Alice and Joe were wonderful loving friends and Godparents..Alice wil be fondly remembered Darlene Barnett
Dear Joe, Michael, Cindy, and Joey,
My heartfelt condolences go out to all of you as I learn of Alice's passing. I have many great memories growing up on Wilshire Terrace of Alice always opening up the door for me and letting me in to chat while I waited for Joey to get home to play ball. She was a gracious, thoughtful, and wonderful lady who will truly be missed.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Eddie Fritz Jr., Los Angeles
Mrs Bante was more than a friend's mother to me - more like a combination of gracious hostess, compassionate woman, and comfort food. When Mike and I started out to work each morning for 3 years during High School, and again when we returned sweaty and grimy, often full of paint and sawdust, at the end of each St Louls hot Summer day, she would invite us to enjoy her latest concoction which, if refused, was replaced with a sandwich or other repast as appealed to us. I learned eventually to accept her first offering because she would only work more to prepare just what we might like. This gentle woman's quick smile communicated remembrance immediately as she returned from the store to find me chatting with Joe, my having returned for a visit 35 years later...and offered me me coffee and cake even before removing her scarf.
Pr 31:26, 30 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels..Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Dear Coach Joe; Your mother must have been a wonderful woman - because she has a wonderful son in you. The proof is in the pudding! So sorry for your loss. We are all praying for you. Michael Clark and Family (Webster Groves Tigers)
Joe and Family,
My condolences on the passing of your mother. Heaven has gained another Irish Angel.
Letter to Joe(son):
Dear Joe, Mary, Henry, Owen and Daisy,
I am very sorry but also happy for your parents and entire family on the passing of your mom. I cannot imagine what you all had to go through and know from other friends who have had similar situations how hard it can be. I am sure your mom is at peace and I am sure she had a free pass to Heaven. Although I never met your mom, I am sure she was a wonderful woman just from knowing the fine people that both you and your dad are. I think it is great how close you are with your parents, I think the relationship you see between parents and children says a lot about a person, from looking at the Bante's I would have to say you are all excellent people. I think the St. Patrick's Day passing is an extra bonus and for all of you to be at home is the absolute best part.
I know that losing a parent can be pretty tough but you always have the great memories and I think that your dad will be able to move forward with his life again, I am looking forward to seeing him back at the games. I think you will be amazed tomorrow at the wake, you will see tons of people and hear stories about your mom that you have never heard before and you will hear new versions of stories you have heard hundreds of times from all her friends and family.
I truly hope that all goes as smoothly as possible for you and all your family.
Her friend Flo is welcoming her with open arms.
Note to Sarah:
Sarah, so sad to hear about your grandmother's passing. She was a beautiful and gracious woman.
Note written to Sarah:
I'm so sorry for your loss, Sarah. Your granny was a wonderful lady...so funny and nice and great to talk to. I'll never forget the wonderful times I had with her and your whole family at Pere Marquette. She always had something sweet to say to me. I remember she told me that I had a "lovely profile". That made me so happy - it's not a compliment one gets often! I'll always remember her kindness and happy spirit. I loved every moment.
Note to Sarah:
I've only met your grandmother once but when I met her she was so sweet and kind. She sat in her thoughts but observed us all with a kind response and how proud she was to see kids behave so well. I have too lost my grandmother around this time last year and know the feeling. She's in a beautiful place now and can rest. She will always be with you in spirit! Blessings to you, your grandmother and family.
All out thoughts and prayers go out to you tonight, Granny. You were such a strong, educated, and beautiful person. You were an exceptional daughter, sister, wife, mother grandmother, friend, and an all around fantastic, cheery person. I will always have wonderful memories of you trying to make us grandkids the best that we could be. It wasn't a mistake that you passed away on St. Patrick's day. Up until the end you were a strong, faithful, and stubborn Irish and everyone loved you so much. Thanks for everything, Granny! Rest peacefully in heaven, tonight and always.
Letter to the Cluff family from neighbors/friends:
Thinking of you during this time. Hopefully you will find some peace from family and friends.
I am sorry for your loss, she was very kind and I know that you will dearly miss her.
Letter to Cindy:
So sorry for the passing of your Mom. No words will help at this time but prayers to you and your family.
Steve Connelly and staff
Letter to the Cluff's:
We are so sorry for the loss of your mother/Granny. We hope you find comfort in the beautiful memories of a beautiful women, inside and out.
A letter written to Cindy:
My Dad passed on the sad news about your Mom and I just wanted to pass on my prayers. It naturally got me thinking about the many happy memories I have of her.
A special trip to Union Station, in particular, stood out to me. I wasn't even in middle school when your Mom and Dad took Joe, Tom, Kate, Christine and I all the way downtown in their 5 seater car with me sandwiched between them up front. I was absolutely elated to be hanging out with the big kids, especially Kate and Christine. It was only at the insistence of your Mother that I was included. Looking back, it meant the world to me that she thought to include me. She managed to quell my middle child syndrome and make me feel like an individual amongst a very large family. Her Alzheimer's seems almost ironic to me now because my fondest memory of her is remembering. Remembering to include me, remembering my individuality, and remembering to always make me feel important.
Your Mother is a truly wonderful person. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.
Letter written to Cindy:
I know you have been having a really rough & stressful time with your mom's
health even before today. Tom & I were just waiting for your phone call with the
news. While we knew it would most likely be soon it was still very sad &
painful. She was a wonderful woman with a big heart & though she talked an awful
lot all her words were kind & generous & lovely down to the last syllable. She
was gracious & always had a smile on her face. It will be sad to come into town
& not see her anymore but I know she's at rest now & found the peace she
deserves to have. It sounded beautiful that she got to go with Sarah playing her
music & surrounded by great company, all of whom I'm sure were just surrounding
her with deep love.
I'm glad Tom is able to go home & spend time with you & the rest of the family.
I am so sorry that I won't be able to make it into town this week with him. I
plan on asking my manager & other nurses if I can possibly switch my schedule
with someone but since I'm a traveler I don't get sick time or personal time to
take off. I feel terrible not being able to come in with Tom. Either way, if I
come into town or am stuck here my deepest condolences go out to you, Sarah,
your dad, your brothers, & all your other family members. This is where I'm
giving you a very large electronic hug through the computer :)
I'll talk to you soon, wish I could be there with all of you now.
We will always miss Alice. I loved her more than you could ever know. She was a very special person in my life.
My sister Kathy was born club footed and had to undergo a series of operations to correct her problem. All of this occurred well before Cindy or Mike was born. On those weekends, when my mom and dad had to be with her, I spent the weekends alternately with Nana Re and with Joe and Alice. On weekends with Joe and Alice, they became my surrogate parents, spoiling me with trips to state parks and chocolate treats. When I was very young I had a speech impediment and on one weekend stay, Alice worked with me. Upon returning home, I announced to my parents, "I don't say 'Uttel' anymore. I put my tongue behind my teeth and say 'little'!" There were many instances when Alice and Joe stepped up to help me when I needed it, and they are way too modest to have ever told anyone ... but I am forever indebted!
Alice was one of the most beautiful, capable, intelligent, cultured ladies I have ever known! What a role model she has been for all the Bante girls. Nana Re, Alice, and Joe had a significant impact on my life and, at least in my mind, I have fused together the Weiss and Bante families as one.
Connie and I were sincerely saddened by your mother's passing. Joe and Alice have been great friends to both of us since we moved to Wilshire Terrace in 1985. We regret not being able to be in St. Louis for Alice's service.
Our very best to Joe and the entire family.
Joe and Family,
Alice will be missed not only by her family but by her many friends, made during a long and productive life. I loved viewing the photo gallery and seeing Alice from childhood through proud parent and grandparent.
A great gal! A great friend for almost 55 years.
Patricia Barrett (Fellow Speech Therapist, Webster Groves Schools)
My condolences to the Bante family. I had Mrs. Bante for an Oral Communications class c.1988 @ STLCC-Meramec. I recall her enthusiasm.
Dear Joe & Mary Bante Family,
We are extremely saddened by your loss. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with your, your family and friends.
Dear Joe, all of us at "6734" offer Our sincere condolences. You and Alice have been such a support to us. We are happy to help in any way we can . Sincerely, Bee, Dan and the rest.
Joe and Family, We are sorry for your loss. Your family is in our
thought's and prayers. The Wilhelm's WG Missouri
Joe, Mary and Family, You and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers. May the many, many, wonderful memories bring you some comfort at this time and the days ahead. In Sympathy and Friendship. Jayne
I am sorry for your loss. I always enjoyed visiting with Alice when I came to St. Louis to visit my parents.
My sympathies to the Bante family. Alice was one of my favorite college instructors--brilliant as she was caring. Truly a wonderful woman and I know she'll be missed but always fondly remembered.
Dear Joe and Family,
We were so sad to learn of Alice's passing. If we weren't outside when Alice was making her walking rounds of Wilshire Terrace, and we caught of glimpse of her through the window heading our way, we made a point of popping out for an always worthwhile chat. She was a truly extraordinary person - so full of curiosity, ideas and joy. We will so miss our delightful visits with her.
Dear Joe & Family,
My heart is heavy today as I learned of Alice's passing. It's hard to imagine a sweeter lady ever walked the earth. Always a kind word and gifted with an incredible amount of patience that came in handy as young Joe and I grew up togehter. I truly feel privileged to have known her.
My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family.
Dear Joe and Family:
It is with the deepest sympathy that Etele and I extent our condolences.
Alice was a wonderful person, and I am sure she will be long remembered in your thoughts.
I can't help but remember Mike, or as I called him, Mr. Dohertry, and the great times we had in the office. How time flies.
May God bless you and keep you well.
Louis and Etele Kohn
Dear Joe and Family:
It is with great sympathy that my wife and I extend our deepest sympathy.
Alice was a wonderful person, and I know she will live forever in your memories.
I can't help from remembering Mike, or as I called him, Mr. Doherty, and the great times we had in the office.
My how time flies, but the memories are strong.
May God bless you and keep you.
Louis and Etele Kohn
We have warm memories of times spent with Alice and Joe as our boys grew up together at Clark School. We treasured Alice's cheerful and loving Irish personality and will keep her in our fondest memories.
Wishing Joe and all the family peace,
Mary & Jerry Phelan
Professor Bante taught me in several communications classes at Meramec in the early 1980's. I took every class that she taught. She was a fantastic teacher and always took a personal interest in my progress. I owe her a great deal for encouraging me to stick with it. My sympathy is with her family . She was a first class person and educator.
Was so glad I got to know Alice through Tom and Lindsay. Wonderful lady, very thoughtful and caring. I'm sure she was very proud of the family she raised.