My friends and family I kept quite about my Fathers
passing away. He died the same week I was being
interviewed by several spas. I cried a Good cry the
moment I got the phone call and just like a Military
style "you must go on" I held myself together. No one
would have known I was grieving, including me,
because I wouldnt even allow me to think about his
passing. One thought of any memory and I instantly go
into tears. I was hired the next week and knew "No
Tears". Especially since my face was the greeting of
Spa customers. My Daddy was very special to me. I
Loved him very much. He taught me to love, by always
giving me a hug and a kiss as I was leaving or arriving.
He always told me he loved me. He made sure I was
taken care of. But most of all I knew he sincerely cared
for me. He was always happy to see me and I could
always call him knowing he was happy to hear my
voice. When he develped Alzheimers, it crushed me to
know my Daddy didnt remember me. But I know he did!
He may not remember my name. Nor could he speak.
But he was still so happy to see me. The last day I
remember my Daddy, I was massaging his hands. The
nurse would tell me when I visited him, he face would
change. (Alert, happier) My dad also had Liver cancer.
Although I do wish my dad was here I understand he is
way better off in Heaven.
I still cry for you Daddy, and more today, tomorrow,
and on your funeral day (held Monday Sept 23) as I
have foundly allowed myself to cry. I miss you more
than anyone knows.Good Night Daddy !
You know I'm a guys with few words. This is not goodbye but a see ya later! So far, I'm the only grandkid to follow you by joining the Navy. The Navy was very good to me, I was stationed in Hawaii for four years, and traveled from the Far East to the Middle East. I got to go Australia, Bangkok, Mexico, Pakistan, and many places in between. I remember as a young man sharing stories about many different Navy ports of call. Good times, Gramps. When my enlistment was up, I left for college. I cook (chef) in a major resort on the Las Vegas strip, now for the last 12 years. Your a great man Grandpa, and influenced major decisions in my life. I salute you for all that you were to me as a kid and an adult. No one could ask for a better Grandpa!
I think that it is the little things in life that make good memories. The day you passed, I was working for the neighbor, Heidi, doing some yard work. I so vividly remember her calling me in and telling me to go home to my Mom cause she needed me. Heidi seen he panic in my eyes and sadly told me that my Grandpa had just passed. I went home and then Mom and I were off to say goodbye to you. When we went to St. Jean's (private nursing home), the flag was flying at half-staff in your honor. When the door opened there was Prima (primary care giver) crying very hard and hugging my mom. I love Prima for the excellent quality care she gave you. We went to your room, you appeared so peaceful. I seen the balloon weight from the arrangement, I made for your bday a couple of years back. Your Chargers knit cap from Christmas past, I remember coming over to cut your hair, many times. Holding your hand while sitting with you, you'd smile and let out a little laugh. So many little things that bonded a Gpa and his Grandson. Your a good role model and I endeavor to be more like you. As you know, I haven't done the best job with my adult life and I'm in an intense program to straighten out my life. Gpa, I know that your a self-made man and worked very hard to have a good, stable, productive life and that's what I want. If I follow your step, I will achieve those things in life. Thank you for being in my life. Your the best Grandpa!
What can I say Dad? I miss you and of course I feel so alone without either one of my parents nearby. On the other hand, I have both of you watching over me and your just a prayer away. Dad you taught me great lessons on how to deal with life's ups and downs. You were a great inspiration to all. One of the biggest things you taught me was patience in a very hurried world wanting instant gratification. I remember when I was a young girl(maybe 10 years old) and you sent me to my Grandma Parton's house to pay her some money that you and mom owed her for a stereo you bought from her. Back in the day, kids could go out in public, play at the park or just explore (this was the 60's, sadly not possible these days) It's was $60.00 and I folded it and put in my jean's pocket and set off on my bike. It was about a mile away. When I arrived at Grams, the money was gone. I panicked, I didn't even go into gram's house. I turned around and walked my very route thinking it must have slipped out of my pocket. I was sad and crying arriving home, my dad seen me and asked what was wrong? I told him what happened and expected some sort of punishment, Well to my surprise my dad just hugged me and said God makes things happen for a reason. He further stated that by my losing the money and walking back caused me to think about my actions. He said it might have also kept me from harm. who knows? hit by a car? possible kidnapping? who knows? So we must be patient and it was possible God prevented something harmful from happening. He then pulled three $20.00 bills from his wallet and told me to get back to Gram's because she was expecting the money. My Dad not only taught a lesson about patience but a lesson of confidence that he had in me. I often wonder why my mom never said anything about the lost money or the incident at all, so I never brought it up either. I found out many, many years later that he never told my mother what happened. In retrospect, All my life I always try to leave for work, appointments a little early (it was also a lesson in punctuality). I have reiterated that story to my children and many friends. Lesson(s) well learned. I will say without regret, I'm happy your by Mom's side again and an enjoy your memories and are pain free. You will be missed and I have enjoyed being your 1st born and #1 daughter. :)Jellybean (my dad's nickname for me when I was a little girl)
Papa Bear. When I close my eyes, I see you wearing your Charger sweatshirt, cooking a big pot of sausage rice, and telling everyone to wait just a little longer. When I close my eyes, I see you playing tug-of-war with Partner Joe, feeding ducks at the pond, and putting your hand out to wild animals that trusted your touch. When I close my eyes, I see you driving your big truck, and stopping to get a special hamburger for Terminator. You have given me countless memories that I will always cherish. When my heart feels heaviness and sorrow, I close my eyes and think of all the wonderful moments we shared. And I smile again. The only tears I shed are for those who missed the opportunity to know you. I love you dearly, Dad.
Grandpa, I'm sad you are no longer physically here with us anymore but I know your spirit always will be with us. You are in a peaceful place now with God. I will miss always taking the scenic route everywhere when I came to Vegas to visit :) but most of all I'll miss you. I'll see you again....just not yet :) Love you always, your favorite granddaughter, Cub
Master Chief Jimmy Albert-it is very impressive to make it to the top of a white mans miltary. I will love and respect that forever gramps, you are a true role model that Native Americans can acomplish anything by educating yourself, making your family a priority, and being accountable to your own personal code of honor and integrity. Those are just a few of the things that are the footprint you leave behind for me-I will always remember the dinner deals we would always get together around town, all the football and baseball practices and games you took me to. All the Sundays you picked me up for my haircut as a kid. Most of all, I will always miss being your favorite grandson.
I'm sadden that you are not here.But I'm happy because I know you are with loved ones you have not seen in a long time.You are no longer " the Old Man of the Sea" anymore, but a young Sailor setting a course of bliss on God's endless Sea.And you can take comfort dad, that God's Ocean like Heavens streets,are guarded by United States Marines.
Dear Great Grandpa,
We love you and we are going to miss you.
I'm going miss you Dad, RIP.