Harold, I'll always remember Debbie as the girl who took you out of Brandi's and turned you into a husband. My memories of her are of a sweet, shy, and unassuming person who stole your heart.
As someone who also lost my soul mate, all I can tell you is that I, too, lay awake at night and relish in my memories of what was and what might have been. They can't take those away. I'm sorry for your loss.