Dear Mary Kay,
I am so sorry for your loss.
My mom, Kay, knows exactly what you are going through. I know how hard and painful it has been for her.
I feel your pain and your loss.
I don't know if you know this, but my Mom took 2 cups of coffee and 2 donuts to Holy Cross once a week for a year. So she could have coffee with Phil. She dumped the coffee on his grave but ate his donut because she was so mad.
Mom was glad that I brought her. She would have been upset had she not been able to support you, when you have shown her so much love and support.