I am so sorry for your loss. Spencer was a lucky boy to have a mother like you. Your insightful and wise words, both in the New York Times article and the tribute to Spencer are so valuable to everyone, escpecially those of us navigating the same path with our sons. I will send this article to the Junior High in my town for the "drug education teacher". The risks of binge drinking should be talked about more frankly and frequently. Thank you for your writing. Have you thought about writng a blog? My heart is heavy, heavy, heavy for your family.