• Montville Funeral Home of Church & Allen
    Uncasville, CT
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Frederick H. Avery Jr. 1957 - 2013
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Thursday, January 10, 2013
Pam we are thinking of you during these difficult times. please accept our condolences for your great loss.
Dawn Rayner and all the ladies at Citizens Bank Montville
Wednesday, January 09, 2013
To Pam and the Avery family. We are so sorry to hear of Fred's passing. It seems that we were just asking about him and you telling us of the treatments that he was going through. You are in our thoughts and prayer and please know that he is in a better place.
Wednesday, January 09, 2013
I'm so sorry to hear about Fred. I knew him from when he worked for the Town of Montville. Years ago, he would come into The Corners Edge every day for coffee and good conversation and was always joking about something! He will be missed with good times remembered! Rest in peace Fred! ?
Tuesday, January 08, 2013
Dear Catherine,
I was sorry to learn that you lost your son Fred. Marry Loomis Lamb sent The Day article to me. Sincere sympathy to you and your family, and to Gen.

Your long time friend,

Betty Thompson
Sunday, January 06, 2013
Dear Avery Family,

Words cannot express the sympathy we feel for your loss. It seems God takes the good ones early. I am sure Fred and Uncle Cappy were there to welcome him. Our prayers are with all of you during this time of great sorrow. Tim and Jane Barry
Sunday, January 06, 2013
To Pam,Jimmy,Katie and the Avery Family. I am so sorry for your loss of such a good man with a good heart.I've known Freddie for many years and there wasn't a time when he couldn't make you laugh or bring a smile to your face.May these fond memories carry you through the days ahead.You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
To Pam,Jimmy,Katie and the Avery family . I am so sorry for your loss of such a good man with a good heart.I've known Freddie for many years and there wasn't a time I would see him when he couldn't make you laugh or bring a smile to your face.May these memories help you through the days ahead.You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
To The Avery Family, I'm so sorry for your loss. I've known Fred for a long time. My prayers go out to you all.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
To the Avery family, There are countless memories of Fred and his entertaining sense of humor. I lived and worked in Montville most of my life and Freddie was one of a kind. Our children even played together years ago. My sincere condolences go out to you.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
To the Avery Family, My condolences goes to your family.. Fred was a trip. Could always give out the laughs. He even turned bad situtations into a joke to make you feel better..
Sunday, January 06, 2013
My thoughts, prayers and condolences go out to all the family and friends of Fred in this time of sorrow.I am so sorry for your loss.We all have our fond memories of Freddy, and for that I will be eternally grateful.May he always have a special place in our hearts.RIP my friend.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
Kay & family, SoSorry for your loss he surely be missed had a great sense of humour love Dolly White
Saturday, January 05, 2013
My prayers go out to the Avery family.
I hung out with Fred and Gary Judge when we were kids, especially at the family pool and Freddy was always a riot. I recently heard about Fred's illness and got a chance to talk on the phone with him for a while to catch up on old times and hear about the property in New York that he was so proud of.
God Bless you Freddy.
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Pam,Jimmy and Katie I'm so sorry to hear of Fred's passing.You are all in my heart and prayers.
Saturday, January 05, 2013
We the Cote family all knew Fred, he went to Montville schools, made fast friends with all he met. He plowed our street in the Winter, and I made him a hot coffee often and met him at the end of our driveway He left behind many friends and many who loved him. Rest in Peace Derf. The Cote family on Pruett Place.
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Pam and the Avery family,even thought we could not be there for moral support to your family, know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.Fred was truly a best friend to all who knew him and well be missed by many.Prayers,Love and Sympathy to all.
Keith Bragdon and Family
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Fred, We will miss you. You were always a big brother to me. I always knew how important I was to you too! You were in my wedding and I remember Kay saying to me, "I can't believe you got him to wear a tuxedo. He doesn't do that for just anybody!" You had such a special gift of making everyone smile. Thank you for being a part of my life. I love you big brother. Pam, Kay, Victoria, Michael, and Shelley, My thoughts and prayers are with you all!!! XO
Saturday, January 05, 2013
To Pam and the Avery family, You are in our thoughts and prayers.I can't remember when the first time I met Fred but as anyone who met Fred, you never forgot him. When you saw him, you smiled because you knew he was going to make you laugh. He was a very special part of our family. I remember on John Ave. he would come visit my dad and the first words out of his mouth were, Hey Pops, whats happening! I will always remember his smile, his humor and he was just loveable. He called me Lu Lu and I will never forget him. We called him Fast Freddie. Rest in Peace Fast Freddie and look out Heaven, Fast Freddie has entered the gates. With much love and sympathy. Lu Lu and family
Saturday, January 05, 2013
If you knew Fred and was able to say you were his friend, your life was much brighter knowing he could put a smile on your face in an instant. We will always remember those special times we had with Fred. To Fred's entire family I offer my condolences.
Frank Robbins
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Pam and Family: my thoughts and prayers goes out to you all. Fred worked with my father for many years, and he only had good things to say about him. He was a kind hearted and fun man and just remember you will see him again one day.- Melanie Brooks (Rose)
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Mrs Avery, Michele, Michael, Vicky, and Family; I am so sorry to learn of Fred's passing. Too many memories of my childhood were spent with our dear friends, the Averys, and my heart is so heavy for your loss. Please know that I will keep you all in my prayers and thoughts. May Fred rest in peace. And may you all find strength in the many who love you as we do.
Friday, January 04, 2013
So very Sorry for your loss.
Friday, January 04, 2013
Mike and family I am so sorry for your loss. May all the happy times comfort you.
Heidi Gordon
Friday, January 04, 2013
Pam, I am so sorry for your loss. I am at a loss for words. Please know that I am praying for you and your family. Please accept my condolences.
Friday, January 04, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Pam and the family. Fred will be sadly missed. We can still picture him grilling hamburgs & hot dogs in his floppy hat at our wedding. He was always good for a laugh.
Friday, January 04, 2013
My prayers are with Fred and his family, I'm so sorry to hear of his passing. He was such a great guy and always enjoyed being around and talking with him, and will be forever missed.
Friday, January 04, 2013
Freddie, Freddie Freddie, How I will always remember spending the summers at the Avery's "campground" waiting for your arrival to entertain us. You always made me laugh,just as you have done for everyone else. We have so many memories that actually make me laugh out loud and I am glad for that, because that is what we need to be able to get through the sad times of loosing you. You were truly a gift given to all of us. So sad to loose you, though I feel at peace for you. You are a fighter. And No chickens do not have lips and where are the deerballs. I love you! Rest in Peace my friend/brother. xxoo
Pam,and the rest of the family, My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love, Denise Saunders Peretz
Friday, January 04, 2013
I am so sorry to here of Fred's passing. He was a man who could always make a person smile. That was a true gift. He would often call with a quip about a faulty test result or a joke of some sort. I will miss his smiling face and jokes. My thoughts and prayers go out to Pam and his family.
Friday, January 04, 2013
Fred,
You were the best Uncle,always sure to make the boys laugh. Know that you were always Loved, And will be greatly missed. God Bless you Fred. May you find rest in the arms of the Angels.
Friday, January 04, 2013
To the entire Avery family,
I am sorry to hear of Fred's passing and I send my deepest sympathies to all of you.
Friday, January 04, 2013
To Pam, Kay, Victoria, Mike, Michele and Robbie,
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this difficult time. There are so many wonderful and comical memories Freddie has given you as well as many of us that have known him throughout his life. Just thinking and talking to my family about those memories put a smile and made us laugh as if it was just happening right then and there. That was the best thing about Freddie, he made the best of every moment and there was always laughter. God definitely broke the mold when Freddie was put on this earth. There was no one in this world that measures up to the kind of man that Freddie was. He was a best friend, comedian, kind (he would give the shirt off his back for anyone in need), courageous (except when it came to the ocean and "shahks", and trying a taste of "lobstah") He was honest, trustworthy and honorable. You could see how much Freddie loved life. He will be missed by many, but the memories he has made in everyone's life will live on forever.
Freddie,Thanks for being such a great friend to my Dad. Thanks for just being you. I will miss you!
Friday, January 04, 2013
Love and sympathy,
from Mike's California family,
Friday, January 04, 2013
To Fred's family,

You may not know me but as easy as Fred made friends, I'm sure there are many like me out there. I used to bowl on the same team with him many years ago at Holiday Bowl. I remember Fred to be a great bowler and friendly with everyone in the house, even with his opponents. He used to plow my street after many a snow storm and we used to exchange friendly waves as he artfully swung out into the road to prevent filling my driveway again. Hopefully the many wonderful memories that you have of Fred will help you through this time of grief.
Friday, January 04, 2013
Our thoughts are with you...
Friday, January 04, 2013
Our deepest sympathy in your loss
Mr.& Mrs. william garrity
Friday, January 04, 2013
To the family of Fred Avery, i was truly sorry to hear of Fred's passing, "he always made me laugh".....Janet Moody, uncasville
Friday, January 04, 2013
The town of Montville wont be the same without "DERF"...
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Avery Family, Please accept my family's thoughts and prayers. No words can heal your pain but knowing he was loved and admired by so many, I hope, will help you in the process.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam, So sorry to hear of your loss.....
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and family
John & Nancy Gill
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Fred has been an important part of our family forever. He was like a brother to Michele, Denise, Ann-Marie and Val, he is Uncle Fred to Liz and he is the best friend we ever had. We enjoyed fishing, hunting, burning stumps and laughing for hours. No one could spin a yarn or tell a story quite like Fred. He lived life, enjoyed a good time and we were all the better for it. Oh how we prayed that you guys would beat this thing and enjoy the simple new york retirement of your dreams. Great memories of good times. Miss you.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam my thoughts and prayers are with you always. I have known Fred all my life he was a part of our family.He will be sadly missed by many people. He was like a 7th brother to me.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I had heard of freddie's illness, And more shocked to hear of his passing. I remember growing up and Freddie was at our house. And the couple of times I saw him at my brothers garage, He always had a wise word. Surely could make u laugh.. Sorry for your loss. Prayers are with his Family. And Freddie when u get to Heaven, Watch over ur loved ones. Keep his memories close in ur hearts. And he will never be far away..
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam and family and All the Avery Family, memories of Fred with my family will live on with us forever. The Veal family is deeply saddened with his loss. We are so sorry. Our prayers are with you all.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam ,
so sorry to hear about Fred..anyone who knew him would just have to look at him and laugh even before he said anything because you knew it was going to say something comical..he was' ONE OF A KIND' and you know that more than anyone. your are in our thoughts
Thursday, January 03, 2013
To the Avery family,

I was very sorry to read about Fred's passing this morning as I read The Day online. I knew Fred for many years, from when we were kids when both our fathers were on the State Police until I moved away from the area several years ago. I also had the pleasure to work with Fred when I was the Resident Trooper in Montville for a couple of short years in the early 90's.

I will always remember his smile, engaging personality and his infectious laugh. He was always fun to be around and would do anything for another person in need. There are few words that can bring comfort to his loved ones but I hope that the bright memories of his life can soften his tragic loss and bring you all some comfort. He will be missed by many I'm sure, God Bless you Fred, you were a decent, honorable man.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
The world will miss your sense of humor and smiles. You brought joy to all who knew you, You are now at peace and pain free. Rest in peace my friend. From Brenda-Lee (Bonville) Street
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I am so truly sorry for the loss of a great funny guy!! I really enjoyed cutting Fred' s hair!! He always made me laugh!!! I will never forget you Fred!!! He was a great friend to my parents and my brother!!! He will be truly missed!!!!
Thursday, January 03, 2013
To all of Fred's family,
Please accept my condolence on his passing.I was hoping that Fred had beaten his illness. I hope that knowing him as the good person he was
bring you comfort.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
My wife and I wish to express our deepest sympathy to you and you family. May he be at peace. We hope your loving memories will help you all get through this difficult time.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
With fond memories of you Fred. May you rest in peace. My deepest sympathy to the Avery Family
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam and family.. We are so sorry to hear of Fred's passing. He truly loved you Pam. May you find comfort in the difficult days ahead. Fred was one of the most humorous individuals that we knew...always made us laugh. May God bless him. Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire Avery family. Bob and Judy Tringe, Oakdale
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam and family: I am so, so sorry for your loss. I never met Fred but I feel like I know him from all the stories you've told me. What I do know is how much you loved him and what great care you gave him. That will bring you comfort and peace because he knew and felt how much he was loved. You are in my thoughts and prayers
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam, Kay and the rest of the Avery & Plumstead families, we are so sorry about Freddie's passing and your loss. We are thinking of and praying for you.

The Welsh cousins & their families
Thursday, January 03, 2013
To all the Avery's ....losing Freddie is such a loss to his family, his many friends and his extended family and he will always live in our hearts. I feel like I have lost a member of my own family.
I do remember him driving the snow plow and stopping on Dydo Drive for a cup of coffee and of course he had to get that plow off the road so he would park it at the far end of my driveway. And of course my driveway would be plowed. And he would get his cup of coffee.
Sleep soundly Freddie and know you will always live in our hearts.
Barbara Keenan
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I will miss you
Thursday, January 03, 2013
To Kay and the entire Avery family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Fred will be deeply missed by all that knew him. He was a one of a kind as was his Dad .

Denny & Sharon Monahan
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Mrs. Avery, Mike, Michelle and the entire Avery family,

We are so sorry for your loss. We will miss Fred's smile and wave every time we passed him on the road. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,
Kate (Wood) and Keith Dawley
Thursday, January 03, 2013
My deepest sympathies to you Pam and your family and also to Fred's parents and family. Although I never met him I have spoken on the phone with him. I'm so happy that you were able to get married. I know you were there for him and fought the fight equally as hard to get him well. May God surround you with his arms and hold you tightly through this difficult time. Love you all!!
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam and Family,
We are sad to hear of Fred's passing. May God bless you and keep you in his care now, and in the days that come.
Bob and Sue Bouvy (Las Vegas, NV)
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Fred was a good friend of mine always had special words of wisdom,will miss Him dearly,Praying for peace and comfort to Family,Ralph Smith Oakdale.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Fred was a good friend. Sorry to hear that he has passed away. He had many friends and will be sorely missed. RIP Fred
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss..
Freddie will always be remembered as a really friendly man with a great personality and big broad smile..
Such a great loss to his family, many friends and aquaintences...
God Bless.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
To Victoria, Kay and the rest of the family,
I will always smile when I think of Fred. He did provide entertainment as we hung out at the Avery pool. Over the past years he would always stop and talk to us while he was cleaning up the brush on our street.A great guy gone to soon.
Jim and Susan (Malchiodi) Orlando
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam, know that your mother is there with you in spirit. Fred and I were very close and I loved him dearly. I know he is in a better place and I know his grandmother jessie plumstead was ther e to greet him. May he rest in peace. Love you mom
Thursday, January 03, 2013
to the avery family so sorry for your loss...he will be sadly missed all that new him...
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam i'm so sad that you lost a very good man but he is sitting with God and just know how much he will be missed he was a real gift to those who knew him
Lorraine&Dan
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Some of my favorite childhood memories are from Fourth of July picnics at the Averys. I was always so excited to see my family and just new that Freddie would be there to make fun of me and give me a hard time. I loved those days and I love him for those memeories. I am so sorry to the entire Avery family for your loss. Freddie was a great man and he will be deeply missed.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I am truely sorry for your loss.. I have many memories of him growing up in the neighborhood.. Of the little man peeking in my front door when we first moved in and of the many visits he made with us.. We enjoyed his funny personality and beautiful grin...
He will truely be missed...
God Bless...
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I am so very sorry to hear about Fredde's passing. I have fond memories growing up, of us all sledding and ice skating behind Dicken's house on that little pond. Freddie was a good man. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam and family, I am so sorry for your loss. Fred and my father shared a special bond throughout the years and he and Pam were thought of as an extended part of our family. He had a special gift of making people laugh. I'm not sure if it was his contagious laugh, his corny sayings or the ability to chuckle at himself but when you seen him coming, you knew you were going to laugh. We were very blessed to have known him. I know he is in heaven and ask me how I'm so sure. To quote one of Fred's older sayings "Does a chicken have lips"? Rest in peace my friend.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. We may not have seen Fred often, but he always, always, made us smile and laugh. Sincerely
Thursday, January 03, 2013
To the family of Fred, we are truly sorry for your loss. We ran Vic's Restaurant in MONTVILLE where Fred was a good customer and friend. Although we haven't seen him in years I still remember his smile and great sense of humor. RIP Fred.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
My thoughts and prays are with you Pam
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Gentle thoughts during these difficult days.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam and family, we are so sorry to hear of Fred's passing. Fred was always talking about the joy of retiring and heading to NY w/Pam. He was proud to be a grandfather and loved his grandson. I have missed Fred and is humor and robust laugh. He will truly be missed. God Bless ~ Teresa, Rob Schacht
Thursday, January 03, 2013
So sorry to hear of Freds passing
he was a great man.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I am sorry for your loss, I will always remember Fred as a funny guy. He first introduced himself to me as "DERF", Fred spelt backwards :)
Prayers go out to all family members, especially to my nephew Robert Harrison Avery. xo
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam, Mrs Avery, Mike, Vicky, Michelle and family - I am truly so sorry to read the news of Fred. May you find comfort in his memories, and may they also be eternal. He certainly was a great man, and I again am so sorry for your loss.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Pam, you and all the family are in my heart and thoughts.
Wednesday, January 02, 2013
I was six when our parents, Kay & Fred Avery, adopted Fred. He arrived at our house on Old Colchester Road on New Year's Eve and he died on New Year's Day. I'm happy he was my brother and that our paths crossed.
My brother, Fred loved the outdoors. He loved his guns & hunting with our Dad, cousin Dave Branche & Bob Saunders.
Fred loved camping, fishing, walking in the woods, working around the yard, chopping and stacking wood, riding his ATV, and plowing snow (just kidding).
I always called Fred the Mayor of Montville because everyone in town knew him. And he had so many lifelong friends: his first and closest friend, Ed Andrews, Jimmy Kernozek, his work buddy & sidekick Melvin, Eddie& Keith Bragdon, Pete Andrews, Jimmy Scovish, John Scovish, and his newer friends, Lincoln “Linc” and Chet, I met for the first time right before he died.
Fred loved working for the Montville Public Works Department. He loved all the guys in the shop. The guys were really great to visit and call him on the phone to check on him while he was sick.
You might not know that Fred loved Jackie Gleason aka Ralph Cramden (from The Honeymooners), The Three Stooges, and Ray Romano's show, “Everyone loves Raymond”. He had a good sense of humor and he always made me laugh.
He had a very generous nature and a heart of gold. He'd give you the shirt off his back.
He met Pam Bonnano, the love of his life, at the Montville Town Hall, and they were together for over 14 years. They had plans to build on their property located in upstate New York and to enjoy their retirement years together.
I admired his courage as he fought lung cancer. He endured terrible pain and radiation & chemo treatments without complaining.
Fred – I'm sure going to miss you. Love you, your sister Victoria
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