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June 01, 2014
Vernita is the only person I will strive to emulate. She was the epitome of who I want and need to be, not only as a queer, black, woman; but as a human being. Miss you Vee.
April 16, 2014
MY GAY GROUP, "LADIES WHO LUNCH" WAS ENCOURAGED BY VERNITA GRAY, SHE WAS THE GREATEST GAY RIGHTS ACTIVIST AND SHE MAKES ME PROUD TO BE A GAY WOMAN! I AM NO LONGER IN THE CLOSET BECAUSE OF VERNITA. ALL MY GIRLFRIENDS ARE GAY, WE ARE NO LONGER ASHAMED OR HIDING. GOD BLESS YOU VERNITA. LIZ BUSHEMI
April 07, 2014
To the Family of Ms.Vernita Gray.
I am very sorry for your loss.
May you find comfort from the words at
Psalms 86:5
April 01, 2014
Thank you Vernita for your pioneering spirit and activism that helped our community grow. I remember our days of collaboration when I worked at Horizions Community Services and our focus on youth and building cross cultural relationships across the Chicago community. Peace be with you always and with Pat, your family and extended family.
March 31, 2014
Rest in peace, Vernita. My thoughts are with all who loved her. I knew Vernita in the 80s from Mountain Moving Coffee House and our social circle of friends. She was always a bright spirit and light along the way. She still is.
March 31, 2014
Vernita was a very kind, loving person. My sister is very lucky to have had such a wonderful person in her life. We will miss you, Vernita. Rest in peace
March 31, 2014
Only knew you for a short time,Vernita, but always welcomed me just the same as a long-time friend.Peace be with you and your Family.
March 30, 2014
"You will never be replaced, but you have planted many seeds so that your hard work will continue on through all of us"
March 29, 2014
May God bless all of us who were privileged to have been in the company of one of His most loving creatures, Vernita. Our condolences to Pat, her mother, her family and host of friends. Our prayers are with you while you transition from having her in the flesh to forever having her with you knowing she is in God's most loving arms! We are a better people from having had her in our world!!! Elandria (eli)& Elena(Blue)
March 28, 2014
Vernita and her lovely smile graced us & we will always remember her strength & courage. Prayers for peace to Pat & family.
March 27, 2014
Thanks for your strength and courage.
March 27, 2014
God bless the family.
March 27, 2014
My condolences sorry for your loss, take comfort in her memories.
March 25, 2014
RIP
March 25, 2014
Condolences to the family of Vernita Gray
March 25, 2014
I send my condolences
March 24, 2014
To the family: We serve a God who cares and gives comfort to those who are in mourning. May your memories be a strengthen aid.
March 24, 2014
March 24, 2014
I remember reading an article last year about Vernita & Pat in the Sun-times, I was very excited for them. Just the other day for some reason Vernita & Pat ran across my mind & I was wondering whatever happened to them. Again im reading the newspaper & this time I ran across Vernitas death notice. To her wife, family & friends I would like to say that you have my deepest sympathies
March 24, 2014
I remember reading an article last year about Vernita & Pat in the Sun-times, I was very excited for them. Just the other day for some reason Vernita & Pat ran across my mind & I was wondering whatever happened to them. Again im reading the newspaper & this time I ran across Vernitas death notice. To her wife, family & friends I would like to say that you have my deepest sympathies
March 24, 2014
I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.
My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth.He will not suffer thy foot to be moved: he that keepeth thee will not slumber.Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep.The Lord is thy keeper: the Lord is thy shade upon thy right hand.The sun shall not smite thee by day, nor the moon by night.The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul.The Lord shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.. We join with all of you in celebrating the life and legacy of our friend Vernita. To Pat and family may God hold you on this day and the days that comes. TJ Williams-Hauger and husband Brad First gay couple of The Riverside Church
March 24, 2014
To Family and Friends of Mrs.Gray
You all have our sincere condolences. What courage Vernita had. Our heavenly Father seen exactly what went on It gives me comfort to know God is not partial. Act 10:34,35
March 24, 2014
Too Pat may the God of perfect peace keep you while you are going through the loss of your wife Vernita
March 23, 2014
To the family of Vernita Gray, please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of your dearest loved one. I have found comfort in the scriptue at Psalm 72:12-14.
March 22, 2014
I knew Vernita from the very beginning of the Gay Pride movement and every moment of those years was filled with veritable pride and activism on Vernita's part. Moreover, she was a deep-feeling and loving person and friend. She was helpful and kind to those she knew and to strangers, as well. She touched us all deep within our hearts. I will miss her spirit and her loving-kindness. May G-d rest her soul. From, Harriet Baker
March 22, 2014
I didn't know Vernita but I followed the marriage equality fight in Illinois and was glad Vernita and Pat were allowed to marry before the "official" date of marriage in June.

I wish Vernita had lived longer to enjoy her marriage, but she must have died knowing she fought the good fight, for Pat and for others. God Speed, Vernita
March 22, 2014
May the God of all comfort be with the Gray family as they mourn the loss of their loved one. Psalms 20:1 tells us to look to God on the day of distress. Continue to make him your refuge during this most difficult time.
March 22, 2014
thank you, thank you! for everything you did for us
March 22, 2014
God be with you in this next major life change. God bless you.
March 22, 2014
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
March 22, 2014
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
March 22, 2014
I didn't know Vernita personally, but she was a true hero for all of the good work she did on behalf of LBGT. May she rest in peace.
March 22, 2014
God promises to wipe every tear from our eyes.
March 21, 2014
Soon death will be no more
March 21, 2014
With deepest sympathy to family.
March 21, 2014
Sorry for your loss. There will be a time that sickness and death will be a thing of the past
March 21, 2014
I am praying for you during your time of loss."
March 21, 2014
May Jehovah give you and your family comfort in your time of need.
March 21, 2014
THE WAGES THAT SIN PAYS IS DEATH.(RO.6:23)..WE ALL HAVE MISSED THE MARK,BUT WE ALL LOOK FORWARD TO LIFE IN PARADISE EARTH....GOD LOVED US SO MUCH THAT HE GAVE US THAT OPTION......CONDOLENCE TO THE FAMILY........QUE
March 21, 2014
So sorry for your loss. God is giver of life"(Psalm36:9;Acts17:24,25).
March 21, 2014
My sincere condolence
March 20, 2014
Amazing!! I've never heard of Ms gray and her efforts that seem to have set a things in motion and in place even before needed. Having accomplished this before and impending death makes you wonder about the theory of Prescience. As for her cause I've no opinion except that it made a lot of people happy. Cesar wants people to legally marry. Cesar should be pleased. Rest Well Ma'am. You've will never be forgotten
March 20, 2014
Rest in peace, to one of our oldest and dearest friends.
March 20, 2014
Life Without End—At Last!
(John 3:16)

Can you see, with your mind's eye,
Peoples dwelling together?
Sorrow has passed. Peace at last!
Life without tears and pain.

Man and beast, living in peace,
Cause no harm to each other.
Food will be there. All will share
In what our God provides.

In those days old will grow young,
Flesh revived as in childhood.
Troubles are gone, from now on
No need to weep or fear.

Paradise all will enjoy
As they sing of God's glory.
Yes, ev'ry day we will say
To God our Maker, “Thanks!”

Sing out with joy of heart.
You too can have a part.
Live for the day when you'll say:
‘Life without end—at last!'
March 20, 2014
God bless you for all you did. Sympathies to your partner and family.
March 20, 2014
To the family and friends of Mrs. Gray, Please accept my deepest sympathies on the loss of this most remarkable women. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time.
March 20, 2014
V is at peace now. She touched so many with her assiduous activism. I'm glad I had a chance to work with her when I was a crime victim advocate. She was a great and fun-loving person.
Our deepest condolences to Pat and to their family.

Maria Elena Olvera and Mona Khoury
March 20, 2014
What a great women , My condolences to Patricia,and the family of Vernita Gray. Always a smile, and a hug as she fought a battle with her cancer . May her soul and the souls of the departed rest in peace. Your neighbor John Sattelmaier
March 20, 2014
My sincere condolences to her spouse, Patricia, and her family and friends. She was obviously and inspiration woman who I am sure will be dearly missed.
March 20, 2014
Dear Patricia,
Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your family. It was my honor to meet you both.
Campsie Grothendieck
Nurse Practitioner
March 20, 2014
My deepest sympathy to your wife and family. May you rest in peice my friend. God Bless always.
March 20, 2014
God bless you and your loved ones ~ Rest in peace.
March 20, 2014
Condolences to Patricia Ewert and the Gray Family and may the peace of God be with you during these distressing times ~ Lwd
March 20, 2014
I am sure she is one of the people that made it possible for me to get married to my same sex partner. I am sorry for her family's loss.
March 19, 2014
May God bless you
March 19, 2014
God Bless and keep you always. You have helped change our world. I married my partner after 27yrs together. You have helped us do this. Our Sympathy to your spouse and family.
Amazing Grace how sweet you are Vernita
March 19, 2014
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March 19, 2014
May the Hearer of prayer give you the comfort needed during this most difficult time. [Psalms 65:2]
March 19, 2014
You and your wife are our heroes. May your love shine on forever. Thanks for your bravery during a time when many would have simply given up. Sleep well, my sister. Condolences to your wife.
March 19, 2014
May the peace of God be with you.
March 19, 2014
Because of your love and determination, I will be able to marry the man of my dreams after 25 years. Godspeed to you. Thank you.
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