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Shelby Offrink Obituary

Offrink (Tomczak), Shelby This will not be your typical obituary because Shelby Ann Tomczak Offrink was not your typical 31 year-old. She came into this world on February 6th 1984 as a fiery red head and hilarity quickly ensued. The world became much funnier as this turtle chasing, lobster catching toddler grew into a teen who rocked the sports field and aced her academics. With her comedic timing and selfless nature, this girl couldn't make fewer friends if she tried. Anyone who met Shelby instantly became enamored and considered her one of their closest friends. Shelb's leadership and charisma carried her through her adolescent years. She earned a full ride to Western Michigan University through their Medallion Scholarship Program. It was at WMU, studying chemical engineering that she met her future husband, Ben Offrink. Ben and Shelby fell madly in love and embarked on a world traveling, inseparable journey together. Shelby then joined the Stryker family where she was destined for success and lasting friendships. After marrying Ben in 2007 and adding to their family with Maeve in 2011 and Hazel in 2013, Shelby was at the top of her game. Maeve and Hazel fulfilled their dream of having a family together. Shel inspired everyone around her and will continue to inspire those she left behind. In February 2014, Shelby was diagnosed with stage 4 glioblastoma of the spine and spent the next 16 months fighting her disease with humor and grace. Her biggest fans, the loves of her life, Maeve and Hazel (4 years and 18 months) cheered her on endlessly. She fought like a honey badger until June 28, 2015 when she left this world and Heaven became much funnier. We celebrate her life but will miss her terribly forever. Shelby was preceded in death by her grandparents Lois Hines, James Hines, and Dolores Tomczak. She will be especially missed by her adoring husband, Ben Offrink, beautiful daughters Maeve and Hazel Offrink, her loving and always supportive parents Roger and Kathy Tomczak, devoted brothers Jason Tomczak and Luke Tomczak, grandfather Roger Tomczak, untiring parents-in-law James and Sally Offrink, siblings-in-law Laura (Jeremy) Kelsey and Andy (Kelly) Offrink, in addition to many aunts, uncles, cousins, and best friends across the globe. Shelby's extraordinary life will be celebrated with a visitation at the Grand Volute Ballroom, 655 Lincoln Lake Ave SE, Lowell, Michigan on Wednesday, July 8th from 5:00 to 8:00 PM and a Mass of Christian burial at St. Patrick's Catholic Church, 4351 Parnell Ave. NE, Ada, MI on Thursday, July 9th at 11:00 AM. Flowers are beautiful, but the family would prefer donations be made to the Shelby Tomczak Offrink Scholarship Fund at any Mercantile Bank. In the spirit of the community support bestowed upon Shelby and her family, they would like to pay-it-forward Shelby style by establishing a scholarship in her name for a Lowell graduate. You left this world just as you lived- with heart, love, determination, fearlessness and no regrets. We love you Shelby!

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Published by Grand Rapids Press from Jul. 3 to Jul. 5, 2015.

Memories and Condolences
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Angie Franks

July 10, 2015

Ben, as I sit here I think of you and the girls, the kids remind me of all the wonderful times we had, had with you and Shelby. We talk about you guys often. It's almost like you are still here. I remember how much Jackson was in love with Shelby. And how he would say, When I grow up I'm going to marry Ms. Shelby!! Words that will live on in our hearts forever. All the kids have a funny story to tell about our Mavers. Avery liked her play dates at the house. We send you our love from all of us at daycare. My faith in God lets us know we will see Shelby again. Ben please know you are always in my heart and mind. Love. Ms. Angie

Nicole Franzen

July 9, 2015

To Shelby's family,
Shelby was the girl that lit up the room, in our case at WMU, the flag football field! With her bright smile, contagious humor and genuine love, I pray her legacy shines as bright as she does and her love is always felt so deeply by her gorgeous girls. Ben, the biggest hug to you and all of our support to you.

Pink Panthers forever, Shelbs.
All my love, Nicole Franzen

Megan

July 9, 2015

Kathy- I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

July 8, 2015

Kathy and Roger, we extend our heartfelt condolences to you and the families. There are no words to bring you comfort so please know you have all been in our thoughts and prayers! All I've read is evident Shelby was an exceptional person and will continue impacting many lives forevermore. God be with you! Deb and Art Metzger

Terry and Pam Schumacher

July 8, 2015

It's so good to have such wonderful thoughts, prayers and memories of this beautiful woman - our hearts break for her family.

Denise Nelsen

July 8, 2015

My heart goes out to the Tomczak and Offrink families. Shelby was an amazing lady and she fought a good fight. She will be missed.

Lauren Fritz

July 7, 2015

Shelby,

The moment I met you, I knew we would get along great. You are such a hilarious person always filled with jokes and sarcastic optimism. I will miss you a lot and I am especially touched by the impact you left on my sister-in-law Archita and brother Dave's lives forever. I will never forget our Bollywood dancing sessions in India. May you rest peacefully forever.

Tammy Viecelli

July 7, 2015

I remember Shelby as the cutest little girl. I just loved to see her when our families got together when I was young. I'm so saddened to hear of her passing. My deepest sympathies are with the entire family.

sue hunter

July 7, 2015

Roger and Kathy, I am so, so sorry. What you and your family are going through is inconceivable. I'm sending a huge hug.

Terry & Lori Foster

July 7, 2015

Roger and Kathy, & family, so sorry for your loss she was an amazing woman, mother, daughter, wife and person. Thanks Roger for sharing her with all of us at SC! Thoughts and prayers go out to all of you! What great memories of her we can see more of her through it. She will live on in the eyes of her beautiful children.

Carl & Evelyn LaGrone

July 7, 2015

Our Thoughts And Prayers are wit Your Family During this most Difficult time.

Mary Pipp

July 6, 2015

Roger and Kathy
I am so sorry for your loss. I did not know Shelby, but you can tell by her beautiful smile her heart was radiant. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mary Pipp

graham weeks

July 6, 2015

I worked and traveled with Shelby and found an amazingly smart honest and selfless coworker. I also found a friend , my thoughts and hope go to both families and her beautiful daughters.

Keith & Lisa VanderHulst

July 6, 2015

So very sorry for the loss of a lovely women, wife, mom and daughter; may you find peace through the tears and sadness you feel in your heart!

Nena McComas

July 6, 2015

Our thoughts are with the family at this difficult time. I have never met Shelby but have been following their story. My deepest sympathy to her family and friends. <3

Stacy Vis

July 6, 2015

I also went to Lowell high school and graduated a year before Shelby. I did not know her personally, but have been following her story and continuously praying for her and the whole family. I am so sorry to hear of her passing, and I will continue to pray for the whole family. May God wrap his arms around you all during this difficult time.

vern kirk

July 6, 2015

Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time, may god be with you at this time, from Vern Kirk & family.

Nanci Linebaugh

July 6, 2015

Thoughts and prayers to all that knew and loved Shelby. I met Shelby at Stryker Medical. Amazing young lady. RIP Shelby.

Susan Johnson

July 6, 2015

Our thoughts and Prayers are with the family.

Mike Dara

July 6, 2015

Tomczak and Offrink families wish to send my deepest sympathy in the passing of Shelby. Her courage, faith and fight have been admirable. God bless all over you in this time of sorrow and grief.

Karlee Perez

July 5, 2015

My prayers are with friends and family for their loss

Lori Ditmar

July 5, 2015

Oh Kathy, I am so sorry to hear this but is seems as if she made her "foot print" in the sand. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and my the good Lord comfort you at this time.

Dave & Sherri Blickley

July 5, 2015

Roger, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family .

Bev W

July 5, 2015

I read the obits every Sun & pray for the families left behind. Wish I could have known Shelby! Will meet her some day! God is good!

Sylvia Robbins

July 5, 2015

I had the pleasure of Meeting Shelby and her family while caring for their babies in NICU. Working on Christmas day is never easy, but my day was made when Shelby sent Maeve over to give me a hug. We were all blessed to have known Shelby.

Moreen Devroy

July 5, 2015

Although I didn't know Shelby well,Ifeel close to all of her family because they live across the street from me. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Moreen Devroy

Patti Hammond

July 5, 2015

I am so sorry for your loss, Kathy and Roger. May God hold you even closer during these very difficult times.

July 5, 2015

Love to you, Kathy ... and to your precious family. Pat and Sue Taylor

July 4, 2015

My thoughts and prayers go out to you all at this time of immense loss .
Sharon Bonney Swartz Creek,Mi

Sherry Reinbold

July 4, 2015

So very sorry for your loss. Just too young to die. Praying for your family at this time.

Barbara Ryan

July 4, 2015

Roger... My heart goes out to you and your family - what an amazing young woman and what a beautiful and heartfelt obituary/tribute to her!

Sadie and Oliver

Sadie Smith

July 4, 2015

What a beautiful woman! I did not know Shelby but stumbled across he obituary in my facebook newsfeed. Thank you for sharing this beautifully written biography. I feel privileged to have read about her life. Her husband, daughters, and family will forever be in my prayers. I wish you strength and comfort during this time!

Karen Douglas

July 4, 2015

I remember being at Kathy and Roger's house with Shelby in her teenage years. We were gently trying to get her fainting goats to faint for us. We failed, but had a great time doing it! I'm so sorry for your loss... heaven is an even better place to gain of such a wonderful person. Love to you all.

Dick & Janet Swift

July 4, 2015

So very sorry for your loss. Our condolences to all.

Denny Larsen

July 4, 2015

So sorry for your loss Roger, for you and your family.

Andrea Scheurer-Monaghan

July 4, 2015

An amazing mommy. A beautiful life. My thoughts and prayers are with all of her loved ones.

Katie Kozak

July 4, 2015

The story of this family has been so heartbreaking. May the family and friends of Shelby find God's peace and comfort during this very difficult time.

July 4, 2015

Roger & Cathy, our prayers r with u all in this time of great heart break. God's plan is so hard to understand sometime, but remember she is enjoying God's company right know, or should we say He is enjoying Shelby 's Love & prayers, steve
& Star Palasek

Debra Miller dahlke

July 4, 2015

Sorry for your loss roger and Kathy prayers for you and your family

DOUGLOUS DOWNS

July 4, 2015

RIP Shelby.

Love the "Downs Family" from Canada.

Thru a Coleman lantern, I was able to know of you. You will now be known in my heart forever.

DUKE.

C. C.

July 3, 2015

Reading her obituary makes me wish I had known Shelby. Wishing your entire family comfort and peace during this difficult time.

July 3, 2015

Prayers and peace for an amazing young woman's family....

Carmel McNally Mirelez

July 3, 2015

I will continue praying...asking God's comfort and peace. God bless you all.

Steve Constant

July 3, 2015

Roger and Kathy, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Rick Walendzik

June 30, 2015

To My Dear Friend Roger, also Tomczak & Offrink Families,
To loose a young loved one as Shelby is so gut-wrenching and painful. Our hearts weep for your loss. You have,are and will continue to be in our thoughts and Prayers. God Bless you ALL. May Shelby Rest In Painless Peace...
The Walendziks of Murray Lake
Rick, Debbie & Girls

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