birdhouses in her backyard in Port Monmouth, N.J. She was planning an 80th birthday party for her mother.
"She was really a good daughter," said Marie Barbosa of Brooklyn. "She worried about me, and now she is gone. That is the sad part of it all."
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Angela
September 11, 2024
It has now been 23 years Dolores. We think if you often and always speak words of fondness. You were a commuting friend every day from Middletown NJ to Newark and the PATH train to WTC. We will never forget your smile, and your kindness. RIP Dear friend. Until we meet again.
Laura
September 11, 2024
May her memory be a blessing to her loved ones
Erica
August 16, 2023
I walked by the Wall of Memories in June 2023 as a visitor from Bahamas I saw your name Dolores Marie Costa. I took a photo of your name. I never knew you. I read notes from your Guest Book and noted that you were so wonderful and so loved. You will never be forgotten. I am so sorry that your life and the life of so many others were cut short by the tragedy of 9/11. You are at peace now. So long.
Del Newberry
September 20, 2021
We will never forget that day. Praying for her family today. Much love from Texas.
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Mary Miller
September 15, 2021
Our Dear Dolores,
Remembering you is not hard. But what is hard is that you have been gone twenty years. We think of you often and love you much! Happy Birthday my dear friend!
Miss you!
Love Always
Frank & Mary
Dorothy Modell
September 11, 2021
Remembering meeting Dolores and Charlie in Cancun. She and I became friends as I lived and worked in NYC. We’d meet for lunch regularly. What a lovely, positive dynamo. I think of her often. RIP and peace to Charlie.
Liz
September 11, 2021
I will never forget.
Cindy Roe
September 5, 2021
Remembering Dolores on the 20th anniversary of 9/11...
Del Newberry
August 17, 2021
Pausing today to pray for Dolores' friends and family. All of us who were alive when this tragedy happened will never forget and we will always remember the families they left behind. Much love from Texas.
Dolores Huard
September 13, 2019
Dear Dolores,
We've never met but we share the same name and almost the same birthday (mine is September 14). Your family and friends must miss you so much as you sound like a wonderful person. My thoughts are with them today and I hope you are resting in peace.
Patrick Fava
September 12, 2019
18 years have gone by now. Over 6,500 days. This day doesnt get easier and never will. We remember all of our loved ones that we lost. We thank all of our first responders who answered the call that day and those who fearlessly stared down the face of evil. All gave some, some gave all.
RIP Dolores Marie Costa.
Forever in our hearts.
Angela Emer
September 11, 2019
September 11, 2019, 18 years have gone by. My sisters and I have not forgotten you. Always in our hearts. May you Rest In Peace in the arms of our Dear Lord. ❤❤
Mary Miller
September 11, 2019
Our Dearest Dolores,
Another year and the pain of missing you is still there. I also miss cutting the hydrangeas every 911 from our Dolores Tree. We are not there anymore, but the new owners promised that they would never cut down the tree dedicated to you. They have honored you by displaying the blooms in their home as we did.
Love you my friend!
Mary (Petunia) & Frank
Stefanie Szarek
September 11, 2019
Dolores - still wear your name daily on my wrist on my Mercy band. Did not know you but will always remember you.
Stefanie
Angela Emer
September 11, 2018
Rest In Peace Dolores. I will always remember you and will always pay tribute to you on this day. You were a kind, giving person. Always had a smile on your face. That is what I will always remember about you.
Stanley Laskowski
September 11, 2017
Hi Delores
Remember me!!! I was your technician that spilled toner all over the floor . You were so worried that the stain would not come out. I was kind of nervous but you were very comforting making me feel better. I know that you are an angel now in heaven. I found out you did not make it out from the building from the newspaper 2001. I had tears in my eyes while sitting on a bus going to AC. I was so sad that God had taken a good person such as yourself. My love and prayers to your family. Remembering the smile and how you treated me as a friend even though I was there to fix a printer . Rest In Peace Delores. You will always be in my prayers. Sorry !!! I am so late. Did not know of a guestbook.
Angela Emer
September 11, 2017
Dearest Dolores, it has been 16 years and I still remember you fondly. Rest in Peace with the Angels and in the arms of our Dear Lord. I think of that horrific day everyday. My sisters, future brother in law, and some very dear friends were lucky enough to survive that day, but we will forever remember you and all those lost on that day. RIP
Angela Emer
Angela Emer
September 13, 2016
Dearest Dolores. You are gone but never forgotten. 15 years have now passed but it seems like yesterday. Our train rides to New York every day was not a dreadful commute because you were always there to brighten it up. Miss you. You were the kindest woman here on earth and I am sure one of God's most cherished Angels. Rest in peace.
Eva Phillips
September 12, 2016
Dearest Dolores,
Over 20 years ago we were neighbors in Port Monmouth and I have never forgotten you. Every year on this day, I bake the cake that you brought to our house on our first meeting. My children, who are now grown, speak of you fondly of how very kind you were to them whenever you saw them playing on the street. You have touched our hearts deeply and we will never forget you.
September 12, 2016
Dear Dolores,
You were such a great neighbor to us in Port Monmouth. I still remember you bringing Nicky and I popsicles, and giving us those awesome halloween trick or treat bags. You were one of the nicest most generous people I've ever met and it's not fair that you were taken so soon, but I guess God needed another angel at his side. RIP Dolores we love and miss you always.
Love,
Emily Phillips
Maritza Costa
June 29, 2016
Hi, i was at the WTC memorial just a couple days a go. My husband lien against the edge of the south tower, his hand placed exactly on your name "Costa"
He said, look she has my same last name!!!
We would like to send a prayer in your name , God bless you.
September 14, 2014
Dearest Dolores,
You have never left our thoughts and all the fond memories of you live on. Still missing you after all these years. The Dolores tree is thriving and the beautiful blooms are ready to be cut and displayed in our home, as we do every year. We see these blooms everyday and to us they represent images of you.
Love always Mary & Frank
Bairma (Babe) Garretson
September 11, 2014
Loli, on this the 13th anniversary when you were taken from your loving family and friends, i want to express my sorrow, even thou i met you once, thru my dearest friend Olga Pateiro, who misses you so much and talks about you and your Aunt Dottie all the time, may God have you under his care. Bairma Garretson (Babe)
September 11, 2014
Happy 13th Anniversary in Heaven. I remember you in my prayers always. You will never be forgotten.
Love,
Angela and Robin
Angela Emer
September 11, 2013
Dearest Dolores,
Another Year has come and the pain is no less. My sisters and I think of you often. Robin and I went to Church this morning and we remembered you in our prayers. The pain of that day never lessens, but because of our deep faith we know we will see each other again in God's Kingdom.
Rest in Peace Dear Friend!
Love,
Angela and Robin
Sarah
September 11, 2013
Today I am taking a moment to remember Dolores Marie Costa, who according to my grandmother would be my cousin, and all those affected by 9/11. It is hard to believe its been 12 years because sometimes it feels like it happened just yesterday. My grandmother spoke highly of Dolores and enjoyed their little chats together. She will forever remain in our hearts. Rest in peace.
Angela
September 11, 2012
We think of you very often. Robin and I went to the adoration chapel at Mary Mother of God Church today. We offered prayers to you and all of those lost 11 years ago today. You were a very kind and special person and we will never forget you.
Lovingly
Angela & Robin
Dorothy Efstathiou
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you, my friend from Cancun, on this September 11th. You were a lovely person, and I am fortunate to have met you.
September 11, 2012
Your beautiful smile and blue eyes still shine brightly in my office. My prayers to the family this day.
Annonymous
May 9, 2012
May the light of God's love and peace shine upon you and your family. May you forever rest in the arms of the angels and live forever in the hearts of those who loved you.
Angela & Robin
September 11, 2011
Dearest Dolores, Happy 10th Anniversary in Heaven. When Robin and I went to Mass this morning at St. Mary's we remembered you and all those that lost their lives 10 years ago on this day. We miss you and love you. You will never be forgotten!! Watch over all of us my dear friend for it is all of us who now need you and all those in heaven to protect us and keep us safe. God Bless you and God Bless America.
Kisses,
Angela and Robin
September 10, 2011
my dear friend. i place this picture of you on my front lawn every year just to make sure that people do not forget. you will be forever in my prayers as will your family.
September 9, 2011
Dearest Dolores,
It's hard to believe that ten years have gone by, gone by without you in our lives. Our hearts are still heavy and our memories of you are all we have. I will be cutting the "Dolores Tree" soon and with every beautiful bloom that I display, I will think of you and our times together.
Love you and still miss you.
Maria/Mary & Frank
September 12, 2010
Dear Dolores,
Mary and I went to Greenwood yesterday to visit, we weren't sure of where to find your stone,therefore we were driving around trying to guess the location..we must have covered every inch of the place...it certainly was a beautiful day for a drive and Greenwood is very lovely...finally, I called your Uncle and he pointed me in the right direction...I kept telling Mary that I could picture you now, calling us "losers" driving around for an hour, not knowing where we were going...But we were happy to have found you...and your face just made our hearts skip a beat. We have now mapped it all out & will be able to find your stone easily next time.
Hope you were laughing at us and found joy in our little escapde.
Love you and miss you very much.
Maria/Mary
Angela Emer
September 11, 2010
My Dearest Dolores,
It has been nine long years and not a day goes by that I don't think of you. You reamin in my prayers each and every day. Today on the anniversary of your death my sisters and I went to the Middletown NJ Memorial. We stopped by each of the stones and said a prayer. When we came to yours we gently touched your sweet face and we sent you a kiss along with a prayer. We hope that you felt that. Forever in our memory, we send you love and hope you are living a peaceful life in heaven. Please kiss my mom, dad, my Lou and now just recently my friend Angela Daley.
With my love,
Angela Emer
kathy hoffmann
September 10, 2010
My Dear Dolores:
I place your photo outside on my front lawn every year. Never shall you be forgotten. My prayers go out to your family.
Love you always,
Kathy
September 9, 2010
My Dearest Dolores,
I will soon be cutting the big beautiful flowers off my "Dolores Tree", that grows bigger and fuller every year. I celebrate you every year with these flowers, they just happen to bloom every year right around your birthday.
I was looking at photos of you today and when I saw your gorgeous face, it pained me to think I will never see your sweet smile or hear your contagious giggle again…...it still pains me, still after all these years!
I wish you a Happy Birthday my little buddy.
Love you forever.
Maria
Lauren Kiefer-Foley
September 10, 2009
I am honored to be reading Dolores' name tomorrow at the ceremony at Ground Zero. I lost my brother, FDNY FF Michael Kiefer also that day. I hope I make Dolores and her family proud when I read her name, I know I am proud to read it. My thoughts are with your family always!
Liz
September 10, 2009
I think of you all the time...Every once in a while I come across your name in my phone book...I think it will be there forever. Thanks for all the great memories at MI--I still tell stories about them...
Liz
Proud to be a fellow "swampette"!
Angela Emer
December 22, 2008
Merry Christmas Dolores. Please kiss my parents and my Lou for me!
Angela Emer
September 10, 2008
My Dearest Dolores:
Seven years have gone by, however it still seems like yesterday. I still miss seeing your smiling face each day at the Middletown train station and then again at Newark in the evening. On Thursday September 11, 1008 I will go to Mass at St. Peter's and offer my communion to you, and all those who have lost their lives on that dreadful day. Rest in peace my dear friend. I will remember you always!
Love,
Angela
Kathy Hoffmann
September 9, 2008
My Dear Delores:
I can not believe that it has been seven years. I remember having a BBQ at your house 20 years ago with our advertising team Karl Johnson and Robb High. It was so great to meet all of your family:)
You are forever in my thoughts and in my prayers. I am so glad that I had the Privilege and Honor to call you my friend. You will never be forgotten.
Rest in peace my friend.
With love and kisses and hugs,
Kathy Hoffmann
Maria Miller
August 29, 2008
Dearest Dolores,
The summer is coming to an end and your birthday is around the corner. If only I could tease you and then hug you!
The flower heads on the Dolores tree are even bigger than last year, but the branches still can't keep them up.
I miss you still....it hasn't changed.
Love Maria
Angela Emer
March 27, 2008
Hi Dolores, just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.
Miss You!!
Love,
Angela
Doug Abraham
September 13, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
MARIA MILLER
September 11, 2007
My Little Buddy,
I miss you still and today, although it has been six years, feels like yesterday.
Frank and I will be spending the evening with the Favas as we do every 9/11 to give tribute to you and our years of knowing, ever so beautiful you! The "Dolores Tree" is blooming with large lovely hydrangeas, as it always is on 9/11 and ready to be picked for display all year long.
We all still feel the sting of losing you!
Take care my little buddy and know that many, many people miss you terribly and love you.
Love you dearly!
Maria
Angela Emer
September 10, 2007
Dearest Dolores,
It has been six years already, yet it still seems like yesterday. Rest in peace my dear friend. I think of you every day! I will never forget you!
Love,
Angela
Angela Emer
June 30, 2007
Hi Dolores.
I just wanted to say hello. I know that it has been a while since I have written. But, I think of you each and every day. Sometimes the grief I feel for you, my mom, my Lou, my dad, Aunt Jennie and Uncle Mario is difficult to bear. There have been so many changes in my life since 9/11 that it is sometimes hard to remember what life was like before that dreadful day. In any event I draw my strength from remembering what a beautiful world it was with all of you in it. Please kiss each of them for me and ask them to keep a watchful eye on all of us. This world grows crazier and crazier each passing day.
Love, Hugs and Kisses,
Angela
Sheila D'Alessandro
June 27, 2007
I would just like to say that on Sept 11th the world was a lonlier place without having Delores around...Fred Alger was my first job out of HS and Delores was my first boss...She was the glue that bound Fred Alger Mgmt...there wasn't anything she didn't have an answer for, whether it was keeping David in check or making sure Jerry was around....she knew all..Her husband was her world and her love for her mom...limitless...She taught me so many lessons that today 20 years later I still follow..I am comforted to know that Delores, Jerry and David are still together...See God knows her work and love still needs to carry on even though we can't see her beautiful smile...She touched my life for 4 years and still 16 years later I still think of her and our crew from 75 maiden...She was and is TRULY AMAZING...Sleep Well!
Angela Emer
December 18, 2006
Hi Dolores,
Merry Christmas in heaven. Please give my mom and my Lou a Christmas kiss and hug for me. Sometimes Lou needs a little a little nudge to get him started so please tell him that it is important to me that he join the in the Christmas celebration in heaven. Oh what a party it must be. Kisses to all of you.
Love and miss you all so much.
Angela
Kristine
October 30, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Angela
October 30, 2006
My Dearest Dolores:
I just wanted to say Hi! As you know I think of you very often. When I come to this site to visit with you, it makes me feel good. It makes me feel that I can still speak with you. It also makes me happy that I can have you pass on kisses and words of love to my mom. As you are probably aware, on October 19, 2006, I lost my Lou, my first love. Now he is in God's care with you and my mom and all of those people that have gone to heaven before us. His death was shocking and sudden, however I was told that when he passed he looked peaceful and happy. I have been told that those who look peaceful at the time of their death, go straight to heaven. That God has a special place for them. I sure hope this is the case for my dear sweet Lou. My heart aches for him. But, I do have one consolation, that he is with many of my family members as well as his, and he is also with my dear friends such as yourself. So I am going to ask another favor of you, please kiss him for me and tell him that one day I hope to be with him again. Please kiss my mom too.
Thanks Dolores for listening. Thanks for being a special friend.
Miss you so much too!
Lovingly,
Angela
Liz Rossi
October 25, 2006
Hi Dee--
I miss those once in a while phonce calls where I'd answer the phone and hear you say "Lizard!!". I miss the Swampettes...I think of those times alot...
I've dreamt of you 3 times...just last night being the latest. Someone told me that when you dream of someone, that person is visiting you. I hope so, because it's so good to see you again--
Love you,
Liz
Evelyn Diaz
September 19, 2006
Dear Loli
Five years have gone by and the pain is still there.
I will I could tell you all that is in my heart.
I think of you everyday. I can close my eyes and see your lovely smiling face.
How I miss you!
You were a wonderful niec and friend.
No matter how many years go by you will be loved and never forgotten.
Till we meet again
You are always in my heart
Love your
Aunt Evie
Mary Miller
September 15, 2006
Happy Birthday Little Buddy,
Again the week of September 11th I picked the hydrangeas off of "The Dolores Tree". They are beautiful as always. The tree is getting big and strong with more and more flowers on it every year. The tree is five years old and for five years, each flower I cut, I think of all the happy memories I have of you and me. The flowers are displayed in my home and my friends homes as a rememberance of you. I went for the first time to a vigel on 9/11 in Middle Village and it was lovely. I would love to go to the one in Middletown some day.
Again Happy Birthday! I miss you very much!
P.S. I don't need a hydrangea or anything else to remind me of you, I will never forget you!
Love you always,
Mary/Maria
P Tabbernor
September 15, 2006
In memory....
Angela Emer
September 14, 2006
Hi Dolores,
Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven.
Many Kisses to you and if you don't mind, please kiss our mom.
Thanks!
Love,
Angela, Robin and Kathleen
sarah rezsnyak
September 11, 2006
Hi,
you may not know me but I was your cousin. My name is Sarah Rezsnyak, my grandmother (roberta shaffer, aka Joan) told me about you. I must say you are a very beautiful woman.I cried when I saw your picture, I went to New York when I was a little girl and loved the whole atmosphere of it. Just wanted to say you are a wonderful brave person and may you rest in peace. Hope to meet your family soon.
sarah
Ryan Lilly
September 11, 2006
Hello,
I'm a student at Virginia Tech. Today our school held a remembrance ceremony for the victims of the September 11th attacks. Each student was given the name, age, hometown, and building number of one person who had died on that fateful day five years ago. Each student then took the name they received and inscribed it on a banner honoring each of the victims.
I was given this name, Dolores Marie Costa. Although I never met her, seeing her name on that piece of paper really brought back the reality of everything that happened that day. A long list of names is overwhelming - but receiving just one name puts things into prospective and brings to light just how big of a tragedy this really was.
Being a Management major myself and seeing that Mrs. Costa worked for a Management firm was ironic and makes the meaning that much deeper. It reminded me that she and the others can't just be seen as names on paper - they were people careers, dreams, and most importantly, friends and family who loved them.
To anyone who knew her I extend my deepest sympathies and I wish you all the best. Thank you for allowing me to express my condolences. We will never forget.
Sincerely,
Ryan
Marie Barbosa
September 10, 2006
Dear Angel & Sister,
These few lines to all of you is hoping they find you well and in good health. I am writing to my Dolores today & want to say hello to you and your sister & to thank you for all your kindness & for remembering my Dolores on this day.
I am doing well as can be expected, I take each day as it comes & try to get thru it as best as I can. Angela when you wirte to your Mom, tell her I said hello, I hope she met my Dolores, my sister Dottie & they are all together.
Once again thank you
Love
Marie Barbosa
Dolores Mom
Marie Barbosa
September 10, 2006
Dear Loli (Dolores)
As always you are missed & loved each and everyday. Its 5 years today, it seems so long ago, yet its like it were just yesterday. Why did it ever happen? Why couldn't everrything stay like it was before 9/11? We were all happy then. Everything has changed, how can I move on with my life without you in it. Some find it easy but not me. My love for you will always be there my dear Loli as you are (one in a million).
Until we meet someday love to you always.
Happy Birthday on the 13th of Sept to you.
I have so much to tell you when we meet.
Love you
Mommie
Marie Barbosa
Irene Arguelles
September 10, 2006
To my Loli,
5 years since 9-11-01, but in my heart and mind it seems like an eternity. I miss you so much. you are always in my thoughts. Your Mom is doing great 85 years old and she is still working hard. She misses you very much and there is never a moment that goes by that she doesn't talk about you.
I love you Loli - miss you and think of you always. I miss your overnite visits to my house.
Love Aunt Rene
Angela Emer
September 10, 2006
My Dearest Dolores.
Tomorrow is September 11, 2006. Five years and it still seems like yesterday. I will attend the 9.11 Middletown Memorial. This is to remember you and all of those that were lost on that dreadful day.
You are fondly thought of each and everyday. Please continue to look after this crazy mixed up world. It needs you and the others that passed away so violently on 9.11 to make it better.
Please rest in peace.
Lovingly,
Angela Emer and Family
Angela Emer
August 8, 2006
Hi Dolores,
Just thinking of you. It is almost 5 years since you were taken from us. It still seems like yesterday. I just wanted to let you know that you are still thought of each and every day and missed also.
Love,
Angela
Angela Emer
April 5, 2006
Hi Dolores,
Just wanted to say I was thinking of you, and sending you my love and prayers.
Love,
Angela
Angela Emer
January 17, 2006
Dearest Dolores,
Sorry I did not write to you for Christmas. It has been so extremly busy at work. Before I knew it the Holidays had come and gone. I did go to Christmas Eve Mass at St. Mary's and remembered you, and all of those dear people who were lost to us on that dreadful day. I remember my mother and how much she loved Christmas Eve. She always would say that the Eve was better than the day. I know that you and my mom were there with me.
I miss you both very much, but I don't have to tell you that because I know you already know that.
Hi Mrs. Barbosa. Thank you for your kind words. You are such a brave woman and I admire you. To lose a beloved daughter and sister would be almost too much for me to bear. I admire your strength. I am hoping so much that Dolres, your sister and my mother have become good friends. I am hoping that they are together and that they watch over all of us very closely each and every day. Please take care of yourself and I will speak with you soon!
Love, Angela
Marie Barbosa
December 20, 2005
Dec 25th, 2005
Dear Angela & Sister
Wishing you all happy holidays and good health. I know you miss your mom, but she's in good hands.I pray that she met my Loli and sister Dottie so that they can all take care of each other. Angela thank you for being a friend to my Delores.
love,
Mari Barbosa
Maqrie Barbosa
December 20, 2005
Dec 25th, 2005
To my dear Loli,
We'll never say good bye. I see you with my eyes or hear you with my bears but thoughts of you are with me still. After I dry my tears I hear your whisper in the rustling leaves that linger in the fall and in the gentle evening breeze. I'm sure I hear you call. A part of remains with me that no one can take away. it gives me strength to carry on. At the dawning of each new day I think of the happy times we shared and i softly sigh and know that when we meet again we never say goodbye. so my dear Loli rest in peace, I'll love you always!
Love ya Mommie
Marie Barbosa
Angela Emer
November 20, 2005
Dearest Dolores,
Happy Thanksgiving, miss you still!
Love,
Angela and Family
Angela Emer
September 13, 2005
Dear Mrs. Barbosa:
I was so happy to see you write. There is no need for you to thank me for remembering your beautiful Dolores. This is the least I can do. I enjoy writing to her. I really do miss her. You know when you commute each and every day with the same people from your town, you somehow become an extended family. We may not visit each others home, or spend time together, but we share stories of families, cooking, crafts, vacations and so on. This is one part of my commute that I do enjoy. When I would see Dolores she would always ask about my mother, and I would ask about you. She always said she was praying for my mother so that she would get better. I would share this with my mother as she always enjoyed hearing the train stories. Now they can personnally talk as I know they are in heaven together. Dolores should never have been taken from us in such a horrible way but you know what they say "only the good die young", and this is so true. However I truly beleive that Dolores is still with all of us each and every day and I keep her alive by remembering how much I enjoyed our friendship. I can only imagine the pain you feel. Please remain stong for her. Dolores would never want to see you cry!
Please stay well!
PS: Happy Birthday Dolores! If you don't mind please kiss my mom for me!
Love,
Angela
Marie Barbosa
September 12, 2005
Dear Angela and Sisters
Just a few lines to you and your sister hoping you are well.
I've just finished writing a letter to my Dolores and thought of you and how you always write such nice thing about her. I had gone to Middletown just once it was done so beautiful the stone with her face. It was so real looking well she was a beautiful girl. I'll be going to the cemetry here in Brooklyn where we have a grave for her and put flowers for her Birthday on Sept. 13th. She would of been 57, but thta didn't happen it was all taken away from her.
So once more take care and thank you for your kindness..
Dolores' Mother
Evelyn Diaz
September 12, 2005
Dear Loli,
Here it is 4 years since that terrible day. The day that our hearts and lives were broken.
It will always be like that. Nothing can change the love we all have for you.
A while ago we watched a tape of a family wedding. You looked so pretty dancing and laughing. Our hearts were so sad watching the tape.
There is not a day goes by when we don't think & talk about you.
You are never forgotten and
"You are always in our hearts "
Love your Aunt Evelyn and Family
Irene Arguelles
September 12, 2005
Dear Loli
It seems an eternity since 9-11-01 but in reality it has been 4 years and that is to long for me not to see your smiling face. I want you to know that I think about you all the time. Everything I do it reminds me of you.
I love you and miss you and you will always be in my thoughts and in my heart.
Love you always
Aunt Renie
"You are always in my heart"
Marie Barbosa
September 12, 2005
In loving memory of my daughter
Dolores Marie Barbosa Costa
Another year has gone by and as always you are missed, loved each and everyday. So many things have changed in these four years since that terrible day, losing you my dear Loli, Dottie, Uncle Baby and Father John. I pray that you and Dottie were together when it happened and didn't suffer, such a horrible way to die. Loli in our lives there are many kinds of love but the greatest love is the love a mother has for her children. That love if forever. I loved you and your brother Frankie very much. We had good times and one bad time but it was always the three of us.
So until we meet agian someday my dear Loli.
I'll be thinking of you each and everyday.
Love ya
Mommie
Marie Barbosa
Lisa Chiarchiaro-Sokol
September 12, 2005
Hey Loli
Its me Lisa aka Elouise aka pickle puss. Well to tell you the truth yesterday I was a giant pickle puss. My heart hurt so much I could not stop crying, I miss you so much. Every time a I see a Cardinal bird in my yard flying around I think of you and how you loved them and your Mom. Aunt Nena misses you so much and so does the rest of the family. At night I sit with the afgahan you made me and I think of you. I am going to go and save the rest of my thoughts till I see you and my Mom one day.
Stay close with each other like you always have.
Till me meet again in heaven
Your little cousin
Lisa
Angela Emer
September 10, 2005
Dearest Dolores:
Tomorrow is September 11, 2005.The pain is as great 4 years later as it was the day it happend. It still feels like yesterday. You are still so greatly missed. I think of you almost everyday!I think of all those who lost their lives on that day. Since 9/11 I hate commuting into the city. I will never forget you. Still miss our talks on the train and your smile. Please keep a watchful eye on this crazy world as you, and all of those who died on that day are all "Guardian Angels"! Miss you, please rest in peace.
Love,
Angela
Angela Emer
May 16, 2005
Hi Dolores, thinking of you. My sisters,aunt and I went to the Middletown Memorial Park last Saturday!
My aunt had never been there. When we showed her your stone she cried. I could not hold back the tears either. We also said prayer for all of the others. The memorial park is such a peaceful place. The geese were in the pond near the train station and there was a dog from one of the homes keeping a watchful eye. Some people don't like the geese because they are messy. I love them and to me they bring serenity to the park. I love to visit there. I makes be remember how priceless life is, and that in a second it can be taken away so quickly. That is why one must enjoy every second of every hour of every day! Miss you much, and please kiss my my mom for me! Tell her that we miss her very much too! Please give her a kiss.
Love,
Angela
Angela Emer
March 20, 2005
HAPPY EASTER IN HEAVEN DEAR FRIEND. KISS MY MOM FOR ME! MISS YOU BOTH VERY MUCH!
LOVE,
ANGELA
Mary Fava
February 23, 2005
Dear Dolores,
It has been over three years since that fateful day and I am only now able to write to you. It is not that I don't think about you. I think of you every day. So many things remind me of you and bring a smile. You were such a wonderful, generous and loving friend. You were there for my family in good times and bad and I will NEVER forget you. I always admired how much you loved and cared for your mother. I regret that I didn't have the pleasure of meeting her while you were with us. She is a wonderful woman and makes us all feel better when we visit her. In fact, your entire family is so warm and welcoming, I only wish we had all met when you could have been with us.
We still have so many of your gifts to remind us of you daily, but Patrick's favorite is the quilt you gave me for my bridal shower over twenty years ago! Do you remember Danny learning to ride a two-wheeler in the cul-de-sac? The boys still have the remote control cars you gave them, too. We love to look at photos of our New Year's Eves together and trips to the Poconos and Jersey Shore. What about the time Danny let go of the kite and you chased it all the way down the beach? We have so many memories to give us comfort, but I am afraid the pain will never go away.
Life goes on, but for those of us who love you, it can never be the same.
I asked my Mom to give you my love just before she passed away. I hope and pray that both of you are resting in peace along with so many other loved ones.
Rest in peace, my dear friend and know that your legacy of love lives on in our hearts. You will never be forgotten.
Love always,
Mary
Angela Emer
December 24, 2004
Dearest Dolores
Merry Christmas
It is Christmas Eve 12.24.04. When the Path Train pulled into the World Trade Center Station today, I thought of you, blew you a kiss, and missed you very much! When I read your mom's note, it brought tears to my eyes. I know how much she is missing you. I can relate to her feelings as I miss you and I am missing my own mom very much!Christmas Eve at your house must have been a wonderful time. It sure sounds like it. By the way it sounds it is very much the same way we would celebrate. Anyhow, as I always say, I am sure your are hosting the greatest birthday celebration of our Dear Lord, and this year you have our mom to assist you! I know she will be a great help to you.
Love and miss you. Kiss my mom for me!
Angela
Marie Barbosa
December 22, 2004
In memory of my daughter, Dolores Marie Barbosa Costa.
Dear Loli,
Hello my Loli. I'm writing you to let you know that we all miss you very much, especially this time of the year that you loved so much, Xmas. You always did your shopping in November. By Xmas you had it all done, buying gifts for everyone. Xmas Eve was one night to remember. We would all go to your house. As we entered your front door your home was decorated like something from a House Beautiful magazine, both inside and out. Lights all over, tree lit up, poinsettia plants all over the house. The smells of cooking and baking and all the good food which we all ate. One happy and joyous night. You sure knew how to throw a party. I'm so proud of you. If I could have one wish, it would be to have you and Dottie here with us again like old times. I know I can't have that wish so I'll take that I have you and Dottie together in heaven taking care of each other. may you both rest in peace my two favorite people.
Love from all,
Mommie,
Marie Barbosa
Gene Arguelles
December 22, 2004
Dear #1 (Loli)
Please forgive me for not posting sooner. I'm not very good at expressing myself with words and I could never find just the right thing to say. After reading all the wonderful posts others have left I finally realize that there is nothing else left to say. There are no words powerful enough to express the deep loss and love everyone has for you. I hope you knew I loved you because I do. I regret not having told you that enough and saddened in the fact that I will never have the opportunity to ever say it again. We have your picture on the bookcase and we think of you everyday.
I have so many wonderful memories of you. Playing in the hall, playing in the yard, your 16th birthday (I really didn't mean to call you Loli in front of all your friends, even after you told me 300 times not to. It was an accident, I swear. I was only a kid. That's my story and I'm sticking to it).
I love you, Loli. I always will.
#4 (Genieboy), Louise, David and Lauren
Angela Emer
November 25, 2004
Hi Dear Friend!
Happy Thanksgiving in Heaven. Kiss my mom for me too! You are both missed and loved very much!
Love Angela
Marie Barbosa
October 28, 2004
My dear Loli,
I just want you to know that I finally got to visit Middletown and got to spend time at your grave site. I know your not there, but at least the tribute to all the 9-11 victims were done so beautiful. I'm sure you would of like how it was done. The stone with your picture on it was so warm and loving. You touched so many lives with your love and kindness. You will always be our hearts and prayers each and every day. I'll always be there for you.
Uncle Eddie, Gemma, Evie, Raymond and Renie got to see the site it was beautiful. We left yellow roses and plants for you we know how much you loved your plants. Rest in peace my Loli.
Love Ya Mommie
Angela Emer
October 23, 2004
Dear Mrs.Barbosa,
Thank you so very much for your kind words. I feel like I know you and Dolores's family too! It has been difficult to come to terms with our mom's death. One consolation is that we know she is in heaven with many wonderful and sweet people. We know that she along with your dear daughter watch over us each and every day. Your daughter was truly one of the sweetest people my sisters and I have ever met. Everyday she would ask about our mom, although she had never met her. She was kind, gentle and loving. She along with our mom are missed terribly. Every night when the train pulls into the Newark station, I still expect to see her, even 3 years later. Well Mrs. Barbosa, please know that I will never forget Dolores. I will continue to write to her as long as this web page exists. I will continue to think and pray for her as long as I live, and when my time comes to go to heaven, I will be very happy to see my mom, and her again. Please write again!
Love,
Angela Emer and Family
Marie Barbosa
October 18, 2004
Dear Angela Emer & Family,
May I offer my deepest sympathy on the loss of your mom. I know it's so hard to bear when you lose a love one. Especially a mom. Although I never met you, I feel I know you thru my Dolores. It's so nice to read your many notes to her. I want you to know that I thank you for your kindness and to know you still remember my Dolores. I know she would be so happy knowing that you still remember her.
Love to All,
Dolores Mom,
Marie Barbosa
Angela Emer
September 11, 2004
Dear Dolores:
I went to the Middletown Memorial Service today. I went to honor you and all those that were lost. There was hardly a dry eye to be found. It is now 3 years but it feels like yesterday. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of you and all those lost. When you listen to the stories and see the tears of of the family and friends of those lost, you realize how priceless life is. I pray every night for world peace and I hope that God hears my prayers. I read all of the tributes from your loving family and friends, and there is one conclusion, you were truly a wonderful person. I send my love to you and will never forget you. My mom is with you now and I am sure that the two of you have become wonderful friends. Hugs and kisses to both of you!!
One day I know that we will all meet again. Please watch over all of us!
Love, Angela
Lisa Sokol
September 10, 2004
Dear Loli,
I just wanted to let you know how much I love and miss you. I still can't believe that you and my mom are not here. It hurts so bad, no one can ever imagine. I have the blankets that you made for me, I use them every winter and all I think of is you. We found picture of all our vacations together and realized that they were some great times. I can't believe that this all happened, to our family. Please stay close to my Mom as I hope you were that day. I love and miss you with all my heart.
Your little cousin Lisa (petunia/Eloise)
Rene Argulles
September 10, 2004
To My Dearest Niece Loli,
It is now 3 years since that terrible day 9/11. It is said time cures all wounds but not for me. It hasn't. Time has passed and I still can't get over this tragedy.
Every day, every hour you both are in our thoughts no matter what I am doing or where I am. There are nights even now when I get into bed and just know I won't fall asleep for thinking of you both.
We go to the cemetary very often and put roses there for you both. I know there is no physical part of you there only your names. I find some comfort to know that at least we see your names. As long as we live there will always be flowers there for you both.
It is said by people that you have to forget and go on with your life. Yes I have to go on but I could never ever stop thinkg of you both. I love you and miss you both very much.
Loli, you should know how much your mother misses and loves you. You had to be the greatest daughter to her. It is a great tribute to you to see how much she loves you!
I love you Dottie & Loli and remember "You are always in my heart"
Till we meet again,
Love
Aunt Rene
Evelyn & Raymond Diaz
September 10, 2004
Dear Loli,
Here it is 3 years since 9/11 and our hearts are still broken and we miss you so very much. It seems so long ago, that terrible day and yet it's like it was yesterday. The hurt is still there and it will never go away.
There is not a day goes by when we don't talk about you and you are not in our thoughts.
It is said we have to get on with our lives (easy to say) but nothing will ever be the same without you.
We hope you know that till we meet again "you are always in our hearts"
Love your,
Aunt Evelyn & Uncle Raymond
Marie Barbosa
September 10, 2004
In loving memory of my daughter
Dolores M. Barbosa Costa
My Dear Loli,
Here I am again for you my dear Loli on September 11th 2004.
It's three years today that you were takes from me. I go through each day thinking and missing you so much. The say that time heals, not for me. I find it harder & harder to go on. I do my best, just knowing & thinking of how you died in such a horrible way. I only pray that you never knew what happened & you didn't suffer.
My dear Loli, how could anyone get over it so fast, I know I can't. You were always there for me so loving and caring. Yes you had a good life, but your good life came from your hard work. You gave your all to every job you had and to your beautiful home. I don't know how you did it all, always on the go, so full of life and looking forward to retirement just to stay home, sleep late, take care of your garden, birds and squirrels. I'm sure they miss you. They are probably saying where is the beautiful gal who always feeds us! You had so many more years to live for but all was taken away from you. Your death was so unfair. You were too good.
So my Loli, I just want you to know you may be gone but never, never forgotten. You will alway be in my heart.
May you rest in peace. For me no one could ever take your place. You were one in a million!
Love you and Happy Birthday on September 13th.
I hope to see you soon!
Love Mommie
Marie Barbosa
Renee Diaz
September 10, 2004
Dear Loli,
It has been 3 years since that day and sometimes it feels like only yesterday. I think of you every day and wish you were still here to laugh with. You should see how the boys have grown. Frankie is in college and Nuri is as tall as I am. You would be very proud of them both and I know that they miss you.
Loli, you are a big part of my life even though you are not here and the greatest compliment I could receive is when people tell me how much I remind them of you. I could only hope to be half the person that you are.
Toni and I have heard how much you loved us and how much we meant to you, and I just hope you know how much you mean to us.
We love you,
Till we meet again,
Renee, Toni, Nuri,Frank and Nuri
MARY (MARIA) GONZALEZ-MILLER
September 10, 2004
Hey Buddy,
Early this morning before going to work I picked big beautiful hydrangeas off of my "Doloris Tree". Ever since I planted the tree,every Sept on or before the llth the flowers are ready for picking. Frank & I as usual will be together tomorrow with the Favas. We will talk about you & light candles in memory of you...you who still haunts our souls. We will imagine you can hear & see us and are happy.
Alot of things have been happening here...for one, Mary Fava's mom pasted away on July 23rd. It was a terrible loss for the whole family. Mrs. O was a dear sweet women & she will be missed by all of us who knew her. You would have been proud of Danny & Patrick on the day of the Funeral Mass; Patrick read Mass & Danny wrote & read the Eulogy. It was very moving to say the least.
But, on a wonderful & shocking note....would you believe that Danny has gone off to college already??? He is 18, drives & is now a freshmen in the University of Mass....oh my goodness!!! Where did the years go?
Speaking of which....where did the years go since you have been taken from us ever so weirdly? I still shake my head & wonder if we all actually witnessed that "THING" of "THINGS" & think maybe we will see you all of a sudden out of the blue walking somewhere...maybe you don't know who you are...maybe you survived the horror & we don't know it....that's what I think alot...that's what I hope alot...but I guess everyone left behind always does... I will say goodby for now my Little Buddy & know that I still miss you very much!
Love Mary/Maria
Angela
September 10, 2004
Three Years since you were taken. The pain and sorrow has not gotten any less. It still feels like yesterday! Miss your smiling face!
Angela Emer
August 5, 2004
Hi Dolores, just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking of you lately, especially with all that is going on in this very confused world. I am sure you were very happy to finally meet my mom when she entered into heaven in May. I often told her about you and I know that she always prayed for you even though she did not know you. It's funny because when we had to choose her plot at the cemetary, we were given 3 options for her plot. After looking at 2 of them we decided that our search had ended because the site we chose was near many of the 9/11 victims. While alive, she always prayed for all of you and asked all of you to look down on her 3 daughters and to be our guradian angels each day that we commuted into the city. Now I know that between all of you and and our mom, we have the greatest protection of all. As 9/11 again grows near, it makes me think of you even more. I will light my candle(as I ususally do each 9/11) outside my house for all of you. I hope that you are showing my mom around up there. She was a wonderful sweet woman. I miss her terribly and love her very much. I also had planted a rose bush at my house for you and all who were taken from us on that terrible day. I must say it blooms beautiful roses. Well my dear commuting friend, that is all for now. Still missing you very much. Angela
MARY-GONZALEZ MILLER
June 28, 2004
Dear Doloris,
We went to the cemetary on Saturday. It was myself, Frank, Mary Fava, Patrick Fava (who by the way is recovering from two (sport injury)operations. & your Aunt Renie. It turned out to be a nice day. The grass is looking lush. We then spent the day with your Mom and of course we eat the whole time we were there. Mary Fava & Frank made food & your Mom & Aunt had tons of food. We very much enjoyed ourselves. We got to meet your cousin Renee, she so reminds me of you. She seems like a very nice person, & I know how much she meant to you. As usual, we all felt wonderful being with your family. Your Mom looks well. We all look forward to our next visit to your family. Love & miss you!
MARY/MARIA MILLER
April 21, 2004
Hey my buddy,
I just spotted the first buds on your hydrangea tree. I can't wait for the blooms. Love you & you are always on my mind. Mary/Maria
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