She was a loving graceful woman. Who will be missed by all who knew her. My prayers are with the family
Aunt Lois, you will be missed.
You are the last of the generation. Father Robert, Aunt Joyce and now you. We will miss the family that has been such an inspiration to us all, and will remember with fondness, our youthful days with our extended family. Thank you for sharing Sunday dinners, your menagerie of farm animals and the puppy midnight, who became our lifetime companion on Parsons Drive. Memories that will last another lifetime.
Attorney at Law, Troy, Michigan
Eulogy for Lois Parsons
Recited at Bridgeport United Methodist Church
March 22, 2014
My family has asked these words be express in memory of Lois Bernice Long, Snyder, Parsons. I thank them for the honor of being here. I also know with Lois watching, I'd better get it right.
Lois provided a steadfast presence in our world for nearly 93 years. Over the last few years her physical presence slowly diminished, her world grew smaller but in her time she embedded herself in our family, this community and I would guess, around the world. Truly, we are better for it
There is no way to capture the breadth of her impact on us in a few short minutes. Lois began her Bridgeport adventure in 1941 teaching in a one room schoolhouse a little over a mile east of here. She married our father and raised five children just up the road. After my father's passing she remarried, gained three more children, only to outlive her second husband as well. She built a home on Petrie Rd where she lived an enthusiastic retirement from teaching in Chittenango. She's been an stalwart member of this church, a responsible citizen of the Town of Sullivan and lived a thoughtful, purposeful life.
So to capture as much as I can, I would like to offer reflections on a list of descriptive words commonly used when speaking of Lois Parsons.
Articulate – She had a life long affair with the English Language. To her, words were a hobby, etymology an entrigue and grammar a priority. She understood the art of conversation and used language for flair and effect. Things weren't “Okay”, rather she would say, "Everything's copacetic”.
Stalwart – From choosing to be a farmer's wife to cross country skiing at 88, Lois met her life challenges with an infectious strength of body and spirit. The "outdoorsy type", she loved driving a tractor but never cared for a riding lawn mower. She cross-country skied and ran a snow blower in our worst winters. For her 87th birthday she asked for a 10 Foot step ladder to paint the house. (I said no to that one). Even in her last few months, when an instructor failed to show at her exercise class, she stepped up and led the class through the routines.
Prudent – “Be prudent” she would say to her teenagers as they walked out the door. She lived that way and wanted it for us. Her life of restraint was not a means, but an end in itself. She lived simply and took advantage of the benefits.
Steadfast – Lois loyally participated in and led the Town of Sullivan Parks & Rec exercise program, faithfully worked in the library across the street and gladly contributed as a member of this church, all for a period of decades. She was a willing & loyal friend to many and as reliable as anyone could ask.
Enthusiastic – There is a video of my 4 year old grandson playing “Where's Goldilocks” with Nana about 4 weeks ago. It was a variation on Hide & Seek. Lois managed to get herself sitting on the floor in her closet to hide. We all miss the Christmas Tree she lit in the middle of the field near her house. That tree took more than a little effort each year. I've regularly received phone calls to direct me to look at the moon, she always had a kite nearby and few birds went unnoticed. She lived life in enthusiastic play.
Adventuresome – We all know she has traveled extensively, but did you know her adventures started at an early age. She loved leaving the city as a child to visit a farm in Borodino where her brother worked; so much so that the family let her stay on. At 15 she was in the Adirondacks living on her own. She was looking for work at a restaurant but had to wait a few weeks until she turned 16 to start. The family car top was loaded every summer so we could spend vacations camping at Fish Creek Campgrounds. She drove four kids and a camper trailer from Bridgeport to San Francisco and back to visit our sister back in 1966. She started her retirement hiking to the bottom of the Grand Canyon and from there, the travel bug got worse. Once she met her sister, Joyce, at the Arctic Circle just by chance. She even hitched a ride on a cargo ship from Venezuela to Florida.
Grateful – Lois knew who she was, what she had and what she meant to us. She accepted all those gifts with a clear demonstration of gratitude. This wasn't something she paraded around, but any simple discussion with her revealed it. She appreciated the people in her life and held a respect for everyone.
Independent – She didn't want help caring for her home, had no sense of entitlement and to the last, managed her life as long as she could. In her most weakened state “I want to do it myself” was her cry. Independent thinking and independent living were the roots of her world view and her life philosophy. She was here to be of service, not a burden, and held her independence as a hallmark of her life.
On this day, as we remember Lois, understand she is not here, but she is not gone. Lois is embedded in our community, this church and she is especially embedded in our family.
I can see her progeny from here. Among them are the Articulate who write for a living and have a thing for grammar. They are Stalwart athletes and hard working people. There are the Prudent, given to moderation & restraint in their daily lives. They are Steadfast counted on by their peers.
Enthusiasm is rampant.
They are the Adventurers, risk takers, world travelers....
Grateful? ….I know I am.
...Thank you Lois
So Ma, we appreciate your efforts here, We know it's time for you to move on to your new adventure.
I knew Lois just a few years through the Chittenango Osteo Exercise Class. She always had a smile and a cheerful word.She will be missed by all who knew her.Her family was very blessed to have had her for so very long I their lives.
I am sorry for your loss. Lois was a Wonderful lady! I will always remember when I was swimming in Oneida Lake one summer and she came over us in a hot air balloon! I think of her every time I swim there. I feel blessed to know her.