Jane Catherine Lotter

Jane Catherine Lotter obituary

Jane Lotter Obituary

Jane Catherine Lotter

One of the few advantages of dying from Grade 3, Stage IIIC endometrial cancer, recurrent and metastasized to the liver and abdomen, is that you have time to write your own obituary. (The other advantages are no longer bothering with sunscreen and no longer worrying about your cholesterol.) To wit:

I was born in Seattle on August 10, 1952, at Northgate Hospital (since torn down) at Northgate Mall. Grew up in Shoreline, attended Shorecrest High, graduated from the University of Washington in 1975 with a Bachelor of Arts in History. Aside from eight memorable months lived in New York City when I was nineteen (and where I worked happily and insouciantly on the telephone order board for B. Altman & Co.), I was a lifelong Seattle resident.

In my professional life, I was a freelance writer, editor, and proofreader. Among career honors, I received a First Place Society of Professional Journalists award for Humorous Writing for my column Jane Explains, which ran from 1999-2005 in the Jet City Maven, later called The Seattle Sun. Also won First Place in the Mainstream Novel category of the 2009 Pacific Northwest Writers Association Literary Contest for my comic novel, The Bette Davis Club (available at Amazon.com). I would demonstrate my keen sense of humor by telling a few jokes here, but the Times charges for these listings by the column inch and we must move on.

Many thanks to Sylvia Farias, MSW, at Swedish Cancer Institute for encouraging me to be part of an incredibly wise gynecological cancer support group. Thanks as well to the kind-hearted nurses and doctors at Group Health Capitol Hill oncology. And thanks to my sister Barbara who left no stone unturned in helping me get life-extending treatment in my final months.

I also want to thank Mrs. Senour, my first grade teacher, for teaching me to read. I loved witty conversation, long walks, and good books. Among my favorite authors were Iris Murdoch (particularly The Sea, The Sea) and Charles Dickens.

I was preceded in death by my generous and loving parents, Michael Gallagher Lotter and Margaret Anne Lotter (nee Robertson), and by my dear younger sister, Julie Marie Lotter. I am survived by my beloved husband, Robert ("Bob") Lee Marts, and our two adult children: daughter, Tessa Jane Marts, and son, Riley William Marts. Also my dear sisters Barbara Lotter Azzato, Kathleen Nora Lahti, and Patricia Anne Crisp (husband Adrian). And many much-loved nieces and nephews, in-laws, and friends.

I met Bob Marts at the Central Tavern in Pioneer Square on November 22, 1975, which was the luckiest night of my life. We were married on April 7, 1984. Bobby M, I love you up to the sky. Thank you for all the laughter and the love, and for standing by me at the end. Tessa and Riley, I love you so much, and I'm so proud of you. I wish you such good things. May you, every day, connect with the brilliancy of your own spirit. And may you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path.

I believe we are each of us connected to every person and everything on this Earth, that we are in fact one divine organism having an infinite spiritual existence. Of course, we may not always comprehend that. And really, that's a discussion for another time. So let's cut to the chase:

I was given the gift of life, and now I have to give it back. This is hard. But I was a lucky woman, who led a lucky existence, and for this I am grateful. I first got sick in January 2010. When the cancer recurred last year and was terminal, I decided to be joyful about having had a full life, rather than sad about having to die. Amazingly, this outlook worked for me. (Well, you know, most of the time.) Meditation and the study of Buddhist philosophy also helped me accept what I could not change. At any rate, I am at peace. And on that upbeat note, I take my mortal leave of this rollicking, revolving world-this sun, that moon, that walk around Green Lake, that stroll through the Pike Place Market, the memory of a child's hand in mine.

My beloved Bob, Tessa, and Riley. My beloved friends and family. How precious you all have been to me. Knowing and loving each one of you was the success story of my life. Metaphorically speaking, we will meet again, joyfully, on the other side.

Beautiful day, happy to have been here.

XOXO, Jane/Mom

Jane took advantage of Washington state's compassionate Death with Dignity Act and died peacefully at home on July 18, surrounded by her family. She was sixty years old. At Jane's request, her ashes were scattered in Elliott Bay, near the Pike Place Market. Jane and Bob also have a tile on Row 41 at the Market that says

BOB AND JANE IN LOVE.

A celebration of Jane's life will be held at 3:00 p.m. on August 4, 2013, at the Great Hall at Green Lake, 7220 Woodlawn Avenue NE, Seattle, 98115.

Friends have established a memorial fund. Reference the Jane Lotter Benevolent Account, A/C number 3595611530, c/o BECU, PO Box 97050, Seattle, 98124-9750.

Published by The Seattle Times on Jul. 28, 2013.
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Dear Jane,
Miss you my friend. This world needs your wisdom & humor now more then ever.

Tammie Yates-Rubino

Friend

July 22, 2022

Bobby M

Bob

July 18, 2022

Profoundly touched. Be happy and healthy in the other world of life.

Young C.

Other

February 3, 2022

I just read The Bette Davis Club and enjoyed it enough to look for other books written by her. How sad to know this was the one and only. Glad I found it and through it learn what a gifted storyteller she was. To you, her dear family and friends, how lucky you were to have had her in your lives.

Lilia Tanakeyowma

Acquaintance

January 26, 2021

Hi. I just read Jane’s novel and loved it. I’m very sad she passed and can’t write another for us. I sense she was a very special person. My sincere condolences to you and your family. She seemed like she was one of a kind.

Karen

December 23, 2020

Fondly remembering Jane. Although time passes you are forever in our hearts. Still missing that beautiful smile.

Pat C-Waite

Acquaintance

July 22, 2020

I was moved by the forward of "The Bette Davis Club" and completely absorbed in her novel. What a neat lady she must have been! My Mom also loved old movies, and TCM was on in her nursing home room 24/7. Thank you for this book and the emotional ride it and your beautifully self written obit. took me on...

Doreen Niedzwecki, McKean, PA

August 8, 2019

Jane Lotter....
Just seeing your name makes me smile. Wonderful memories. Never forgotten.

Tammie Yates-Rubino

Friend

July 23, 2019

I appreciate how Jane Catherine Lotter poignantly reminds those that take the time to read her wisdom regarding the precious gift of life - and not take that gift for granted. There will likely be many more readers who will be seeing this as New York Times writer Susan Gubar provides a link to this page in her 19 July 2018 article, "Write your own obit." as part of an article series "Living with Cancer." For those of you that find Jane's obituary via other paths, please take the time to search via Google for Susan Gubar's essay using the search terms in double quotes above (with the double quotes included.) There is much wisdom in the comments and condolences. However, I appreciate Jane Catherine Lotter's simple commentary, "I was given the gift of life, and now I have to give it back." Thanks to Bob Marts and his family for sharing these gifts with the wider world.

Gene Nelson

July 24, 2018

I found Jane's story through an article in today's NYT.
My Mother, Mary Lou Dolson and my brother John Dolson died within weeks of each this winter.
I am alone now and I suppose one of my greatest sadnesses will be never discussing with either of them how they would want to be remembered in writing.
Janes beautiful obituary will be sent to many of my friends and acquaintances. In my neighborhood we all have more days behind us than ahead and it's time for us to write our own story.
Thank you Jane, I'll be seeing you.
Emilee Lake

Emilee Lake

July 24, 2018

Jane:
Just found myself quoting you for the second time in two days. So thankful for all you've given me, even witty phrases to pilfer from a better writer than I.

I miss you dearly, yet you somehow made everything — even the fact that you're gone — seem to be okay.

Hope you are reading this, and I'm sure that you can, because everything in the world is connected, and in my opinion, what's up in the sky as well.

There I go again — I stole another one. Hat trick.

Steve J

March 27, 2018

Jane, another August 10th is here. I still miss you and sharing cards with each other. Just wanting you to know that you are loved and thought about every day. ~Pat

Pat Crisp

August 10, 2016

I just read "The Bettie Davis Story" while resting after cancer surgery. I loved the book and I cried when I found out she had died. What a brave lady she was. I never had a chance to read any of her columns, but I will look for them in case they are available. Rest in peace Jane

Joann k Haner

July 14, 2016

I have just finished reading The Bette Davis Club on my Kindle. LOVED IT!!!!!! What a wonderful gift to leave....hours of happy reading.

Fenella Tonkin

June 5, 2016

Just finished the Bette Davis Club and I loved it. A random find on Amazon Kindle at $1.49 and worth much more. RIP Jane.

CJ Gallagher

May 2, 2016

Jane and family...I read your loving kindness meditation 'prayer' to my brother while he was dying of stomach cancer. My sister read your obituary and said you are a very brave person.
God speed. Your spirit lives on since we are all connected.
Sincerely,
Peter P.

PETER PISANI

August 11, 2015

Jane,
We shared birthdays just two days apart. We always sent each other cards. Can't send you a card now and nothing is funny anymore surrounding your birthday. I miss you my dear sister. Happy Birthday, I guess. Love you,
Pat

Pat Crisp

August 10, 2015

Beautiful Lady Jane, you will forever be missed.

Pat C-Waite

July 19, 2015

Jane,
You are on my mind and in my heart forever. I love you dearly and miss you daily.
Amy

Amy Hines

July 18, 2015

I miss you, Jane. Thinking today of the many life talks we had over the years. Nobody else comes close to your perfect mix of wisdom and wit. Love to you always.

Megan

July 18, 2015

Thinking of Jane and her great family today. Just finished a walk around greenlake, missing my Olympic View friend, she may be out of our sight but never out of our mind and hearts. xo

Tammie Yates-Rubino

July 18, 2015

Oh Jane, it's been two years since you left us. I think of you and miss you every day. It's a rough year and I hope you and Mick are together. I take a certain "comfort" in believing that you are all reunited, Mom & Dad, you, Julie, Mickey, Aunt Dorothy and many others. You are so very much loved and definitely not forgotten. I love you - Pat

Patricia Crisp

July 17, 2015

Jane, it's really tough right now, missing you and missing Mick. I hope you are together, sharing good times. I love you both so very much.

Pat Crisp

May 29, 2015

Happy 62nd Birthday, Jane. We miss you.

August 10, 2014

Jane, it's been a year and I still think of you every day. You are so very missed by all of your family and friends. Such a great talent, mother, wife, friend and sister. We'll never forget you. I love you, Pat

Pat Crisp

July 20, 2014

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Pat Crisp

July 18, 2014

Beautiful day, happy to be here. Wish you were here, too.

July 18, 2014

I was part of Jane's cancer support group at Swedish. I was blessed to know her. She provided an example of grace during hard times. We miss her still. Beautiful day. Happy to be here. a mantra for daily living. Thanks Jane.

July 10, 2014

Hello, Jane.... We have never met, but I read your beautiful tribute to the life you were given. You must have been an extraordinary woman, for everything you wrote in your obituary bespeaks a woman of love, compassion, and gratitude for the life she was given.

May 1, 2014

f m

April 17, 2014

Thank you for the lesson.

Felipe Silva

April 15, 2014

Hi Jane, Although we never met, I came across your obituary when it was first published and can't help but read it from time to time. Thank you for the gift of your words. God Bless your family and friends.

John St. Clair

April 9, 2014

RIP our beautiful Jane.

Pat

April 8, 2014

And so, it was thirty years ago today that Jane and I were married...
Moving on now with memories of a very long time spent living with, loving, and being loved by my wife and best friend.

To us...

April 7, 2014

What a lady. Wish I would have known her..Thanks Jane for leaving something behind that gives light to this sometimes dark world.

Joni

March 7, 2014

My 67 yo mother passed of ovarian cancer on June 29, 2013. I read Jane's obituary and was very moved. It struck my heart.

Though I am a 39 yo adult, I wished my mom had spent her two years of illness writing as Jane did, but I guess that wasn't my own mom's way. She didn't. She said nothing---did nothing; was scared of death. I guess that's why I relate to Jane's philosophies so much. She is right--we are from one organism, obstacles ARE our path. Those are life changing ways of thinking. I shared it with my daughters.

Jane was a progressive, loving person not afraid to speak her will. Thank you Jane. You have filled a void for me.

Kathlleen Nutter

February 20, 2014

Bob

January 23, 2014

...Remembering Jane at the beginning of this new year.

You live in our hearts...
we still feel your love.

Bob

January 5, 2014

Thanks Jane for living and dying with dignity

Peter Pisani

October 9, 2013

Thank you so much. Even while facing death, you made our lives brighter. I hope to see you on the other side.

Blake Noyes

October 8, 2013

I too did not know Jane but came across her moving obituary through the news. To say it touched me was an understatement. I recently lost my mother..she died unexpectedly on Aug 7th..I do not know which is worse _ knowing your going to die or it "coming out of the middle of nowhere?...I can say that I have never felt so much pain in my life. My mother was my world - my best friend, my supporter, my advisor, my rose. Somehow, Jane's words have relayed to me what my mother taught me all along - Jane helped to remind me that God left me here for a purpose. Goood or bad..I have a purpose. Along my path, I take my mother with me. Thank you, Jane, your warmth and depth are living proof of your footsteps here on Earth. God bless always...

Heather Dodd

October 1, 2013

To Jane's beloved Bob, Tessa and Riley, family and friends, I had the privilege of reading Jane's obituary on my brother's FB wall of all places. And to respect all anonymity, as names are irrelevant in this case, ( I think he just read this somewhere as well!) I was moved to write you to say how inspired I am by Jane's grateful disposition and her spirit. It's seems you have been graced with her love and I can see that will live on forever. Having said that, I am sorry for your loss, may you find miles of smiles ever more in the wonder and gift of your memories. They seem cherish-able

J Shear

September 15, 2013

Dear Jane, I loss my special great Neice weeek before last. She was only twenty years old.The family is so sad and they loved her dearly. Please welecome her into Heaven, if you will. She liked to write, like you, except her writing was poetry. Also, she was a very good artist. I know that she would like you ( a lot), and, I would appreciate it so very much, being the great aunt Barbara, who loved her so very very much. I pray for your family every day, Jane, because I can FEEL how they loved you and miss you. I am sure you will both love being in God's beautiful Heaven.

Barbara Roop

September 15, 2013

What a beautiful smile she has...what a beautiful wit she has...what a beautiful writer she is...what a beautiful woman.

Donna Gordon

September 13, 2013

Such A Beautiful Soul~

Sally Scholl

September 10, 2013

What an amazing woman. I only hope that I have the same dignity and grace when my time comes. I am deeply touched by this young lady's (I am 64) fight with terminal cancer and her beautifully written obituary. Wishing her family and friends peace and healing as their journey in this physical world continues.

Christina Clarke

September 9, 2013

Thank you for sharing this beautiful writing, this life summary of what was important to Jane. May you be comforted by your memories of this lovely woman.

Ruth Bailey

September 9, 2013

Rest well Jane and your memory will always be with all those who loved you. You will live on in their hearts.

Lynne Gilliam

September 8, 2013

I was reading about a Charlie Rose interview on a website just now when I saw this link: "Powerful Self-Written Obituary goes viral" and had to check it out. I never knew Jane nor have I been familiar with her work before now. However, after listening to her "voice" through her obituary, her life has just made a significant earthly connection to mine. I printed out her obituary to always remind me to have a "beautiful day" and be "happy to be here"!

Janice Matay

September 8, 2013

I was moved when I read your thoughts on your life at Find a Grave. You sounded like a beautiful person.

MJ Martin

September 8, 2013

I met Jane standing in the pitch session line at the PNWA conference a couple years ago; I just read about her death in the PNWA newsletter. Jane helped me practice the pitch for the novel that wound up being published this year. I've never forgotten how she brightened up the waiting and made me laugh when talking about her book. I'm so glad she made it available to all of us and I will read it with tears and a lot more laughter, I'm certain. An amazing writer and woman!

Elizabeth Fountain

September 5, 2013

fleeting moments by the flame
enough to warm, not to burn
hardly met, deeply knew
your fire burning bright
that brought comfort to each, each night

September 4, 2013

"To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die". Jane lives in my heart

Van Dyke Parks

September 4, 2013

The "Loving Kindness Meditation" (below) was read aloud at Jane's life celebration memorial, at her request.

- Bob

September 4, 2013

Loving Kindness Meditation

May I be at peace
May I be healed
May I cease to suffer
May I know the light of my own true nature

May you be at peace
May you be healed
May you cease to suffer
May you know the light of your own true nature

May all beings be at peace
May all beings be healed
May all beings cease to suffer
May all beings know the light of their own true nature

September 3, 2013

Lie goes on......but you will be missed.

Michael

September 2, 2013

What A beautiful soul.

R Young

August 30, 2013

I just read her obituary and thought it was so inspiring. She must have been a very special person.
Dianne--Minnesota

August 29, 2013

Simply beautiful.. and so wonderful that now this beautiful soul is reaching so many random lives. Thoughts and prayers to the family.

Vanessa

August 25, 2013

SO SPECIAL.

Emogene Drummond

August 25, 2013

So beautiful and graceful. I hope to show even half as much grace in my life as she has shown in hers.

August 24, 2013

Wow! Such love and grace fill this obit. Thank you for sharing, Jane. I will say a prayer for your family to find comfort. Ialso wrote my own obit. Cool to know others have done this.

Christine Wallace

August 24, 2013

To the family and friends of Jane Catherine Lotter, my most sincere condolences. I just read Jane's personal obit and couldn't stop smiling as I read it. It was so simply yet beautifully written..her inner sense of peace and acceptance shining through. I saw a link to her obit via a Shorecrest High School Facebook page. I'm sorry to have never read any of her written work while she was alive but am now inspired to read some of her work based on her self written obituary. My thoughts and prayers to her family and friends.

Aaron Libby

August 24, 2013

I think it was really beautiful how she accepted the giving, and eventual, taking of life. She had joy, that's all that matters. Rest in peace.

August 23, 2013

I did not know this lady but she must have been an inspiration to many . To her family , my deepest condolences - you lost a much loved one too soon.

Gillian

August 23, 2013

Beautiful.

August 23, 2013

Jane Catherine Lotter, what a beautiful tribute! Thanks for your warm and generous recollections, this final task is now a glowing example of a lovely and gracious being.

Hilda

August 22, 2013

A beautiful spirit lives on in her own words. She has shown us how to transition from this world with dignity.

Munson Walker

August 22, 2013

Gulp. I cannot stop crying. Peace with you.

J T

August 21, 2013

Lovely introspective look on life. I hope one day I achieve this kind of grace. Thanks for reminding me how I should live.

Cecile Elliott

August 21, 2013

What a beautiful, inspiring memorial to your life. Your husband and children are the lucky ones, and though I am sad that it ended too soon, you sound like someone that lived each day to the fullest. An enviable life, for sure. My condolences to your family

Carie

August 21, 2013

Dear Jane,your words have such great meaning and wisdom. You must have been a wonderful and selfless person. May God Bless your new live.

Colleen Margheim

August 21, 2013

Dear Jane,
May you rest in peace and may your family be blessed.

August 21, 2013

Thank you for sharing a most inspiring love story of your life. I am inspired by you! God Bless you and all of your family.

Carolyn Puebla

August 21, 2013

Dear Ms. Lotter,

I wish I knew you. Your beautiful words have renewed my commitment to life, family and friends. Thank you and may you rest in peace.

Robert

Robert St. Cyr

August 20, 2013

To Jane, There are no words to describe you. What your heart said, is beyond. I am a person of few words, but you have touched me , even after 65 years. Your family is blessed. I wish to meet you also, on the otherside. Thank you my dear, you are Heavenly.

August 20, 2013

Dear Jane Your story makes me happy and i am impressed and enjoyed your beautiful life.
Thanks for sharing.
Hope have a comfortable cozy happy life in heaven.

Han Claire

August 20, 2013

Hi Jane. I really am impressed from your voice and story. You made me to keep my life in seatle. Your story also made reminiscent such as beautiful Seattle.

Claire

August 20, 2013

God bless you and your loved ones ~ Rest in peace. (( ))

Jane Dowling

August 20, 2013

That was the most lovely obit I've ever read. She strikes me as a vibrant, selfless, loving lady and a gift to everyone she ever met. God Bless her and the family and friends she leaves behind (until you meet again).

Diane Davis

August 20, 2013

Words well said for a life well lived and full of so much love. Thank you for allowing us to get a view of a very wonderful life.

Sandie Cotman

August 20, 2013

What a blessing your Wife and mother was and always will be. We never know what life will bring us, how we accept the good and not so good fate makes us who we are and be the most important gift we can leave for our family and friends. You Jane we a very fine women and surely gave that gift to all you touched. Wish I had known you. Thank you for sharing your most beautiful thoughts. God Bless.

Linda Becker

August 20, 2013

Thank you for writing your obituary and sharing your outlook. I enjoyed knowing a little about you, though we never met. Best to your friends and family.

Trish McBarron

August 19, 2013

Psalm 103:8-17
Our days on earth are like grass;
like wildflowers, we bloom and die.
The wind blows, and we are gone—
as though we had never been here

***************************************
To the family, loved ones and many friends of this incredible woman...

THROUGH DARKNESS THERE IS LIGHT ... so that we may see the beauty of life renewed. REJOICE for this is meant to be a celebration of new beginnings!

To her loving husband, Bob Marts...

Speak to her... for she is all around you... she is in the scent on her pillow... her favorite chair... and in all things she has touched.

Let it bring comfort to you knowing that not only is she all around you in the things you can't see but in the things which can also be felt with the heart.

Memories made are priceless and real ... she may have left you behind in an unexpected way but her love for you will remain in your heart and in the faces of your children and your grandchildren for to be able to see them is to know that they were created out of the love which began between the two of you.

Take comfort in knowing that she is with her Lord and savior... one day you will join her in a spiritual way surrounded by the warmth and the light of the love you both shared.

SHIRLEE MONDAY

August 19, 2013

I read your beautiful words and felt like I shared some of your history,Jane! Funny that our youngest daughter shares your name. Her middle name is Jane! You were and always will be one of God's special angels on earth and now you are at peace, pain-free and elated......Much love,faith, joy, peace and comfort to your wonderful family. I just know you will be missed but at the same time remembered as the loving spirit you now are....<3

Julie Hageman

August 19, 2013

For all those who are fighting cancer and all those who lost the battle.(and all the Loved Ones)

~ A Survivor ~

Billi

August 19, 2013

Jane, you had a wonderful outlook on life ~ very similar to mine... a realisation come to after also going through Stage 4 Cancer - fortunately for me I have now been in remission for 16 years.I am also a writer though not a famous one :-) and have also written my own obit although I need to update it.

I am glad that you were able to choose a dignified death in the presence of your Loved Ones; everyone deserves that.

We shall meet one day in another realm... I look forward to it...

Love, Light & Strength to your Loved Ones.

Mitakuye Oyasin (We are All Related)

Billi

August 19, 2013

Do not know her but she had a wonderful outlook on life and and she shared it with others that we all can learn from the faith that she had and that she will see her one day.

C. S. Dumas

August 19, 2013

Life is not an inexhaustible well of sunrises and sunsets and walks on the beach. People often forget that and we live our time and marking it by what we leave behind. I was happy to hear that you spent your remaining time not planning to die but to truly live your last days. Rest well.

David Robison

August 19, 2013

How graceful and insightful!Jane was a beautiful ,wise woman .Her family was lucky to have her.Indeed we're all connected.Her words remind us to live life fully,to appreciate everyone and every experience even the "obstacles".Thank you Jane's family for sharing this with us.Take courage in the life you shared with this beautiful lady.

Tutu Oyelola

August 19, 2013

I read this on someones Facebook who works for Arizona Hospice, I LOVE this and I am thrilled to of been blessed to read this... Jane you are correct you will meet your loved ones on the "other" side... but you will be an Angel on their paths now... Thank you for your words.. you have been a blessing in my day...

Bridget Moore

August 18, 2013

"I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. Yet a little while, and the world seeth me no more; but you see me: because I live, you shall live also." Jesus to His disciples.. St. John 14:18-19. Prayers for family and friends.

Adriel Gray

August 18, 2013

Beautiful Jane, simply beautiful. I hope to write one equally to the heart when my time comes to cross over to the other side (I have a terminal systemic disease)

Peter Pisani

August 18, 2013

I take these wise words to heart in my own cancer battle. These obstacles ARE the path and this path is beautiful in spite of its difficulties because the people I love travel it with me...

Lynda Vernia Toner

August 18, 2013

Jane, your story has caused my tears to flow. Unlike you my life has been filled with devastation and destruction and my days now,with increasing regularity,are filled with a desire to have the pain of loneliness and isolation end. I can only wish that I could have enjoyed the kind of life you have led and have the peace of mind about "the end" you have spoken about. My hope is that maybe I will get the chance to meet you there were you are now.

Doug

August 18, 2013

What a wise & wonderful summary of a life well lived. Rest in peace with the knowledge that your words & life have touched many others deeply. God bless you & your family. You are an inspiration.

Roma

August 18, 2013

Tahk you Jane. Your words have touched me deeply.
Rest in peace

Margaret Windecker

August 17, 2013

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