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Charles Edward Fistola III
Charles Edward Fistola III
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Charles Fistola Obituary
This obituary was originally published in the Buffalo News.
3060 Abbott Rd, Orchard Park, NY 14127
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Laurie Ashcroft
April 2, 2025
Seems like yesterday when you snuck over to the Tail of the Dragon
love you always
Aunt Laurie
Brad Habenicht
August 19, 2024
Hey Fistola,
It’s been 17 years since you left us. I still remember the day I met you as the recruiter for HPD. I wish I knew you were troubled. I wish I could have had the chance to talk to you. You had such a wonderful smile and personality. I regret we didn’t get to know each other longer. I hope you found you peace. Love you brother
February 19, 2024
We miss you every single day Dudie. Keep watching over us, especially the babies. I see your signs. Keep them coming. Theo and Charlie would have loved you so much. Xoxo
RJ Fiske-RPD
January 4, 2023
I was just watching a documentary called Florian´s Knights and thought of you. We still remember you brother.
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Brad Habenicht
February 26, 2019
Hey Charles,
I was thinking of you today as I often have. I wish you were still here with us. I wish so badly that you had reached out to me before that dreadful day. I truly hope you are at peace and have found comfort in God. Love you my brother in blue.
Glenn Santos
May 27, 2016
LT chuck! It's me your SGT back in GUAM island. I missed you brother. I would like to extend my deepest condolences to my boys family.
December 3, 2015
The pain and ache in my heart remains. Forever Undiminished by time or occurrence .
Auntie MiMi
July 21, 2015
O.k. baby . I got the message and your gift . I will bring them to NaNa as you know I would . Leave it to you to give her such an anniversary gift via a cop ! You remain able to surprise me .Thank you .
Darlene Greg
December 6, 2014
Dear Charlie, I wanted to write to you on Dec 1st but I couldn't. Every year that you are gone it hurts even worse than the year before. I can't pretend that you are in another country or your working And I'm waiting for a letter or a call "Hi Mom" when I'm shopping for Christmas. I'm like oh Charlie would love this. And it hits me straight in the heart that your gone. Honey I'm lost with out you! I know your watching over me and everyone that you love, I feel you with me! Charlie my angel why didn't you let me come when I almost died after surgery but you said, " not now mom, but I'm waiting!! " well honey, I'm waiting for you too!! Love you and miss you with all my heart!! Love Mom xoxo
December 3, 2014
Luv u lil buddy,...aunt kayrue
Auntie MiMi faraco
December 2, 2014
Hi Baby,
I am not " a day late " as you would tease me . I started this 3 times yesterday . I reflect on the past seven years and wonder what you would think and be doing . So much sadness and so much joy has happened . Many things would have upset you but so many would have made you dance . I know you are with us every day. So it seems funny to be writing in this since I talk to you every day and yes , I get your signs always. REALLY did you have to send me an obnoxious cockatiel that just screams " Hi Charlie " all day long !Everyone is shocked when they hear him ! Very funny ! Every time I look at Alexandre , I know you sent him , too . Thank you for trying to ease the pain of your loss but it doesn't . I will take to the grave every minute of that horrible night . Even the phone ringing is imprinted on my soul. I can't write anymore. The pain a heart can take , no person really knows. I love you.
December 1, 2014
In just a few hours my world and my heart stopped my King...7 yrs. tonight my life's treasure was gone...it seems the recent days I have had such a tough time; I am hurting sooo much, honey boy; I pray that you are at peace but finding peace for myself seems just impossible...God keep you in his loving embrace..I wait for my bear hug once again sweetheart...my love and my heart are with you always...pray for us honey...you are remembered by so many people who loved you; you can never be forgotten...Your Nana...OF COURSE!!!
Dallas Johnson
October 2, 2014
Hey buddy I just found this today. It's a very sad day for me man. R.i.p I have been trying to find you the last 10 years. Love Dallas. My condolences to family I'm so sorry for your loss.
Darlene Greg
May 10, 2014
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY SON!! 34 yrs ago today, you changed my life forever!! Thank goodness you grew into that cute nose of your's. You''ve made me so proud!! Your kindness and smile were infectious to those around you, you loved everyone with all your heart. That beautiful smile would make your eyes twinkle especially when you were up to no good!! Honey, watch over all of us, because we all need our little angel. I miss you so much it hurts!! I'll never be the same without you, My heart is broken without you. one day we will meet up again and I will get my bear hug and how you doing mom again. Oh, the smilie face you left was cute next to the bear you gave me . Honey, be at peace!! All my love, xoxo it'll never be the same without you,
May 10, 2014
It would have been your 34th birthday today, my "KING"....Papa and I were just thinking about the morning you were born and Papa ran to the hospital with your Mom and went with his slippers; That was the beginning of all the joy you brought into our lives...Pray for us, my sweetheart. In God's time, we will be in those arms of yours again...love you & Miss you.
Maggie Helinski
May 9, 2014
Chuckie,
After all these years, still think of you from time to time. Tomorrow May 10th. would have been your 34th birthday. Hope you pray for all of us and one day we will all meet again, when God is ready for it, until that time, we live for God and try to do His will. Happy Birthday my second son.
Nilva Gonzalez
May 9, 2014
Fistola, I think of you often! I miss your smile and how you always made me laugh and kept my spirits up. I hope you are at peace. Miss you so much!
shannon Babcock- miller
May 8, 2014
Charlie it's so hard to believe that you're gone.. you will never know how much you meant to me. I will carry our friendship for my whole entire life..you weren't just my best friend you are my brother.you will never be forgotten still always in my
prayers and there's not a day that goes by that I do not think about you.....
I'll see you on the other side someday love you
Darlene Greg
April 8, 2014
Oh honey, I miss you so much! Your bear hugs and your smile would make my day. I know your watching over all of us, I feel you with me. I hope I'm making you proud. I haven't been able to visit this site before because it breaks my heart that you were so loved and your not here to see that. Love Mom
December 17, 2013
I miss you terribly.
Seems like yesterday you were running around Christmas morning in your Dr. Dentons.
How you love Crhistmas.
I'm sure your lights are way better than mine. Can't wait to see them.
Noel.
Love you Aunt Laurie
December 17, 2013
Thank you Charlie for your kindness and sweet and gentle ways during my grief. I will never forget what a great person you were to me. You are missed so very much. Shirley Stallings
Auntie Mimi faraco
December 16, 2013
So this week I put the little ceramic angel you painted for me when you were six by your picture as I do every year. And every year I ask you " When is this going to not suck ?" I know the answer by the sick silence in my heart. NEVER. Out of this mud , you gave us a rose named Alexandre. He exists because of your leaving us. Please continue to watch over him . You know why. I believe you sent him to finish your job. Thank you for showing me every day that you are still with all of us but my heart continues to weep . My fears remain unspoken between us. I love you.
Auntie MiMi
December 16, 2013
Hi, My King....Soon it will be the 6th Christmas without you, honey...nothing will ever be the same...you are in the hearts and thoughts of all your family and sooo many friends...I pray you are at peace, baby...please pray for us...I have you in my heart always...your Nana...and Papa, too....
Maggie Helinski
December 14, 2013
Charlie,
I think of you often and I hope you are at peace my friend.
September 11, 2013
9/11 will always be a somber day.
You made the ultimate sacrifice for our country.
GOD BLESS you Little Charlie and GOD BLESS AMERCIA.
Aunt laurie
May 7, 2013
Hi, My "King", Happy "33" Birthday my sweetheart...You were born on Mother's Day and you were the best present in the world to all of us! I talk to your picture next to my chair all the time...my heart is soo broken, honey...You have left such a huge gap in my heart..It will be 7 years Dec.lst and I still find it hard to believe you are not with me; but I do know you are with me in my mind and heart...forever..til I rest with you, my honey boy...please pray for Papa and all of us who miss you so much..Nana
May 6, 2013
Charles, another year has gone by . You will always be in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless You!
Maggie Helinski
May 5, 2013
Hey Charlie,
I think of you often. Lately, I have retold the story of all of you kids around the neighborhood and the trouble you all got into back in St. Petes cemetary. You were always so full of life and happy. think of you a lot. But I know that you are at peace.
brad habenicht
July 16, 2012
Fistola,
I have tought of you many times. I still find myself asking why and how this happened. I still think of how our lives would be had ou stayed with us. Though I knew you only a short period, your loss still haunts me and I miss you. I hope you are at peace.
Good bye friend,
Brad Habenicht
May 14, 2012
Ckarles, remember you are always in our prayers, we miss you. Aunt Sharon
Nilva Gonzalez
May 10, 2012
Hello my friend just passing by to wish you a happy birthday! I miss you and often think of you. You will forever have a special place in my heart!
Nana Vertino
May 9, 2012
hi, my beloved "KING"! Tomorrow would have been your 32nd Birthday! How much I would have loved making your favorite cake! The last time I ordered a special cake for you when you graduated from the Police Academy in Raleigh; it had your exact badge replica on it done in frosting....there are so many, many wonderful memories I have with you, my darling boy...you have taken my heart with you but every minute spent with you, and there are millions of them, I relive every single day! I tell everyone of the day you called me from Iraq to tell me you had a nose bleed and what should you do???? Well, that is the type of closeness only FEW people ever have...I am so blessed to have had you with your love for me...I know you are taking care of me because of my hectic life now....I love you my sweetheart;;;Rest in peace with God and all our family members...Your Nana forever my King!
Justin Helinski
January 10, 2012
The other day, some high school kid here at the gym asked me if I had ever been down to the 18 Mile Creek before...I couldn't help but laugh. We knew a good 3 miles of those woods with our eyes closed. Miss you man.
Chelsea Fistola (sister)
January 4, 2012
Dudie,
It took me 4 years to read these and write one, but I'm finally doing it. I don't even know where to start. All the memories and good times would take forever to write down. You are such a blessing and I loved having you as my big brother. You always had my back no matter what. Looks like that's my job for Cassandra and Anthony now. They miss you so much too dudie, please watch over them and mom and dad and nana and papa. And give Anthony good dreams about you. My heart hurts so much thinking of you but I know I will be seeing you again. Give yaya and auntie ann a big hug for me. I know you've been watching down and protecting me still as my big brother. I love you and miss you always Dudie. Xoxo.
Todd Coppage
December 30, 2011
My sincere condolences go out to the Fistola family and friends. I was Chuckie's boss when he was in Korea. He made my job easy and fun. He was a charachter.
Michele Faraco
December 1, 2011
Time is nothing more than the clock ticking.It does not heal.Our sadness is unaltered by time or words.Nothing can ever replace you or the hole in our hearts left behind.Four years now and nothing helps.I didn't think it would.Today is just as hard as any other without you.Thank you for keeping your spirit so close to me.I am doing what you would want to help others.Keep working through me.I got it.Missing you so badly it aches.Love ,Auntie MiMi
Nana Vertino
May 10, 2011
Well, my "KING", today would have been your 31st Birthday; I am remembering Papa running to the hospital this morning with his slippers to get you! We always reminded you of this! We had 27 most happy years with you, my sweetheart...the hole in my heart does not ever heal....nothing is the same without you, honey...please pray for us and we pray you are happy in God's hands. I love you forever and miss you so very much....love, Your Nana, always, look over all our family, honey. Be at Peace.
Nilva
December 26, 2010
Hey fistolita..I am thinking of you. I miss having you around to talk to. I often look at pictures of us and wish you were still with us. I miss you!
Justin Helinski
December 10, 2010
I was going through some things the other day and I found some old pictures of us. I'd give anything to go back to those days. I miss you buddy.
December 3, 2010
My King...today you were coming home 3 yrs. ago....my heart is still so very heavy, my darling boy...they say time heals all things but the pain I feel for your leaving will not ever leave me...I am surrounded by your photos and you know I speak to you every day..I just looked at your last Christmas gift to me, the shiny ornament that says you believe Nana is your angel...well, you are MY angel, Charlie...pray for me and Papa and all your friends and family...eveyone misses you so very much! Rest with God my beloved Grandson ...your Nana always til eternity...Love you my King.
laurie ashcroft
December 1, 2010
I sit here sad this day yet happy you have been with God 3 years now.
Always making sure I put the xmas lights out because your looking down from the heavens saying wow check out that house.
All my love
Aunt Laurie
Auntie Mi Mi & Uncle Tony Faraco
December 1, 2010
Little Charlie,
I am sure you know that even in your passing you are touching the world through your story.Uncle Tony and I are making sure there are lessons to be learned and lives to be changed by you every day. Your story has saved lives and has changed mine.Please watch over Amanda in Paris.She will be there because of you.Tony,Joey and I will be with her later. Leave it to you to still find a way to keep giving your light to your family that adores you and greives for you every day.Time has not changed anything for all of us who love you as deeply as ever.Keep us safe in your light. I hope I've made you proud of what we are doing here in your memory.Auntie MiMi
Sharon Clark
January 6, 2010
Charles, I think of you often,and pray that you are at peace and at home with all your family in heaven. Aunt Sharon
Laurie Ashcroft
December 29, 2009
Little Charlie,
It is hard to believe it has been 2 years since you joined the God squad. I miss you terribly and there will always be a piece missing in my heart.
I think of all the soldiers who have passed on and I see you greeting them as they arrive in Heaven.
My loss is by far incomparable to God's mission.
Love you always.
Aunt Laurie
December 27, 2009
My Darling "King"..this has been the 2nd Christmas without you; we miss you so much, my honey! Nothing is and never will be the same without your beautiful smile and the bear hugs you always gave me...I still hear "Hi, My Nana!" when you called me so often...those words will ring in my heart and memory forever...Pray for Papa and me and all of us who love you so much....Another year starts soon without you...I just go on, my honey...Rest with the angels..your Nana always, my King....
December 18, 2009
Hey Fistolita,
I thought of you today so I decided to write. I know you're in a better place but I miss you a whole bunch. You would always cheer me up and you were a very good listener. I miss that. I wish you were here. Missing you!
Nilva
December 1, 2009
My beloved "King"...it has been 2 years today since you left us so abruptly...it is not easier for me with the passing of these empty years; I miss you more each day...papa and I visited with you and Auntie yesterday and it is still so unbelievable that you and she have gone from us. Pray for us my darling boy and rest in peace with the angels. My heart aches with sorrow today and always...Love you for all eternity...Your Nana, always and forever...
John Duggan
October 17, 2009
My heart felt sympathies to all of Chuck's family. I wasn't aware of his passing until today and it truly kills me to learn of it. I was his roomate in Korea and for those 7 months we grew as close as I've ever grown with a friend. We didn't keep in touch enough after Korea but I always held out hope we would one day go on a vacation and reunite with our families. I loved this man like a brother. He was such an amazing person. Rest in peace my brother.
Roderick Simmons
May 17, 2009
My Condolences to the family of Little Charlie.
I’m so sorry to realize Charlie died. I went to visit Ann Marie Napora today 5/17/09 and found Charlie next to her. I was Shocked.
God bless.
Roderick Simmons
NANA VERTINO
May 10, 2009
HAPPY 29TH BIRTHDAY MY KING...TODAY IS MOTHER'S DAY AND YOU WERE BORN ON MOTHER'S DAY. YOU CAME TO MAKE THIS FAMILY SO VERY HAPPY IN SO MANY WAYS OVER THE YEARS! THIS DAY WOULD ALSO HAVE BEEN YOUR FIRST WEDDING ANIVERSARY//
PAPA AND I MISS YOU SO VERY MUCH, MY KING...WE VISITED YOUR RESTING PLACE WITH AUNTIE ANN YESTERDAY AND WE SAT ON THE BENCH AND TALKED WITH BOTH OF YOU FOR A WHILE...MY HEART ACHES WITH MISSING YOU SO VERY MUCH...NANA WILL NEVER, EVER BE THE SAME MY SWEETHEART...YOU ARE WITH ME FOREVER IN MY HEART...I JUST PRAY YOU ARE RESTING IN PEACE MY BELOVED GRANDSON...LOOK OVER PAPA AND ME AND ALL THE FAMILY. I LOVE YOU FOREVER...YOUR NANA, ALWAYS...
Nicole Wlosinski Caito
March 11, 2009
Fistola Family,
As I prepare our 10 year reunion I remember Chuck in all of the wonderful ways I can. He was a joy to know and it was an honor to call him a friend. He is missed by us all.
Laurie Ashcroft
January 8, 2009
I know in my heart Little Charlie wants us to bring peace with his death and live our lives to its fullest with honor, humanity, love and happiness. By doing this, he will reach his full spiritual destiny with the Lord.
Love you little buddy.
Aunt Laurie
Nana Vertino
December 31, 2008
Hello, My King! Last night the last day of 2008 is the first time I dreamed of you after ll months to the day of your last with us....you said "Nana, I am so tired" and you laid your head in my lap on the sofa. It is like a gift to me; I pray you are at peace, my sweet grandson....I know you are with me always..we all miss you so much..look after us, honey...you have my heart, you know....of course....Your Nana always ....
Aandrew Smarra
December 25, 2008
Merry Christmas Paison...With Love. Andrew and Lisa
Edward Fuller
December 14, 2008
He was a good guy he was a great family member he will be in our hearts always and forever we love him very much so he will be with us always.
Tony Faraco
December 3, 2008
The first anniversary of your passing has come , and we continue to remain empty without you.
Watch over us , and tell your grandfather auntie misses you both terribly.
Nana Vertino
December 1, 2008
Hello, My King...today is l year you took my heart away, my darling boy..this has been such a horrific time for not only myself and Papa but for all of our family and so very many of your friends, many of whom are still writing in this memory book to you; it is almost always the same things they say...that you were too alive and such a unique person to be gone...you have left a void that can never be filled, my honey...soon it will be Christmas and the second one you are not with us and no matter how many years go by, it will never, ever be the same without you, my beloved Grandson. Today I lit a candle in front of your beautiful picture and the flame lights up your eyes and you are smiling your majic smile for me....Papa is so sad also for losing his Michele...we just pray you are resting with all our loved ones in a place of peace and no more sorrow. I love you always my Charlie....you have my heart with you, of course,,,,I miss you forever and my joy will be when I can be with you again, My King...rest in peace, baby,,,Your Nana, before, now and always
TSgt Tony Krolczyk, USAF
November 20, 2008
It is hard to find the words to say on the occasion of the loss of such a decent and stalwart individual. I only recently discovered he had been lost to the world and, more importantly, to those whom loved him deeply. Sadly I have not stayed in touch with him over the years since our service in Korea but I can say this with truth and conviction. He was a dedicated friend, a loyal patriot and a decent person to know in all weathers. He never shirked a task or betrayed a trust. He enjoyed life and enabled others to find the joy in theirs. It was a great honor and privilege to have known Charles Fistola and I know in my heart, wherever he may be, he is “standing fast” and looking out for those around him. My sympathies go to all of his close friends, his cherished family and his beloved fiancé. If ever I can be of assistance I hope you will let me know.
Mike Avellino
November 19, 2008
Chuck,
I don't really know what to say right now. I'm over in Iraq right now and I was telling one of our stories so I though about looking you up. And when I searched your name this was the result. I'm very sorry and wish I knew what happened. I'm sorry that I didn't keep in better touch with you after Korea. I think about those days a lot though and how much fun we had, you were a great friend, and once again I'm sorry we lost touch. Rest in Peace Chuckie. Mike
Steve Bykowicz
July 26, 2008
I have never known Charlie, but Alysia told me great things. I really wish that i would have been able to meet him. I know he would have been one of those people that when you first meet them, it just hits you that that person was an amazing person. He was obviously loved by so many. And this family means alot to me, for all they've done and it seems the least i can do to sign this book and pay my respects. This family is amazingly close, and you all are greatly blessed. I hope that everyones doing alright from your loss. Surrounding yourself with family and love is whats most important for those who are closest to you can help you get through anything.
NANA Vertino
May 11, 2008
Hi, My King! Yesterday was too difficult for me to write you...we visited you and I placed so many kisses and also tears on you...I just pray you somehow felt them...I know it was a very sad day for Tammy and I pray for peace for her and all of us somehow to go on without you; it would have been not only your birthday but your wedding day that we all looked so forward to celebrating with you and Tammy...so, my sweet boy, I know you are watching over all of us; just know nothing will ever be the same for me in my lifetime without YOU..pray for me, my King...I love you so much with all my heart..Your Nana, always and forever...
Joelle Machnica
May 10, 2008
Charlie,
It is very hard for me to write this and to wish you a Happy Birthday knowing you aren't here to celebrate with us. Visiting you today it still doesn't feel real. I wish it could just be that you are off exploring the other side of the world, instead of exploring heaven.
I hope that you are at peace and will continue to watch over us all, (expecially Nana and Papa). We may not have you here with us in person but you are always here with us in spirit and cherished memories.
Happy Birthday Little Charlie <3 you
Your Cousin ~
Sonia Lucas
May 10, 2008
Chuckster,
I wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday in Heaven!!! I will never forget a year ago to the day you were the first person to wish me a Happy Birthday, since we share the same birthdays! You always put a smile on my face...when I would see your name come up on my phone I knew instantly that a joke would arrive within seconds or you had something funny to say! When I was down and out you always turned my mood around! You have left here on earth but you will never leave the many hearts that you have touched! Now you are a guardian angel looking down!! May God bless you and your family!
Happy Birthday Chuck!
You would have turned 28 today,
If you were still here.
Although you are so far away,
Our hearts have kept you near.
Your birthday is that special day
To tell you that I care
And tell you how lost many would be
If you were never here
Your birthday is that special day
That happens once a year
And I hope you enjoy your day
Even though you can’t be here
Your birthday is important
Because of what you mean to me
One day we'll share your special day
And happiness you will see
Your birthday is a special day
Because it belongs to you
On this day I wish you lots
Of joy and happiness
For this is the day, that special day
That the entire world was blessed
Laurie Ashcroft
May 2, 2008
Time is passing by quickly and it is still so difficult accepting the fact that you are not here with us, physically. I know in my heart, you are happy and having a grand time patiently waiting to see us again!
Happy Birthday my Beloved Nephew.
Nana Vertino
May 1, 2008
Six months today without your most precious smiles and your awesome hugs, my darling Grandson.....how the time has flown but each day is full of heartbreak and sorrow. We miss you so much! This week we should be getting ready to attend your wedding and 28th Birthday on May l0th...Tammy must be in such agony.....Only God can help us now, my sweet King....God and Time....but our love for you is constant and we will all miss the treasure that was YOU forever..I write this in this memory book because I just feel I am talking to you....I just wish I could know if you are happy and I pray you are resting in peace....With all my love and all my heart, I love you my little Charlie, my King, always....Your Nana
Nana Vertino
March 31, 2008
Hi, My King...today, 4 months ago, the world still had in its midst the most loving and gracious young man and a Grandson who was adored by so many; especially his Nana.....tomorrow you left us all and why only God knows why...the hole in my heart can only be filled with precious memories...each day I remember special times with you..your smile that said, "Nana, I love you"..
To have been part of your life was God's gift to me; to cherish and treasure til I meet you in heaven my beautiful grandson; we parted too soon...I send you prayers and kisses; You already have my heart...Rest in Peace my beloved King,,,,
Mary (NANA) vERTINO
February 29, 2008
My "King"! Today was the last day 3 months ago that the world had in its presence the most...oh, I just cannot find the words, my honey boy! I am waiting by the phone always to hear those most treasured words, "Hi, My Nana!"..oh, God, just to hear them only ONCE MORE!! I am so heartbroken, Charlie....even as I talk to you now, the tears are flowing on this computer... I miss you so much the pain is not describable...just the thought that someday we will be together again keeps me going...you were and always will be the light of my life...Nana will NEVER be the same again...You took a huge part of me with you and you live in whatever part of my heart that is left..your medal is always on my neck as you wore it from the March 23rd last year when you graduated from the Police Academy...it will be with me when I come to meet you.. These past 3 months have flown by but it seems like a century since you gave me your bear hug....Please pray for all of us who grieve for you...there is a special mass for you next week and then I may be able to bring you flowers..I have not been able to do that yet; I cannot bear to see your name with Auntie Ann...such a huge trajedy, my baby boy...I love you..please be at peace; if only you could tell me that...Luv, Nana
Tanaz Gorji
February 27, 2008
I often wondered if you finaly got what you always wanted (become a police officer). I am very proud of all your achievements Chuck! You will be greatly missed.
Marilyn Kaczmarek (Charlie's Aunt)
February 18, 2008
To my dearest Charlie,
You have always been the light of my life. There was not a moment that I was not proud of anything that you have acomplished in your life. You have brought so many people happiness and put smiles on their faces including mine. My heart feels empty but it is still filled with all the loving memories that we had together. Your honor, dedication, and respect for your family, country, and friends will always live on. When I look up into a clear night sky, I see the biggest star and remember your smile and know that you are watching over us. I want to thank everyone that is in Charlie's life because if it wasn't for all of you, Charlie wouldn't be the person that he is. Love never dies, Aunt Mar.
Alisha Fisher
February 8, 2008
Charlie,
It has taken me awhile to find the strength to leave a passage in your guest book. But I knew that I wanted write down what I needed to say. We knew each other for so long and our friendship growing up will always be in my heart. When I look back on all the time we spent together it makes me smile and then makes me sad to know that you are not still here and that I won't run into you at Mammosers enjoying a beer with our Dad's, and then enjoy catching up with each others lives. I remember all of the days when the village would have their summer work family picnic... I'm not sure when our crush on each other started, but we were young. I know that I was your first kiss and I will cherish that forever. I also remember how many New Year's Eves our families spent together... We had so much fun. Its been a while since I had thought about those times, until New Years Eve this year and tears came to my eyes, and I had to walk away and take a moment. I thought of our friendship often and it would make me smile and sometimes laugh out loud, but I didn't realize until you were gone how much of a footprint it made in my life. I remember the time we dated in middle school while you still went to Frontier and then through your move to the Hamburg district. Ha Ha Ha and how you tried to convince me that I had to cheer for Hamburg Bulldogs and not The Frontier Falcons because you were my boyfriend and you went to that school now. LOL that didn't happen. I always thought of your smile when my Dad would come home and report on how you were doing as the years after high school went by.
Charlie, You had a bigger impact on my life than I realized and I guess all I have left to say is thank you! Thank you for serving our country, Thank you for the 3 hour talks on the phone (My Mom and Debbie could never get us off the phone), Thank you for the laughs, Thank you for the cries, Thank you for your smile and Thank you for your friendship!!! You will always be in my heart xOxOxO ~Alisha
Robert Fullone
February 6, 2008
Thank you,
continue to watch over your loved ones, and again,
you impressed me
Adele & Jerry Romano
January 24, 2008
My Dearest Nephew "Little Charlie",
What is spoken by me every night before I close my eyes to you, I will try to put into words for your most beautiful guest book.
Being a part of our lives for 27 years you left us with many happy memories. You left an afterglow of smiles on all you touched. You left an echo whispering softly upon us all of happy times and laughing times and your smile would make all the snow in Buffalo melt! I know you would want the tears of us who grieve for you, to dry before the sun and remember the many happy memories that you left of your life. We will so remember.
Auntie Adele and Uncle Jerry ("ROMANO" as you so called him) will never forget 2006 New Year's Eve Party at our home in Florida when you played bartender for us, your cousins, our friends (a full bar!) and "Romano" said, "think you can handle this crowd, Charlie?" You replied, "I'll make you proud, Romano". And, that is how Uncle Jerry always ended his conversation with you, "DO ME PROUD". You did, Charlie.
You and Auntie Ann's pictures hang proudly on our wall in the "Car Bar"!
You were your Nana's "KING" but you were also the "KING" amongst all of your princess cousins who, I know, will cherish your memory and carry you in their hearts and speak of you always with smiles on their faces forever and ever.
Your Auntie Adele has this funny feeling you are with your great grandfather Charlie and Auntie Ann sitting at "Heavens Bar" having a grand time!
In a word, there are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love. Your beautiful life came to an end but you died as you lived, everyone's friend. In our hearts a memory will always be kept of one we loved, and will never forget.
God bless our Little Charlie,
All of our love, Auntie Adele and Uncle Jerry "Romano" xoxoxo
Cali Heglar
January 17, 2008
Charlie,
I know that there are no words that anyone hasn't said already that describe you. I want to say thank you for being a light in my life and for all the happy memories you shared with my husband(Adam) and I. You and Tammy were so good to us, and we love you guys very much. I can't write on here all the times you made me laugh that true laugh and smile that warm smile, and the hugs, oh the heart felt hugs they touch you in a way that is unforgetable. I miss you very much and I want you to know that we were blessed to have been your friends. It hurts me to see Tammy hurting, but I know that you would want her to be kept safe, away from the "bad guys" as you called them, so I am doing my best to do what you would have wanted. God Bless you and your family and please protect us and help us find the strength and peace in our hearts. We love you, and I want you to know I always go to sleep at night never forgeting what you told me, to never go to sleep mad! Thank you for bringing so much happiness and joy to our wedding, we all had so much fun. Charlie, you were a one of a kind.
Love, Cali and Adam Heglar
Mama & Papa J
January 13, 2008
Charlie:
I have just gotten to the place I could find the words to write this. From the first time I met you I knew you were special. Your sweet smile and gentle way caught my attention right away. You were always so grateful for everything even the little things. I just want to share a few memories like the video that you could not wait to show us of you running after the bad guys as you called them. You were so proud to be a police officer. I will never forget Thanksgiving Day when we shared the things we were grateful for you said you were thankful you had found my beautiful daughter who loved you and you loved and for this family that had made you feel so special. I remember the deviled eggs you sneaked when I pretended not to see (ha! ha!) That afternoon we went to Walmart and Tammy put a Elves hat on you and how you would not take it off. We finally had to sneak it off and hide it. You looked so funny with the 2 sets of ears. But that was you making people smile. You didn't want to leave even though you had a 3 hour drive and had to work the next morning. You didn't want the day to end as if somehow you knew. You were so happy that day. I will always remember how you called and said you needed to talk to Tammy's dad and myself. The only thing we could work into your schedule was meeting for lunch at Smithfield Chicken & BBQ. As we sat down I knew what you wanted to talk about. You asked how we felt about you asking Tammy to marry you. I will never forget the way you kinda smiled and nodded your head when I said well Charlie I am going to tell you the truth I have never want a son in law. You didn't know what to say but then I said but I have always wanted a son and I would love for that to be you. You had a smile across your face as wide as possible and said I would love to be that to you. When you hugged me you hugged me like you were my son a big bear hug. Charlie you will always be our special son. Every day my heart breaks When I look at my daughter and know how she is hurting for you and know she will always love you. Charlie we are taking care of her for you like I know you would want her to be cared for. I will love her for you Charlie. As you always called us Mama & Papa J.
Laura Nimmo
January 5, 2008
I'm terribly sorry for our loss. I too served with Chuck in Minot, ND where temps are freezing but the friendships are warm & eternal. Oh the fun we had there. He always had a great smile and way to make you laugh. I'm not surprised he went on to become one of everyday hero's...a police officer. I know he must of been so proud to serve.
Danny Spaide
January 4, 2008
To Chucks Family:
I am sorry for your loss, i have known Chuck for many years now, meeting him in Minot, North Dakota and instantally becoming friends with him until this very day. I have just learned of the tragic event and i am letting ya'll know you are in my prayers and thoughts. I am very sorry for your loss and i know you miss him. I too miss him. He could make you laugh when you were down and he could be counted on as a friend when you needed him. He will be in my thoughts. God bless.
Danny
Michele Fistola Faraco
January 3, 2008
Family & Friends,
I am one of the priviledged few who got to be with Charlie from his birth to his passing and all the inbetweens that my heart holds so dear.His excitement when he would talk to me and call me Auntie Auntie(Always twice)will ring in my head and heart forever.
Thank you for all the beautiful words and memories you shared with our family.If you are reading this I do not have to tell you what being loved and loving Charlie was about.Sharing your thoughts and prayers do help at this darkest of times and will be part of our family ,always.A very bright light has gone out for all of us but can remain shining in our hearts by celebrating his life.He would have wanted us to do that.
Tony and I are so thankful for all the help and support given to us during those horrible days esp. by his "family" in Raleigh and Huntersville police dept., his "chosen" family in N.C. and for coming to Buffalo to be with us.On behalf of my family,we thank you. Michele(Auntie MIMI)and Tony (Uncle T)Faraco
Mary Vertino
January 2, 2008
This Message is to everyone who wrote so many beautiful words for my beloved Grandson, My "King"...He has left a great void in so many hearts of his friends and relatives because he was such a special young man. We have all been privileged to have known someone who was so gracious, kind and so affectionate as our "Little Charlie".. To me, his Nana, he was a huge part of my life; we wrote each other almost daily from Afganistan, from south Korea, from Iraq and from every place he was ever stationed in this country...I have every e-mail he ever wrote...my treasures now...
He has taken my heart with him and I know he is watching over me and our family and over all of you who have taken the time to honor him so eloquently...God Bless All of You.. Love, Mary (Nana)
Tammy Johnson
January 2, 2008
Baby-
What are the last words you say to or about the love of your life? I could talk of honor and dignity and all the things that he obviously possessed and lived on a daily basis. But I would rather share the Charlie my heart joined with as we pledged our love to each other.
A handprint on my heart, that's what you left - Charlie - my "Hot Cop". From the day I first saw you in the DMV to the day we toasted our future together, I knew you were one of a kind. Why else would my car tag say "CHLZANGL". (you loved that so much) That's what I was, afterall. There was no doubt who held my heart ....Your smile and your eyes would light up a room and lit up my heart.
I could not let this book be closed without my deepest expression of how blessed I was to have you in my life! My life was changed "for good" and for the better! The things you taught me.... showed me about love will live in my heart forever. I have never felt more special than when you held me and smiled at me. he times we spent at the vineyard can never be replaced. You created a fairytale that I got to live in. You loved me in a selfless way (just as you did everyone in your life) - never putting yourself first and always thinking of me, even in the smallest and most unique ways. You had a way of making me feel like I was the only girl in the room and definately the only one in your heart. I never doubted that for one second. I look at our pictures and undoubtedly, the love we shared was once in a lifetime. I always told you I dreamed of being looked at "that way" and you made that dream come true.
Its hard, at times, not to feel cheated, but I know I was so lucky to have met you and spent my life with you. I would not change it or trade it for a second. Though I would give ANYTHING in the world or of myself if you were still here with me, I would do it all over again knowing the pain I would face in the end, as that is how special my time with you was.
Always look over me, you're my angel on my shoulder now. You will live in my heart forever Charlie. There is not a day... or moment that goes by that I don't love you and miss you. I am the most fortunate girl on Earth to have been loved by you! I love you and always will.
You were an exceptional man that even you did not see within yourself how rare you were. Your smile and contagious good mood changed more people's lives than you will ever know. Your work is not done just as the list of lives you will touch is not complete. Thank-you for being my best friend. Thank-you for looking at me with "our look" and for twirling my hair. Thank-you for loving me in a way that words can't describe. You wrapped your arms around me and the world melted away. You are my love of a lifetime. It seems such an understatement to say I miss you. My heart is empty. You will live with me forever.
I am eternally grateful for my time with you. I find it hard not to question "why", but I believe God will make something so special until people for years to come will benefit from your legacy.
We shared so many good times and made so many memories. Baby, you truly are unforgettable.
I will live everyday in a way to make you proud. Thank-you for chosing me..... I am the luckiest girl in the world to have be honored with the title of your fiance.
CONNIE, MIKE,ADAM, RAECHEL & RAEGAN SMITH (TAMMY'S COUSIN)
December 21, 2007
TO TAMMY AND CHARLIE'S FAMILY
OUR FAMILY IS SO SADDEN BY THE LOST OF CHARLIE. HE WAS COMPASIONATE, FUN AND LOVED LIFE. FROM THE VERY FIRST MOMENT WE MET HIM, WE INSTANTLY FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM. YOU COULDN'T RESIST. THE MOMENT TAMMY INTRODUCED HIM TO US, HE BECAME FAMILY. WE WILL ALWAYS THINK OF HIM AS SUCH. HE WAS SUCH A WONDERFUL PERSON. TO TAMMY AND THE FISTOLA FAMILY. WE WILL MISS CHARLIE DEEP WITHIN OUR HEARTS, FOREVER.
Laurie Ashcroft
December 21, 2007
I can only feel heartbroken with the loss of my nephew. Little Charlie was an amazing young man who touched so many lives.
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.
Terri Ferrari
December 19, 2007
To Fistola, Vertino, Romano families:
I am so sorry for your terrible loss. I didn't know Charlie, but felt as if I did through Jerry & Adele. Please accept my apologies for not attending the wake/funeral, as I did not find out until last night. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Tammy & Charlie dancing at Cali's Wedding (Oct 27, 2007)
Jennifer Jenkins
December 18, 2007
To those who knew Charlie - we were forever changed by a man who shared so much of his spirit, love and kindness to each and every person that was fortunate enough to cross paths with Charlie. His life but brief was not without purpose - God used him in many ways - and now we are left to live out our lives as reflections of having been impacted by the blessings he gave to us. Tammy please know that you are in my heart & prayers - I wanted to post these two pictures from Cali's wedding - you just can't help but see how much He loves you -
Sara Herniman
December 16, 2007
I had no idea about this tradgedy until just now. I remember Chucky from middle and high school as a kind person with a big heart. My thoughts go out to his friends and family. He will always be remembered.
Carrie Heim
December 15, 2007
Chuck,
I still can't believe it, I just heard today. We had some good times in Raleigh, I'll never forget you coming out with all of us for my birthday and when I got accepted into Durham's academy. It's one thing to lose someone you knew personally, but to lose another officer is always hard. God bless you and your family.
Chuck at sensetivity training
December 13, 2007
Earthshine2
December 13, 2007
Earthshine!
December 13, 2007
At RPD Academy
December 13, 2007
Chuck getting ready to graduate from RPD academy!
December 13, 2007
Louis Urrabazo
December 13, 2007
My sympathies and condolences go out to his family, friends. I had the privelage of being Chuck's roomate in Minot and let me say he was truly a remarkable person. We had are goodtimes and together we got through the bad times. I will miss him and he will never be forgotten, my prayers are with you little buddy. BAZO
December 12, 2007
Adam Little
December 12, 2007
Fistola,
I miss you bro. State Fair Time!!!! State Fair Time!!!!!
Madeline Moskal
December 12, 2007
Well to start, I didn't know Charlie, but from what i've heard, he was an amazing person. I know he was loved, alot, ecspecially by his cousin Alysia. I know what a loss is like. Try and keep your chins up. Both Charlie & your family are in my prayers.
Love, Madeline Moskal.
Tyler Medlin
December 12, 2007
Simple words cannot fill the void that is left in everyone’s life left by this tragedy. I have had the opportunity to meet many of the wonderful people that were a part of Charles's life, and I know that he is loved, honored, and will be missed.
Although times are hard now and the road that must be traveled are dark, I know that I will remember that Charles as the happy, dedicated, loyal, efficient, and effective officer that road in the car with me everyday.
Know that you have the thoughts and prayers of the Huntersville Police Dept., Patrol Watch 4, and those of my wife and myself.
There is an appropriate time for mourning and grief, but know that the light of Charles's life will always warm and comfort those who knew him.
Our prayers are with you.
Chris & Robyn Herndon
December 12, 2007
Please accept our deepest sympathies. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Eric Hinton
December 11, 2007
I really enjoyed my time in the 88th academy with you man. You were a great person and an even better friend. I will never forget the good times we were able to have. You will truly be missed, but I hope to see you again soon one day. Rest In Peace brother.
Alysia Vertino
December 10, 2007
Charlie,
my cousin, my hero. I love you and im gunna miss you more than words can say. you had the best personality of anyone i've known. always smiling, i'll never forget that. your an amazing person. and i was thankful enough to have you in my life. iloveyou. may angels lead you in.<3
Shirley Stallings, Tammy's Aunt
December 10, 2007
Tammy and the Fistola Family:
My heart aches as I think about the loss of such a precious life. I was constantly impressed with Charlie's eagerness to live life to the fullest, help wherever he could and spread his happiness around to others. To know Charlie, was to love him. He left a lasting impression on everyone he met with that huge smile and twinkle in his eyes. I am thankful and feel blessed that my life was touched by his. I only wish I could see him one last time to tell him what a special person he was and tell him how much he meant to so many people. God keep you in his care and I know that you will be reunited with him one day.
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