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BENJAMIN DEMPS Obituary

Jan 5, 1934 - Jan 12, 2013 PORT CHARLOTTE, FL Benjamin "Sonny" Demps Jr., of Port Charlotte, FL, died on January 12, 2013, age 79. He was born in Harlem, NY on January 5, 1934, to Benjamin and Hazel Demps and had four sisters. He served in the U.S. Air Force; was an air traffic controller and supervisor at the New York Air Route Traffic Control Center; was Director of the FAA Academy OKC, OK; earned a law degree from Oklahoma City University; was Director of the Mike Monroney Aeronautical Center OKC, OK; served in Brussels, Belgium, as the FAA Director of Europe, Africa and Middle East; as Cabinet Secretary of Health and Human Services and Director of the State of Oklahoma Department of Human Services; and as Superintendent of the Kansas City, MO Public Schools. On May 15, 2002, he married Carolyn Eubanks Bryan, and they moved to Port Charlotte, FL. In retirement, he enjoyed sharing experiences of his diverse background, bragging about his grandchildren, sailing, dancing and traveling with his wife, and listening to music of all varieties. He is survived by his wife, Carolyn; his sisters, Hazel Jordan and Phyllis Mobley; from a previous marriage, daughters, Jacqueline Brown and her husband Rick Brown, Carolyn Demps and her husband Guy Simons; grandchildren, Ricky Brown, Hugo Demps-Simons, Celeste Demps-Simons; stepchildren, Stephen Bryan and Kathleen Bryan; and many loving friends and neighbors.

Published by Oklahoman on Jan. 16, 2013.
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Valenda Newell

November 8, 2016

October 23, 2014

At last. Did Benjamin attend PS 165 on West 109th St. in Manhattan? I was his friend and classmate. He could hit "two sewers" in stickball.
Herbert S. Gardner

Herbert Gardner

March 13, 2014

I was shocked to hear about one of my deceased husband's oldest and dearest friend, Benjamin Demps. Harry Mason and "Sonny" (as they were both called)grew up in Harlem, N.Y. Harry passed on June 15, 2012 age 78. I had often thought if Benjamin knew about his old friend "crossinf over" and that's what prompt me to search for info. about Benjamin I will always have such fond memories of his warm hospitality during our stay with him at his home in Oklahoma,1981.

June 16, 2013

Jesus Christ gave his life for mankind to have everlasting life. All his promises are true.

March 30, 2013

Carolyn,
I only learned of Ben's passing today and immediately looked for some way to reach out to you to let you know that I have prayed for you and your family. I only worked with Ben from a distance when he was Director. He was talented and insightful. Please know of my prayers for you and all of his family.

Howard Hendrick

February 17, 2013

Ben Demps was an unusual management and public servant talent that as a new Governor I was fortunate to discover. We recruited him from his Euorpeon post to return to Oklahoma to run Oklahoma's largest and most complicated agency frought with challenges. He performed this job with good humor and a distinguished aire that had all of us act more professionally when he was around. Pat and his daughters were lovely and brilliant and also became part of our team. What a marvelously varied life that seemed to constantly seek challenge. Thank you Ben for all you did for those in need in Oklahoma. May you rest in peace.

David Walters
Former Governor
Oklahoma

David Walters

February 5, 2013

I remember "Mr. Demps" from my earliest days at ZNY. Will always remember and be grateful for his encouragement. His example guided me throughout my career.

Will Nelson

January 28, 2013

hello daday how ralimno ear doing

kortnee jakes

January 27, 2013

Carolyn, my heart breaks for you. I see him so relaxed and welcoming to Ed and I the day we were at your house in Edmond before you "sailed away". We have enjoyed the cards, e-mails and pictures of you and "Mr. Demps" since you have been in Florida. It was a pleasure to work with him in DHS and more of a pleasure to have known him through my friendship with you. If there is anything Ed and I can do please let me know. Stay in contact. I love you.

Teresa and Ed Simpson

January 25, 2013

I first met Ben Demps at the FAA Academy in the mid 70s. Always a smile. Always a friendly word of encouragement. R. I. P.

Nick Johnson

January 24, 2013

I knew Benny when we both were supervisors at the New York Air Route Traffic Control Center back in the sixties. He was smart, funny, and a please to work with. What a privilege just to have known him way back in the day. I was truly saddened to hear of his passing, but he leaves great memories and a not to be forgotten legacy.

Gene Mattheus

January 22, 2013

I worked at New York Center when Benjamin was there.I as a young controller was motivated by his sense of professionalism and accomplishment. He inspired me seek a higher level and to reach back and help others

ronald bagley

January 22, 2013

Mr. Benjamin Demps was an inspiration to many African Americans in anbd outside of the Federal Aviation Administration. He asked a lot of his employees, expected excellence and was an outstanding example to all he came in contact with. Many of us wanted to be just like him. May God welcome him into his kingdom. Clifford A Armstrong

Clifford Armstrong

January 22, 2013

I was really saddened to hear of Benny's passing. Benny and I shared a lot of things. He was born in Harlem and I was born in East Harlem a few short blocks away from his birthplace. Both in NY Center. Both at the FAA Academy where I was a Instructional Unit Manager. Benny had a tremendous impact on my career. He was very influential in my selection as the Burlington Tower and Approach Control Facility Assistant Manager. I was also assigned by Benny to the select committee to develop the new Air Traffic Control Training program in 1975-76, during a very tumultuous time. If not for Benny's leadership the project would have failed.

I have always had great respect for Benny and his friendship, a true leader and gentleman in the new FAA. We have lost one of the Best of The Best. My sincere condolences to Carolyn and family. May he rest in a well deserved peace with our Lord. God.'s Speed Benny.

George Di Leo

January 21, 2013

Mr. Benjamin Demps was an inspiration to many African-Americans that broke into the FAA in the early 1970's. I was one of them. My faith tells me that God has him cradled in his loving arms.
Kenneth L. Johnson, NYARTCC-1970

Kenneth Johnson

January 21, 2013

In loving memory of Uncle Sonny, I will always love you. I miss you so much. May you rest in peace. Keep on sailing!

Charlene Guinn

January 20, 2013

Ben promoted me to my last job in the FAA as Superintendent of the MTS. He had an excellent mind and a caring heart.

Cleophas Cox

January 20, 2013

In loving memory to Uncle Sonny. My heart is filled with wonderful memories and joyful times. You will be missed and always be in my heart.

Diane Witherspoon

January 20, 2013

Demps family: I pray that your family can have comfort & support from your family, friends& most importantly, God during this difficult time.

Tamera G.

January 19, 2013

Carolyn, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

sue Putman

January 17, 2013

IN LOVING MEMORY TO A WONDERFUL UNCLE. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE LOVED, MISSED AND NEVER FORGOTTEN.

BRENDA JORDAN

January 17, 2013

I am so sorry for your lost. I remember when he became Director, of Mike Monroney Aeronautical Center, it was a proud day! Mr. Demps was an great example of what you can do it you chose to. The world lost a great man!

January 17, 2013

may God bless the the Demps family,and give them peace.....~~~~~

January 17, 2013

To an extraordinary man, friend and fellow sailor who made a difference.
Fair winds to you Ben. You were the best and will forever be missed

Ron Ivey

January 16, 2013

I am an FAA/MMAC retiree. Mr. Demps was truly a remarkable, industrious, resourceful and talented gentleman. He will most surely be remembered and truly missed by all he worked with and especially his family. My prayers are with the family as you go through this great loss. May God Be With You, sustain you and strengthen you.

Vera J. Perkins-Smith

January 16, 2013

A former colleague and truly exceptional man. The world will miss Ben Demps.

Fred Isaac

January 16, 2013

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

C.S.

January 16, 2013

Offering my deepest condolences during this difficult time, I'm so very sorry for your loss, death is something we are never prepared for, but please find comfort in knowing God has promised He will do away with sickness, pain and death for His word is truth.

January 16, 2013

Loranda Williams

January 16, 2013

May the God of all comfort be with your family at this time.

January 16, 2013

I have fought the good fight, I finished the race and I kept the faith. I thank God for all brother's like you.
Rogers, Panama City, Florida

January 16, 2013

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

EG

January 15, 2013

Our prayers are with the Demps Family

I learned about myself and the world from Benny

Dante DeAnus Washington V

January 15, 2013

May the God of comfort be. With the family in their time of sorrow.

January 15, 2013

My sincere condolences to your family for the loss of your dear loved one . At this stressful time in your life you may wonder if you will ever embrace your love again? Jesus Christ himself answers at [John11:11-44 saying "Lazarus come on out." and he did Ruthel C.

January 15, 2013

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Brunson Family

January 15, 2013

My deepest sympathy for the loss of a special person. I worked as an Assistant Superintendent for Mr. Demps in the Kansas City Missouri School District. He was an amazing leader and taught me so much about leadership and life. My condolences to his family. He will be missed! Sweet Sailing, Ben.

Cheri Shannon

January 15, 2013

May the peace of God that excels all thought be with each of the family members.

Glenda Ford

January 15, 2013

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

January 15, 2013

My sincere condolence for the loss of Benjamin your dear loved one. May your fond memories of him comfort you. Peace and love to your family and friends, and to the spirit you show. [email protected]

B Lucas

January 15, 2013

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