So rare for a family to eat together every night and it's good that you have that memory of him to cherish forever & it's good that you have his meals and sense of food adventure to remember too because it will last as I know it did when my Dad passed though he didn't go on 9-11-01, not so tragically. One day you'll all be together again in Heaven and until then may your memories sustain you and give you warmth. God bless you and keep you and all who lost someone on 9-11-01.
I placed a flag in a memorial garden at UNCC today in rememberance of James. Although I had never met him and I was only 6 years old when he passed, he had touched my heart and I will continue to pray for his family every day.
I worked for Netegrity when Jim was CFO. Many years have passed but I find myself thinking of him and his family today. The company that bought Netegrity has a stone marker commemorating those who passed on September 11. They will not be forgotten.
Have been thinking of Jim and his family this entire week.
Former Prime Employee - Nancy Dalbec
Thinking of Jim and his family today.
MS - netegrity employee
I was a tech securities analyst who followed Netegrity and I knew Jim well. I think of him and his family frequently and he remains in my thoughts and prayers to this day. God bless his wife and children who he spoke of fondly and loved enormously. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. - Heather O'Loughlin Green
Jim, Gail, Elizabeth and John, you are always in my thoughts and prayers.
The brightest person I was ever privileged to know
Thinking of Jim and the Hayden Family, today.
I still think of Jim often. He was my boss at Netegrity on that awful day. His warmth and his heart is with us all everyday. I pray still for his wife and kids. I hope they have found peace. So many of us still love you Jim and will remember you forever.
It's been 10 years now since I first learned that Jim was a passenger on one of the plans that horrific day in September 2001. To this day I still think of Jim frequently and hope that his family is doing well and are able to manage the pain of his loss. To the Hayden family please know that Jim was a great person not just to his family but to the people he worked with as well. He will never be forgotten.
Nancy Dalbec -- former Prime Computer employee
Yesterday afternoon I got a call from Pat to confirm the news of Jim's passing. I had seen his name earlier on the passenger list on the news, but because I was not certain it was the same person, I chose to be in denial for a few hours. Pat then confirmed.
For the rest of the day yesterday and all day today, I can't focus on anything else by glimpses of Jim's life, as I was privileged to experience it.
Jim was one of the few people I know who really had his " house in order".
•He was a great visionary who was one of a kind. Yes he had extensive knowledge that prepared him for his CFO role. He also had a personality and people skills that made him calm in a crisis, a great listener and thinker when tough decisions had to be made, and a great leader when people needed to be guided and encouraged to get things done and done well.
•It was obvious; he was a great father and husband. It gave me great joy to hear that he had recently spent quality time with his family on vacation and touring potential colleges with his son.
•I am also going to assume that he had his personal/spiritual life in order as well. It would just be like him and he was an example of that every day he spent on this earth.
Every time I think of Jim being on that plane and see it on the news, I imagine that at the instant that plane hit, Jim standing in front of his Maker.......
I can hear God saying to Jim: "Go right on in Jim, you're all set."
Jim was a great man and lived every day of his life with his work, family and spiritual life in order. A good example for all of us.
Tribute I emailed to Netegrity employees on 9/12/2001
You will always be in my heart. I will never forget you and how your death changed the world in which we live in.
Thinking of Jim and his family on May 2, 2011 when US Navy seals killed Osama bin Laden...
To the family of James E. Hayden:
James gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our heroes of September 11 be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you.
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
Gail, Elizabeth, and John, im a young student and have been assigned a project. to do with 9/11 and i was to pick a person the had died on that horrible day. i picked James Hayden. i just wanted to say that he is a great man.
sincerily, JoC Baker
Gail, Elizabeth & John,
Our prayers are with you all year, but ever so much more so on 9/11.
I miss Jim, his sense of humor, and most importantly, what a wonderful, caring person he was. We were all blessed to know him, although for much too short a time.
God bless you.
Sue & Ralph Frye
On this day every year since, and every year to come, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Jim, we miss you. Rest in peace.
Dear Hayden Family,
7 Years later, it is still hard to fathom. You are all in my thoughts.
Jim touched so many and we are still all the better that we were graced by him in our lives.
My thoughts are with you always.
Gail, Elizabeth & John,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you today and every day. Jim was a special person in our lives, and losing him still hurts, 7 years later.
What can anyone say to change how that day has affected so many people? It's been 7 years and still I feel the shock of the events from that day when I watch a newsclips from then. Gail, please know that you and your family are always in my thoughts.
The Hayden family continues to be in my thoughts and prayers.
I worked at Netegrity when Jim was its CFO. I remember him as a warm talented person with a great smile. 6 years later my thoughts go to his family and his friends... God bless...
Jim, you and your family are always in our thoughts and prayers. May your family find comfort in the fact that you made such a significant and meaningful impact on my and other peoples lives.
Yet another year has passed. This day has been a day of up and downs today. Please know that the Hayden family are in my thoughts and prayers always.
I think of Jim often and miss him terribly. He was kind, considerate, caring, dedicated, and easy to talk to. He always listened and had quite words of advice.
There are so many funny things I remember – every time I slice a strawberry I can hear him say “what are you doing” he brought fresh strawberries to a meeting once for everyone to share I sliced mine before eating them – it may have seemed a bit strange to some. Every time I look at a new building – you see I’m a facilities manager and Jim and I spent a lot of time with the broker looking for new space! Every time I’m on a ladder, I’m not sure what he was thinking when he ran down the hallway when he saw me on a ladder yelling at me “to be careful”!
I have great memories of Jim, I’m lucky to have known him.
Gail, Elizabeth, John – my heart goes out to all of you.
Jim was my cousin, not until Sept.11,2001 did I know of him.
I pray for him and his family still although they never know me.
I know in my heart that he is amongst angels and pray his family is at peace..
That day doesn't go by when I don't think of the years Jim and I worked together at Computervision. And, then the sadness of his abrupt loss. Gail, you and your family are in my prayers daily.
Sue Frye -
We are approaching September again and once again my thoughts and prayers go out to Jim's family. I think of him often. I hope you are finding peace in your lives.
Jim we love you always and forever.
Gail, Liz, and John,
and Libby too
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
the hayden family,god bless all of you.You are never alone,certainly never forgotten!You are prayed for every day.I hope you find comfort,Iam so sorry for your terrilbe loss
Gail, John and Elizabeth, just a brief message to let you know that Jim, and all of you, remain close in our family's heart, thoughts and prayers. Jim's smile, warmth and gentleness will never be forgotten. God bless.
To Jim's Family,
First of all I would like to say how sorry I am for your loss.
I worked at Netegrity when I came to know Jim. He was always professional and always warm. He always knew how to get the best out of everyone at any given moment as he himself gave
his best to all of us willingly and selfishly.
He was never to busy for anybody and did all that he could to help others.
They day after 9/11 I went outside and placed red white and blue ribbons on all of my trees and created a memorial in my yard in his honor. Hundreds of people drove by and stopped and actually got out of their cars to view the memorial and reflect on the events that changed our world. (I never displayed Jim's full name on the memorial)
Today, this memorial still remains on my property for all to see. It has become a "fixture" in the neighborhood as I continue to pay tribute to Jim and all the others.
I will always remember him!
We miss you tremendously. We will love you always and forever.
To Jim's family,
More than a year after the tragedy of Sept 11, 2001, I have only just learned today of Jim's death, from a high school contact, and I am devastated. My heart goes out to all of you.
You don't know me, but I knew Jim at Pawtucket West. We shared many friends and many classes. I knew him as a sweet, kind and low-key guy. As I think of him now, I can only picture him gently smiling, never upset or angry.
It is no surprise to me that, reading through this guest book, others who knew Jim later than I miss him terribly, and treasure their memories of him. You will be in my thoughts and prayers always.
To Mrs. Hayden, My favorite brave teacher,
I am very sorry about what happened to your husband. He will be kept in my prayers every night.
Katelyn Hazirjian, Grade 5
Hello, you don't know me, but I attend Divine Savior Holy Angels High School in Milwaukee. Today we had a prayer service in memory of those lost on September 11. We each received a name of someone lost on that day. I got Mr. Hayden. I would like you to know that I am praying for you. I can't even imagine how hard it must be for you and your family. My prayers are with you.
My name is Savannah Whitten and i am a student at the University of Tennessee at Knoxville. I am a member of Alpha Omicron Pi sorority here at UTK and today we wore pins to honor those who lost there lives on this day last year and i wore the pin with James Edward Haydens name on it. I have been praying for his family all day and am very honored to be able to wear his name on my pin. God Bless!
I worked with Jim at Netegrity. I have never known a more ethical, focused, and down to earth human being than Jim. Jim allowed his human side to shine through in a way I will always remember. For Jim's family, my thoughts and prayers are with you today.
As i share the surname,my family shares in your grief.
One year on and on our wedding anniversary, we are unable to celebrate.Our love and best wishes go to all members of our "Hayden family"so touched by this tragedy, we do not know you personally,but we are united in our thoughts.God bless.
I'm a securities analyst who follows Netegrity. Like others in the financial community, I liked and admired Jim as a person and professional: his warmth, humor, accessibility and zest for his job and family will be fondly remembered by all of those who were lucky enough to interact with him. To Jim's family: please know how much we think about and pray for Jim and all of you.
I did not know James, but I know God will bless him.
We are very sorry for your loss of James. May his abilities of listening, his life and love (also the adventure of food sampling) live on in you. May the sorrow in your hearts be lightened by warm memories of times shared with James. Our hearts cry with you.
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
To Jim's family,
I do not know you but only of your loss and the loss of many through this horrible tragedy. I came to know Jim and your names through the Mercy Band (Bearing Another's Name Daily) Ministry and I want you to know that I do wear Jim's name on my wrist daily and as I feel it, I think of you all, and lift you up to Our Lord, Jesus Christ and ask that He bring comfort, peace , strengh and provide for the many needs you might have at this time. Know that Jim's name will not be forgotten nor will you! May He encourage you in the days ahead!!! In His Name...
Gail, Elizabeth and John,
I work with Jim at Computervision for a short period of time, all I can say was that I was completely devistated when I realized that he was a passenger on one of the planes. My thoughts and prayers will be with you always.
Gail, Elizabeth, John,
Not a day, or really, an hour, goes by where I don't think of each of you. I am praying for you and praying for each of us here in America.
I am a security analyst who covers Netegrity, and I had no better friend in business than Jim.
Whenever I had a financial question, I would call Jim. He always knew the answer and would take time to carefully explain it to me.
As I matured as an analyst, so did my appreciation for Jim. He was never too busy to talk, never too full of himself to not listen, and never, ever condescending.
When I think of a guiding hand on the rudder of a ship in very stormy seas, I think of Jim.
When I need an example of kindness, I think of Jim.
Whenever I arrive at the precipice of thinking of people as something other than vulnerable human beings, I think: Jim. He never lost perspective, why should I?
It is hard for me to put into words the gratitude I felt for having known him. Jim was more than a friend to me, he was a living example of what is meant to never lose touch with what's important in life.
I miss him. And I think of each of you a lot.
I will never, ever forget Jim Hayden as long as I live.
Thank you for sharing him with me.
San Francisco, CA
October 22, 2001
MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU ALL.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
JAMES MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.
To Mrs. Hayden, Elizabeth, and Jon,
I was deeply saddened by the news of the great tragedy you suffered. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this tragic time.
Like the Hayden family, I am a resident of Westford. I did not know Jim and his family, but they are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. My daughter lit a candle for him at our church. May God be with the Hayden family.
As a financial analyst covering software companies, I conversed with Jim several times about Netegrity's finances, but more often about vacationing on the Cape and Route 128 traffic. It didn't take long to see that he was the very best of his profession and a wonderful guy -- a feeling I know is shared by everyone, in the financial community and beyond. My deepest condolences and prayers to friends and family.
Credit Suisse First Boston
We are friends of Gail's brother Don. Our heartfelt sympathy goes out to the entire family, and our only wish is that we could do something to ease the families pain. We know that there is nothing we can say or do to stop the hurt, but want the family to know that they are not alone in mourning Jim's passing. The entire country is galvanized in a way that has never before been seen, and the acts of that terrible day will be avenged, and the world will become a safer place. We hope that there will be some solace in that for you. You have friends in Washington that you have never met, and please take comfort in the fact that they think about your loss every day.
The Business Administration Department (both faculty and staff)at Stonehill College are deeply saddened by the death of Mr. James Hayden whose daughter Elizabeth is a student in our department. Elizabeth should know that our department is ready to help her in any way we can when she is ready to return to campus. Our hearts and prayers go out to all the family.
Gail, Elizabeth and John,
I worked with your husband and dad at Deloitte 15 years ago and was absolutely devestated to learn that he was on Flight 175. Jim was a great man to work with, had an awesome sense of humor and treated his staff and colleagues with an immense amount of respect at all times. I am sure your loss and grief is tremendous at this time and I just wanted to share with you that even those of us from his earlier days at Deloitte will always remember him with a smile and an appreciation for the wonderful man that he was. May God truly bless and comfort you and the rest of your family.
"I lift my eyes to the hills from whence cometh my help."
Jim, as your family looks up to those hills and into the skies, my prayer is that they will be comforted knowing that you are smiling down on them!