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James Lee Whitlow 1946 - 2013
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Sunday, May 25, 2014
I just learned of this and cannot express how sad I am for everyone that knew The Col. I served with him as a corporal at 533 and still reference his leadership to the day. He was a great man and leader. Semper Fi Sir !!!
Thursday, April 24, 2014
Mary Louise and to the family, I was shocked today to hear the news from another old Hawk that Outlaw had passed. He was ten feet tall in my eyes as my first CO and as time went on grew to 533 feet tall. He defined the phrase Officer and Gentleman and it was the latter I respected the most about him. A true class act. God Bless y'all and Semper Fi, Mark and Lucia Hall
Friday, January 24, 2014
Mary Louise. I am so sorry to hear that Jim has passed away. He and I were ECP's and attended OCS together. We used to sing and play guitars back when we were PFCs and later as 2nd Lts. Jim invited me over to your home once, long ago, I can't even remember where it was. I have tried to find him and had long hoped that we could write some songs together and go to Nashville and make it big! He had a great singing voice. I only found out about Jim's passing because my son is a Marine Osprey pilot, and he and your son Jay were working together in Pensacola . . I noticed his comment on FaceBook. I asked my son if he might be related to Jim Whitlow, and that's when I was relayed the news. I am so sorry that I didn't get in touch sooner. We all have suffered a tremendous loss.
Semper Fi,
Ed Benes
Monday, June 24, 2013
I'd like to extend my most heartfelt condolences to the Whitlow family. Colonel Whitlow has been one of my heroes since his sister Debby and I played together as little girls.
Jeannie Allen Hale
Monday, June 24, 2013
DEAR MARY LOUISE AND FAMILY. I HAVE BEEN OUT OF TOWN AND JUST FOUND OUT ABOUT JIMMY. I WENT TO SCHOOL WITH JIMMY FROM 1ST GRADE ON UNTIL GRADUATION. HE WAS THE SAME GUY ALL THOSE YEARS AGO AS DESCRIBED IN HIS OBIT. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. YOU AND I MET MANY YEARS AGO AT NANCY AND ELDREDS HOME WHEN KATY WAS A BABY. I DO KNOW JIMMY WAS CRAZY ABOUT YOU AND THE KIDS. EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE NOT HAD A LOT OF CONTACT THROUGH THE YEARS, THERE WAS ALWAYS A SPECIAL BOND IN MY HEART. GOD BLESS YOU AND GIVE YOU STRENGTH. "THE WILL OF GOD WILL NOT TAKE YOU WHERE THE GRACE OF GOD WILL NOT PROTECT YOU." CLASSMATE FOREVER, BRENDA QUINN KOOP.
Saturday, June 15, 2013
Dear Mary Louise and family , we are deeply saddened to hear of Jim's passing . It has been a great honor for us to have known him. When our son Bryan joined the Marine Corps were were less than pleased , but it turned out to be the best decision of his life.He never would have met Jay and we would never have had the good fortune to meet such a wonderful family.

, Bob & Nancy O'Neil (Narragansett RI)
Friday, June 14, 2013
It was a great privilege to have served with Colonel Jim Whitlow. He was a superb leader and problem solver. I pray that God may grant his peace to the family and that we may all dwell on how lucky we were to have him.

Sincerely,
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
Col J.L. Whitlow, a man who inspired me to be the best man and United States Marine I could be. He saw something in me 25 years ago that I have been trying to live up to ever since.

Semper Fi Sir!
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
To Katie and the Whitlow Family,

Pete and I's thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. May the wonderful memories you share of your Dad offer you peace.

Much love,
Pete and Courtney Jespersen
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
Condolences to the Whitlow family at this most difficult time.
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
Dear Mary Louise and Family,

We are deeply saddened to learn of Jim's passing. Please accept our deepest sympathy. Jim was a fine man, mentor, leader and friend. Our tour together in Stuttgart was special for many reasons, one of which was our time spent together with you and Jim. We still talk about it as if it was only yesterday. I toasted Jim the other night with a touch of the Wild Turkey he gave me when I retired. He will be deeply missed.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF JIM'S PASSING. WE GREW UP TOGETHER PLAYING ON THE SAME LITTLE LEAGUE TEAM, FOOTBALL TEAMS IN HIGH SCHOOL AND WERE ROOMMATES IN COLLEGE. HE WAS A REALLY GOOD AND HONEST PERSON. GUS WESTHOFF
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
When I returned from Iraq in 2007 I had lunch with my former College Football at GA Tech, Coach Bill Curry, He asked me what was my best tour of duty in the Marine Corps? Without hesitation I stated my tour as Supply Officer for VMA (AW)-533, when Col Whitlow was the CO. For me, he was the standard for what a CO should be. After another two decades of service, (Active and Reserve). There was none better.
S/F Derrick Deeds LtCol USMCR(ret)
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
After 20 years in the United States Marine Corps, you never think that you will be with a better leader that the last. I can truly say that Col Whitlow was the Best Leader that I have had the pleasure to be under. May the Lord our God show Grace to all during this time of sorrow! Thank You Col Whitlow for being the "Man you were"
GySgt Gregg A Jones USMC Ret.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Our hearts and prayers are with your family.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Mary Louise and Family,
Jim was a special Marine whom we all respected and admired. He will be missed and you and your family are in our prayers during your time of grief.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Uncle Jimmy was the finest man I ever knew, I will miss him dearly. If I had the means I would be there in a second to give my love to you all during this trying time but we are here for you guys for anything at all.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Mary Louise and Family, we were so saddened to hear of Jim's death. He was a good man, a really great guy and a pleasure to serve with. He set a wonderful example for junior Marines, and that was his greatest contribution of all. We will miss him, greatly. Bless you and your family at this most difficult time.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Dear Mary Louise and family, You are all in our thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time. I will always remember how wonderful it was to meet James at Scott and Laura Helen's wedding - he truly touched the heart of everyone there! Bill and Barbara MacKay Vinson (Greensboro)
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
It is with the deepest sadness that I mark the passing of an old and dear friend and comrade in arms,, Jim "Outlaw" Whitlow.

Jim was one of the finest gentlemen I ever had the honor of serving with in the Marines. I'm sure that as C.O. of VMA(AW)533, our old Vietnam combat squadron where we served together as junior aviators in 1972, he was one of the finest A-6 Intruder squadron commanders to ever serve in that capacity. Jim was humble, kind, generous, and dedicated to duty in the finest traditions of the Marine Corps and the Naval Service.

He was also one of the most talented guitarists and folk singers I ever had the privilege of hearing perform. His renditions of "Billy Bo Jangles" and "The City of New Orleans" still echo in my ears all these many decades since I last heard him sing them.

Jim will be sorely missed by all who had the privilege of knowing and serving with him during his distinguished career as a Marine and fellow naval aviator.

Rest in peace my brother, Semper Fidelis, Semper Amici.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
I only had the honor of meeting Colonel Whitlow on a few occasions, but that was enough for me to see how much of an outstanding man he was in so many different ways.

May your many wonderful memories of him bring some comfort to your family in this time of loss.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Outlaw - I wish I could be there for your final launch. You were such an inspiration to many Marines that you served with and led. I will truly miss you!!... STUBBY
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Dear Laura Helen Murray, I'm truly sorry to hear about the passing of your father. My heart goes out to you and your family. You are in my prayers be strong I understand what you're going through.
Vicki D. Sinclair (Greensboro, NC) co-worker @ Moses Cone Hospital.








you are in my prayers
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Mary Louise and family,
Jim set the example even as a junior officer; I often took note of Jim's demeanor in various situations and used it as a guide for my own behavior. He left a quiet but deep wake behind him. We'll keep Jim and you in our prayers.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Mary Louise and Family, we are so sadden to hear of the passing of Colonel Whitlow. We remember with fondness our time in Stuttgart with you both, and his always smiling welcoming face. We honor his memory and may he rest in peace. Tom & Bernie Koger
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Dear Mary Louise and family: We are so sorry to hear about Jim's passing. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
With all our love,

Reggie and Sue Cannon
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Our deepest sympathies to the Whitlow family.
Bill & Cheryl Jukich
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
You are all in our hearts and in our prayers.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Jimmy was always a leader in school in Edna. Well thought of, loved, looked up to and sweet. He was a friend and confidant. My respect and memories are fresh when I read this....he became the man that Edna raised. My prayers are with his family. I am proud to have known him
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Laura Helen - My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. You are a wonderful person, and through you I can see how proud you and your family must be of such a wonderful man.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
What a gift to have known such an honorable and caring man. We'll miss his smile, quick wit and spirit. We hope you find comfort in your many wonderful memories together. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers, Joni & Mike Bass and family.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Outlaw was not only the finest CO I served under, but also the one of the best men I ever met. He will be missed.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Dear Mary Louise and family - My heart goes out to you and your family at this very sad time. Jim was a wonderful man and I respected and admired him immensely. Something that has always stuck in my mind - when you and Jim were still dating and you were a teacher in Hatfield, PA, I remember something he wrote on your dresser mirror (with lipstick I believe) - "J-Dub loves M-El" - do you remember that? I also still have a piece of pottery that he had brought back from Denmark (I think) many years ago. It's on my kitchen windowsill with a plant in it and every day I look at it I think of Jim. My thoughts and prayers are with you - May God bring you peace and comfort knowing what wonderful years you had together.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
To Jimmy's family - Jimmy was a Big Man On Campus on our little campus in Edna. I always thought he would go on to do big things in life - and he certainly did. My deepest condolences on your loss. May you find solace in memories of happier times and come to find peace in Jimmy's presence with the Lord. I will have a mass for him at St. Agnes Catholic Church in Edna.

Sharon Hamman Tomas, Classmate, EHS 1964
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Mary Louise & Family - You are in our thoughts and prayers as you move forward through this difficult time. OUTSTANDING, AWESOME, and PROFESSIONAL are words and characteristics that describe Jim both as a pilot and a person - rare in today's world.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Mary Louise & Family - We are all richer for having known this brave and wonderful man. Know that much love and support surround you at this difficult time. Cindy Turco
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Laura Helen and Family,
You're in our thoughts and our prayers during this tough time. You're surrounded by love and we know your dad will always be looking down on you.
We love you,
Lauren and Stephanie
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
I had the honor to serve with Colonel Whitlow in Nam Phong with VMA aw 533. Outstanding Marine and a true gentleman.

Semper Fi
Dennis Crosby (Dallas, NC)
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
My deepest condolences to the family. He was a great man, a fantastic Commanding Officer and a true Marine. He will be deeply missed.
Monday, June 10, 2013
Katie-

I know that the memories of your Dad will always bring a smile to your face and warm your heart. May thoughts of his smile and words of wisdom comfort you and your family over the coming days. Much, much love - Jeff, Kelli and Lauren Seely
Monday, June 10, 2013
A wonderful man, a tremendous leader, and a very special Husband and Daddy. The Whitlow family is as dear as they are because of the love shared between them. Colonel Whitlow was as inspiring a man as they come. So happy to have been blessed by you all. Fair Winds, Colonel - you are already missed. Love and Condolences, The Hoyt Family
Monday, June 10, 2013
Mary Louise and family,
You are in my thoughts and prayers during this sad time. Jim was a remarkable man, may God welcome Jim home!
Blessings,
Sister Susan IHM
Monday, June 10, 2013
:( Rest in Peace Marine and protect us from above now. Thanks for being strong and always being wonderful. I know I will miss you, as will the rest of New Bern.

Love,
Megan, Rob and Jessyca Beale
Monday, June 10, 2013
Our deepest sympathy for your loss. Enjoyed the Marine Corps family in Stuttgart.
Monday, June 10, 2013
Jim, Mary Louise and the KIDS. Words will never express what our friendship has meant. It is a time of sorrow, but also happiness because we knew Jim. Charlie and Judy
Monday, June 10, 2013
To the Whitlow Family:

My deepest condolences on your loss. Jim was a real American and a patriot. My son, Christian, is currently a C-130J pilot at Cherry Point. I can only hope that he measures up to Jim's contributions to our society.

Art Mallamo
Class of 70-08
Monday, June 10, 2013
There are no perfect words of comfort at this difficult time, but please know that we of pilot training class 70-08 all loved Jim, and will quietly remember and miss him. May your memories comfort you.
Gina Bedwell
(Scott Bedwell, dec.)
Monday, June 10, 2013
I went to Air Force pilot training with Jim Whitlow. He was one of two Marines in our class – 70-08, and the leader of one-half of us second lieutenants. It was my privilege to serve with him, and to become better acquainted with him in the last few years. As you all know, he was a devoted father, loving husband, and patriot. I could say much more, but, as the saying goes, words are not adequate. I am a better man for having known him. My heartfelt condolences to his family, and a solemn and respectful salute to Jim. Jim Pigg, Lt Col, USAF (Ret)
Monday, June 10, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Semper Fi

Dog and Carol Davis
Monday, June 10, 2013
Mary Louise & family All of you are in our thoughts and prayers. God bless all of you. Craig & Kathy Manzene
Monday, June 10, 2013
Please accept our deepest condolences to the family on the passing of our comrade in arms, a true friend and leader. Jim was the personification of an officer and a gentleman, and a hero. His spirit and leadership will live in all of us. On behalf of Pilot Training Class 70-08
Monday, June 10, 2013
Thinking of you all during this difficult time.
Monday, June 10, 2013
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
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