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Alan MESSENGER Obituary





MESSENGER, Alan

Alan Messenger, 55, of Newington, lost his short battle with cancer on Saturday (April 6, 2013) surrounded by the loving embrace of his family. Born in Newington, son of Bruce and the late Ellen Messenger, he leaves behind his wife of 31 years, Connie Messenger, his father and stepmother Bruce and Sharon Messenger of Plainville; three children: Daniel Messenger and daughter-in-law Cindy Netupski of Hutto, TX, Derick Messenger of Orlando. FL, Amanda (Messenger) Dark and son-in-law Nino Dark of Newington; four grandchildren, Tyler, Nathan, Gloria and Clinton; four sisters Debbie Breault and brother-in-law Bill Breault of Newington, Cheryl Kelly of Rocky Hill, Terry Messenger, Robin Lockery and brother in law/ best friend Keith Lockery all of Newington. He has spent almost his whole life as a Newington resident and raised his three children in the same neighborhood he grew up in. He and his father with friends built a stock car (#45 after their Eighth Street address) which he crashed up regularly at Stafford Motor Speedway for four years. He joined the United States Navy at age 23 and was stationed in Mayport Florida were he meet his wife. He served his country well while touring the world seeing countries like Egypt, Spain, Italy, Greece, France and going through the Suez Canal. He was honorably discharged and began his career with Connecticut Boiler Repair in West Hartford. He also became a life member of the VFW Post 9929 where he had spent so much time with his parents growing up and marching with the Fife and Drum Core with his sisters. He coached both sons through Newington Pee Wee football in the 90's and is still called "Coach" by grown men he coached as children. He was a doting grandfather and a loving father and husband.
Funeral services will be held Wednesday, 10:30 a.m. at Carlson Funeral Home, 45 Franklin Square, New Britain. Burial will follow in Fairview Cemetery. Calling hours are Tuesday 5-8 p.m. at Carlson Funeral Home. In lieu of flower donations can be made to The Alan Messenger Foundation at www.alanmessengersfoundation.webs.com. Please share a memory or note of sympathy with Alan's family at www.carlsonfuneralhome.com.

Published by Hartford Courant on Apr. 8, 2013.
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A very sad day indeed. My memories of Alan as a youngster and young adult are wonderful. Such a tremendous personality and coupled with his caring for others simply made Alan very unique. Although it has been many years since we have spoken, one never forgets the beautiful people our life path has graced us with their presence. Alan was truly one of those individuals and I am fortunate to have had him in my life during my Eighth Street days. On behalf of my family and my mom Joyce, we extend our deepest sympathy for the loss of this delightful man.

Jim Pasqurell

April 10, 2013

We have fond memories of growing up with Alan and all of his sisters! May he rest in peace and may all he left behind be comforted by his memory and the time you had together. You all have our deepest sympathy for your loss. The Gondolfos

Gondolfo Clan

April 9, 2013

Love you Dad. We are all going to miss you so much. Until we meet again watch over us and keep us safe. You truly are an angel.

Cindy Netupski-Messenger

April 9, 2013

I want to offer my sincere condolences on your recent loss. It was a shock to hear the news of Alan's passing and I can only imagine how difficult it has been for your family. "Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted."
May God's blessings and peace be with Alan and his wonderful family.
With Love,Karen,Lindsey & Trevor Colossa

April 9, 2013

Even though Alan's time here was short I pray that all those that he blessed and touched will take away the tender love of Jesus that he had deep in his
heart

he will be sadly and sorely missed my deepest condolences to you all during
this time of sorrow

Michael Corcoran

April 9, 2013

R.I.P old friend we had some fun and good times together. My prayers will be with your family.

Gary Bouchard

April 9, 2013

Words cant describe what i feel right now ..i know u were a great dad grandad and a great husband and a father to my brother u will always be missed see u in heaven i can hear ur voice watch over us u will always be in our heart

jessica gonzalez

April 9, 2013

amber davis

April 9, 2013

Alan, Through the MANY MANY years that i have known u you have always been a great man.. You will be missed EVERYDAY.. You are loved by many! Rest easy in Heaven and look down on ur family.. <3

amber davis

April 9, 2013

R.I.P even though only knew u a short time u were a kind person and outgoing so sad to see u go my prayers to your loving family and friends

Jackie Kachnowski

April 8, 2013

The Ritone Family

April 8, 2013

A life long friend that I haven't seen in many years. May God Bless You. R.I.P. Our sincere sympathies to Messenger family.

Tony and Cela Ritone

April 8, 2013

alan..although i didnt know you well i did know connie and your kids..i just want to say you are an amazing husband and father to dan amanda and derek and you will be missed so much forever..i firmly believe that you will see your family once again one day..R.I.P..god just recieved another angel..

dee nicholson

April 8, 2013

Papa you were like my second father, my kids papa, a all around great man. You will deeply be missed and always loved. I have wonderful memories with you and your family. Not a day will go by I won't think of you. I love you and ill see you again! Xo Rest in Paradise.

Lisa Alexander

April 8, 2013

Im going to miss your shoulder to cry on. Truly grateful to have had your words of wisdom and support through out the years! We all miss you and will forever love you and hold you in our hearts!

Alana Desroches

April 8, 2013

Kimi

April 8, 2013

Love you "Dad" I will never forget all the years growing up on Eight St then Monte Vista and you guiding us to be great adults! Here we are, and I think you are pretty proud of us all. Rest in Paradise. See you again XO

Kimi

April 8, 2013

I didn't get to spend alot of time with my uncle Alan but what memories I do have are great... Lots of love and prayers go out to my aunt Connie Daniel Derek Amanda and extended family..I love you guys stay strong he would have wanted it that way

becki brown

April 8, 2013

So sorry for your loss...

Jill Naples

April 8, 2013

Papa, we will miss you. Don't forget to come to us often and bring us peace. Love you always.

Emily Moskites

April 8, 2013

Rest in paridise

becki

April 8, 2013

I didn't get to spend alot of time with my uncle Alan but what few memories I have of him are great ...I love you and you will be dearly missed by many ..lots of love and prayers going out to my aunt connie and dan Derek and Mandi I love you guys and stay strong he would want that

becki

April 8, 2013

I dont think I could go on with half of myself missing except for the love and support of my wonderful family and friends, thank you. Honey just take a seat at the gates and wait for me. Till we are togeather again I will keep you safe in my heart.

Connie Messenger

April 8, 2013

R.I.P. Uncle Al !!! You will be missed but not forgotten! Till next time

Michael Breault

April 8, 2013

Alan has always been in my heart and mind. He was a great cousin. My sympathy goes out to the whole family. He will be greatly missed.

Sharon Marquis

April 8, 2013

Miss you so much Alan, nothing is going to be the same without you. Til we meet again.

Theresa Messenger

April 8, 2013

my thoughts and prayers are with alan and his family and friends
theresa concatelli

theresa

April 8, 2013

Amanda Dark

April 8, 2013

My sincerest sympathies to the entire Messenger family. May your memories give you comfort in this sad time.

Kristen Lessard

April 8, 2013

Our sincere sympathies for your loss.

A.W. Carlson Funeral Home

April 8, 2013

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