We continue to think of Joe and miss Joe and Duke. We also continue to think of Joe's family and know that grief doesn't end. May the tears of your grief be softened by your warm and loving memories.
Dearest Uncle Joe,
I am still in shock that you are gone, as I know so many others are. You are one of the most generous souls I have ever known. I say "are" because I think that your generous spirit is still among, not only those that you loved, but all of those that need you. In life, you were the man that would, quite literally, give someone the shirt off of your back. In death, I believe you are an angel guiding and watching over those who need it the most.
You are so loved and missed. I will never watch a midget football game or little league baseball game without thinking of you... coaching, umpiring. I will never go to an auction and not make the comment that "My Uncle Joe was better". In fact, I remember you so frequently, in so many little ways. Those are the things that fill the heart.
The passing of our family members is so difficult, but it helps to know that we have a pretty amazing cheering section in Heaven. Until we meet again...
With Love Always,
"They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies." - William Penn, Some Fruits of Solutude
I miss the calls from Joe. What a gentle man and so very kind. You are one of a kind and will always be remembered!!
I can't believe it's been one year. I think about you every single day. I love you, dad.
Happy Easter, dad. I love you.
I always called you on April Fools Day and tried to pull one over on you but I was never very successful. You were too smart for me, I guess. Ha ha. I miss you dad.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I love you dad.
Yesterday I would've called you to sing "Let It Snow", our little joke. Today I would've called to say Happy Thanksgiving because no doubt, you'd be at Jerry's having dinner. It's still so strange, my phone not ringing late at night or waking me up early on a non work day. I love you and miss you and today, I'm thankful that God called you home to rest in peace with Him.
I'm Thankful for a lot this year and Peace for all is one of the things. Rest in Peace Joe.
I miss you brother. It was good that it was me that prayed over you. Until we are all together again, Rest In Peace!
My condolences go to the entire Bender family. When I read Joe's obituary, my memories immediately took me back to over thirty years ago when my daughter and I were on the Carlisle Road near Cedar Cliff (and near dark) and had a flat tire in our little yellow Pinto. Joe happened to be in his big truck and saw our distress on a very cold Christmas Eve. It was only minutes before he was changing our tire--in the true meaning of Christmas. What a guy!
Dear Joe. We reconnected as the years went by. I enjoyed our telephone conversations and I met your beloved Duke. The last time we talked you said , "say goodbye to Grandma" and he did. We both had a good laugh. We didn't know it was the last time. My prayers are with you and your family. I pray you'll be one happy guy now, Joe, as you can rest in peace. I'll miss your phone calls.
Love, Mom Robbins
RIP Joe, many great memories of you.
You will be greatly missed by friends and
Family. Sincerely, the Gaumer's
Dear Bender Family
I was so sorry to hear about Joe
He will be missed! My thoughts and prayers are with you all .
With my Deepest Sympathy
Dear Bender Family.....On behalf of the 1967 Cedar Cliff/Red Land High School Class Reunion Committee, our sincerest condolences to you and your family on the loss of Joe. We trust that the love of family, and the support of friends will comfort you during this most difficult time. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
With our Deepest Sympathy,
The Class of 1967
Our Condolenses to the Bender Families; we have all lost a truly exceptional human being with Joe's passing. He will be remembered fondly!
Dear Charlie and Family,
My heart goes out to you in your recent loss, and I shall keep you and yours in my heart and prayers for healing and peace.
To the Bender Family,
Sending our Condolences and deepest sympathy.
Ernie and Lisa Piccolo
Good freinds through many experiences over many years. One of the most caring and giving persons I have known. Being family man to his kids and all his brothers, sisters and their families. I will miss you..
Dearest Bender Family,
Love leaves behind more than death can take away. We hold you all close in our thoughts, hearts, and prayers.
Harry & Annette Ott
Thank you for all the great memories! Working with you this summer was probably the most fun I've ever had while working. We'd talk about how overpriced Starbucks was, then you'd go get coffee and ask if I wanted anything. You'd always ask if I wanted a sandwich, or just food in general. You introduced me to ice cream candy bars and for that I am truly thankful. It's weird to think just last Monday you told me how I became a wiz at the store. It's so hard to believe you're gone. Sunday's at work will never be the same. I miss you and I love you so much! It's so comforting to know you're with Grandma, Grandpa, and Lindsay. Rest easy.
Thanks for being such a great support for Deb and myself. You will be missed.
I cannot believe you are no longer with us:( I know you are in a better place with loved ones, but your presence on Earth will be missed. You were an amazing person, with a huge heart, and great attitude. We had a special bond, and I will always remember our times together. I wish Sophie would have been able to meet you and am grateful she spoke on the phone with you. All my love....
We walk out the back door, expecting to be greeted by Joe and Duke. You never saw one without the other. We will miss Joe, our neighbor and our friend, his stories and his laughter.
Cal and Susan Williams
So sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and you entire family.
To the Bender family--- so sorry to hear about Joe, I considered him a good friend for the years I knew him in New Cumberland. Our sympathies go out to all the family.
Eleanor/ Valdemar (Val)Sarabia
You are one of a kind,
and as kind as they come
Thanks for being "Joe"
Many great memories of Joe and his service to the New Cumberland Jaycees in the 70s and 80s. And oh yes, some great poker games after our meetings!
Joey, I'm going to miss you Brother.. RIP, will never forget you..
What a pleasure it was knowing "Daddy" - the stories abound. My time with him was always enjoyable and I learned much during that time. When he was a guest, he was always the entertainer. His mannerisms, actions and that laugh - I will never forget that laugh. I pray for his entire family and I know he is in Good, Good hands. Rest easy, my friend and look over each of us. Thanks for the memories that make me smile.
Don and family - so sorry for your loss - my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Our deepest sympathies to the entire Bender family. Joe was a wonderful, loving and funny man. He will truly me missed.
Rest in peace Joe. It's comforting to know that you are with your mom, dad and Lindsey. I'll always remember you as the boy who won my heart when we were both so young, the handsome man in his Coast Guard uniform, the jokester that loved to be the life of the party, and the one who drove me crazy while you were practicing to become an auctioneer. Mostly though, I'll remember you as the man who gave me two wonderful children, your greatest accomplishment for sure. My tears are for the ones you left behind, but for you...the best is yet to come.
This doesn't seem real. How can you be here one second and gone the next? I love you very much, I hope you know that. Jerry, Lynn, Kevin and I have been busy making arrangements and clearing the house out. It makes us smile each time we find another Learn To Speak Spanish CD or something you bought from an infomercial. It's also nice finding all the pictures of us and keepsakes around the house. It reminds us how much we meant to you. You will be greatly missed by everyone. And by the way....Duke is in very good hands. I love you, dad.
To Jody and family, I had the pleasure of meeting Joe way back in the summer of 1989 (Jody and I were classmates then and still friends today) and he was one very upstanding gentleman, as are all of his family-most of whom I have met. RIP Mr. Joe Bender and may God comfort all of your loved ones during this time of loss.
Mr. T.J. Murray
So sorry for the sudden loss of Joe. Thinking and praying for your family.
Dennis & Debbie Smeltz
Rest in peace, Joe. It's comforting to know you are with your Mom, Dad and Lindsey. I'll always remember the cute little guy that won my heart when we were so young, the handsome man in his Coast Guard uniform, the jokester who could get everyone laughing, the auctioneer who drove me crazy practicing over and over again. But mostly, I'll remember you as the man who gave me two wonderful children, your best accomplishment in life. My tears now, are for the ones you left behind. For you, I know the best is yet to come. So long Joe......but not good bye.
Goodbye, Joe! You were a good man. The world needs many more like you. I will never forget you.
Joe: Your parting will leave a void in my life, but knowing you have eternal life in Heaven with Mom and Dad gives me peace. I love you. Elaine
Charlie,Bobby,Donnie and the entire Bender Family:Sorry for your loss. Picking out furniture is painful but Joe made it fun.That explains it all. Great guy and he will be missed.
*my dearest uncle, so many things I'll never forget. You coming to my softball games, randomly passing me a 20, and telling me not to tell anyone, then 5 minutes later uncles Charles would do the same thing. :-) .. Your stories, and your laugh. You did a great job helping raise two amazingggg children. God must've needed you, I find comfort knowing there's no PAIN, no sickness, and no heartache in heaven. You had the best of the best welcoming you up there. Rest easy my sweet uncle.