Her Parents Came First
About the only major disagreement Shari Kandell had with her parents was over her admiration of Reggie Jackson. Her father, Jan Kandell, could not abide him. But Ms. Kandell commemorated her admiration long after Jackson's retirement by including his number, 44, in her e-mail address.
She was 27 and lived with her parents in Wyckoff, N.J. Since March she had worked at Cantor Fitzgerald in support of traders. She was also going to school at night to finish her bachelor's degree. But she found the time to enjoy New York. On her last weekend, she took her mother, Beatrice, to see "A Chorus Line." Her brother, Steven Kandell, said she was "the least judgmental and cynical person I have ever known." He added, "I can't think of a single fight we ever had about anything."
Her mother and father came first, said an aunt, Barbara Weinberg, but Shari Kandell went out of her way to do things for friends, like arranging a 30th-birthday dinner for a girlfriend's husband because the couple had nothing left over for a party after buying a house.
And she listened, said Ms. Weinberg, recalling that a few months after telling her niece that David Letterman and Jay Leno were not up to the standards of Johnny Carson, she received a gift of "The Best of Carson."
Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on December 17, 2001.