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Lucia Antonio 1926 - 2011

Lucia Antonio

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Wednesday, July 06, 2011
You know, over the years, we have heard from Tiya Lucing many, many expressions. Anak ng Teteng, Anak ng Pating, Anak ka ng Ama mo. Or, gago. Anything and everything silly that told us she was bantering with us. Or how about when she would get frustrated with any of us, she would say Ah ewan ko! Then simply walk away.

But there is one thing, one expression that always stuck in my mind. And that is, Walang masamang tinapay. There is no such thing as a day-old bread. It has stayed with me all this time because I thought it was so symbolic of who Tiya Ate was…and how she lived her life.

There was no such thing as a grace too small. She was always thankful for whatever came her way because every single one came from the heavens, she would say.

There was also no such thing as a bad guy. How could there be? Everyone was a kapatid, anak, pamangkin, apo, apo sa tuhod, mahal ng mga mahal nya sa buhay, at kaibigan. So how could they be bad? There may be misunderstandings, but there was never a bad guy to Tiya Lucing. She loved all of us the same.

Finally, for Tiya Lucing, there was no such thing as a bad day. Every day you woke up breathing was a good day; was in and of itself a miracle, and for that she too was always thankful. And whenever she was struck down with something – and there were many – you never heard a bitter word from her. She simply fought each one – the pacemaker surgery for her heart, the surgery for her eye, the surgery to replace a clotted vein – she simply fought each one with a quiet prayer, NOT for the pain to go away, but to ask for what she would call an “extension” to her life.

And do you know why she asked for these “extensions”? Not so that she could live longer and do one more thing she’s always wanted to do. Not either so she could visit that one more special, faraway place on her travel list; and especially not because she was afraid to die. Do you know why she asked to live longer every time? It was so that she could be around, that she could be there one more day for all her children. Whether she happened to have been 65, 75, or 85 – she never relinquished her being a mother to all of her six children no matter how grown up they happened to be at the time. She literally lived for her children.

That was Tiya Lucing. She was a person
that always thought of others before she thought of herself. I know personally that when her sister – my mom – was struck with a rare paralysis that rendered her immobile except for her eyes, Tiya Lucing asked no other question but “What hospital is your mother at?”, and just like that, without hesitation, she travelled from Northern California to Southern California where we were. She was already near 70 at that time. And she stayed with my mom, their only communication the stroking of my mom’s hand by Tiya Lucing and Tiya Lucing saying, “Baby, kaya mo yan. Lumaban ka. Lalaban tayo.” And whenever I came to the hospital, she would urge me to go home to go get some rest or do my homework, for I was still in school at the time. She would stay instead, and keep vigil on my mom.

And when it came to my having to face my own personal difficulties much later on in my life, when it came time to face my own broken heart and broken life, Tiya Lucing comforted me with the same words she did my mom - “Kaya mo yan. Lumaban ka.”

For Tiya Lucing was a fierce fighter too. She embodied courage and took all the pain that came her away – whether her own or those of others – and fought with quiet dignity.

And when the pain from her physical ailments became a little too unbearable, when all the pills she had to take became a little too many, you know what – you STILL didn’t hear her say she was having a bad day. She simply said, sinusundo na yata ako. They may be coming for me now.

And so for Tiya Lucing – the great peacemaker – comes today a rest. When I heard that it was possible she would only have a few days, there was only one gift I knew to offer her. A prayer of a peaceful passing. Out of all the peace she gave everyone of us a gift, I thought this was the only gift in return that would be befitting. She taught me this and for this, I, in turn, am grateful.

So goodbye for now, Tiya Lucing, I love you. We love you. As we lay you to your rest, remind us always, would you, of one more lesson you taught us. To love each other without judgment and without reservations. Dahil walang masamang tinapay.
Friday, June 24, 2011
The love and support of a mother can never be replaced, but I hope you find some strength, in the love of family and in the warm embrace of friends.May it make your sorrow easier to bear knowing there are others like me who understand and care.
Friday, June 24, 2011
The love and support of a mother can never be replaced, but I hope you find some strength, in the love of family and in the warm embrace of friends.May it make your sorrow easier to bear knowing there are others like me who understand and care.
Thursday, June 23, 2011
I am so honored that you shared your Mom with me - I will not forget her and the awesome Birthday party I attended in her honor. Through great Mom's come beautiful and loving children - You can be proud. Love you,
Bon. Flinn
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
The entire family should be honored tohave known such a noble woman. You can view the love in her eyes. Nanay will be missed,but never forget. She will always have a special place in others hearts.
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