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October 4, 2011
I am so happy that we have a God that promises us if we trust Him, He will see us through even the toughest of times. Five years later babe and it is still so hard for me and I miss you so very much. It is only when I give it all to God that I am able to deal with the loneliness and hurt. I want so bad to be able to just hug you and hold you. I love you Eloise Curtis!
December 3, 2010
My Dearest Love,
Thirty nine years ago today we said “I Do” and we committed our lives to each other. For the better part of 35 we were there for each other through all of the good times and bad times. I miss hugging and kissing you, your beautiful smile, and most of all, knowing that you would always be there for me with your unconditional love. Happy Anniversary Winifred Eloise Curtis, I will never quit loving you!
PLMFE
wynona shaffer
April 11, 2010
Thought of you today, but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday and days before that too. I think of you in silence, I often speak your name. All I have is memories and a picture in a frame. Your memory is a keepsake with which I'll never part. God has you in his keeping, I have you in my heart.?
March 3, 2010
My Precious Angel,
It's been a while since I have written. Not much has changed here, as I continue to try and figure out just what God has left for me. I still miss you so very much and I will never quit missing or loving you. There is still not a day that goes by that something that I see or hear will remind me of US and they are some very wonderful memories. It helps, but as always there is still that ache and that emptiness in my heart. I love you Eloise!
October 4, 2009
My Dear Sweet Love,
Your third birthday in Heaven and it still seems like yesterday. I don’t think that ache in my heart will ever go away. I am happy though that as I grow in my walk with Jesus Christ I am beginning to understand more and more that God has more for me to do here. The children and I miss you so much in so many different ways and we will never stop loving you. I finally got my answer today in church about the Book of Job as to what God was telling us and now it makes sense to me that you would have chosen randomly to read that Book your last week here. God was telling us that we don’t get all the answers here and that we see the world through a straw and have no “real” idea of the big picture. I just try to keep turning to God because I really don’t get it so much of the time.
I am sure about one thing though. I love God and I love Eloise Curtis and I know we will be together again soon.
December 10, 2008
Mom,
I'm sitting at my desk, and missing you so badly. As you often are, you are in my every thought, and of course, you give me something special. Of the 1200+ songs on my IPOD, My Sweet Lord comes on as I'm starting to type. I love you and miss you so terribly. It's hard to know that Christmas will never be the same without you, but I do try hard to constantly remind myself why we celebrate - John 3:16.
I wish it was Christmas 1994 and my gifts were lined up on the piano bench. Or maybe 1983, the first year Jeffy and I got our BG passes. Or 1987, with Pasi here with us.
I thank God every day I have so many memories to fill my heart.
I love you and miss you immensely.
Tam
December 3, 2008
My Dear Precious Angel,
Today would have been 37 years since that wonderful day that I made the best decision I have ever made when I said yes to spend the rest of my life with you. I still miss you and love you so very much. I knew how lucky I was to have you in my life but only over the last 26 months have I realized just how special your love was
I think often about how and why I was the lucky one to get you. That’s pretty much the only way that I make it through every day now knowing and trusting God that because he gave me you that he clearly knows best. I survive the loneliness and hurt knowing I was lucky to have you for 35 years.
I enjoyed our date this last Friday. The lake was just like glass and the weather was perfect. Just me and your wonderful spirit/presence on your boat on your lake, it couldn’t have been any better. The three bass I caught and dinner at Norby’s in your special spot was just the icing on the cake. Happy Anniversary! I love you Eloise Curtis and can’t wait to be with you again.
October 2, 2008
My Dearest Love,
It’s hard to believe that it’s been two years since I last was able to look into your pretty brown eyes. The children and I were so happy and we really thought that your long battle that you had fought so bravely was finally over. I can only imagine now that you were telling us through your eyes that you loved us and that everything was going to be okay.
I know for me Baby that the love I saw in your eyes was the same love that was in your eyes when we looked at each other and said “I do”.
Life continues to be a struggle here for me and I long for answers. I miss you being by my side telling me that everything was going to be okay. I wish there was some way I could speed up God’s plan for me.
It seems when I just start to make sense out of my life things happen and I realize I have no clue. The only thing that I can say absolute is that I Love you and I miss you and I can't wait to be with you.
September 24, 2008
Mom,
Today marks two years since I heard your sweet voice talk to me and tell me how much you loved me. Today is the day I finally, after a long week and a half, left the hospital. Today, two years ago is the day that you whispered - "I love you Beebs".
I will never, ever forget even one second of that conversation and how sweet you looked holding your heart pillow so tight. I was so sure that you'd be home with us in a couple of weeks and we'd be back to your lakehouse in no time at all.
But, God had another plan for us all, and while I don't understand it, and quite frankly, don't really like it, I know that his plan is the right plan.
I miss you more and more with each passing day. Sometimes, I don't know how I do it - how I get up out of bed each day and go on without you. But before I have time to analyze why, I remember, that you are with me. You are inside my heart all of the time, and I take your strength and go about my days.
I've just started a new journey in my life, and I'm determined to get and stay healthy for my boys. I know how desperately much you and Dad wanted Grandchildren, and I hope that one day soon Bebo and I will be able to accomplish that.
Thank you Mom for giving me the type of love that I will never, ever forget. I miss you and will cherish the day we are reunited in Heaven.
Love, Tam
August 26, 2008
My Dear and Precious Love,
I start my 53rd year today on this earth and long just as much today as I did almost two years ago to complete God’s work for me here and be reunited with You, Mom, Dad and the King of Kings. About the only thing that has changed is my understanding of the fact that without Jesus I could never have had you. I am able to find some comfort in knowing that you have received your just rewards and are singing and praising Him along with Mom and Dad right now.
As I have written before Baby there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about you and want so desperately to hold you and hug and kiss you. I naturally miss you most on these special days because you always made them so special for me.
I will never stop missing you and will always love you until we are together again in God’s great Kingdom.
May 26, 2008
My Dearest Love,
Jeffy's now 29 years old, Mother's day has passed and our Baby Girl has gotten married. I feel God's Holy Spirit working through me and I know you are here with us and life seems bearable, however there are still so many minutes, hours and days that the deep dull aching pain in my heart won't subside or go away.
I try to tell our children and anyone else who will listen that we are so blessed to have had you in our lives.
Baby, You displayed for all of us here on earth how God wants us to love each other in addition to being one of God's special angel's for our families and because of that you deserved not to have to deal with what we are dealing with and that helps some. But Baby I miss you still so badly, not only that special love but also the things that so many of us take for granite like the chance to just hug and kiss you.
I will never stop loving or missing you Baby until we are together again.
Tammy Curtis
May 11, 2008
Mom,
Although today, Mother's Day, is intended to honor Mom's, I honor you and your life here on Earth every single day. I love and miss you so much. Today was a special day becuase Bebo and I honored you by "exploring" Florida. I remember how much you and I loved to just jump in the car and drive, and/or when we were on trips, not looking at the map and just going. Of course, some of those times we just simply got lost, but those were also some of the best trips ever.
Next week will be so special and celebrated so many of our family and friends. It won't be the same without you there to give me away with Daddy, but you'll be there in spirit.
I love and miss you and there isn't an hour that goes by that I don't think about you. Thank you Mom for being the best Mom that you could ever be, and for instilling in me the type of love that I can give away to Bebo and to become his Wife.
Tam
April 6, 2008
Baby ... I can feel your presence everyday through the Holy Spirit and I thank God for that blessing. The lonely times and sadness are still so very real, however they are worth those very special moments that I know you are with me.
March 6, 2008
My Dearest and Precious Angel,
The days go by and life still feels so incomplete and empty. Sure there are distractions and I continue to strengthen my walk with Christ, however that dull numbing heartache remains and sadly I don’t think it will ever go away until we are reunited. I miss you Baby and selfishly want you back here with me. I will never stop or loving you.
January 24, 2008
Baby,
I love and miss you so much. I want so badly to be reunited with you and Mom and Dad.
January 10, 2008
Mom,
Tonight I found my wedding dress....God, I missed you so much and how I wished that you were there with me, sharing in what I know would be your proudest moment. It's no secret to anyone who knew you, just how much you loved Beebs. I know that heaven was in jubilee Christmas Eve when he got on his knees and asked me to be his wife. You know Mom (and I know you do) how much he loves you too.
Although it was so emotional, once I got into trying on the dresses, my girls - Christy, Megan, and Angela - made it such a fun and memorable night. I can't wait for everyone to see me in my dress. It is gorgeous, and the girls all think Bebo is going to love it!
I love and miss you more than ever can be expressed in words Mom. I've struggled lately with not being able to hug you and ask your advice, but I know that if I am patient, I will feel your presence in my heart. I pray every day that I will never lose the ability to have that feeling, your pure love in my heart. Thank you for making it possible - I love you!
Tam
January 3, 2008
My Dearest Love,
The new year is here and I realize that while time continues on, the dull pain that is deep in my heart will never go away.
I have so many wonderful memories of our times together and there is never a day that passes without me thinking of how happy you made me or how much you made me laugh. It's just that the realization then of you not being here seems so much more painful.
I continue to read the Bible, attend our Bible studies and read my daily devotionals. It was in one of the devotionals that I read a story about a man who was walking on a dusty road carrying heavy duffel bags and a knappsack. The story talks about God sending him a man in a truck who offers him a ride. The man driving looks back in the truck only to see the other man standing in the bed of the truck still carrying and holding the duffel bags and knappsack. Baby, I am ready to let God carry it for me.
When I think about how powerful God is and realize how he has blessed me with you baby and such a wonderful family and that he loves us all so much that he will carry/handle all of those burdens for us if we just turn them over to him, it seems so silly not to.
God blessed me with pretty good problem solving abilities and probably too much stubborness. I am ready to give it all to him. I want to accept His offer of not only the ride but allow Him to carry my burdens/load.
So Baby ... my goals and thoughts for 2008 are to give it all to God so that I will be able to concentrate more on discovering his work for me here.
As time passes Baby, I love you more then ever before because I realize what a huge part of my life you were.
I love you and miss you.
December 15, 2007
Mom,
I finally finished decorating our Christmas tree - Beebs bought us the biggest, most beautiful tree I've ever seen for our first Christmas in our home. I know that you'd be in awe of how beautiful it turned out. So many of the ornaments remind me of you or you bought me. And of course, I have the famous sledding figurine. That was the funniest Christmas ever - not even a piano bench full of gifts. You made up for it each year after. So many memories flood my heart about how special you made Christmas for me and Jeffy and Dad - not to mention all of our other family members.
You continue to be an inspiration to me Mom - I'm not sure how you were ever as strong as you were, and I know I'll never be close to that strong, but I try. I pray that I continue to gain strength from you and your memory, because some days I am close to giving up. Thankfully, there is always at least a small something that reminds me to keep going.
I love you and miss everything about you.
Tam
December 5, 2007
Mom,
Your 36th wedding anniversary would have been incredible. Five days in New Orleans, then back to your beautiful lake house, where the weather is perfect and the lake slick as could be. I love you and miss you so dearly.
Tam
November 24, 2007
My Dearest Love,
Another holiday without you and the pain and lonliness intensify. I feel so trapped in this world. Even with the love of our family and my love for them I find myself doubting and wondering why I have to deal with this. It is so easy to give in to the feelings of self pitty and self doubt. I now have not only the questions of all the circumstances involving you Baby, but so many questions about what I am suppose to be doing here with the rest of my life. Every day is a struggle to put on a happy face and pretend that life is okay and somewhat normal. Its not and never will be normal or okay. Each day is a struggle to get thru in hopes that night time will come and I can close my eyes once and for all.
I had felt good about my time being short and now am very afaid that I might have been wrong. I am so weak and such a coward when it comes to facing this world. My pain and lonliness is still so real that I find myself giving in to life's temptations and this world's answers and ideals, to mask those feelings. Is this the price for having a wonderful family and you Baby for all of our years together?
Will the pain go away ever? Will the lonliness subside? What do I tell the children and how do I answer thier questions?
I had sold myself on this being short term and have endured this long. I know how weak I am and pray for God's mercy to call me home.
Baby I love our children and our family. But now I just want so badly to hug and kiss you and have you hold me in your arms.
November 20, 2007
Mom,
I know I must have so much to be thankful for, but I'm having a really hard time this Thanksgiving. I miss you with every fiber of my being, and am tired of hearing "well you know what your Mom would want".
I know that all I want is for you to be here with me, getting up tomorrow to read all of the sales ads, standing in line at 'the mart' at 5:00 in the morning on Thanksgiving, going to Bealls on black friday getting all our gifts wrapped, forgetting who they were for...spending the weekend at the lake, out on the boat. You know Mom, all of the things that always came so naturally for you and I to do together or with our family.
I miss you and am just not sure how to be without you. I love you.
November 15, 2007
My Dearest Love,
The news of Frankie’s heart attack was so unexpected. I feel so badly for Caroline and Becky and the children, yet I find myself thinking that Frankie is lucky that God has called him home and he gets not only to leave this broken world but to be reunited with you and his mom. I continue to go to God in prayer asking that the children be blessed and protected and that I might be able to complete the work he has for me here. And that I too might be reunited with Jesus, Dad, Mom and You my love.
This Sunday the boys and I are singing at the old Branscomb Methodist church, were just a few days short of 36 years ago we recited our Wedding vows. I hope you will be listening and that you will have that same beautiful smile on your face as you had when we said “I Do” almost 36 years ago.
While it sometimes may appear different, I miss you and love you more then ever before.
November 8, 2007
Mom,
This weekend, a group of your family and friends will walk again in your honor and memory. We love and miss you so much, helping the American Heart Association raise money is the least we can do.
I know you'll be there with us in spirit. I love and miss you more each day.
Tam
October 27, 2007
My Precious Angel,
As October comes to an end I am reminded of just how much you loved this month. In addition to being your birthday month you loved the prospect of cooler weather and more opportunities for us to spend time at the lake. Life here seems to go by rather slow when I lose focus of my spirituality. I still miss you so bad and want to be with you. I continue my walk with Christ and continue to read the Bible looking and listening for opportunities to complete my work here for God.
I hope you enjoyed our new song and as the lyrics say I do look forward to spending a lifetime (eternity) reminiscing on the past, talking things over me and you somewhere in paradise. Knowing You, Mom and Dad will be there makes it so very very easy to come home.
October 23, 2007
Mom,
Last night you were in my dreams....it was nice. A mixed memory of a trip with Jeffy, his silly little laugh making us laugh so hard. Singing, 'Going to the chapel' on our trip to Lancaster. It was nice to see you, hug you, laugh with you. It's been a long time since you visited my dreams. I pray you will again soon. I love and miss you.
Tam
October 11, 2007
Mom,
I finally made it to New York - not nearly as bad as you always thought it was. As a matter of a fact, you would have absolutely loved it here with me tonight. I wear your picture around my neck and on my heart every day and know that you were with me.
Missing you more and more every day, especially in your favorite month.
Tam
October 4, 2007
My Dearest Love,
The other day I passed a place we always liked to go,
And I picked up the phone because I thought you'd want to know;
But I forgot you weren't there, I miss you O these days,
But I'm reminded of your smile and the funny things you'd say.
I see you most at Christmas you're like a little kid,
You've always loved a good surprise and now I must admit;
That I long more for Heaven than I ever did before,
You gave me one more reason and each day I wanted more.
You left a group of fishermen and somehow you left me too,
Though I have felt you many times, I know you saw me through;
I've always longed to feel your arms and look into your eyes,
And talk forever me and you somewhere in Paradise.
Knowing we can spend a lifetime reminiscing on the past,
Knowing I will see your face again where tender moments last;
It makes me want to go there knowing I won't be alone,
Knowing you'll be there makes it easy to go home.
Just knowing you'll be there makes it easy to go home.
It won't be long Baby
Your Son
October 3, 2007
Mom,
Just short of a year, one year ago today, I saw you smile at me one last time. I will never forget those moments and it breaks me heart to know that you will never be able to smile at me like that again here on Earth. I miss you so much and not a day goes by that I don't look at your pictures and remember the good times, but it is so hard to forget that horrible time at the hospital, picking you up and at the chiropractor's office, in the ambulance and the initial news that you had suffered a heart attack. I wish I would have been smart enough to know to take you straight to the hospital and maybe those 30 minutes would have spared your life. I wish so many things could have been different, I wish I could see you right now and talk to you and hug you and tell you about my successes and travel. I love you so much and thank God that those wretched memories of the hospital are usually always over run by the thousands of memories that I have of you that I love. My life is incomplete without you and there is nothing I can ever do about it, but remember how much you loved me. We are going back to Costa Rica, hope you will be there with me.
October 2, 2007
My Dear Precious Love,
I sent this email out to our family, friends and fellow Christians one year ago today. Even though I thought that you were on your way to getting better only realizing later that you were saying goodbye I still believe that God did and does answer our prayers.
I am a sinner with an asterisk and fall so very short of God’s grace and glory, however it’s that same grace, glory and love that God extends to me and all of us through the sacrifice of his son Jesus Christ that allows me to continue here.
Since that day I have experienced three more of God’s miracles as he has revealed himself to me at times I could not bare life here any more. I continue to do the best I can to hear the quiet still voice and I continue to pray for God to bring me home. I know God answers prayer and I am confident he will answer mine soon.
I love you Baby with all my heart.
We worship and believe in a God that for the most part we have to rely on our FAITH. I am so happy to report and to tell you that I am one of the lucky few who can say I have literally seen God’s work/miracles. This afternoon my special angel opened her eyes and acknowledged the children and me. After two Sundays ago I didn’t think I would ever be able to look into those big beautiful brown eyes ever again.
We are not sure where God will take us but we are sure he is and does answer prayers. We have experienced God’s work first hand!
The doctors are weaning her off of the ventilator and if she does good tonight might remove it tomorrow. She had her third dialysis treatment today and handled it well again.
We are still not out of the woods yet so please continue to pray. But please know if there was ever any question as to “does prayer work” we are here to testify that it does.
God Bless you all.
Jeff
September 19, 2007
Baby … I struggle so much thinking about our time in the hospital together. There are so many questions that I should have asked and so many things that I might have been able to do different.
Then I remember just how brave you were and as you did your whole life, you focused on Me, The children and Family. I have a lot of questions for God, and in my tougher times try to remember that He is in control.
I do know that just as you did when you were here that since you have been gone you have touched so many people in a positive way and I am sure are responsible for some of them seeking out and finding God.
As we approach your one year birthday in Heaven I am feeling stronger and stronger that my time is soon. I continue to love and miss you more than anyone will ever know.
Wynona Shaffer
September 13, 2007
Aunt El,
It feels like a million years and just yesterday all at once. I just can't believe that you are gone
and we all have to live this life without you here with us.
When I look at My Mamma's face I can see the void that she feels. Losing you is the the most painful thing she has ever endured.
We are all missing you and waiting to see you again in Heaven.
Today Brandy is wearing your blue t-shirt with the fish on it, Mamma has on your bucs flip flops and I am wearing a hot pink tank top of yours.
I had another tank top of yours that still smelled like the musk perfume that you wore. Steve didn't know and washed it...It made me cry...I miss that smell.
Love you always
Christy
Beverly Fla nders
September 5, 2007
Dear Eloise,
My tears come and I begin to pray for your family, each and everytime I receive a notice or when Robin Gayle talks about you, Jeff or the kids. It breaks my heart for the pain that your family and loving husband endures each and everyday and what suffering you had to go through here on earth before God opened the beautiful gates for your entry.. I just know you had the biggest celebration that day! When you cross my mind, I can hear that wonderful laugh and beautiful voice and see your pretty face. Your life and death has touched my life more than anyone knows. I am glad that I had the chance to see you at the celebration in June of 06 of the home that has brought so many of us happiness "Bill and Pearl Curtis's home" and although 5 of you are no longer there when I get the chance to visit (You, Bill, Pearl, Mum Mum, and Grandpap Bill) you all are still there in my mind! The sincere hug you gave me that day for the flowers and for coming was the last time I was blessed to see you and to this day, remember it like it was yesterday! You see, your family (Curtis's) gave me hope and love that lacked so much in my life and family in my younger years and will never forget it. I know now God put your family as my friends to show me what life and love really means. You were always a blessing to so many people and wished I would have said it to you over and over again each time we saw each other, but I was too closed inside to say it! I am confident that God is working in their lives and will continue to hold Jeff, Tammy & Peabody (Jeff Jr.) in his arms and cradle them in his care until you are all together again. Love, Bevy
September 4, 2007
My Dearest Love
It has been eleven months and the couple of days after your surgery since I was able to kiss you and tell you that I love you. It is so very hard here for me to live anything close to a normal life. I still miss and love you so very much. It seems like just when I get some things sorted out my heart breaks all over again for no apparent reason. I know for you Baby it will be a matter of closing your eyes and then opening them and we will be together again. I just hope and pray for me it won’t be to awful much longer.
Bobby Clark
September 4, 2007
El thanks for making me feel like one of your family members. I miss your singing at TT Friday night outings. I love you and Jeff like family. I pray for Jeff and the kids. I will see you and we can take a walk on the streets of gold.
Love,
Bobby
Allyn Ferris
August 30, 2007
I was very shocked and saddened when I found out about El's passing today. I did not know. I will keep your family in my prayers. She was a very special friend to me.
August 29, 2007
Mom,
I am finally feeling the depth of the void that is in my life without you. I have spent a lot of time the last several weeks in prayer asking for help and for guidance. I can't seem to come close to any answers. I know that only you or God can help me fill that void, but I cannot seem to that point where I feel like anything makes sense with my life. I miss you more this morning, more today, than I have since you went home. I know I'm being selfish to want you here with me, with our family, but it's a feeling I cannot seem to shake. I promise you that I won't give up on seeking answers, and I will try to be more patient. I just hope that life is patient with me while I search for the answers.
I love and miss you more than any earthly emotion could ever express.
Tam
August 26, 2007
My Darling Love ... I lay here tonight on my 52nd birthday remembering how you made 36 of them so special. I had a wonderful day today with the family but it is sad to be reminded that it will never be the same without you, here on this earth. While today and the other holidays (and even the so called normal days) that have passed have been so hard for me to deal with I am reminded and remember just how special you made each and every day of our 35 years together so very special for me. I am so lucky and so blessed for God to have put you in my life.
I fight and struggle every day to stay focused on what God has planed for me and I continue to pray for him to give me strength and patience. I truly feel like my time is getting closer and closer. It's with that thought I can face tomorrow and make it through another day because unlike what other people have said it has not gotten better or easier.
I love and miss you more today than ever before.
August 21, 2007
Mom - I need your advice and guidance today more than I ever have. I miss and need you so much.
T
August 13, 2007
Yesterday my Love, I stood in the Lord’s House in front of our children, family, friends and church and professed my faith that because I accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior I know I will be living eternity with God and all of my Loved One’s. I explained to them that as a family we were blessed to get an example of how God loves us unconditionally based on how you showed us how to love unconditionally here on earth.
It was such a powerful, all calming and exhilarating feeling to be able to verbalize that in front of the people I love and care about the most in this world.
I don’t think there are any words to describe how much I loved and still love you or how much I miss you.
I don’t think it will be long now baby.
August 13, 2007
Mom,
I know that you had to be beaming yesterday - seeing so many of our family and friends come together to support Dad as he shares his testimony and love for you, Grandma and Pappy. Dad's walk in faith has strengthened so much, and I admire him for working so hard to know God as intimately as he is learning to do.
Although I know there are no tears in Heaven, I can only imagine that you feel our emotions. When I closed my eyes and sang yesterday - all I could hear was your sweet voice harmonizing with me, just like we always did.
I love you and miss you - Sweet little Dixie Doodoo must be just bouncing around up there with you, meeting all of your friends. She missed you so much too, so I'm happy for her that she got to meet you at the Rainbow bridge.
I love you Mom
Tam
August 5, 2007
My Dearest Love,
Ten months and I still miss and love you it seems more every day. Last week we had the reunion and you were missed so badly by everyone. You were such a huge part of all of our family functions. Amidst my sadness I thought about you being in Heaven with Mom and Dad and looking down on all of us and I thought about the huge smiles you must have all had on your faces and it made it okay.
This week I will give my testimonial in church and tell the family and whoever else is willing to listen that you loved us all unconditionally as God loves us and calls all of us to love each other. I will tell them that it is only because of God’s love, mercy and grace that you and I along with the family were able to experience that wonderful love here on earth. And then I will tell them that because I except Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior that I know I will be reunited with you soon and that is what makes life bearable here for me.
I love you Baby so much and I look forward to completing God’s work here and being reunited with you soon.
August 2, 2007
I don't have anything profound or eloquent to say today. Just that I love you and miss you Mom.
Tam
July 10, 2007
My Dearest Love
Nine plus months since you left us to be with God. As I remember the many wonderful times we had here and just how blessed we were I can’t help but let the worldly part of me take over my feelings. It still hurts so much and so badly, I still long so desperately to hold you in my arms and hug you and kiss you.
It is not until I turn to God and ask for his comfort and understanding that I can get any relief. That’s when I realize that you are now experiencing that one of a kind glory in heaven’s bright city where the mansions glisten and the streets are pure gold, where the sun is always shining (no storms I know you love that) and no more tears dim your eye,
I know you have reached the end of the rainbow, where mountains touch the sky.
For me, God has washed my eyes with tears so that I might see and now I’m realizing that my broken heart is good for me. He has torn it all apart and looked inside only to find so much fear and foolish pride. Our Lord of Lords, our precious God is now sweeping away those things that made me blind and now I am starting to see that the clouds are silver lined.
So now my precious love, amidst the crash of the thunder, while the storm here in this broken world howls above me and there is no place for me to hide I pray that You, Mom and Dad can team up with God and keep me safe (patient) until the storm passes by.
The devil whispers to me all the time that there is need to try. He tries to get me to believe that there’s no end to this sorrow and there is no hope in the by and by.
But for me, my Darling Love, I realize there is coming a day when my heart will no longer ache, I'll have no more sorrow or burdens to bear. What a day, Glorious day that will be.
Since my Love you have hastened off to glory, I want you to linger near the eastern gate. Because I WILL be coming in the morning (blink of an eye) I promise (because God promises me) you won’t have long to wait.
The worldly selfish part of me still wants you here with me Baby but every day I strengthen and build my relationship with our "Lord and Savior" and I feel like I am getting closer to understanding. He is responsible for all things and He will take care of all things if we let him. I now realize our Love, while it was so great and so special it was but a glimpse of His love for us. Knowing that You, Mom, Dad and all of us who belive will be reunited in His Glorious Kingdom let's me go on here another day.
That very thought allows me to now sing aloud and in my heart:
OH WHAT A DAY THAT WILL BE WHEN MY JESUS I SHALL SEE!
All my Love
July 5, 2007
9 months seems like an eternity - yet I was looking at pictures today and saw the one of you and I at Turner Field, July 1997. To see the picture takes me back as if it was yesterday. I miss you so much Mom....
As I sit here typing in my office, I am listening to my IPOD - I must have 1000 songs and what comes on as I'm feeling so sad? Elvis - Peace in the Valley.
Even as I come here to write about my struggles, you send me signs that I don't expect.
I love you Mom - thank you for making so many memories with me that I can look at pictures and relive them. But thanks even more for reminding me of where you are, and that no matter what, you are with me. I love you!
Tam
June 27, 2007
Mom,
You must be so incredibly proud of Daddy - he did such a wonderful job for my birthday. I was so incredibly surprised with all the prizes when we got to our room, and then just being able to spend time with him and Bebo on my birthday was wonderful.
I suppose my prayers are being answered, because I don't feel as alone or lonely as I have since you left Earth to go to Heaven. I pray that I will continue to feel your presence every day just as strong as I do today.
I love you and miss you
Tam
June 20, 2007
It's my birthday eve...you always went so far out of your way to make my birthday's special Mom. I miss you so incredibly much - but I know I'm lucky to have had so many wonderful birthday's with you. So much to say to you, wish I could hug you, wish I could sing with you, wish I could fish with you, wish I could dance with you...
I love you my sweet Angel Momma.
Tam
June 12, 2007
I love you Momma - I started my crazy diet again today, but it feels good to finally be motivated again to care about myself. I remember how you laughed last year when you spoke to me on the phone and realized that my pills make me a little kooky. I was tapping my foot and clicking my nails in the sales meeting this morning and actually brought a smile to some faces because they felt like the old Tammy was back. I don't miss you any less, and it doesn't hurt any less, I'm just ready to start feeling good again.
I love you my sweet angel Mommy - I'm in the parking lot of Carnival Corporation, about to go in and close a big deal.
Tam
P.S. - I know you know this, but we're all doing okay. Dad, Jeffy, Beebs and me - we're all taking real good care of each other and you'd be proud of the boys.
June 4, 2007
Eloise, I wanted to write and say your name baby. Just another one of the thousands of things that I miss so much about having you here with us. Eight months and the pain has not subsided. I continue to pray for God's guidance and patience. Meanwhile life is a struggle and so meaningless most of the time. I love and miss you my deareast love.
May 31, 2007
I love you and miss you Momma - thanks for being with me on that stupid plane ride this morning, and I sure hope you're with me tomorrow night when I fly through the storm.
Tomorrow starts my birthday-month. It just won't be the same without you, but I will try to celebrate just like you'd want me to do.
I love you my beautiful and precious Momma
Tam
May 25, 2007
I love you Baby and miss you still so badly and now I realize that it is not going to change until we are reunited again. Your kiss was so very very special.
May 14, 2007
My Love, Mothers Day has come and gone and in my good times I think of you in Heaven with our Mom's and how happy you must be. I know that I am truly blessed to have had not only a wonderful,loving
and caring mother but to also have had you as the mother of our children. I look at them and I am so proud of what you instilled in their hearts and the many lessons in life that you taught them through your love and your actions.
Unfortunately this world is wearing me down. I struggle now it seems not only daily but hourly to go on living. I miss you so much and not having you makes life here so unattractive. I miss you and need to be next to you. Why would God take you when he had to have known how weak I am
May 5, 2007
My Dearest Love,
Seven months and as hard as I try for the children and our families I remain so weak and so fragile. I want so badly to just be able to scream at the top of my lungs how much I miss you, and love you and ask why this happened and why I didn’t do more for you baby and what really happened the day of surgery and what happened that Sunday after I left you when we kissed and told each other how much we loved each other and the next day when you looked at me with such a scared look on your face and tears in your eyes and I wanted to hold you and kiss you tell you it was okay, that YOU had not done anything wrong and YOU had done everything right and you were so brave and we were so proud of you and instead all I could do was stand there so helplessly and just cry. I have so many unanswered questions that leave me so empty inside.
There is so much more my Love that I want to tell you and ask you and beg your forgiveness for. I know how much you loved me and I am pretty sure you would say everything was okay and that you would tell me nothing was my fault and that no matter what happened you still loved me. I feel this way because I know (and experienced) that you truly could in a God like manner Love Unconditionally.
That is why I have to tell the world just how strong and smart and special you were. I am reading Mom’s journals and on more than one occasion she refers to herself as dumb and not very smart. It is so heart breaking to read that because we all know that just the opposite was true. Not only was Mom a wealth of knowledge but I now Truly understand just how strong she was.
I think I know though Baby what Mom was feeling and/or what she meant. Over our years together I seemed (undeservedly) to get the credit for the brains or success or whatever you want to call it. Well now when I need to make some of the easiest or most simple decisions I can’t do it without fear, doubts and silly concerns and it makes me feel “dumb”. I now realize that I was only able to do that before knowing that regardless of the outcome of any of my decisions you would always be right by my side with your unwavering support and unconditional love. Not having you here as I am sure was the case with Mom and Dad makes not only decisions but also life so uncertain and can really make a person feel dumb.
I am reading the Bible and have gotten through Numbers. It has created even more questions and to be honest some doubts for me. I am trying really hard to strengthen my walk with Christ and I read about just how tough God was in the Old Testament and then think about how much I fall short of the people of those times. Add that to all of the happenings of the Broken World that we live in here today and it makes it so hard. It is such an overwhelming feeling at times that it makes me want to just give up and give in. Knowing all of this now, still missing you so badly and having experienced all of these pains if we could go back in time I would do it all over again to spare you having to do this. I always did and I always will Love you that much.
I do however my Dearest Love profess Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior and I rejoice knowing that it will be just a mere blink of the eye before we are in each other’s arms again.
The devil is a formidable foe and I admit I am so weak and at times easily broken but he will never take from me the fact that God’s divinity and grace:
Brought us into each others lives at sixteen years old
Gave us 35 wonderful years together
Gave us 2 wonderful loving caring children
Blessed us with wonderful families
Has answered my special requests/prayers with such special signs (I felt your special touch baby)
My pain and loneliness is only exceeded by my Love for you now and forever
May 3, 2007
I love you Mom
Today Jeffy goes to Costa Rica for a few days, and I told him, it's funny how I used to worry about him, but now, almost as if you put your hand on my shoulder...and you let me know - I do not need to be worried, because for the first time, you are experiencing Jeffy's adventures with him. I'm sure you'll have to close your eyes every now and then, but...
I feel safe and know that Jeffy will be safe under your watch.
I love you and miss you immensely.
Tam
JoAnn Heck
April 27, 2007
Dear Family and Friends of Eloise,
I have remained almost voiceless since Sept. - Oct. 2006, I assume most of you have noticed. The reasons are simple. I have had the feeling that my words would be unworthy & not do any justice for the ones who would be reading the black and white letters of emotions that have been what my broken heart has been enduring. The very soul of me feels crushed with grief over our extraodinary, beautiful & so loved Eloise, leaving us abruptly and interupting her wonderful work here on this earth for anyone who ever caught her attention with a need, for her kind, brave, strong, talented, intellegent, mercy & love. All of these qualitites and more, many more, gifts and each one to a perfection. That can not be described on paper nor in words. One would have to feel her to know her and if you did you were fortunate. Eloise has an understanding and forgiving soul-she was born that way. I will try to be more like that Christian soldier, with her "Amazing Grace" even though I know that I could never come close. She loved all of her families. Her mother, father, brother and three sisters. She loved her husband, daughter and son. She loved her extended families. Also her friends and coworkers from all over the world. She was so nurturing by nature that she wanted to put everyone elses needs before hers most of the time. I am a witness that she felt great rewards, contentment and happiness in her life. Eloise was able to overcome the strife that often enters our lives and come out with the same abounding spirit of love and unselfishness. She was proud of her family. All of the earthly things she wanted-she had. Maybe that is why the Lord took our gem when he did. He will never give us more than we can bare, the Bible says. Eloise deserved the good and magnificent heavenly home that Our Father has given her before us and we still have much to do to catch up so that we will earn our place with him as well. We should all be rejoicing and celebrating her new and wonderous life as she wanted but it is still too difficult to do that with all of my heart, so I have decided to put my prayers on legacy. Maybe then God will know I am sincerely in need as I have never been before.
Dear Lord,
You have recently taken one of your children home, my baby sister Eloise. She was one of the most precious gems that this earth had left. Her gifts were not wasted during her time here. I know that you already know this and I really am thankful and happy in the knowledge, without a doubt, that she is with you now. But I must confess to you that I can not find the peace and am still overcome with sorrow and grief. I am missing her and wanting to see her happy on earth still. Please forgive me, I know this is not right. Help me and anyone else who still suffers. Please forgive us our questions because we know that you do not make mistakes even though we thought that our prayers would be answered to keep her here. I know that I should be thankful to God that she no longer shares the burdens of this life and I am. I am also thankful that she knew that we were all here for her during her last hours. She shared with me that she saw your light coming from heaven above. That was a comfort beyond expectations. Please I pray don't allow her to know that I am suffering because I know that she tried, even until death, to spare me. Eloise obviously knew my weaknesses. Allow her to know that we tend and visit her garden here with love and care and wonderful memories. There is a butterfly, beautiful flowers and marker and even a pair of angels to guard her loved ones in her memory. As her parents & older sister, myself and my husband, who also loves her, will be in the same garden when it is our time to go home with Our Father. Amen
Dear Lord,
A special prayer for her loving husband Jeff, daughter Tammy and son Jeff Jr. Lord please help them keep all of the wonderful memories and wisdom of Eloise's faith without shedding tears of grief and loss of spirit. Put into their hearts that I love them all too. Give them the strength to let go of the pain and experience your loving mercy and peace in any way that you can. Stay close to them. Amen.
Dear Lord,
A special prayer for Shirley. Help my only remaining sister experience your healing and peace of mind, to know that I love her so much and we can pray for one another. In Jesus name, Amen.
JoAnn Heck
April 26, 2007
Mom,
I'm working from home this morning with the music on, and missing you so badly, and wanting and needing to talk to you so badly, and then you sing to me. Three in a row - Leavin on your mind, D-I-V-O-R-C-E, and Seven Spanish Angels. I know you are trying so hard to make me know and understand that you are here and you hear me and listen to me. It should be enough...but I am selfish and want more. I want to laugh with you, I want to go to Walmart with you, I want to be out on the lake with you. I love you and miss you so much - please please forgive me for being selfish and please keep letting me know you're here. I love you Momma!
Tam
April 23, 2007
Well My Love, today is our baby boy's 28th birthday and we all still miss you so much. It is such a struggle trying to live or even exist without you. The void is so unbearable at times. The only thing that remains the same is our love for you.
April 17, 2007
Mom,
I drove through South Beach tonight thinking about our trip here two years ago. You stayed with me during a conference and Dixie and Baby Lou were with us. I remember each shop we stopped in, where we ate lunch, and even the dirty nasty place we had to pee. :)
I love you and miss you so much it's painful. Thank you for flying with me tonight - it was a beautiful flight because I knew you were with me, and you were singing in my ears.
I love you and never stop thinking about you and missing you.
Tam
April 16, 2007
You never leave my side. I love you baby and thank you so much for being there for me. I could not make it without Yours and Gods visits.
April 4, 2007
My Precious Precious Angel
Six months since you have went to be with our Lord and Saviour. My heart aches so bad. I have been and continue to read the Bible where I know I will find the answers but I am so weak. I need YOU and all of your LOVE and reassurances. Time is non-existant. Days and nights don't matter or mean very much. I need and want to badly to be with you again. I love you and will never stop loving you.
Jeff Curtis
April 3, 2007
Mom,
As I try to type I can hardly breathe and am drench with tears as I listen to your CD. I miss you so much for so many different reasons. You are my role model in life and as I read what people say and look around and the massive empty void in my soul and heart I realize that I am who I am, because of you. I know I made you proud and I hope I continue to do so and show people the love and care that you did. Like you, I will continue to touch as many people as I can and spread goodness and love to all around. I am having trouble coming to terms with the fact that no one will ever be able to replace the love you had for me and it is the hardest thing I've ever been through. I'll never find a woman that will treat and love me as well as you did Dad and us kids. No matter what, I will have to settle, in so many ways. I hear and say all the right words about being lucky to have known that love and all this but the hurt and despair overpowers a lot of the time, and I feel desperate without your wisdom and advice and love and just your company and your phone calls. I remember the things you said to me in your last few days and I will never, never forget. Please find time in your busy work to visit Dad, this is the saddest love story ever to be written. If I do not stop writing now I will not be able to breathe... I know you are looking over me and as I wander around the globe enlightening and touching people in our honor, I know you will be there with me. Your best friend, Tam, needs you just as bad. Please understand my way of coping and my individualisms. Visit my dreams any night, I miss you, I love you. Please, somehow, guide me.
March 30, 2007
I miss you Momma - more than words can ever explain. We deserved to have you at least another 40 years.
Tam
March 25, 2007
My Dearest Angel
I am reading Mom's journals and only now realize what pain,loneliness,hurt and diappointment she felt and had to endure. I read her words and they are as if I could have written them myself. The only difference is Mom was strong enough to last 20 years and I am positive that I am not or could never be that strong. I do the best I can for the kids and the family but Mom's words are so so true as she describes the horrible lonely minutes, hours and days that feel so long and hopeless. My love for you continues and always will through all of this.
March 21, 2007
Baby ... I love you and miss you so much. I try so hard to make sense of it all but I just don't understand why we arn't still together living our lives. I will never stop loving or missing you until we are reunited.
March 13, 2007
Mom,
I cannot believe that today has been six months since that horrible phone call I received. Poor superstitious Momma - you always hated the 13th, no matter whether it landed on a Friday or not. My life has changed so drastically since that day, and each day is a challenge, just to put one foot in front of the other. Sometimes it may appear that I'm adjusting well or 'getting on with my life' as so many idiotic people try to tell me to do...but the pain that I feel is overwhelming. Sometimes I take it out on the people that I love who are closest, sometimes there aren't enough people around to take it out on.
I know you're well - better than well, but I hate it that I live here without you.
Miss you Momma - love you more than any human being could ever love a Mom.
T.
March 5, 2007
My Love ... Yesterday was five months. Your 5 month birthday in Heaven. That eases the pain but does not take it away. I continue to struggle every day. I miss you so much and am reminded, it seems hourly that you are not here with me because everything I see, hear or do reminds me of us. I continue to pray for strength and more importantly patience for God to allow me to finish my work here so I can be reunited with you and Mom and Dad. I love you with all of my broken heart.
February 26, 2007
Mom,
I know you'd be proud of our new house. I am happy, but it is still so bitter sweet. I love you and miss you so much, that sometimes it catches me off guard that you are gone from this Earth. I know all of the things that people say to make me feel better are true (you are in the better/best place, you are still with me, you'd want me to be happy) but quite frankly, I don't care. No one can ever know the hurt and pain that I feel when I allow myself to accept the reality. I pray for renewed strength every day, and somehow, I have no clue how, I make it through a day.
I love you and wish I had a half an ounce of your strength.
Tam
February 14, 2007
My One and Only Valentine,
As always my pain, loneliness and hurt are just as severe but today I feel those emotions piercing my heart. Today I do not get a chance to give you your special Valentines Day gift and watch your face light up and get your hugs and kisses. It was so easy to please you because you loved so unconditionally. From your new house to just roses you where always so excited and grateful. Baby I miss you so much and I am struggling so desperately for answers. You truly were my NORTH and now I have little to no direction without you. I continue to pray for strength for myself and for our children. I really do feel that maybe God made a mistake when he took you instead of me. I tried and still try to portray on the outside the strength that came so naturally for you from the inside. I want to scream now to the world that while you stood in the background that it was really YOU who was the foundation and the rock of our family. Your UNCONDITIONAL love, caring, kindness and wisdom for me, the children and our families is why we have what we have and are who we are today. My prayer this Valentine’s Day is that God will send your spirit to visit me soon.
Your Loving Husband
Beverly Flanders
February 14, 2007
Dear Jeff,
This valentine's day seems appropriate to make a note about how very special your wife and mother were to me, they both taught me so much and neither one may have ever of know how much.
I loved them not only for the unconditional loving person they both were, but just by the way they lived their lives was the greatest example of womanhood any woman could give to another.
Everyday is a blessing having known such beautiful people like Eloise, your mother and Father.
As we all know, this world is not ours, however, God & Heaven, Eloise, your Mom & Dad is yours through eternity.
I believe we all want to be in heaven, but our time is left here to continue on giving all the love and care for those that were left behind, and little ones to come, even more than we did yesterday and the days before.
Jeff, having viewed you and El's love from a front row seat for many years in the past, left me with hope that my love with another would be just as strong one day. I know you will never love another women like you did El and know she was the only one for you. Some people never get that chance to share in a mutual love and respect like the two of you did, embracing this everyday will keep you strong.
You, Tammy & Peabody will always be in my prayers. Be very very strong, God always has a plan!
Love to you all, Bevy
February 5, 2007
My Dearest Love:
It has been four months and nothing has changed. I miss you so so bad. I have no idea where or how my life is going. Everything seems to be a mere blur. I want and need to have you with me.
January 30, 2007
Mom,
I've had such an overwhelming desire to pick up the phone and call you the past several days. Today for some reason I'm hurting worse than I have in a long time. I miss you so desperately, I feel physical pain. I need your advice on so many important issues, and am lost without you. I pray that you'll visit me in my dreams, but all I have are nightmares.
I love you and am doing my best to live life without you.
Tam
Shirley
January 27, 2007
Weesie My first time I have looked at the tributes to you . I can't help but cry and hurt from the loss I feel since your not with us here to tell us how good we are and how much you care about everyone.We certainly took that for granted, but you never seemed to notice ..you just kept right on loving us all.We all love you and want to be with you to see and hear your beauty and hug you up. I talked weesie talk to the dogs today and I know they know you love them, you trained us all to treat them like babies like you did. Love Shirley
January 24, 2007
I love you! Words are not enough but all I am left with. I will never stop professing my love for you.
Debbie Morse-Hower
January 18, 2007
Jeff, I just found out today that Eloise had passed away and I wanted to express to you & your family how sorry I was to hear this sad news. At first, I thought I misuderstood what was being said, I just could not believe it. From all that has been written by everyone about Eloise, you, and your children, your family has many wonderful memories to cherish. Keep those memories close to your heart, as I know you will. Again, I am so sorry for your loss, and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
January 10, 2007
My Angel in Heaven
It's been over three months and I still can't believe you are gone. The pain and loneliness will not subside. People say it will get better or you have to move on and it hurts,angers and fustrates me. I find myself saying that they don't know or they don't understand the kind of and amount of love we had.
Then today I realized that there is no way anyone could understand because I am just now realizing myself how much I not only loved you but needed and relied and depended on you for so much. My prayers continue to be that God's plan will have us reunited soon. I miss and love you so much.
January 9, 2007
I've missed you more today than I have in several weeks. Today was just a normal day - back to work. It's been almost four months since you got sick, and I still cannot believe you're gone. I suppose I get through the days, because you are there with me in heart and soul, because when I think about the days, it seems like we were on the boat singing songs, seeing our Eagles, shopping at Beall's, eating at Norby's, meeting for lunch on DI, getting our nails done...so many things Momma - please keep coming to me in my dreams and thoughts. I love you and miss you more than anyone can ever imagine.
January 2, 2007
My Love,
A new year and I have no idea where or how to start without you. People try to tell me it will get easier and they are wrong. You have been gone just under three months and I miss you more every day. I will never never never stop loving you.
December 26, 2006
Baby ... We have made it through Christmas and it was just as hard as I expected it to be. I did however after praying for help from God,Dad,Mom and you come to realize that in celebrating God's Son's birthday that I was glorifing him for blessing me, the kids and all of our family with the honor to have had you here on earth with us.
The pain and hurt are still there day and night but I continue to pray for God's guidance and for him to allow us to be reunited soon.
All of my love
December 20, 2006
My love for you will never end. I miss you and want so badly to be with you. My heart is broken and will never mend until I can once again hold you in my arms
December 6, 2006
My Darling Precious Love
I have written several times since Sunday and just keep erasing my thoughts.
Thirty five years and three days ago was the best day of my life. Two months and two days ago was the worst.
I feel trapped. I want to scream out just let me die so I can be with you, but I am forced to try and make some kind of life out of such a hopeless situation. I love the children so much and want to try and do the right thing but the pain won't go away. I can't see, hear or touch anything that doesn't remind of our life together. The hospital and doctor situation is unbearable. Trying to live normal gets harder every day instead of easier. I can't imagine what God could possibly have planned for me.
I love and miss you more than anyone could know.
December 3, 2006
Mom,
This weekend was supposed to be a fun and special weekend, and of course, today a very special day. I miss you so much and don't know how to get through the array of emotions I have every day. I feel your love and presence, but quite frankly, I'm selfish and it's not enough. I long for a phone call, a hug, a boat ride, a 'business' trip together. I'm so angry, I'm afraid I take it out on those who do not deserve it. I love you and because I love you so much, I keep on going and keep on trying. I don't know what to do about Christmas, so please, put it on my heart, tell me what you want me to do. I love you Mom
November 26, 2006
My Love
Our first Thanksgiving without you and the pain is still there. We all miss you so much. As I struggle with finding something to be thankful for I remember all of our wonderful years together and our beautiful children. It helps a little bit but the pain and loneliness just won't subside. I love and miss you so much and always will.
November 16, 2006
My Dearest Love,
I miss and love you so much. While the days turn into weeks and weeks to months I long for your warm smile and your soft sweet lips. I will never stop loving or missing you.
November 16, 2006
It's finally over Mom. I know you were there with me, and quite frankly, I believe you touched the folks who mattered. I wished that you would have been there in person, because we would have been doing some serious celebrating. I love you and miss you more each and every single day.
Tam
Wynona Shaffer
November 14, 2006
Aunt El,
I was at your beautiful lake house this weekend and I could feel you there. I miss you so much it hurts. This morning has been a hard one. Since you are up there with the big guy would you mind asking him to help us out with a little peace down here? I never knew that love could grow even in death but I love you more every day.
Loving and missing you,
Christy
November 8, 2006
No special reason to write other then to say I love you and miss your more every day.
Rhonda Curtis
November 4, 2006
I loved the poem so much that I entered earlier today one because I am not really good with words and because I know that El is with GOD now and that there is not a day that goes by that she is not with each and everyone of us. Jeff Sr. your love and devotion to your sweet Eloise overwhelms my heart. I feel so blessed to have had her in my life, she was such an inspiration to me and someone that I looked up to with such great respect. She will forever be in my heart and I know that one day we will all be with her again. Much Love,
Rhonda Curtis
November 4, 2006
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2006
November 3, 2006
My Darling El
Thirty days and it still feels one minute like it was yesterday and the next minute it feels like its been thirty years since I have held you in my arms. I realize every day just how lucky I was to have you in my life. I will never stop loving you and remembering how special you were and will continue to be in all of our lives.
November 3, 2006
My Dearest Love
Thank you for my sign. I love and miss you so much.
October 30, 2006
Mom,
It's hard to believe that the initial pain I felt when we lost you could be worse...I'm trying hard to do all of the things that you'd want to be doing with me. Yesterday, I broke out the doggie treats and sat on your beautiful seawall and caught tons of catfish, a giant blue gill, and a turtle - twice. :) It was the most beautiful day we've had this year so far, and maybe that's why I had such a hard time, being there at your lake house without you. I know you're with me where ever I am, but it's so hard to not be mad that I can't hug you and ask your advice.
I'm still trying real hard to be strong for the boys, and they are being wonderful to me. I love you and miss you more than is comprehensible.
Tam
Jeff
October 29, 2006
My Love:
I have spent the weekend in New York thousands of miles from home and the pain and lonliness have followed me. I love and miss you so desperatly. I try so hard for the children to have and show the kind of strength you showed us all but feel I am not up to the task. I miss you and want to hold you and kiss you so bad. Life is a mere blur. I feel so bad for Mom and have no idea how she endured 20 years of this pain.
I will always love you
Jeff Curtis
October 26, 2006
My Precious Love:
I can't belive it has been three weeks. I miss you more than ever. I long to kiss you or hug you or most importantly look into your beautiful eyes and tell you how much I love you. I will never ever stop loving you
Wynona Shaffer
October 25, 2006
Aunt El,
I am missing you so very much tonight. My Mama talks about you every day. She misses her baby sister. I made appointments for me, Brandy, Mama and Aunt Shirley today for a complete checkup. I promise that I will do my best to take care of your big sisters. I met Bebo's family and I am trying to spend more time with Tam, she is a busy business woman as you know. She arranged for us to walk in your honor to help raise awareness for heart disease. I know that you are proud of her. I love you more than I can express in words. The hurt is so intense but I know that you will never hurt again. Rest in peace and I will see you again one day.
Love,
Christy
Beth Meyer
October 24, 2006
Sorry to hear about a fellow TBT classmate of 73 passing away. Best of memories to all Eloise's family and friends.
Tam
October 20, 2006
Momma - missing you and loving you so much at this moment. I know you'd be proud of me today with all of the big things going on at work. Looking forward to spending the weekend at your beautiful little heaven on earth, and sharing it with our family who hasn't had a chance to see it yet. I love you more than ever!
Tam
Your Loving Husband Forever
October 18, 2006
My Dear Sweet Love:
I can't believe it has been 5 weeks since you first got sick and 2 weeks since we lost you. It seems like years and seconds all in the same thoughts. I miss you so so much. I will always love you forever.
Brent Worden
October 16, 2006
The Whole Curtis Family,
I see you all and wish my family was like yours in some ways. You are all so close in touch and live near each other. I'm so glad you each have one another to be there at a time like this. I beleive my prayers for the family and friends will be answered and I know Eloise is taken care of by the Lord's grace.
Love and Peace to you, Brent
Tam
October 16, 2006
Mom,
Today is my first day back at work after being out a full month. I miss you so dearly, but know how proud of me you always were. Thank you for instilling in me what I needed to be a successful business woman. I love you and am proud to continue working hard and making you, Daddy, Jeffy and Bebo proud of me.
Tam
Melissa
October 13, 2006
To the Curtis family: I am so sorry to hear of your lost I wish to extend my deepest sympathies and condolences at this time. I pray that God continue to be with you and that he comforts you during this time.-Isaiah 51:12
Holli Shambaugh
October 12, 2006
Jeff, Tammy, and Jeff Jr.
I was so shocked and sad to hear about Eloise. She was a fun, happy, and sweet lady. I will never forget meeting Tammy and Jeffrey in our neighborhood and Tammy recruiting me to babysit her. We were also privileged to have her watch my son for a year. I will continue to pray for you and your family. I bet El is singing to the angels now, aren't they lucky. Love, Holli (Green) Shambaugh
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