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    Tumwater, WA
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Raymond Arthur Dexter 1923 - 2012
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Sunday, February 03, 2013
Condolences to the family and friends of Raymond A. Dexter:

I write on behalf of the family of Maybelle Irene (Major) Harrigan, b 1917, d. 2001, cousin to Raymond and Niece to Mona Vera (Major) Dexter, who was sister to our grandfather, Herbert Major of West Hartford, CT. (b. Belfast Ire. c. 1888). We stumbled upon the obituary notice by chance just today and are greatly inspired by the life of this remarkable and gifted man. Our deepest sympathies to all of you on his passing.

F. Edward Harrigan III (grnmtnby@aol.com) also on behalf of Douglas, Robert, and Roy Harrigan and on behalf of our father, Frank E. Harrigan Jr. MD (95), (also from West Hartford).
Monday, January 14, 2013
Dear Kathy and the Dexter Family, we remember Ray as an outstanding example of a man that was an inspiration to so many. His caring, generosity and stature will be long remembered. Our prayers are with you.
Wednesday, January 09, 2013
Dr. Ray Dexter has been my encourager, supporter, and a friend. He leaves an awesome legacy. Kathleen and family may God's endless comfort and love be your continued strength and stay at this time. My the Holy Spirit through friends and family stand alongside you at this time. Kathy you're in my prayers. Love you in the Lord friend.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
Dear Kathy and the rest of the Dexter family:
I were saddened to hear the news of Ray's death, but are so grateful to have had the wonderful privilege of getting to know both of your from the Dr. office. You two had so much love for each other!. Kathy you took great care of him while he was sick. I know he will be missed in your heart. I will keep you in my prayers.
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Dear Kathie:

Ray was one of my earliest mentors. His ideas and counsel shaped my life. His keen mind and broad views of our God were inspirational. On this day, we think and pray for you but rejoice that Ray has entered heaven. We look forward to greeting him there in the eternities. What a fabulou teacher he was. He remains close to my heart. Ray Peacock, Lt. Colonel
Friday, January 04, 2013
Dear Kathy--Ray made the world a brighter place to live. He helped me through a couple of rough spots. Remember how we laughed and laughed? I'm so sad. He would be pleased to know that Eric and Cathy are still happily married. I forget how many years ago Ray married them in Fairbanks. Love, Jill Shepherd
Friday, January 04, 2013
Dear Kathy,
Please know that my heart feels the loss of Ray. He was my mentor so many years ago and my respect and admiration for him was boundless. So much of what he taught me remains with me today.His intellegence, compassion for all and amazing insight into how to build lasting programs that serviced those in need will be remembered by many. Hawaii so benifited from his administration. My deepest sympathy to you and the family for your loss.
Friday, January 04, 2013
Dear Kathy-It was an honor knowing Ray. I will always remember with joy when Ray would bring his epee to Tai Chi-sharing his stories of teaching at risk youth fencing in Boston.What a lovely man who has touched so many lives!It was so special for Carl and I to be married by Ray here in Olympia. He was a dear man who was greatly loved in the community! Please know that you are in our prayers-Sincerely, Susan Harris
Friday, January 04, 2013
rest in peace, beloved uncle, you accomplished all that God had in mind for you, you taught us all how to love
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Dearest Kathie words are not enough
in times like these but it is joans
and myself most loving prayers and condolences it was a blessing to To have Known Ray and his sweet smile ... Robbie & Joan Mcneely Olympia Corps!
Thursday, January 03, 2013
I am so sorry to hear of Ray's passing. I had the pleasure of knowing and working with Ray for several years in Alaska in the addictions field. He was a compssionate caring administrator whose efforts touched many lives in a positive way.
George Mundell
Sun City West, AZ
Thursday, January 03, 2013
During world War 2, Ray Dexter often came to Portland and stayed with my parents, Don and Dorothy McDougald. A youngster of 5 or 6, I looked up to this special man and my mother even provided a Navy-looking jacket to wear when he came to visit. I have a number of picture standing with my hero. It was always a special occasion when he came to visit.

Don McDougald, Lt. Colonel
Long beach, Ca
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Dear Kathie my deepest and most sincere
condolences to you and the Entire family
it was a great blessing to have known ray
if only for a short while my prayers be with you In Christ's Love Robby McNeely Salvation Army Olympia!
Thursday, January 03, 2013
Dearest Kathy ,Its my greatest joy to have known your loving Ray just a short time i mostly Remember his charismatic Smile and the 1 of 2 messages he gave
at the Olympia Salvation Army Corps. he truly was a blessing thanks for sharing him for what was just a short while but very much an Honor to have known him
God Bless you and keep you ! Robbie Mcneely Salvation Army!
Wednesday, January 02, 2013
Dear Kathleen, I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers at this time.
Elaine Dahlgren (Anchorage, AK)
Wednesday, January 02, 2013
Kathy Tom and I are praying for you at this time of Promotion to Glory of Ray, we have great memories of you visiting the Corps in Tacoma while we where there. May God surround you with Great memories and His comfort and love.
Wednesday, January 02, 2013
Kathy- I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandma on the 28 of December. I am sure they are both dancing with the angels.
Monday, December 31, 2012
Dear Kathy,
I met your father and Mrs Captain Dexter and their German speaking dog (:-)in Tacoma Washington in 1958 as a young Salvationist new to the Tacoma Corps from the Central Territory. I remain grateful to be nurtured by the two of them during my 10th grade of high school. My husband and I retired from officership ourselves in 2006 after 42 years of service. Out of sight does not mean out of mind over the years. I am especially grateful your father's life and ministry crossed my path so many years ago. Be blessed by words of love and encouragement from those of us who were ministered to by your father so many years ago!
Major Donna Hurula
29862 N Gecko Trail
San Tan Valley Arizona
Monday, December 31, 2012
Dear Kathy, Chuck and I wish to send our love and prayers to you and your family. We are sorry for your loss of Ray. Dixie and Chuck
Monday, December 31, 2012
"Dear Kathleen, Our love and prayers are with you in the Promotion to Glory of your beloved Husband Ray. He was a wonderful caring man who made a difference in so many lives and will now receive his Crown of Victory. We hold you and yours safe in our hearts.
Majors Dick & Martha Beaver (WA)
Monday, December 31, 2012
Kathie and the Dexter Family,

We want to offer our sincere condolences on the loss of Ray.  His life's work and story is truly amazing.  Please find comfort in all of the great memories that he has left you all.  We will keep you in our prayers.  Kathie - we love you!

The King Family- Gina & Norman
Monday, December 31, 2012
Dear Kathy,

Chuck and I want to offer our love and prayers to you and the Dexter Family in the passing of Ray. We knew him as a great neighbor, President of our community, and friend at our YMCA ........always gentle and giving with a wondrful smile and sparkle in his eye. He will be missed. We will continue to hold you all in our prayers.
Love, Chuck and Karen Peterson
Monday, December 31, 2012
l have treasured the memory of our visit to your home in Alaska
remembering how great Ray was with Aaron, a small boy who he knew nothing about. Ray was truly a kind man. It was always a pleasure to know him

I know God will comfort you as you learn to continue your life without him in your days to come. Our love and prayers will be with you each day.

Love you much,
Jim and Lorraine Grassley
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Dear Kathy, Our prayers are with you. Jim and Susan
Sunday, December 30, 2012
To All The Dexter Family - I send my heartfelt sympathy. Ray was a remarkable man and how grateful I am that our paths crossed so many years ago - when he was the Director of the First Salvationist Service Corps to So. America and then again just a couple years ago in Boston. God did bless him with many gifts and he was quick to share them with whoever he was with - It makes me sad that he is no longer with us - Love to you all - Darlene Ayres, Beaverton, OR
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Dearest Kathie,

I mainly remember Ray as a quiet, gentle man, apparently truly humble despite all his accomplishments (of which I was unaware). May our Lord send family and friends and His presence to comfort you. And may my prayers (and many others') help to lift you up in the days, weeks, months to come.


Donna Reynolds
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Dear Kathy and the rest of the Dexter family:

Andrea and I were saddened to hear the news of Ray's death, but are so grateful to have had the wonderful privilege of getting to know both of you on our wonderful cruise together in the late summer and early autumn of 2011 on the MS Maasdam as we sailed through the St. Lawrence. Ray was so proud on the day of our tour in Cambridge of the MIT campus and Harvard Yard. We recall the wonderful meals we shared with both of you, and the delightful string quartet concerts during "happy hour" before heading for the dining room. The tribute to Ray's ministry and his amazing accomplishments in his almost nine decades are so impressive. Surely, Ray has been welcomed to his eternal reward with a "Well done, good and faithful servant!" We pray for you, Kathy, and for your family a strong sense of God's peace and gentle comfort. May the Living Lord wrap "arms of love and amazing grace" around each of you, and all of you!

~ Andrea and Erv Roorda, Mill Creek, WA
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