It is hard for me to imagine my life without Sue. Sue took me in– in many ways– that have left a lasting imprint in my very being. Her warmth and aesthetic sensibilities made me feel as though I'd entered a beautiful, safe realm in the midst of my own transient early-20's upheaval. In Sue's home-sanctuary, I could endure the harsh reality of "growing-up", of my mother dying, and the drama and inevitable demise of youthful romances. Her calmness and efficiency tempering my restlessness and rebellion with her complete acceptance, understanding, guidance and perhaps most importantly, inspiration. These pillars saw me through my 20's and 30's. Sue inspired me to be grow– to become more responsible, organized, generous, graceful & independent (still working on some of those...)–just a few of the qualities that I love about her. Sue's tender relationship with Tom served as irrefutable truth that a deeper romantic-relationship, one based not only passion, but on mutual respect, freedom, and deep friendship, is in fact possible (still working on some of those).
And now, about to enter my 40's, am sad and afraid that Sue won't be t-here– yet I'm comforted by all she's taught me & by many of the books she gave me over the decades–
The Four Gifts, The Secret Life of Bees, There's No Such Place as Far Away, etc– Sue, you are with me always.
"It is God who comes to you in the guise of a true and noble friend to serve, inspire, & guide you." –Paramahansa Yogananda