Mrs Cokey as we knew her, was an aunt to us. Her and mom (Spoon) were forces to be reckoned with when it came to a bowling ball or partys in the home. They made sure we all felt loved, special and important. Even before the movie the Help came out, she was the one with the words of encouragement for us all. Always know for the beautiful smile and never a harsh word did I ever hear her say. So today, I speak directly to her as she sits in her new mansion on the other side:
F- For always being kind to me and loving me. Never judging but believing in me when I didn't believe in myself.
A – Always giving of yourself and to my mother. Dear , true and honest friendship. Our home was a better place because you were her friend.
I – Intelligent in the manner to which you would give and impart wisdom and knowledge. There greatest one being to love and keep a smile on your face even through the end.
T- Tough on us when you needed to be but it was all still done in love and kindness
H- Hugs came for free. They were the entry way to your bosom and a safe place to cry and know my stories would go no further.
F- Friend to my mother for many years. So much so to the point that I didn't realize you were not my real aunt until I was older and now for me I still don't believe it. Forever connected
U- Unconditionally loving. When I messed up you didn't treat us any different than if we had accomplished something to make you proud. This made me want to do and be better.
L- Loving as Christ loved us all. This will assist in carrying me through the rest of my life.
My heart aches as I miss you. In adulthood we often drift away into our own worlds, I regretfully hate that I drifted too far away from you. I am forever and eternally grateful for God allowing Ann and Bernita to share you with me. We are forever their sisters and they will never be alone. Love you Auntie. Miss you more. Denise (Witherspoon) Patterson