• Volusia Memorial Funeral Home
    Ormond Beach, FL
In partnership with the Dignity Memorial® network
Anne Jinkins Tolleson 1931 - 2014

Anne Jinkins Tolleson

This Guest Book has been kept online until 2/24/2015 by Volusia Memorial Funeral Home.
Saturday, February 08, 2014
To the family--to know Anne was to know the meaning of love. She loved everything or a least didn't let you know if she didn't- like something or somebody. She was always so hospitable, always asking what she could do for you. Not letting you hardly do anything for yourself. Always had a listening year even though she couldn't hear you. Maybe that's why she was so loving. If she had one fault, it was, apparently, that she couldn't throw anything away. I remember she would tell me "it's in the freezer" omg---where??. Anne was and is a blessing to this family and all her many friends. Yes, she will be missed greatly, but I feel she would tell us to get on with the rest of ours lives and live it with the love she showed to us. God Bless---Skip Adamson
Thursday, February 06, 2014
Anne was a special lady. She will me missed. We're so sorry for your loss

Arnold & Luci Marfoglia
Wilbur by the Sea
Wednesday, February 05, 2014
To those who, like me, were wondering why my thoughts were not read with the rest of my family during my mother's funeral, I thought I would post what I emailed the funeral home that never made it to the minister's hands.

Lynn Tolleson Goodfriend Jan 30 at 3:02 PM

I could have written you a book about how wonderful my mom is - filled with stories of what an amazing woman she was. In fact, I almost did when I was writing down ideas. But then I realized that when it came down to it, I would be telling you things that most people knew. What could I tell you that I knew was extraordinary - why was my mom so special to me? It's the things that carry so much emotion when I remember them:

My mom loved her family memebers - but she loved loving them - and she had a special relationship with each of us. She was the only grandmother I knew who would roll around on the bed with the kids until they were both bellylaughing. She would get on the floor to play with the kids instead of watching them play from an adult chair and commenting on their activities. She participated.

She taught us to play games she liked and always made time to sit down and play with me as a kid and my own kids. She taught me to love games - to be a good sport and a fun competitor…to enjoy competition but never take it to heart - games were fun - a good way to bond. She and Dad made it a priority to play games together alot - whether it was 8 ball on the pool table or gin rummy. I grew up hearing laughter and pretend complaints at how the other was winning, and it made the house seem homier and more fun. My parents not only loved each other…they really liked each other's company. And after they had some time to play a game or two to wind down, then we were often invited to play a game or two.

Mom felt emotion for others, and through example I learned what compassion was. I remember occasionally seeing her get tears in her eyes as she watched the news when something particularly concerning came on. It was not until I was a parent that I truly understood how she felt. Occasionally, Mom would be overcome with joy when her favorite hymn was played in church.

My mom taught me it was ok to laugh in frustration - a tool that probably kept us all from losing our minds. Mom and I are accident prone, so we have the choice to laugh or cry quite often. Delivery is important, but the more ridiculous and filled with bad luck or bad timing, the funnier it can be. We laughed alot in our family.

Family reunions were always a big deal. Mom would come alive when she reunited with family or her best friends who were treated like family. We all bonded with funny stories, especially the ones that got better every year. You could see her eyes relax when she was at home with others…she smiled alot and I could tell that the joy on others' faces when she walked into a room was genuine. I guess we are blessed. I found out as I grew up that many families could not stand to be in the same room for long. In our family, it was only a matter of time before someone screamed in laughter, food was being brought out and the room was full of conversation. And I learned mom would never remember much of what I was saying if I called and her best friend Dottie was in the room. They were high on life - and most likely the dark chocolate they loved sharing together.

But the biggest lesson I learned from mom was to choose someone you love life with and to live life together while you have it. She and Dad moved to Daytona Beach and have been tan and happy and in a good mood for the most part ever since. They chose surf fishing over surfing the internet. Gardened and walked on the beach - looking up the new birds they saw over sitting in a chair and observing nature on the Animal planet. They called their friends and had them visit - sent notes in the mail instead of facebooking or email. ...did what they loved. And it paid off. Happiness and prayer and a lot of salt air is a healer like no other.

Surely I think of things that I wished I could have told you to know my mom. But what really matters was that I loved her. She made me feel important. And she gave me a family that is more special to me than anything else on earth. I remember her smile and how my heart filled with love when she hugged me. My mom was a good mom. And although she has big shoes to fill, I will sure love trying to fill them anyway. As much as I wish I had more time with her, she is in good company now - reunited with family waiting at the gates to see her arrive. If there weren't boiled peanuts and a spread of food in heaven before, you can bet there is now. A celebration is going on as she reunites with the people she loves again. I miss you so much. Thank you for being my mom.
Tuesday, February 04, 2014
What can I say..Anne was a very important part of my life. She was always there to love a support me. My daughter, Tonya, mentioned she always looked deeply into your eyes and listened intently as though you were the most important person she knew. She made everyone feel this way. We'll alway remember and love her for the beautiful person she was.
Monday, February 03, 2014
Dear Charlie and family,
It makes me sad to know the world is without Anne. She was a bright light. Not long ago, we viewed photos and video from days-gone-by, and those memorable New Year's Eve parties of yesteryear. It reminded me of the happy times my parents shared with you and other friends. The slideshow is a great tribute to Anne's memory. Thank you for posting!
Please accept my sincere condolences.
Send Sympathy Flowers Now
Click Here

In partnership with FTD

Related Memorial Sites

Guest Book Photos

Honor the memory of your loved one

Keep this Guest Book online by purchasing a sponsorship. By doing this, you'll be giving the family, and loved ones a place to express their feelings, and share their memories any time they'd like in the months and years ahead.
Hold on to the beautiful thoughts and memories shared by friends and loved ones with a full color, professionally printed and bound keepsake.
Create a lasting legacy with a memorial website.
Express your condolences by sending flowers.
©2014 Legacy.com. All rights reserved. Guest Book entries are free and are posted after being reviewed for appropriate content. If you find an entry containing inappropriate material, please contact us.