• Brown-Wynne Funeral Home
    Raleigh, NC
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Dr. Stephen Thomas Gupton Jr. 1931 - 2012

Dr. Stephen Thomas Gupton Jr.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012
I was so sorry to hear about Dr. Gupton passing. I am a nephew of Dr. Allen and I have found memories of many of our fishing adventures aboard the Sea Hag. I am so thankful that I had an opportunity to visit with Tom at Uncle Roy's funeral. All of the great men that I had the opportunity to fish with allowed me to be a better man and father and I will always be very grateful.
Friday, November 16, 2012
While I'm deeply saddened about the passing of my Dad, I'm also extremely proud of his life and the way he lived it. I spoke at his funeral service and following is an excerpt of what I said:

How do you measure the worth of a life? Is it in years? My Dad died when he was 81, but scientists say the universe is billions of years old, so 81 is not very much. Do you measure a life by how much money you make? My Dad was a doctor, so he did pretty well for himself. But as my grandmother Jane used to say, “You won't see a U-haul behind a hearse.” So money isn't it. What is it then, what is the measure of a life? Well, look around you… It's about family -- Tom Gupton married the love of his life, Helen, my mom, and they had six children together. And those children went out in the world, got married and had 16 grandchildren. It's about friendship. My Dad cherished spending time with friends -- whether it was going fishin' at the beach with his buddies, having a cup of soup at the club, or even just going to the grocery store and saying “Hi” to the neighbors. And for nearly 40 years, it was about his patients. Dr. Gupton cared for thousands of patients from all over the state. But to him, they weren't just patients, they were like family. So what can we learn from him? I think it's simple: Live your life with purpose -- Do the right thing. Make the right choices. Make time for family and friends. Try talking instead of texting. Hold open the door for a stranger. Help your neighbors. Help make this world a better place. My Dad did.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
I love you Dad! May you now rest in peace. Thank you to my siblings that helped care for him these past 8 months, especially Diane. The service today was a wonderful tribute to a great man. It was an honor to be his son. You will be missed.

Thank you to all his family and friends able to attend For those unable to attend the service here are comments in tribute to a loving father -

Tribute to Our Father

We gather here today to pay tribute and honor a truly remarkable man – our father. He was a loving husband and father who had a big heart. He was an accomplished physician that blazed the trail for others in the Raleigh medical community in the field of neurology, which was a new specialty at the time he was coming out of medical school. Yet with all of his success and accomplishments, he always remained a humble man that spoke few words but left behind a lasting legacy in the profession he loved and with a loving and devoted family – his wife and our mother, 6 children (3 sons and 3 daughters) and (16 grandchildren).

When we were young, Dad would leave home for work before the sunrise and often never return before the sunset. During the middle of the night, when the phone rang – he was always there to answer it. It was usually an emergency call from the hospital. One of his patients had been hurt. Even though he was exhausted from a long work day, he would rise from bed and travel to the hospital to care for his patients. That is just who he was. Never thinking of himself, but of his patients he loved to care for and help heal their ailments. All of this occurring while his children slept. His work and success helped provide many opportunities for us. It is something we will always be grateful to him as we would not be who we are today without his guiding hand.

Growing up we never appreciated or understood the endless hours he spent at work seeing countless patients at the hospital or office. It was only years later when we had families of our own and began our careers did we come to appreciate the dedication and sacrifice he made for his family. He provided his children with every opportunity to succeed in life, yet he never pushed us to follow him into the field of medicine. He realized each of us needed to find our own path, our own calling. The most important thing was to choose a career and spouse you loved and cared for

One of his other passions was the beach. It was a place of tranquility and solitude for him. He could spend hours gazing at the ocean and soaking up all of the sounds and the sun. At the beach life is different, time does not move from hour to hour but mood to moment. At the beach, we live by the current, plan by the tides and follow the sun. During the summer months, we would go down to the beach nearly every weekend and spend our summer vacation there. Dad loved to go fishing with us and spending the days on the ocean enjoying all life had to offer. It was a place of solitude for him.

Our dad was a fighter. In 1971 we were traveling back from the beach he loved. That was when he had his first major heart attack. He was sent to Rex and then Duke Hospital where they were able to save him. It was when he was in the prime of his life. For a brief moment in time his heart had stopped. It was then he saw a glimpse of heaven, but God knew he had more to offer this Earth, more he needed to do for his family and patients. Dad always viewed the days and years he had after that time as a blessing. On Friday, November 9, he passed away at that same Duke Hospital nearly 40 years later knowing he was able to see his children grow up, walk his daughters down the aisle in marriage and sons become men and marry to start families of their own.

We leave you with these parting thoughts from a poem posted on the Internet written by a child to his father that passed away in 2008 -

Now God has called upon you
It's time to get your wings
To leave this world behind you,
And enjoy all of heavens beautiful things,
So wait for me in heaven Dad,
Don't let me come alone,
The day the angels come for me,
Please be there to bring me home.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
To the Gupton Family I pray that through your time of bereavement God strengthen you at this time. Pinkie, Raleigh Dilysis Clinic
Thursday, November 15, 2012
I will truly miss Dr. Gupton. He always came into the Radiology department with a smile. He was one of a kind. I enjoyed working with him and learning from him. My deepest sympathy to the entire Gupton family
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