As a teacher, mentor and friend, Harry taught me a lot about not only qualitative research, but about living in this world. He was an inspiration and he and his work will live on through the good work of those who were privileged to have known him. Deepest condolences to Norm and the rest of Harry's family and friends.
Our heartfelt condolence to Uncle Harry's family and Uncle Norman. My father, Dr Lim Hong Kuan, first met Uncle Harry at the University Malaya in the 1970's; and ever since then, we have regarded both Uncle Harry and Uncle Norman as part of our international extended family members. And when we were kids and growing up in Eugene, we thought Uncle Harry was "Santa Claus," a gentle and kind soul.
My parents have loved them and trusted them to keep an eye on me while I was studying at U of O and to keep me out of mischief. It had always been a great pleasure to meet Uncle Harry on campus.
I flew in to Eugene to spend a couple of days with them last May 2012. Those precious moments with them and having that morning walk with Uncle Harry in his meadow, as he liked to call his estate,would always be memorable to me and will be treasured.
Uncle Harry, you will be missed by everyone who has the privilege to know you. Uncle Norman, thank you for being his true partner and caregiver. We love you both.
A great and fascinating friend. Sharon Jones
I was honored to meet Harry in Buenos Aires during a research meeting. We keep exchanging emails since then. My sincere condolences to Norman, his partner and the rest of his family.
Our introduction to Norman and Harry was the Portland Opera. We became Portland Opera companions. Harry felt that out our horizons needed expansion and suggested we attend the Ring Cycle in Seattle. We had the pleasure of attending together and in that it was such an excellent experience, we repeated it together four years later.
We don't forget that Mozart's “Magic Flute” was definitely NOT one of Harry's favorite operas. Harry, we're sure that wherever you are, you are not listening to the Magic Flute, but you may be giving Mozart pointers.
Many pleasant dinners together, the pleasure of staying with Norman and Harry in their home. They are friends who leave an indelible impact on our lives. Harry repeatedly reminded us that he and Norman had been together 14 years longer than we and that we had a long way to go to match their commitment to each other.
We miss Harry immensely and want Norman to know how much we love the two of them.
Chester North and Douglas Prather
Deepest condolences from my family and I to Norman, at this very sad news.
It is a great blow to lose such a lovely man, who was also an incredibly supportive Godfather to me. I will always cherish great memories of meeting up with Norman and Harry in different parts of the world, including Eugene, Bedford, Paris, London and Brighton. So many good times and laughter. We will always remember his humour, not least last Christmas's lovely circular letter, which included news of his friend who 'wondered why we kept sending our insipid Christmas letter. Who cared about all those other people and places? Who really wanted to know where we had travelled and who we had seen?' What a lovely man, source of so much enjoyment, who will be much missed.
It was my great honor to have been one of Harry's doctoral program advisees in the mid-1980s. He cared immensely about words, as seen in his own writing and ongoing efforts to pull the best out of each of us. Especially educational for me was the great opportunity to serve as one of his assistant editors for the Anthropology and Education Quarterly. We all learned so much. Harry was a brilliant, funny, and inspiring teacher, mentor, and lifelong learner. His legacy in the fields of anthropology and education and qualitative research is profound and lasting. Even more significant is the personal impact of his life on those who were so fortunate to have known, worked with, and loved him.
I only new Harry for a short time but I certainly remember his sense of humor and friendship was wonderful.
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
Nice to read how his students revered Harry. His colleagues viewed him with the same strong love and respect. A giant in his field. Intelligent and very witty, we always enjoyed having lunch with him -- and especially on his birthday, when he would pick up the tab.
On behalf of George Spindler we want to express our sadness but also relief that Harry's ordeal is over. He and George talked about it and Harry expressed that he was very happy and grateful to have had a good career and a good life. Goodbye Harry. Lee and Sue Coleman and George Spindler
My link to Harry began when I was a graduate student in his Anthropology and Education class at the University of Oregon in 1984. Over time, a genuine friendship was established. When I think of Harry I recall superb graduate level instruction, wise counsel, an informed worldly perspective, great writing, inspired humor and superb wit. I was the photographer of Harry and Norman's final Christmas card. The occasion was the September 2011 wedding of Mia Edson, daughter of his dear friend and my doctoral chair, Toby Edson. Harry promised me a bottle of gin in exchange for the photo. He finally made good on his word during a visit this past July, placing a fifth of Tanqueray in my hands when I departed on my Moto Guzzi. Before leaving, I took my last photo of Harry and Norm together, hopeful that it would be on their 2012 Christmas card. I am posting the image on this website for his friends far and wide that did not have the privilege of a recent visit. As you inspect the photo, you see that his eyes still maintained that lively Wolcott twinkle. Harry was courageous and brave and fully at peace with his life. Tonight I opened my bottle of gin and made a Harry size martini, toasting the memory and passing of a good man. My favorite Harry quote: “The only draft that matters is the final one.” I miss him already.
Sincere sympathy to Norman and Harry's family. Harry Wolcott pushed me intellectually as few others have. He was a man of deep humanity and understanding of the role of education in the lives of all cultures. Thank you Harry!
Some 65 years of friendship, best man, godfather to our oldest, backpack companion, fraternity brother, Ashland get-togethers, overseas visitor and the list goes on --. Harry will be missed, but his friendship, scholarship and humor will live on with those of us whose privilege it was to know him. He was a man for “all seasons” with a passion for cultivating the best in all he met. When he was discharged from the Army in1953 and visited us in our two room school-house in Southern Nevada, he explored the idea of becoming a teacher. What a difference he has made to the educational world in the years since! Norman, we grieve with you and send our thanks to you for your caring for Harry during these past difficult months. You're a friend forever.
Harry was a friend, mentor, benevolent critic, and an inspiration in my own writing and thinking. I never convinced him to drink better wine though. I will not hesitate now to drink the good stuff on his behalf. Condolences to Norm in the new phase of his life without Harry.
Harry Wolcott was my honorary uncle. And he was a marvelous uncle. Harry and my Dad and Mom were close friends since their Berkeley days. Harry's incredibly generous nature, his kind and clever guidance, his soft yet focused questions that always seemed to lead me toward new understanding – these all had a significant influence with me - when I was growing up in Malaysia, when I was in college, when I was pursuing my advanced degrees, and just in life all around. He shared his ideas, imparted wisdom through humor, and gave me many of his writings (which I read!), and in doing so, I was constantly learning from him. I remember how I flew up from the Bay Area when I was in college to visit Harry, for I was writing my senior thesis (a cultural anthro thesis, to be sure); I wanted his feedback and insight. So, Harry was my advisor, too. Harry always believed in his students and his friends – and I would like to think I was both. You are missed, Harry. You have been a great man in many peoples' lives and we are all the better for this. Thank you for including me on your journey.
I was privileged to have Harry as my doctoral supervisor 1979-81 and as a dear friend for more than 30 years. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to Norman and Harry's family. He will be sorely missed.
Happy memories of a gentle generous man. I am another to whom Harry offered warm support, almost like a third supervisor for my PhD project here in Perth. I remember shared breakfast at AAA meeting and long conversations across many a topic. Sympathy to Norm.
I have deep gratitude for my class time with Harry and later for some wonderful times with Harry and Norm at their home. My thoughts are with Norm and all those close to Harry. Enjoy the great adventure. Tony
He was a wonderful man, a great scholar and good company. He provided so much that enriched the lives of all who worked with him. He will be missed, but left a legacy that will live on.
My best wishes to the partner, family and friends of Harry. He was a dear mentor to me.
I have always appreciated Harry's generous support and interest in the arts. He was a kind and gentle soul and we will miss him greatly.
I wish to extend my heartfelt condolences to Norm and Harry's family over the loss of such a wonderful man.
I was one of Harry's Grad students in 1984-6 and but for his Sabbatical during that time he was to be one of my Committee. He was a very influential mentor to me (and others) and I was always mindful of his wise teachings when I was teaching my undergraduate and graduate students. His influence has spread widely through me and others.
He will be missed.
Clem Annice Perth Western Australia.
Respected and valued friend.
Teacher, colleague, mentor, and friend to me and many others. Someone to admire and respect. A person who made a difference and leaves fond memories.