KILBOURNE, Patricia "Patti"
Patti Kilbourne, 54, of Farmington, beloved spouse of Leonilda DiTomasso, passed away peacefully, surrounded by her family on Saturday, (September 28, 2013) after a brave battle with breast cancer. Patti was born on August 6, 1959 in Wilmington, DE to Thomas and Glendora Kilbourne. She was employed by Cigna for over 30 years. She enjoyed gardening in her berm and watching the humming birds. She also enjoyed spending weeks in the summer at the ocean starting with her grandparents (Mimi and Pop-pop) in Ocean City, NJ and later with many family and friends, especially the Petit sisters in Kitty Hawk, NC and with Leonilda, Alex and Sam in Provincetown, MA. In addition to her lovely spouse Leonilda, Patti is survived by her parents Thomas and Glendora Kilbourne, and her very special dog, Summer. She is survived by three great sisters, Janet Martin (Blake), Amy Kilbourne Fish (Richard), and Wendy Strowhouer (Ted). Also seven terrific nieces and nephews, Christopher Martin (Lexie), Whitney Paschal (Derek), Kelsey Strowhouer, Haley Strowhouer, Kilby Fish, Domenic Fish, and Toby Strowhouer. In addition she is survived by two stepdaughters, Alexandra and Samantha. Patti also leaves a best friend Ann Petit Schoeler. The family extends their sincere gratitude to Dr. Patricia DeFusco and her staff.
A Celebration of Life will be held 10 a.m. Saturday, October 12, 2013, at the United Church of Christ on 134 Flagg Rd., West Hartford. Calling hours will be Friday October 11, 2013, from 6-8 p.m. in the same location. In lieu of flowers please honor Patti's memory by enjoying the outdoors (walking, biking, swimming). Donations can also be made to Farmington Public Library.
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Eight years have passed and I still think of you often. Yet I know you are not alone. You and Ann are together in Heaven....both happy and healthy and enjoying your great friendship forever. Love you and miss you still..Say hi to my sister ! Peace and love to the Kilbourne family.
Ellen Washington
Friend
September 28, 2021
Even though you're going offline with the guestbook, you are always online in our hearts. Love you! Thanks for the laughs!)
Sandra Martinik
September 26, 2014
Patti was just showing me how to look to see if the zucchini was ready in her garden and giving me gardening gloves to dig in the dirt. She knew exactly how she wanted things to be and was always able to tell me exactly what she was thinking. No nonsense. No holding back. What a gift. I struggle so much these days with growing up. Patti taught me how to grow with grace. Sorry those lessons had to end so soon. Love ya Patti. I promise to teach my kids now what you taught me. Just don't take yourself so seriously and enjoy the ride! God will take care of you now.
Jess Anthony
October 10, 2013
Patti is one of the very few best friends I ever had.
Suresh Babu
October 10, 2013
We and our kids would love to talk with Patti while she walked summer...she was a good neighbor to have and always full of life and optimism. She will be missed.
Ken Anthony
October 9, 2013
My thoughts and prayers are with Patti's family.
Paula Felt
October 9, 2013
Leonilda and family,
My prayers are with you during this difficult time. May your joyful memories give you comfort.
God bless,
Kathy Batten
Kathy Batten
October 8, 2013
Oh WOW--I never thought I would be stumbling across the obituaries this weekend,and would be reading Patti's name. I knew Patti from elementary thru high school as a classmate--and a fun one at that. She was a livewire, who was always so upbeat and inclusive of anybody around her. Now I stumble for words in your profound loss. My great memories are but a short span, you have volumes no doubt! I am so glad her life reads as joyful and bouyant as I remember her. Thinking of you all.
Joanne Maher
October 7, 2013
I have fond memories of growing up on Nichols Ave and my time with Patti and the girls. I think some of that black paint is still on my eye from peeking through the fence.
My thoughts are with the entire Kilbourne family and with Leonilda.
With Love,
Erik Paul
Erik Paul
October 6, 2013
Wendy and Family. I am so sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you.
Mindy Birowski (carey)
October 6, 2013
Dear Glen, Tom &family,
I am so sorry to read this obituary. Patti has fought valiantly for so long. I am joyful for her in knowing that she is in Heaven with Jesus.
God give you strength and comfort and great memories to put smiles on your faces and loving feelings in your hearts forever.
Rest in peace Patti.
Randy Huber
Randall Huber
October 6, 2013
Each step I take, will be an implication of a walk, to celebrate my fun memories with Patti.
Anonymous
October 4, 2013
Dear Wendy, Mr. and Mrs. Kilbourne and all the sisters, spouse and nieces /nephews.....I am thinking of you all often and so very sad for your loss - although I only met Patti once when we were in high school, I always felt that I knew her through Wendy. She was a warrior in her battle and I so admire her strength and courage - I am thinking of you all and sending prayers, love and healing to you all - xo Lisa Keller
October 4, 2013
Patti and I met decades ago through her friendship with my sister Ann. To me, she was not just a friend, she was another sister, an extension of my already large family. I am grateful to have known her for so many years. We shared many happy and wonderful memories. I will cherish them forever. My condolences to all those, like me, who were privileged to have known and loved Patti. My life is the better because of her and I will miss her always.
ellen (petit) washington
October 3, 2013
Patti was my sister in law. From the very first time I met her I could tell and knew instantly that she was full of goodness and kindness. She was always cheerful and courageous throughout. Rest in peace gentle soul.
Peter DiTomasso
October 3, 2013
Patti never gave up. I saw her on Sept 20th and she got her fishing pole out of her bedroom and gave a tutorial on fly-fishing. She was looking forward to fishing again. She was a wonderful,kind,patient person. A great lover of nature, birds, and the ocean. I'll always remember her riding the waves at the Outer Banks, fearless and having the time of her life.I remember 4 o'clock on the beach at Kitty Hawk. It was cocktail time, I would have a wine cooler, Patti would have a Corona with lime and she and my sisters and I would watch the pelicans and the sandpipers running from the waves. Or we would just stare at the beauty of the ocean and sky. Those are cherished memories. When I see her in my mind, she is wearing her baseball cap, usually one from Wink's store in Kitty Hawk, N.C. and later her relay cap for cancer. I will miss her tremendously It was a privilege to know her. My deepest sympathy to Nilda and her girls, her parents, sisters and nieces and nephews. I hope you find some comfort in knowing how deeply loved she was. What a special woman she was.
Jane (Petit) Lukowicz
October 2, 2013
I want to express my deepest sympathy in the passing away of Patti. I totally enjoyed the years that I worked with Patti at Cigna. We had a lot of great laughs together and I will miss her a lot.
May the memories you have of Patti keep her alive in your hearts forever.
Rest in peace Patti
Sharon Dudley
October 2, 2013
My Thoughts and prayers are with the family, I know Patti had a loving family and enjoyed seeing them as often as she could in Delaware. She will be sorely missed. I know I will miss her terribly, especially the goofy laugh she had....LOL. May god bless her and keep her safe.
Cathy Scribner
October 2, 2013
Dear Lee,
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Though I only had the pleasure of meeting Patti once, I knew she was a wonderful gal. You and your daughters are in my thoughts during this very sad time. May your memories of happier times spent together help you through the sorrow. xoxo
Sincerely
Rose
Rose Weed
October 1, 2013
We shall miss our dear "7th sister," Patti. Forever in our hearts, with love forever...The Petit Sisters
October 1, 2013
I worked with Patti at Cigna for many years. I will miss her great sense of humor and ability to laugh at everything. May God bless you and your family.
Theresa Shepherd
October 1, 2013
God bless you and your loved ones ~ Rest in peace.
Jane Dowling
October 1, 2013
Dear Leonilda, Sam, Alex and the Kilbourne Family,
Patti was well loved by so many and loved you all dearly. Celebrating her life and all she meant and gave to us by being in our lives is the best way for all of us to honor her.
Love,
Karen, Mart, Emily, Hillary and Abbey
Karen Futoma
October 1, 2013
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