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March 26, 2015
Hi Celia,

When I saw you recently, you seemed sad and I certainly understand....Just
know my heart is with you and so are many, many others. Spencer will always be in our hearts....You are such a powerful person and I consider it a honor to know you.....Stay strong....

With Love,
Fonda
March 26, 2015
Mrs. Seupel ~

It amazing the many lives you have touched. Just wanted to let you know you and Taylor are in my thoughts!
March 25, 2015
Cecilia, I don't know you but I feel that I do because of your sentiments regarding not only your son but the millions of young people in this world that are trying to fit in. I agree with every word that you have written. I hope that I encourage everyone that I come in contact with. I pray for the peace but I love what Spencer stood for and I hated that he did not know how valuable he was. His poor best friend. I hope he will heal through his pain. I hope you will become a speaker to advocate for the Spencer's of this world. We need people with words like yours to help our young adults seek purpose and to know how valuable they are to our living. They have a song out now that when I hear it I cringe. It is entitled, "I Wish that I could be like the cool kids." It goes on to say that because they seem to fit in." How daunting. We all fit in on our own unique way with our own unique gifts. My prayers to you and your family. Love Toni
November 18, 2014
I read this because my mum just died, and I am trying to write her obituary. This was what came up when I googled great obituaries, but I wanted you to know that I read it through again and again because of the honesty and beauty of your story, and my own experience with a highly sensitive child/teen/adult who I wonder if she can survive with such a tender heart in the hard world. Thank you for writing your son's story, for putting it out into the world for us to recognize. What a mother. What a son.
October 28, 2014
What a beautiful writing for your son.
For all of us that read it. I am so sorry for your loss.
Peace be with you.
September 02, 2014
Dear Celia,
We are so blessed and fortunate to have you sharing Spencer's obituary with us. It is beautiful and captures so incredibly well the essence of human relationships, why we exist and what we seek and so much of what we can do better. My daughter will head to college next fall and I will ask her to read Spencer's story... may it some day help her to help someone else.
Nicky
August 01, 2014
Mrs. Seupel,

Each day is a blessing from God. Even though you have suffered heartbreaking losses, your wisdom and honesty are truly both courageous and enlightening.

It is my prayer that your son's troubling story will somehow reach out to others and deter them from taking their own lives. Each life is so precious and sacred. I know, just from reading your powerful words, that Spencer filled your heart with joy and love In his young life.

May God continue to be with you as you cope with the losses you have endured. I pray that the memories of happier and more promising times bring comfort and healing to your spirit.

Thank you for sharing such a heartbreaking story of unconditional love and the feverent hope for successfully reaching out to those who need to find strength and hope in their struggles. You are truly a remarkable woman with a mother's courageous and enduring heart.
July 31, 2014
March 13, 2014
Celia: There are no words that can express the utmost devastation I felt upon reading not only Spencer's Obit tonight, but HD's. A few years ago I tried to reach out to you and Herb in High Falls and had actually tried to book a weekend thru some site, unfortunately never receiving a response. And then life went on. For some reason this past week I was thinking about all the many important people in my life and, of course, HD came to mind, so tonight I tried again to see if you or HD had a FB account or some other way to connect and found the obits. OMG, my heart goes out to you and Taylor. I am writing this through a vale of tears and so at a loss for words. Their legacies showcased in your brilliant writing touched me profoundly and will forever be ingrained on my heart. I am far away living in Thailand near one of my sons, but if you would ever like to reach out to me, please do so b.fitzsenry@gmail.com or on Facebook under barbara.fitzsenry.9 I so hope you receive this and know you will understand what I am feeling and how sincerely I needed to let you know if I can ever help you and Taylor in any way, I would never hesitate.
August 04, 2013
thank you for your honesty.
May 11, 2013
Dear Ms. Seupel,
I just finished reading your essay published in the NY Times dated 4/10/12. My deepest and heartfelt condolences to you and family on the loss of a cherished son, grandson and brother. I read the beautiful web site that you created in his memory. I am so sorry for your loss; I am at a loss for words. Those whose lives were touched by Spencer were truly blessed to have known him.
April 12, 2013
Dear Ms. Seupel, A post on Onward State published on 4/12/13 brought me to this page. I am incredibly moved by your posting, and wanted to thank you for sharing Spencer's story. I am so , so sorry you lost your son. You are a remarkably strong mother and woman for writing this and sharing Spencer's story with friends, classmates and the online community. I am thinking and praying for your family, as I know that while time may ease the pain, it will never erase it. I hope peace and love are with you and your family today.
January 24, 2013
Dear Celia,

Thank you for calling attention to suicide in the USA. My father took his own life over 8 years ago, when I was a freshman in college. My method of dealing has been to just thrust this event from my mind. Recently, I have come to accept that I will never be healthy if I don't turn around and deal with some of this stuff.

My father was a joyful person, and full of love. How his delight in life turned into such a deep depression frightens me very much, especially since these 8 years have brought me no answers.

I do agree that American culture is becoming diluted with sensationalism that amounts to very little of spiritual value. I am reluctant to impose on people who don't see anything wrong with a shallow way of being, but I think I am prepared to work with people who feel similarly. And I hope to work towards being able to open up to others such that I may help them the way you have helped me.

I want to thank you for being so brave and volunteering your experience, and opening up a very personal chapter in your life to help others continue the dialogue around this sensitive phenomenon that afflicts people when they least expect it.

Because of your piece on Spencer, and the website you set up in his memory, I feel just a little bit less defensive in terms of protecting my father's dignity and the memory he left behind.

Thank you.
January 24, 2013
Dear Ms. Seupel,

Your piece on your son and mother in the Times somehow appeared in my "recommended" reading today, more than nine months after you published it. This is more than a bit strange, because a beautiful friend of mine who was also a amazing work colleague took his own life a little over a month ago, quite suddenly and unexpectedly. He was 24. Finding your piece must have been some sort of serendipity, because I haven't been able to process his death yet. Perhaps in part because it was so unexpected. It just doesn't like he could be possibly gone. I haven't even managed to cry.

After reading your beautiful piece, which led me to your poignant, heartbreaking site in memory of him, I'm crying now. Thank you.
December 09, 2012
I saw your article about losing your son and finding your mother to be a moving tribute to both of them. This led me to search for Spencer's obituary, which I have just read. You described him so well as well as reminding us that our role as adults is to lead and understand our young people, with the goal of supporting and helping them. Thank you for your words. I hope they help you process some of the pain of your very sad loss. Spencer's death is a loss to all of us.
December 07, 2012
I came across your blog and found this online obituary on Spencer. The obituary is beautiful, and Spencer sounds like an amazing person. This touched me deeply. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the spirit of Spencer's love and compassion, and yours as well, through your profound words.
October 25, 2012
Mrs. Seupel,
I am the Jenny who just sent you a message on October 23. Looking it over now, I realize that my brain was moving much faster than my fingers.
Your son's suicide is indeed a heartbreaking and cautionary tale for all of us who are blessed to have children. It is a reminder that we must love our children unconditionally and help them to see and value their inner beauty, their uniqueness.
Your heart is broken, your life will never be the same. Yet, despite this profound grief, your words are powerful and poignant.
I pray that your words will reach out and help those who so desperately need it.
God bless you and your family.
October 24, 2012
Mrs. Seupel,
I found Spencer's incredibly poignant and heartbreaking obituary online this evening. Mere words cannot adequately express the profound suffering you and your loved ones must feel about the death of your precious child.
I have children myself, and I fervently hope and pray that they will be able to appreciate and accept what makes them each so wonderfully special.
It is indeed a tragedy when we (as adults) fail to look at others mot with the eyes, but with the heart.
Your incredible honesty about who Spencer was and those devastating last all-too-sudden moments of his life are both startling and shocking.
I can only hope and pray that these final, beautiful words,written as a loving tribute to Spencer, and the comfort and lasting support of family and
friend, will bring you and those left behind.

God be with you and your family: now and in those very difficult days to come.
October 21, 2012
I read your New York Times article again tonight, the second time I have stumbled upon it. It is an overwhelmingly heartbreaking, poignant description of dementia and loss. My heart aches for you and your family. I emailed the article for my 23-year-old daughter, in the hope that perhaps, someday, it may be of value to her,or someone she knows. The young so need to know that it gets better, that you can live through this.
August 08, 2012
I was very touched by Spencer's story, and I am grateful to you for sharing it, and for reaching for something good in the midst of something so horrible.
July 10, 2012
My son committed suicide several weeks ago, and somehow as I was searching the internet for help with this tragedy, Spencer's obituary came up. I want to extend my sincerest condolences to you and your family, my heart breaks for you. If you are able to contact me, please do so.
May 31, 2012
I've read & reread your obituary. If it achieves a fraction of its potential,then the tragedy will not have been in vain.
Meyer Cohen
May 17, 2012
My deepest condolences to you and your family. In 1968 I lost a friend the same way. In an alcohol daze he got furious and felt helpless and committed suicide.
Words are not enough. My heart goes out to you. Life is so unfair.
Thank you for sharing this tragic situation.

Lotta Asp Andersson
May 14, 2012
I find myself rereading your entry. Tonight, I reread becuase my son was trying to explain how frustrated he gets with others when they don't understand him. I appreciate your sincerity and generosity to share your heart with all of us.
April 18, 2012
I am so sorry for your unimaginable loss. Thank you for sharing and reminding us how valuable and priceless our children are.
April 18, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son at 19 to suicide and I believe he got caught up with what alcohol did to him as well. Spencer sounds like he was a wonderful young man as I am sure he was. God Bless you and your family. If there is anything I can do please don't hesitate to connect with me. Please feel free to e-mail me at thejdfoundation@yahoo.com.
April 18, 2012
I did not know your son but I feel your pain and understand what you are going through. On Feb 29 of this year my son was in a car accident and then shot himself. He graduated from Lock Haven University, he was bullied as a teen, and he was self medicating with alcohol. I too feel as though part of me died with Chris and my heart is broken. my deepest sympathy to you and your family. I hope you will find peace and strength.
April 17, 2012
Celia,
I am so sorry for your loss. Spencer was a lucky boy to have a mother like you. Your insightful and wise words, both in the New York Times article and the tribute to Spencer are so valuable to everyone, escpecially those of us navigating the same path with our sons. I will send this article to the Junior High in my town for the "drug education teacher". The risks of binge drinking should be talked about more frankly and frequently. Thank you for your writing. Have you thought about writng a blog? My heart is heavy, heavy, heavy for your family.
April 16, 2012
i remember his dancing so well and how sad i was to see him stop--- i would like to know what years he was with me so i could find some video of his dancing for you..
April 15, 2012
thank you so much for the words you wrote about Spencer and his death. My darling Ali died on January 20th this year. I just sent this to our friends and family hoping it will also help them:

There is one thing in particular that Ali's close friends and I have been struggling to reconcile since her death.  Specifically, we all sincerely believe that her death was an accident.  But, to be blunt, how does someone accidentally hang themselves???   Still - we all know that Ali did NOT want to die.  Suicide was, and still is, completely inconsistent  with our experience of her.  She had plans for and was excited about the future.  She had just moved into a beautiful apartment with her childhood best friends.  She had just told Coral she was excited about eating some yummy leftovers for lunch the next day.  She was happy!  How could someone who lit up the room when she walked into it willingly extinguish that light?  

The attached article helped me get at least a partial answer to my question... ALCOHOL... "seductive, deadly alcohol. The drug that brings down the walls and helps us feel close – as long as we're drunk. The drug that circles back and rakes out your heart... The drunken impulse in a moment of despair that can never be taken back."  

That last sentence says it all for me.... THE DRUNKEN IMPULSE OF A MOMENT OF DESPAIR THAT CAN NEVER BE TAKEN BACK.  Of course, the end result is the same - she is gone.  I hope this is helpful to those who were close to Ali.  It does give me a bit of closure and helps me make at least a  little sense out of such a senseless loss.
April 15, 2012
My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my son Scott to suicide in September 2011, who was a freshman at RPI. Reading about your son Spencer brought back so many memories. I am so sorry.
April 14, 2012
God bless all of you. I teach freshman seminar at PSU, and I will be sure to share this article with them. Thank you!
April 13, 2012
Thank you. A dear friend, who lost her teenage son to suicide, shared this via FB. I teach and work with teens and am posting this to every one of them. Thanks to your bravery and desire to make a difference, Spencer IS helping others and his story, shared by you, is likely saving lives. Much love - Jessica, PA.
April 13, 2012
My daughter and her roommate were in the same honors organic chemistry class last semester with your son. They had nothing but nice things to say about Spencer.

We are all sadden by your loss and are all poorer for his passing.

Thank you for your strength and God bless you with His comfort and peace.
April 13, 2012
I just read "Blackberry". Spencer has given this stranger a great gift. Julia in Maine
April 13, 2012
Spencer sounds like a beautiful person. Unfortunately I have known 3 people this year who decided life was not worth living. The comparison is none to losing a son. But I wish there was something that could be done to help those who suffer with depression of all kinds. My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
April 13, 2012
I did not know your son, Spencer. I heard about his story through a Facebook post made by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. After reading this, however, I feel as though I know him and feel the need to say that this is the most beautiful memorial I have ever read. I lost my boyfriend to suicide when we were 19... nearly 11 years ago. He was an alcoholic who also battled drug addiction. He always assured me he would never do such a thing. And I always feel like I could have done something more to help him. Just as I will never forget my loss, I will never forget your son, and the many other young people who have chosen to leave us too soon. My heart truly breaks for you, but I hope you can find some solace in knowing how many people his life and story have touched and that he will live forever in your hearts.
April 13, 2012
Bless you.
April 13, 2012
My son, too, has taken his life. He was an alcoholic and could no longer make rational decisions. Constantly I miss him and grieve his loss.
Judy Moore, State College, PA
April 13, 2012
As a mother and an aunt I have witnessed for myself the terrible cost of alcohol and drug abuse among our young people, especially our college students. My heart goes out to you and to Spencer. Your words will certainly help others awaken to the tragedy that is unfolding in our society, the senseless deaths of these beautiful young people. May you find peace and always feel the love and presence of your son.
April 13, 2012
I too lost my son to suicide. Though he was older than yours, contributing causes were much the same: low self esteem, a (too) tender heart,
depression & alcohol. Arlene
April 12, 2012
I do not know you but was so touched by your heart-wrenching tribute to your son. I mourn with you.
Miriam C (MD)
April 12, 2012
I don't know you. This incredible tribute and sad commentary on our society is making it's way around Facebook. What you say is 100% true. I have three sons myself, the oldest of whom is 13. I worry about his inner self every day. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. As a mother I can only begin to imagine your pain. That you had the strength and fortitude to write something so incredibly powerful and true at such a time is an inspiration. Wishing you, and everyone who loved this incredible boy, peace--where ever you may find it, but particularly in the memories of this wonderful child.
April 11, 2012
Tender thoughts to Spencer's memory and to you, his loved ones.

I'm a stranger to you, from Canada, but after reading Celia's open-hearted words in the New York Times, I appreciate this opportunity to reach out across the ether.

Let me be one to thank you for sharing your family pain, to lift the silence from the tragedy of suicide.

May Spencer continue to touch lives...
with peace,
Shani
April 11, 2012
As a mother, grandmother, and former teacher, I feel your love and sincerity of the appeal in your articles. I empathize with your loss, and greatly appreciate your sharing it, rather than being silent.

Peace, Diane Low, CA
April 11, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss but I thank you for your honesty. We will share your son's story over and over and hope that it saves lives.
April 11, 2012
there's not a day that goes by that you are not thought of my dear friend.
April 11, 2012
Dear Celia,
Thank you for your moving article in the New York Times Science section this Tuesday. I teach the Crisis Intervention course at Cabrini College. I have printed out your powerful obituary and will distribute it to my students tomorrow. May Spenser's life be for a blessing and may his death summon us to act and not stand idly by.
Thank you, Deborah D, Shain, LCSW, BCD
April 11, 2012
Celia,
I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words to express your grief. I lost my 30 year old son to suicide 6 years ago. I know just what you are going through. My son was an alcoholic and suffered from depression. I'm still grieving. In "complicated" grief as they say.It's something that you never get over. May God bless you with strength and courage during this horrible time. Love to your family as well. Lynda
April 11, 2012
I lost my son-in-law last month. Thanks for you story. I hope writing helps ease your pain and sheds enough light so others may have a deeper understanding of self worth....Lesley Dowden, Vegas
April 11, 2012
To Spencer's mom. My brother at 24 took his own life. He was also in college at the time and also very drunk. I had spoken to him on his birthday a week before and he was upbeat and seemed fine. He had a disagreement with a friend, went home and in front of his roomate took a gun and shot himself in the head. No second chances there. I still miss him and that was in 1980.My heart goes out to you.
April 11, 2012
I did not know your Spencer, but I feel you pain acutely... thank you for so thoroughly sharing his story, maybe it will be heard and read by the correct people to effect a change!
April 11, 2012
So sorry for your loss. May your beautiful tribute serve to save others the pain you are feeling.
April 11, 2012
Celia, thank you for taking the time to share this in the midst of your pain. I echo your ideas and your hopes which you have expressed so well. Your son could easily be one of my own sons, moving through the strange land of young adulthood, and I wish I could give you a hug. You will be in my thoughts.
April 11, 2012
SILENCE
Touch your soul
GRIEF
Wash your heart with tears
PRAY
Release the burden
BE STILL
know that HE IS GOD

May your family find comfort in Jesus.
April 11, 2012
Celia, I am so very sorry for your tragic loss.
April 11, 2012
Your heart breaking story will save someone's life, somewhere. A good friend's son took his own life by hanging himself. It was a long time ago and she has not forgotten. But, she can now smile, laugh and enjoy life. I'm sorry for your loss.
April 11, 2012
Remember him as all mothers see their children: happy dancing as a two year old, without a care in the world. As the mother of a two year old who loves to dance, it makes me cry to think that one day such happiness could turn into sadness so deep that suicide seemed like the only option. Without our children, life is bleak and full of pain.
April 10, 2012
Thank you for having the courage to share your loss and pain so that hopefully others will learn and help prevent other lives from ending too soon.
Aloha,
A mother
April 10, 2012
Dear Celia,
Thank you for sharing this. You have heart-breaking story; this could be my own son. In truth, this could be any number of boys I know. EMT, Eagle, med school, internships, college. Such promise. Such a loss. Thank you for the strength to write.
April 10, 2012
My heart is with you; my mother, who was born in Poughkeepsie in 1927, took her own life in a drunken binge in 1975. I was 17. I miss her still. Thank you for sharing Spencer's experience, and your profound insight. It will most certainly bring a higher quality to many people's lives.
April 10, 2012
I read this day your account of your son's death. I was touched and send my condolences. Bert Z.
April 10, 2012
Dear Celia, my heart goes out to you and your family. I thank you for your courage and honesty and the deep love that shines through your words.
Love, Metta Soligard (England)
April 10, 2012
I am so so sorry for your loss; what an inspiring, and gut wrenching message you give us. Thank-you for reminding me of the challenge that the greater good is to help others and not to always be right. May you find peace at some point.
April 10, 2012
Dear Celia,

What eloquent, heart-breaking words. I hear you, and I will always think of Spencer and you when I see another person in need. Here are some words from the Hidden Words of Baha'u'llah that I hope will bring some comfort:

O SON OF MAN!
Thou art My dominion and My dominion perisheth not; wherefore fearest thou thy perishing? Thou art My light and My light shall never be extinguished; why dost thou dread extinction? Thou art My glory and My glory fadeth not; thou art My robe and My robe shall never be outworn. Abide then in thy love for Me, that thou mayest find Me in the realm of glory.

Much love,
Zoe Losada
April 10, 2012
I came to this website because of the story in the NYTimes. I am grateful to this courageous and loving mother for her mindful words to all of us, the people Spencer leaves behind. We are faced with tremendous challenges in the years ahead; privacy is becoming a thing of the past which puts human intimacy at risk. Our laws are becoming ever more draconian and the water is rising. The state of the world is pretty depressing. How will today's children handle that? How will they learn to hear cries for help when so much of their lives take place on a virtual plane? I don't know but I do know that when a woman can voice a call to recognize and value human frailty in the face of such horrendous loss, there is hope for all of us. Thank you Celia. And to your mother.
April 10, 2012
Celia, my heart is with you. I'm also a CU j-school alum. To write with such honesty and clarity in the midst of heartbreaking chaos is a gift to readers, to yourself as you begin to heal, and, most of all, to Spencer.
April 10, 2012
This is the saddest story. Today's New York Times has an essay written by Celia Watson Seupel about her beloved son and the effect his loss has had on her own mother struggling with moderate dementia. Pray for this family who is enduring unimaginable grief that is unrelenting and seemingly boundless...
April 09, 2012
My heart breaks for you and your family. I know his memory is a blessing. May you find comfort and strength and courage to go on.
April 09, 2012
Celia, my heart breaks for you. I can't imagine what you're going through. You show such enormous understanding, compassion, and love for Spencer and for all young people who are under such pressure--”I really do believe that your words already have inspired others to step outside themselves, be aware, and do whatever they can to protect the vulnerable lives of the people they love and know.
April 09, 2012
I am so sorry about the loss of your son. I pray for everyone in this horrible tragedy. I can only imagine how his friend must feel. It's sad all around. I will do my part to spread the word.. binge drinking is unhealthy for more than one reason. Maybe other young people will learn from this sad sad sad story. Just know that Spencer's life will not be in vain. A lot of people will learn from this and if god willing, it will save someone else's life.
April 09, 2012
My husband is going through the same exact thing I don't feel like a mother not being able to provide.im here at home takmg care of the house and my babies. He's gone all day till 6pm.we struggle Im scared of life Ive been called weird while just being myself way to many times. I believe it. Miss the only person "my husband" that understands me everyday. He sees what a good hearted helping giving person I am. I cry all the time at ugly. The good hearted always get the bashing when we try our hardest to make it all right in our best wr think as know how.
April 09, 2012
I just saw a post online made by Celia Watson Seupel which touched me. I am exactly 3 days older than Spencer would have been now, which brings it that much closer. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you find enough strength to keep going! RIP Spencer Watson Seupel.
April 09, 2012
Words can have many effects but I hope these have the deepest affect: your colleagues at Stern NYU embrace you with our love and sympathy.
March 29, 2012
lost my baby sister last aug 5, only 23 yrs, so beautiful and drug&alcohol free,absolutely devastated me,as her big brother I feel your loss and pain! I pray for your family! keep heart strong that he is an angel with my sister
March 27, 2012
I lost my mom in January.it is the worst pain in the world losing a loved one. I lost a baby 3 years ago and I feel my world is empty and shattered. Sorry for your loss rip Spencer.
March 21, 2012
Seupel family:
You have my deepest sympathy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
March 20, 2012
My prayers go out to you. I know exactly how you feel. My son took his own life at the age of 37 on June 27th of last year. Part of me has died along with him,so I feel for you. I hope you have a strong faith to get you through the pain. From the bottom of my heart I am so sorry.
March 20, 2012
to be able to compose this letter shows what a genuinely caring person you are.Spencer must have loved you very much. My heart hurts for you--know you are in my prayers. Roseann Secchia
March 17, 2012
I never lost a child ,but may god be with you and you're family
March 17, 2012
Peace Be with you and yours today and forever more.
March 16, 2012
Your are a very brave family. So so so sorry for your loss. My family went through the same thing last summer. While on vacation, my 15 year old daughter took her life. It was a complete shock, it still is. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
March 15, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story. As a mother I am so sorry for your loss. I too can relate to the bullying and it's a shame that these things aren't being taught in some homes and because of that some of our children are committing suicide. I pray that your son is at peace and that God gives you the peace and strength to carry on. God bless.
March 13, 2012
Thank you for sharing this story-I did not know Spencer-But I also lost a son to sucide-my heart breaks for you and your Family-But most of all --Spencer-May he find the peace where he has gone to-that he never could here on earth
May you all find peace within your hearts- and know-some times there are no answers- as to why---or If only I had ???there is just a hole where we have lost a loved one
Bless you all
Sincerly
Maggie
March 12, 2012
Thank you for sharing Spencer's story. Today I will use some parts of this story in counseling my son and daughter in law, who are having great struggles in their strive for perfection and have lost sight of the tenderness of life. Spencer, through this story is still affecting others' lives. I, too have lost a child, and I am grieving with you, but know that Spencer will always be hovering over your shoulder and you will know that he is with you in many ways...still sharing his love. Linda
March 11, 2012
Your tribute reminds me to reach out and be kind to all.
Sometimes it's small things that can make a difference. My prayers go out to you and your family. Ecarson, Kerhonkson, NY
March 07, 2012
I am truly sorry for your loss RIP Spencer
March 05, 2012
I'm so very sorry for the loss pf Spencer. We live in a culture where too few kids are feeling special in the world. I wish we could protect them all from these heartbreaking endings. Your in my thoughts and prayers
March 05, 2012
I am truly sorry for your loss. I to can relate to that. I myself did the drugs and alcohol thing. I'm one of those kids. God touched me one night at a bar drunk and high from
alot of different kinds of popping pills had it not been for that i'm sure that i would have done the same. God bless you and your family.
March 04, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. May Spencer rest in peace and you find comfort in knowing that he is.My thoughts and prayers are with Spencer and your family.~God Bless~
March 04, 2012
You and our family will remain in my thoughts and prayers and in my heart! I am the proud mother of 3 and the proud grandmother of 3 also and words cannot express the pain I feel for you! I read your story and agree with you 100%, we as human beings should watch out for one another, be kind and build each other up so that no more children will feel pain deep enough to end their lives. May God bless you and your family.
March 03, 2012
As the mother of a 15 year old boy, my only child, I find this heartwrenching. I will take your advice as I find your courage, in spite of tragedy a motivation for all of us to take a better look at our children and recognize the signs and symptoms. Your son has an incredible mother. I hope you can find comfort in that. You are and were an absolute foundation for your young man. Don't ever forget that. And pour all of what is left into your surviving child. We will not forget. My prayers are with you. B.
March 03, 2012
Beautiful words that touched my heart, and so true. My D too, a 21 yr old college student, trying to make her own way in a very impersonal, large collective society. All you want to do is hold them close and be protective. God bless you and your family. I will hold Spencer and your family close in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing your grief and pain with me that I may be more aware.
March 03, 2012
so very sorry for your terrible loss, your son sounds like a beautiful spirit who blest your lives for far too short a time. I pray the love you shared sustains you. God bless
March 02, 2012
I am truly sorry for your lose but may your words be heard by many. Spencer is truly lucky to have a mother like you as you to have a son, like him. My tjpughts are with you and your family.
March 02, 2012
You should never hide your problems. Thank you for sharing your lose with all, of us. May your son and your family always find peace.
March 02, 2012
March 01, 2012
WOW- what a beautiful tribute to your son.No i did not know him but it interested me because he was so young but YOU were so honest!!! Thank you for seeing and speaking the truth about depression and the hidden walls. I am so sorry for you as a parent to have to absorb all this sadness but your openness is just so impowering. I am sure ( 100%) that he will ALWAYS be with you in spirit and you will feel that always. I have always felt that sadness you speak of and i understand the impulses. over the years I have known many to choose this sad way out - I am truely sorry for your loss- you sound like an awesome mom!!!
March 01, 2012
Your son and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, today, tomorrow, and everyday.
March 01, 2012
I am a 40 something year old mother from Poughkeepsie.. my son is 6.. but I already fear....life with a teenage son.. I am so scared of college....I am glad you were proud enough to share his intimate death.. many times a obituary just says...died at home.. and I know everyone has a right to be private... but this has made me even more aware.. my son has adhd.. and I have to really watch if he fells special... by his parents and his close friends... as he grows older... I did not read your obituary by way of the actual paper, I read it through the social media.. facebook.. maybe find facebook to be a culprit to bullying.. but in my age.. it's used.. only for information.. and I am going to share this story with other mothers.... and maybe they will read it to their older sons or daughters... I have had depression.. and I know my mother and father loved me.. but I also crave that closeness...I am so sorry for your loss... Cecilia....from one mother to another.
March 01, 2012
You have written such amazing words that have touched me deeply. I do not know you or your wonderful son personally but my heart aches for your loss. Your very sad story speaks to so many things I have thought about many, many times. I think about the society my children are growing up in just about every single day and it is extremely unsettling. Thank you for what you have written and I hope that many people read it and think about ways to be kinder to one another. I will always remember your story and think about Spencer. From one son's mother to another...sending you strength and love.
March 01, 2012
i am so very deeply sorry for your loss. Spencers story touched my soul as i too have a son in college and not a day goes by when i do not worry about his well being. you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
March 01, 2012
My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. I didn't no your son and that's a very beautiful obituary. He's touched so many hearts in so many ways I so wish that you find peace and happiness from all the great blessings that your son has inspired on himself. I too hope that others learn from this and the mistakes that will happen from the bad choices they make. Your Son Is A Great Example To Everyone Around Him Feeling So Happy Inside Of Himself On His Great Accomplishments In Life Wanting To Help Everyone Around Him!
February 29, 2012
Celia, a memorial to your son,

We thought of you today
But that is nothing new
We thought of you yesterday
And will tomorrow too
We think of you in silence
And make no outward show
For what it meant to lose you
Only those who love you know
Remembering you is easy
We do it everyday
It is the heartache of losing you
That will never go away.
Annonymous

My deepest and sincere condolences on the loss of your son. May God's love guide you during this time of sorrow, and may you find solace in His care.
Love and blessings.
Sheila Murray, Somers, NY
February 29, 2012
Celia, my condolences. Spencer was a special person as are you. If everyone reading the story of your son can become the type of change agent that you describe more people in this world would feel appreciated, valued and honored while realizing that who they are is more than good enough. May god bless you and your family. Let's all remember Spencer and not allow your dream of a better society or your son's legacy to die.
February 29, 2012
I was very much shocked by the news, having known both of the boys. My deepest sympathies go out to the Seupel family during this time.
February 29, 2012
I did not know your son, but that was a beautiful obituary. My heart breaks for you and your family, and truly so, this could be anyone's child. I am so sorry for your loss, and can't imagine what you are going through. blessings to you.
February 29, 2012
Your son was a wonderful young man. The pain you feel is unimaginable to me. You love him, you understand him. I am so very sorry, not only for Spencers family, but the people he would have saved, the people he would have loved. He has made a mark in the world, through you, through your honesty, love and courage. I believe his memory and his name will be remembered for a very long time.
February 29, 2012
i did not know your son butis must have be a great guy we send our deepest sympathy to you and your family arthur and judy
February 28, 2012
I did not know Spencer , but I read his beautiful obituary . My heart goes out to you as a mother and now as a grandmother, and I want to send my deepest sympathy to you and your family. Our childrens' lives are so precious and we have them for such a short time , if we could hold them all close and protect them forever we would , but of course, we can not. If we could figure out the best way to instill self confidence and good feelings about one's self and we might be able fight the predjudes of society and would have a much kinder world. It is hard to understand how we each individually need the same thing, love and acceptance, but it becomes the feelings to hid when we become part of a group.
God be with you during this difficult time. Sincerely, Deb B.
February 28, 2012
Prayers are with Spencer, your loss has to be unbearable. Prayers are with your family, thank you for your words on your beautiful Son. As a Mom, when we see our children hurting, we hurt. I have always wished that we could "pick" them up and move them a few years into the future to avoid the permanent solution to temporary problems. May God Bless you all and hold Spencer in his loving arms.
Jean Gallagher, Springfield, Pa.
February 28, 2012
Dear Celia,
We send our condolences to you, Hd, Taylor and Genie. We remember the time you and the boys came up to Lake Taghkanic for the day and went kayaking. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. God bless.
February 28, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story as well as the beautiful memories of your son. It has given me great insight as a mother and I will take the information you have so graciously shared very seriously. Thank you and may God bless you and your family. Sincerely, Lisa Paquette(Windsor, ON, Canada)
February 28, 2012
Simply put, thank you. May God help you and your family find a place of peace after the loss of your son. May your message be carried on the four winds to a world needing to hear it. May you know that through your pain you have touched so many.
February 28, 2012
Tthank you for sharing this touching story. May your family find peace in knowing that you will help others by sharing.
February 28, 2012
Thank you for sharing such a strong message in your time of grief...I pray this guides many to be a helping hand to those in distress.
February 28, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. May God be with you and your family during this difficult time. God bless
February 28, 2012
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
February 28, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest sympathy. I work as a Resident Adviser at the college I study at and I ave posted your words outside my door. My residents have read the article and taken your words to heart. Thank you for them. You and your family are in our prayers.
February 28, 2012
Far too close to home. I lost my son as well and though alcohol was not a factor, the description of your son sounds very familiar. I'm sorry for the loss of such a precious soul and I know the pain you are going through. For all the words said here the ones that were said to me at my sons service by a good friend that held the most truth. .." There are no words...I feel for you"...

Blessings

Vaughn A MacPhail
February 28, 2012
thank you for your gift of grace.........
February 28, 2012
As an achiever at this society I can not but agree with every word you wrote, I am like a lot of the people around me went through this phase struggling to be accepted in this society.
I truly believe that we all are loosing our human side to be greedy and self centered and people need to work hard on being more accepting and permissive to the growth of the young generation.
February 28, 2012
Thank you so much for this. My deepest sympathy goes out to you all. I am 27 years old and a recovering alcoholic. I had issues inside myself that caused it. If more people were like you and put the awareness out there the world could and would be a better place. THANK YOU!
February 28, 2012
I am very sorry for the loss of your precious son Spencer. Thank you for the wonderful remembrances that you shared and for providing thoughtful insight into opportunities for change in our society to address a often silent epidemic. Bless you and your family.
February 28, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. People Spencers age are so fragile as they strive for acceptance from those around them.
February 28, 2012
My deepest sympathies to you, the Seupel family and friends of Spencer. You so eloquently speak the truth regarding college binge drinking that continues to be a behavioral trend. Change cannot be left to institutions, universities, or governmental agencies but can begin with each of us having the courage to be the change we so desire. Thank you for sharing this important message in the midst of your profound loss.
February 28, 2012
As the father of two college age young men I can only pray that I never have to feel the pain you have. My God bless you and your family.
February 28, 2012
Thank you for your words.
February 28, 2012
I really do feel your pain deeply my son did the same as yours he took his life 2 years ago on feb 24 may god help ease your pain I know how hard it can be trully.
February 28, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss.

As someone who struggled with suicidal thoughts as a teen because I never felt good enough, these stories hit me particularly hard. I always tear up. I don't know what kept me here, but something did long enough to find a little value in myself.

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I hope he rests in peace. I'm not particularly religious, but I hope somewhere you two will be reunited again.
February 28, 2012
I am so sorry for the loss of your Spencer. Thank you so much for sharing his story. I wish I could have been as brave when this happened to me 22 months ago. Everything you said is exactly right and so well spoken. I pray for Spencer and you and hope against hope that things will change. God Bless.
February 28, 2012
Beautifully written! I loved when you said "How would your day be if instead of trying to be right you were trying to help?"..so true..may your son RIP...Amen.
February 28, 2012
It takes incredible courage to write about your son as you have, with such transparency and grace. Thank you for baring your heart so that others can learn from Spencer's life. He sounds like he was an incredible young man, one that any parent would be proud of! I'm praying for grace and strength as you, your family, and friends grieve for a beloved son, grandson, brother, and friend ... and that peace and joy would live in your hearts as you reflect on Spencer's life. Many will be touched by his life and your family's story, and lives will be saved.
February 27, 2012
Im sorry for your Loss Mrs Seupel I agree..Alcohol or drugs should not be used as a way to find comfort , or fun for college folks because of the tricks it plays on your brain and body. For some folks its tolerable but for others it can cause depresssion, addiction , wrecklessness and desease. Becareful who you give a drink or drug to! RIP SPENCER.
February 27, 2012
wow this is a great reality check, and you are all in my thoughts and prayers!
February 27, 2012
RIP Spencer. I am six months and three days sober. I wish I could share it with you. God Bless.
February 27, 2012
To God be all the Praise,Honor,Glory and Worship.He is good and His Mercy endureth Forever.To the mother who loved and adored her son so much,may our Heavenly Father forever bless and keep you and all that concerns you.May His peace that surpasses all understanding saturate you.God Loves and adores you.He is indeed The God of LOVE,your story has touched me and i thank you for sharing it,i also embrace the fact that we are to walk in love and forgiveness at all times and we are to encourage each other daily.God gave us the Greatest Sacrifice,Gift and example of Love through Our Lord and Savior Christ Jesus,and it is my prayer that we all follow the example of our Precious Savior Jesus Christ. May God forever bless and keep you,in Jesus Holy Name,Amen.
February 27, 2012
Spencer's story so elegantly portrayed and written by you with such angst and true love was the focus of my lesson in class on an early morning Monday. His story and yours touched deeply my class of 13 young women, all seniors in area High Schools. I read every word. I paused at times to see their faces full with emotion. Next year just about all of them will head to college. Many hope to be elementary education teachers. We have talked as a class often about drinking, hazing, addictions, depressions, the still forming brain of young people where judgement is not always sound. We have had much grief in our classroom with the unexpected deaths of parents. Spencer.. made them think. Spencer made them listen. Spencer brought a sad, sad, bittersweet lesson on the fragility of the human experience, and the lurking depression that so many can feel day in and day out and the often irreversible tragedy of impulsiveness when paired with alcohol. Thank you for sharing your story. We are so very sorry for the loss of a beautiful child with so much more to offer the world. Spencer will not be forgotten in my classroom. My thoughts are with you all.
Respectfully, Ms. Melissa Greig. Dutchess County BOCES
February 27, 2012
A parent should not have to bare this, but if you must, the message you gained is timeless, true and profound. I am a friend of a friend and a parent of 2 boys. I am so moved by Spencer's story and how you tell it. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. I will take the lessons into the world. Loving our children and helping them be self aware is what we do. Society takes over and we try some more. Thank you for telling this story and please hold him in your heart for the rest of your days, Suffer with grace and know love.
February 27, 2012
Thank you for telling Spencer's story. I did not know Spencer. I learned of him through a friend who posted his obituary on Facebook. As a mother, it took unfathomable courage to tell his story. Prayers, love and healing energy are being sent to you and your family so that God may comfort you in dealing with Spencer's tragic and senseless death.
February 27, 2012
This is a heartbreaking story. How I wish I could reach all the students who feel deep down that they don't matter. Every human being matters. Twenty-one is so young, there is so much more life to be lived. God bless Spencer and his family, may they all find rest together someday in the hearafter...
February 27, 2012
So beautifully written and such a tragic loss for you and all of us. Our dearest friends suffered a similar occurance one year ago. So sorry for you and your family.
February 27, 2012
With sincere condolences and deepest regrets for the passing of Spencer.
Thank you, Mom, for sharing your son and your thoughts with us. God bless....
February 27, 2012
God Bless you and your whole family, Mrs. Seupel. I saw you today on CNN and had to read Spencer's Life Story. Your eloquent words will touch many, many lives. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and strength to carry on. . .to continue to be a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend. This was not your fault. . .in time, you will come to realize that. You will be in my prayers.
February 27, 2012
You are precious for sharing your courage and strength! We share your journey. As you continue to help others...Spencer lives! Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Joy and other Parents who share the loss. ParentsOnCall.org
February 27, 2012
I would like to give the family of spencer my deepest condolences for your loss. I didnt know spencer I heard his mother on the news and was very touched by her words to us as parents and to the youth and society. After seening and listening to her I read the obituary she wrote to my 11 yr old son. I thought it was important for him to hear the words that she wrote. It was amazing how she put her pain aside to worn other youth of the effects of alcohol. Everything she said is true and I hope that we as society can come together to prevent future suicides.
February 27, 2012
My heart is breaking for you and your family... And all of those who do not understand how much they are loved.
February 27, 2012
I just watched you on cnn and wanted to reach out to you,,ah the pain in your face,,I understand too well and am currantly fighting this fight for my granddaughter,,,,but instead her dad makes fun of her and her emotions. my sister died this way as did my nephew,,my granddaughter is also a type 1 diabetic but instead her dad yells at her that something is wrong with her to feel this way,,pray for her,,,,mary chris lyons kessler
February 27, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss.spencer must of been a fantastic person. I cried when I read his obituary. My husband daniel completed sucicide 2/26/2008 . Alcohol was a factor. Rip sweet angel.
February 27, 2012
February 27, 2012
May God hold u and your family as close and tight as he is holding Spencer at this very moment. May his legacy continue to teach and help others... God bless you.
February 27, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing so much of Spencer's story. I pray for comfort and for the entire Seupel family.
February 27, 2012
Hello,

I saw your story on CNN. I lost a dear friend to suicide. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family. Thank you for sharing your story. You will save so many lives.
February 27, 2012
God bless our children and the mothers and fathers that do their best to love and protect!!! My heart breaks . . . There but for the grace of God go us all!
February 27, 2012
Our son. Twenty six years old took his life jan 3. 2012. Our boys are in heaven. The better place is here with us..my dearest gave his eyes so two others might see. Still the pain persists. He spent four and a haLf years in the air force and did time in iraq. He had no children. His girlfriend broke up with him sep eleven. That depressed him very badly.;;he didn't like germany and came home on holiday leave and walked away at midnight drunk on mad dog and used a 44cal on himself. ...god help us...
February 27, 2012
Please accept our deepest sympathy and may God help you through this time of sorrow.
The Boone Family
February 27, 2012
Prayers to you for your loss. I pray that God holds you in his arms during this time.
February 27, 2012
We are all diminished by your loss. Our sincere condolences.
February 27, 2012
A heartwrenching story of a life that ended way too soon. To the friends and family of Spencer- my heart aches for you right now. To Celia-you are courageous woman and I admire you so much for sharing Spencer's life story and being brave enough to do so.
February 27, 2012
Oh my dear, I am so sorry. This is a lovely tribute to your son and a wake up call to all parents out there. We love our children, but sometimes we don't know how to help them--or even that they need help. It is such a scary road to travel, and one that open your heart indeed to being "raked out." My thoughts are with you and your family.
Best,
Suzanne Rico
February 27, 2012
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
February 27, 2012
My heart goes out to this Mother. I too lost my son 17 months ago to suicide, test showed his blood alcohol was over the limits.
From author Ben Okri...."the most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love, and to be greater than our suffering."
February 27, 2012
As the mom of an 18 year old son who has shared very similar problems I am so heart broked over your loss. Lean on God now to help answer your guestion of my son would never have done this.I have been on my knees now for years it really does help.
February 27, 2012
I cannot even begin to imagine the pain this loss as caused his family and friends. I also know that on this side of the "glass" we cannot know God's intent with this..However, his mother's selfless act of advising and warning others of alcohol abuse is so incredible. I have now been married to two alcoholics, one has embraced sobriety and the other did not. That one performed a long suicide. He drank until his body could no longer fight illness and he died of pneumonia in 1996.
Spencer's mom is a shining beacon of light now in this world and Spencer is with the Lord and all His healing.

The family has my admiration and sympathy. I will pray for you and your cause.
February 27, 2012
Only God can give you the strength to go forward,knowing you will see Spencer again in Heaven where he is now at peace.
February 27, 2012
My condolences to you and your family. I too lost a relative under similar circumstance.
February 27, 2012
People tell you that time heals all hurts. It doesn't. You learn to push on and remember the good times. Gods blessings to you and your family.
February 27, 2012
What beautiful and thought provoking words Celia. To you and the family I send prayers of love. This is a tragedy and breaks my heart.
Justine G.
February 27, 2012
As the mother of a 17 year old daughter your testimony of your son's life has touched a place deep inside of me. I pray that in time your grief will become a little less. When one has moved on to another place all we can do is to cherish thier memory and let them continue to live through us.

A mother in Baton Rouge
February 27, 2012
Thank you for being so transparent about the loss of your wonderful son. Your message of his life and struggles will touch many. My prayer is that God will comfort all of you and hold you up during this difficult time.
February 26, 2012
Thank you for being so brave and so honest at this time of sorrow in your life. My heart feels for you and your family, and the the world has lost a good young man. I will take the time to say a thank you, to a God that is there for us all, for the time your son was in this world. and to take very special care of him in the next.
February 26, 2012
"To Spencer's family & friends, You are all in my prayers."
February 26, 2012
This is one of the most touching things I have ever read. I hope that other young people can see this and think twice on their actions. To reach out instead of push someone down. My thoughts and prayers are with you and family. God bless you and much love.
February 26, 2012
I am so profoundly touched and thankful for the most candid and beautiful picture you have painted of your adorable son, Spencer. I share your grief and admire your strength . May God sustain you. I have four young adult children , three very young grandsons ,and a granddaughter who will be entering college in two years. I am going to share this with as many family members and friends as possible. He did not die in vain! God bless you.
February 26, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story, we have a 17 year old soon to be in college and in a totally different environment. Know that I will hold Spencer close to my heart as well as all of you who miss him dearly. Sharing your story helps us be aware as well as create awareness of when we may be crying and yelling for help. No one that says what they are planning (ending life) will be left by me. Blessings, Rita
February 26, 2012
MY heart goes out to you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers....may God bless and watch over you all and help heal your hearts!
February 26, 2012
To the family of Spencer. Your courage and the wisdom too know that this is a fight too end and unfortunely it does take us over when we least expect it. My thoughts and prayers are with the mom who had to say good bye to her son at such an earlier age. Addiction has no age anymore it use to be in the elders but it is getting younger younger. I have work with alteens an hear their cries I hear the stories of many people who suffer with the painful of alcohol and drug abuse. I feel your pain Ms Seupel. I lost a twin brother just recently of a drug over dose our 50th is coming up and it will be the first time in my life I will be celebrating it alone.My prayers are with you. God bless you. May he rest in peace now.
February 26, 2012
You are in my prayers and thoughts. I have never met you but know several young people very much like your son. I will continue to do what I can for them. God Bless you.
February 26, 2012
My heart breaks for you and your family. Our society does glamorize all the wrong things and not the simple humble qualities that these beautiful children possess. I will pray for your son and your days ahead.
February 26, 2012
Dear Celia, Taylor and H.D.

My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beloved son, Spencer. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Fonda- Wednesday Night Group
February 26, 2012
Dear Spencer's Mom,
Your words about your son are beautiful. You clearly loved him and instead of just writing that he passed away, you told the truth in hopes of helping others. I think you have helped others! We need more people like you to help us parents understand that this could be our child someday if we don't see the warning signs. Your son was handsome and he had something to contribute to this world. I'm so sorry the darkness took over. I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your sons tragic ending with all of us. I hope Spencer has eternal peace and that you will be okay.
February 26, 2012
I am sorry for your loss. I hope that your candid sharing shows one person the way...saving even one life. My thoughts are with you and your broken heart. Be patient there is a lot to come your way.
February 26, 2012
Be at peace Spencer.
February 26, 2012
I am very sorry for your loss. I sent Spencer's obituary to my 21 year old son who may have played baseball or football with Spence. He is away at Buffalo college and I know alcohal is a part of the life style there. More than that I know the pain of watching your son struggle with life. I pray for your whole family, for Spencer, and all young people including my son. Thank you so much for your tribute, it made things easier to share with my son. God Bless.
February 26, 2012
Dear Spencer's devoted mom,
Your bravery and love in writing this sad obituary has given us all a gift. It's hard to put into words the tragedy of his suicide and the grief you and your family must be feeling. But you unselfishly, and eloquently, took the time to tell us about your beautiful Spencer. I feel as if I know him. I am touched to the depth of my soul. I send you and your family healing and love and pray that this gift you gave us goes on to help and save others, as I know it will. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am humbled by your giving.
February 26, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. I have two daughters and I can't imagine how I would feel if something like this ever happened to them.

I remember hearing a story on a news magazine show about the fact that Penn State is notorious for wild parties ad binge drinking. It was a public news story but obviously not public enough. Someone should do something, the story had tape of kids on side streets and in people yards extremely intoxicated.

That being said I love what you say about teaching our children to love and tolerate people for who they are, a lesson we all would benefit by. It starts by learning to love ourselves then, not simply tolerate differences but accept them. We live in such a litigious society we need to learn to respect differences and feel strong in our own ability and freedom of choice.

I wish you and your family peace and a gentle spirit of healing.
Carol Galione Woodstock, NY
February 26, 2012
Thank you for sharing with us all about your son.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
February 26, 2012
Ben, I have shared your story. May Peace be with your Mother and with all of your loved ones. And may you bask in the Light that shines from the Face of God forever and ever. Amen.
February 26, 2012
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. You are a very strong woman. My heart goes out to you for all that you will endure now that your son has passed. No child should feel the way about himself as your child did. I have a daughter who is the same and battles addiction every day. I pray everday for her to be strong and cope, hoping someday she will find happiness. If I could change their world with any words of wisdom I would shout it out for all children to hear. I don't know how and probably will never figure out why there is a lack of self confidence with the children of today. You have to believe that Spencer has found happiness now even if his death should never have come so early. Hold strong to your memories for they will bring you some comfort. Prayers and thoughts from all who have read your words of love.
February 26, 2012
i read spencers obit. First i must tell you how sorry i am for your loss.My father commited suicide in 1991 because of alcohol.Then my son made a choice one night at 21 years old to take his 4wheeler for a ride.The policeman said it was a accident.Ive come to understand it was not it was the alcohol.Eric died jan.11.2006.Thank you having courage to share spencers life with us. i have posted it on facebook in hopes our children learn it really is a choice.
February 26, 2012
Wow...you may consider speaking to kids at schools. You would be a good motivational speaker on suicide. You are right. We need to treat everyone like they are special, grocery clerks, mail delivery workers, etc..not just singers, movie stars, athletes etc..everyone is special..we tend to concentrate on the stars and the big shots and the winners and forget about the average and the slower people. We need to make everyone feel special. Thanks for the post and i hope you find some kind of peace. No words can help you with this kind of grief. You have to be a special lady to have the courage to even pick up a pen at this point. Take care of you.
February 26, 2012
This is beautiful....I am sorry for your loss, but hopefully by sharing your story some one will be helped.
February 26, 2012
This was such a moving Obituary. Bless you and all of your family.
February 26, 2012
To Spencer's mother: I read the story about your son, thank you for sharing your story with us. I will pray for all the young people that are struggling through life. My prayers and thoughts are with you. May God bless you and your family.
February 26, 2012
THANK YOU R.I.P. SPENCER
February 26, 2012
My heart & prayers go out to you and your family during such difficult times. May his memory forever comfort your soul and bring a smile to your heart.
February 26, 2012
I am so incredibly sorry that you have to go through this kind of pain. No parent should have to deal with that under any circumstance. Your story brings him into our lives. He wanted to feel closeness and make a difference, and sadly, this is how he achieved it. He is close to every person that has read this, every person who has a child, every person that lives with someone battling with depression, anxiety, lonliness, alcohol or drug abuse. They say everyone has a purpose, and maybe this was his. If this horrible tragic end to his life can save others, even one person, then he did not die in vain. I have 3 children and i dont know how I could handle losing any of them. You are amazing and loving to be able to share this with us. Thank you for that, and thank you for raising a beautiful son. His life was cut short, but he did not die in vain. He has put a face to this problem in our society. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You and Spencer will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
February 26, 2012
God bless you, and your beautiful son!!!
February 26, 2012
Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family during this most difficult time.
February 26, 2012
Thank you for sharing. What a strong woman you are to have written such Truth in this time of sorrow. May you have peace within.
February 26, 2012
May I add my condolences to you, as I as a man cried for the first time in a long time and I am 71 yrs. old. I saw myself in many ways as I was a drinker and I have 2 sons who also drink but handle it okay. Your writing will help many as it makes you think about what you are doing to yourself and others. May God bless you. Ed Robertson, Port Huron, MI.
February 26, 2012
Spencer was a warm and loving person that I had the honor of knowing personally. We spent much time together our senior year in the New Visions Healthcare Program. He had a warm and sensitive heart, qualities rare to find in a young man. Thank you so much for sharing his story with the world. May he live on in our hearts forever.
February 26, 2012
As a mother, my thoughts and prayers are with you. For you to take the time during so much grief to bring awareness allows the rest of the world to know and understand that the Lord is in your soul and spirit. May your baby rest in the Peace of the Lord. May He comfort your heart and continue to guide you, accompany you and comfort you in this journey called LIFE. There are days when we just don't get it, can't understand it and feel like we just can't take another step. The physical loss of a child for a mother has no words. Your soul, your heart and your arms just want to hold him. How blessed to have had such a wonderful boy in your life. Hold dear to all of your wonderful memories. May you find your son's spirit and kindness in reaching out to others. May you find the beauty of your son's soul in your daily journey until you both meet again. May your child rest in peace.
February 26, 2012
My heart breaks for you. I have three wonderful sons and know it is unbearable to think of loosing one of them under any circumstances. Please know there are many prayers going out for your family.
February 26, 2012
I worked with many children for whom this rings true. It also rang true for me in my youth (and sometimes early adulthood.) I am so grateful to you for your strength in sharing this and for all of the thoughts this may provoke in others but more importantly, how many other lives may be changed or saved as a result. God bless you and your family.
February 26, 2012
So beautifully written! May you find peace in the wonderful memories you have of Spencer. I will pass this message on to my children and to my sister who is active and involved with AA. Thank you for sharing this with all of us during such a difficult time. Awareness is the key, and i'm sure this will enlighten many people. Rest in Peace Spencer.
February 26, 2012
My heart goes out to you at this time and in the days ahead.
February 26, 2012
Wow, Spencer must be so proud of you. Whatever pain and struggle he had in this life is no more as he rests in God's arms in His heavenly kingdom. My heart hurts for you and your family at this truly painful time. As a mother I to understand how difficult it is to see how badly our children want to fit in, make a friend, or just enjoy life. I have 4 children and 1 of them has no real friends but and has endured and always been a kind and loving young man. To me he is a huge success in life and will always be. Another of my children has many, many friends and is happy and funny. He has partied too much and we worry about him getting out of control. Alcohol changes everything you do, think, or say. One night I said “I feel that you don't love me” because he had taken his oldest brother's ID to by alcohol or get into a bar I thought. I didn't realize until I said this that he had already been drinking because his response was so strange. He came down and stood in my face and was crying out of control. He said that he couldn't believe that I said that to him. You would have thought I said I didn't love him but that was not the case at all. He was so hurt and headed to the door with his car keys in his hand to leave. I grabbed his arm and held on for dear life. At this point we were both crying as he tried to pull away from me. I don't know how I had the strength to hold him and begged him not to go. He then relented and we went up to his room to cry and talk. He didn't and I didn't really talk about the drinking part at that time because all I wanted was him to stay in my sight. We lay down and I stayed with him all night with my hand on his arm in order to calm him and to ease my fear of him leaving. We talk about the worries and concerns for him and I'm seeing him come around but am still leery. I as you love my kids so very much and would do anything to keep them safe. Thank you for sharing such a personal story with so many parents. I will show this to my son and his friends. God Bless!
February 26, 2012
Spencers story is such an inspiration and I PRAY it touches MANY hearts as it did mine. God Bless you and your family during such a difficult time. Thank you for sharing such a precious story.
February 26, 2012
I am certain that writing your son's story at such a painful time must have been difficult. May you find some peace in knowing just how many people you have touched and will help with those words.

Thank you for sharing them. My deepest sympathy to you and your family for your loss.
February 26, 2012
I am greatly sorry for your loss. I also have a son that is very sensitive and loving, and also emotionally bruised very easily. We have been fighting his alcoholism and suicidal tendencies since he was 14. He has tried many times, while drunk, to kill himself. Thankfully he has not been successful. He came very close a couple of times. It was a horrible time in our lives. People just said what a drunk, a waste.. without understanding the real problem. I think it started in puberty, and got worse over time. I am so terribly sorry for your loss, and also so terribly afraid I will have to walk the same road as you. I would gladly keep you company, give you a shoulder anytime, just not for the same reason. Know he has no more pain, and maybe it will ease yours. Sincerely...
February 26, 2012
I am very sorry for your loss.May God keep you in His peace.My heart goes out to you.
February 26, 2012
Having a son that also struggles with being what the world deems a man I truly understand your pain, the struggle and despair that as mother we go through fighting to keep our boys going on the right tract, I am still working with mine, and the battle seems to rage on, May the peace of God be with today and the life time of days ahead,
February 26, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I've been in Spencer's shoes and fortunately discovered it would pass in a matter of time. Depression is a serious illness. Thank you for your courageous story. I will share this with my three girls who are the reason I'm still here today! God Bless..
February 26, 2012
My thought's and prayers are with all of you at this very painful and difficult time.Spencer will be what I talk about with my 16 year old and his friends tonight.The obituary you wrote touched me so much it was a sad but a needed wake up call for us as a society. Spencer had so many goals and so much to live for and thank you for sharing his story that is like a million other kids out there. My father committed suicide when I was 26 yrs old and alchohol was a facter in his death as well.So for every Spencer out there I will pray for strenght,for self worth and and HOPE.My prayers are with you and my thoughts will turn into action.Thank You.
February 26, 2012
May God Bless you and your family at this sad, sad time. I lost my 13 year old niece to suicide almost 20 years ago. The pain is unbearable when you lose a child, however old. But rest assured, Spencer will be cradling you in his arms for the rest of your life.

Martha Penwell
February 26, 2012
my deepest heartfelt sympathies,, i didnt know him,but reading the tribute you wrote,seems i have known him all my life......may the lord give you strenght in this time of sadness!! god bless!!
February 26, 2012
I am very sad to hear of your loss.
I have also struggled in the past with a similar situation but God saved my life. May God be with Spencer now and also your Family.
God Bless
February 26, 2012
I am so sorry for the loss of your son Spencer. My 21 year old son Daniel took his life on February 16, 2006. He was loving, funny, intelligent and very depressed. His death shattered me. God's strength and love has been with me. I pray for God's strength and love for you and your family. The loss of a child is a heartache that never goes away.
February 26, 2012
My thought and paryers goes out to you and your family.Thank you for sharing your story, very well wrote.I know Spencer was so important to you . Please keep asmile on your face and remember you will see him in heaven..
February 26, 2012
Wishing you and your loved ones strength and serenity....may the memories of your son forever begin and end with a smile....
February 26, 2012
My heart breaks with yours for you loss. May your wonderful, loving memories carry you through. Thank you for sharing the story of Spencer's life with us. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
February 26, 2012
We are so sorry for your loss. Our deepest condolences to your faamily.
February 25, 2012
What a sad story. Rest in peace now!
February 25, 2012
I am so moved by your words about your beloved son, Spencer. You are so right about the false values out there. Alcohol looks so innocent in it's bottle but alters the thinking of those who indulge, especially of our vulnerable young people. How lovely that your in-laws started a foundation to help others. May your pain ease each passing day and may you feel Spencer's love in your heart forever.
February 25, 2012
GOD BLESS HIM AND YOU. RIP SPENCER
February 25, 2012
I am so touched by your sharing your personel tradgedy.I have 3 teenage sons and worry every day.I talk to them,they say no never and I can only educate and trust.I hope the memories of your Spencer surround you and never dim.Let his peace carry your spirit during this difficult time.
Marlene Garnot
February 25, 2012
This is heartbreaking and inspiring all at once. My deepest condolences on the loss of your son, and my heartfelt appreciation for your gift of sharing Spencer's story in such an extraordinary way. Liz Desmarais (Newburyport, Ma)
February 25, 2012
My heart aches for you. My prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us. His memory will always be with me and your words. How a grieving mother could write these. May the Lord bless your day and fill your heart.
The Walters Family, California
February 25, 2012
My deepest sympathy for losing your precious boy. I love how you honored him, yet shed light on the sickness of alcohol abuse.
Monica, Columbus Ohio
February 25, 2012
I do not think I have read anything ever so touching in my life your son is a hero in his own words and now he is in gods hands your words written will go down in the minds and heart of everyone who reads this, may you have peace knowing you have been blessed with such a kind heart and a wonderful son he will never be gone. thank you so much for him and yourselves. god rest your hearts now.
February 25, 2012
Prayers and sympathy to you and your family. It is obvious to see that Spencer's sensitivity and compassion for others was part of him because it is part of you. At this very difficult time you have honored the memory of your son by telling his story in the hopes of reaching out to others. May all who read about Spencer know and understand that every human being is who they are because God created their soul and each person must be loved for that soul and should never have to hide from who they truly are. May God's Love be with you.
February 25, 2012
My love and prayers go out to Spencer's family. This happens all to often. I too lost a son to suicide. He was 22 yrs. old and the love of my life. Please know that you are not alone in your pain and that God loves you and He loves Spencer too. I have had to trust God with all my might in order to get through this and I pray that you can do the same. Know he's with God, know he's at peace, and know that you will see him again. Thank You God in heaven for the hope You give us.
February 25, 2012
My heart goes out to you and your family. How loving of you to share Spencer's life and struggles with others. Someone, somewhere will be spared this agony because you shared your story. Thank you.. And God bless you..
February 25, 2012
R.I.P Dude , i dont know you personally but i looked into this story and it really touched me in a deep way.REST IN PEACE BROTHER
February 25, 2012
I can't even begin to imagine the pain and despair engulfing your spirit at this time, but your clarity of mind and the message set forth has literally changed my life. Your son was obviously a thing of beauty in a sometimes ugly and always confusing world. As I prepare to send my only son, also frustrated with himself despite being a better person than I ever aspired to, off to a university next year, I will physically carry this story with me and use it to make me a closer friend, and a better parent. I thank you for the invaluable insights you've demonstrated and will join countless others in wishing you the best in these times and hope for the times ahead. Thank you.
February 25, 2012
Sorry for your loss. May god watch and bless you and your family and bring you peace. Marlene Lara
February 25, 2012
My heart aches for you and I am so sorry you have to endure this pain. I am so thankful to strong and oh so unselfish people like yourself for having the courage to tell the story of your sons beautiful soul. Alcohol more often than not plays a part in these tragic events and outsiders are quick to judge assuming this must have been another "bad" person. It did in my families. Everyday i think of how my behavior and actions could make or break someones day, I am so glad to know there are others who care this much as well. You are correct, we all just want to be loved and accepted. May Spencer live forever and save many lives through your brave voice.
February 25, 2012
I was so moved by your tribute to Spencer. When he was 18yrs. old, my son also,took his life.Losing a child is a lifetime heartache that does ease with time.May Spencer rest in peace. I send blessings and prayers to you and your family.
February 25, 2012
Thank You, for sharing Spencers's story. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. As you hold him close to your hearts, he's wrappng his arms around you tight!
February 25, 2012
What a beautiful well told store and thank you for sharing. I lost my brother to suicide and alcohol played a large part of his life as well. May the memories help you get through this and please, grieve at your own pace. Thank you for helping shed the light on the devistating affects of suicide. God Bless
February 25, 2012
February 25, 2012
I hope and pray that he does everything in Heaven that he could not do here on Earth and mostly that he is at peace. God bless you and your family and thank you for sharing such a woderful story.
February 25, 2012
I am truly sorry for your loss. We are having a problem with our 22 year old grandson and we are worried that he might try to end his life the same way. He has been in trouble since he started high school. Kids do not realize how tough it is for the people they leave behind. God bless you and your family and your son also, Mannie de A, ashland,ma.
February 25, 2012
I am sitting here crying as I read this.This brought back all of the ways in which alcohol had impacted my life many years ago. Fortunately, I got the help, but alcohol is a sneaky and pervasive drug. It can give us a sense of bravado, and in an instant, that brevado can dissolve into despair. A fleeting thought can, and does, kill us. My heart goes out to you in the loss of your son. One can only imagine what a great healer he could have become. Yet, by you, his Mom, writing this, perhaps another might heed what happened and think twice about their own actions. With much love, Elizabeth
February 25, 2012
I am sorry & pray God will touch you with His healing love. Thank you for bringing this to the public so we all may be cognizant in helping to prevent this from happening again. God bless you!
February 25, 2012
My sincere sympathy to you. What a beautiful tribute to your son. And so true of our society, I, too had a beautiful, sensitive son that took his life. There is not a day that I do not miss him. For many years I have said our society is not kind to gentle, sweet boys. Even before my sons' death, I could see how he struggled to fit in and be like the others. When in fact he was so much more than them. My heart goes out to you as you begin the most difficult journey you will face in life...living without your son.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing Spencer's story. May the light of his smile live in your family's hearts forever.
February 25, 2012
May God wrap His arms around all and bring warmth and comfort.
February 25, 2012
wow, you are an inspiration. In the face of such a loss, you put such thought provoking words together. Spencer was a person to anyone who read this. Not just another child that died too young. I'm going to encourage my children to read this, and maybe they can realize what Spencer didn't or couldn't . His actions had consequences that the alcohol blurred beyond recognition. It can't be taken back or erased. As a mom I can't imagine your pain, but thank you for your words and for sharing your son's story. My sincerest condololences and peace to your family.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing this extraordinary truth at the most difficult time in your life. We pray for you and for Spencer, that his life, though no longer here on earth, will have a positive impact on many. Sending you love, hugs, and God's Blessings.
February 25, 2012
I am very sorry for your loss. My beautiful daughter Shelby committed suicide in Oct after a long battle with anorexia. She touched many lives in her short 20 years as did your son. My hugs and prayers are with you and your family. We are now a part of this club that none of want to be a part of. Noone understands what we are feeling. The grief is overwhelming. My heart understands your pain. If you need to talk please call me Roxanne 400-7080
February 25, 2012
So sorry to hear about the loss of your son Spencer. Thank you so much for sharing about him. It's very courageous of you because most parents would't write the details of what really happen. Instead they would rather keep it as quite as possible. I to had a big problem with alcohol and drugs and have lost quite a few close friends that passed way to soon due to a direct result of this disease. You touched my heart for sharing this and when I read about things like this happening it reminds me of how blessed I really am to still be here and it gives me strength and hope. Thank you again. My prayers are with you and your family. God bless you.
February 25, 2012
So completely sorry for you loss!
February 25, 2012
I too have lost a son to suicide & another son to organ failure, these are the most heartache & pain a person can feel. But we go on knowing of our love for our children & that they wait for us to join them in eternity, at God's time. You are sent all my love & sympathy at this very sad time. God bless all your family. Maria Pacheco, Tooele, Utah
February 25, 2012
I am so very sorry for you in the loss of your son....may God be with through the days and years ahead.
JoAnn
February 25, 2012
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss in such an unimaginable manner. I'm certain Spencer's pain was great which made his life unbearable at times. Thanks for your honesty in sharing your memories of his life. Many blessings to your family.
February 25, 2012
We are so sorry for Spencer's lost. Nothing can be so horrible as this to you and your family. To experience the loss of a child through accident, sickness or intentional is so unreal. You are in our prayers and may God help you through this sorrowful time.
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. May your family find peace and strength until you can be with your beautiful son Spencer again.
February 25, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
February 25, 2012
One of my mentors committed suicide in front of his mother and 2 year old son when I was 18. He had strayed from his treatment. My 3 cousins were killed by a drunk driver in March 1991. So many people are affected by drinking and suicide.

I hope you find solace in God's love, joy in memories of happier times, and peace in knowing that your story will help others.
February 25, 2012
So sorry for your loss of your beautiful son. What a beautiful story you tell. I have two sons of my own and I will read them Spencer's story. If his story saves one child, or can teach that child to get help, we can only hope. May you find hope and love with your faith. Much love and sympathy..A Colonie Mom
February 25, 2012
I am SO sorry for your loss.I too have lost quite a few loved ones to suicide.It never makes sense,does it?To wonder what they must have been thinking,and what could possibly have been going through their head at that moment when they decided that they were going to take their own life.Unfortunately those are questions that you will never be able to answer,and to dwell on those thought will do nothing but drive you crazy.All that you can do is remember them for who they were,and what joy and love they have brought into your life.And just know that this is not the end,this is not "Good-Bye",you will see them again.
February 25, 2012
February 25, 2012
i am so sorry for your great loss.as a parent of two sons i can only imagine how terribly painfull your hurt must be.i pray that god can help ease your sorrow
February 25, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
February 25, 2012
Sympathy and prayers for the family. My mom committed suicide when I was 22. She was 44. That was in 1987.
February 25, 2012
Alcohol destroys so many beautiful lives. I pray that you all find peace and love in your lives. You are very special people and Spencer was a very special son.
February 25, 2012
To Spencers mother, I too am a mother of a son, my only son, who "committed" himself to suicide as the only way to remedy his suffering. He "completed" it in 1995 on his sisters birthday. I had no idea that he was that troubled but thanks to his ex-girlfriend he ended his life rather than not be able to have a relationship with his 9 mo. old daughter whom he adored. The pain is still with me & I don't think it will ever leave until I can be reunited with him. I wrote a poem to my son that was read at his funeral by the pastor & then was placed in his casket to go with him. I have lost my grandparents, my mother, my father, my brother, but nothing compares to the pain of the loss of my own blood. May God be with you.
February 25, 2012
I have just finished reading Spencer's obituary. My mind immediately returned to the horrible day in October 1987 when my older sister called me at my office to tell me that my older brother had taken his life. Then in April 1988 I arrived home and received a phone call informing me that my best friend, my younger brother, my "Main Man" had been killed in a car accident just out side of Saratoga Springs. He died alone in the middle of the road. Although his death was not listed as a suicide those whom he was closest to knew of the pain he was going through as his marriage was breaking -up. It was thought by those around him, that when the accident happened, he too just let go of life because the drugs and alcohol no longer quieted his pain.
Whom, among us, can shield themselves from that horrible moment when we learn that a loved-one choose a permanent solution to temporary problems. No one has the right to to cause such unbelievable pain to those around him/her who loved them dearly.
As I offer my heartfelt sympathy to the family, relatives and friends of Spencer, I can't help but feel that my offering seems just so inadequate.
Perhaps those who loved Spencer can find some solace in knowing that he has gone home to God. His silent war has ended. Let us hope Spencer is at peace. God knows he has earned it. Peace.

Ron Singh Schenectady, NY
February 25, 2012
My heart goes out to you all during this very sad time in your lives. May it comfort you to know that God promises a day when such deep sadness as your Spencer felt will no longer plague mankind. Have faith in His promise at Psalms 37:11 & 29.
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry that Spencer took his life, I wish there was a way to catch people from doing this. I think what you are doing is very couraging,thoughtful, and honorable. I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing this.
Sincerely
Kyli
February 25, 2012
Your grace and strength at such a tough time is truly incredible and inspiring. As a parent, I can't even imagine your grief but admire your message and how it can help others. Spencer's story deserved to be told and shared and for having that courage to do that I thank you. I will be sharing your story with my daughters who are your sons age and face the challenges he did.
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry! My son, Robbie committed suicide 11 years ago at the age of 25. His father at the same age committed suicide, too. Robbie had an empty bottle of whiskey by his side when he was found.

My heart goes out to you. It's a long journey to heal just enough to function normally, but you never completely heal. There will always be that emptiness.

Please take care and lean on your loved ones.

Debbie
February 25, 2012
Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.
February 25, 2012
To the Suepel Family: Thank you. You have told a story that so many of us families live on a daily basis. I am so very sorry for your loss. I only hope everyone takes a moment to read this and learn from your loss. But with todays society, I have no faith. Again, thank you and I'm sorry.
February 25, 2012
Bless your soul, dear Spencer. I have a son your age who struggles as you have. I will also say a prayer for your family.
February 25, 2012
Thank you very, very much for this great act of love: sharing something so devastating with so many others. Your loss is the whole community's, and our hearts are with you.
February 25, 2012
God Bless your family. I know what it is like to be unable to help someone you love and who is in need. Sending thoughts and prayers. Just remember the good times, the fun times, the loving times. GodSpeed !
February 25, 2012
God will hold you and your family close at this time and thank you.....Spencer sounds a lot like my son and I will begin to reach out.
February 25, 2012
Dear Mother,
What a wonderful mother you are. Such courage at a time when your heart is broken. All mothers can learn so much from you. I'm so sorry about the death of your son whom you obviously love so very much. Make God bless you, comfort you and strengthen you in the minutes, hours and days ahead. I know His heart must be breaking too. Yours in Christ, Carole Conley-Redd
February 25, 2012
Its been over 3 years since my brother has passed. Thoughts of him make my heart feel like a big water balloon,so heavy it can barely thud. We were 15 months apart; we were best friends. I asked God to let my brother visit me in my dreams. He visits me 3 to 5 times a week. I am the luckiest person on earth! So ask God for what it is you need. He will answer, you just need to be receptive. God bless you and your family.
February 25, 2012
My simple, human heart aches for your loss. I have not lost a child ... but, I felt like I did for many years. I grieved the loss of my daugher. My daughter got lost in drugs and alcohol for a very long time. I got her back eventually, but she is not the daughter she was or could have been. She will never be the daughter that started using drug/alcohol and age 12. It took her until the age of 28yrs and now she is ok but ... changed, forever.
February 25, 2012
I did not know Spencer or your family, but I read what you so beautifully wrote about your son and wanted to let you know that I am praying for you.
Nancy Carr (Cottonwood, Arizona)
February 25, 2012
My heart goes out to you and your family for your very tragic loss. As parents we do the best that we can do when preparing our children for the future. We can only hope and pray that when they spread their wings and fly that they always always think about what Mom and Dad taught them. Unfortunately there are times when they get away from their family and seem to lose grip on the rights and wrongs of the world and something terrible happens that should have never happened. The only thing we can do as parents is to always let our children know that we are here for them and that nothing is ever so bad that they can't talk to us. It all sounds good but sometimes it just doesn't work. Know that your message has touched me in so many ways and I will share it with all my friends. Thank you for being strong enough to share your unfortunate situation with us. Kim Kratzenberg, Woodgate, NY
February 25, 2012
my heart goes out to you and your family and in the coming day's i do hope you and your family open someones eyes and just say no.. we have you all in our hearts and prayer....
February 25, 2012
Your pain and loss is felt by so many who have been in your shoes. Your story hits home to so many. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I pray you find comfort in your family and loved ones, and in your faith. Spencer sounds like he was a wonderful person. Some things, we will never understand. My heart breaks for you. Take care of yourself.
February 25, 2012
My prayers and thoughts go out to your family on the tragic loss of your son. Thank you for sharing your story, I cannot even imagine how hard it was for you to do so. I prayer it will help even just one person change their mind. My four kids (16 -24) have all had their lives touched by suicide and I pray we will soon find a way to stop it. May your many memories of Spencer help to comfort you in the days ahead and may God hold you in the palm of his hand.
February 25, 2012
I am truly sorry to read about Spencer,I can tell his tinder soul was deeply loved.
I too have a son that binge drank in college, He was in Austin TX and I was in Houston, I feared what would happen as I scanned through his photo documentation on his Facebook page so I brought him home fearing what would happen next,buy that time he had lost 3 friends due to drinking and drugging ...I sincerely hope that your beautiful writing about your sons journey goes viral, maybe then Spencer will have accomplished what he wanted to do in life...save lives!
February 25, 2012
What a truly horrendous thing to have happen in your family! I can't imagine your grief. I don't know you or Spencer, but if I did I'm sure I would be devastated as well. May God bless you and your family during this time of sorrow and wrap His loving arms around you. Yours in Christ, Sharon Mitchell
February 25, 2012
I too have been through the tragedy of losing a loved one due to suicide. It is an unbearable feeling as a friend, as family, to have so blindly thought that everything was ok. Your message has touched me and will so many others. My thoughts and prayers to your family.
February 25, 2012
I knew Spencer. I met him over the summer in a biochem class we were both taking. We hung out several times (no alcohol involved; mostly church-related stuff which he seemed interested in over the summer) but unfortunately lost contact this past school year. He was a likeable, intelligent, open person and I'm so grieved that this happened. It rips my heart out. I have been crying and mourning over the past few days. I am so sorry for the loss of such a beautiful person; it makes me ill. I did not know he was so enmeshed in alcohol or had any tendencies towards this sort of thing; indeed he was SO future-oriented.
February 25, 2012
I am sorry for your loss and I do understand. My at the time 13 y/o son made several suicidal attempts. We tried getting him help each time. After the last attempt which would have been successful had he not taken the wrong medication (it was 30 antibiotics). He went to bed and never said he had done it, until I woke him for school and he was very sick at his stomach. He confessed what he done. I immediately took him to the hospital and file a Chins against my Son. It a form of tough love but I'd rather him sent off through the courts than bearing him in the ground. He has lived a happier and more productive life. He is grown with 2 children of his own. Tough LOVE is hard to do but it has saved my sons life.
I will keep your son memory in my heart and your family in my prayers
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for your family's loss. The things you wrote about our society and humanity are so, so true. We recently lost my 49 year old brother, in large measure due to alcohol. His suicide took 30 years, but it is not a great deal different. Your words are inspiration to value every person and to try to help young people especially. God bless you.
Della Barbee, Louisiana
February 25, 2012
My heart goes out to you at this time and in the days ahead.
February 25, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Spencers family. Our son recently tried to commit suicide while drinking but called an ambulance instead. We are so thankful to God and because we have two alcohols in the family we pray that they will be saved. You have helped me so much with your story.
Thank you and God be with you
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing Spencer's life with us. I pray it will help others who feel they are lost as well. I lost my Best Friend in a similar way 5 years ago. There isn't a day that passes that I don't think of him. If we only knew how lost he was. I am sharing this story with my family and with your blessing, taking it to the area schools where kids need the most help. God bless your family at this time and always. Rest in peace Spencer.
February 25, 2012
I'm sorry this happened, in my dispear I've thought of doing the same but I promise to you Spencer I will not. To many look up to me in hopes of me getting back on my feet.
February 25, 2012
I've never read anything that touched my heart like this, it truly moved me, my heart goes out to you for finding the strength to find the words as you did. I can't imagine what he was feeling to have done this, alcohol should be just as illegal as drugs. God be with you in your time of need, may he rest in peace always.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story. It comforts me that Spencer is free of the pain and sorrow that he could not escape in this world. He is in the loving arms of his Savior and oh what joy Spencer will find there. I pray that the Lord will bless Spencer's family in many new and unexpected ways during this most difficult and tragic time. God is faithful,lean on Him and He will restore your peace with His love...morning by morning new mercies you will see...with my deepest sympathy
February 25, 2012
February 25, 2012
This is a touching tribute to your son. And raw. It very clearly illuminates the needs that go unmet in today's society. With a family such as yours and the love and values you instilled, such a thing can happen anyway. You're right, we need to start valuing each other. This obit is even more powerful for me as I have a daughter with very similar attributes. I cannot reach her. Thank you for putting into words what I have felt and could not articulate. Blessings and peace to you.
February 25, 2012
I lost my 15yr. old son due to suicide. He was drinking and had gotten into an argument with a few friends at a party, he told them they would be sorry tomorrow, and they were. It was just an argument, but he is gone forever. It has destroyed our family. My husband and I had 5 children. Someone will be missing from every moment for the rest of our lives. I wish you the best in finding a way to understand why. I am truly sorry for the loss of your son. It sounds like he made the world a better place just by being here.
February 25, 2012
What an incredible thing you have done through your time of grief to find the strength to write such a moving and powerful message!This will touch many lives and hopefully change the way others treat each other! Spencer was loved in ways many people will never have the chance to experience. There are no words that can be spoken to make your pain go away, but rest assured that your son has made an impact in so many lives! May God put his loving arms around you and your family. Hold on to your precious memories of your beloved Spencer!
February 25, 2012
My love and sympathy go out to your family. We lost my 22 year old grandson last September in the same way except it was drug related. The grief cannot be told in words. I offer part of each day up to God to hold others in his arms who are struggling with addictions. And remember, when thinking of Spencer...."don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened".
February 25, 2012
You are an amazing Mother.I am so so sorry for your loss.May God comfort you and your family through this time of sorrow.
February 25, 2012
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. Our deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
February 25, 2012
First, I would like to offer my condolences to you and your family. I have never experienced the loss of a child, but I can only imagine what you are going through. I would like to thank you for being so thoughtful and sharing your son's story during your time of bereavement. I pray that you sharing Spencer's story will prevent another mother from having to bury their child due to suicide. May God continue to bless you.
February 25, 2012
What a beautiful and moving tribute to your handsome son. It had to have been very difficult to do . my best to you and your family. Be strong.
February 25, 2012
May God be with you and your family in this time of need.Thank you for sharing Spencer s story.
February 25, 2012
My heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing the story of your beautiful son, the world would be a better place if there were more sensitive souls like him in it.
February 25, 2012
Prayers for all of you, my family has experienced 2 suicides. May the Holy Spirit comfort you...
February 25, 2012
Remembering your great love story today and always.
February 25, 2012
Words cannot describe the sorrow I am feeling right now after reading your story. I can't imagine the pain you are feeling. Your son was very lucky to have you as a loving mom. It is obvious you meant the world to him and I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Spencer is now an angel. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing Spencer's life with us and like many other posts just remember you will be reunited with Spencer again one day. I lost my father when I was 21 and some days it feels like it was yesterday, other days it seems so long ago. Time does heal. With love and prayers, Susan
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story, I'am so sorry for your loss. It's always hard to lose someone you love, but especially hard when it is for such a senseless reason. Drugs and alcohol cause more pain in our society than people realize. My prayers are with you. ( Olathe, Ks.)
February 25, 2012
What a powerful messsage. May God Bless you and your family,I will pray for you all. May your wonderful memories keep your beloved Spencer alive in your hearts forever. God needed a special angel in Heaven and I am sure Spencer is wrapped in his arms now. May he rest in eternal peace!
February 25, 2012
So sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace and may his story reach others and prevent it from happening to them. May you find comfort in good memories with him. My deepest condolences to the family and all who knew him.
February 25, 2012
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998
http://www.ruthann1.com
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry that you have joined the club that has lost a child to suicide. I lost my 25 year daughter 7 years ago. She too yearned for closeness, yet pushed everyone away. The only solace I can give you is that you must hold on to all of the good memories, it will help with your grief.
February 25, 2012
May Spencer Rest in Peace.I lost a nephew,only 18,to a drinking and driving accident.The pain is still here.But at least Spencer's struggle is over.God welcomes you with open arms.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for your strength and courage. You are a remarkable woman - Can only imagine how wonderful of a parent you are. May your memories of happier times give you strength and courage to continue Spencer's legacy. Thank you so much for sharing your son's story.
February 25, 2012
February 25, 2012
I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story with all of us...I will be reading it to my girls. God Bless Spencer and peace to you and your family during this very sad time.
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I also want to Thank You for sharing Spencer Story, I will share this my children. What a wonderful young man.
February 25, 2012
That was beautiful. You are so right about everything. I will share this with as many people as possible. You were describing my son, right down to the water coming out of my eyes, my son said that to me. I am so sorry for your pain. Please know you are changing lives and making far reaching differences for an endless amount of people. Much love to you and your family and to Spencer for making such an impact on so many. He is a beautiful spirit who is being honored for the lives he is now changing.
February 25, 2012
I grieve with you and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
February 25, 2012
Thoughts and prayers to your family, this is such and awful and tragic thing to happen. By the sounds of it he was destined for great things, my girls are 2 and 4, so too young to understand, but I will share your story with everyone I can and when my girls get older I will share it with them. Thank you for being so brave to open up to everyone and share his story with us all. May God bless you and your family....
February 25, 2012
It was with a very heavy heart that I read of the struggle and loss of your son. Words cannot express the sadness I feel for you, your family, and especially for Spencer. Having lost many loved ones in my life I still cannot imagine what the loss of my child could feel like. I pray God will rock you in the comfort of His Heavenly Peace as you struggle through the pain.
February 25, 2012
Condolences to the friends and families of Spencer Watson Seupel, May you continue to recieve the love and support that is needed at this difficult time in your lives. Also know that - "while YOU throw all YOUR anxiety upon him, because he cares for YOU." 1 Peter 5:7
February 25, 2012
My heart breaks for the loss of such a bright, full of life young man. My prayers to you and yours at this very difficult time.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing at this difficult time, I cannot imagine your pain. I will share this with my sons, who sometimes feel lost in our society. These are very hard times for young people. You have been very brave, and my prayers are for you to find peace and comfort from day to day with some form of human kindness. I will remember your words, and your son. Sincerely Lynne Garver (Winter Haven Fl)
February 25, 2012
Bless you and your family for having the strength to share his story. I am sure it's very painful reliving his troubles but very heartening to share his triumphs. In doing this you could very well be saving many young lives.

Thinking of you from Montreal, QC
February 25, 2012
Your son was a special young man. God bless your family.
February 25, 2012
I read your story and was very moved by it. Thanks for sharing it. We will keep you and your family in our prayers. I am so sorry for your loss. Deepest smypathy.
February 25, 2012
I am praying for you and your family. I lost my daughters five years ago. I can't say I know how you feel but I can relate to you. Just know that with Jesus you can make it through and my prayers are with you.
February 25, 2012
What a wonderful human being. The least I can do is to share your story. I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace to your family.
February 25, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad time.
RIP Spencer.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for opening your heart and sharing Spencer's story. I will share his light and life with my children.
February 25, 2012
Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you. It took courage and strength for you to tell his story so candidly, and I'm very appreciative you did. You have helped many.

I've lost 2 family members to suicide, 12 and 10 years ago, and the memory shocks me still. Jehovah God, at Psalm 37:9-11 & Revelation 21 tells of the time we can enjoy our loved ones being resurrected to a much better world. It comforts me to know that in the story of life, death is just a comma in a sentence. I look forward to seeing yours and his stories continue.
February 25, 2012
A mother should not have to write an obit for their child....you did so with love, honesty and with a purpose to help others in your own hour of need. God bless you and I will talk about this with my grandsons.
February 25, 2012
My prayers are with you and your family,God bless you in many ways.I am so very sorry for your loss.
February 25, 2012
I'm signing this because you asked us to. Thank you for sharing your deepest feelings with us about Spencer and being so open about alcohol and the heartache of suicide. Peace be with you. Linda from Ohio
February 25, 2012
Amazing... with tears in my eyes I hold your words deep in my heart and will pass them on not only to my own children, but also to all that I can reach. I am truely sorry that you and any other parent of suicide has to go through what you are suffering through now. Your words are overwhelmingly true and powerful and yet it amazes me that we (society) have let it get this bad and not done anything about it. Thank you for parents everywhere. Your words have truely touched my heart... Lisa Wheelock
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. The loss of a young soul lost in a moment of dispair is heartwrenching. May the Lord give you peace.
February 25, 2012
Seupel family...Beautiful words from a beautiful mother to a wonderful son ...Spencer's passing tragically has reminded me of all the young people that I have had in my classes and athletic teams who have also taken their lives (20+) over the past 45 years...My heart is so heavy right now...My prayers to our Lord and Savior for your son and my students, will hopefully ease a little of the burden for all of us.
Blessings and much love from an old teacher from Lakewood, Wa
Sincerely.. Mike Hanby
February 25, 2012
So sorry for your loss. He sounds very special indeed. To be an EMT and make such a difference in others' lives at his young age, that really does mean something. Thank you for sharing his story with us. Sending prayers.
February 25, 2012
February 25, 2012
I know the pressures that children are under these days. I am praying for Spencer and all the kids who don't feel accepted. My heart goes out to his familyand all who knew and loved him!
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss.To lose a loved one in this way is one of the hardest things in life one goes through,I have felt that pain all too many times.I truly hope you can find peace in the thought your sharing his story will prevent other families from going through such a tragedy. May God bless you and your family now and in the future.
February 25, 2012
A friend of mine did the same thing a few weeks before him. Her obit is right next to his. Such a tragady I wish they knew thier pain was only temporary ours is alot longer. I pray that his story will help to save some one else. My heart is with you. Please if you see sombody having a hard time with life put your hand on them and let them know life does get better. Even if its a stranger you don't know, share hope.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for trying to raise awareness in the midst of your pain. My continued thoughts and prayers are with you.
February 25, 2012
I can't even imagine your grief and please know I am keeping you in my prayers. I am so sorry this happened. Thank you for sharing your sad story.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing this with us. I have 2 teenage daughters and I will share this with them.
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss...there is no greater pain a parent can suffer then the loss of a child. The words you wrote about Spencer were beautiful, Thank you for being so strong during your time of loss. I can not put into words the sorrow I feel in my heart for you and your family. Prayers for you and your loved ones.
February 25, 2012
I wish to extend my deepest condolences to Spencer's family. May God keep you all in his hands.
February 25, 2012
My prayers are with you and your family, and Spencer may he be with God.You're a strong mother,stronger than I if it were me.I have 3 daughters party wknder's I ask God to over mine too.
February 25, 2012
What a beautiful Tribute to such an extraordinary young man. Even in death, through this story, Spencer may just save a life which is what he loved to do helping others. Thank you so much for sharing this story.
February 25, 2012
Thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
February 25, 2012
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I know the pain you are in because my son, Jason , 23 yrs. old took his life Sept.19,11 which was just 2 hrs. before my birthday. He struggled with alcohol,drugs, and depression. He was at my house and said how hard life is and I thought I was saying the right things but I failed him. He was dead 30 min. later in front of my house. I struggle with the guilt the most and the pain is unbearable, but Jason believed in Jesus so I know he is in Heaven and at peace. He no longer suffers from any problems. This is the only thing that brings me comfort. I believe that God has given me some signs that Jason is with Him and is ok. I pray that you too, will see some things that will cause you to say, WOW!! Thank You God! Thank you for writing all that you did. You are so right, we all need to do so much more to help our young people feel loved and worthy. I look back now with nothing but regrets. We will see our boys again someday and then there will be no more pain and tears.
February 25, 2012
My daughter has been accepted at a very large, "hard-to-get-in-to" college. I worry everyday that she will fall prey to the temptations that all teens face. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so, so, sorry for your loss. I will talk to my daughter about the dangers of alcohol and, more importantly, the danger of not seeking help. I hope that you find peace.
February 25, 2012
What a beautiful legacy you have left your son. I know all to well the despair of losing a loved one to suicide. My younger brother took his life 5 yrs. ago May of this year. I have never felt such loss and no words can describe the emptiness I felt that fateful day. He battled addiction as did Spencer and our only hope can be that others who read this will be touched as I have and decide that life is precious and there is help out there. To my little brother and to Spencer rest in peace precious ones and may the peace and comfort of the Heavenly Father console your family and friends always~~
February 25, 2012
I am sorry for your loss. I pray God will give you peace in this time of grief. I wanted to share I too attempted suicide a few years back. I was given the help necessary to recover from this incident. I have since, with the help of God, been able to help others when they are hurting.
Thank you for sharing your experience so others can seek the help before it is too late. Blessings to you.
February 25, 2012
Thank you for sharing...I know this could not be easy for you to do. I will share this with as many people as I can. I remember being young and thinking along these lines..thankfully I did not act on my impulse. May you find comfort in knowing that with your loss, sharing as you are may save many families from the same fate. Stay strong and know I will keep you in my prayers.
February 25, 2012
thank you for your story it helped me to recognise that actions you think a person you love will never take can take that route due to alchol and now is a time in my life i needed to realize that thank you again
February 24, 2012
My thought goes out to you and your family. You could have not said it better and I love and felt every pain as a mother and knowing what you are going though. I was also one of those not by drinking by overdosing and I always talk to my children what I had done and for them to talk to me when they ever feel this way. They have me and know the feeling. I had nomore or no understanding. I pray for you,your son my he rest in peace now and for you to find peace. We as parent should do more for others. Blessed Be!
E.Delarosa
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your lost. I know exactly what u are going trought I lost my 5 yr old son 8 years ago. It breaks ur heart in a million pieces, That pain is so strong that it will only make u a stronger person. We will never for get our precious son's they will always live in our hearts. Just remember we now have our special angel always with us. Before my son Christian passed I was afraid of dying, Now I am looking foward to the day i get to hold him once again!!!!!!!!!My prayers are with u and your family.
February 24, 2012
May god bless your family and those families that are dealing with loved ones with issues. praying for you
February 24, 2012
Thanks for sharing with such honesty and candor. I am sharing this with my teenage daughter who suffers from depression and anxiety. God bless you and bring you peace. XO
February 24, 2012
As the mother of two sons...18 and 23...one just finished college and the other beginning college in the fall...my heart aches for you. This beautiful tribute to your son will save someone else's son's life. If it is my son, I thank you. I will share this with my sons and their friends. May you always feel God's Love, Grace and Mercy wrapped around you.
February 24, 2012
What a beautiful and touching eulogy as it tells the story of your sons life and in a way that we get to know him as well. I am so very sorry for all of the struggles that your son endured and for the loss of his life. May god bless you and your family.
February 24, 2012
Heartfelt condolences to the family. May God give your heart peace and comfort. The scriptures from the bible gives us hope. Rev 21:4 says; "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away."
February 24, 2012
thank you for sharing spencer's story i will print it and share it with many he will be remembered you are in my prayers
February 24, 2012
Beautiful. I am so very sorry for your loss.
February 24, 2012
God bless you and your family during this most difficult time. Your brave and touching obituary will, no doubt, affect the lives of many. I am so very sorry for your loss.
February 24, 2012
Although your light has faded it's last spark will light up the lives of so many others. Even a bad choice can affect others positively by learning not to make the same mistake.
February 24, 2012
Prayers that the Lord will hold you and your family in the palm of his hand.I read this on facebook and wish everyone with a child would read it and keep a copy of it.You have even in your grief helped save a lot o f young lives.God bless you all
February 24, 2012
I am so very sorry for your Great loss... You, Your Beautiful Spencer, and Your Loving Your Family, will Forever be in my thoughts and Prayers.
~ I read your heart-felt story to both of my boys ~ I want to thank you full heartedly for sharing. I know this was not easy express...
With My Deepest Sympathy;
February 24, 2012
My heartfelt condolences go out to you & your family! I lost a sister to suicide,she thought she was a burden, which is was not true, by god's grace i had a few friends that tried but didn't succeed, i pray for God's strength & comfort to be with you!
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you are doing is going to help other parents and children who struggle with depression and alcohol addiction. It is a serious issue that needs to be discussed regularly with your children when they will listen, start young! Listen to your children and talk with them about sign of depression. My heart goes out to you and your family at this difficult time.
Julia, Chatham, IL
February 24, 2012
My brother took his life, too. It was many years ago but the ache will never go away. Please accept my sincere and heartfelt sympathy and compassion at this time and know that I understand your pain. I cry for you.
February 24, 2012
If an obituary can ever be called "beautiful", this is it. My condolences to your family. Your writing will, no doubt, help inspire each one of us who have read it to be a better person. I am a pediatrician and would love to share some excerpts of this with my families (with permission, of course). God bless.
February 24, 2012
I am sorry for your loss. May the lord ease your pain and may you find comfort knowing your son's spirit will always be kept alive in your loving memories.
February 24, 2012
I did not know your son, but my mom was so moved by his obituary in the Freeman that she sent it to me. You write so eloquently about your son, he was obviously so cherished by you and I am sure he felt that love from his family and friends every day. I hold you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. You deliver a strong message in your poignant words which I hope will resonate with everyone, young or old, far and wide.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry to read of your son's death. My family has also been touched by this type of loss. We hope that your story can be a warning to young people as we have tried to make ours. God's love and peace for you.
February 24, 2012
As a mother, I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through right now. Please know that people are seeing the obituary, seeing Spencer, and he is going to make a difference in a lot of lives. Thank you for sharing his story with us. God bless and I hope you find some semblance of peace.
February 24, 2012
Such beautiful words paying homage to your beautiful son. Thank you for sharing his story, and your own. In the face of this unimaginable loss, please know that you and your family are in the thoughts and prayers of thousands of mothers and sons. I wish you and your family peace, and hope you might find solace in the certain knowledge that your words have saved another family from such unbearable loss. Godspeed to your son, Mrs. Seupel-and love and thanks to you.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss.
I have been feeling this pain for almost a year now since I lost my husband. I wish I could have had your words in me when my husband maybe needed them.
"Every human needs to feel special, to feel that he or she belongs as a valued member, to feel appreciated and honored by others."
My husband although not a teen anymore by any means always had a hardtime feeling like he belonged or was special.
Alcohol was his solution but he didn't win.
I am praying for you and your family to help you get through this.
February 24, 2012
thank you for sharing your beautiful son's story with all of us. I am so sorry for your loss. for the loss to all mankind of a beautiful soul.
February 24, 2012
My heart goes out to you and your family. If just one person is saved after reading this...then Spencer did not die in vain. God bless you.....
February 24, 2012
God Be With You All .
February 24, 2012
Thank you for that eloquent eulogy of an empathetic human being. We are lucky that we don't lose more young people because of drugs and alcohol and one more thing. Young people do not understand that no matter how hopeless their situation looks, it will change; that is the cycle of life. Young people do not have the life skills and experience to know this. We are grateful that you have the compassion to share Spencer's story. We grieve with you. GGC /San Diego
February 24, 2012
I am a local High Falls mom of 3 teens. One in college and 2 still at RVHS. The pressure these kids are under is greater than I can even imagine. The pressure of alochol and drugs on the youngsters is a sad and unbearable thought. My youngest is 15 and a freshmen. Though I am fortunate that he has stayed away from it, maybe a blessing that his dad is an alcoholic and he has already seen so much hurt, but I know so may that use the drugs as escapes. Its a daily occurence anymore at the school. I'm so sorry the effect it has had on your family.

I found this in a co workers office last night....
My promise to my children... I am not your friend. I am your Mother. I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare, and hunt you down like a bloodhound when needed because I LOVE YOU! When you understand that, I will know you are a responsible adult. You will NEVER find someone who loves, prays, cares, and worried about you more than I do.

I made a copy for each of my kids to put in their wallets. So they always know, no matter where they are I am always here to be a mom, with an open ear. I may not always agree or be happy with them but I AM ALWAYS HERE....

I just hope the conversation you had that last time, where Spencer was so excited and enthusiastic, gives you peace.... thoughts with you all...
February 24, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with the family. God Bless you!
February 24, 2012
As a teacher of high school seniors, I plan to share your moving tribute with my students. I hope you find peace and healing.
February 24, 2012
May God Bless your family. I am so sorry for your loss and appreciate that you shared your story with us.
February 24, 2012
Sorry for your loss. I hope time will give you some peace.
February 24, 2012
You are a brave and lovely woman-I am so sorry for your loss-- I live in State College and hear of numerous alcohol-related deaths of young people at Penn State every year. My neighbor is an emt and she has shared that for every death there are many many close calls... I am praying that Spencer's passing makes student rethink their risky behaviors. I pray God's peace for you and your family...
February 24, 2012
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Such a tragedy and lesson we all must learn from in such a painful way. You are wonderful strong Mother , Peace be with your soul~ One Mother to another~ Thank you for your Honesty~
February 24, 2012
This was devastating to read. It is beyond imagining how hard it was to write. Thank you for raising your voice above the pain. We often talk about alcohol with our boys and now Spencer will be there with us...
February 24, 2012
my condolancs to the Seupel family.....Thank you for sharing his story....sadly he is not alone....maybe one of the greatest things that will be accomplished is sharing his story and letting people know that it is OKAY to seek help....and that alcoholism is a disease....alcoholics are not bad people....they are wonderful people actually.....Mrs. Seupel.....you are a beautiful person for sharing this and celebrating Spencer's life....brave....may God give you strength to cont. celebrating Spencer's life.....I am truly sorry for your loss....
Warmest regards...
A mother wife and grandmother who is a grateful to be alive....
February 24, 2012
I just want you to know I KNOW you will see your beloved son again and everything will be ok. You will not know, on this earth, how many lives his has touched and perhaps saved. May God comfort and bless you.
February 24, 2012
I know words can't express how you may feel . Im so sorry for your lost. Myself as a mother know that any mom will trade places with you kids anytime .Thanks for shareing his story. Im sending many blessing .
February 24, 2012
Very powerful and so true..Bless you and you're family, most of all bless you're son who is now at rest.
February 24, 2012
With deepest sympathy.I pray tht your family be held in GODS LOVING ARMS.AND BLESS YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY.R.I.P. SPENCER
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. I have an older brother who also took his own life in a drunken state... I have read this to all 7 of my children on top of knowing about their uncle...You are in my deepest thoughts and prayers
February 24, 2012
I am truly sorry for your loss. I have been in the same dark place as Spencer; fighting against depression for years. I will not give in, and I will keep Spencer in a special place in my heart. ~ Someone battling depression in Rhode Island
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss..Thank you for sharing your painful store.. I hope that your family know that this will help others.. I hope that your family's memories help you through these difficult time..
February 24, 2012
This obituary touches deep within my soul. I admire your inner strength and eloquent words. May God comfort you during this most difficult time. Thank you so much for sharing your story, as it most definitely has the ability to save the lives of others.
February 24, 2012
What a beautiful young man. Thank you for sharing his story. May God bless you and your family in this time of loss.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
February 24, 2012
What a brave and beautiful obit. I promise to read this to both of my boys.Sending strength to this mom from another mother in Canada. Needed to let u know....you will make the difference in lives thru this experience by showing your honesty.
Hugs
February 24, 2012
Eventhough its a very sad and awful thing that happened to your son and family. It will help someone else in the future. I hope this gets around and helps someone like Spencer. I am a mother and I do not wish this on my worse enemy. My prayers go out to you and your family.
February 24, 2012
My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. Thank you for sharing this, I know it was hard. I shared this with my son.
February 24, 2012
So sorry for your loss.
February 24, 2012
My sympathy is with your and your family,i lost a husband to suicide all you can do is hope they are finding the peace they could not find in this life,sometimes even with help it is too late as i had encountered hold on to your good memories.
February 24, 2012
Thank You for sharing.Bless your heart.
February 24, 2012
I am very sorry for the loss of your son.I almost lost my daughter 3 years ago.If I would have found her any later,I don't think she would be here to be a mother to her son. She too was drinking and was depressed with her life situation,being a single mother with no help,except from me.She overdosed on her own medicine.Thank God I found her in time. She is doing great now and is a fabulous mother and is in a great place in her life. I'm sorry your son won't have a chance for that.God Bless you and your family.
February 24, 2012
May God comfort you in your time of loss and Bless you for your courage at such a painful time. Your memories of your lovely son have surely touched people everywhere. Thank you and Bless you for helping so many others. A mother of 3 college students.
February 24, 2012
I don't know your son, but i have a son. I appreciate your thoughtfulness through this unimaginable time. People need to be kinder, more patient and much more compassionate!! I will keep you in my prayers even though we have never met. Thank you again for sharing your story!!
February 24, 2012
You have saved many future lives by writing this...may you find peace in this time of sorrow.
February 24, 2012
I don't know Spencer or his family, but I can understand there pain. My mom and dad lost 2 children and I know how much pain they felt. God will now take care of Spencer and he will always be with you.
Your family will always be in my prayers
RIP Spencer
February 24, 2012
My deepest condolences for the loss of your beloved son, Spencer. I can't imagine the pain. I know very well the devastating consequences that alcohol can cause in our loved ones. Alcohol use is portrayed in the media as a way of finding happiness, love and the acceptance of others, but we moms who love our children with the deepest and purest love know it is not true. May you know and feel the comfort of many who are praying for you and your family.

Marta Iloff
February 24, 2012
My heart broke reading your eloquent words about your beloved son. As a mother I cannot tell you how much I admire your strength in eulogizing your son so beautifully. I do not think I would have such strength.
I have a son a few years older than Spencer. He has never had problems with alochol. He is a very wonderful son, but suffers from depression and self-esteem.
He has made remarks in the past the world would be better off without him. It kills me he feels this way. We have several heart to heart talks and I work hard at trying to build the self-esteem of my beautiful son. It is so hard sometimes to make them see how much value they are and how important they are to others and the world.
Your words about Spencer make me vow to try even harder.
Thank you so much for sharing such a wonderful young man. My heart goes out to you.
February 24, 2012
R.I.P.
February 24, 2012
ALTHOUGH I DO NOT KNOW YOUR FAMILY I FEEL THAT THE TIME YOU SPENT IN YOUR SORROW WERE THOUGHTS NOT COMPOSED ONLY AT THE TIME BUT OVER THE YEARS. YOU HAVE TOUCHED MANY, WHICH IS WHAT I'M SURE YOU WANTED TO DO. WHEN YOU PUT YOUR HEAD DOWN AT NIGHT TO SLEEP, KNOW YOU DID ALL A PARENT COULD DO YOUR ANGEL IS AT PEACE, FINALLY, AND YOU NEED NOT WORRY ABOUT HIM AS YOU KNOW WERE HE IS. BLESS YOU. ANONYMOUS
February 24, 2012
I admire you for your strength and encouring words. I have lost my son and know the pain your are going through. May God watch over you and may you someday relize the message you sent will save another mother and child from suffering such pain. Thank you.
February 24, 2012
I am so grief striken by this obit...I know that this is a part of healing for the living that will dearly miss Spencer and for all the others that have lost a loved one because of feeling worthless...I can't agree more that while we have the chance to make a family member feel loved and special, we just better do it and think about the consequences of not doing it...This is a wake up call for all of us and Thank You so very much for sharing your story about your wonderful son Spencer Watson Seupel...Yes he is finally at peace and in God's hands..I will pray for your whole family and please keep in mind that God promises to step in soon and make all things right...Very Sincerely Yours
February 24, 2012
So very sorry for your loss...having been thru this i know what you are going thru. you will be in our thoughts and prayers. speaking of your son and sharing memories is wonderful healing.
February 24, 2012
I want to tell you what kind of mother you are and what you meant to Spencer. Just by the words you have shared and opened your soul to the world says many volumns. I believe God created good people we make poor choices. We have too many outside influences that we come incontact with daily. We as humans have to remember we are just human and we do make mistakes. Your son was on the right path he just got caught up in the wrong mission. I want to extend my thoughts and prayers to you his mother only you know the real Spencer. Just reflect on the memories that he made with you and his family. His life will spare someone elses our words are powerful and what is said never comes back void. If Spencer saves one Life from sucide your mission has been accomplished. Thank You Mother for all your powerful words.
February 24, 2012
When I read your story of your son, I couldn't help but remember my dear brother who at the age of 18, also took his own life. Just as Spencer, Mitchell struggled at times with life but it was drugs and alcohol that ultimately drove him to take his own life. Our family struggles to this day with his unfortunate choice. We miss him dearly and my mother never recovered. She is with him now.

I am so sorry for your loss and admire your courage and appreciate you sharing your story of your beautiful, outstanding son.

Maybe this story will save a life!!! Tomorrow is another day.

Lynda Blunt, Kennebunk, ME
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss, it is the words of wise mother who vowed to love unconditional and these words say it all. Your son knows the power you hold in your heart and words. May these words be the power and strength others will need and have to hold on too.
February 24, 2012
My sincere condolences to this mans' entire family. I know of what you feel. I lost my son last April. He just could not cope with the pressures of life and alcohol seemed to be his out..he suffered from age 12 and we thought he was starting to get his life back. You just never know when a loved one will be taken and I pray that your son and mine find peace sitting at the right hand of our Lord.
Rest In Peace Spencer...
February 24, 2012
Through tears, I made it through Spencer's obituary. What a courageous thing to write. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is unimaginable. You used this to try and help others and I truly hope it does as it was very powerful. My God surround you and your family with a peace only He can give. God Bless you and God Bless Spencer.
February 24, 2012
Words can not express my sorrow at the loss of your son. He was a great young man.
Sincerely,
Pamela
February 24, 2012
I am sorry for your loss. I ocassionally look at the obituaries and ran across your son's obituarty. Your words are so true. I pray that God grants you the strength to keep your son's memory alive. God Bless you and your family.

A. Diaz
Las Cruces, New Mexico
February 24, 2012
Thank you for your absolute courage to share your thoughts at this most difficult time...positive thoughts of strength and peace go out to you. Your son sounds like an extraordinary individual...like his mom...
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your families loss. I too know what you are going thru. I lost my special daughter Amy by suicide 2 1/2 years ago. (she was Bipolar and the Drs were changing her meds and the new meds were not working @ all). Some times the hurt is still so painful, But only with Gods grace are my son and myself managing to continue our lives. So please know that your son is in a very special place now and your family will be in my prayers.
February 24, 2012
This has touched me. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Jennifer Weaver-29-Florida
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing such deep and personal thoughts and experiences. It must have been very difficult and painful for you. My deepest condolences. -An anonymous parent
February 24, 2012
Prayers and condolences for you and your family. This "Final Act" is so familiar with my family and friends. I will add your son's name to our Prayer List, as we enter the SweatLodge this evening.
February 24, 2012
i am very sorry for your loss.as a mother i just can't imagine the loss of a child.i will pray for your family.i will also pass your story on.i hope it will be of comfort to you to know that you will help save a life.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for our loss. Just two weeks ago we lost 2 young people we know, they both took their own life. I worry about one of my sons. HIs life style brings about many challenges. I pray for your family. As you said your son is finally at rest. I pray that you will find comfort in our Lord.
Sunny
February 24, 2012
I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. I recently found out my cousin has passed away under similar circumstances last week. No note was left behind - he was only 27. Not only is there grief to contend with but questions, and regrets, and so many thoughts of things unsaid, and things not noticed. How could we have not noticed? And then anger, at society for expecting males to "man up" and not identify pains and emotions.
I have been inconsolable for days. I could not even begin to fathom the pain that comes from losing your own child.
God bless you for sharing your story and your tribute to your son.
I take solace in the fact that my cousin now has the peace that he so desperately desired.
February 24, 2012
To the Family of Spencer Watson Seupel, my heart breaks for you. May the love & beautiful memories of Spencer comfort you always. I pray your message will save others from such a tragedy.
C. Clingman
Billings, MT
February 24, 2012
Thank you Spencer's family for sharing this with others. I am a mother of two girls in a rural Arkansas community where drinking is the "in thing" for many teens. This story could be our own. I hope by sharing this it will prevent the pain that your family is going through. God Bless you for being a hero to others.
February 24, 2012
I add my thoughts and prayers to those you have already received and those that will come. I am deeply sorry for your loss, and deeply appreciative that you have chosen to reach out to others in your son's memory.
February 24, 2012
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss...You and your family will be in my prayers..
February 24, 2012
We will never know how many lives will be touched and saved by your eloquent words honoring your lovely son. But I just know that it will happen. In your pain you have given such a gift to others to be aware, to listen and to act. Those saved lives, whether in body or in spirit, will be Spencer's legacy. God bless Spencer and your entire family.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story. My son is 14 and threatened to kill himself a couple times over the last year. We got him help right away. I did not want him to become another statistic. I'm so sorry for the loss you must be feeling.
February 24, 2012
I did not know spencer but, i feel his familys pain my husband killed himself at the age of 38th. i will always keep your son in my prayers and i thank you for sharing with everyone your story.
February 24, 2012
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am a grad student now in Philly that grew up in State College so I understand the whole party scene and everything that goes a long with it. It truly is tragic and words cannot express how sorry I am to hear of this but you truly touched me with those words. I am in tears as I'm writing this, so thank you and know that you and your sons memory have touched my life. God bless
February 24, 2012
Your story has touched many including me. I have children and would like to thank you for sharing your story. I will keep Spencer's memory alive by always talking to my children about issues and hopefully they will encourage their friends and it goes on and on. May the Lord continue to give you strength & be with your family. God Bless
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing your amazing and painful story with the world. I have a 17 year old daughter that is already preparing for collge and has expressed fear of peer pressures. I defintely want her to read this. It so moving, even though I never met your son or your family, you have expressed what all parents think but are afraid to voice. I am so sorry for your precious lose, and pray that God grants you and yours the serenity and strength to surpass your lose of Spencer, who can now rest in peace. He is now part of all of us and will never be forgotten. God Bless.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing. I think alcoholism among young adults is just not taken seriously. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. You expressed so beautifully and truthfully who your so was, and how he developed into a talented person with great potential to be the kind of physician we are so grateful to find. Though I have never met you or your son, I feel I know him based on your portrayal of him. He reminds my of my own children who I worried over for the same reasons, the intelligence, sensitivity, and the struggle to fit in, Rarely do I read anything that strikes home so precisely. I shall offer a little prayer and make a donation for the cause of your wishes. Thank you for sharing such an extremely important message. I hope your heart heals steadily as the days pass.
February 24, 2012
To Spencer's Family:

Beloved brother Taylor, Inspiring mother Celia, Caring father Herbert, and Precious grandmother Ms. Genie Watson.

Like many others, I too, do not know you. However, the descriptive words before each name is what it's all about. To encourage and find common ground in each and everyone of us, young and old. May we all be a blessing with our words (that's where it starts). I give you a standing ovation to your most heeded and motivated challenge to our world. Indeed, trust Spencer is proud of you.

May our GOOD LORD comfort you all, only HE knows how, during this heartfelt time and the days to come.

With all my LOVE, RESPECT and SINCERITY.
February 24, 2012
I may not know Spencer or his Family but I just wanted to tell the Family that I am so sorry for your loss, you will stay in my Prayers for a very, very long time. Just take CARE of YOUR SELVES. RIP Spencer. :(
February 24, 2012
I am very sorry for your tragic loss.
February 24, 2012
Thank for your courage to tell us your story. I am sure you will miss your son terribly but know in your heart that he will forever be with you wherever you go. Peace to you and your family.
Susan M Stoyshin - Tecumseh, Ont
February 24, 2012
You don't know me, but thank you for sharing with us. Going thought this must be hard but I pray that the family focus on the good that he has done. Memories is all we have of our loved one so sharing them with others help to heal us. Thank you again
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. I will hold Spencer and his story close. I hope that others can be reached and brought back from the brink with these words. Thank you for sharing Spencer with us. God Bless!
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story of Spencer. We never hear family members speak of the aftermath. Thank You for making me think.
February 24, 2012
Leaving work last evening I traveled past Copeland Funeral home & said a silent prayer for the family of the person "that I did not know, but~~~I knew was truly cared about"~~I knew he was cared about due to the QUANTIITY of vechicles {+ 2 buses}. Please know that your family is in my thoughts & PRAYERS.No words can fully express my sadness & concern for your situation.
February 24, 2012
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing the story of your son Spencer. No bond is as great as that between a mother and child. No one really truly understands that concept until they have had to live through their child or children on drugs, alcohol, or drugs and alcohol. I know this feeling all to well! Late at night when the phone rings...you are scared to answer it. You always wonder when that awful phone call will come. I couldn't agree more that our society needs to learn accepance and tolerance. Where I live everyone puts a label on them, they have a bad reputation and know one cares. The government need to quit spending our money over seas, and help the young people here in The United States of America. My heart aches for you and your family! I have not yet had to go through what you are having to go through, but I am sure my day is coming. May God Bless and Keep you!
February 24, 2012
Thank You for your courage, love - and opening up your heart in sharing a very strong message in your time of sorrow - God Bless You and Spencer
February 24, 2012
I'm so sorry, and I feel your
pain. My 17 year old son, David Mason, passed away on
Dec. 4th. He too had goals,
dreams, and he was the most compassionate kid. He truly cared about people, yet he had pain that he wouldn't share with
me, because he was "tough".
He was a part of me and I
could feel it. He went to a party
and made a fatal decision to
ingest gel out of a pain
patch "fentanyl". He went to sleep and didn't wake up. Fentenyl is 100 times more powerful than morphine.
The medical examiner told me
he clearly didn't know what he
was messing with. So tragic!!
I admire your strength to write
about this epidemic that's completely out of control. David's obit was short, the funeral director had to do it for
me. I will keep your family in
my prayers. This pain is unreal
unbearable. The only thing I
am able to do for now is cry and pray for strength to continue. I have a 22 year old
son away at college that I need
to be here for. I will be sharing
Spencer's obit with him. Again,
I'm truly sorry and you will continually be in my prayers.
February 24, 2012
May God be with you during this time of pain. Thank you for sharing. Suicide hurts everyone. Many people are going through difficult times and have thoughts of giving up.I'm sure Spencers story will help them through it. May God comfort you in your time of loss.
February 24, 2012
My condolences to you and your family on Spencer's tragic death and your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and views. They will no doubt make an impact.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing this. I have a 6 year old daughter who is over weight and has expressed several times her feelings of worthlessness. To know that I have time to show her how much I love her and give her what she needs...if its just more hugs. Thank you
February 24, 2012
Thank you for your words. I did not know your son or you but your wods are the truth. I have sent this on to my daughter who is a freshman in college and has had her share of saddness and self esteem issues like so many teens and adult teens. Thank you.
February 24, 2012
I want to applaud Mrs. Seupel for writing such a moving and honest obit for her son. This IS one that I'm going to share with my own 16 year old this weekend, as he sounds very much like Spencer. I pray for your family and for the website in hopes that it reaches many young people in time to save their lives and help them through whatever issues they may encounter. God Bless you and your family.
February 24, 2012
Celia and Taylor,
I knew Taylor at RVHS and I know you through your writing. I treasure this piece and know that the ripples from its reading will go to change the waters of dispare so many young people find themselves immersed in. I will read it to my students because the message is for all of us to carry forward in his memory. Thank you Celia you are a touchstone for all of us that guide and love our young people. Taylor you have my caring support.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing your story of Spencer. He will now and forever remain close in our hearts too. I will share Spencer's story with my seven children and seven grandchildren in hopes that Spencer's story will keep them alive and strong enough to battle the many vices that will no doubt present themselves in their lives. God bless you and your family.
February 24, 2012
My deepest sympathy on your profound loss. As the mother of a son who is having difficulty in finding his way in this very complicated and oftentimes unforgiving world, I know a little bit about what you must have gone through. There is water coming out of all our eyes. Peace be with you and your family.
February 24, 2012
My sincere condolences at your loss. May God give you strength to get through this most difficult time. Thank you for sharing your story in an effort to help others. I have passed it on to my daughter in college. Sincerely, L Peterson
February 24, 2012
I know the pain that you are going through. I pray for GOD to give you HIS strength and HIS guindance in the days ahead.
February 24, 2012
May God hold you close during this sad and difficult time. Thank you for sharing Spencer's story.
February 24, 2012
Praying that God will hold you up in your time of loss. As a parent who lost her son to an auto accident it does not matter how we loose our children it just matters they are not with us. May God bless you and your family in your time of hurt. Just know that he is resting in God's arms and will not have to worry about anything anymore.God's blessings to you.
February 24, 2012
What a beautiful lady to share her heart so openly with the world. Hold on to God's hand. I feel your tears in these words. Prayers to you and your family.
February 24, 2012
Mrs. Seupel, thank you so much for speaking out about Spencer. What a beautiful story. My son committed suicide when he was sixteen. It has been twenty two years this month. He was so much like your son, very tender hearted and compasionate. People do forget that we all need help or chose to ignore each other. My son had a very soft spot in his heart for homeless people, he always said they were angels and it was Gods way to see how kind we were to each other. My prayers are with you and your family.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry to hear of a loss this way. I know it is from a very real but temporary impulse. My hear6t goes out to thye family.
February 24, 2012
Dear Celia and all of Spencer's family and friends.

My deepest sympathy to all of you and may Spencer rest in peace.

To Celia, I too feel the pain you are going thru because my 36 year old son took his own life November 30, 2010. He didn't do it thru drinking but he was bi-polar. No matter how each person decides to end their life it is so painful when they have succeeded. Only then do the families and friends find out how many people loved your child and the child didn't realize this before dying. As a mother I believe we feel the pain the most because we gave birth to our children, they grew inside us and we felt every kick, and every kick was so special. Everyday, every minute of everyday I miss my son and wished he would have come and talked to me, but I can't change what happened. To you Celia, you have written a beautiful obituary for Spencer, especially in the middle of so much grief. God Bless You.
Phyllis
February 24, 2012
My heart goes out to your family. Know your Spencer is with God now. Cherish your memories. Bless you .
February 24, 2012
TO THE FAMILY OF SPENCER SEUPEL: I DID NOT KNOW SPENCER BUT I JUST READ HIS HEART WARMING OBITUARY. IT GAVE ME A LOT TO THINK ABOUT. I AM A MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER AND APPRECIATE THE REMINDERS. LOSING A LOVED ONE IN DEATH IS VERY DIFFICULT BUT MORE SO WHEN THAT PERSON IS YOUR CHILD. WHEN YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY, PLEASE READ IN YOUR BIBLE THESE SCRIPTURES (JOHN CHAPTER 5: VERSES 28 AND 29, PSALM 37 VERSE 29 AND REVELATION CHAPTER 21 VERSES 3 AND 4). I FEEL THAT THEY WILL BRING YOU SOME COMFORT BECAUSE THEY SHOW US THAT YOUR SON HAS THE HOPE OF BEING RESURRECTED BACK TO A PARADISE EARTH WHERE THERE WILL BE NO MORE PAIN, NO PHYSICAL PAIN OR EMOTIONAL PAIN. PLEASE KNOW THAT MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU. SINCERELY , MISS IRIS BROWN
February 24, 2012
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
February 24, 2012
I want to thank you for sharing about your son's life with us. I know he is in God's hands now & will never hurt again. I'm praying that you story will stop at least one person for this. I will keep you & your family in my prayers. God's love to you all.
February 24, 2012
I would like to thank you for having the courage to say what was very necessary to be said concerning all of the "Spencer's" of this world; and there are so many that need to be reached. Every parent, brother, sister or friend needed to read this obituary. I pray the peace that only God can give be imparted to you and your family, from one mother to another.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing and for reminding others to talk openly about the risk of over drinking. I don't know the exact number of times I amazed Dr.s by walking out of the ER after almost doing what Spencer did. I have been sober for several years but I haven't discussed this topic with my children. I will now, Thank you again
February 24, 2012
Thank you for your story. I too have a college "adult" child with an alcohol problem and as hard as I try there are so many people enabling her that I fear for her life (or someone else's) everyday. I do wish people would stop and think about how they are enabling someone with a drinking problem and what that might lead to. I just happened to run across this story when I really needed encouragement to keep pursuing help for my child. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
February 24, 2012
So very sorry for your loss. I, too, shared your very moving story with my 21 yr old college junior and my 28 yr old daughter who now has two children. I have also heard that a local high school teacher is having her english class write an essay about Spencer's obituary because she thought it was so important for young people to read. It was and....thank you.
February 24, 2012
I am amazed at your strength. I'm sure this only comes from truly knowing, understanding and loving Spencer. I've read each of your words and my heart truly aches. I am so sorry.
February 24, 2012
They say that when you drink alcohol your true self comes out. It is so heartbreaking that Spencer's true self was in such dispair. He tried valiantly to hide it. May Spencer Rest in the Peace he sought after in life.
February 24, 2012
I know it was hard to write such a beautiful memorial about Spencer's life when you are in so much pain God bless you and comfort you and I pray God keep his loving arms around you. Thank you.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing your life and Spencer's with us. It is a lesson to be learned by everyone. I pray that God gives your family His peace to help you through this and beyond.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing and there by the grace of God go me and my Family. I will share this with my son. Thank you for being so brave. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
February 24, 2012
God Bless you and your family. My heart aches with you. I am also the survivor of a suicide. Cherish Spencer in your heart forever, and never let him go.Remember, when you feel alone, God will be there, He's never gone.
February 24, 2012
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
February 24, 2012
So very sorry for your loss. I too have been close to ending my life. You are so right in the fact that alcohol intensifies depression and despair. I hope through this that someone reads this and recognizes how alcohol can affect you. My prayers for peace are with you.
February 24, 2012
Thank you for sharing your touching story and conveying the need for love and compassion in out society. Renae (Clinton Corners NY)
February 24, 2012
Thank you for writing such a beautiful piece. I hope it will help others. I am so very sorry that Spencer did not make it thru these tough years. I wish you moments of peace.

Ruth J. Hirsch
February 24, 2012
I don't know you or your family either but this touched me so much-I have a teenage daughter that I will show this to-Thank you for sharing-I can not say enough about how this impacted me!
February 24, 2012
GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND AS A MOTHER OF 3 TEENAGERS THIS IS BY FAR THE TRUEST MOST HEARTFELT WAY TO GIVE BACK AND KEEP YOUR WONDERFUL SON'S MEMORY ALIVE. THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS AND AS A NURSE ALSO WILL FOREVER SHARE THIS WITH MANY CHILDREN AS WELL AS PEOPLE IN GENERAL THIS COULD BE ANYONE OF US. WE WILL KEEP ALL OF YOU & SPENCER IN OUR PRAYERS ALWAYS.
February 24, 2012
Dear Mrs. Seupel, I dont know you but one thing we have in common is we are mothers. Your story is compelling and touching. I have been a children's advocate for more than 25 years. I work in the Mental Health area and will continue to advocate for service and attention for all in this area. My deepest sympathy to you and your family - you are in my prayers.
Sher Singh - System of Care, Orange County NY
February 24, 2012
I'm so sorry. Spencer, RIP.
February 24, 2012
I don't know you or you son but I feel your pain . My 38 year old son took his life on 8/12/11 of this year. He struggled so hard and was in and out of all the hospitals here in Columbus. No one seemed to really know his problems or could help him. He left behind two beautiful girls. I wish counselers would look at the whole picture not just that insurance only allows you so many days. My son who I miss so much might be here today.
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. I had Spencer in my Medical Terminology class this summer and he was an excellent student. He always stayed after class to ask questions and learn more about career paths in medicine. He was passionate, driven, and determined to succeed as an allied health professional. I know words cannot fill the void in your lives, but I did want to reach out and tell you how much I enjoyed having Spencer in my class. Sincerely, Lauren Kramer (University Park, PA)
February 24, 2012
My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. I'm a PSU Alum myself and know first hand the parties that go on. I have two preteen kids and pray that they will make the right choices and avoid the pitfalls of drugs and alcohol. May God bless you.
February 24, 2012
I am so so sorry for your loss. I didn't know Spencer, but, I am in absolute agreement with what you have said and am amazed that you have the courage to share Spencer's story with everyone. I hope that pray that your happy memories of Spencer and that love that you all shared with him can get you through this tragic time. I also hope and pray that his death may save someone else's life if people heed your words. God Bless you all!!!
February 24, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you for your courage to share.
February 24, 2012
You have given so much of yourself to speak about your son's life in this way and offer information about the tragedy of his death. Your strength is remarkable. I am so very sorry for your loss.
February 24, 2012
I did not know Spencer, but feel as if I do now, after reading your loving description. My heart goes out to his friends and family. Our society is, indeed, failing young people. We must each try a little bit harder to prevent such tragedies. Thank you for sharing your special insight at such a sad time.
February 24, 2012
I do not know Spencer or your family. A friend sent me the article you wrote about your son...I am a Penn State alum and a counselor and I have worked with far too many families grieving as you are...with your permission I would like to share your words with others as I counsel and conduct workshops...they are filled with pain but also such beauty and truth...I am so very sorry for your loss...
February 24, 2012
I will keep and share your courageous story. My condolences to Spencer's family.
February 24, 2012
Sorry about your loss it is 2:45a.m I just read about your loss.thank you!!! I will talk to my girls later today.RIP SPENCER WATSON SEUPEL !!!GOD BLESS ALL OF OUR CHILDREN AND YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
February 23, 2012
I did not know Spencer but was very moved by your words and the story of his life, which was too short. Words cannot tell you how my heart aches for you and your family...and for Spencer. As a school administrator, I have seen this tragedy occur too often. From what you have conveyed about Spencer, he would have been an outstanding doctor and would have been loved by his patients as he was by his friends and those who knew him. So sorry for your loss.
February 23, 2012
I knew Spencer back in Freshman year. He lived on my freshman floor (top floor Stuart Hall). We weren't the best of friends but he was a great person when not drunk. He and I pledged different fraternities in the same semester, and at times would ask each other how was our pledging. I'm sorry for your loss. I wish there was more I could do.
February 23, 2012
I am so very sorry for Spencer and for his grieving family. To all young people who read this..the world needs you. Life will not always be as it is this day. You grow, you become smarter and better able to cope with each day of life. You are loved. You are needed.
February 23, 2012
Thank you for being so real. Your willingness to share so many intimate details about Spencer's life with all of us is a gift in the truest sense. And I am amazed that, in the hour of your greatest loss, you have the generosity to offer these precious words and lessons to people you don't even know. May you be gifted with profound comfort and love in return. I think the power of your words just may have made Spencer immortal.
February 23, 2012
Thanks for publishing your letter in the Daily Collegian today. Your pain and wisdom and insight...and loss resonated through your amazing words. It motivated me to have a moment of silence for Spencer before class began.
February 23, 2012
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May the memories and warmth of Spencer's being live in your heart, and may you always be surrounded by love. God bless you and your family.
February 23, 2012
I am so sorry to hear Spencer past i remember playing lacrosse with him always making practice fun and he was always making people laugh if it wasnt for him i probably wouldnt still be playing lacrosse he was the best lacrosse player. rest in peace spencer
February 23, 2012
To Spencer's family and friends. I am so sorry for your loss. I didn't know Spencer but I wept yesterday as I read your heartfelt words. May Spencer remain lovingly in your hearts and minds and may you and your words be a positive force in preventing any more tragic deaths such as Spencer's.
February 23, 2012
Your story has changed me and how I feel about someone very close to me. Thank you so much. I am so sorry for your loss and pain you are feeling. I cannot imagine it. You are very special.
February 23, 2012
Dear Mrs. Seupel, first off my sincere condolences and sympathy at the terrible loss of Spencer. I am a Professor Emeritus at Penn State and your story hits very close to home in that I have seen too many students, especially Freshmen succumb to the drinking culture here. I hope more people will read your story of Spencer and give serious thought to the problem of student binge drinking.
February 23, 2012
I feel so deeply for your loss, and in this darkest hour, your words shed light on our culture. I too wish we could focus more on the mental health of ourselves and our youth, who internalize everything around them. I wish we could replace all of the false influences that we aspire to and compare ourselves to with the ultimate fulfillment of love for each other.
February 23, 2012
What a beautiful but sad story. My prayers to you & your family. Thank you for sharing, hopefully it will help someone else.
February 23, 2012
Thank you for sharing the story of your son Spencer and the loss you are experiencing. Your words will help many people and I thank you for having the courage to publish them.
February 23, 2012
I read what you wrote about losing your son and my heart just breaks for you and everyone who loved him. I also feel very bad for the young person who was your son's best friend, with whom the argument was had, prior to the tragedy. I am saying a prayer and lighting a candle for all of you. My condolences on your loss.
February 23, 2012
February 23, 2012
My son attempted suicide at 16. He now requires 24/7 care with a traumatic brain injury. I understand the loss and desire to "do something." Please understand that you are not alone in your hurt and reach out to others who have gone through this terrible ordeal. This is truly a tragedy. My prayers for your Family.
February 23, 2012
Your words are incredible. Spencer's story is something I will take with me everyday and consider on my weekends out to drink. I wish I had known him better.
February 23, 2012
I am very sorry for your profound loss. I read your son's story and I was deeply moved. I couldn't agree more that our society needs to learn how to practice acceptance and tolerance. I hope that your message is heard and shared because it could possibly save a life. May God be with you and your family.
February 23, 2012
I do not know you or your son but your beautiful words have touched me and your grief has brought me to my knees. I will pray for you and your family and may your son always live on in you.
February 23, 2012
Wow. I didn't even know the guy but I came across this obit through a posting on Twitter. How incredibly thoughtful and moving. I am terribly sorry for the family and I hope you find peace. Maybe it doesn't mean much to hear it from a stranger, but I think sharing Spencer's story in this way means his life was not lived in vain. No one should have to face pain like this alone - not Spencer, not now his loved ones. Thank you for sharing his wonderful story.
February 23, 2012
May your son rest in peace. I appreciate you sharing your story and will share it with my teenage daughters. May God bless you and be with you and your family now and always.
February 23, 2012
My family and I had the pleasure of meeting spencer two weeks before thon. My daughter and 7 students from penn state, including spencer, stayed at our house for the weekend. He was kind, polite and a pleasure to host. I am so very sorry for your loss and feel blessed that my family was able to meet him that weekend. We continue to keep your family in our thoughts and prayers.

karen kwiecinski, hillsborough, nj
February 23, 2012

I never had the good fortune to meet your extraordinary son but his precious gifts - kindness, humanity and his gentle spirit shone through your beautiful words. It those gifts of the universal positive qualities of the human spirit - our virtues - that must be cultivated in our schools, homes and places of work. The challenge lies in changing our culture from shame and punishment to viewing people in light of their innate nobility and using bad behavior as an opportunity for growth of character qualities. There are proven ways to build self-esteem that also focus on responsibility and accountability. We must view people as separate from the behavior. Love the person. Acknowledge their gifts of character when you see them. Call them to use their gifts when they are not. Use restorative justice without shaming. Shame breaks conscience. So does failing to discipline when it is called for. Our schools must do better. I honor your courage, strength and honesty about Spencer in sharing his story so soon after his passing. May others learn from his story. www.communitycharacter.com www.thevirtuesproject.com
February 22, 2012
I'm so sorry for your loss; the worlds loss because who knows where the internship would've lead him. I"m sorry for all that he went through during his life. Your words are so true and our society needs to change. It's harsh, cruel, and selfish. It is truly difficult to go through this world with a tender heart. It is hard to stay strong, to stay sober when feeling so closed yet in so much pain and needing to be loved or simply acknowledged as being a great friend. I know this feeling well. I am sure that God has a wonderful home for your son and one day you will be with him again. I am praying for your comfort and peace always. Thank you for sharing Spencer's life story! He's worth it and we need to learn from such a beautiful, intelligent, kind human being.
February 22, 2012
Dearest Celia,
I want to offer the deepest of sympathies to you, your husband, your son and your mom for the untimely passing of Spencer.

This was such an inspiring and enlightening memorial message. You had a message to share. You bared your “Mothers” Soul. We can all learn from you. Your “Higher Power” was guiding your hand. You do not have to “LOOK UP” for consolation. I truly believe that God is with you and his arms are wrapped around you, guiding you and protecting you.

Sincerely, Marilyn Diesing.
February 22, 2012
Although I didn't know your child and I don't know you, this touched me so deeply. I'm so sorry for the loss of your son.
February 22, 2012
Rest in peace. Your in God's arms now.
February 22, 2012
God bless you for sharing this. Your insight and thoughtfulness will help all of us to think through our actions, and will have a positive influence. My condolences to you and your family. I'm sure your son is peaceful and in a much better place than we are.
February 22, 2012
I am very sad to hear about Spencer. As a mother, I can't even begin to imagine the grief you are feeling. May God give you peace to go on.
February 22, 2012
May God bless your family and comfort your soul. I did not know Spencer but my daughter did. When she told me of Spencer's passing I was heartbroken, for the loss of a promising young man and for the grief that your family will endure. I was lead to Spencer's life story and was deeply touched by your honesty and openness about your son. He was truly blessed to have such a loving family. Thank you for sharing Spencer's story and allowing us into Spencer's world. God bless...
February 22, 2012
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. My sincerest sympathies to the Seupel family.
February 22, 2012
My heart goes out to you. This can happen to anyone's child and I am sorry it happened to yours. Hopefully this will touch someone's life who is struggling now and they will read your beautiful and eloquent words and not cause their loved ones any more pain. God bless you.
February 22, 2012
My heart goes out to you. This can happen to anyone's child and I am sorry it happened to yours. Hopefully this will touch someone's life who is struggling now and they will read your beautiful and eloquent words and not cause their loved ones any more pain. God bless you.
February 22, 2012
I am soo sorry. I have a 13 year old that is being bullied. No one is doing anything about it because no one is threatening her life. The school is boohoooing it. I pray my daughter wont feel so alone as your son did. i watch her like a hawk. I am so sorry. ihope that your sons tragedy is not in vain. I hope people will take bullying more seriously and will prevent this from ever happening again. My prayers are with you. thank you for sharing your precious sons story.
February 22, 2012
I had the privilege of being Spencer's teacher for what seemed a short time, but it didn't take long to see the original and passionate thought processes his writing revealed. My heart goes out to all who knew and loved him.
February 22, 2012
I'm so sorry to read of your loss. Please accept my condolences. What a sad, sad tragedy.
February 22, 2012
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I know he will always live on in your heart. I only hope your story can make a change to someone out there reading this. May God bless you and your family.
Maria DiBari
Cottekill
February 22, 2012
Facebook too brought me to this link. My heart goes out to you and your family. Your courage in sharing your son's life is selfless. I hope this gets posted everywhere and I am sure that it will save many lives - all because of your compassion and love of life and your son. May God hold him in the palm of his hands and grant all of you His peace and comfort. Thank you for sharing. I will be sharing this with my teenagers in hope that they will seek help if they ever need it . Thank you for giving me the vessel to use to talk to them about drinking, depression, and options. God Bless
February 22, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with his family... Suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem... @
February 22, 2012
Speaking with Tyler we were reminising about the 2003 Little League Championship. Tyler being 11 years old was getting his first at bat late in the game and was hit in the ribs by a pitch. After being awarded first base, the obvious choice was to pinch run for Tyler with the speedy Spencer Seupel. A few pitches later, Spencer crossed home plate with an all important run that led to winning the District Championship that night.
Spencer, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
The Grable Family; Jim, Kathleen, Tyler and Marissa
February 22, 2012
Thank you for sharing Spencer's life. I don't know him and only arrived here by a Facebook link, but I'm touched by your story and your loss. My heart goes out to you.
February 22, 2012
I don't know you,but I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. My son also took his own life in a moment of anger and impulse,so I do know what it's like to lose a wonderful,beloved son.
February 22, 2012
I met Spencer at a sorority/fraternity function that my daughter took me to. What a lovely young man who went out of his way to make all of the parents feel welcome. Although I only spent very little time with him he made an imprint on me. My prayers go out to your family
February 22, 2012
My condolences to your family. My husband, who was a lost soul like Spencer,suffered from depression his whole life and committed suicide in April. He had no idea how he would change so many lives forever with that decision, and how much everyone loved him. I told everyone exactly how he died, and it took alot from me to do that, so I applaud you for being so candid. I wish I had thought of it when I wrote his obituary. As I told people, I found out just about every person had been touch by suicide in some way--only no one talks about it. I applaud you and believe that Spencer has finally found his peace...and he is always with you. Always.
February 22, 2012
My 18 year old daughter, a freshman in college, suffers from depression. Last night she held my hands in hers and promised me through her tears that she would never do anything without giving me the opportunity to get to her. The fear I have of her leaving me is sometimes paralyzing, and what you have written is so profound I am almost speechless. God bless you and keep you in his arms, you deserve a special place in Gods heart.
February 22, 2012
Dear Mrs. Seupel,

Although I do not know you or yor family, my heart goes out to all of you. There is nothing one can say to you except that our prayers are with all of you. So terribly sorry for your loss. God Bless!

Ross Ellis
Founder and CEO
Love Our Children USA
STOMP Out Bullying
February 22, 2012
Young adults, old enough to feel excruciating pain, yet lacking enough
years to know, "This too shall pass..." are too many in number. By reminding us and educating us with your tribute to Spencer, many readers
will now have the increased awareness
needed to become more alert and to be pro-active toward young people who may be at risk...Celia, Spencer would thank
you for this. I do you, too.
Susan Scherer
February 22, 2012
I do not know you or your family, but I just wanted to extend my heartfelt condolences to you all. I am so sorry for your loss.
February 22, 2012
From the Mom of a 21 year old daughter, my heart goes out to you. I am so very sorry for your loss.
February 22, 2012
I don't know your family, but I want to extend my deepest sympathy to your family. My nephew went to penn state hershey an also took his own life. He was 19. March 9 will be the one year anniversary. I cannot begin to tell how hard the next year will be for your family. Prays to your family and their uphill battle.
February 22, 2012
I don't know Spencer, but I am truly sorry for your loss and hope that your lovely memories bring you joy.
Thank you for sharing your story.
NjE
February 22, 2012
HI
I know you do not know me but I wanted to say how sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful son Spencer. I know the pain that you are going through since my beautiful son Brian took his own life on his college campus in 1995. Brian was bullied by some of his fraternity brothers. He sounded a lot like your son and in fact many people have called me after reading about Spencer because they said Spencer and Brian seemed to have a lot of love, happiness and beautiful smiles that would light up a room. My heart goes out to you. Again my deepest sympathy and love for you and your family.
As Spencer is Brian is survived by his sister Kimberly. She lost her brother and her best friend. Our sons seem to have so much the same. Brian's college was also in PA....His college was Lafayette in Easton PA. He told them that he was going to take his own life and they decided not to do any thing about this.
If at any time you want to reach out to me my name is Joanne Arena.... 485 8327 and my e-mail is KBMOM52123@hvc.rr.com
February 22, 2012
Rest in Peace Spencer. May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
February 22, 2012
I am a stranger that was also touched by your story. My heart goes out to you and your family. I work as a substance abuse counselor, i just wanted you to know, your story was read to a therapy group of young men also struggling with substance abuse, addiction and depression. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that your purpose of awareness was served and the young men were able to learn something from Spencers story. Stay stong.
February 22, 2012
I don't know you, but my son was friends with your son as Penn State,our thoughts and prayers go out to your family, I can not even imagine the pain you and your family are enduring. My son said what a wonderful young man he was. May God Bless you always.
February 22, 2012
In my teen years I attempted suicide, being very sensitive, as Spencer was. Now as an adult, I have dedicated my life to helping others who suffer. Although I do not know you or your son, I am sharing his life and your message with all I know. So many times, people hide a suicide as a dirty secret. It is not dirty, nor should it remain a secret. Your profound message his honorable and moving. It teaches all of us a life lesson of love and compassion. I thank you for your honesty, your openness, and your integrity. I will honor Spencer's mission by keeping him (and you) in my prayers, as well as continuing to spread the word of the importance of practicing love and kindness toward others. God bless you and please know Spencer's arms are wrapped around you during this terrible time of grief.
February 22, 2012
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
February 22, 2012
How very sad. Your letter here has made me think. I think its a sad world we live in and a troubled time to be bringing up children. My condolences to you and your family.
February 22, 2012
I'm so sorry... you don't know me, I have friends who shared your story with me. I have children too, and will work extra hard to be sure they are ok, in honor of Spencer. I am so sorry for your loss, he reminds me so much of my youngest son. I have you all in my prayers, and will pray for peace for you.
February 22, 2012
On behalf of the Training Center Staff of Centre LifeLink EMS in State College, PA where Spencer had served as one of our EMT Trainees, our deepest condolences. Spencer was a determined, spirited young man with a smile that could fill a room. May God bless your family in your time of tragedy and loss.
February 22, 2012
We are so sorry for your loss. We worry everyday about our teenager as well. It is so hard in these days and times. God Bless You for being strong. We will hold you in our prayers.
February 22, 2012
I did not know Spencer, and I don't know you, but I was deeply touched by what you wrote. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so very sorry for your overwhelming loss.
February 22, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my 71 year old brother last Friday the 17th and am grieving, my heart is broken. I can't imagine what you are going through.
February 22, 2012
Thank you so much for sharing Spencer's story. You have provided a platform for other parents to speak openly with their college age children about the tragedy of suicide. My heart goes out to you and your family. Your bravery during this most difficult time will provide endless benefits to your community. Many blessings to you.
February 22, 2012
I didn't know Spencer and I don't know you. But I am a mom just like you. Thank you for the story of Spence. He seemed like a great kid. Celebrate his life! Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
February 22, 2012
Celia, My heart goes out to you and your family. As a mother who has also lost a child, I know your pain. I know of the tears you shed while writing Spencer's obituary and the heart break your going through. You will never get over it but you will get through it. Someone once said, "Those we hold most dear never truly leave us....they live on in the kindess they showed, the comfort they shared and the love they brought into our lives." I didn't know Spencer but I know that he will always be with you. Spencer's obituary should have been on the front page of every newspaper and read to every teenager. You have done a wonderful thing by sharing Spencer's life and death story. God Bless You
February 22, 2012
I do know you of course, and am so very sad and shocked and full of sympathy for your loss. You will be in our prayers, Celia, HD and Taylor. Love and sorrow, Joan, Kingston.
February 22, 2012
I would like to offer my condolences to your family. This is one of the nicest most heart felt stories I have ever read. It is so obvious how much you loved your son. I have no doubt that your love made his life in this world so speacial. Although I do not know Spencer I can feel your sorrow and love. I wish you peace. I am sure he will be with you for ever. There is no way he didn't feel your love every day.
February 22, 2012
Please accept my condolences for the loss of your beautiful son. I lost my son 3 years ago to a drug overdose. Thank you for being so brave to share your grief in such a way as to help others. You are truly an inspiration.
February 22, 2012
I worked with Spencer this summer at the hospital. All we did was paperwork 40 hours a week, so we had a lot of time to talk and get to know each other. He was a great guy and I am so privileged to have known him. I just found out yesterday about his passing, and I have not stopped thinking about him. I will forever hold him close in my mind and spirit. My prayers are with you and your family.
February 22, 2012
Celia, HD and Taylor, no words can fully describe the sorrow that you must be going through at this time. As a parent I cannot imagine leaving this earth before my child. Our hearts and prayers are with you all...
February 21, 2012
You have an amazing spirit to be able to write this from your heart at this time. I will pass this along so that maybe one parent less will suffer your heartache. Alcoholism is a thief. It steels body, mind and spirit. I am a recovering alcoholic and try to pass the blessing on. It is so crucial to show the young and struggling coming to seek peace and refuge. They try AA as a last result not wanting it to be the answer. But often surrender to find a solution. My thoughts are with you and I will carry your son in my soul.
February 21, 2012
I had numerous classes with Spencer through the years and I can whole heartedly say he was a kind, intelligent, and caring person. We talked about his desire to be a doctor and I really believe he would have been outstanding. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
February 21, 2012
That was beautiful. Celebrate his life and treasure his memory. May God bless you and may Spencer be at peace.
February 21, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to your son & I hope others take your message to heart. God bless & I hope that your memories will bring you comfort.
February 21, 2012
I am not a mother and my life has not been touched by suicide but your amazing tribute to your son has challenged me. In Spencers name I will do my best to help my nieces and nephew and all of their peers to journey through lifes challenges safely and with lots of support. Thank you and God Bless You. I will pray for your son's beautiful, dancing soul to reach heaven and into the hands of the Lord.
February 21, 2012
This is so incredibly powerful. I hope your family can find happiness and peace in the wake of such a tragedy.
February 21, 2012
OMG...I am so sorry for your lose...
February 21, 2012
Thank you for sharing. Its tragic. I hope your family can find some peace knowing he will not be forgotten.
February 21, 2012
I know your sadness all too well ...I wish you the best at this time of loss and strength throughout the difficult years ahead until you meet again...know that he has a large Penn State family up there taking care of him...we are one in life and death...he will always be a lion and we always "are" ...he was great, he was wonderful, he was, and IS! Take comfort in knowing how many truly cared about him. A great man, always remembered. His story lives on and changes the end to many others. God Bless.
February 21, 2012
I don't know you, but your story broke my heart. As a mother I can imagine your pain. God bless you & your family and my your son Rest In Peace :( Lisa Parlapiano
February 21, 2012
How very sad. What a beautiful cometary. My condolences to you and your family.
February 21, 2012
You and your son have touched my life. I am sorry that it took his passing for him to reach so many people. May God bless you always.
February 21, 2012
We do not know you,but the wonderful tribute to your son was amazing.Your words have had such an impact on so many people who have read the article that you wrote with such feeling and love for your son!!!May he now be at peace with the lord,and may he watch over you and your family.God Bless!!!
February 21, 2012
My condolences go out to your family at this very painful time. I had the honor to know Spencer from the high school. He always left such a positive impression on me with his politeness, kindness and very thoughtful ways. As a mother I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing Spencer's story. I can see why Spencer was such an amazing person - he led by example from his family.
February 21, 2012
my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family . I hope sharing your story can help others peace to you always Tania
February 21, 2012
A friend from Rondout Valley HS posted this link on FB. I wasn't sure if we went to school together (early 80's), so I clicked on this and read it. As a mother of 2, with 1 of them being a 13 yr old son who when reading about your son Spencer, felt like I was reading about my boy. The love, sensitivity, depth of feeling and the need to belong is so familiar to me. I cried for you and your family...I cry for the loss of such a young life...I've cried with several friends whose teens took their own lives. Your eulogy and openess was beautiful and heart wrenching. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your son's story.
February 21, 2012
My heart just aches for you and your family. I have never met Spencer, but he is so loved. Thank you for taking the time to tell the world his story, and may no other mother ever have to feel your pain. I wish you peace in your heart as you grieve this significant lose. I will keep him close to my heart as well.
February 21, 2012
Like so many others who have read your heartfelt story, I do not know you or your beloved son but I was so profoundly affected by your common sense and clarity of what it means to be kind to each other. You have helped many of us mothers who have stood by and watched our own children suffer. Our hearts ache for you and the tremendous anguish you are feeling. What an amazing woman you are to share with all of us your feelings and tell us who Spencer was. May God watch over you and bring you comfort.
February 21, 2012
May he be dancing in Heaven with the Harps of the Angels.
February 21, 2012
Our hearts go out to you at this very sad time...Liz, Garrett, Emma and Maeve
February 21, 2012
Thank you for this remarkably honest, beautifully written eulogy for your son. You have given others a great gift by sharing his story, and we will pass it on so that everyone can be touched by it. Peace be with you and your family.
February 21, 2012
Joe and I are deeply sorry for you terrible loss. Our thoughts, prayers and blessing are coming your way. Your story was remarkable.
February 21, 2012
You are an amazing mother. Your words are beautiful and moving. Thank you for sharing your story. Spenser sounded like a wonderful person. Is there anything I can do to help spread your word other than recommending this read on Facebook? I live close by in Kerhonkson and have 2 children of my own. If there is anything I can do, please find me on Facebook. My name is Jodi Tacti-Rucki. God bless you and your family.
February 21, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I pray that your heartfelt words reach others. God bless you all.
February 21, 2012
I do not know you, your family or Spencer and yet your words made me cry...they come from a place only a mother's heart could know...deep, strong, loving and honest...it is such a comfort to know other mothers feel this way...May God bless all our families, we need it. <3
February 21, 2012
The words of your tribute to your son, Spencer, were truly inspirational. I will share them with others. Although I did not know him, he was a friend of my niece, Samantha Simmons, who thought highly of him. I marvel at the faith, grace and courage you showed at this most difficult time, by reaching out to others who may have children facing some of the same challenges. May God bless your son, and keep him in the palm of His hand, until the day when you are united with him once again.
February 21, 2012
an amazing tribute to your son, thank you for sharing his life with all of us.
your heartfelt words will never be forgotten.
February 21, 2012
In deepest sympathy for you and your family's tragic loss. I will pray for healing for you all and I will say a special prayer that your son is at peace.
February 21, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. This is a very touching and eye opening article. I am so sorry for your loss. May god be with you......
February 21, 2012
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Although I do not know you or your family but I do know first hand the horror of addiction. The words you wrote just jumped off the page at me. My own son, 21, is in the pit of addiction to alcohol. The loneliness, despair and suicidal thoughts are all to familiar to us. I am so, so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. I am praying for the Lord to give you strength and hope during this very difficult time. Your tribute to your son was beautiful and touched my heart. Thank you for sharing. God Bless you!
February 21, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I applaud your courage to use this tragedy to bring awareness to an all too frequent problem.
February 21, 2012
I never met Spencer, but as a mother I feel this awful pain you have, I will hold Spencer close as well.... Your words as a mother are most touching.
February 21, 2012
My deepest sympathies to your family. May his love for his family and friends, his tenderness and kindness help you in this time of anguish and may your hearts be filled with his spirit, helping you through this pain. I hold you in my prayers and thoughts. Love, Betty Plichta
February 21, 2012
This story was unbelievable, so sad but in someway trying to make sense of it all. May all who loved him have the strength to. go on and always keep Spencer in their hearts> May god be with you all and Spencer
February 21, 2012
My thoughts and prayers go with your family at this time of sorrow. I hold you close Spencer. hugs,Beth Saks
February 21, 2012
So sorry for your loss......may God bless you and your family.
February 21, 2012
I worked with Spencer during his time as an EMT in State College. He was very intelligent and clearly had a bright future ahead of him. I wish he had gotten the help that he needed- and want to thank him and his family for his service to our community.
February 21, 2012
May God bless the family of Spencer and help them through this tough time. I had the pleasure of being in His EMT class and he was a great guy. You are in my prayers.
February 21, 2012
Your son is a special soul. I'm so sorry for your loss My heart breaks for you, God Bless and may you someday find peace.
February 21, 2012
I do not know you family but what a wonderful tribute to your son. The pressure that young people are under is heartbreaking. May God watch over your family and give you the strength to carry on.
February 21, 2012
This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read....I will always remember it and your son....Bless you
February 21, 2012
I am so sorry that you have to suffer such an unimaginable pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
February 21, 2012
Our condolences to your family. I cannot begin to imagine your pain...but your compassion and concern for others is a light in this dark world. May God bless your family and help you heal.
February 21, 2012
February 21, 2012
I met Spencer last year at a fraternity /sorority event. He had beautiful eyes and a beautiful smile. He took the time to talk with me, made me feel welcome, and left a lasting impression. I am deeply sorry for your loss, please know what a wonderful son you raised.
sincerely, Amy
February 21, 2012
The tribute to your son, Spencer was just beautiful. It's so sad when we have to bury a child and hopefully your generous sharing of his life will touch the life of someone else who is in need of support, friendship and guidance.My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
February 21, 2012
I cannot imagine your pain. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I pray that the day will come when your memories of him will make you smile.
February 21, 2012
So very sorry...
February 21, 2012
Celia and family, I am deeply sorry for your tragic loss. I hope through the loss of Spencer, someone will read the beautiful obituary and reach out and save a life. A blessing from such a sad, sad, time. Spencer is free. Know that this is not goodbye, but see ya later. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
February 21, 2012
I can relate to all of this, I too have a son who strives to be perfect and cannot see how wonderful he is. He is superb athlete but cannot see himself as everyone else sees him. I am truly sorry for your loss and will forward his story on so that everyone will know how wonderful he was.
February 21, 2012
I was so sad to learn of Spencer's passing and the circumstances through which he met his God. My heart goes out to you Celia and your family. Peace be with you during what must seem like an unbearable time.
Love and Light.
February 21, 2012
You were too young to go but I hope you are at peace now.Rest in peace Spencer.
February 21, 2012
Your tribute to your son is so touching and should be heeded by all of us. May the truths you shared be healing for you and encourage us all to do as you advise. Betsy Dreyfus, Haiku, HI
February 21, 2012
I dont know you or your son, but my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I want to say thank you for sharing your story and not hiding behind the "shame" that surrounds suicide. The fact that suicide exists people need to share and make others aware not say that they died unexpectently or that they went peacefully. The fact that people take their own lives there is no peace in that. I just want to say THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU I hope that the charity you started in your sons name will make changes!! God Bless you and your family during this difficult time!
February 21, 2012
His light shines still!....... in your hearts, in your minds, in your words and in our prayers to you all at this time. Peace and love to you Celia, Taylor and HD.
February 21, 2012
Sorry seems too small a word to convey the heartache I feel for your son, your family and yourself. As a mother we try our hardest to prevent the loss of our children. Your words have been echoed by me many times to my own children and their friends. I will keep you all in my prayers in hope that somehow, some way you can find some peace again after this horrific tragedy. Thank you for sharing your son's life and death with us. May God bless and keep you all! Chris Hirsch (Rockland County, NY)
February 21, 2012
The precious memories you shared of Spencer have touched us so deeply and will no doubt help many others. Our heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family.
February 21, 2012
Thank you for sharing Spencer's story. I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure your story will change someone else's path. What a beautiful tribute to your son.
February 21, 2012
It is times like these that bring our greek community closer together. As a member of the family, you may blame the fraternity for this tradgedy, and I understand that entirely. I didn't know Spencer, but I am also a Penn State student, a fraternity member, an EMT, and aspire to go to medical school. My deepest condolences, as well as those from the brothers at S?, go out to his family, and the brothers of ATO.
February 21, 2012
THIS MESSAGE ABOUT YOUR SON SPENCER, HAS DEEPLY TOUCHED MY HEART! THANK YOU FOR WRITING SUCH A HEART FELT MESSAGE TO ALL OF US. I FEEL YOUR PAIN AND PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMIY. REMEMBER THAT NOTHING AND NO ONE CAN BREAK THE BOND BETWEEN A MOTHER AND HER CHILD. EVEN IN DEATH...
February 21, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss. This is a wonderful tribute to a precious life that is lost. May he be at peace and I hope this message is read by as many people as humanly possible. These are the words of truth for the very mixed up society that we live in. Peace to you and yours.
February 21, 2012
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Spencer's story. I have two young boys and can totally relate to what you have written. I will be printing it out and sharing his story with others. I will be praying for Spencer and your family.
February 21, 2012
How brave of you to share Spencer's story. I now that by doing this, you will help others. I am so sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a son to suicide. God bless you.
February 21, 2012
May the Lord keep you and Guide you and your family during this tremendous time of sorrow. Thank you in your tragedy for bringing awareness to this epidemic of binge drinking and suicide.Our youth are sensitive and fragile and under so many pressures. (anonymous)
February 21, 2012
I did not know your son, but I am touched by the tribute you wrote concerning his passing. You spoke from your heart and anyone who reads these words should take heed of your advice. I admire you for being able to express yourself so eloquently with such love for Spencer, at such a difficult time. May God Bless Your Family with Peace and Understanding in the days to come.
With sincere sympathy,
Ruth Wiedemann
February 21, 2012
Thank you and our prayers go out to you in this difficult time.
February 21, 2012
I only know Spencer from EMT class but during that time he was a smart and kind individual. RIP to a brother from the EMS community.
February 21, 2012
I do not know you or your son but your letter is so touching, may we all learn from your great loss. Barbara, NY
February 21, 2012
You are now an angel among us Spencer. You will always in my thoughts and prayers ? ATO & ZTA will never forget you ? "Being a family means you are part of something very wonderful. It means you will love and be loved for the rest of your life. No matter what."
You were one of the kindest, smartest and funniest people I ever got the privilege to meet and be friends with. I hope you are in a better place. Miss you. My heart and prayers are with your family now and forever.
February 21, 2012
Our heart felt sympathy goes out to you and your family.
Julie Malpede
February 21, 2012
I do not know you or your family, but I can't thank you enough for this. So many of us feel so alone when one of our loved ones is part of this terrible sickness. I hope this message you sent can help save just one other person's life. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
February 21, 2012
"I did not know you Son, ,but after reading his story and your memories of him...I feel I do know him. I'm sure you've helped others with your heartfelt sharing of a tragic loss. Please accept my deepest feelings of sorrow thank you need to read this and be reminded to take a minute to encourage, love , some one.
February 21, 2012
Thank you so much for sharing Spencer's life with us...you have opened the eyes of many people. I am truly sorry for your loss.
February 21, 2012
I did not know your son, but wished I had. Spencer sounded liked a very senitive, caring young man! RIP Spencer. My thoughts & prayers are with your family & friends
February 21, 2012
I do not know you or your precious son but i cried and felt your pain on reading this beautiful yet tragic obituary. Theres not much i can say except it sounds like the world has lost a beautiful young man. I am so so sorry for your loss and I pray that there is meaning in all this and that Spencers death can be of help to someone in need.
Lourdes Kleid
February 21, 2012
Wow... thank you for sharing, while in your own pain and grief. Please keep on talking about this, its your way of helping Spencer to help others....
February 21, 2012
Although I only met Spencer a few times over the years, he just made such a bright impression every time. I can't imagine the pain of his loss in your life. You are in my thoughts and prayers now and always. God Bless.
February 21, 2012
Dear Seupel Family,
My sympathy goes to you and your entire family. Although I never met your son, your very eloquent and touching story of his life exemplifies what a wonderful young man he must have been. If just one life is saved from your revelations and awareness awakened to some of the problems our youth face in today's world, your loss will not have been in vain. May your memories bring you peace.
February 21, 2012
Dear Celia, HD and Taylor,
My deepest condolences to all of your family. I remember Specer as that bright, energetic, sensitive, loving little kindergartener. My heart breaks that he was not able to internalize his worth. My prayers are with all of you.
February 21, 2012
I am so sorry for the loss of your son Spencer. What a terrible tragedy for you and your family. I lost my brother, Eric to suicide 5 yrs ago so I do know your pain. I found a great website that helped me a lot during my grief. It is www.afsp.org which stands for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. I pray and hope that you will find some peace. God Bless you and your family.
February 21, 2012
Much condolences for your loss. What you wrote was so profound and I will share it with my own children. May God bring you peace in life.
February 21, 2012
I am the mother of two sons, who, thank God, have had the opportunity to grow up, get married, have children and, for one, to have a grandchild. Your obituary for your beloved son touched me deeply by its grace and love for your son. No parent should ever have to lose their son in such a horrible manner. I hope that by your honesty in your story that you will help save even only one other family's child and loved one. May God grant you succor in your grief and help you in this dark time.
February 21, 2012
How beautiful and well said. I struggle with my teen everyday because of alcohol and I hope and pray that this day never comes. Sorry for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless.
February 21, 2012
Not a family or friend but feel your pain. A young life lost to early. You and Your family are in my prayers.

Teresa Kurta
February 21, 2012
My thoughts & prayers will be with you & your family & friends. My deepest sympathys go out to you.
February 21, 2012
God bless you all and thank you for sharing
February 21, 2012
I did not know you Son, Grandson, Nephew, Brother, but after reading his story and your memories of him...I feel I do know him. I'm sure you've helped others with your heartfelt sharing of a tragic loss. Please accept my deepest feelings of sorrow and know you're all in my prayers. RIP Spencer...you were a good person and will always be loved.
February 21, 2012
Very nicely written. I feel your pain and love for Spencer in this obituary!
February 21, 2012
It wouldn't be a bad idea to make this obituary a required reading for high school students to warn them of what they could do while drinking. RIP Spencer, gone far too soon.
February 21, 2012
Although I have no connection to you or your family, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I admire the courage it takes to send such a message at this difficult time. I too lost someone very close this way. As I read this, I remembered her and pray that your message helps to touch even one person that might need just a small act of love and kindness.
February 21, 2012
A heartbreaking but beautiful life and love story. You and family are in our thoughts and prayers. Until you all meet again...deepest sympathy...God bless and keep you all. Thank you for sharing.
February 21, 2012
To the Seupel Family
I had the great opportunity to play on the Rockies with Spencer in Little League. My deepest sympathies go out to the entire Seupel family and friends
February 21, 2012
To the Suepel family our deepest condolences on the lost of Spencer. I remember Spencer from BSA Troop 17 in Tillson. I remember when he came back to the troop about 1 year before he turned 18 and sat with the troop committee to see if he had enough time to get his Eagle Scout and I made him a time line to guide him thru the process. He knew if he didn't meet the timeline his Eagle was out of reach but he completed the requirements in time and got his Eagle. Its saddens my heart to hear of his tragic death. His name is engraved on the plague of Eagle Scouts in the American Legion Post 1298 in Tillson. May his life and memories help you through this difficult time.
February 21, 2012
Dear Seupel Family, so sorry for your loss...thank you for sharing your helpful words and touching so many!
February 21, 2012
I had the wonderful pleasure of meeting Spencer when he arrived at Rondout Valley High School. He was always ready to learn and to reach out and befriend new people. I will always remember his inquisitive smile and sensitivity towards everyone that he met.
February 21, 2012
Thank you for sharing Spencers story. So often the death of a youg person goes unexplained in an obituary. Though I think this painful, private moment is difficult to share, it may help someone else understand how to reach out and help. Your courage in sharing Spencers story is commendable. May God bless you and all who loved Spencer.
February 21, 2012
With my deepest sympathy. I am Ben's aunt and feel your pain. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
February 21, 2012
Although I do not know you or did not know your son, your tribute to him has touched me being a mother of teenage boys. My heart breaks for you and I hope your son has found peace. It is very sad that you had to write this instead of enjoying your child's life. I pray for you and your family.

-A Caring neighbor
February 21, 2012
Please accept our deepest condolences. We are so very, very sorry.
February 21, 2012
Such a tradegy!! So deeply sorry for your loss!! Spencer is right!, Nanotech is our future and i wsih he was able to get the help he so dearly deserved to help the progession of Nanotech into the medical feild. I wish i knew Spencer, he sounds like he was such a wounderful young man. Youth depression is an ever growing epidemic and we need to OPEN our eyes and give to those in need instead of putting ourselves first. How can our youth be our future if we don't help them when they need it most. Our hearts and Prayers to you and yours during your time of need, Robert Grabowski and the Grabowski Family, Poughkeepsie, NY
February 21, 2012
i am so,so sorry for your loss.we will say a prayer for spencer & your family this evening at dinner when i sit down with my son and share this heartbreaking story. hoping it will shed some light on the problem with alcahol & drugs in todays youths. he's 17,a junior, & the party's are starting. i'm sure your story will truely inspire him & his friends. God bless your family during this time of healing.
February 21, 2012
we do not know you or your son, but we feel your pain. god bless all of you. the brides, marlboro ny
February 21, 2012
I am so so sorry for your loss. I do not know you and did not know Spencer. I do have a 21 year old daughter who has had many struggles like Spencer's. My heart goes out for you . YOu and your family are in my prayers. I will share your story..it is so important. Thank you ...and my God be with you in your time of grief....
February 21, 2012
My heart goes out to you during this time of extreme loss. I applaud your strength for telling your story. Your love for your son was clearly expressed. I did not know your son. I am simply sending my most sincere sympathies from one mother to another. May your son rest in peace.
February 21, 2012
Though we did not know your son Spencer, my older children were in school with Taylor. When my daughter heard of the passing of your son, her first thought was of Taylor and how sad she feels for him. Please let him know that though his days at RVHS are over, there is still love and caring for him. Our thoughts are with you.
February 21, 2012
Your post is utterly amazing and well-written. I am speechless. Rest in peace Spencer and I hope that your family finds its peace. I only met him once and wish I could have helped this from happening.
February 21, 2012
I honor you, your grace, and your strength to write something this beautiful in such a time of immense loss. My children went to school with your son. They remember him and his incredible uniqueness. Our family holds you in our hearts. We suffer your loss. Hanna Roth Broadbent
February 20, 2012
Deeply saddened by your loss and instructed by your words in his remembrance. I am grateful for your effort to share your thoughts. It helps us all. Jim Sullivan
February 20, 2012
I did not know Spencer very well, I had classes with him in high school, and I was associated with him by other friends. I remember he was very sweet. He will be missed. My sympathy goes out to the family.

It's not goodbye, it's see you later.
February 20, 2012
So sorry for your loss; and what a heart-wrenching story.

Jessica Hastie (mother of Kelsey & Kyle Tokle, whom went to school with and was in Little League with Spencer)
February 20, 2012
Spencer was a kind and friendly. We wish him eternal peace. We are so sorry for your loss.You're all in our prayers.
Dorothy Mayone
Ashley Paquin
February 20, 2012
Celia, HD and Taylor,
My deepest sympathies go out to you on the loss of your beloved Spencer. I fondly remember that very sensitive, bright, loving, interesting little 5 year old kindergartener. My heart is broken that he could not internalize his value. Spencer and all of you are in my prayers.
February 20, 2012
Celia, HD, & Taylor,
Our deepest sorrow is with you all. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. We love you Taylor and we are here for you.
The Hyatt family
February 20, 2012
reaching out to you, tho we didn't know Spencer, our Ruby was in high school with him. we send our deepest sympathies. been thru it ourselves.... connie taft , robert stanmyer
February 20, 2012
Had the pleasure to work with Spencer as an EMT. He loved helping people and had a talent for it. We enjoyed his smile and willingness to help out with extra things around the station. We will miss him!
February 20, 2012
Celia and HD....I am sorry for this great loss.............
February 20, 2012
Spencer will not be forgotten. My condolences go out to his family in this tough time.
February 19, 2012
Celia,
Love to you, Taylor, and H.D. at this most difficult time.
Words cannot express our deepest sympathy.
THE BROWN FAMILY
February 19, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Tom, Kim and Ryne McEvoy
February 19, 2012
We all grieve with you and want you to know that we feel blessed to have you in our lives and to have known Spencer. With all our love - Mia, Mercedes, Ahmet and Carmen.
February 19, 2012
I am berry sorry for the Supel families loss. Spencer was a great kid, always making people laugh and had an amazing heart. He will be missed by many and loved by all. He is in my prayers as well as his family. RIP Spencer
February 19, 2012
Spencer, you were radiant, kind, and funny. You left far too soon. I really will miss your smile.
February 19, 2012
To the Seupel Family,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My heart is sorrow-filled . Please know you all are in my thoughts and prayers.
February 19, 2012
Celia, Taylor and H.D., We're so sorry for your loss. I remember what joy Spencer took in stealing bases in Little League...You're all in our thoughts and prayers...love, valerie
February 19, 2012
My deepest sympathies to the Seupel family. Jay Edelman
February 18, 2012
To the Seupel Family ~

There are no words. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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