Message with tree:
We have sent this tree as a living memorial to Dan. It will bloom each spring. We hope it makes you smile. Love, Susan & Patti
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We are so sorry that you have to be separated from Dan for a time. It was obvious to everyone who met you two, how very much Dan loved you! You have been a wonderful second set of parents to Kristin. We are so grateful for the sealing power of the temple and the knowledge that your family and ours are bound together for eternity. Our thoughts and prayers are with you . With love, Carrie & Mike Walker
Memorial Gift Trees Card Message:
Dear Shirley, I asked for these two trees to be planted in Shasta County to restore the native forest and riparian habitat in honor of Dan. They are to be planted side by side as a symbol of the love and unity of you and Dan. I hope they bring you a measure of strength and peace.. Love, Doris and Jack
Life's Pathway – “At times, life's path seems filled with things that make the going rough, And we wish there were a smoother road, for we feel we've had enough…But, if we pause a moment and remember Who's in charge, The hills that loom ahead of us no longer seem so large, And every rock before us, when we know we're not alone, Becomes, not just a stumbling block, but one more stepping stone.” Shirley, You've overcome so many things and, every time, you've grown Through sheer determination and the wisdom that you've shown, So, as you face this journey, from the moment you begin, Know that God will guide you, and you'll have the strength to win. – This card message says all the thoughts I have! Love, Mom
There is comfort in the memories of our loved ones. Embrace them, for they are gifts that will remain forever in your heart. Our love and prayers, Doug and Dorothy Balfour
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He has always been very special and kind. Parvis & Mila Misner
I will always remember his sweet smile. With sincere sympathy for the loss of someone who made the world a more beautiful place. Affectionately, Carol Dolloff
Dear Shirley, Our hearts go out to you in this season of grief and processing. Your example of love and faithfulness as a man & wife is a inspiration to me. I pray that your memories of Dan and the love you shared will bring you comfort & peace! Sue & Steve Bailey
Loved ones live on in words they said, in lives they touched, and in the happiness we feel every time we remember them. May it help to know that we're thinking of you with deepest sympathy and heartfelt understanding. Love to you all, Kathy, Peter, Neil
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May your own faith in god sustain you, bringing you comfort today, courage for tomorrow, and hope in your heart always. Love, Leon & Sonya
May your heart find healing in cherished memories. May your spirit find comfort in the thoughts and prayers of those who care about you. Sharing in your sorrow. Love, Mom
We are sorry for your loss. Dan was (is) a special man and you two shared a special relationship, which I know will continue forever. May the Lord comfort you until you are together again. Love, Cheri & Ken Sills
We hope that each day brings something that you need, and that time will help with healing. Love, Janet & Bernie
Please know you're in our thoughts and prayers. We know your faith is strong and that God will see you through every step of the way. Love, July and Jerry
With large, red, white and blue floral arrangement:
Dearest Uncle – ‘Remember, I love you'. Our thoughts of sympathy and the love he expressed goes out to all our family. Your Gwendolyn and Donal.
May 26, 2012
Good evening, Aunt Shirley,
I hope that you did not feel left out when I just e-mailed the children. I had planned to send you another note the following day, but life here intervened. Mostly had to write 2 articles for our monthly church newsletter (I'm slow at it), prepare for removal of 3 huge cedar trees that had so invaded the garden and totally blocked out view and take care of Presbyterian Women finances in preparation of passing the books on to the next treasurer.
Thank you for taking your precious time to send the e-mail addresses and share what you are trying to put together for the Memorial Book. I had printed out several copies of the obituary on the Thursday before we came up. I know that Russell based his talk on the printed obituary, but added a number of stories as he went along, which made it so special and personal. It was so beautiful and meaningful the way all the children participated - not easy,but their sharing helped to appreciate and understand our Dan's life - his joys and his traumas. The more I read about the ravages of war on our veterans, the more painful it is to know how he suffered from it in so many ways. And - those he loved suffered along with him. You especially have been one of those long-suffering ones who administered loving-kindness through it all.
I'm glad to hear that you are not pushing yourself, but doing what you can when you feel like it. Now is the time to take care of yourself. I for one can wait. So, please, don't rush to try to get any requests off to me/us. Yes, I have seen the pictures attached to the mortuary's obituary and they are fun to see. I particularly loved seeing the one of you, Dan and Elizabeth and printed it out. Was it from your wedding or the sealing? The thoughts expressed by Loren regarding sealing as a family were touching. I realize that it is a part of your belief (which we don't have), but I think it is very meaningful and love the thought of it.
Well, for me, it is back to updating data on Quicken for the new treasurer. I have at least learned some of the mechanics of the program, but how it works - I haven't a clue!
How I appreciate the blessed 34 years you gave our Dan. Ever so much love to you, Gwen
May 25, 2012
Our trip to Redding, Salem and Anacordes was wonderful. A funeral is a heck of a reason for a road trip, but it was enjoyable just the same. I especially enjoyed dad's service, being together as a family, and taking a nice long dip in Cow Creek with several other members of the Anderson Clan.
I hope you are doing well emotionally and physically. I know you are doing well spiritually and that has a positive impact on all other aspects of life.
As dad's eternal partner, you are an integral part of our eternal family and my life. Marilyn and I love you dearly and appreciate everything you have done to unify our combined family. When people ask about my parents' divorce and my relationship with you, I tell them that it is a story of two families that have melded into one. You may not be my mom, but you are my dad's eternal companion, as well as step-grandmother to our children and grandchildren. I love you as much as any other family member, but it would be best described as a brother and friend. After all, we share the same spiritual DNA. ïŠ
May 23, 2012
To Shirley, , Loren, Ray, Russ, Danny, Elizabeth
To my dear cousins - Loren,Ray,and Russell, Dan, Jr. and Elizabeth,
I hardly know how to thank you and your families for the experience of a lifetime last week end. There is no way to express the incredible love and acceptance that Don and I felt in your presence. It was just overwhelming and still brings tears to my eyes.
And - the service honoring my Uncle Danny, your Dad, was beautiful and uplifting from beginning to end. Thank you, especially, for sharing the significance and meaning of some of your practices/ordinances. What each one of you shared during the service touched our hearts and testified to the impact Dan had on your lives, particularly in regard to character, spiritual life and endeavor to following the Lord's ways and teaching.
And - in addition, it was so heartwarming to see and feel the unity and fun times you have together. What a gift and way to honor our Dan!
Continuing peace and blessings to all of you.... with love from Gwen and Don.
Love to you all. Ben & Cassie Garman
Thank you for sharing the link to Dan's obituary. Russell wrote a very nice tribute to his dad. I'm glad that the service went well and that so many were able to attend.
Tomorrow is your first day of new "normalcy" as you said. I am praying that the peace that you received remains and will sustain you.
Looking forward to seeing you soon.
I just tried to call you a couple times and your phone just hung up so I decided I would try to reach you this way.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss of Uncle Dan. After so many years of your caring for him, I'm sure you must feel it more than anyone else. You have been so faithful to take care of him through thick and thin and I want you to know how much I appreciate it. We have been trying for a couple years to get up to see you and him and it seems it never worked out. I did love him and realize that generation in both sides of my family is just about gone and it leaves a big hole!
Unfortunately we won't be able to come up this weekend for his service. I've been trying to complete a dress for our oldest granddaughter, Brie, for a musical she is in which I would have to complete before we could come up. I am just about done, but can't pull of doing everything else that needs to be done in order to leave in the morning.
So please give everyone my condolences. I had hoped to see all my cousins and am disappointed I can't do that.
Hopefully we will have another opportunity to connect one of these days.
Take care - we have been and are praying for all of you.
Love, Judy (and Bud)
Good morning, Aunt Shirley.....
Thank you so much for you kind words, the detail regarding the arrangements and making us feel so welcome. You have blessed my heart by your message. I, too, am aware of the first inner peace - largely from knowing that our loved one is no longer in pain from illness or suffering from the ravages of Alzheimer's or dementia. I (and our church and friends, too) am praying for you and the family. Give Russell my heartfelt gratitude for stepping in with arrangements making it easier for you and making them so meaningful for those of us who have lived at a distance.
This has been one of those times that I have been telling myself "remember, I am from the other line of the Andersons - of another persuation of the Christian faith and don't want to barge in." That being said - have I ever experienced that from any of you? Absolutely, not!
Know that you are being held close to my heart.
With love, Gwen
You definitely have the love and support of the entire family. Janet and I are coming up, probably June 5th through June 7th. I am looking into available flights and will let you know when our plans have been finalized. It will be so good to see you.
There will definitely be challenges ahead. A different kind of grief, as you mentioned, and that will be a journey. At some point, there will also be opportunities and other things you could not see while caring for Dan. I know he will live in your heart forever.
I know you feel privileged and blessed that you got to care for Dan for all of the time he needed you. I know he felt completely loved and I know he completely loved you. That is truly a gift.
Happy little memories ,go flitting through my mind
And in all my thoughts and memories, I always seem to find
The picture of your face, dear, the memory of your touch,
And all the other little things, I've come to love so much.
You cannot go beyond my thoughts or leave my love behind,
Because I keep you in my heart and forever on my mind.
And though I may not have told you, I think you know it's true,
That I find daily happiness in the very thought of you.
Love, Don and Emily
Hi, Shirley. I e-mailed Donald and Emily of Dan's passing and she wants to assure you of their thoughts and prayers. She said she met Dan just once at Judy's and Jerry's house.I believe Judy had a bar-b-que after another birthday bash and that she and Dan had hit it off very well. I thought you would want to know how many of us share your feelings at this time. I didn't want to phone you soon because I thought you probably have had a lot of calls, but you know I have been with you all this time. Take good care of yourself. Love, Mom.
My heart is with you.
Hi, Shirley. I just talked to Susan and she told me the sad news. I said prayers for Dan that he is at last safe and free from all the pain, anxieties,etc. that he has endured for so long. Then I prayed for you to be given the strength to make this transition. I know it will be very difficult but be happy for him, too that he is at last free from all the trials and tribulations exasperated by the dementia. Know that I am with you and be assured of my love for you. Love, Mom
Shirley, we have heard through the family of Dan's passing. Barb and I are extending our deepest sympathies for your loss.
Love, Alan (and Barb)
Oh . . . you know that our hearts go out to you and your family. . . such a very tender time. I am glad to hear that you will have so many Andersons as well as Danny, Liz, and Denise so close by. If the service will be on the 19th, we won't be able to attend. But our interest is in being with you and it sounds like there will be so many â€¦ and that there really will be some lovely moments for you. We would, however, like to come up after everyone is gone. Do let us know if we can bring our trailer and camp out and visit with you for a couple of days.
Kathy (and Peter)
We received the latest email you forwarded to your Mom and Janet and appreciate the ongoing information. It is comforting to us to know that Dan is being kept so comfortable in his own home with you and some of his children very close by and how beautiful is that. While as you said in your email, you are not the first person in this situation, it is a new and challenging experience and I am glad to see that you have such wonderful support as you move through each day. You have done so much to make Dan's passage a peaceful time, no matter how much time goes by.
As far as being prepared, from my experience as a hospice nurse many many years ago along with the passing of my parents . . . whether it is sudden or lingers,losing someone is a powerful experienceand it should be. I always have found it comforting to honor their lives and cherish those memories. We love Dan and think of him every day . . . the wonderful man he is, the children he influenced, as well as those great times shared up at your house and the Shingletown property.
We love you, too and hope you have a peaceful day today.
Kathy (and Peter)
Sis. Anderson : On behalf of our family we would like to send you our condolences for Dan passing, we know he was a very good person and that you did all one could do in these last weeks of his living, if you need any thing or we can do anything at all we will be there in a minute....
Bro. & Sis.Scoubes
I just wanted to drop you a quick line. I went and visited my dad last night and he told me about the sweet experience you had with Grandpa and how he slipped away. We shared a lot back and forth and I can't think of a better way to go than snuggled up to the one you love most. You are an extremely special lady and I am eternally grateful to you and thank you for being a part of our family and for the way you always took such good care of grandpa. I am looking forward to seeing you soon and want you to know you are in our prayers.
Lots of love,
Mike & Katie Anderson
Thank you so much for you kind and thoughtful words. You are spot on regarding the eternal impact dad had on our family by leading a Christ-centered life rather a "mammon-centered" life. The joy and peace this has provided us are worth far more than all the boats, fine furnishings, or exotic vacations some parents provide their families. We knew we were loved by both our earthly parents and Heavenly Parents. That is a treasure beyond measure.
Dad wasn't perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but he was always willing to keep moving forward in faith. He certainly provided us a good example of "enduring to the end."
Ray (on behalf of all of us)
My Dad, who gave me so much 1923-2012...Elizabeth Anderson Bailey
Yes, you will be together again. I love Dan's expression in this. He looks pretty content...like he knows he's got a good thing!...Janet Charbonneaua Duker
Our hearts are wrapping around yours. We love you!...Barb & Alan Charbonneau
Dan Anderson 1923 - 2012.
34 beautiful years together in this mortal existence. I am grateful for the gospel of Jesus Christ and the knowledge we will be together again, my beloved eternal companion. I love you, sweetheart.
What a legacy left by a great man! Love you Pop!
1923-2012,,,Melissa Johnson Anderson
Just heard about your sweet dad. Loved him so much. Thinking of you guys....Sonae Stotts Bailey
Dan was a sweet and gentle man, who loved his God, his wife and his family deeply. He was one of a kind.
Janet and Bernie Duker
A true gentle man.We hold him with deep love and affection in our hearts
He was a gentleman; I always enjoyed speaking with him Russ Tollefson