I only met Marguerite in the last year of her life, but I'm glad I had the opportunity. Her time at Emeritus was enriched so much by Scott's daily visits, and it was obvious to everyone how much she looked forward to their time together. Bringing his mother to Activities each afternoon allowed more of us to get to know Marguerite and it was a good way for her to stay active and connected to other people.
The first time I stopped by Marguerite's room to visit her, I brought flowers. She seemed surprised, and then leaned forward in her recliner to look behind me – I thought, in order to see if I brought anyone with me. But I was the one who was surprised when she looked back at me and said, "Well, that's very nice of you, but are there any chocolates to go with those flowers?"
In repeat visits, she was always gracious and hospitable, inviting me to sit with her a while and always inquiring if she could get me anything. I wish I had known her earlier in her life, as I will bet she was quite the store teller. Still, I am very glad to have known her for the time that I have, and I'll bet I will always think of her whenever my husband brings me flowers and candy!
As a side note:
Scott, you have been a wonderful example to so many of us who have a parent in residential care. Your dedication to your mother has been evident to residents, family members, and staff. The many tender ways in which you showed your love for your mother showed us all how very special she was, and served to endear you even more to her.