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September 11, 2019
I first met Dean when he was about 3 years old. We lived next door to his family in Seaside Park, and his sister Karen was my best friend. He was an impish little boy, and would be mischievous at times, the way 3-year olds can be. I was wearing a brand new pair of white 'clamdiggers', as we were going up to ride on the amusements. Little Dean could not go. So, he got a red crayon and wrote all over my pants. Sounds like bad behavior, but no. He just wanted me to stay with him, so we could play. He was such an affectionate child...and funny! I moved away when he was around 13, but I still cherish all of the memories from those years. I was so shocked when I learned of his passing. Today, on the 18th anniversary of 9/11, I remember little Dean. I think of him and his family frequently, and offer my sympathy for their loss. Mickey O'Neill
October 03, 2017
I remember when Dean first came to KBW with his group of analysts, dubbed "The Dean Team" (association with the Dream Team intended). We had pretty high opinions of them professionally, and over the next year or so we came to like them as people too.
September 12, 2014
I didn't know Dean well, just as neighbors in Seaside Park. When we purchased our home in 1994, a real "handyman special", Dean would roll down his car window as he was driving by and offer any help needed. I'll always remember him for that kindness. I think about that every year at this time and hope his family is doing ok.
September 11, 2014
I worked with Dean when I was an investment banker at Pru. He was a wonderful man and a tremendous colleague. I think of him from time to time, always on this anniversary. I pray that his family is doing well. He will never be forgotten by those who knew him.
August 24, 2012
I wrote many of the All-America Research Team articles for Institutional Investor for some 20 years, partway through 2000, and was responsible for the banking sector, among the many industries I covered. So I interviewed Dean more than once for that yearly project, whenever he placed third or higher.

For some reason, I most associate his name with Pru -- and of course with KBW.

When I learned 11 years ago that Dean and David Berry had not made it out of the South Tower, the news touched me to the quick. I wrote sincere letters of condolence to your family and David's. And then the years elapsed, and the memories faded.

They were fully revived this month, however, when something led me back to the one lone copy of I.I. that I kept -- the September 2002 commemorative edition. There, I found your sweet, if wrenching, write-up, Amy, and felt like I was meeting Dean all over again.

Yesterday, a friend and I were making plans to get together, and she said she couldn't do anything on 9/11, because it was her daughter Cindy's birthday. I instantly thought of your Lauren, and how she proudly claims that date (not the 12th, a half-hour beyond her birthday)as her day of honor, in memory of her dear dad.

I'm grateful to you for leaving the Legacy guest book up permanently, so that I and others can let you know we think of your husband with great respect, of his family with utmost compassion, and of our own loved ones with renewed fondness and appreciation.

May your day on the upcoming 11th anniversary be filled with faith in good, and with trust that Dean's life and legacy have never really been snuffed out, and that his passing was not in vain.
September 12, 2011
Enjoyed a wonderful service in Orlando FL. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Eberling family. Dean P. Eberling will forever be remembered.
September 08, 2011
I first met Dean when I worked at Lehman Bros. I didn't know him well but he was a lovely man and always greeted me with a smile.
I remember being pregnant with my first child when his wife was pregnant with their second. One day he called me into his office and asked what did I plan to name the baby if it was a girl. I told him Lauren Ashley. Dean stated that they were trying to decide between Lauren or Ashley. Well, on Sept. 3, 1991 I had a baby girl named Lauren Ashley and about a week later I heard his wife had a baby girl also named Lauren Ashley.
As the 10th Anniversary approaches, I reflect on the above memory and cannot believe the "babies" are now 20 years old and that he lived in my hometown of Cranford, which I didn't know.

Rest in Peace Dean!
October 20, 2010
I was given a wallet card during a memorial event in our town, following 9/11 with Dean's name on it. I have carried it in my wallet for years, glancing at it every so often, wondering who he was...what kind of a father/husband/brother/son he was... Hoping his life was good, and appreciating, all the more, my own life. May his family and friends be comforted, and may EVERYONE out there enjoy life and do good.
September 17, 2009
Always remembering.
September 12, 2009
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
September 11, 2009
Thinking of Dean today and of the family he loved so much.
Mary and Dana Klein
September 07, 2009
Thank You, Ann, we appreciate your kindness. We also will be thinking of you and your family, and especially your son Frederick John Cox.
September 05, 2009
9-11-09 I will be reading Dean Phillip Eberling's name at the New York City Zuccotti Park commemoration of 9-11. My son Frederick John Cox died on 9-11 on the 104th floor of the South Tower World Trade Center. Dean's family and friends are in my thoughts and prayers. How we live our lives will honor our loved ones the most. I have read about Dean's life and will picture him as I call his name this Friday, 9-11-9. Love, faith and hope, Ann Douglas
August 19, 2009
Just thinking about you ....
May 24, 2009
Happy Birthday!!! On this Memorial Day Weekend of 2009, I am remembering Dean Eberling!!!
March 09, 2009
Not a day goes by that you are not on our minds...but you are still alive in our hearts. We miss you Dean.
November 14, 2008
Thinking about you today Dean.
September 10, 2008
On this eve of the 7 year anniversary, we still miss you and think about you!
May 25, 2008
Happy Birthday to my Friend, and Uncle.
May 24, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
January 28, 2008
I still think of Dean often, especially when I'm in Seaside Park. He was a beach buddy of my brother Andre. Dean was a true gentleman.
December 24, 2007
Thank you for exposing me to the music of Jethro Tull and Bruce Springsteen. Every time I listen to them I think of you.
September 10, 2007
To Dean's family:

I worked with Dean at Lehman Brothers in the 90's. I of course remember him well for his brilliant insights into the securities industry and his observations about Lehman and our competitive issues. As a financial institutions banker, I learned how to look at a securites business from Dean. But I remember him also for his terrific sense of humor. He was a brilliant man who liked to laugh and make others enjoy their work. We lost a good man who could make people smile, an incredible gift. Tomorrow we remember that terrible day six years ago and I will remember fondly your husband and father.
May 24, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
October 31, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
September 30, 2006
In remembrance....
September 11, 2006
On this sad 5 year anniversary we still think about you everyday Dean. My wife, your niece, Wendy misses you so much!
September 08, 2006
We still miss Dean and think of him often. We purchased our first home in Westfield because of Dean and Amy and regret that as we became busy young homeowners, we had less and less time to hang out together! We admire Amy and the girls so much for their strength since this painful loss. We've told Dean's heroic story over and over.
It was a privilege to know him. He will never be forgotten. Mary and Dana Klein
August 25, 2006
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
May 24, 2006
Today is your birthday, I think of you today as I do every day. I love you and miss you so much.Happy Birthday "Little" Brother! And as you said so many times "Its all...good!"
March 31, 2006
My Uncle, and Friend
January 06, 2005
Amy,Corey and Lauren,

I don't think that I ever told you what a wonderful man Russ and I thought Dean was. He was so good to Russ. I will forever be grateful for the way he took Russ under his wing and molded him. Russ used to say to me all the time, "Babe, do you know how lucky I am?" And "we" were. It was an honor to have known him. Amy, we have both lost so much. Our husbands were wonderful men that will forever leave a mark on our soul. Russ and Dean lived and died together and you and I and our children must now carry on without them. I want to say thank you for Russ for the opportunity that he was given, he truly was living his dream and we owe that to Dean. Thank you. God bless you and the girls and stay strong.

Kristen Keene
September 11, 2004
Although I never met Dean his spirit will be with me this morning as I ride at his favorite place.
September 11, 2003
Dear Mrs. Eberling:

My name is Michael Boyle. I was a childhood friend of your husband, Dean. We met when my family moved to Westfield. Dean was one of my first friends and when I read his bio on this site I had a flood of memories of Dean and I and the rest of the gang playing a game we called "bike tag." We would try to ambush each other when riding bikes and the way you tagged someone else was to crash your bike into the other guy. While we were always black and blue from the game we had a fabulous time. I will always remember and appreciate your husband's kindness and friendship to me when I was a fifth grade kid and "the new guy in town." If there is ever anything I can do for you or your children please feel free to send me an email. [email protected]

God bless you and your family.

Michael W. Boyle
September 10, 2002
To Dean's family:

On the anniversary of that terrible day I will be singing the Mozart Requiem in Washington. It's part of a world-wide performance of this piece of music as a tribute to those we lost. At rehearsal tonight they asked us to pick a name from the long list and I chose Dean's since his last name was close to my first. I will be wearing a heart with his name on it during the concert and will be thinking about your family and all that you have lost. May my prayers and uplifted voice be heard and bring you comfort on this somber day. Godspeed.
May 30, 2002

The rubble and the pile are almost gone,
But for me, & for many, the valued memories will always live on.

Hardly a day goes by, that I don’t wonder why?
But, then all it takes is a word or a phrase
To bring back all those days…

Like in ’85, when at OLP we 1st labored together under JWS,
Or while at 2 Broadway, when the Mets had their day,
We supplied the parade long after the “confetti” gave way

To Dallas we went, to check on Leroy & Brent,
Our dark suits & brief cases, they agreed,
Made them worry we came from the SEC!!

We had Rembo & Tuna-man & Drady the know-all,
There was the Klein-ster & Lila & Ray K., who used Clairol,

After Mother Merrill you landed next-door,
For the challenges that SLH & the Brothers had in store

Jack & Fred set the stage to capture that II spot,
Which included how to sharpen your AXE as well as
Sammy’s & shots,

You made the list often & many times in a row, deserved fame & recognition for a job tireless done, but which always included an allotment of fun

There are many of us that can just as easily recall the respect you enjoyed
As a friend or mentor -- someone always willing to help with a challenge or just listen for awhile or role up your sleeves and join in.

The phrase, “to measure the man, measure his heart” seems most fitting in describing the standard by which we will most remember you….

My friend, I will miss the guidance & the talent, the mentor & the foil, a man of unbending character & also great charity; but mostly I will mourn the loss of opportunity to build on these already rich memories.

May you always HAND.
April 26, 2002
I worked with Dean at Putnam Lovell. I knew him for 1 1/2 years. I had the pleasure of getting to know him. He was a wonderful person and was always there when you needed a shoulder to cry on. We had a lot of laughs with him and his Secretary Thelma, Russell Keene who also lost his life on 9/11, Gregory Trost, Lauren and all of the research group. He used to call me Miss Happy Ass.:) I have a picture from San Francisco that we took together, but I don't need to look at that to remember what a wonderful man we all lost. My heart goes out to Amy and the girls and everyone who knew him. You will be missed deepley.
March 11, 2002
It's 3/11, six months since the day the world changed forever. It's a day to reflect and remember. You will never be forgotten. You and your family will always be our family's hearts and prayers.
March 06, 2002
Dean was a veteran securities analyst covering my company's stock in the asset management industry. We miss his intelligence, insight, warmth and wit. Our prayers and best wishes to Dean's family and colleagues at KBW as they move forward.
February 08, 2002
Dean was a friend and mentor of my late brother in law Russell Keene.they were together in the same elevator and should be considered heros for what they did for 2 of their fellow co workers. Everyone that knew either of them was blessed. My heart goes out to Deans family and friends
January 29, 2002
Dean was a dear freind who helped me out personally with my work at the Securities Industry Association for many years through many of his former jobs as analyst at other brokerages and gave freely of his time to SIA and our Financial management Division as guest speaker over the years. I, and all of us at SIA and FMD sorely miss him.
January 23, 2002
at every race either on the track or off we will always remeber Dean Eberling and the family members he leaves behind. Our prayers and thoughts are always with his family and not a day goes by that we don't pray for the family because they are our family also! We love you God be with you. Every time TJ races we know that Uncle Dean will be with him!
January 15, 2002
January 04, 2002
My Uncle Dean
January 04, 2002
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
January 02, 2002
My deepest sympathy to all of Dean's family and friends. I worked with Dean for one and a half years at Putnam Lovell Securities. During that time, while I was merely an analyst in a different division of the bank, Dean always held his door open and provided advice and held discussions in confidence. He even offered support beyond the firm when I left. He will be sorely missed but is fondly remembered by everyone who was ever in touch with him.

Please take care and God speed.
December 29, 2001
My girls go to High School with Dean's daughter Corey. We are all saddened by the lost of this wonderful man and father. We send our warmest sympathy and hope that you find the strength you need to carry on.
December 11, 2001
For Dean's family. I first met Dean when we worked together at Lehman Brothers in 1992; his work on the securities industry was first rate! I followed his career from afar after I left Lehman until 2000 when I was fortunate enough to be invited to speak to an SIA group in Chicago on the same panel as Dean. I was a last minute replacement for someone else, and Dean was so helpful. We hit it off, doing a Mutt and Jeff act, and repeated it this year. Again, Dean was the star and I was the backup, but you would never have known it by the way he treated me.
All of you have my deepest sympathy. If he was only half the husband and dad that he was an analyst, you all were lucky. But, somehow I am betting he was so much more. God bless all of you, and may Dean rest in peace. Bruce Foerster
December 04, 2001
November 16, 2001
I knew Dean a very longtime ago In Seaside Park in the late 60's and early 70's.Susan Frieda called my sister Betsy to tell us about this tragedy. We used to play with Dean in the backyard and on the beach. I personally remember wrestling with him in the back yard.I'm very sorry to hear about his loss and may god bless all of you.Edward A. Martin
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