I, too, had not seen Holly since Kirkwood. We went to North Kirkwood Junior High together. We became good friends, the cheerleader befriending the geek. After 9th grade, I moved to Tulsa, and she later moved to Macon. We wrote to each other throughout High School, and then I lost contact with her when she went to UNC.
Over the last few years, I would occasionally try to search for her on the internet, wondering where she had gone with her life. I always figured she had lived life to the fullest in a truly unique Chistian manner, as that is how I knew her so long ago.
Sadly, I only found her today through her passing and the obituaries and memorials since.
From everything I have read, she was the same kind, giving, light-up-the-room Holly I knew back then.
My condolences to her family and all that knew and loved her. I cannot begin to imagine your loss, but I can imagine the joy she brought to all of you.
Will, just heard recently of Holly's passing. I am so sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers.
I am so sorry to here about you daughter passng. I remeber times that we spent with you and your family. They were very special, Our family and the family that was what I was brought up on are what I love the most.
My friends, the Palmers. I haven't seen you in so many years, yet you remain as close to my heart as ever. I learned of Holly's passing in a letter from Lisa. I am devastated, as you are. A lot can be handled with a strong family and great faith. You are in my heart and prayers. I know that you can feel her presence. I love and miss you.
I am heart broken to hear of your mother's sudden passing. Nick, I only met your mum the one time, at your graduation. I was sitting in the second row of "Irvine" waiting ...saving seats for my family and this breathtakingly beautiful blonde woman walks past me...in a red sleeveless dress with matching pearl ear rings and necklace....a radiant smile on her face...I thought to myself " wow...she looks like an "angel " ! ....that was honestly my gut reaction....then you walked in behind her and I realized ..."this is Nick's mum!!!"......
As soon as we realized that our sons were close friends...we moved seats so that we could sit with each other and talk.....we had a good 30 minutes before the programme started. We talked about how you and Arjun were...fraternity brothers...and had lived together for the past 3 years....how wonderful it was that the two of you would be working together at Morgan Stanley after graduation AND would be living together in NYC! Holly was so relieved that I lived in New York and that I would be your "go to person" should you need something.....to which I "promised" her I would be your "NYC Mum" ....those were the exact words I said to her Nick....Your mother hugged me so hard recognizing that we shared that same "mommy quality"....I was so happy to meet her...we agreed that we would meet when she next came up to NYC...I KNEW this was a person I was going to be friends with for a long, long time....I already felt like we were old friends...in just 30 minutes.
When Arjun called me and told me what happened ....my first thought went to you, Nick. I prayed for you...I prayed hard and asked God to give you and your family strength to deal with this deep loss. I came to your apartment building and sat on the stoop and cried.
It just doesn't seem fair ...so not fair BUT my faith is the only thing that makes any sense of this...and I believe that God chose this time for Holly, his angel, to join him.
I will keep my promise to your mother. I am here should you need help, a home cooked meal or just someone to sit and cry with. I am here for you, Nick. Love Mrs. P.
To the Rhodes Family
Deepest condolences for your loss. The Pai Family has you all in their prayers.
I have not seen Holly for almost thirty years, but she remains one of my fondest memories from Kirkwood, Missouri.
She was so intelligent, so thoughtful, so fun-probably the best friend I have ever/will ever have.
I always thought-in the back of my mind- that I would get together with her again, somehow.
I am sure that her husband/kids/friends know how fabulous she was, and I am truly sorry for your loss. Please don't hesitate to contact me if any of you are EVER in Minnesota.
St. Paul, MN
The Decker family from Inman Drive sends their condolences. We remember Holly walking her children to school down Lanier Drive. We thought of her as "Mother Goose" with her beautiful blonde children trailing behind her. We can't imagine the loss you feel. We have you in our prayers.
Amazing lady, amazing family, will be so missed!
Prayers for all!
Jerry and Sue, Mama and I were so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious daughter daughter Holly. What a special, wonderful young lady she must have been. We love you and think of you often, Norma Jane Eagerton and Careen
Jerry and Sue, Mama and I are so very sorry to hear about the loss of your precious daughter Holly. What a special, wonderful, young lady she must have been. We love you and think of you often, Norma Jane and Careen
Jerry and Sue, Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. Dave and Carol
We are so sorry for you and your wonderful family in the loss of this beautiful lady. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Dear Will,Anna,Nick and Peter,
May time and memories heal your broken hearts. We will always smile when we remember the very special years we had with the kids,they were always together at one house or the other. So many schemes, so much fun. Kevin could not have had a better "second family".
Our love to all of you, carry on, Holly loves you always, you were her life. Dana,Randy&Kevin Gautier
Sue & Jerry, Our heartfelt prayers are with you and the family. Love. Florence and Bob James
Our thoughts & prayers are with Holly's wonderful family and circle of friends. Holly was our first baby sitter when we lived near the Palmer's in St Louis and Jerry & Sue have been good friends and mentors forever... We share the sorrow of Holly's passing... May God provide comfort and support in the days ahead.
I've never known such an inquisitive thinker and great athlete with such humility and selflessness as "Hollace", as a dear friend used to call her.
I haven't seen Holly for 30 years, but her spirituality and virtue have influenced my life disproportionately to our times together in grade school, junior high, and high school. Holly was rightly proud of meeting her challenges and achieving her successes, but she got far more genuine satisfaction from affecting even the minor accomplishments of the others in her life.
Our loss is heaven's gain. My best to her family. Your mother/wife/sister/daughter/friend affected more lives than any of us will ever know.
Will, may God give you and your family strength and comfort at this time. May your memories of Holly and the passion with which she embraced life, family and faith encourage you in the days ahead.
So very sorry for your loss.
Holly was a joy to all who knew her. Lovett misses her. We miss her. May her memory be a blessing to all who knew and loved her. And may God's peace comfort you in these difficult days.
Have never forgotten the insights she shared in church youth group at Kirkwood UCC - she was always ahead of her time. Lindgate family of families will never forget her. She is still a relay record holder. All of our prayers.
We are so saddend to hear of the news and we pray God will fill your family with grace and mercy to see you through this most difficult time. Our hope is that God's grace will also help you to take comfort in knowing how blessed the family was to have Holly in your lives and that we are all better off for having known her.
Don and Wendy Milich (Roswell, GA)
Dear Family, I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Jerry and Sue, so very sorry to hear of Holly's passing. I wish I could have found a contact for you in Atlanta to offer comfort personally. Edith and I are going away for Thanksgiving so we will not be able to attend the service on Saturday. May God's comfort be with you in your grief.
Bob & Edith Brown
We were all so sad to hear about Holly, I know she will be remembered with great love by all her family and friends. Lindsay, Rosie, Katie and Jamie Davidson
You probably don't remember me, but I have always thought of you as a real professional and a person who kept his family in the proper prospective.
As a Dad, I think I know how tough this is on you and the whole family.
We are with you in our thoughts and prayers.
Paul & Peggy Hann
Dear Will, Anna, Nick and Peter,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time!!! Holly was such a special person and will always remember her smiling presence!!! She will be sadly missed by all that knew her. Jeanne Kaufman
Dear Will and Family:
I am so sorry to hear about Holly. My heart reaches out to all of you. All of you are special and my thoughts and prayers are with you. May God bless all of you for you have a Very Special Angel in Heaven!
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are present in my thoughts and prayers. May God's love and grace sustain you all in the days and weeks ahead.
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Our hearts are saddened to this tragic news. Special Hugs to Sue & Jerry.
I've loved Holly since our first year at UNC. I have no words to say how sorry I am. Everyone who has ever known her feels this loss. My prayers are with all of you -- Will, Anna, Nicholas, and Peter.
Will, so sorry for your loss. Praying for you.
I am so, so sorry to hear this news. May Holly continue to walk in God's grace and peace. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.
Holly was Amy and Tom's favorite babysitter in St. Louis in the 70's. Sue, Jerry, and Will, we are so very sad for the loss of such a wonderful daughter, wife, and mother. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Haven't kept up with Holly for 30 years, since UNC. But remember her well. She truly was special.
Dear Will, Anna, Nick, and Peter,
Our hearts are heavy with sadness and grief for your loss and ours. Holly was such a good friend to Mom and we have always considered all of you to be part of our family. Finding words is hard but we love you from the bottom of our hearts.
Leslie and Mark
Will, Anna, Nick, and Peter, I love Holly and all she added to our family. Her easy laugh, the early morning runs while we waited for an event to happen, her humble and enlightened view of life, and her ability to help where and when help was needed. My heart is broken for you. May you experience God's peace and grace in abundance at this time. Aunt Kathy
My heart breaks for all of you that knew and loved Holly, most especially Will, Anna, Nick and Peter. Holly was a part of my childhood just like I was a part of her children's. The Rhodes had the best climbing tree in the neighborhood. Despite the many times Holly drove up the driveway to find the tree full of children, she always greeted us with a wave and a smile. When I was a little older, I babysat for all of the Rhodes children for years. When I think of Holly during the years her children were small, I think of her reading Pippi Longstocking to Nick, driving Anna to gymnastics faithfully, and playing with Peter on the corn table. I always admired her, not only for the great mom she was, but for her kind heart and dedication to others. She talked to me like an adult when I wanted nothing more than to be treated like one and allowed me to be a child until I outgrew climbing trees.
She was an amazing person, and I am a better person for having known her. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends.
Dear Will and Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. I am very sorry for your loss.
Holly was one of the best swimmers of Lindgate Swim Club.I will always remember her for her elegant and perfect form swimming style.She was voted "most beautiful legs"by everyone on the team.May the peace of God be with Holly's family.
I'm so grateful and fortunate to have met you and your family 19 years ago. I still don't want to believe what has happened. For as long as I knew you, I never considered you as my boss but as my best friend. It's going to be so hard to get out of my routine of coming to see you on Mondays. I'm just so heartbroken to lose my friend. I will miss your smile, hugs, and kisses and calling me “Doracita” and always reminding me of how much you loved me every chance you could. Mr. Will, Anna, Nicholas, and Peter- I love you all so very much. I will always have your family in my heart.
Dear Will and family, I am stunned and grieved by this news. I've been flooded with memories of our days running summer camps in Grant Park some 25-30 years ago together. Holly's keen intellect and sense of humor deeply impacted my view of the world and my faith. I consider her among my favorite life-mentors. I am so sorry for your loss and will be holding you all close in my heart and prayers.
Laurel (and Steve) Justice
Words alone cannot express how deep my sympathy is for you and your family. May God be with you all.
Will - I was so stunned to hear the news and it triggered so many memories. I remember having Anna and Nicholas in Sunday School, and being at Peter's baptism, and the funny story Holly told about meeting your parents on Pentecost Sunday when they were dressed as bumblebees. Discovering a few years ago that I was working with your sister in CT led to more reminiscing. Holly will leave such a big hole in so many lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Will my thoughts and prayers are with you, Anna, Nicholas and Peter. Most sincere and hearfelt condolences.
Our family holds you in our hearts with loving and compassionate support. May all of the wonderful memories and shared moments with Holly someday ease the pain and fill the void caused by her loss. She will always live on within you. All our love, The Yoffe Family
Holly was a wonderful breath of fresh air to Stratford Academy when she came in high school. Though we have not been in touch over the years, I have great memories of her amazing creativity, joy and love for God and others. Prayers to you Will and your family. Jennifer Jenkins Carson, Austin, TX
My condolences to you and family and God blessing.
Words fall short of expressing our sorrow. Our hearts go out to all of you at this time and always. May the love of those around you, and Holly's spirit looking down, help you through the days ahead. Hold tight to memories of Holly for comfort, lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about.
Holly was one of a kind- a great lady. I shall miss her and her friendship.
Thank you for always being so kind and thoughtful,
you are already missed.
Will, Children and Family,
The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. Holly's eternal reward has been achieved. Kathy's and my prayers are with you all.
Will, my family and I send our condolences. Holly was the best of the best. The lost of Holly is comparable to me losing a family member. You and Holly were the role model couple. I have never met such down to earth loving and caring people. The world has truly lost a very special gift. If the world had more people like you and Holly this will be a better place to live. We send our prayers to you and the children.
Holly was always a beautiful lady and wonderful friend! Our loss is Heaven's gain.
Holly was a true friend and touched everyone lucky enough to know her, I will miss her intellect, good humor and generosity just to mention a few of her abundant fine qualities - knowing her made me a better person - I will treasure all of my fond memories. "Many people will walk in and out of you life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."
My heart goes out to you, Will, & your wonderful children at this time of deep sorrow for your, and our, loss. I think of Holly with her sunny countenance, and bright, faithful, and thoughtful ways. May our Lord comfort and sustain you.
Will, we are heartbroken to hear this news. We have such great memories of times together long ago when we were raising our babies. May God envelope you in His loving arms at this hard time. You are in our thoughts and prayers!
May all the tender, funny, wonderful, meaningful memories of Holly wash over you all, bring smiles to your faces, and help the healing process. Loss is never easy when love is deep. You all are in our prayers and our thoughts.
Caro and Mike and girls
Holly was an extraordinary character. I only knew her through our book club, but she made a unique, delightful impression on anyone who was lucky enough to meet her. Her smile and spunk will be missed by all. I know her family will miss her more than we can imagine. May you feel all the heartfelt love coming your way from so many.
I will never forget her. She was so special in our home group and as a role model. My love to Will, Anna, Nicholas and Peter. Alice Kamman
May the Peace of God, which passes all understanding, abide with you now and forever more. Mandy and Chip