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August 22, 2018

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May 24, 2018
Bob was a more important part of our lives than he ever knew. I'm so sorry to hear of his passing, and that we didn't know of it to pay our respects. I was writing him this afternoon because our son is graduating from Choate this weekend and wanted him to know that we had created a little online book for everyone who had been important in his life to date, which Bob certainly was. When my email bounced, I started to look for an alternative address and found this site instead.

We live in the Wheelers' former home in Northford, CT. When we first met with Bob and Wendy to talk about a "lease to own" arrangement for the house, Bob asked us a surprising question: why was Noah (our son) not in a better school? As the great educator that he was, he saw after only a brief conversation with our young boy that Noah should be in a more challenging environment, and then proceeded to mau-mau Foote School into giving him an interview, even though enrollment for the next school year had closed months before, and even though he had just met us. With his continued intervention, before we knew it, Noah had a place at Foote, which led to Choate, which is now leading to the University of Chicago. He also introduced us to what I'll call the whole Wheeler community at a welcome party shortly after we moved in, one of whom was Nancy Miller, one of the best educators anywhere, who became Noah's academic advisor and played a large part in how Choate led to the U of C for our son. From my own experience of him, I've got to believe he was doing things like this for others all the time, taking them under his wing, helping to guide them where they needed to go, a true embodiment of the Latin root of education, educare, which means "to lead out."

The last time I spoke with Bob I told him we were planning to put a bench into the yard with a plaque on it in honor of him and of Wendy. I had some serious intervening health issues that pushed this back, but in the email today, I told him we were planning to have a ceremony this summer and hoped he could come. I can only hope that he saw it in heaven, and press forward with our plans.
November 2, 2017
November 1, 2017
Eric Oddliefson and I were on the Board at Walnut Hill together in the 1970s-90s, and Wheels was a great man for getting things done and always a good man to go to for identifying others who could help. I'm very sorry to learn he has passed away. -- Gary Marple