• Brown-Wynne Funeral Home
    Raleigh, NC
In partnership with the Dignity Memorial® network
Dr. Stephen Thomas Gupton Jr. 1931 - 2012
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Tuesday, November 20, 2012
I was so sorry to hear about Dr. Gupton passing. I am a nephew of Dr. Allen and I have found memories of many of our fishing adventures aboard the Sea Hag. I am so thankful that I had an opportunity to visit with Tom at Uncle Roy's funeral. All of the great men that I had the opportunity to fish with allowed me to be a better man and father and I will always be very grateful.
Friday, November 16, 2012
While I'm deeply saddened about the passing of my Dad, I'm also extremely proud of his life and the way he lived it. I spoke at his funeral service and following is an excerpt of what I said:

How do you measure the worth of a life? Is it in years? My Dad died when he was 81, but scientists say the universe is billions of years old, so 81 is not very much. Do you measure a life by how much money you make? My Dad was a doctor, so he did pretty well for himself. But as my grandmother Jane used to say, “You won't see a U-haul behind a hearse.” So money isn't it. What is it then, what is the measure of a life? Well, look around you… It's about family -- Tom Gupton married the love of his life, Helen, my mom, and they had six children together. And those children went out in the world, got married and had 16 grandchildren. It's about friendship. My Dad cherished spending time with friends -- whether it was going fishin' at the beach with his buddies, having a cup of soup at the club, or even just going to the grocery store and saying “Hi” to the neighbors. And for nearly 40 years, it was about his patients. Dr. Gupton cared for thousands of patients from all over the state. But to him, they weren't just patients, they were like family. So what can we learn from him? I think it's simple: Live your life with purpose -- Do the right thing. Make the right choices. Make time for family and friends. Try talking instead of texting. Hold open the door for a stranger. Help your neighbors. Help make this world a better place. My Dad did.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
I love you Dad! May you now rest in peace. Thank you to my siblings that helped care for him these past 8 months, especially Diane. The service today was a wonderful tribute to a great man. It was an honor to be his son. You will be missed.

Thank you to all his family and friends able to attend For those unable to attend the service here are comments in tribute to a loving father -

Tribute to Our Father

We gather here today to pay tribute and honor a truly remarkable man – our father. He was a loving husband and father who had a big heart. He was an accomplished physician that blazed the trail for others in the Raleigh medical community in the field of neurology, which was a new specialty at the time he was coming out of medical school. Yet with all of his success and accomplishments, he always remained a humble man that spoke few words but left behind a lasting legacy in the profession he loved and with a loving and devoted family – his wife and our mother, 6 children (3 sons and 3 daughters) and (16 grandchildren).

When we were young, Dad would leave home for work before the sunrise and often never return before the sunset. During the middle of the night, when the phone rang – he was always there to answer it. It was usually an emergency call from the hospital. One of his patients had been hurt. Even though he was exhausted from a long work day, he would rise from bed and travel to the hospital to care for his patients. That is just who he was. Never thinking of himself, but of his patients he loved to care for and help heal their ailments. All of this occurring while his children slept. His work and success helped provide many opportunities for us. It is something we will always be grateful to him as we would not be who we are today without his guiding hand.

Growing up we never appreciated or understood the endless hours he spent at work seeing countless patients at the hospital or office. It was only years later when we had families of our own and began our careers did we come to appreciate the dedication and sacrifice he made for his family. He provided his children with every opportunity to succeed in life, yet he never pushed us to follow him into the field of medicine. He realized each of us needed to find our own path, our own calling. The most important thing was to choose a career and spouse you loved and cared for

One of his other passions was the beach. It was a place of tranquility and solitude for him. He could spend hours gazing at the ocean and soaking up all of the sounds and the sun. At the beach life is different, time does not move from hour to hour but mood to moment. At the beach, we live by the current, plan by the tides and follow the sun. During the summer months, we would go down to the beach nearly every weekend and spend our summer vacation there. Dad loved to go fishing with us and spending the days on the ocean enjoying all life had to offer. It was a place of solitude for him.

Our dad was a fighter. In 1971 we were traveling back from the beach he loved. That was when he had his first major heart attack. He was sent to Rex and then Duke Hospital where they were able to save him. It was when he was in the prime of his life. For a brief moment in time his heart had stopped. It was then he saw a glimpse of heaven, but God knew he had more to offer this Earth, more he needed to do for his family and patients. Dad always viewed the days and years he had after that time as a blessing. On Friday, November 9, he passed away at that same Duke Hospital nearly 40 years later knowing he was able to see his children grow up, walk his daughters down the aisle in marriage and sons become men and marry to start families of their own.

We leave you with these parting thoughts from a poem posted on the Internet written by a child to his father that passed away in 2008 -

Now God has called upon you
It's time to get your wings
To leave this world behind you,
And enjoy all of heavens beautiful things,
So wait for me in heaven Dad,
Don't let me come alone,
The day the angels come for me,
Please be there to bring me home.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
To the Gupton Family I pray that through your time of bereavement God strengthen you at this time. Pinkie, Raleigh Dilysis Clinic
Thursday, November 15, 2012
I will truly miss Dr. Gupton. He always came into the Radiology department with a smile. He was one of a kind. I enjoyed working with him and learning from him. My deepest sympathy to the entire Gupton family
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with the Gupton family. May God grant you comfort and peace. And may your precious memories of him soothe the pain of your loss and uplift your spirits. I did not know Dr. Gupton, but I have heard his daughter, Cathy, speak so lovingly of him.
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Deeply sorry to hear of the passing of my friend, Tommy.What a distinguished career he had as a Physician and Father. He will be missed by many. ......... Lt. Col. Robert E. (Bobby) Pennigton, USAF, Retired. Class of 49 and former teammate RMHS.
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Diane, I am truly sorry for your loss. I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers during this difficult time. May God give you peace.

Melody Salmon Adams
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
I want to tell everyone how much I love my daddy and how much I miss him...No words to describe...but I also would like to thank my sister Diane for all that she has done...Thank you Diane..
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
May your memories of the wonderful times you shared with your loved one comfort you and your family, today and always.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
The most generous and kind physician I have ever worked for - a man who truly loved what he did and cared for so many. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this time. I met Dr. Gupton in the late 1960's, early 1970's. I was having horrific migraine headaches and he performed a procedure, in layman's terms known as "blowing air on your brain". No, you weren't put to sleep and the procedure was gruesome. But whatever Dr. Gupton did, he blew out what was causing the problem because I've never had a migraine since then!! Though they say I talked out of my head, so much so I even threatened his life, he was my life saver. I have often thought of him and the wonderful work he did and what would have happened to me if he had not been such a wonderful, caring physician. He was a true believer in caring for people, caring for his patients. He left a wonderful legacy that you all can be proud of. May God's Word give you comfort during this time of sadness. Judy Crumpler, Raleigh, NC
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
My condolences to the Gupton family on your loss. I was an employee of Dr Gupton's 1984-1985 in his office across from Wake Med.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Diane - We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. We'll be thinking about you and your family during this very difficult time. I never met your Dad, but after reading his obit, I wish I had.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Peyton and I send our sincere condolences to the family of Dr. Gupton. He was truly a good man, a true gentleman, and a talented doctor. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the all the family.
Connie and Peyton Becton
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Cathy, Genny, Auggie, Anderson and Hanna and to the rest of the Gupton family, our condolences to each one of you. May you find comfort in knowing that your father, grandfather, uncle, friend and husband is at peace. 2 Corin 5:8, "We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord." Gupton family, "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning." You to will see Mr. Gupton again. We will continue to pray for each one of you. Peace & Blessings ~Ms. Jean McNeil, Cheryl, Shawn, Denzlo, and the grand kids.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
My dad(Bruce Young) use to be one of Dr. Gupton's fishing buddies also. Dr. Gupton made this comment to Dr. Allen about my dad: "Hey Leroy, How did you train that gorilla to smoke that cigar"!! My dad won the Big Rock Blue Marlin Toruney in 1985. My dad pased in 1993. My sincere condolences go out to your family at this difficult time. May you find peace in knowing that he is with God now, and I'm sure that he, Dr. Allen and my dad are probably fishing together again.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Diane and family,

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Ted Goyins
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
As an EEG tech at Wake Med I worked with Dr Gupton for years. He was always so kind, and helpful. Of all the doctors I have worked with during my 35+ years in the business, he is the one I will always remember.
May God bless you, and give you comfort in knowing that your love one was truly loved my all. My life will always be better for knowing him.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
I first met Dr. Gupton when he became my sister's,physician (Sandra Strickland Turner). She had Multiple Sclerosis and he cared for her like she was his child. My family came to love him for his warmth, gentleness and caring. He was a great doctor and my sister dearly loved him. She passed away 26 years ago, and we have never forgotten Dr. Gupton or how he made her life bearable for many years. I am so very sorry for your loss. He truly was a great person.
Monday, November 12, 2012
My heart breaks for all of us who loved Uncle Tommy. We will miss your laugh, your cooking. ( especially the Brunswick stews with the brothers)and all the wonderful visits. You fought for so long, but now you are home..with Jane Steve and Uncle Billy. Rest in Peace Uncle Tommy and we will miss you so much!!
Monday, November 12, 2012
I had the pleasure of knowing Steve when I was on the neurology staff at UNC Med Sch. He was one of my favorite residents. My sincerest condolences to his wife and family. Dr. Thomas R. Scott
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