I missed having you call me today singing Happy Birthday for the 2nd year in a row. Last year I was numb, but this year I feel the loss even more. You weren't just a sister, but a best friend who I could share everything. This is the last note I can send to you, but every so often I can feel your presence and know you are looking down on all of us. We reached the 1 year anniversay of your leaving us yesterday, but the pain never seems to go away. I have the satisfaction of knowing you knew how much I loved you and you will always be in my heart forevermore.
Hi Mom - All week I planned that waking up today - the anniversary of your passing - would be paralyzing. However, when I woke today, I didn't feel that sense of grief and loss that I was expecting. And then it hit me....I feel that EVERY day, so today is no different. There is a void in my life now that you are gone. While I am the same person, I am different and forever changed now that I don't have you in my life to give me strength. I miss you terribly and think of you daily. I love you very much. Please watch over me and guide me.
Mom, I miss you terribly today. I sit and think about where I was on 12/14/10 and I can't believe that almost one year has passed. I think about you every day. I don't know that I'll ever be able to get over that you are gone. I miss talking to you and hearing your words of wisdom. I miss telling you things that are going on in my life....the good, the bad, the ugly. I miss sharing wonderful experiences that I think you'd be proud of me. I know you are watching over me and Casey and Payton and at times I wonder what you are thinking.
I'm still angry.....I'm angry that you left me too early in your life and that I didn't have the time to spend with you as I had hoped.
Just know that I haven't moved on and I haven't forgotten about you.
Love you always,
I can't even say Happy Thanksgiving. This has been the most difficult week I've spent since the week you left us. Every day since Tuesday has been a knife in my heart, knowing we would have arrived at your house that day, start playing cards right away along with a "welcome drink". Today on Thanksgiving is most unbearable for me, just knowing all of our happy times are gone. I remember walking with you last year and you said you wouldn't know what you would do if something happened to me. I in turn said the same about you never dreaming it would be you instead of me leaving. I visited the cemetery last week just to feel close to you. I just miss all the laughing and sharing our most intimate thoughts with each other. Hopefully, next year will be a little easier but never forgetting the memories we had together.
Mom....I love you and miss you more than you can imagine. I am going though a lot right now and I miss being able to talk through things with you....hearing your words of wisdom, I sit and perspective. Granted my decisions were always mine to make, but you were always there to guide me. Knowing you had my back made me feel more secure. Now...without you...I feel lost. I love you mom and I miss you so much.
Just writing to sing Happy Half Birthday to you. Missing you always!
Ha bir to yu, ha bir to yu. Ha bir dea Bren, ha bir to yu. Love you sister!
Happy 25th anniversary Brenda.
It was six months on Tuesday, June 14th that you left us for a better place. Life will never be the same for me without sharing everyday happenings with you. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes just thinking of you.
Happy Birthday Brenda
I miss you.
Mom - I really wanted to talk to you today. Scratch that...I really want to talk to you every day. Life isn't the same. I love you and I miss you so much. Love, Nikki
I can't process the thought that Brenda is no longer leading some group somewhere to tennis triumphs. She was always a delight to be around. We had a "remembering Brenda party" at Nanci's house on Wednesday with some of the core tennis friends. It was so good to laugh about Brenda's special personality traits, her habits and wonderful qualities. We all loved her in Hilton Head and missed her since she left. I can't stop thinking of her.
Love to Bob, Lisa Houck
Hi Bob, Such sad news, impossible to comprehend since she was so young and vital! We will always remember her and you on the courts, playing so marvelously! We hope you will find consolation in all the rich memories. Fond wishes, Loring and Marillyn Ensign
im very sadden by the news, i remember brenda from the days i was playing on her USTA team and she was so postive all the time she was a true role model for me and she was alwayss smiling and truly a wonderful lady
Bob, It is still hard to believe. I've thought of Brenda everyday and many times during the day since we talked. It just doesn't seem real because she was so full of life and strived to get the most out of life. Brenda always had a positive outlook and made others around her feel good. She will be missed by everyone. Brenda was a good person. Danah and Dan McGrath
Merry Christmas to Heaven's newest angel. I love you, mom. I miss you, mom, but I am comforted knowing that you are watching over us (we better be on our best behavior - ha!). Please watch over Bob and give him the strength to start to live again and establish a "new normal". Please guide me through life and all of the challenges I face. And in the wise words of Nattie, "go have fun with God".
Brenda & I became friends in the 1st grade at St. Gabriel in Gledale. We made our First Communion together. We were Confirmed together and we witnessed each other's weddings at St. Gabriel. I will miss Brenda's smile, laugh, warmth, positive attitude, and her free-spirit. We extend our sympathy to Bob, Tracey, Nikki, Barry, Sherri, Todd, Brenda's grandchildren, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and dear friends. Love, Janet Rose & Terrence Emil Honerlaw
Brenda’s energy and sheer forcefulness of life drew everyone near her to her – like a beacon. She was such a constant and positive influence on her world and on those of us who shared portions of it - even if only occasionally or for just a little while. She inspired us in a single direction – toward trying our best, toward being at our best, and having a great time doing it! Bob, I know no words can fill the void, but I hope you are comforted in the knowledge that she is forever etched in the hearts and minds of the countless people she influenced.
We love you so much Brenda. All the wonderful times we shared, you, Bobby B, Bunny and me. I miss you and wish we had more time to share. Whenever I see a bright star in the sky, I will know you are looking down on me with your wonderful big smile. It was always hard to say goodbye, but this is the hardest. I love you Brenda.
We were saddened to hear of the passing of Brenda. We met her briefly at our class reunion and only chatted for a moment. I know loss is great, but we are certain that you have a lot of precious memories to help you through this time of grief. Our prayers are with you and for the soul of Brenda.
Dear Nikki, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother. She was a beautiful lady and must have been a great Mom because she raised a kind and considerate daughter! Please know that your "Allstate family" keeps you our thoughts and prayers.
Bob, even though I never met your wife, I am sure she was a very special person. May you find comfort in the days to come in memories of your life together and the fact that many are grieving with you. Barbara (Buchanan) Beyerlein
Bob I am truly saddened with your loss. When I meet Brenda at the class reunion she was just full of life and enegy. She will cetrainly be missed by all that knew her. Bill Maybaum (Arizona)
I am so sorry to know of your loss. This is very sad news and my thoughts and my prayers will be about you and your family. I am happy that I had the opportunity to meet and visit with you and Brenda last year at our Flint Tech High School 50th Class Reunion. I thought Brenda was very attractive and very nice. My sincere regrets, your friend, Louie Barger, Goodrich, MI
We will miss Brenda's wonderful personality and love of life. She always had a smile and brightened everyones day. She was truly a special person. Our thoughts and prayers are with her family, and especially Bob. Lin and Kim Logan (Greensboro, Ga)
I was truly blessed to have Brenda for my friend. She was a person who could walk into any room and make you smile and laugh. Bob, Nicki and Tracey you have our deepest sympathy. Brenda was certainly blessed to have you all in her life. I will miss her.
Love, Sally & Joal
Brenda was a wonderful person who always made me feel welcome when I came to see Tracey in high school. My thoughts and prayers are with her family. Love, Michelle Johnson (Shakopee, MN)
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find strength during this time of pain and comfort as you remember the joy of your time together.
How can you express the love you feel for your mother? She was an amazing woman from whom I have learned so much. She instilled in me the value of money, my organizational skills, my love of cooking, my love of cards, and taught me how to have fun. Mom was always a great listener and great with providing guidance and advise when in a difficult situation. As mom would tell me....."don't telescope". I will try my best, Mom, to live "in the moment" and not worry about the future. Mom....I love you and I promise never to throw away your comb.
Dear Bob & Family: we were very sorry to hear the sad news. I remember very well playing some fun tennis matches against you and Brenda while visiting Dad on Hilton Head. Olaf de Rouen and family
Brenda was not only my sister, but my best friend. We talked at least 4 times a week, sometimes more than once a day. I will miss so many things, laughing in particular about things probably no one else would think was funny and being able to share our thoughts. I will miss helping prepare our annual Thanksgiving dinner together ever since Nikki was a baby and then picking drivers for the Indy races. Even though my heart is broken, I realize life must go on. Brenda, please know that we will forever keep Bob, Tracey and Nikki in our lives. You will never know how much I loved you. Love, your sister Jan
Dear Bob & Family: Ron and I send you our loving thoughts and deepest sympathies. We will all miss Brenda's smiling face and bubbly personality. She was a special person.
Ron & Karon Gilliland
Brenda was not only my sister, but my best friend. We talked at least 4 times a week and sometimes more than once a day. I cannot envision my life without doing our traditional things, like Thanksgiving and picking drivers for the Indy races. Even though my heart is broken, I realize life goes on. Brenda will know that we will keep Bob, Tracey and Nikki in our lives and help them through these difficult times. You will never know how much we all loved you.
Nikki and family,
hugs and more hugs sending your way. remember all the good times and laughs.
pass along all the great stories and memories to those girls. I promise one day you will be laughing at all the weird or silly things your mom did or said. Stay strong and reach out to the lord in this time of grieving.
Dear Bob & family, Brenda was a wonderful and loving person. Very kind to open your home to me and my family. Such a wonderful personality. We will miss her when we visit GA. Love to you all at this time of sorrow Sincerely Becky & John Crist (Dunn).
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
My heart and prayers go out to Bob and the family. I know you will miss her deeply. She was a ray of light with a big smile that will continue to shine down on you forever. I had not seen her for years after I moved from HHI, but remember her with fondness.
Brenda was more special than any person I have ever known. My earliest memories from growing up include Brenda and her mischevious ways. We have had a lifetime of not only beings sisters, but being best friends as well. Moving forward without her will be a difficult thing, but the Lord will give us the strenth and she will help to guide us from above. Love to all of you who will miss her as I do. Thank you Bob for making her so happy.
Thinking about you and your family. I am so saddened to hear about this sudden loss.Love, Amy Mastro Gurrieri (Downers Grove, IL)
Dear Nikki and Family,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Bob, I saw the death notice in the Packet this morning - what a shock. My deepest sympathy to you and the family.
We have lost a truly wonderful friend, and we will miss her terribly.
She was a very special person, and will be in our hearts forever.
Our deepest sympathy, Bob, to you and all the family. Love, Betty and Bill Haas
Brenda was a wonderful friend and neighbor. We will miss her kindness, her bubbly personality and zest for life. We were so lucky to have known her and will miss her greatly. Our hearts and prayers go with Bob and the family, take comfort in knowing how much she loved you all.
I worked with Brenda at Argonne National Laboratory and was very saddened to hear of the loss of this wonderful person. Although we lost touch over the years she was always and will remain in my heart. She was a most giving and thoughtful woman and all those who know her will miss her warmth and kindness. Please accept my deepest sympathy .
Diane (O'Brien) Boen
Such a very sad time! I am so sorry to hear this news. I will always remember Brenda and her ability to light up the world for those around her! My sincere sympathy to Bob and family.
Sometimes God loans us an angel, and we are blessed to have known one. Brenda will live on in all of our hearts as a bright light shining with love, laughter and a contagious zest for life. For Bob, your children & grandchildren, Brenda's beloved sisters and all those who are gathered to celebrate her life, please accept our deepest sympathy.
Love, Cindy & Ed
Tracey and Nikki, all our love and prayers are with you and yours during this time. Love Tim and Diana...
I am so sorry to hear of this sad news of Brenda's passing. She was a good woman and so loved by her family and friends. Praying for all of the family in this time of sorrow. Much love, Nancy Mennella
Bob, i can still hear Brenda cheering on our Spring Lake Tennis Team saying "Get on the bus". she meant close out this match so we can go home. i enjoyed the many years we played with my deceased wife, Karin. Bob, my great partner, please stay in touch. My wish is that you and your family celebrate the joy Brenda brought to many lives. Chico deRouen, Hilton Head Island, South Carolina. 17 December 2010
No one so full of life as Brenda. Your friends on Hilton Head Island will never forget the "Killer B's" team of Brenda and Bob who frustrated so many "better" teams in The Banana Open and other venues. The forever smile ... the punch-volley winner. Incomparable and so, so much fun.
Brenda, a wonderful woman who loved her friends and family without bounds. She is responsible for many life long friendships in our network of friends. I love her for her fun moments and her tender times as well. I will miss her presence terribly but will hold her in my heart.
Bob, I would like to express my deepest condolences to you and your family in this time of loss. I will always remember Brenda as a classy, and elegant lady. The last time I saw the two of you at Nikki and Greg's home, she told me how happy you made her. Her face and smile were aglow as she spoke. We will miss her.
We loved Brenda, her smiling face, her bubbly personality.She will live in our hearts forever. God needed more angels and I know she is in heaven and will follow us and direct us for the rest of our lives. We love you Bob and you are in our prayers!!!
Brenda, what can I say....I love you & will miss you terribly. You have been such a wonderful & fun friend. I will always remember the fun times ..... tennis, playing cards, going out to dinner, Jamica, hummingbird drinks, lounging by the pool in Jamica. In my mind, your beautiful & happy smile will be forever etched. I will always see you dancing in Jamica or at LOTA parties & you looked beautiful this year in your red dress. You always made me smile.
Donna Blackwell Greensboro GA
I miss your smile, your laugh, your kind words, your zest for life...you will ALWAYS be an inspiration to me.
Very sweet tribute! She certainly had a very sweet and bright personality!
I know she will be dearly missed by her friends and family.
Brenda was an amazingly beautiful lady who lived three lifetimes in one and was loved by all. Her boundless energy and devoted love for her family and friends was contagious and ever-abundant. Her spirit will remain in our hearts forever.
With deepest sympathy,
The Franks Family
Martha, Rick, Alan, Tyler, Jackson and Kristen
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. May God be with you and your family through this difficult time.
Dear Bob and Family,
We are so sorry for your loss. We all loved Brenda and will always love her. She brought smiles to everyone she met. Our lives will not be the same without her, but we will remember her loving spirit forever. Love, Joe and Sharon Gorman
Thinking of you in this time of mourning. Sending our sympathies and love. I am so sorry to hear this news.
Love, Michelle, Ray, Marco & Camille Rosen
I miss my friend....I miss my mom. On several ocassions I have picked up the phone to talk to you only to remember. I will still talk with you everyday. And though I won't be able to hear you, I know you will be listening. I love you.
I miss my friend....I miss my mom. So many times I've picked up the phone to call you and talk to you. But I will still talk to you and think about you everyday. And even though I won't be able to hear your voice anymore, I know you will be listening. I love you very much. Love, Nikki
Sending loving thoughts and our deepest sympathies.
All our love, Linda, Steve & Tabitha Redenz
We love you Brenda and will miss you so much. We'll never forget the card games between you, Bob, Bob Geisen, and Carol Geisen or how the group gave us $20 to go to the movies to get us to leave the house. We're so happy to have had you in our lives even if the time was much to short. All our love, Barry, Chris, and Simon