Jay Scott, dedicated husband, father, brother and grandfather, died on August 12, 2009. He was 78. Marilyn, his greatest supporter, inseparable partner and loving wife of 45 years was at his side.
Devout, intelligent, and fun loving, Jay was a superb critical thinker, who valued his Catholic Faith, knowledge, and time with family. A resident of Ventura for 47 years, Jay was a longstanding and active member of Our Lady of Assumption Church, where he attended Mass daily. As an invaluable and reassuring advisor, Jay offered great wisdom and perspective, while helping others independently reach conclusions. His tremendous ability to problem solve gave himself and others confidence and optimism; he was never burdened to help others. Jay endowed these strong character traits and sound moral values to his five professionally successful, well-educated sons, each earning engineering degrees like their father.
Jay worked tirelessly to provide for his family, and re-energized by spending quality time with them. He especially enjoyed many family road trips across the United States, visiting relatives and numerous state landmarks along the way. The history of our nation and diversity of its lands always impressed Jay and he loved sharing it with his sons. Later in his life, the family spent many treasured vacations at his favorite destination; the shores of Waikiki Beach, where he relaxed, body surfed and sipped shaved ice with grandchildren.
Jay Scott was born on Oct 15, 1930, in Jersey City, NJ, to William and Agnes Scott. He spent his early childhood years on the sunny shores of Wildwood, NJ enjoying long summer days on the beach and boardwalk of the small resort town. The death of both his parents by the age of 13 affected Jay's childhood, instilling within him a drive to overcome adversity. After excelling in high school at St. Don Bosco and a year of seminary at Seton Hall University, he enlisted in the US Navy where he served during the Korean War onboard the USS Norton Sound.
Following honorable discharge, the Pacific Missile Test Center, Point Mugu hired Jay who then graduated Magna Cum Laude from UCLA as a General Engineer. His intelligence and determination enabled him to achieve a 38-year civil service career culminating as the Range Development Officer. Following his passion for acquiring knowledge, Jay earned a Masters of Public Administration from California State University, Northridge, and worked five years with General Electric.
Jay is survived by Marilyn, children William, Thomas, John and his wife Kim, George and his wife Amy, and Robert, elder brother William, grandchildren Jenna, Charles, William, twins Gavin and Sophie, and Nicholas. He was preceded in death by his eldest grandson Lucas, and eldest brother Robert.
A Rosary and Mass will be held on Friday August 21st at 9:30 am and 10:00 am respectively, at Our Lady of the Assumption Catholic Church in Ventura followed by private burial at Conejo Mountain Memorial Park in Camarillo. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to Our Lady of the Assumption Church or Catholic Charities.
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September 15, 2009
Dear Marilyn and Boys (and your families as well),
I have so many fond memories of the years we spent as neighbors. Your home was always filled with love! Your dad - Jay - was one of the finest men I have ever met. His kind, compasionate, caring manner helped many members of my family though our trying teenage years. We have all been blessed to have known him.
Love
Jodi Heath (Schmidt)
Jim Schmidt
September 10, 2009
Dear Marilyn and family;
I was so sorry to hear of Mr. Scott's passing. I have only fond memories and much respect for him and all of you. Take care and may God bless you all.
Jim Schmidt and family
Carl Ashley
August 31, 2009
Marilyn and Family,
It has been a great pleasure knowing you and Jay and some of your family. I knew only George from Foothill Senior League here in Ventura. I worked with Jay for many years at Point Mugu and found him to be a very intelligent and dedicated engineer. We spent many hours working with the telemetry development there at Mugu. My deepest sympthay to you and the family. Jay you are missed.
Carl Ashley
August 26, 2009
Dear Marilyn and family, sorry for your loss. Jay was a great guy and we know you will miss him very much, Carol and Paul Feldheim
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Paul Caron
August 25, 2009
Growing up with his sons, I will always remember Jay as a kind, wise man who always enjoyed life. I will truly miss seeing him at church, and chatting with him on turkeybowl. He has raised some great young men, a true testament to his character. My prayers are with the Scott family.
Brandon Burke
August 25, 2009
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
August 21, 2009
Dear Marilyn and family,
I am sorry for the loss of your beloved husband and Dad, Jay Scott.
We 'shared a birthday, Oct. 15'........I was a member of OLA from 1973 to 1992..and attended daily mass too.
May GOD bless and comfort each of you.
aloha,
Mary Jane Doster
Pahoa, HI
John, Theresa (Wurts), Bernadette, and Felicity Shields
August 21, 2009
Dearest Scott Family,
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine Assumption parish without Mr. Scott. He was a wonderful man! We are keeping you all in our prayers in this difficult time.
August 20, 2009
Steven Spencer
Hugh Crawford
August 20, 2009
Jay and I worked together for thirty-some years. Although we occasionally had differences of opinion about policy and personnel matters, he always respected my views as I did his.
So long, Jay—we’ll see each other again.
Jim & Therese Means
August 20, 2009
We have to believe that as strong a Christian, Jay has gone on to a better place. May God bless you all.
Virginia Breen
August 19, 2009
Dear Marilyn
I was sorry to hear about Jay. From Liz
Just know that he is resting in peace. In the Lord hands
I will keep him in my prays.
Virginia Breen (Aunt Ginny)
Filomena Ornelas
August 19, 2009
Marilyn,
My prayers & deepest sympathy.
Fellow parishioner at OLA.
Edward Morse
August 19, 2009
Please accept my deepest sympathies.
Robin Quinlan
August 19, 2009
Bill, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mother and your entire family at this time. Your father was someone to be very proud of, and I'm certain that he is being welcomed home as one of the most devout among us all. God bless, Robin
Malu and Jimenez' Family
August 19, 2009
Dear Marilyn, Bill, Tom, John and Kim, George and Amy, and Robert,
I think about you and the fortune you had for having such a remarkable father in your lives. It is hard saying goodbye to someone we love so much, but always keep in mind that Mr. Scott was one man of a kind; that family was his priority, and his strong wish was for you all to remain together amidst difficulties.
You are all in my thoughts.
Mike serra
August 19, 2009
In the time I spent I spent with Mr Scott over the years he was always, happy, positive and very optimistic. He always gave the impression that the next day would better than the last. Although he will be missed I am sure that each day will continue to be better for Mr. Scott and his family
Hina, Yougesh and Diya Khatri
August 19, 2009
Dear Mrs. Scott and family,
I loved Mr. Scott and was glad to have had the opportunity to get to know him, you and some of the boys on my numerous trips to California and on your visits to the East Coast. He had an amazing sense of humor and always made me smile and laugh. I particularly enjoyed how he and I would gang up on Bill on various issues. :) You're a good sport Bill! Yougesh and Diya were also fortunate enough to have had an opportunity to spend time with him on his visits to DC and NJ in recent years. Mr. Scott and you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Loove,
Suzanne Roden
August 18, 2009
Dear George, Amy, Charlie, Will, and little Nicholas,
We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. It sounds like he was a wonderful father and grandfather. Our prayers are with you.
Sincerely,
Brent and Suzanne Roden (Josh's parents)
Gilda Reeves
August 18, 2009
Dear Scott Family,
At times like this, it's sometimes hard to find the words that offer the most comfort. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you with the deepest sympathy. I will always remember Mr. Scott for his laughter and constant encouragement. He will truly be missed.
Gina Vonderhaar Aden & John Aden
August 18, 2009
We send our deepest condolences to the Scott Family during this difficult time. Uncle Jay will be remembered as an honorable and faithful person, who shared his knowledge and experience with those around him. I will not forget his booming voice, sense of humor and fantastic laugh. Please know that you remain in our thoughts.
Patrick Thompson
August 18, 2009
Dear Scott Family, our sincerest condolences go to your family during this tough time. I will always remember Mr. Scott for his jovial humor, his handy work around our college house and the gracious hospitality he always extended to me and our Cal Poly friends. He and your family are in our thoughts.
Tammy Winstead
August 18, 2009
Dear Marilyn,
I am so sorry to hear about Jay's passing. He was such a kind and gentle man. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hank Morris
August 18, 2009
I never knew Jay, but seeing he was a former USS Norton Sound (AVM-1) crew member, I've passed his obit to Matt Carrasco, webmaster for the USS Norton Sound website.
Hank Morris
Ventura CA
Don & Andi Ethell
August 18, 2009
Dear Marilyn and Boys,
May your loving memories comfort you.
Sincerest sympathy.

1-2-07 Nebraska
August 18, 2009
Lisa Sassone
August 18, 2009
I love my Uncle Jay very much and always will. He was unlike any man I have ever known. He had the confidence and strength to own any room he walked into. He also had a great sense of humor which is one of the many wonderful traits he passed down to his sons.
I will miss Jay’s determination to have us all lead better and more fulfilling lives. I will also miss his presence in our family. He has left an everlasting mark on all of us and I know he will live on in the hearts of all who cared for him.
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