Ryan Gardner Obituary

STEPHENTOWN, N.Y. -- Ryan W. Gardner, 21, of Route 22 died Friday, March 19, 2004 due to injuries he sustained in an automobile accident on Toad Point Road in the Town of Petersburgh. His girlfriend, Courtney M. Carelli, also died from the accident.

Born in Pittsfield, Mass., on Nov. 2, 1982, he was the son of Neil E. and Susan E. Jansson Gardner. Ryan was a 2000 graduate of Berlin Central High School and was currently a student at Hudson Valley Community College studying civil engineering. He worked at both Gardner’s Ice Cream and Coffee Shoppe and G&C Logging in Stephentown. Ryan was an avid coon hunter, who qualified for the world hunt the last two years in Ohio and Michigan. He also loved snowmobiling.

Survivors besides his parents include two brothers, Derrick D. and Kyle S. Gardner, both of Stephentown; maternal grandparents R. Wesley and Eileen Engwer Jansson of Averill Park; along with many aunts, uncles and cousins. He was predeceased by his paternal grandparents Donald and Barbara Lincoln Gardner.

Funeral services will be held on Wednesday, March 24, 2004 in the Hall & Higgins Funeral Home, 457 NY 43, Stephentown. Interment will follow in the Stephentown Cemetery.

Relatives and friends are invited to visit at the funeral home on Tuesday from 3 to 8 p.m.

Published by Bennington Banner on Mar. 22, 2004.
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They say that time heals...but we will always miss Ryan and Courtney...

Nancy Austin, Zak and Tara Locke

March 22, 2005

Will miss you everyday for always. Roxanne

March 21, 2005

Will love you everyday for always. Roxanne

March 21, 2005

Neil, Susan, Derrick & Kyle:

i think about you all the time. I constantly pray for your family in hopes that one day this tragic event will lead to something beautiful. its great to hear that the motorcycle run raised so much money for a great cause. its wonderful that you are willing to share the memories of your son to benefit the education and lives of others the community.



praying for happiness and comfort for your family...



love always



Annie

Annie Burke

August 27, 2004

To The Gardner Family:

My deepest sympathy for the loss of your son Ryan. Angels will look over you during this difficult time.

Hold close your memories.

Pam (Siek) Lombard

August 14, 2004

Dear Neil,Susan, Derrick,and Kyle

I am sending my deepest sympathy. My heart aches because I know that yours does too. I wish I had words that would comfort you but I do not. So please know that. I am doing all that I know how to do in such times,and that is to pray. May peace and joy fill in the empty hurtful places of your heart. With love Dolly

Dolly Sykes

May 13, 2004

Neil, Susan, Kyle and Derrek...

not a day goes by for us without a thought of Ryan,his laughter and sense of humor will always be with us. We miss him dearly.

Tracy, Francis and Eric Grant

May 12, 2004

Sorry to hear about the loss of your son.

Timothy & Danielle Button

Timothy Button

April 21, 2004

Sorry to hear about the loss of your son. He will be missed alot.

Allen & Donna Button

Allen Button

April 21, 2004

The Gardner Family, Derrick, and Kyle:

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Ryan will always be remembered and in my heart. Need anything don't hestitate. Derrick and Kyle you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love Sherrie Fredricks

Sherrie Fredricks

April 17, 2004

neil/susan/derrick/kyle

our harts go out too all of you.we are going to miss ryan deapley .

fred/fran/jeremiah BEAGLE

April 11, 2004

My deepest sympathy to the Gardner family. I pray that the lord may comfort you in the loss of your son and brother.



Phil Meppen

Friend of Derek

Philip Meppen

April 6, 2004

Sorry to hear the loss of your son. May god Bless you and your family.

Danielle Button

March 28, 2004

To the Family & Friends of Ryan & Courtney,

We are so sorry for your loss. Hoping that the memories may be of some comfort to you. Our Prayers & thoughts are with you.

Rich & Beth Burgess-SVFD

beth burgess

March 26, 2004

I am deeply saddend by the recent death of Ryan. I will miss the coon hunting and the good times we shared. He will always be in my thoughts. I wish the best to his mother, father, and brothers. His good friend Joshua

Joshua Purdy

March 24, 2004

Neil, Susan, Derrick and Kyle

Ryan was a beautiful and wonderful person. I will cherish all the memories I have. God Bless and I love you all so much.

Lisa Charland

March 24, 2004

Neil, Susan & sons,



I was very saddened to hear about Ryan. I hope that you and your family will be able to rise above this tragedy and grow stronger. My husband lost an 18 year old brother to a car accident in 1989. He sends his deepest sympathy to Derrek and Kyle. We will say a prayer for all of you and please know that you are not alone in this journey. God also cried the day Ryan was taken from you. We will never understand why these things have to happen, but we can find solace in knowing that Ryan will never again feel sadness or pain again.



Truly,

Melinda Burgio-Deresienski

Melinda Burgio-Deresienski

March 24, 2004

Neil, Sue and Family:



It is such a tragic loss to lose a child. Please know that our family will keep your family in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless you all.

Bob, Pat, Ron and Jim Willis and families

Bob & Pat Willis

March 24, 2004

To Athene, Derrick, and Family,



I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss, it was so unexpected and I hope to see you both soon.

Jamie Hutchins

March 24, 2004

Our prayers are with you.

Gail & Paul Boudreau

March 24, 2004

To the Gardner Family-



Our thoughts and prayers are for you.



Sincerely,



Lisa Brown McGrath (Hoboken, NJ)

Beth Brown (Brooklyn, NY)

Mike Brown (Albany,NY)

Mike Brown

March 24, 2004

my family and i are sorry for your loss. i went to school with your son, he graduated a year ahead of me, he was happy and always had a smile to share. my thoughts and prayers go out to your family.

melissa king

March 24, 2004

Neil, Sue and boys,

We are so sorry for the loss of your son Ryan. He made you so very proud with all his acomplishments in such a short time. As such a close family you have many many memories for the difficult days ahead. Our hearts ache for you and our thoughts are with you.

Paul & Deb Trzcinski

March 24, 2004

Neil, Susan and Family:

We are so sorry for your loss and please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. No matter what their age when you loose a child it stays a part of your forever. They are in our memories and remain in our hearts until we see them again.



Love to you all

Mark and Kathy Primeau and Family

Mark and Kathy Primeau

March 24, 2004

Though we are only acquainted with passing hellos at your diner, our hearts have broken to hear of the loss of your son Ryan and his girlfriend Courtney. We did not know them personally, but it is clear across the miles they were a blessing to all who knew them. Know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers and will be for many days to come.



Our deepest sympathy,

The Shumway Family

Denise and Bill Shumway

March 24, 2004

Neil,Sue and Family

just wanted to say were sorry for your lost and will say a pray for you!!!!!!

James and Shirley Mcintosh

March 24, 2004

TO THE GARDNER FAMILY,WE ARE SO VERY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THE LOSS OF YOUR SON.OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ALL.

DEAN+LESLIE TEAL

March 24, 2004

Neil ,Sue ,and family

We're sorry for your lost and your in our prayers!!!

Kelly jo and Donald Quinn

March 23, 2004

you may not remember me but i was in kyles class, my madian name is lewis. i heard of our tradgic lost and it brought tears to my eyes. my deepest thought are with you forever. kyle and derrick stay stong, ryan will always be watching over you and im sure he will always be proud of you two as i know you were of him. God has him in a safe place now with his wings around him and courtney. always remember their smiles and they will never really be gone. your both as well as your parents and family in my prayers. stay stong. christine

christine harper

March 23, 2004

Neil & Sue,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Ryan will always be with you as you will carry him in your heart.

Gladys (Jennings) Heath

March 23, 2004

There are no words to say that make sense....you are in our prayers.

TJ DeFelice

March 23, 2004

Our sincere wishes to you and your family. We have everyone in our thoughts and prayers.

George &Gladys Shortsleeve

March 23, 2004

Sorry to hear of your loss, Ryan was a great person and will be missed.

Dan Durham

March 23, 2004

We were sorry to hear of the loss of your son, Ryan.

Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Gary & Daraine Niegoda

March 23, 2004

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that all my thoughts and prayers will be with you at this time.

Sarah Cassella

March 23, 2004

We were so sorry to hear about your loss, Ryan will be deeply missed by all as he ws a great person. Our deepest sympthy to all the family. Eileen Godfroy/Bob Squires

eileen godfroy

March 23, 2004

Dear Neil,

Our prayers go out to you and your faimly. There is no way to understand your loss but we pray that you and yours will find joy as time goes on in the memory of Ryan. He was a fine young man at both work and school. May God bless both him and your family.

George & Barbara List

March 23, 2004

Dear Neil, Susan and family,

I am in shock to hear about the loss of you son and his girlfriend. We don't understand why we lose those that we love so dearly. I pray that God will hold your hand and walk you all to calmer waters. May our prayers and our love comfort you all in this time of lose. God bless you all. Tina Griswold

Tina, Joe, Aleasha, Kristi and Caitlin Griswold-Acevedo

March 22, 2004

God Bless.

Emily and Michael Demick

March 22, 2004

Although words can not explain what happend. Our prays and thoughts are with you.

Doug ,Sandy,Trisha and Kayla Griswold

March 22, 2004

Neil and Susan,

We wish that we had the words that could bring you comfort and ease your pain, but instead we will send you our prayers and wishes that warm and happy memories will fill your thoughts.



Fred and Helen

Fred & Helen Wallbank

March 22, 2004

Neil, Susan, & Family,

Very sorry to hear about your loss. Ryan will be greatly missed. You will all be in our thoughts and prayers. God bless you. Stan & Stacey DeGroff/Family

Stan DeGroff

March 22, 2004

THERE AREN'T WORDS



PAINFULLY,

DANA LILES

Dana Liles

March 22, 2004

Neil and family,

We are so sorry for your loss. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Richard and Bonnie Bailey

March 22, 2004

Dear Susan, Neil, Derrick, and Kyle,

We are so saddened to hear of Ryan's accident. To you and your extended family, we send our love and prayers. Please call if there is anything we can do for you.

Much love, Ruth Pratt and Joe Schultz, DeEtte, Benjamin and Sarah Ruth Hewitt

Ruth Pratt

March 22, 2004

Neil, Sue, Derrick and Kyle,

You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Our deepest sympathy is with you.

Cindi and Doug Mars

Cindi Mars

March 22, 2004

Neil, Sue, Derrick,& Kyle:



I am so saddened to hear of your loss. I will always have fond memories of Ryan as a student and a ball player. My sincere sympathies to you and your family.



Sincerely,



Tom Nicholson

Tom Nicholson

March 22, 2004

I've had many fun times with Ryan and Courtney, as well as many others. They were both the most beautiful people, and they will never be forgotten.



God has taken the perfect angels.



<3

Audrey Humphrey

March 22, 2004

Our prayers to your family on the loss of such a young beautiful life.

Thomas & Regina Hanson

March 22, 2004

Sue, Neil, Kyle & Derrick,

We will always remember Ryan's smile and kindness. Gather your strength from one another, family and friends. We're keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.

Stephanie, Donald & Daniella DiCarlo

March 22, 2004

Our prayers and thoughts are with you during this sad time.

Diane & Chester Gibbons

March 22, 2004

NEIL, SUSAN AND FAMILY



SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT RYAN, OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ALL.

JOHN AND JUDY HARPER

March 22, 2004

Dear Neil, Sue and boys.



I was so sorry to have heard the news about Ryan. The Gardner family has been so wonderful to me and helped me during difficult times. You are in my prayers that you will find the strength necessary to get through the days that lie ahead.

Kathleen Wallace

March 22, 2004

Neil, Susan & Family,

Our heart and prayers are with you all. We are so sorry for your loss.

With Love,

Nicole, Adam & Alexis Thompson

nicole, adam & alexis thompson

March 22, 2004

Neil,Susan and family

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Ryan....my thoughts and prayers go out to you

Mitzie Smalley

March 22, 2004

Sue and Family,



I am truly sorry for you loss. You'll be in my prayers.



Pat

Pat Muellecker - Kaiser

March 22, 2004

DEAR NEIL & SUSAN & FAMILY,

I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOSS.MY THOUGHTS & PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU. I HOPE THE JOYS & MEMORIES HE HAS BROUGHT TO YOUR FAMILY THROUGHOUT THE YEARS WILL HELP YOU THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND HELP YOU WITH HIS LOVE.

SINCERELY,

YVONNE

YVONNE DIAMOND-SAVERY

March 22, 2004

Neil,Susan & family;We are so sorry to hear of your lose. May god look over you in this time of sorrow. (The family of Al & Sara Kelly)

Kathleen (Kelly) Staples

March 22, 2004

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Sara DeCarlo

March 22, 2004

I am so sorry to hear about your son Ryan.

kayla Griswold

March 22, 2004

Dear Neil, Susan, Derrick and Kyle -



Our thoughts go out to you today with more concern and sympathy than we could ever say. We can't begin to imagine your pain but hope that Ryan's memory will help you through this difficult time. God Bless.

Chris & Lori Hoffman

March 22, 2004

neil and family

am sorry for your loss,,my thoughts

and prayers go out too all of you..

dan kimball

March 22, 2004

Dear Neil & Susan,

I am so sorry to hear about your son. Neil was so wonderful with my family during my Mom's recent death. My heart breaks for your family, you will all be in my prayers.

Amanda (Quintal) Gregorek

March 22, 2004

Dear Neil,Susan & Family,

Our deepest sympathy to all of you on the loss of your son & brother.May all the wonderful memories of Ryan help you through this difficult time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. With Sympathy, Madeline Ward/Carol Ward-Miller

Carol Ward-Miller

March 22, 2004

TO THE GARDNER FAMILY,

SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOSS. EDDIE AND I SEND ARE THOUGHTS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. GOD BLESS

LEE AND EDDIE GIRARD

LEE GIRARD

March 22, 2004

Dear Neil,Sue,Derek and Kyle

We are very saddened by the loss of

Ryan.Our thoughts and prayers will be with all,threw this difficult time..



Ben n Amy

Ben DeGroff

March 22, 2004

As soon as I moved here, Ryan was ther first one to tell me about everyone, Who to talk to, who not to, and everything there was to know about everyone. Ryan always said what was on his mind and never put it softly, somthing he will always be remembered for. Ryan and Courtney will be togeather forever now, and will be in better woods hunting.

Sue, Neil, Derrick and Kyle,

Our family will be here to help whenever it's needed, Our Hearts go out to you along with many others.

Tara Sherman

March 21, 2004

Ryan, I can't even begin to tell you how much you touched our lives. Whether it was out coon hunting (Pa and I had better luck with porcupines) or last year fishing on the pond on my Birthday, Or just riding around. These are the times that I'll never forget. I will always miss you.



George,Tia,and Angus

March 21, 2004

To the Gardner Family,

You are in our thoughts and prayers, now and forever. We can't imagine the pain in your hearts. Please know that we are here for you in every way.



Love always,

Lew and Steph

Stephanie and Lewis McCauley

March 21, 2004

I am truely sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

Melissa Ronda

March 21, 2004

Neil, Susan & Family,



Our deepest sympathy is with you and your family. He will be greatly missed by all.

Anthony & Alicia Cormier

March 21, 2004

Our deepest sympathy's are with you, we are sorry for the loss of Ryan,you and your family are in our thoughts and prayer in this hard time.

Michael ,Jennifer Morris and family

March 21, 2004

Neil & Susan Gardner,

Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Sorry for your lost. Ryan will be greatly missed.



If you need anything please don't hesitate to call. 733-0004

The Gonzalez Family.

John Gonzalez

March 21, 2004

Neil, Susan,Derrick and Kyle,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Please know our hearts ache for your loss.

Love,

Shelley and Jeff Radley

Brown Shoe Co, and County Outhouses.

Shelley and Jeffrey Radley

March 21, 2004

We are sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that our prayers will be with you at this time.

David Brown

March 21, 2004

Neil,Susan, Derrick & Kyle

Your sons won't remember me, and we haven't seen each other in a long time. Please accept my condolances for the tragic loss of your son Ryan. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Helen Loomis

March 21, 2004

May the Lord be with you and comfort you all. Courtney and Ryan are both in a much better place and may we seek comfort in knowing that they will watch over us all together until we see them again. I will keep you all in my prayers God Bless

Ashley Spiak

March 21, 2004

Neil and Susan,

Our condolences on the loss of your son.

I put on my son's stone (Kevin) the following:

2 Samuel 12 vs 22 & 23----it did not ease the pain but It does give us hope.

Al and Maureen Berry

Alvin Berry

March 21, 2004

Dear Neil,Susan,Derrick and Kyle,

There are little words that can console you at this time. So please know that our hearts are with you as we lift you up in Prayer and ask our Lord to bring peace into your hearts and heal the pain that you are all feeling at this time. May God Bless you , Luke Mikki Luke jr. and Ryan

Mikki & Luke Humphrey

March 21, 2004

Our families have shared so much in the past. Boys we loved playing with you three, fishing, having sleepovers - you were our favorite boys! We are so blessed to have known such a wonderful boy and are cherishing all the good times. Please if there is anything we can do. You are in our prayers.

Shannon, Amanda, Steve, and Renee Wagar

March 21, 2004

Neil,Susan, Derrick and Kyle, we are so sorry for your loss, we will always love and miss him.

Fran and Patti Manning

March 21, 2004

We wanted to express our deepest condolences. There are no words that can take your pain away but please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time.



The Hemendingers

Billie-Jo and Peter Hemendinger

March 21, 2004

Dear Neil, Susan and Family,



Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. We didn't know Ryan personally, but do remember that he always seemed to be smiling. Take care and God Bless.

Dave and Janet Whitehouse

March 21, 2004

We were so saddened to hear of your loss. Our prayers are with all of you at this most difficult time.

Paul & Gail Booth

March 21, 2004

Neil, Susan, Derrik, Kyle ~



Our hearts are with you during your time of sorrow.

Your family is in our prayers and thoughts.

Mike & Judy Casella

March 21, 2004

Neil,Susan and family,

What words can be said to you. Only a parent can know the pain of losing a child. Our thoughts and prayers are with you you.

Jon and Susan Roach

March 21, 2004

Neil, Sue, Derrick and Kyle,

Our deepest sympathy for the loss of Ryan and Courtney. The world will be a lesser place without them. Ryan was and will always will be very special to us. Please know that we are here for you. Our thoughs and prayers are with you.

Vicki, Paul, Jason and Nicholas Guilbeault

March 21, 2004

Neil,Susan,Derrick and Kyle



We are so sorry for your loss of Ryan. We can only begin to imagine your pain. Know that you all are in our thoughts and prayers.

Robert and Chris DeGroff

March 21, 2004

You are all in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. God bless.

John, Libby and Erin Demick

March 21, 2004

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May God and Ryan's love help give you strength. We are blessed with each moment we have our children. We will miss Ryan very much.



Nancy Austin and Zak and Tara Locke

Nancy Austin

March 21, 2004

Dear Neil, Sue, & family

Our hearts go out to you for the loss of your son & brother--we lost our nephew Josh in a similar accident 2 yrs ago--he was 22--we know your pain & feel your loss--please know if there is ANYTHING we can do please do not hesitate to ask--we are here for you--our phone # 733-6723--

Love

Bill & Suzy

Bill Cornell/Suzy King

March 21, 2004

Susan, Neil, Derrick and Kyle,

I cannot begin to know your pain. Please know you are all in my prayers.



Love, Deb

Deborah Jansson

March 21, 2004

My heart is deeply saddened by the untimely and very premature passing of a great young man. Whenever he passed me in the hall and nodded his head at me, I always felt more positive for the rest of the day. I would have been pleased to have Ryan as a next door neighbor as he was steady and constant, dependable and mannerly. God must have realized that there was far too much potential in Ryan to just be two people's next door neighbor, so now he is neighbor to us all. Get ready Ryan, the next time I have a coon jump on me at the garbage dumpster, I'm going to look up and ask for some help! I miss you already!

William Lawrence

March 21, 2004

Sunday, March 21, 2004

Susan, Neil, Derrick & Kyle,

We Love You All and are praying for you in this time of great sorrow, our deepest Sympathies.

Love, Brenda and Children

Brenda Jansson

March 21, 2004

Neil and Susan, our deepest sympathies go out to your family

Jim and Marie Winn

March 21, 2004

We are so sorry that GOD saw fit to call these young people to his glory @ such a young age.Our prayers are with you in this time of sorrow

Richard & Joan Jansson

March 21, 2004

you will forever been in our hearts,and our thoughts..Ryan,we love you always...

Rachel & Rick Finney

March 21, 2004

To Neil, Susan and family,

We are saddened to hear of the loss of your son Ryan, and extend our hearfelt sympathy and prayers to your family. May you find comfort in all the memories Ryan has given you throughout the years.



Frank, Becky & family

Becky & Frank Giumarra

March 21, 2004

WE AT PRICE CHOPPER#3 WOULD LIKE TO EXPRESS ARE DEEPEST SYMPATHY OF YOUR LOST OF YOUR SON RYAN.

CATHY,MARY,SUE BURDICK,RYAN,GOLDEN

March 21, 2004

DEAR NEIL & FAMILY,

YOU PROBABLY DON'T REMEMBER ME BUT I'VE HEARD OF YOUR TRAGIC LOSS. OUR HEARTS GO OUT TO YOU AND WE WILL REMEMBER YOU AND YOURS IN OUR PRAYERS.THERE ARE NO WORDS TO SAY BUT GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS.



LOVE,



FRANK & ALICE GONDAR

FRANK J GONDAR

March 21, 2004

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