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December 09, 2014
Everyday I am grateful to have you as my Dad. You are the true meaning of great father. There wasn't a time in my life where I ever doubted your love for me. I never had a day without your love. Although you aren't physically with us here, I know you watch over us. I know we all would do anything to have you back. Everything isn't the same without you. Your smile lit up the room and your hugs took every pain away. I miss you so much. I love you for eternity!
December 07, 2014
It's Pearl Harbor Day. I'll never forget what that means to you. Love you for eternity!
December 06, 2014
We missed you today as we celebrated Cruz turning 4. It was a superhero party. You were thought of often! When I marked off how much Cruz had grown this year on his chart, I realized how much time you've missed. I can't believe you haven't seen Cruz for 2 years. So much has changed in those years but the love I have for you and the pain I have without you here is still extremely strong. I miss you so much! Love you for eternity.
November 30, 2014
Holidays without you are not the same. I remember always asking you what would I do without you? You are the only one I get along with all the time! We are all learning to live our lives without you, but you will always remain in my heart, in my head, and by my side. I just heard your voice when I wrote the word always. Thats a word you would always stress when you were talking. I miss your laugh, your smile, i miss you. Hope you make it to Cruz's 4th birthday. I love you for eternity, and then some!
October 29, 2014
Another month without you, feels like eternity since I last saw your smile. Think about you every second, of every day, that hasn't changed. Cruz will be a power ranger this Halloween. Every night he says, "love you pop-pop" then he catches your kiss and puts it back in his heart. If I could make a bet on this, I'd swear you were actually blowing him kisses. Miss you more than ever! Love you with ALL my heart!!!
October 16, 2014
Think about you everyday. I remember your smile. I remember your laugh. It's like it was yesterday we were cheering the Ravens. To have that back again would be the greatest gift. But grateful to have had it at all. Love you more than anything Dad! Until I see you in my dreams.
September 30, 2014
I wish for you to come back every single day. I miss talking with you and knowing that no matter what choice I make, you'd stand by me. So proud to have you as my Dad. Grateful for the time we had together. Miss you more and more each day. There is an emptiness in my heart that can't be filled. You were simply the best. I will continue to believe and tell you how much I miss you. Until I see you again. I love you for eternity.
September 29, 2014
I think about you all the time. You may not be here, but you have never left me. I miss you. Love you for eternity, and then some...
September 09, 2014
Miss you!
August 27, 2014
Cruz has taught himself how to swim, ride a bike and he's starting to write his name. We go to the pool and I watch kids play with their pop-pops. I hate that he will never have that and I'm jealous that other people do. I always knew you were the greatest person I would ever know, I never took that for granted. I'm making sure he knows how great you are. Every night I ask him, "What do you remember about pop-pop", he replies, "He says Merry Christmas". I wish you were here. Miss you more than anything. Love you for eternity Dad!
August 09, 2014
Missing a big piece of me today, 38 years ago today, you didn't know what you signed up for. Thank you for loving me for me. For showing me that the path I choose is mine to own, but that I will never be alone. When I make big life decisions and have second thoughts, I always think of your song "My Way" by Frank Sinatra. The last thing I wrote in your Xmas card was "What would I do without you? I ask myself that every single day." It's still true. Thank you for giving me life and for being a huge part of it. I miss your love. I miss your smile. I miss YOU! See you in my dreams Dad. I love you for eternity!
July 21, 2014
I never stop thinking about you. EVER!
July 09, 2014
In case you forgot, I miss you. I miss everything about you. Wish I had more time on Earth with you. So many different things I would have made more time for. I hope you're still smiling. Love you for eternity, and then some!
July 01, 2014
Thinking of you today and always. Wish you were here to give me your advice. You always knew exactly what to say. I miss you more than anything. I hope you can hear my thoughts as you are always in mine. Love you more than anything! See you in my dreams Dad.
June 15, 2014
Happy Father's Day to the most amazing man I know. Seeing your smile always made me smile. No matter what was going on in your life, or in your mind you always wore that beautiful and honest smile. I wish more people had that attitude. Despite everything you ever went through you always stayed positive. What I wouldn't give to see your smile or hear your voice again. I miss you more than anyone could ever know. I still have never had a moment without you in my head. I miss you. Life can be so cruel. You are never forgotten. Love you for eternity!
May 13, 2014
Dad, you are everywhere, in my heart and on my mind. I know you are still with us. Watching, guiding and loving us from afar. I think about you everyday and hope you can hear my thoughts. You still are the greatest. No one in my eyes could be a greater Dad. It helps to know that on my journey I still have you around guiding me. I love you with all of my heart! Miss you more each day Dad! Until I see you in my dreams...
April 30, 2014
39 years ago today I won over your heart. At least that was the story you always told me. The third day I was born, mom asked you to hold me so she could take a shower and Tiny Bubbles came over the radio. I laughed or giggled and you loved me ever since. I miss you with all my heart. Love you for eternity Dad!
April 27, 2014
I don't know if you'll ever know just what you meant to me. But if one day I had the chance I would tell you endlessly. That you were the one who made everything right , the one who made me me, And without in my life it's hard to see your positivity. If only wishes did come true I'd close my eyes and wish for you. No call no card no text from you. My biggest fear has now come true that I will never hear from you. I lost my heart when I lost you.
April 20, 2014
Happy Easter Dad. Missed you today and every second that you've been gone. Sometimes I wish you weren't so great because maybe it wouldn't be this hard to live life without you in it. You were always my inspiration, you still are. I miss you and love you with all my heart. Wish you were here.
March 13, 2014
Not one second from any day that has gone by have I not thought of you. I miss you more than anyone could know. You would be so proud of Cruz, he has grown up so much since you last held him. He thinks you're up at the moon and blows you kisses every night. Hope you catch them. I love you, always have, always will. Hope you're okay. Tell grandma thanks for getting you to the John Edward show. I owe her.
March 05, 2014
I just want you to know that you are missed everyday in every way. There has been so many times I have wished I could turn and talk to you and ask you for some Tom Tochterman advice. I have many faults in myself and I try to look to you and who you were to make myself a better man and person overall. I wish Cruz still had you around to see the little man that he is becoming so quickly everyday. You would be so proud and I know he misses you very much! We miss you very much! Love Ya!
February 25, 2014
Thank you for being my Dad. I miss you! I love you for eternity! See you in my dreams.
February 05, 2014
I miss you. Thanks for coming through for me, like always. I wish I could turn back time and just have another minute with you. Life is so unfair. I hope its fair to you on the other side. Love for eternity!
January 17, 2014
One year ago today, I had to get up in front of so many people who loved you and tell them why you were so special to me. It wasn't difficult to explain how loving and encouraging you always were to me. How we could talk without talking and how we never wanted to say goodbye. Having to say goodbye to you has been the most difficult thing I have ever had to face. I know I should be thankful for the memories, but in my mind its still just not enough. I had the best man on this earth as my dad, and to lose you meant to lose a part of myself. I remember one year you were asleep on my couch, and as I came down the steps I looked at you and for a second I thought you looked dead. That was the day I decided to take you and mom to Mexico with me. I needed more pictures with you I thought to myself. I am so glad we spent that time together. I wanted to do more though. I wanted to take you to football games and other places because I knew you would appreciate it. Life may not have given you the perfect path, but that path gave me the best father I could have ever had. My last picture I ever took of you was january 17, 2013. It may seem inappropriate, but I wanted it, maybe needed it for me to have one last picture. I'm glad you didn't suffer, just wish the same was true for me. I miss you more than ever. I hate this. Love you for eternity, and then some!
January 17, 2014
With this candle I remember a beautiful, bright, smile of a wonderful man. God Bless.
January 16, 2014
One year ago on 1/17, we said our goodbyes to you. Sent you off with poems, letters, a video, prayers and a heartfelt speech from Lisa. I hope you liked the flower I sent you the other day. The song you played was enough of a thank you. I know you are always with us. We were all too close not to still have you here. I miss you so very much! Still can't believe it's been a year. Feels like yesterday we lost you. Love you for eternity Dad! See you in my dreams.
January 12, 2014
One year ago today, God took our sunshine away.

Your love, guidance, and warm ways
are being missed every single day.

You brought light to our darkness
You made things right when they were going wrong.

You lifted our spirits through words of wisdom.
Or by guiding us through a memorable song.

We miss you more than words can express.
Your love was precious and unforgettable.

We would give the world to have you back.
But we know that is not possible.

Hard to believe it's been one year. Love you for eternity and then some. Dad, your life is being honored each day and will continue to be. You were the best and will always remembered as just that. We miss you!!
January 02, 2014
This night last year, January 2nd, you, Mom and I had dinner at Nantuckets. It gave me a chance to thank you for all of your help with my house. If I knew I only had 10 more days with you, I would have done and said so much more. A piece of my heart is empty. I still can't believe you are gone. I have memories of you everywhere. I look and talk to your pictures everyday. I hear you in my head. I sleep with your sweater when I desperately want to hug you. I had the best and I want it back. Time hasn't made this easier. It's getting harder to realize that you will never come back.

Dad, I hope you hear me when I tell you I miss you. I hope you get to be with us everyday. I hope you don't feel the pain we feel, but instead feel how much we love you and miss you. I pray that God takes good care of you, Granddad and Grandmom. I love you for eternity! Always have, always will. I will see you in my dreams.
December 31, 2013
This is my last message of 2013 to you. I am sad that the year is over because it feels like I just lost you, yet its almost a year now. Now, it won't be this time last year we did this or that…now it will just be a count of years that will go by. People keep saying in time this will get easier, but they didn't have what I had. You only had 12 days of 2013 with us and you've missed so much. Now every time Cruz cries he says "I miss pop-pop". I guess he associates sadness and crying with you. This time last year you and mom stayed at my house and mom and I watched the ball drop while you slept. Can't stop thinking about how everything seemed fine at that moment, and when we said cheers to the New Year, we had no idea that 2013 would bring so much misery and heartache. I hope you are okay. I miss you so much. There's nothing I wouldn't do to have you back. Hope you have a happy new year and are still smiling. Miss you dad! Love you for eternity, and then some!
December 28, 2013
Happy Birthday Dad! Still very hard to realize you aren't here. I took a picture of your phone that had my text message to you from last year telling you not to work too hard. I am sure the angels are celebrating you today. You were our angel on earth. It breaks my heart to not have you here. I'd do anything to turn back time. Will dream if you tonight. Love you for eternity!!
December 28, 2013
Last year, I sent you a text at midnight to say Happy Birthday to the best dad ever! Love you! I just sent the same message. I miss you more than anyone will ever know. Your positive light is something that can never be replaced. I hope that wherever you are now, I hope the ones around you can appreciate how truly great you are! I love you for eternity. Happy 72nd Dad!
December 26, 2013
Merry Christmas Dad! The holiday didn't feel right without you. Thank you for the gift!. I miss you Dad! I love you Dad! For eternity!
December 22, 2013
We made sugar cookies today with Cruz. I thought about how much you loved doing that and wished you had been there with us. I kept eating the cookie dough and winked at ya. You know always used to eat it when Mom wasn't looking. Hard to believe you won't be with us for Christmas. It doesn't feel right without you. Miss you so very much Dad! Love you more than you will ever know!
December 14, 2013
December will never be the same for me. I heard you say Happy Birthday Cruz in my head, tell me its Pearl Harbor Day, watch Tj and Paulie put the Christmas lights up outside like you did every year and now we have to celebrate Christmas and your birthday without you. This doesn't seem real, and yet every day that goes by I realize it was real. Life without you sucks. I keep trying to figure out what I did to deserve this. You could make me smile just by seeing your car pull up at my work. I miss you more than anyone could ever imagine. Hope you are ok. Love you for eternity, and then some!
December 10, 2013
I miss you more and more each day. I love you Dad!
December 07, 2013
I heard you say it's Pearl Harbor Day in my head 100x today. Going to miss you tomorrow, like I do every day. Love you dad forever and ever!!
December 01, 2013
The last voicemail I have of you was this day last year. December 1, 2012 at 8:50am. I played it over and over again and I still can't understand why God took you from us. You were the best Dad. It's a punishment that you aren't here. I would do anything to have you back. Anything! I'm mad you won't be here for Cruz's birthday, mad you won't be here for Christmas. I miss you so so much it hurts. You were our world. You were our glue. You were the one that made everything right. I miss you so very much! Love you for eternity!!
November 28, 2013
I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. Happy thanksgiving dad. I miss you. Love you for eternity, and then some.
November 28, 2013
This Thanksgiving I am grateful for the 36 years I had with you, for our family and friends. I remember the pictures I took of you last Thanksgiving in your holiday sweater. I have it all ready for today. This holiday will never be the same without you. Remember how mom would get mad at us for eating all the skin off the turkey? It was half bald in no time! Playing the head band game while eating dinner last year was priceless. I am really grateful that Lisa made Thanksgiving and Christmas last year so memorable for all of us.

Dad, I miss you! I love you! I would be more grateful if I could just get you back. I miss your love everyday and hearing your reassurance that everything will be okay. I wish I could hear you.

I love you Dad for eternity! Happy Thanksgiving!
November 26, 2013
You were in my dream the other night. You were sitting at the computer with the guest book up on the screen. You turned to me and said you read every single entry. It was so real I have to believe you do. I know how much the little things meant so much to you. I'm glad you came through on Saturday. I know you are with us and guiding us. I miss you so much it hurts. I miss getting notes from you. I miss your smile and laugh. Most of all I miss our talks. What I wouldn't give to have you back. I love you for eternity Dad! Always have, always will.
November 25, 2013
Smiling on the outside, crying on the inside. Even when I'm crying on the outside, I'm still crying on the inside. Hope you are happy wherever you are. It's hard to be thankful this year. Miss you, Love you with everything I've got.
November 18, 2013
It's just not the same without you. I wonder if you think that as well now, without me around. It's hard to smile, but I do. Miss that smile, your laugh and guidance. I always told you I don't know what I would do without you, and even with you gone, I still don't know what I'll do. You were the one I wanted to have so many great memories with, and I do have many, just not enough. I miss you, I love you and I hate life without you. Love you for eternity, and then some!
November 11, 2013
I feel like I say the same thing over and over. I wouldn't be who I am if not for you. I'm not sure why you had to be taken away from me so quickly, I just hope you are okay. I love you more than anyone will ever know. I wish we could still communicate without ever having to say a word because now I feel like I need to yell it! Love you dad, for eternity
November 06, 2013
On a girls trip to Mexico and you even visited me in my dream the night I bought a cross charm to go with your "T". It's amazing how you were always there for me and even still from the other side. Miss you more than I could ever express. You will always be the greatest in my eyes. I love you more than anything Dad! For eternity and then some!
November 03, 2013
No matter what little things we didn't have, you taught me that all I ever needed was to be told 100x a day "I love you". Wish I had that still, but at least I can teach that to Cruz. Your smile always made things better and always made me smile back. Wish there were more people like you out there. Miss you more than anyone will ever know. Love you for eternity!
October 27, 2013
Cruz will be Scooby Doo this year for Halloween. It breaks my heart that you aren't here to see him grow up. You should be here with us, enjoying the little things! I was always afraid to die, but now I have something/someone to look forward to. I miss you, I love you. I wish you were here! Love you for eternity, and then some!
October 21, 2013
Wishing you were here with me, not just today but every day. I hope you're doing ok. I hope you're happy and smiling and not doing too much thinking about everyone else like you use to. I could use a big hug or just hear your laugh to make my day. I was looking at the card I sent you in April 2007 where I said I just want you to be happy. I keep it my car now just like you kept it in yours for all those years. Love that about you, it didn't take much to touch your heart. I miss you. I still cry every day. Wish you were here. Love you dad, for eternity.
October 15, 2013
I will never forget what you taught me. I will never forget the time I had with you. I will never forget your sayings. I will never forget the ways you would show me you love me. I will never forget the stories you told me. You were the best. You were the one that taught me what love was. You were the one that had my heart. I miss you more than anything. I love you Dad!!
October 14, 2013
We went to New York this weekend. I was asked to be Gavin's godmother. I've thought of you every day here. Bailey lost her father too this week. Looks like the good men are all on the other side. I don't think time is helping me much, just makes me think about who I had in my life even more. Time is flying by and yet it seems as if its at a standstill. Maybe it's because I keep saying the same thing over and over. I miss you dad. Love you for eternity, and then some !
October 13, 2013
9 months today. Hard to believe you have been gone that long. As time goes by it's getting harder not easier. Knowing you won't be here for the holidays hurts so bad. I was thinking about the Christmas when you gave me a box full of every cleaning supply possible in hopes that I would settle on my house. You always thought of everything we could possibly need. I refuse to use the last bundle of blue towels that you brought to my house or the box of trash bags you gave me. I miss having you around, I miss hearing your voice. It's not fair that you are gone. I love you for eternity Dad!
October 07, 2013
While I worked on my house all weekend, I used your tools and remembered the things you taught me. I remember you telling me to do it right the first time. I hope you were there guiding me. Your gloves still have dirt on them and there's sawdust in your Dewalt box. I don't think I will ever clean those. I thought about the days we would be painting and listening to our music station. I look around and see your mark everywhere. I am grateful for these memories, but so mad I don't get to have you here anymore. I miss you. I miss your smile. I miss talking with you. I miss you telling me everything will be alright. I miss hearing "Shelly". I miss everything about you. I love you for eternity! Always have, always will. True story.
October 07, 2013
I sent you a message yesterday but I guess it didn't go through. It's hard to believe that that was it, that I will never see you again. I wonder what was the point of giving me such a great and loving dad just to have him taken away and to leave me broken hearted. I hope you're doing the things you want to do. I miss you with every piece of my heart. Love you for eternity, and then some.
October 01, 2013
Even in Walt Disney world I miss you. I must say your name 100x a day. Love you dad. Lost without you.
September 29, 2013
Just me again. Wanted to let you know how much you are missed. I keep wondering if you can hear me and then
I think, I hope your not wasting your time listening to all of us cry about you all the time. Knowing you, you would be feeling bad about not being here. I hope your enjoying where you are, but always know that you'll always be number one in my heart. I miss you more than anyone will ever know. Wish I could have you back, or at least go back. Keep smiling Dad. Love you for eternity, and then some!
September 24, 2013
I miss you so much and I don't know what to do. A friend reminded me that I always said 'I don't need a man, I have my Dad' and I can't say that anymore. It broke my heart. It was true. You were everything to me in so many ways. I just hope I showed you how grateful i was to have you in my life. When I talk to you, I hope you can hear me. When I dream of you, I hope you are with me. When I hear a song that reminds me of you, I hope you are by my side. I love you Dad more than words can express.
September 22, 2013
Celebrated Paulie's 40th yesterday. I can't believe we are catching up to you and mom in age. Mom had a garage sale and was able to get rid of a lot of things. I'm glad she's doing things to keep her going. I know how much she leaned on you throughout the years and without you its a struggle. You gave us all so much, but mostly love. I miss seeing you pull up and surprise me at work or home and I cling to every word that Cruz says every time he randomly calls out Pop-Pop. I feel like I just count the weeks now. Time is different. It's faster. I miss you, everything about you. Hope you always know exactly what you mean to me. Love you for eternity, and then some!
September 15, 2013
We celebrated mom's birthday this week. We also saw Cruz play in his first soccer game. I know you would have been to both and I hope you were there in your own way. There's nothing I wouldn't do to have you here. I say I miss you 100x a day.Wish you were here! Love you for eternity, and then some!
September 08, 2013
You are always with me. I say your name in my head, I keep your pictures everywhere, I play your messages all the time and read the texts you've sent. What I wouldn't do to have you here with me. I hope you are happy, that's all I want for you. I miss you with all my heart. You are the best person in my life. I've never believed in much, but I always believed in you. Love you for eternity, and then some.
September 03, 2013
Every time I walk down my steps, I always stop and read the sign and note you gave to Lisa and I. It's almost like you were saying thank you for the last time. It hurts to know that you won't be there to see my dreams come true. I'm working on my house again and only hope that you are proud of my attempts at home improvement. It makes me feel close to you to use your tools and think of the many days we spent working on my house. I love you for eternity Dad! Not a day goes by where I don't miss you!
September 01, 2013
I can't seem to catch a break this year. I cut my thumb on a can this week and had to get stitches. I was fine the entire time until I started thinking the last time I got stitches, you were there to make me feel better. I really miss seeing you. I missed you this summer, I think you would have enjoyed seeing Cruz swim and go on rides at the boardwalk. I was telling someone about you the other day, and how granddad died 18 weeks later. They asked if he had died from a broken heart and I thought to myself, no that would be me. Wish I had ya back. Miss you more than ever. Love you for eternity, and then some!!!!
August 24, 2013
I use to wish for my lottery tickets to win, now I only wish to see you again. Always knew what I had with you, just never ever thought I'd never actually not have you around. I miss you more and more every day. Time doesn't always heal everybody. Sometimes it just makes you more angry. I feel like the weeks are flying by, but every morning I wake up I open my bedroom door hoping not to see the plants I received from your funeral. It still doesn't seem real, only when I go to reach for my phone to call you does it hit me that I can never talk to you again. I love you with all my heart and I hate every second that I don't get to spend with you. Wish you were here! I love you for eternity.
August 18, 2013
I'd give anything to hear your laugh again. I' m wondering if my eyes will ever run out of tears. I can't stop thinking that we are going to miss you for so many things to come. I'm not sure what I've done to deserve this. I know I should be happy that I had the most amazing dad a daughter could ever have. I just don't know why you had to be taken away so quick, without any warning. I guess I'll never know. Hope you are happy and eating well, if you do eat. I keep saying start me a tab and get him anything he wants. I miss you. I love you for eternity and then some!
August 10, 2013
30 weeks ago was my last hug goodbye, my last good night, my last I love you. Today is Laurie's birthday and I know we would have all been together. Instead, we are all doing our own things. You were the glue that kept us together. You were the reason we all made things work. Without you things aren't the same. You aren't here to tell reassure me things will be okay. You aren't here to make me smile. There's not to many people that could light up a room like you could. You made me smile every time I saw your face. You made me want to be a better person, and I know I am because of you. I'd give up anything to have you back. 30 weeks ago I had everything I could have needed and today I sit here with tears in my eyes knowing Ill never see you again. I hate this. I love you more than anything.
August 10, 2013
Today is my birthday and it hurts to know I won't hear your voice. I can close my eyes and hear you, see you, but my heart aches to not have you here. Today is a painful reminder that you aren't going to be here for those special moments. I miss our talks so much. What I wouldn't give to hear you say 'patience is virtue'. I always needed that reminder. Cruz is spending the night with me and he put his hand to my chest and said 'Pop Pop? Necklace?' I didn't have the necklace on at that time, but it made me feel good that we are all keeping you in Cruz's heart and mind. He will never not know he had the greatest man alive as his Grandfather. I promise you your legacy will go on and not be forgotten. I'm grateful to have had 36 years wiith you and I know in my heart you will still be with me everyday. You never let me down before. I love you for eternity!!
August 04, 2013
You always made me smile, no mater what. You made every day better and brighter. Without you things aren't the same. I miss you. I hate not hearing your voice. You were and always will be the best. I miss you with all my heart. Wish you were here. Love you forever!
July 30, 2013
Dad-
You were there to pick my spirits up.
You were there when I didn't think I needed anyone.
You were there even when you didn't think I needed you.
Not a moment in my life did I ever feel you weren't there for me.
I miss your unconditional love and support, your wise words, your back rubs, your smile, your laugh and that look in your eye where I knew in that very moment I made you proud.
July 28, 2013
Cruz has been singing Tell me a story, its so cute. I hope you can hear it. Realized it was a year ago yesterday that we had dinner with your friends at Lighthouse. I remember you saying he doesn't think he will be around this time next year. Little did we know that you would be the one not here. I miss you more than anything! Really miss that laugh and encouragement. I haven't had a moment that you weren't thought of or cried over, i love you so much. Hope you are happy and enjoying life on the other side. Love you Dad!
July 20, 2013
Need you more than ever. You were the only one that got it. Seeing you always made me smile. Love you forever!
July 15, 2013
I wrote to you yesterday, but my message never posted. I don't want you to think I would ever forget. I'm so glad you sent the message to Laurie the other day. It made me believe that you are still with me. Nothing compares to you, and your love. You are the reason I am who I am, and I will never forget that! I miss you more than I could ever put into words. If only, I could turn back time, I would only go back to you being here and pause it. I have no regrets, I just miss you, everything about you. Wish there were more people like you out there. Glad you still have your personality. Love you for eternity, and then some!
July 14, 2013
Dad, thank you so much for showing up yesterday for the reading. I knew you would be there. You've never let me down before. You gave us all the greatest gift that brought smikes to our faces and hearts. It helps to know you truly are with us, but we would still rather have you here to see you smile, hear your laugh and hug you so tight. I love you for eternity!
July 07, 2013
Hard to believe its been 25 weeks. It's not easy to realize you aren't coming back to us. Not a day has gone by where you aren't in my heart and on my mind. I miss our talks and working on my house together. I love you Dad for eternity!
July 06, 2013
Someone asked me if it was getting easier and I said no. I can't imagine it getting easier. I think its gotten harder, I realize that was it, there are no more I love you's, no more hand squeezes and no more anything. I feel like every second I had with you was a blessing and I would have stayed in that moment longer every time if I could go back. I miss you so much. You were the best, always will be in my mind. I love you for eternity dad!
June 30, 2013
Hi dad. Just want you to know I know you tried to push your way through tonight. I'm not mad that I didn't get to hear from you. I just wanted you to know that I love you with all my heart. Ill never stop loving you, you were and are the best thing in my life. I miss you so much, more than anyone will every know. If it weren't for you I know I wouldn't be the person that I am. I can only hope that I'm with you again one day. I hope you are somewhere good, because that's exactly what you deserve. You were and are the best and your love will always be the best part of the whole deal. I love you for eternity!
June 22, 2013
I can't believe how fast time has gone by, yet the pain is still the same. I still can't figure out why this has happened to you, to me? Laurie sent me a picture of your handwriting on a few boxes at Home Depot yesterday. I didn't realize you put your signature everywhere. Now that's all I'm going to look for when I go in there. I really hope you don't forget our date next week. All you have to say is that your okay, that's all I need to know. Miss you every minute in the day. Love you for eternity, and then some!
June 16, 2013
Dear Laurie and Lisa, It is with heavy heart and tears I send my thoughts and prayers your way! I did not know you lost your beloved Dad. I did not know him well but, every time I was lucky enough to be in his company it was fun and memorable. I just loved your Dad. So nice, beautiful smile, kind, so proud of you girls. You could see it in his eyes! I'm so sorry for your loss. He is with our Lord and Savior and I'm pretty sure he is smiling down on his gorgeous girls! God Bless you and yours! xo Heidi K. Mugler Wood
June 16, 2013
Today is the day I should be able to hug you and tell you how thankful I am that you are my Dad. No words can express how much my heart aches. A part of me is empty. Life isn't the same without you. You were the greatest Dad ever and always knew how to make me feel better. I hope you will be with us today in spirit. I love you Dad for eternity!!!!!
June 15, 2013
I miss the man that made me, me.
Who'd sit and think and shake his knee.
The man who was my positive light,
who smiled and laughed, he made everything right.
I miss that man who made me, me.
Without his light, I can not see.
My first father's day without you. You were the one who I would look for that right card that had the right words to tell you how I felt about you. You mean so much to me. I hate that I have to do this without you. Im glad I had you as a dad, I couldn't have asked for anything more, (other than more time with you). I miss you more and more each day. Love you for eternity dad! Happy Father's Day. ~Lisa Pizza
June 08, 2013
I miss the sound of your voice. I miss the smile on your face. I miss everything about you dad. Everything about you can never be replaced. 21 weeks since my last hug goodbye. I have cried every night and thought about you every day. I hate this. Love you for eternity, and then some.
June 01, 2013
Sometimes I wish you hand't been so great, because then maybe life without you wouldn't be so painful. Miss you EVERY second, of every day. Love you for eternity. Wish you were here. Miss you Dad!
May 26, 2013
I feel better knowing that granddad is with you now. I felt like you were all alone before, but I was hoping you'd at least meet Frank Sinatra. You are on my mind all the time. I hope you're okay, I'm so worried its not like everybody says it is. I could really use your smile right about now. I miss you every second of the day. I can't believe I have the rest of my life without you, hurts more than you'll ever know. Love you for eternity, and then some!
May 22, 2013
Grandad passed away today and I know you were there to greet him home. I can hear your laugh and see your smile. I know you loved him as if he were your own father. I miss you terribly. I miss our talks and your advice. I hope I make you proud. I love you Dad!
May 19, 2013
I never took for granted the father I had in you, but I can't help but feel like I'm missing out on so much more of you. I sang Cruz "tell me a story" the other night and at the end, he said, "where's pop-pop"? It broke my heart (that part that's left). You were the best part of me. I miss you more and more each day. Wish you were here and wish I could see you in my dreams. I love you~for eternity.
May 12, 2013
Another difficult day lies ahead of me today. I look at the mother's days card you gave me 2 years ago and read it several times a day. Realizing you're never coming back more and more every day, feels like Im living someone else's life. I hope you are happy, and know how much I love you. It's really hard to smile without you, I'm trying though, for you. I miss you. Wish you were here. Love you for eternity!
May 06, 2013
Jaimes wedding was yesterday. I sat there and looked at your chair that sat empty. Frank Sinatra played and I thought of you, but then again, I thought of you without music or empty chairs around. You are on my mind all the time. I miss you so much. Really wish you were here, love you for eternity!
May 05, 2013
16 weeks and I miss you more each day. What I wouldn't give to hug you one more time so you would know how much you mean to me. Life isn't the same without you. I love you Dad!
April 27, 2013
If only wishes did come true, I would close my eyes and wish for you. No card, no call, no text from you. My biggest fear has now come true, that I will never, ever hear from you. Major whole in my heart today. I miss you more than anyone will ever know. I would give uo everything if it meant another day with you. Love you for eternity. ~Your tiny bubbles!
April 21, 2013
If I had known that this time 14 weeks ago was the last hug goodbye I would have never let go. Miss you more than anyone will ever know. Love you for eternity!!
April 14, 2013
People told me my life would change when I had a baby, but my life changed the most when I lost you. I think about you all the time and miss you so very much! 13 weeks today and seems to get harder by the day. I miss your smile, your laugh and your positivity. Love you for eternity!
April 07, 2013
Tell me a story tell me a story tell me a story I never will forget.
April 06, 2013
I must say I miss you a thousand times a day. And when I don't say it out loud, I think it. I miss you dad. Love you for eternity. Wish you were here.
April 01, 2013
We missed your smile yesterday and hearing your laugh. Our hearts felt empty and our laughter was light. We knew you were there when our song played, but reality faced us knowing the holidays won't be the same. I love you for eternity! ~Shelly
April 01, 2013
First holiday without you just wasn't the same. No smiles, no laughs, no Dad. I wish there was something I could do to bring you back to me. I miss you so much! I love you dad!! ~Lisa Pizza
March 24, 2013
I miss you so much!
March 18, 2013
Oh dad, when does this feeling go away? I'm so grateful to have so many great times and memories with you, but I can't help but feel robbed by many years that were to come. You were the reason I always smiled and believed in something, and without you life doesn't seem fair. I miss you! Wish you were here! Love you for eternity!!!
March 11, 2013
Another week gone by, all i seem to do is cry. Miss you with all my heart. Went away and wrote your name in the sand. Hope you heard what I said. Love you dad.
March 05, 2013
Dad, I think about you all day everyday. I can't help but hope and pray that songs I hear and things others have done and said that spark a memory are because you are sending messages. I miss you so very much and hope that you are still with us. Life isn't the same. I love you Dad!!
March 03, 2013
Seven painful weeks without you. Miss the man who always made me smile every second of every day. Wish you were here. Miss you sooooo much! Going to write your name in the sand and try to smile again. Love you with all my heart!!!
February 25, 2013
Another week without you, one more week closer to you. I can't smile without you!!! I miss you, wish you were here! xoxo
February 17, 2013
5 weeks now, and I cry as much as I did the day you left me. I gave mom the card you bought her for Valentine's Day, Tj found it in your car. Laurie and I took her to dinner and she said "I guess I lost my Valentine" and we handed her your card. You mean so much to us all dad. Wish you were here. I love you.
February 11, 2013
One month ago today I lost you. I lost my smile, my guiding light and my dad who always told me to keep my chin up. I miss you so much. I wake up every morning hoping this wasn't real. I can only hope that you are as happy as ever. I love you dad. Wish you were here.
February 02, 2013
Well Tom as you already know today is the day 7 years ago you gave me your daughters hand in marriage and made me the happiest man alive. Thank you!! I just wanted to let you know that you are missed everyday someway, somehow, by someone. I know right now my life would be a 100% better if you were in it. I could use one our secret chats of Tom Tochterman knowledge and advice right about now. You left me some BIG shoes to fill around here with all of the sides jobs you did to give us a better home. I think it's safe for both of us to say knowing your daughter that I might have to take a class or 2 this spring at Home Depot. I don't need to remind you but I just wanted to tell you how much your family misses and deeply loves you!!! Just wanted to tell you that I miss and love you very much and I'll give Cruz a big kiss from Pop Pop.

Love u always,

Paulie
January 28, 2013
This isn't getting any easier. I miss and love you with all my heart!
January 22, 2013
Dad,
I wish I could go back in time and freeze the time I still have with you. I wish I could get an answer to why you out of all the bad people in this world, why did you get taken away from me. I wish when someone asked me "is there anything I could do?" that they already knew the answer so I don't have remember this moment is real. I wish I had you back. I wish there was a reason that this happened that would make this seem okay. I wish you well and I wish this pain would go away. I love and miss you every second of every day.
January 20, 2013
One week ago today, we lost you. Thinking about you every moment of every day. I love you Dad!
January 18, 2013
Just heard of Tommy's untimely passing. Some of my fondest memories were working with Tommy back in the 80's when he was in the sporting goods business. We also worked together to open his first store in Timonium. It's great to see all the family photos, I will always remember his SMILE. Deepest sympathy - John & Darlene Becker
January 18, 2013
Uncle Tom is a man that will always be a role model. For going through all that he did and still be the best family man i know. His simile will forever be in my mind and his advise i will always remember. He raised the most loving family, and anyone in the Ocean City area can agree. Now that the viewing has passed, we can see how much he impacted everyone he knew. I want to thank everyone how came to the viewing and supported his family. I know it meant the world to all of us. Uncle Tom was the best uncle, and most loving man i know. And is someone who knew how to raise a excellent family and be a loving husband through and through. His new additions, a son in law who he raved about and a grandson who will always know how great of a grandfather he has will always be looked after. Uncle, you touched everyone's heart and i only hope I can be half the man you are when I have a family. I always admired your work ethic. You will always be loved and missed!
January 17, 2013
To the Tochterman Family

Tom was our salesman years ago and we always enjoyed seeing him. He was a very hard working man with a great sense of humor. He would always talk about his family and was extremely proud of each and everyone. May all the good memories sustain you during this most difficult time
January 16, 2013
Karen,Lisa,Laurie and TJ
Although a part of our family is missing, all the love and wonderful memories we have of Dad/Tom will fill up the emptiness now and forever
January 16, 2013
Karen, Lisa, Laurie, Paulie, Cruz & Family,

My heart truly broke when I was told of Tom's passing. I think his smile will be burned into our minds for all times.
While words do not and cannot make the pain any less severe, please know that you are all loved and are in many of our prayers and especially in mine.

With best regards,

Denny (& Angie) Frederick
January 16, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Always treasure the memories you shared together.
January 16, 2013
I just wanted to take a moment to say goodbye to one of the greatest, kindest, dedicated, and loving family man that I have ever had the privilege of knowing and being a part of my life. I want to thank you for giving me the greatest gift I have ever received in my life (your daughter's hand in marriage). Every day and every second I spent with you made me a better and wiser man. Your shoes will never be filled here but you will be missed more than anyone can ever imagine. Thank you for being the only father figure I had in my life after the passing of my own father. No words can describe the loss the world around us has suffered without you in our lives anymore. I just want to say how much I loved you and what you meant to your family and me. I will try to be a better man everyday because of you. Thank you for everything your loving son-in-law Paulie.
January 16, 2013
Lisa, Paulie, Cruz and the Tochterman family -

Our deepest sympathy to you and your family. We are thinking of you and sending you our love.
January 16, 2013
Lisa, Laurie , TJ , Karen
Tom was the kindest , nicest most genuine person I have had the pleasure to know . My heart goes out to you . His memory will live on through the life he led and the people he touched.
I will especially miss his laugh and sense of humor .
January 16, 2013
Lisa & Family- Steve and I just wanted to let you know how sorry we are for your family's loss. Please know and have faith that time heals this pain, I am living proof.
January 16, 2013
Lisa, Laurie , TJ , Karen
Tom was the kindest , nicest most genuine person I had the pleasure to know .His laughter was second to none. He will be missed by all who knew him.
My heart goes out to you in times like
these. His memory will live on through
the life he led and the lives he touched.
January 15, 2013
I am very sorry for your loss. I hope that during this time that a coming together of family can help everyone cope through this tough time. I was always told and try to live by this; that the best thing we can do in keeping the memory alive of those loved ones we have lost is by making a positive impact on others the way they positively impacted us.
January 15, 2013
He will always be with us as he was in life. We loved him very much.
January 15, 2013
Words can never express how it makes you feel when true,genuine, passionate people go on to eternity,but what brings a smile to my face is having known one. I saw that in Tom,he was genuine,straight forward,such a hard worker, and oh so fuuunnnyyy, especially that cackle,laugh, that noice that came from his gut everytime he found somthing funny, I miss you already...but I'm so glad to have known such a WONDERFUL MAN! My condolence from my family to yours.
January 15, 2013
How do I say goodbye to the person I've loved the most? You have never me down and only ever lifted me up my entire life. You were my rock, my shadow, my strength, my father, my friend, my everything. You were honest, proud, loyal, hard working and the most loving person I've ever known. You taught me everything I know, especially how to be a good person. My heart is broken that my own son will never get to experience for himself the man that you are and always will be to me. I can only hope that I can show him as much love and attention that you gave to me. I love and adore you and will miss you infectious laughter. I can't imagine never seeing that beautiful smile of yours or hearing your words of wisdom, but what I will miss most is you listening to me, your back rubs and the enormous hugs you would give. I know you know how I felt about you because we told each other every day of our lives. I can't smile without you and I will love you for eternity and I will sing Cruz "Tell me a story" every night. I love you Dad and I will never forget you!
January 15, 2013
My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Tom was an amazing man and I was blessed with gettin to know him and will truly miss all of his stories and his contagious laughter!! Home Depot just won't be the same for me ??
January 15, 2013
Lisa and Laurie and the rest of your family, so sorry for your loss. May all your memories keep him with you. Thoughts and prayers for you all.
January 15, 2013
Laurie TJ & Lisa -
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Remember, life doesn't end, it merely changes.
January 15, 2013
Laurie - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
January 15, 2013
Laurie, Lisa and family- I have thought of you everyday and wish you peace and sending much love~you were very blessed to have such an amazing man as your father. Melanie Kraska
January 15, 2013
He left behind a family that adored him. He will be missed by anyone that had the pleasure of knowing him. My thoughts and prayers are with his family at this difficult time.
January 15, 2013
In loving memory of a wonderful father, husband, uncle, grandfather, brother-in-law and friend. Our family will always love you and miss you.
January 15, 2013
I pray for you in this tough time of loss, may his memories comfort you and stay with you forever as you celebrate his life.
January 15, 2013
Dad, our days won't be the same without you. We will remember your smile, your positive ways and your selfless acts always and forever. I hope you know how much we love you and miss you!
January 15, 2013
Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time. We will always remember Tom's big smile. He will surely be missed. With deepest sympathy.
January 15, 2013
Tom was a wonderful McDonogh School classmate.
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