My family is humbled by the outpouring of emotion and thoughts from people who's lives he touched and changed (many from individuals he worked with). Barry lived to work, but not b/c he had to. He wanted to. He was so very passionate about the practice of law that it seemed to us that he sometimes forgot to take a break. We often made fun of how he dressed when he relaxed...his suit jacket, paired with shorts and capped by black socks (pulled up to his shins) and a pair of business shoes.
My father had an incredible intellect and sense of curiosity. He really was the smartest man I ever knew. He was also kind and generous of his time and spirit. He was always there for me. This continued throughout my life. During the latter part of his life and especially when I was older, he also became one of my closest friends. I spoke to him often and shared my successes and failures with him. He never once judged me, but always had something wise and meaningful to say to me.
One of my fondest recent memories was a guy's weekend we spent together in NYC. I introduced him to my NYC. We ate at a hidden restaurant, rode the interactive NY Experience bus, saw Book of Mormon on Broadway, caught a midnight movie and got tattoos (well temporary ones that looked real and sent photos to our wives claiming they were the real thing!) There are so many stories and good times we shared.
B/c of my dad's job, we traveled the world together as a family: Hong Kong, Sydney, London, The Philippines . We saw Haley's Comet, climbed Ayer's Rock, snorkeled the Great Barrier Reef, visited Lennin's tomb (Dad convinced our guide he was the head of the Australian Communist Party), celebrated dad's 60th in Italy. More recently we rented a house in Jamaica and took a cruise as an extended family (all 9 of us), because we simply enjoyed being together. And my mom had the chance to go on even more exotic adventures with him.
It's hard to talk about my Dad without mentioning my Mom. They loved and lived as one. They showed by example how a marriage should be and that finding true love was possible. They had the kind of love that most of us would dream of (married 46 years) — I felt lucky to see this at home.
It was a real joy once I had kids to see my father take to his role as Opa. Taking his grandsons to see the dinos at the Museum Of Natural History, kayaking on the bay in East Hampton (#1 love) or visiting his 2nd favorite place in the world...the bookstore, to share his love of books with my boys.
His legacy is this – the love he gave his friends & family. And I want everyone to know and to remember that this was his greatest gift. I am grateful that Dad showed us what to value in life: that if you put love & friendship in the center of it all — you will have a life that is full and well-lived. I will miss you, but you live on in me and others, pushing us to make the most of our time and the world a better place.