"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal" forever and always
Uncle Jay Jay...I cant believe its been 9 years. There has been so much over those years that I wished you could have been there for. Even though you are there in spirit, it is just not the same. We all miss you sooo much!
I love you and miss you, Ashley
I miss you everyday brother.... I hope our paths cross again. I love you bro
You have been gone for so long jay. I was your friend and i will never forget you. I never knew how bad the loss of a brother could be until i lost mine 5mths ago. Take care of him Jay and God Bless you both.
You are forever in your our hearts. We love & miss you!
"If I could have my yesterday again, it would be a great today!"
I miss you and LOVE YOU! Happy Birthday.
Hi Jay -
We can't believe it's been four years since you left us and it still is as fresh as yesterday. We all met today up at the cemetary and it's just so sad to know you can't physically be with us. There isn't a day that goes by that your name doesn't come up in conversation - we really do miss you - we are thankful for the wonderful memories we have and know that someday we will all be together again.
We Love You!!
Mike, Chris, Ashley, Mikey, and Scott
Hi Jason, I should of written this a long while ago. I just didn't know what to say. Even though we were not married at the time.I still remember the fun we had.I do miss the times we were together, even after our marriage was over, we still were good friends and I miss that.We had a special connetion and nobody will fill that spot.
This sounds kinda crazy but, I actully think about you every day when I brush my teeth, you had a way about it that was different, I started doing it then, and to this day I still do it your way, so your always on my mind, at least twice a day.
I do think of you alot, and Miss You Very Much. You were a wonderful person to me and to everyone else.
I think that's all I can write tonight. I would visit this site often but couldn't get myself to write in it,and now that I finally did,I feel better, I feel like a part of you is with me right now and it feels good. I just wish you could be here in person, someday we'll see each other again.
I Miss You so very much!! I Love You!!
I cannot believe he is dead. I went to high school with Jason and he was a great person. I read all these letters about him and i see he grew up to be a heck of a man. I want you to know how sorry i am. Steven i dont know if you remember me but God bless you..
Happy Birthday in Heaven Jay !!
We Love You and Miss You!
Mike, Chris, Ashley, Mikey, & Scott
Hi Jay. I was up to visit your spot today. I cannot believe its been a whole year already. i dont think there has been one day where i havent thought about that horrible day. i can remember every single detail to the "T". I guess i just wanted to let you know that you are still thought of by many people. I dont think i ever told anybody, but at your funeral when i was asked to be a paul bearer,it was just the greatest honor that ive ever had in my entire life. it sucks not having you around anymore, you taught us all so much. you might not of known, but you did. They say that the hardest part about losing someone is not being able to say goodbye to them. Last year on Wednsday May 22nd i got that chance. you had that usual humungous smile on your face and that is the last memory i have of you. I just want to thank you Jay or always being there for us. I would also like to express my condolences to your family and i hope that they are all doing well.
You will never be forgotten Jay..
Hey Uncle Jay Jay~
Its already been a year. But yet it still feels like you are are going to call or come over.Wow it went by fast. A lots happened throughout this past year, but nothing has been the same without you. Last summer was hard, to do the things that you used to do with us. Christmas was different without you there. Everything has been different. I miss you a lot and i wish you could be here with us. I think about you all the time. But one day we will be together agian. I miss you and love you a lot!
To Uncle Jay Jay –
We think about you all the time –
We will always remember the great times we had together on the boat, camping, rock climbing, playing video games, snow boarding, and just hanging out together.
We miss you and know that you are looking over us and that you will always be with us.
We Love You!!
Love Always –
My Dearest Jason,
I cannot begin to tell you how much I miss you. I thought time would ease the pain of my heart,but it is if all this had happened just yesterday.I still cannot believe that you are gone. I miss your laughter, your smile, the way my arms felt around you.
You were the sunshine in my life, the cool wind that blows gently by on a hot day,an unexpected summer storm on a clear day.
You never knew what to expect with you,but that was the excitement that made everyone want to be around you.
There is an emptiness to my soul, now that you are gone,and I will never be the same. I cannot say that I am sorry to have loved you so completely,though the pain that it brings is almost unbearable.
To have known you is to have known pure bliss, and I can say that I had true love,if only but once in this lifetime,and I thank-you for that.I wish that you could have continued on this path of life with me, but I know you will be waiting in the next.I love you always -Ness
Hi Jay -
Its been a year since you were taken from us. We will never forget that sad day.
It's so hard to believe that we will never hear the sound of your voice or you pulling into the driveway on your Harley.
Someday we will all be together again.
Until then, we will keep you and all the great
memories of the times we’ve shared in our thoughts!
You may be gone, but you will NEVER be forgotten!!
We Love You and Miss You!
Love Always and Forever –
A whole year! It feels like forever! Somedays are easier than others, but I wouldn't say better. It is still very difficult to deal with you not being here. I know you are still so much a part of all of our lives in the sense that I'm sure you're watching over us and keeping us safe. Oh, what I would give to even get to spend one more day with you. I will always have an emptiness in my heart that only you were able to fill. I know when you were here you really didn't know how many people you touched in so many ways. Now that you're looking down upon us I hope you realize the importance and guidance you really offered everyone that has come into contact with you. Even if it was a silly joke or hug or just some advice, or that perfect "I'm up to something" smile...boy, do I miss that!!! I will always do my best to keep your memory alive!!! I couldn't have the golf tournament this spring... I'm hoping to do it in the fall again. Thanks for always being you! Not a day goes by that you aren't thought of. I love and miss you unbelievably!!!
Jason can you hear us?
Do you know that we love and miss you so?
Have you heard our cry's and prayers?
Did you know that you meant so very much to so many?
A year has passed and still the pain persists.
I wish for one more late night conversation or debate.
For family times, telling jokes and laughing.
We hold on to all the memories
wishing to hold on to you.
We cannot measure your life by
the years that you were with us,
but by those who you touched.
By those who you loved and loved you.
You will never be forgotten.
Your in our hearts always.
On a sunny day he passed away
to join the stars and clouds
And the tears that we cried
we couldn't wipe from our eyes
As they lowered him into the ground
And we will always miss,and wish we could kiss
Our beloved Uncle who left so soon
But we know in our hearts
That we never will part and he'll be with us through every new day.
Wow, I can't believe it has been almost eight months. I still think of you all the time and wish you were here. But, I know you're in a much better place and watching over us all!!! You are missed so incredibly! The first golf tournament was a success. I'll be able to issue several scholarships from your foundation. In May around your anniversary, I'll have a second one and I look forward to doing that to keep your memory alive and help people who never even knew you to be able to share a big piece of how special you always were. You were always so giving and caring that this is definately something that will continue to keep giving and helping others just as you always did. It's still is so difficult to not have you here. In so many ways, you are still here. Beginning this foundation for you helps me feel like we are working side by side, and makes each day a little easier. I miss you, my best friend! I love you Jason!
I just wanted to let you know I celebrated your birthday by going to six flags and riding every roller coaster. I knew you would like that! I know you were there too! I miss you so much! I know I always will! I visit you pretty much every day, there's only a few that I haven't. You really help me start my day. When I come sit with you it helps me feel a little better inside. Without you here I have this sadness inside that is always there! Since you have been gone there is a piece of me that is missing! I know people say it'll get easier in time...but as for now this is definately the toughest challenge I have ever had to face. I just wanted you to know you are...as ALWAYS on my mind and in my heart! I love you Jason! Happy Birthday!
To My Best Friend Jason,
I can't believe it has been a month since you left. I miss you just as much now as I did then. You took a piece of me with you! Things will never be the same. The friendship we have shared has been an incredible one and for that I am eternally grateful. We've been through so much together and never even had one argument. We're so much alike in so many ways and our lives have run so parallel it's almost scary. Anytime I ever needed anything...a hug, smile, shoulder or just an ear you were always there as I was for you. Now I face the biggest challenge of them all... The pain in my heart from missing you and I can't stop by or call you. I have felt you close to me so many times since you left but yet it's just not the same as being able to look into your eyes, listen to your voice and see that wonderful smile that would always light up the room. I'm not sure I'll ever really have closure because I know in my heart you're always with me. You had this way about you...you touched so many people in so many ways and never even knew it! I've always known just how amazing you are and always will be. I know one day we will reconnect again in another place, a much better place and until that day, please always know you are a part of me! Thanks for being you! I love you Jason!
My dearest sweetest love
I never pictured my life without you in it. When I walked into that hospital room and saw that you were gone-I think I actually felt my heart break, and part of me was gone too. I don't know how to go on with my life without you.
Anything I have ever really accomplished you were right there by my side. Everything reminds me of you, my perfect dragonboy.
We had lunches with the eggies and the hammies, snowmobiling, our first St.Patrick's Day, Fire I&II, nights on the roof, the future adventures of the two of us pirates on the boat,snuggling under the lava blanket, Key West sunsets, and so much more.
There is nothing now that doesn't bring sweet memories of you, for everything we did we did together.
My heart had never known such love, after all this time you still gave me butterflies in my stomach.
Nothing will ever be the same without you, and no words will ever describe how much I miss you. I love you always and forever
I NEVER THOUGHT THAT A TIME LIKE THIS WOULD COME THIS SOON. MY HEART IS HEAVY AND BODY WEAK, OH HOW CAN I SLEEP? MY THOUGHTS OF YOU ARE SWEET, KIND AND GENTLE AND THEY MAKE ME WEEP. SOMEDAY SOON I KNOW I WILL SLEEP. I WILL MISS YOU TO THE I SEE YOU AGAIN. I KNOW YOU WILL SAVE MORE PEOPLE FROM HEAVEN THEN YOU EVER COULD HERE. I SEE YOU IN WHITE WITH LARGE WHITE WINGS WATCHING OVER US AND EVERYTHING. I WISH I COULD CHANGE THE UNCHANGEABLE. I WISH I COULD LIFT THIS BURDEN OF PAIN FOR MYSELF, MY FAMILY AND HIS FAMILY AT MFD, 8TH DISTRICT. HE WILL BE WITH YOU AT EVERY CALL, AS HE WILL BE WITH US WHEN WE CALL. MY WORLD HAS CHANGED AND SO HAS YOURS, I KNOW HIS SPIRIT SORES!!! I LOVE JASON AND SO MY HEART NOW PORES! YOU WILL GIVE ME STRENGHT WHEN I AM WEAK, TO BE LIKE YOU I WILL SEEK. ALL MY LOVE, CONNIE. I LOVE YOU BEANER!!!
I knew him for a brief period when I was at the 8th District. My thoughts and prayers go out to the family and friends. Someone gave me this poem once and since 9/11; with all our fallen hero's, I think it fits the situation:
An angel has fallen from out of the sky, but he is gone now and no one knows why.
He brought us may joys and tears in our lives, but the pain of his parting is piercing like knives.
During his visit he brought us his love. We are grieving now, so did angels above.
For a while he was lost, but now he's been found, as his soul goes to heaven and his body to the ground.
For now he is safe at the right hand of GOD, though the reason behind it may seem very odd.
His presence may be gone but his spirits in our hearts, if you keep the memories alive you never will part.
An angel has fallen out of the sky, but he is gone now and no one knows why.
Although this is sad and his passing is mourned, just think in Heaven, an Angel is born. -- CS
Jason, you are gone but you will never be forgotten. You made such deep impressions on all of us. Your infectious smile, your great kindness, your love of life, a life taken far too soon.
You leave behind many to mourn you
and the fond memories of you will never fade.
Look down on us from Heaven and guide and protect your Brothers and Sisters of the Manchester Fire Department 8th District. They have big boots to fill now. You will never know how much you were loved.
Rest in peace.
Jay was a great human being. He was always there for us when we needed someone to get to the next big medical call or emergency. He was always stuck driving the engine at Station 3, but you could tell he loved it. I only lived out at station 3 for a short period of time a month or two but we are all a family up there. Jay was a great person all around, he was a role model. And when i grow up if i could be like anyone in my life that i have ever met i would choose Jason Abbott everything he wanted to do he would do, he led a great life and had lots of people that loved him either as a friend brother, uncle, son, role model, or someone he could go for motorcycle rides with. I know in my heart that he will never be forgotten at the Manchester Fire Department or by any of us in Company 3. Also the next time we go to a fire or emergency i know he will be looking down on us from above and guiding us, just like he always has in the past. And when our time comes hopefully many years from now when the fire department in the sky is calling, i hope he has that truck ready and waiting for us just like he always did on those middle of the night calls. God Bless You Jay!!! you will never be forgotten, i promise!!!
He was my Uncle Jay Jay. And we all miss him very much. He was loved by many people, and had a lot of friends. He always spent time with me and my brothers and cousins. He would always be the one to mess around with and hang out with. He would always go on the boat with us and waterski, he would also always go on vacation with my family. He would always make us laugh no matter what the situation was. He will never be forgotten and he will stay in all of our hearts forever.
I did not know JJ as well as most of you but he was a very good friend to me. He would always joke with me when I went over my best friends house( his niece Ash). My prayers are with you in this time of need. Love you all~
Are prayers and thoughts are with your family,friends and your brothers and sisters of the Manchester Fire Department.May they always hold you close in heart and never forget the memories.
Although we didn't know Jason, we know that his death has affected many people who cared about him. His family and friends are in our thoughts and prayers.
To Jeff and Vanessa - You will find the strength to get past this. We are truly sorry.
I had only meant Jason a year ago and regrettably did not know him as well as I would have liked to, however in my short time I would like to think we became good friends. I know he meant a great deal to my brothers at Station 3 as well as everyone in the Manchester Fire Department.
Jason was a great fire fighter, a great officer and a great human being and will be missed by all.
We will keep him in our hearts and thoughts forever.
My deepest sympathies go to chris, mike, connie, hector, steve melissa and all the children in this time of need. I will miss Jason he was a big brother to me for so many years. I will always regret not sharing time in his last years.
Our thoughs and prayers are with you all at this time. I know how hard it is, its that gut wrenching feeling way deep inside that won't go away, its that feeling of being so scared for him, yourself and your family. I know because I still feel mine everyday. But Jason is truly in a wonderful place, and keeping his eyes on you all. Once again our deepest sympathy to you all. I will always be here for you. Love, Maria,Cliff and Sam
My prayers are with all of you.
Our thoughs and prayers are with you.Rest in Peace Brother.
Jay was more then a friend he was like a brother, and I know the rest of the guys at station 3 feel the same way. He was the glue that kept us together. He was so many things to us. Jay was the father figure that kept us in line he was the mother figure that made us do our chores. When you needed someone to talk to he was the big brother, but most of all he was a BIG KID who loved to have fun and that is how I will always remember him. Jay was apart of our family he was our brother. I give my deepest condolences to his family in this hard time
I didn't know Jason personally, but I have made friends with and support the fire fighters of the Manchester Fire Department. They were all more than willing to comply with my request for condolences for the family of a fallen FDNY fire fighter. This is said alot, but Once a fireman. Always a fireman. That's who they are. Ready to help, do anything for their fellow brothers, and put themselves on the line. I know you all loved Jason for who he was to you and were proud of his line of work also. My family and I will be praying for your peace and the healing of all of your memories. I wrote the following poem. Maybe it will be a comfort?
Do not be ashamed to let go
Those feelings struggling to break
Confined in your throat
I understand why you need to cry
When your heart squeezes tightly
With bitter-sweet memories
Please do not feel alone or afraid
For those are the moments
I am with you, right by your side
Just like before
Holding your hand
Laughing with you
Remembering all the times we shared
Know that I am with you always
My life was not measured by
my work, or material possesions
None of those matter
The prominent things in life
Are family, friends, joy, love,
That love is what sustained my
I hope you can fathom the love I feel for you all
At times it might have been hard to
Men are taught not to show emotions that readily
But I tried in my own ways to show you what you meant to me
By helping you around the house, mom and loving you as unconditionally as you love me.
By feeling pride in you my dear brothers at the adults you have become and sharing the memories of our kinship growing up together.
I will always be your brotherly protective, beautiful sister. Thanks for teaching me how to be more kind and patient.
To my nieces and nephews. I loved to play with you and give you things. You brought out the child within me.
To my brothers of Manchester Fire Department. No words can express the joy our commorodity brought to my life. I will continue to look out for you as you looked out for me.
In these ways I was able to
Give you that awkward hug I so wanted to give you.
Tell you I was sorry when I might have hurt you.
Let down my guard and tell you that I love you and how much you mean to me.
Thank you to all of my family and friends for enveloping me within the circle of your love
I will always be with you
And will forever live within your heart.
Our deepest sympathy to all of Jason's family and friends. A brother Firefighter will be missed.
MFD 8th District Co. 2.
The Lord always takes the good ones to early! I could see Jay had firefighting in his blood the first time I met him. We always talked about talking a day off to go diving, and now he will always be there when I hit the water. I feel honored to have known him, and to have called him my friend. We can all feel safe now, because we all have a guardian angle. People say he will be sadly missed. HE ALREADY IS! Words can’t describe how we feel, but I tried. See you later Jay!!!
I only met Jason a few times but he impressed me with his kindness and compassion. I am very glad I got to know him during his all to brief a lifetime. He will certainly be missed.
I was in FFI with Jason and Vanessa. I couldn't believe the news when I heard it. Jason was a sweetheart. He will be sadly missed and fondly thought of. My heart felt symapathy to his family and friends.
With deepest sympathy during your time of mourning.