When Eileen and Jay started dating I was just a kid but I remember it well. It wasn't love at first sight but it was indeed shortly after. I never saw Eileen as happy as when she was waiting for him to come over to pick her up for a date. They were meant for each other and they built a wonderful family. Thankfully Katie and Jay inherited his sense of humor. I know he would want us to concentrate on the happy things and the good times and there were so many.
The first time I met Jay was in Texas, and from the moment I met him, I knew what a special person he was. He always made you feel welcomed and knew just how to make you laugh. I will always cherish the times I got to spend with Jay and the stories he shared. When he spoke of his family, you could tell how much he loved them. His love for them was immeasurable..
Jay was such a big asset to the Sweeney family.His dry humor was priceless. And his unconditional love for Eileen and his family was golden. A gentle giant is the perfect description of this wonderful man. He is sorely missed and will be forever.
Jack and Denise Sweeney
I have many fond memories of Uncle Jay. Over the years, I spent time in the summer with the Finnigans both in Freehold and in Raleigh. Uncle Jay was always welcoming and willing to listen to the tales of whatever adventures Katie and I had during the day. I will always remember the vacation I spent with Uncle Jay, Aunt Eileen and Katie in Florida. I still smile when I think about how we were "the Griswolds" at every restaurant!
When I think of Uncle Jay I remember his great sense of humor, kindness and generosity.
Jay was a true gentleman who I always looked up to (literally and figureatively). He had a quick wit and always found humour in situations especially the situation when Jimmy S. shot off the Fireworks in Shark River Hills (I think Eileen will remember that). I enjoyed the many times we golfed with other family members and the patience he showed while he was on the green and a couple of us were still in the woods looking for our lost balls. When we moved into our house many years ago we had a lot of work to do. He visted one time and volunteered to build us shelves in our bathroom closet just because he wanted to help us. He did other things to help us but that one stands out in my mind. Jay was always a gracious and generous host whenever we visted in North Jersey, Dallas or Raleigh. He took an interest in my job and always asked how things were going workwise. I miss him and was very fortunate to have had him as a brother-in-law.