Happy Belated Birthday, Wil. You will always have a special place in our hearts. Miss you and love you.
Happy belated birthday my love. I miss dearly and I will always love you.
Happy (Belated) Birthday, Will. You have been a blessing to many people and very much loved and missed.
Wishing you a very Happy Birthday, Wil. I know you are celebrating, surrounded by love and light in heaven. We will blow out a candle in your honor, during my step son's birthday celebration tonight. Love always, Weez
Happy Birthday Wil! We all love and miss you so much.
Happy Birthday Will. Ava is blessed to share this special day with you. Sending a special prayer to you and your family today!!??
Thank you for all the great memories you give us today and everyday we continue to go on. I love and miss you more each day. Thanks from the laughs to the tears.
Many people remember you every day, Wil, but especially today. The greater the person, the harder the loss, and your loss is felt deeply every day by so many.
Happy 39rd birthday Wil! I wish you were here to celebrate with. The girls and I are sure you are having a birthday party in heaven!
Thank you all for remembering Wil on his birth date. I am deeply touched, and I know Wil would be also.
I have to trust that our Creator looked at Wil, found him worthly, and took him home, but I miss him terribly, and would love to hear any memories you have to share.
Wil was not interested in self promotion. He didn't need to boast or have others acknowledge his achievements. He knew who he was. That doesn't mean he thought less of himself. It was that Wil thought if himself less. He didn't judge or criticize. Wil is the most tolerant person I know. Please keep him in your prayers.
The way I cope is to think of Wil in Heaven, talking with Mya Angelou, Shakespeare, and John Pinette. I know that he would enjoy that. Please continue to pray for Wil.
Thank you all for remembering Wil. He truly was very special.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't hear Wil's laugh over something that we would talk about.. I truly do miss my best friend. I know that he is looking over all of us.
As I see my children making many memories throughout the summer it reminds me so much of cousin Will and Chrissy's house in Schenectady growing up. The simple things kept us occupied for hours and most importantly so much laughter! Playing house or restaurant, eating tons of grapes from the vines, Marco Polo in the pool, Hide and seek, walking to the corner store or ice cream place and sleeping over like every weekend. Let life take you on the same journeys as a child. Keep it simple and take the time to relax and enjoy those quiet moments shared together with your family. Thank you Will for making me realize to take these moments in and take the time to reflect on them as well.
I'm loving you always and forever??
Perhaps this is a self-indulgence I am not entitled to and can't even afford, but why won't God take these excruciating feelings and rearrange them like a puzzle I can understand. Grief not only doesn't come with instructions but the added irony is life seems to go on normally. How is that possible when there must have been a sever cosmic explosion to cause the unnatural death of my son, our Wil? How can I experience joy and sorrow at the same time! How is it possible to want to live and die with the same amount of intensity? My heart is so very tired.
It is still so hard to understand but, we know you are in God's hands. I love you and miss you so much. I miss our talks. You showed us all what life is about in so many ways.
Will we are thinking of you today. I know you are watching over your Mom, Dad, Chrissy, John, Mia, and Sydney. You are by their side in all they do. I hope they are able to feel your love and presence everyday. We miss you Will.
Seeing the gallery reminds me of the happy, fun-loving Wil. We all love you and miss you so much.
We all miss and love you so much! Mia and Sydney would like to know if you like heaven! We are all sure that you do!
Will you touched so many lives. Our lives have been enriched for having known you. Remembering you and sending extra love to your mom, dad and Chrissy over this week.
I can't believe it's been a year since you left us. You'll be in our hearts forever. With love, Aunt Mary Lou
Sure miss the hugs, the fun, the fights, the love, the walks, but thank God we still have the talks. God bless you my beloved son.
Just looked through all the pictures in the photo gallery, and was reminded how full of life Will was. We love you and miss you.
We love and miss you Will. In our thoughts extra this week.
No words describe the raw emotions that penetrate every cell. No words describe how deeply Wil is missed. Certainly there aren't adequate words to express how profoundly Wil is loved. I pray that our precious Wil is completely happy, wrapped in Gods loving embrace. Please honor and remember Wil by choosing kindness XO
Was thinking of my good friend and what he would say to me right now..
Perpetually loved, remembered and missed.
Will, our thoughts are with you and your loving family this Christmas season. We were all enriched for having known you. Nicole and Kathy
Merry Christmas Will!!!! I hope you bring a smile and some laughter today to your dear mom, dad, Chrissy and John and of course those cute little nieces of yours Mia and Sydney.
I miss you so much. I love you always.
Merry Christmas Wil! We all miss you so much.
On this six month anniversary of Wil going back home to be with our Creator I would like to thank everyone that has taken time to write on this guest book. I am moved by all the beautiful entries and prayers that are offered up for Wil. Thank you all and may you all be blessed.
You are invited to join us, on Monday, November 25, at Mt. Carmel Church on Pleasant Street, in Schenectady, at 7pm for the annual mass for all the people who died this year. A candle will be lit in honor of Wil by his family when his name is called.
I received this from Siena today:
The Siena Community will remember our beloved friends
who have died this past year.
We invite you to join us in person or in spirit.....
All Souls Remembrance
November 3, 2013
11:00 a.m. Mass
St. Mary of the Angels Chapel
W I L L I A M
W arm, wise and
I ntelligent beyond his years
L oyal, and
I nsightful, showing profound respect
A ccommodating, helpful and obliging
M inimalist, truly living the quote that the things in life that are important aren't things at all…..
I thought I knew about grief, experiencing profound loss, but I didn't.
I wish I could tell you in beautiful language how much Wil means to me and the depth of sadness I feel over his death. I know acknowledging this will be a lifelong process. He truly is a very special person, and I was given the precious gift of being his mother.
I wish I could do him justice and explain in great detail who he really was. I wish I could show you with these words the Wil I know. The things about him that made him one of a kind. Things like how his laugh came directly from his toes. It was infectious! Wil had a quick wit and dry sense of humor that made me laugh. I miss being able to chat with him.
I would tell you that I remember his wisdom, and how I carry him with me every day and in everything I do. Talking with Wil was therapeutic, always encouraging happiness, and never blaming anyone else for anything.
I could explain how unique he was. How he always traveled to the beat of his own inner drummer. Wil lived his life the way he wanted.
I would let you know how very happy he was to have opened a Tae Kwon Do Studio, and how grateful he was to have his dreams come true.
I would tell you how I keep him with me through memories and how he was such a good person, it inspired me to be better, and how he was always so very kind, loyal and sincere. Wil never failed to be grateful for even the tiniest thoughtfulness given to him.
I would say how very much I miss him. I would write about how much having Wil as my son, and friend has meant to me. I would tell you that I remember him as helpful, because of his insight. He was so intelligent, and good with people.
I am not a writer, and I certainly don't have any adequate words for these indescribable feelings. Wil's sudden and senseless death has left me feeling ambushed, alone, angry, full of unanswerable questions, extremely sad, and frightened, This wasn't supposed to happen, and it will never be something I can accept.
How could he only be an uncle to Mia for just over 4 years, and Sydney for just over 2 short years when he loved them so deeply? Wil was so generous with everyone, but especially enjoyed spoiling the girls. Bringing them little gifts when he visited and giving them his time. He was a perfect uncle. Wil didn't let them get away with being naughty, but lovingly directed them down the right road, with his gentle manner.
I wish everyday that I could have protected him from this. I know Wil would not want me to be sad, but I also know he would understand that I am because he knows how much I love and adore him. I am grateful that Wil and I had a strong relationship. He GOT me, understood and accepted me like no one else.
If I could have, I would have gone in his place.
I am extremely proud of him.
I want to thank all of you for your support. Thank you for the cards, flowers, books, lamp, edible fruit arrangement, plants, meals, guest book entries, masses, prayers, driving to Scituate that horrible night. Thank you for your donations to prayer quilt funds, American Cancer Society, Pancreatic Cancer Research, Make A Wish Foundation, Brain Cancer Foundation, literacy programs, Special Olympic Martial Arts, having a well built, American Heart Association, and the Chris Stewart & Deanna Rivers Scholarship Fund. Thank you for lending me your shoulder to cry on. Thank you for the hugs and shedding tears with me. Thank you for your patience, your friendship, understanding and tolerance. Thank you all for all the ways you have honored my precious Wil.
Much love and gratitude,
I've struggled with words to express my inability to understand your being gone. I still feel like we will be able to see you again. I can't help but think of your generous smile every single day. I will forever cherish all my memories of you. Although you were a few years younger I often felt we connected as peers. I swear I was going to beat you in treading water one of those days as kids. I'm so grateful we got to spend some time in NC together as well as in FL. Making us laugh, showing my kids how to drop kick, giving them confidence. You were never afraid to share your heart. Gosh you were so giving and cordial. You embodied the person most of us can only strive to be. You have always been Giving, Caring, Warm, Intelligent, Clever, Strong and Smiling. Although I have many fond memories of you growing up and as a child I will most of all cherish the many uplifting emotions I get when I think of your smiling face.
We love you and miss you.
There no words to describe how much miss you.... I'll always love you.
Happy Birthday, Willy. I still want to call you that, even though I learned very well at Chrissy's wedding that you were to unquestionably be called... "Will".
But, my greatest memories of Will was as kids, when all us cousins of all ages hung out together. Most of those times were swimming, playing every game that could possibly be played in a pool... Marco Polo, Baseball, chicken fights, diving for coins. And Will was the undisputed champ of all competitions involving treading water(I think he would have gone for hours if we didn't have to get out on occasion for things like eating dinner), and swimming across the pool under water.
But, the day was never over when the sun went down. It was now time for a good game or two of "sardines", "hide-n-seek, or "spud". No matter what the game was, what I really remember was his total enthusiasm, his ability to pick players for his winning team, and how his absolutely infectious laugh couldn't be stopped (although at times his "giggles" would sabotage a perfectly good hiding spot).
And we could never forget Will as a junior version of Alex P. Keaton, with his business suit and brief case filled with very important business documents.
Will, you are missed dearly. I wish we had more times that we got together over recent years, but we all still have those amazing memories of awesome times.
None of us can really understand why you have gone up to heaven before us, but I know that even though it is hard for us, you are giggling in complete peace with God and loved ones who went before us.
We all love you and miss you, Will.
Teri, Tabitha and I are thinking of you today more than ever. You are a truly special person that is loved and missed by everyone.
Thinking of you today on Will's Birthday. Hoping you find some comfort in your beautiful memories of him. I wish I could have got to know him better. Happy Birthday Will! Sending love and hugs to you Ben. Always in my prayers...love, Kim
Happy Birthday Will!
Another day has passed and life is moving on. I still can't believe you're gone.
I really miss all the talks we had over the years and how you made me laugh.
I hope you are having a wonderful birthday with your grandpas and uncle.
We really miss you!
With all my love,
Aunt Mary Lou
Happy Birthday Will - we all miss you. We are taking the girls to Chilli's for your day
Happy Birthday Willie. I miss you and think of you every day. I love you very much and I am proud to have had you for a nephew.
Happy Birthday Will. We miss you so much.
I think about you constantly and wonder how it's even possible that you're not with us. But then I remember that you are still with us and always will be. I will always remember what a kind and gentle person you were. You were always so generous and caring, which now leaves a void within everyone that you've touched.
I'll never forget all the times swimming at your house (our second house as kids). Man, you were like a fish. That may be where I first learned that rules were made to be broken. You taught me there definitely is no waiting 30 minutes to swim after eating grapes off the vine and apples off the tree.
I know you're happy and making everyone else happy around you right now. We love you so much.
On this day of Will's birth I will only celebrate his life. For the last 100+ days since we lost you it is still too hard to deal with that loss.
I am only going to think of the gifts you gave to us. Your gift was love and laughter. I can still hear you laughing in my mind when ever I think of you. NOTHING can/will ever take that from me. I am blessed to be lucky enough to be your Aunt and have known your love and laughter. I will carry that with me forever. I love and miss you sweetheart.
When thinking of Will, I remember him as always having things under control or atleast believing he did.
Whether as a busy todler at play, or as an adult when we spoke at family gatherings- HE HAD A PLAN.
My sense was that his vision was always forward looking (thru the windshield and not the rear view mirror). I guess that's what made him so magnetic.
"Everybody" loves him and misses him.
Will, I know your in good company with Grandpa Henry, Grandpa Mil and Uncle Henry.
Happy Birthday Wil
Happy Birthday Will!!! Will always had the entire Friendly's restaurant laughing by the end of our visit for our ice cream sundaes. I'll never forget the time that he had the whole room laughing and then the huge banner on the window fell on Grampa Mill. I hope the sundae's and laughs are just as good up in heaven as they were when we were little kids. Love you cousin Will.
Will, thinking of you today, and of all who love you and will miss you today and always.
How does one become so selfless, kind and loving? I am so fortunate to have had a brother that loved me and my family so unconditionally and so truly. You were such an amazing man - one that never waived in your beliefs, your loyalty or love for your family and friends.
I am devastated that my girls will not know their Uncle Will. That they will not know you for all your goodness. I am completely heartbroken that they will not get to have all the uncle experiences that you have been plotting and planning for at least the last decade. I make you the promise that they will know how much you loved them and how you would do anything for them! They will know you through the stories I tell. I promise!
For your birthday this year we will carry on your favorite traditions - dinner at Chili's and cheesecake for dessert. We really wish that you were there with us. I love you and miss you so much it hurts! xo
I have really enjoyed reading all the memories shared. What a great way to focus on all the good times we had with Wil.
For me, as I spend time reflecting and looking back, I smile thinking about how special Wil was to me. Being so close in age, we spent a lot of time together at all the birthday parties, pool parties and sleep overs having so much fun. But what I remember most was that when I was around Wil, I always felt important and at home.
Even after moving away and not seeing each other for years, then reconneting again at Chrissy's wedding, it was just like old times. Having spent that time together again as adults, means so much to me and makes me so glad that we had that opportunity to connect, because I will cherish it forever.
Wil was a one of a kind and will always be in my heart. Happy Birthday Wil.
There are so many special memories that I had shared with Will. He was a special cousin and friend. His laugh was definitely contagious and his wittiness was always so unique. He was hillarious at such a very young age. I can remember him just putting everyone in stiches and I will never forget him dressing in a little suit carrying a brief case like he was a business man going to work. He was really one of a kind. I also remember seeing him occasionally at Siena while taking courses. We would hang out and have great chats. Gosh, we would have wonderful, meaningful and extremely intelligent conversations, especially after Chrissy's wedding reception and then our midnight run for fast food. This really makes you cherish the time we have with each other. Happy Birthday, Will. I love you and miss you so much. You are in my heart forever!
One of the great things I remember about Will was his laugh. He would laugh so hard, that it made the moments even funnier. We would play jokes on each other as kids and sometimes they were so funny that Will would get into this long uncontrollable laugh. It was so fun when he was laughing, because I knew we were having the best of times.
I look back on it today and I wish we would have laughed together more as adults. It brings a smile to me when I think of Will laughing. I've never known anyone to laugh and enjoy life like Will.
Another thing that was uplifting and inspiring to me is when he made the decision to move to Boston to be near Chrissy, John and his nieces. He said to me, it's time for me to be an uncle and that's what I'm going to focus on.
You will always be missed, but never forgotten. I thank you for the time we spent together and the memories you have left me. Your smile and heartfelt laughter was contagious.
Will, I know you are still here in spirit with your family. I know how much you love them. Please bring your Mother Ben, Father Ronnie, and Sister Chrissy the strength they will need to celebrate your birthday and smile at the memories you have created together over the years. They love you so much and I know you will join them in the celebration of your life this weekend. Happy Birthday Will. We miss you.
Will was always the smart cousin which is saying a lot in the Milham family. As with all of us, we could go many years without any communication and when we finally see each other the conversation picks up right where it left off. His stories were always humorous, they were usually of some crazy time he had with his buddies or something that had meaning and you could learn from. Will was a special individual, actually the odd ball milham but god forbid if he didn't make us laugh and be our comic relief. A special cousin to me that will never be forgotten until I see him again on those greener pastures.
Will, I can't believe it's been three months since your passing. I think about you all the time, and continue to be heartbroken that your life ended way too short.
I am so happy that you were in such a good place in your life, having realized your dream of owning a martial arts studio, and living in such a beautiful place close to Chrissy, John & the girls. I feel so sad that you are no longer here with everyone who loves you but I just know, and am comforted, that you are in good company in Heaven with Grandpa Mil, your grandpa & uncle.
We, as cousins, shared so many great memories growing up that I will always remember and cherish; walks to the candy store, swimming, playing Marco Polo & nighttime Hide-and-go-seek, fireworks/4th of July celebrations, pizza parties, “working” at the store... Thank you for always being patient and kind with us girls playing “restaurant” and “house”, talking about boys, and just being silly. You were insightful and wise beyond your years, always had a funny story to share, and were quick with a joke.
Will, you were one-of-a kind, loving, intelligent, witty, and creative, and will forever hold a special place in my heart, and with everyone who knew you.
Life hits you with some difficult challenges throughout your lifetime. The challenge for many family and friends of Will is how to create happiness each and everyday during this grieving process. There are many memories of Will as a child, adolescent and young man that should be able to bring a smile and a laugh to all of you. I hope Grampa Mill's jokes are a little bit better for you up in Heaven Will. Love you and Miss you.
Grief challenges us to change the way we think and do things. Finding courage makes living without Wil possible. Memories allow smiles, but nothing takes the pain away. Billie
Wil really enjoyed Luisa's friendship. Very happy times for him.
I will always miss having such a great friend in my life.. I considered you my brother and you were part of my family! I miss our conversations about something and nothing, kind of like an episode of Seinfeld! I miss you William. I've been going through some things that you would have been my goto person for advice, so now I just try to imagine what you would say or what type of laugh we both would get out of it :)
I miss you a lot,
We just found out about Wills passing and sending our thoughts and prayers to you and Chrissy....I remember Will helping you out when you were our girls' second mother all those years ago. May time heal your heavy heart.....
DEAR BEN AND FAMILY i AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS WIL WAS A GREAT MAN AND WILL BE MISSED BY ALL. I DID NOT KNOW HIM TO WELL BUT WHAT I DID KNOW FROM HIS AUNT DENELLE, WAS THAT HE WAS A KIND AND GENTLE MAN. BEN THERE ARE NO WORDS FOR YOUR MOTHER SORROW I DO BELIEVE HE IS IN HEAVEN WITH ALL HIS FAMILY THAT HAS PASSED. TAKE CARE BENDENNETA AND GIVE THOSE GRANDKIDS A HUG FOR ME AS WELL AS KRISSY. XXOO
Smile when you can. Cry when you have to.
Dear Family & Friends,
Masses have been schedule for Wil, and it occurred to us that some of you may also want to know about them. We apologize for not recognizing this before today.
There are two more at 8:30 at Corpus Christie Church on Ushers Road in Clifton Park. The first is Sunday, August 18 & the second is Sunday, September 22.
We would also like to thank each one of you for all the overwhelming support, and love you have shown us. We are all extremely grateful for your generosity, and kindness.
With much love, appreciation, and gratitude,
The Family of Wil Milham
Will, you were kind, smart, gentle and funny.I remember you as someone who when given a choice to be right or kind, you always chose kindness. You were smart as well as wise, and I will remember always our talk about books, and our Christmas Eve discussion of life. Your gentleness won you the love of your nieces. To quote Sydney, "My Uncle Will is nice." And you were quite funny...not the loud slap you on the back funny, but a wry amusing wit that showed you saw the foibles of others amusing rather than annoying. The girls loved your funny ways. A favorite memory of mine will always be of you playing house and really falling asleep when you were supposed to be pretending.They thought that was very funny. You are missed every day by so many. Kathy Thonet, Cape Cod, Massachusetts
"A thousand times we needed you
A thousand times we cried
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died
A heart of gold stopped beating
two twinkling eyes closed to rest
God broke our hearts to prove he only took the best."
This beautiful poem made me think of Billie, Chrissy, and their family during this horribly difficult time.
I unfortunately never had the chance to meet Will but I have heard many loving memories from his family. Billie would always say Will was her best friend and always made her laugh. I can't even begin to imagine the pain and sadness the family is experiencing in losing a wonderful son, brother, uncle, nephew, and cousin. My heart goes out to all of you, and I do believe you will meet again.
Will - I think of you daily. What an amazing man you were. Beloved by all that knew you. My children considered you an Uncle and speak of you often. In memory of you our family has donated to an organization called http://anopenbookfound.org/ - it is an organization that promotes literacy in children in the DC area. Whenever I think of you Will I think of books and kids. You loved both as much as I do myself. We had much in common and I am honored to have known you. The world is a sadder place with you gone. I promise to give our nieces extra hugs from their Uncle Will whenever I see them and help them to cherish your memory. Love Nicole, Vince, Kate, Max, Jack, Josie and Libbey
My dear sweet thoughtful friends Greg and Nancy, sent this and I wanted to share it with all of you because I believe Wil is extremely pleased by this. An exact quote from their card.
Words can not express how sorry we are. It is unthinkable that this has happened to Wil. Our hearts break for you.
In memory of Wil, we have donated a well to be built in rural Cambodia. It will provide clean water to at least four families. We have been told that it will be constructed this summer. When the pictures arrive, we will share them with you.
Greg and I talked about what it would mean to lose a son. We decided we would want to feel that his life made a difference in this world. Everyone knows what a kind person Wil was. He made the world a better place. Now a few poor people in Cambodia will know that because Wil lived, their lives are better too. Love, Greg & Nancy"
I want to think that Wil is smiling down on this because even though our tomorrows are without him, he lives on through memories and the good deeds of others. Thank you, all of you for honoring my beautiful, funny, smart,loving, kind and unselfish son.
Much love and appreciation, Billie & family
Dear Sweet Will,
I still can't believe you are gone. I keep thinking it's a bad dream and you will be having the last laugh. I hope you are doing well in Heaven and I hope you know how much you were loved. With all our love, Aunt Mary Lou and Uncle Bob.
Willie, Willie, Willie or Won't He. I'll never forget the beautiful days we shared. Even though you were my nephew I loved you like a little brother. I cherished every moment we spent together as little kids as we played together and the time we spent working together as adults. I'll never let go of our memories. One day again we will see each other. I miss you and love you very much.
Our family will never be the same after the loss of Wil. No words can express the emotions that are felt. To have Wil in our lives has made all of us better people.
A son,brother,uncle,nephew,cousin, friend and teacher...in each role Wil loved with his huge heart. We have been cheated to lose him so early! Thank you Lord for the time we did have with Wil to get to know and love him, Now i ask for you to be with my family and help us through the very sad time.
I loved the drum that Wil beat to. I MISS YOU sweet Wil and will love you forever. Aunt Denelle
"It's the little things, the small, everyday occurrences that you'll remember. The laughs, the stories, the smiles. And even though it seems like you can never recover from your loss, it is these very memories that will help push the pain away and bring back the smiles."
My name is Jeff Freyermuth and I had the pleasure and honor of working with Will for 3 years as members of the Panera Bread Management team in Franklin, MA. Will and I became great friends over that time. Will was one of a kind. So sincere, thoughtful, friendly, humble, and always had a positive attitude whatever he did. I remember him and I always talking and how much he loved spending time with his nieces and spoiling them. Will you will never be forgotten and entrenched in our memories for all of eternity. I will certainly miss your jokes and talks that we had of me trying to educate you about football and other sports. You are a great friend. You and your family will always be in my thoughts. Until we meet again my good friend...
I am so deeply saddened by the loss of your son and best friend. I wish there were words or deeds that could help heal your suffering. I wish I knew God's plans for the tragedies that happen in our lives. But I do know that he gives us each other, to help ease our burdens and suffering. There are so many people who love and care about you. And they are all here for you. Please know that I am here too. To talk, to listen or just a hug. Whatever you need. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Will was a very humble person, he never told me that he wanted much in life. The time I knew him he would always talk about how much he loved his nieces and how he loved to babysit them. It is very unfortunate that Will has passed on, my deepest condolences to the family. I will always remeber Will as the person who pushed me and reminded me to never hold back in life.
Will was such a friendly, caring, loving person. He was so kind and giving in everything he did. He loved to laugh and joke, and that is what I loved most about Will. My heart goes out to his family, my deepest condolences.
I just found today that you gone and I can't believe it... Why? You left and I didn't get to tell you how much I love you and how much I miss you. I love you soooo much. You were sweet, kind, gentle and sincere. You are gone but the time we spend together I will always keep in my heart and there you will always always be alive! I will always love you!
One of my favorite things about Wil was his ability to let everyone be who they were. His thinking was a level beyond typical. He would always make me laugh and bring me back to reality when I was worried or thought I knew the answer by saying things like, "Mom, how do you know?" One of the stories he told me to helped me confirm his though process was as follows. Wil was a truly remarkable man and those of us who knew him received a great and precious gift. I cannot say enough or adequately express exactly how wonderful he is to me, but some of you know.
Who Knows? The Farmer's Son:
Fortune or Misfortune?
One day in late summer, an old farmer was working in his field with his old sick horse. The farmer felt compassion for the horse and desired to lift its burden. So he left his horse loose to go the mountains and live out the rest of its life.
Soon after, neighbors from the nearby village visited, offering their condolences and said, "What a shame. Now your only horse is gone. How unfortunate you are!. You must be very sad. How will you live, work the land, and prosper?" The farmer replied: "Who knows? We shall see".
Two days later the old horse came back now rejuvenated after meandering in the mountainsides while eating the wild grasses. He came back with twelve new younger and healthy horses which followed the old horse into the corral.
Word got out in the village of the old farmer's good fortune and it wasn't long before people stopped by to congratulate the farmer on his good luck. "How fortunate you are!" they exclaimed. You must be very happy!" Again, the farmer softly said, "Who knows? We shall see."
At daybreak on the next morning, the farmer's only son set off to attempt to train the new wild horses, but the farmer's son was thrown to the ground and broke his leg. One by one villagers arrived during the day to bemoan the farmer's latest misfortune. "Oh, what a tragedy! Your son won't be able to help you farm with a broken leg. You'll have to do all the work yourself, How will you survive? You must be very sad". they said. Calmly going about his usual business the farmer answered, "Who knows? We shall see"
Several days later a war broke out. The Emperor's men arrived in the village demanding that young men come with them to be conscripted into the Emperor's army. As it happened the farmer's son was deemed unfit because of his broken leg. "What very good fortune you have!!" the villagers exclaimed as their own young sons were marched away. "You must be very happy." "Who knows? We shall see!", replied the old farmer as he headed off to work his field alone.
As time went on the broken leg healed but the son was left with a slight limp. Again the neighbors came to pay their condolences. "Oh what bad luck. Too bad for you"! But the old farmer simply replied; "Who knows? We shall see."
As it turned out the other young village boys had died in the war and the old farmer and his son were the only able bodied men capable of working the village lands. The old farmer became wealthy and was very generous to the villagers. They said: "Oh how fortunate we are, you must be very happy", to which the old farmer replied, "Who knows? We shall see!"
If anyone feels Wil's presence I would love to hear from you. I am struggling with the unknown and would like to know he's happy.
What a wonderful person and family. I'm so lucky I had the chance to meet Will at Chrissy's wedding. He was so nice, friendly and funny. I am so very sorry for this great loss. I will be thinking of you all at this difficult time and sending hugs and prayers your way.
To laugh often and much
By Ralph Waldo Emerson
To laugh often and much;
to win the respect of the intelligent people
and the affection of children;
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty;
to find the best in others;
to leave the world a bit better
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
to know that one life has breathed easier
because you lived here.
This is to have succeeded.
My heart aches for you, I wish I could hug you... Know that I am thinking of you and hope you are managing as well as possible.
Dear Billie and Chrissy,
For days now I have been trying to think of just the right words to comfort you at this incredibly sad time. I wish I had found those magic words that would make all of your pain go away. I did not find any words, but I did find people. Everyone that I have run into or talked to is thinking of you and praying for you. There are so many people who care about you both, and I hope that you can take comfort in their love, support, and friendship and that you can lean on those you love during this very difficult time.
Dear Billie...We are deeply sorry for your loss and ask God to wrap you in His arms and hold you ever so tight during this difficult time. Your Tesago family loves you will continue to lift you and your family in prayer. Love, The Duffy Family
Billie and Chrissy-here is a poem that I read at my brother's funeral 21 years ago. I must have read it 100 times or more over the past year and it really brings me peace each time. I hope it speaks to you the way it did to me.
A Child Of Mine
I will lend you, for a little time,
A child of mine, He said.
For you to love the while he lives,
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years,
Or twenty-two or three.
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him for Me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
And should his stay be brief.
You'll have his lovely memories,
As solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there,
I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over,
In search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love,
Nor think the labour vain.
Nor hate me when I come
To take him home again?
I fancied that I heard them say,
'Dear Lord, Thy will be done!'
For all the joys Thy child shall bring,
The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for him,
Much sooner than we've planned.
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
And try to understand.
Billy, I am so very sorry for your loss. My love and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. So very sorry for your loss.
We are so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers
The Goodman Family
Dear Billie, There are no words that could possibly take the pain away that you are feeling with the loss of Will, I am so glad I had the chance to have met him during our friendship please know you are in my thoughts every day as Chrissy and John are and also the girls. Sending my love and please if there if anything I can do or you may need please reach out. Love Shirlene
My dearest friend there are no words that will help with the pain that you are feeling in your heart right now, please know I am thinking of you everyday. Love you. My thoughts are with Chrissy and John and the girls also.
Ben and family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Ben and family-
I am so sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
We had the honor of meeting Will when he was in Jacksonville. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family.
Gary & Barbara Humphrey
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time.
Billie I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.
Ron, Billie, Chrissy and the entire Milham Family,
We are deeply saddened by your loss and offer our deepest condolences. Your family has been an important part of our lives for 50 years and your loss is our loss. I was fortunate to work with Will in Florida. His drive, energy and passion to learn, win and succeed was infectious. Very proud to call him our friend as well as all the Milham's. With much love,
Mitch, Claire, Mitchell, Kyla, Kelly, TJ, Izzie, Chase, Hazel, Jody, Mickey, Sharyl and Moose.
Dear Ron, Ben, and Chrissy
I spent a lot of time getting to know Will in high school. He was such a wonderful person, he had a great sense of humor, truly cared for his friends, and was someone I knew could always count on. My deepest sympathies to your family and will continue to pray for you during this difficult time. Will thank you for being such a great friend, thank you for taking the time to genuinely care, thank you, thank you. I miss you and love you.
Karthi (Shen '93)
Dear Ron, Ben and Chrissy,
We feel your pain and overwhelming grief, for we loved Wil too.
We know that he is now in Heaven with the Angels, because he was one too! Wil always had the most beautiful spirit.
We will always remember the good times we all shared together.
He will be missed. Love, Bob & Mary Lou
Benedetta and Family, Our Deepest Sympathy For your Loss. No Words could we express to ever say to A Mother Or Father loosing A child. I hope you all Find Strength And Guidance in The Lord Above to help you Deal with such a loss and a heavy Heart. We are so very sorry, God Bless, The Stephens Family..
Ben, Ron and family, my deepest sympathy for the loss of your beautiful son Will. Your are in my thoughts and prayers. May eternal rest be granted unto Will O Lord and may perpetual light shine upon him and all the departed members of the McCadden and Milham family. With my love,
Billie, Steph and I were heartbroken to hear about Will's passing. We know how much your children meant to you and please know we are here for you if you need anything.
Billie, you are in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest sympathy at this very difficult time. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. With love, Judy Barbour
Billie and family,
My heart breaks for you during this sad time. All of us at Tesago feel your pain, and know we are always here for anything you need.
All my Love, Jennifer
Our Deepest Sympathy for your loss. Sincerely David and Shirley Phinney
Uncle Ron, Aunt Ben & Chrissy,
I am so incredibly distraught of Will's passing. He truly was an amazing person. I miss him dearly and please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Will, I love you and you are in our hearts. God Bless
Ben, Chrissy & family my deepest condolences during this difficult time. My thoughts & prayers will be with you during the coming days.
Thinking of you and your family during this time. We are here for anything you need--always. Love, Nicole & Glen
Chrissy and family, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Please accept our deepest sympathy. Eileen and Jason Austin and The Phinney Family.
Know that you are in our thoughts all the time and all of us at Tesago are sending love and support to you always.
Dearest Benedetta and Family,
We are so very sorry for your loss and will keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers in the coming days.
Our sincerest sympathy and love,
Cathy and Jose Abrena
Ben, Ron, & Chrissy
I cannot even begin to tell you how sorry we are to hear about Will's passing. Will, you ,Chrissy & the girls have been in our thoughts and prayers every day. We would like to help you through this in any way that we can,so please don't hesitate to ask, even if you just need to talk. We love you guys so much. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Love you ! Mary Moore Milham
Please accept my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. May GOD be with you all during this difficult time. xx
Billie and family... my deepest heartfelt sympathy to you all. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. May God give you strength and comfort during this difficult time. Sending you lots of love Billie...
Chrissy and John,
I am so so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and praying for you.
Billie, we are all thinking of you and sending you our thoughts and prayers. You are so missed! Please know we are here for you if you need anything.
Thinking of your family with love and prayers, Alana Williams
Billie, there are no words I can say to lessen your pain, but my heart and arms are hugging you now. Remember, the littlest things will bring him back to you again and again. Love you, Lisa n jim
Chrissy and John, our prayers are with you and your family. We are so sorry for your loss. Lots of love to you all.
Offering our deepest condolences during this difficult time.