Jane and family...I read your loving kindness meditation 'prayer' to my brother while he was dying of stomach cancer. My sister read your obituary and said you are a very brave person.
God speed. Your spirit lives on since we are all connected.
We shared birthdays just two days apart. We always sent each other cards. Can't send you a card now and nothing is funny anymore surrounding your birthday. I miss you my dear sister. Happy Birthday, I guess. Love you,
Beautiful Lady Jane, you will forever be missed.
You are on my mind and in my heart forever. I love you dearly and miss you daily.
I miss you, Jane. Thinking today of the many life talks we had over the years. Nobody else comes close to your perfect mix of wisdom and wit. Love to you always.
Thinking of Jane and her great family today. Just finished a walk around greenlake, missing my Olympic View friend, she may be out of our sight but never out of our mind and hearts. xo
Oh Jane, it's been two years since you left us. I think of you and miss you every day. It's a rough year and I hope you and Mick are together. I take a certain "comfort" in believing that you are all reunited, Mom & Dad, you, Julie, Mickey, Aunt Dorothy and many others. You are so very much loved and definitely not forgotten. I love you - Pat
Jane, it's really tough right now, missing you and missing Mick. I hope you are together, sharing good times. I love you both so very much.
Happy 62nd Birthday, Jane. We miss you.
Jane, it's been a year and I still think of you every day. You are so very missed by all of your family and friends. Such a great talent, mother, wife, friend and sister. We'll never forget you. I love you, Pat
Beautiful day, happy to be here. Wish you were here, too.
I was part of Jane's cancer support group at Swedish. I was blessed to know her. She provided an example of grace during hard times. We miss her still. Beautiful day. Happy to be here. a mantra for daily living. Thanks Jane.
Hello, Jane.... We have never met, but I read your beautiful tribute to the life you were given. You must have been an extraordinary woman, for everything you wrote in your obituary bespeaks a woman of love, compassion, and gratitude for the life she was given.
Thank you for the lesson.
Hi Jane, Although we never met, I came across your obituary when it was first published and can't help but read it from time to time. Thank you for the gift of your words. God Bless your family and friends.
And so, it was thirty years ago today that Jane and I were married...
Moving on now with memories of a very long time spent living with, loving, and being loved by my wife and best friend.
What a lady. Wish I would have known her..Thanks Jane for leaving something behind that gives light to this sometimes dark world.
My 67 yo mother passed of ovarian cancer on June 29, 2013. I read Jane's obituary and was very moved. It struck my heart.
Though I am a 39 yo adult, I wished my mom had spent her two years of illness writing as Jane did, but I guess that wasn't my own mom's way. She didn't. She said nothing---did nothing; was scared of death. I guess that's why I relate to Jane's philosophies so much. She is right--we are from one organism, obstacles ARE our path. Those are life changing ways of thinking. I shared it with my daughters.
Jane was a progressive, loving person not afraid to speak her will. Thank you Jane. You have filled a void for me.
...Remembering Jane at the beginning of this new year.
You live in our hearts...
we still feel your love.
Thanks Jane for living and dying with dignity
Thank you so much. Even while facing death, you made our lives brighter. I hope to see you on the other side.
I too did not know Jane but came across her moving obituary through the news. To say it touched me was an understatement. I recently lost my mother..she died unexpectedly on Aug 7th..I do not know which is worse _ knowing your going to die or it "coming out of the middle of nowhere?...I can say that I have never felt so much pain in my life. My mother was my world - my best friend, my supporter, my advisor, my rose. Somehow, Jane's words have relayed to me what my mother taught me all along - Jane helped to remind me that God left me here for a purpose. Goood or bad..I have a purpose. Along my path, I take my mother with me. Thank you, Jane, your warmth and depth are living proof of your footsteps here on Earth. God bless always...
To Jane's beloved Bob, Tessa and Riley, family and friends, I had the privilege of reading Jane's obituary on my brother's FB wall of all places. And to respect all anonymity, as names are irrelevant in this case, ( I think he just read this somewhere as well!) I was moved to write you to say how inspired I am by Jane's grateful disposition and her spirit. It's seems you have been graced with her love and I can see that will live on forever. Having said that, I am sorry for your loss, may you find miles of smiles ever more in the wonder and gift of your memories. They seem cherish-able
Dear Jane, I loss my special great Neice weeek before last. She was only twenty years old.The family is so sad and they loved her dearly. Please welecome her into Heaven, if you will. She liked to write, like you, except her writing was poetry. Also, she was a very good artist. I know that she would like you ( a lot), and, I would appreciate it so very much, being the great aunt Barbara, who loved her so very very much. I pray for your family every day, Jane, because I can FEEL how they loved you and miss you. I am sure you will both love being in God's beautiful Heaven.
What a beautiful smile she has...what a beautiful wit she has...what a beautiful writer she is...what a beautiful woman.
What an amazing woman. I only hope that I have the same dignity and grace when my time comes. I am deeply touched by this young lady's (I am 64) fight with terminal cancer and her beautifully written obituary. Wishing her family and friends peace and healing as their journey in this physical world continues.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful writing, this life summary of what was important to Jane. May you be comforted by your memories of this lovely woman.
Rest well Jane and your memory will always be with all those who loved you. You will live on in their hearts.
I was reading about a Charlie Rose interview on a website just now when I saw this link: "Powerful Self-Written Obituary goes viral" and had to check it out. I never knew Jane nor have I been familiar with her work before now. However, after listening to her "voice" through her obituary, her life has just made a significant earthly connection to mine. I printed out her obituary to always remind me to have a "beautiful day" and be "happy to be here"!
I was moved when I read your thoughts on your life at Find a Grave. You sounded like a beautiful person.
I met Jane standing in the pitch session line at the PNWA conference a couple years ago; I just read about her death in the PNWA newsletter. Jane helped me practice the pitch for the novel that wound up being published this year. I've never forgotten how she brightened up the waiting and made me laugh when talking about her book. I'm so glad she made it available to all of us and I will read it with tears and a lot more laughter, I'm certain. An amazing writer and woman!
fleeting moments by the flame
enough to warm, not to burn
hardly met, deeply knew
your fire burning bright
that brought comfort to each, each night
"To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die". Jane lives in my heart
The "Loving Kindness Meditation" (below) was read aloud at Jane's life celebration memorial, at her request.
Loving Kindness Meditation
May I be at peace
May I be healed
May I cease to suffer
May I know the light of my own true nature
May you be at peace
May you be healed
May you cease to suffer
May you know the light of your own true nature
May all beings be at peace
May all beings be healed
May all beings cease to suffer
May all beings know the light of their own true nature
Lie goes on......but you will be missed.
I just read her obituary and thought it was so inspiring. She must have been a very special person.
Simply beautiful.. and so wonderful that now this beautiful soul is reaching so many random lives. Thoughts and prayers to the family.
So beautiful and graceful. I hope to show even half as much grace in my life as she has shown in hers.
Wow! Such love and grace fill this obit. Thank you for sharing, Jane. I will say a prayer for your family to find comfort. Ialso wrote my own obit. Cool to know others have done this.
To the family and friends of Jane Catherine Lotter, my most sincere condolences. I just read Jane's personal obit and couldn't stop smiling as I read it. It was so simply yet beautifully written..her inner sense of peace and acceptance shining through. I saw a link to her obit via a Shorecrest High School Facebook page. I'm sorry to have never read any of her written work while she was alive but am now inspired to read some of her work based on her self written obituary. My thoughts and prayers to her family and friends.
I think it was really beautiful how she accepted the giving, and eventual, taking of life. She had joy, that's all that matters. Rest in peace.
I did not know this lady but she must have been an inspiration to many . To her family , my deepest condolences - you lost a much loved one too soon.
Jane Catherine Lotter, what a beautiful tribute! Thanks for your warm and generous recollections, this final task is now a glowing example of a lovely and gracious being.
A beautiful spirit lives on in her own words. She has shown us how to transition from this world with dignity.
Gulp. I cannot stop crying. Peace with you.
Lovely introspective look on life. I hope one day I achieve this kind of grace. Thanks for reminding me how I should live.
What a beautiful, inspiring memorial to your life. Your husband and children are the lucky ones, and though I am sad that it ended too soon, you sound like someone that lived each day to the fullest. An enviable life, for sure. My condolences to your family
Dear Jane,your words have such great meaning and wisdom. You must have been a wonderful and selfless person. May God Bless your new live.
May you rest in peace and may your family be blessed.
Thank you for sharing a most inspiring love story of your life. I am inspired by you! God Bless you and all of your family.
Dear Ms. Lotter,
I wish I knew you. Your beautiful words have renewed my commitment to life, family and friends. Thank you and may you rest in peace.
To Jane, There are no words to describe you. What your heart said, is beyond. I am a person of few words, but you have touched me , even after 65 years. Your family is blessed. I wish to meet you also, on the otherside. Thank you my dear, you are Heavenly.
Dear Jane Your story makes me happy and i am impressed and enjoyed your beautiful life.
Thanks for sharing.
Hope have a comfortable cozy happy life in heaven.
Hi Jane. I really am impressed from your voice and story. You made me to keep my life in seatle. Your story also made reminiscent such as beautiful Seattle.
God bless you and your loved ones ~ Rest in peace. (( ))
That was the most lovely obit I've ever read. She strikes me as a vibrant, selfless, loving lady and a gift to everyone she ever met. God Bless her and the family and friends she leaves behind (until you meet again).
Words well said for a life well lived and full of so much love. Thank you for allowing us to get a view of a very wonderful life.
What a blessing your Wife and mother was and always will be. We never know what life will bring us, how we accept the good and not so good fate makes us who we are and be the most important gift we can leave for our family and friends. You Jane we a very fine women and surely gave that gift to all you touched. Wish I had known you. Thank you for sharing your most beautiful thoughts. God Bless.
Thank you for writing your obituary and sharing your outlook. I enjoyed knowing a little about you, though we never met. Best to your friends and family.
Our days on earth are like grass;
like wildflowers, we bloom and die.
The wind blows, and we are gone—
as though we had never been here
To the family, loved ones and many friends of this incredible woman...
THROUGH DARKNESS THERE IS LIGHT ... so that we may see the beauty of life renewed. REJOICE for this is meant to be a celebration of new beginnings!
To her loving husband, Bob Marts...
Speak to her... for she is all around you... she is in the scent on her pillow... her favorite chair... and in all things she has touched.
Let it bring comfort to you knowing that not only is she all around you in the things you can't see but in the things which can also be felt with the heart.
Memories made are priceless and real ... she may have left you behind in an unexpected way but her love for you will remain in your heart and in the faces of your children and your grandchildren for to be able to see them is to know that they were created out of the love which began between the two of you.
Take comfort in knowing that she is with her Lord and savior... one day you will join her in a spiritual way surrounded by the warmth and the light of the love you both shared.
I read your beautiful words and felt like I shared some of your history,Jane! Funny that our youngest daughter shares your name. Her middle name is Jane! You were and always will be one of God's special angels on earth and now you are at peace, pain-free and elated......Much love,faith, joy, peace and comfort to your wonderful family. I just know you will be missed but at the same time remembered as the loving spirit you now are....<3
For all those who are fighting cancer and all those who lost the battle.(and all the Loved Ones)
~ A Survivor ~
Jane, you had a wonderful outlook on life ~ very similar to mine... a realisation come to after also going through Stage 4 Cancer - fortunately for me I have now been in remission for 16 years.I am also a writer though not a famous one :-) and have also written my own obit although I need to update it.
I am glad that you were able to choose a dignified death in the presence of your Loved Ones; everyone deserves that.
We shall meet one day in another realm... I look forward to it...
Love, Light & Strength to your Loved Ones.
Mitakuye Oyasin (We are All Related)
Do not know her but she had a wonderful outlook on life and and she shared it with others that we all can learn from the faith that she had and that she will see her one day.
Life is not an inexhaustible well of sunrises and sunsets and walks on the beach. People often forget that and we live our time and marking it by what we leave behind. I was happy to hear that you spent your remaining time not planning to die but to truly live your last days. Rest well.
How graceful and insightful!Jane was a beautiful ,wise woman .Her family was lucky to have her.Indeed we're all connected.Her words remind us to live life fully,to appreciate everyone and every experience even the "obstacles".Thank you Jane's family for sharing this with us.Take courage in the life you shared with this beautiful lady.
I read this on someones Facebook who works for Arizona Hospice, I LOVE this and I am thrilled to of been blessed to read this... Jane you are correct you will meet your loved ones on the "other" side... but you will be an Angel on their paths now... Thank you for your words.. you have been a blessing in my day...
"I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. Yet a little while, and the world seeth me no more; but you see me: because I live, you shall live also." Jesus to His disciples.. St. John 14:18-19. Prayers for family and friends.
Beautiful Jane, simply beautiful. I hope to write one equally to the heart when my time comes to cross over to the other side (I have a terminal systemic disease)
I take these wise words to heart in my own cancer battle. These obstacles ARE the path and this path is beautiful in spite of its difficulties because the people I love travel it with me...
Jane, your story has caused my tears to flow. Unlike you my life has been filled with devastation and destruction and my days now,with increasing regularity,are filled with a desire to have the pain of loneliness and isolation end. I can only wish that I could have enjoyed the kind of life you have led and have the peace of mind about "the end" you have spoken about. My hope is that maybe I will get the chance to meet you there were you are now.
What a wise & wonderful summary of a life well lived. Rest in peace with the knowledge that your words & life have touched many others deeply. God bless you & your family. You are an inspiration.
Tahk you Jane. Your words have touched me deeply.
Rest in peace
Beautiful...Love life everyday.
Beautiful...we should all take heed to her message....celebrate life....
Jeanne Donahue ( CT )
GOD Speed lady of light Jane ~ and GOD Bless Marts Family of lady of light ~ I too had that wonderful First Grade Teacher who taught to me to love the written word and all the beautiful world and universe waiting to be discovered in all of their glorious splintering colorful facets. Jane ~ you wrote life and the other side of life so beautifully. I'm certain that you still are ~ Shelley, Alaska
Rest in peace, Jane. Way to live! Best wishes and comfort to your family and friends.
So beautifully written. Truly an inspiring piece. Lucky me I stumbled across it and read it.
My condolences to the family of Jane, one of the most amazing women I have ever read about. I printed her obituary to share with others. I have often thought of writing my own obituary as who knows one better than oneself and at 78 years of age I think of it more frequently. I feel as if I know Jane. Peace be with you all.
God Bless You Jane and to your family, just trust in the Lord and he will be your anchor and pull you through this time and many more.
I didn't have the honor of meeting you in person, but through my tears and smiles reading your final words I feel Blessed. My friend George Naha posted this on facebook and I am so glad he did. I wish you a Blessed Journey to a place of beauty and understanding. Truly a beautiful woman inside and out the World lost a precious gift. Thank you Jane for sharing a final piece of your Soul with us.
With Love and a Prayer,
You are awesome Jane, I'm sure we will meet someday. God bless your family. I'm sure they are comforted knowing you are touching so many people.
I did not personally know Jane but those of you that did should feel very lucky. I always hope that when I have to leave this earth I am as graceful as she was, I am afraid I may not be.
Jane, you probably never thought you would touch the soul of a person in Iowa that you never knew but you have and I thank you.
Jane was a great lady,I never met her, but her obituary was a beautiful tribute to her love of her family and friends,she had a pretty terrific life.So very sorry for your loss.
Life's so fragile and love's so pure
We can't hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why
Linda Ronstadt - Goodbye My Friend
Thank you for reminding me to live.
That is living! Rock on Jane!
Thank you for such beauty.
After reading this amazing self penned obituary, I want to thank Jane's family for sharing this with the world. And as for Jane, I'm sorry we never met for I love the person your words portray so clearly. I love your intellect, sense of humor, wisdom, and big heart full of kindness. I am sorry for your husband and two children for losing such a beautiful soul as a wife and mother. But take heart Bob, and Tessa, and Riley, that you were so very lucky to have had this one in a million, precious person for your very own wife and/or mother. And the same good luck for her first family of parents and sisters. Love transcends all, including death. Jane/mom/sister/friend will be near in your hearts until you meet her again on the other side. Jane, may you soar free with the beautiful angels of light and continue to pour your love into the lives of your dear family, one and all. Thanks for the honor of reading this courageous and inspired writing. As you said, we truly are all one.
At 63 and retired I think of death each day. I want to hold on to every moment but remember all the special moments and people from my past. Thank you for setting such a wonderful example of thanking those that followed you on that path of life.
Thank you, Jane and family for writing and sharing this! What an incredible thing to do! Thank you for the reminder to live life to its fullest and enjoy all of the moments that we have. I wish I could have met you... I can tell you would have been someone I would have thoroughly enjoyed being around. Rest in peace and fly high and I hope to meet you on the other side someday
I am crying while I write this. I am so sad to see such a wonderful and loving person leave us. It is a giant loss to those who knew you, but also a loss to me and thousands of others who miss that light you brought to the world. You have such insight. You are such an inspiration to me to live my life today fully, with courage and love, as you did.
What a lovely way to exit this world of ours; a great inspiration to others of what it means to have lived a life full of joy and happiness. Her words should reverberate in our collective conscience.
To the family left behind: may her spirit continue to soar inside you and may her joys be part of yours for your lifetime.
What a beautiful tribute and farewell to a beautiful soul and a beautiful life! I would have been privledged to have known her. Love and Prayers to her family and friends.
Jane, what an inspiration you have been to your family, friends and loved ones. May they find peace knowing that you lived your life to the fullest. Rest in peace beautiful Lady.
What a graceful obituary! I smile at you AND feel sad for your family. Best wishes to your journey in the other side of life. Il Yoo
after the obit went viral, and i read it, i thought how clever to let everyone know what they meant to you personally, rather than someone else trying to remember who to include and what accomplishments there were. how incredibly awesome it is to see that Jane was as ok as she would be, leaving this world. Truly touching. i believe everyone should take this opportunity to say what you felt ... take the time to tell the people that you truly love, that you wouldnt change a minute. Peace to you all.
Never met you, never knew you, and live a million miles from you, but passing with such dignity, poise, and immersed in your love of others and their love of you reinforces my faith in all things good about life and about being human x
What a lady. What dignity. The world is so lucky for having had such a gem among its treasures.
May your family be at peace. Jane what an inspiration you are, R.I.P.
Not impossible I have an obituary after ten years. I wish I could run similar words as she did: "Beautiful day, happy to have been here".
Dear Jane, in Heaven, thank you from the bottem of my heart, for sharing your life, and afterlife with us. It really seems that you had a good life, and also a very rewarding one, that you truly deserved. For you loving family, I pray for their comfort for their loss of you, and acknowledge their real treasures of their lives given by you.
This is a beautiful obituary, she was so full of life to the end. Bless all of Ms. Lotter's family. Live in peace and don't be sad because she wouldn't have wanted you to be. When you think of your mom and wife be proud knowing you truly had a person with a unique and beautiful heart who loved you very much.
Absolutely heartbreak, beautiful obituary in my entire life. Jane, enjoy the rest of your journey at there and thanks for giving all of us to read your last read. RIP
I want to speak in Korean. "??? ???..." I was surprised at this news. I think she told us we should see our life more positively. I will live more hard and more beautifully. I want to appreciate her for this essay.
love and peace to Jane, and the Lotters.
Absolutely beautiful, appreciating and fully enjoying the gift of life! We are all touched and encouraged by Jane's view of life. May her journey continue with more wonderful and touching memories still to come.
Such a beautifully expressed life. I did not know her but am celebrating the joy of her life and thankful she is no longer in pain.
Simply amazing. May she enjoy her new path!
Even though I did not know you, I feel blessed to have been- as you say "connected to you" through this human experience. In death you have brought life, love, perspective, and comfort to countless others; may all of us be as giving and as fortunate.
I never met or heard of Jane until I read her Obituary today, I wish I could have been of part of her life, the spirit she has inside of her and for others to be shared, I really appreicate her thoughts and kindness to share. God Bless her Family
What a true inspiration and soul!
What a beautiful gift this woman gave to everyone who reads "all the news that's fit to print." I am grateful to have learned of her life and,oddly, her death. I continue to be amazed every time I hear of another brave woman who changed the world just by showing the rest of us how it's done.
Thank-you. For an obituary well written and most of all a life well lived.Enjoy the rest of your journey.
This obituary is absolutely beautiful. God Bless the Lotter-Marts family.
I also did not know Jane but as said before I will celebrate her life and certainly stand in gratitude for her parting words - such wisdom and such grace!
What an inspiring woman. May her family be uplifted by her spirit. The world was a better place for her living here!
Dignity the best one can say about someone Jane certainly should us how
My father passed away last Monday. He was a fabulous goof of a man, who gave me my quirky sense of humour. Having read Janes obituary, I can see heaven will be in fits of laughter with the two of them there. I hope I have half the courage Jane has when it's my turn to leave my body behind. Thankyou for shaing and making me smile during this sad time in my life. Souls like yours will be missed.
Jane, I just read the Sample available of your book 'The Bette Davis Club'. I have a Nook- not a Kindle - hope I can buy it - the Sample is totally delightful!!
Dear Jane, just reading your obituary is inspiring, thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. You mentioned a favorite book 'The Sea, The Sea'. I just downloaded it tonight because of you. I love to read and this is indeed a lovely journey. Bless you on your way.
What a wonderful spirit...I wish I knew Jane. I am touched by your wise words and your courageous. Pray I can be as strong as you always. My condolences to the family.
Death is a hard reality to face. Your wisdom and compassion makes me realize how much of a gift life really is. Thank you for completing your life with this wonderful perspective. Rest in Peace, Jane
Thank you Jane for the brave words. may I face the surety of that day with as much courage as you did. RIP
I didn't know Jane, but I celebrate her life and stand in gratitude for her parting words.
I wanted to slide quietly into death Jane, leaving my children loved but remotely unconnected to their has-been mother; your words make me want to live better...I owe you....Thank you.
Thank you for the gift of purest courage in a culture that seems, often, to have so little of it, with regard to the things that (it turns out) matter most. Blessings light your path forward...
A beautiful story that put tears to my eyes. Bob
I came to this through an article that referenced it. Fantastically and bravely done. The world is a poorer place for your absence. May we all meet someday when our path ends in the clearing
Dear Jane, I never knew you but I love you. Thank you for the wonderful gift of your life. Yours, Mary
Your light shines bright always, Lovely Jane. Thank you for this wonderful obit and your example of grace and beauty. I will be honored to meet you on the other side.
I have not met you - have not even read your book - but I can see that we have lost here a person of great value. You will surely be missed. I am thankful for the beautiful and poignant message you left for all of us.
Such a beautiful expression of love...of life, of nearest and dearest, and of this truly transient existence we all share.
Time Flies When You're Alive.
Happy Birthday, my dear Jane.
ABSOLUTLY BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFULLY PUT
You are shining example of pure grace. Blessings to your beautiful children. May they forever feel your presence in their hearts and blessings to your Bob who will surely always miss you but may move past the grief.
"I love you soooo much..." same exact thing my Mother told me less than 20 hours before she passed at age 50. Beautiful day, happy to meet you, Jane. Thanks.
What a dear message for anyone still on their journey. Thank you, dear Jane. With love to you and yours, Diana
What a beautiful person. I am so happy that you were able to decide when you wanted to leave this earth with all of your loved ones around you. Peace to you and your family.
I just reread Jane's obituary to Pam Reid and Chris Reid while driving to the PM river in Mich. We are describing the Celebration to Pam, including singing "Row, row, row your boat" at Jane's request as a round together. Um, um. Still touching all of us, now and forever. Live/love, Penny
Wow, a friend put this on FB and I am sitting here crying. I am 61, almost 62, and know I, too, will one day have to take my last breath. To face death with such courage, optimism and dignity is such an inspiration. I really wish I had known Jane Lotter-I'm sure I would have loved her. Cheers to you, Jane, I miss you and never even met you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Jane has much to teach us about living. I shared this with my wife & kids.
Today would have been your birthday and tomorrow is my 60th. I made many changes in my life, but reading your heart-felt obituary you penned has forever made me realize how great life is. Forever, Thank you.
I ddnt kno u jane bt I just cried readin ur mesg.ur positiveness moved me nd inspired me in a way I will never understand.ur hubby nd children wer lucky to hav such a strong woman in their lives.may your soul find eternal peace
What a beautifully written obituary. Thank you, Jane.
I never met her but I've always known her. Jane was there, along with all the other amazing everyday saints who walk among us and touch our lives for a brief, shining moment to remind us that life is always good and to be shared with everyone. Thanks to Jane's husband and family for sharing her spirit with us. May you find peace in knowing that you have deeply touched many lives by allowing us to share this most intimate moment with you. I will not soon forget Jane and her courage, strength, and joy. Peace and love be with you always.
Jane, I was feeling down today but reading your life story was tremendoulsy uplifting. Your realism and optimism touched me. Thank You
I cried reading this as if I knew you, Jane. You are an inspiration and I'm sure your husband and children smile with joy at having been part of your life. May our Lord bless and keep you in his arms forever. Madeleine Ioannou, Portland, Oregon
Reading Janes's words was so moving and inspiring--now we've met and I'm just that much better off and grateful -Alan
I am happy to say that I knew Jane as a fellow writer and am thrilled to own her Bette Davis Club on my Kindle reader. I wish she could have been with us at PNWA this year.
Gosh Jane great writing about a great life. You are a fellow Leo and I am so touched by your wisdom, especially the obstacles that are the path. Peace sweet lady ,see you on the other side
Jane, I was not fortunate to have met you but I am so glad you were here....truly your life gives me faith in the human race. For those who were lucky enough to have known you they will never forget you, because I know I won't. If there is a place that the good go when leaving this earth I know you are there...peace and comfort for those who were left behind.
Inspirational. What a wonderful human being. You will be sadly missed by all whom you have touched. In person or through this journey of yours.
Your words are a beautiful gift to all of us that never knew you, but wish we had. Light and prayers, Anne Paone
Absolutely beautiful!!! Gave me chills. Peace be with Jane's family and friends. God bless her.
Such a beautiful sentiment. Thank you for touching my life. I wish your family nothing but happy memories.
How beautiful to touch the lives of those fortune enough to share in God's goodness to have blessed the world with such a woman. Prayers to the family & The Seattle Times for making the world brigher to share into a glimpse of life through the eyes of Jane Catherine Lotter.
You are one strong lady, and your family will always have great memories of you and your journey. This Obituary was one of the most touching and unique one ever. I will have your family in my daily prayers, so Our God will wrap his Holy arms around them while going through this journey also.
May your new journey be wonderful, joyful and peaceful among all the amgels,spirit masters,and God. Your words are inspiring. My sincere condolences to the Lotto family. How wondeful and lucky you were to have had such a beautiful person in your lives.
What a wonderful person she must have been to leave such a lovely letter to her family. May GOD give you peace during these times.
Go raibh tú daibhir i mí-áidh,
Agus saibhir i mbeannachtaí,
Go mall ag déanamh namhaid,
Go luath a déanamh carad,
Ach saibhir nó daibhir, go mall nó go luath,
Nach raibh ach áthas agat
Ón lá seo amach.
AN IRISH BLESSING
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
Slow to make enemies,
Quick to make friends,
But rich or poor, quick or slow,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.
Thank you very much for sharing with all of us.
WHAT A WONDERFUL OUT LOOK OF LIFE AND WHAT IS YET TO COME
Extremely moving...didn't know Jane, but certainly feel she was a beautiful, kind person. Thanks for sharing her.
jane you sound like a person I would have liked to have meet. life is to be lived.
Thank you. Just Thank You
My wife, Kendra, died of endometrial cancer in 2008. Jane's words touched me deeply, not just for the inherent poignancy of a woman writing her own eloquent obituary, but because I wish that my dear wife had been able to leave me with such parting words to hold onto. But I found a way of holding on through my writing, just has Jane Catherine Lotter found a way of letting go through hers. Here is the last part of a poem I wrote:
Two years ago today you said goodbye
To all the chemos and operations,
To the hospital stays and all of that,
But never did you say goodbye to me.
Oh, I know you were preoccupied with
The journey you were just about to take
And you were in a morphine haze
But even in the days before,
We never talked about your leaving,
Living with such hope until the end.
And when the end did come and the deafening
Shattering of that hope silenced any talks
That we would ever have, I grieved.
I had lost my chance to hear you tell me:
“I leave with no regrets, you did your best.”
Have you absolve me of my minor sins.
And I wanted you to tell me
It would be all right.
In the days and weeks and months that followed
I looked for answers In the Void
And I waited for a word from you
Which never came. Then one day I realized
There never would be a goodbye
Because you are still here in memory.
You are still here
Falling over my lap in laughter.
You are still here
Saying, “Please massage my feet.”
You are still here
Lost in your puzzles.
You are still here
A sweet puzzle yourself,
Shy, silly, moody
And forever a part
So, no goodbye –
You go where I go,
Even as I say hello
To my new Life.
Beautiful tribute to a life well lived and a death on her own terms. Thank you for sharing her with us all!
The definition of a beautiful soul
The definition of a beautiful soul
My 25 year old daughter who lives in Seattle sent me this obituary, with the comment "What a lovely reminder of how precious life is, and how lucky we are." Those of you who are the family and friends of Jane Lotter won't be at all surprised that she continues to touch a broad range of people in death, as she did in life.
What an inspiration. Something to copy to read over and over. One of my hobbies is reading obituaries and she certainly is at the very top. Thank you.
I didn't know you, Jane, but your words moved me and I shed tears for you and for those you left behind. I hope to meet you someday. Hug Mr. Dickens for me, ok?
thanks Jane .. and all of you in the radiance of Kane's life and of all life. I have begun writing my own obituary & I love it. as Carl jung suggested in his personal memoir what we write is what we want to share. it may not be true except that is my story written by me ... I love you all ... don vv
What an amazing person, I didn't know her but I would have liked her.
"obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path"
Love the gift you left for us all! I have never heard the quote "obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path" until now. Love it! I needed that, thank you! I will definitely be remembering this and your words forever.
Thank You Jane.. Rest in Jop and Peace...
Thank you Jane. What a gift you have left us with.
What a gift to the world - this last gem of writing. Thank you Jane for a glimpse at the big picture. Blessings to you and yours.
Thank you for this perspective.
Deeply touching, life-changing. We all leave our mark, even on complete strangers. Thank you for this and blessings to all those who loved her.
Thank you, dear Jane/Mom.
What a brave lady and what a wonderful tribute to your loving husband and daughter and son that you were able to give them one more thing to remember about you always. You were beautiful inside and out and I am sure you will be remembered for your life and your message you sent in your obituary. I will share your message with my beautiful daughter and my wonderful son. May you rest in peace.
I found myself in tears after reading this. What a lovely soul! To her family: know that you were loved tremendously by this lady and that SHE felt YOUR love and support. What a gift! My thoughts and prayers are with you, because, even though I do not know you, we are all connected.
How blessed to have had such a beautiful person in your lives. I can only hope to have such grace in my passing.
Thank you, Jane and Bob. I am sitting as I write at the Mayo Clinic here in Jacksonville FL., caring for a very good friend who is dealing with stuff no one should ever have to handle.
"Her words touched me in such a way I realize it is time for me to consider the same," he said this morning. And we have set about today to begin to build his obituary.
An amazing man who spent his life 100% doing postwar work- he, too, deserves one. Let us all feel the same when we are
Amazing and beautiful...even in the short and sweetness of it she gives a powerful message. What a treasure the world is mourning. She will be missed by many. As a former Washington resident I am lucky to say I was able to enjoy her writing and I will miss her work.
Your beautiful words inspire me every day. I wish I could have met you, but the world unfortunately does not work like that. Pray for you always. Happy early birthday.
I was so deeply touched by this obituary, especially the part of obstacles in our path being the path. I have passed this on to my 3 adult children. What a fantastic way to to look at our trials in life.
Carole in Rush, N.Y.
You are a beautiful wise soul, Jane. I will never again walk through the crushing crowds of Pike Place Market or the quiet beauty of Green Lake without feeling your spirit. Mahalo Nui Loa
Jane, thanks for letting me pass thru your obit. You were blessed and a blessing . Such a great reminder of our precious time here. Merrily, Beaverton,Or.
Thank you Jane and Seattle Times, for sharing this wonderful obit. I am teary eyed and joyful for you Jane and your family. I wished I could have met you! Rest in peace, Lovely Lady.
I just read Jane's words and was mesmerized by them. What an incredible lady! The world was a better place having known her. Blessings to all who loved her....... Linda Watson (Staunton, VA)
What a blessing Jane's obituary is. My sister is part of a hospice organization. She sent me Jane's obituary.I particularly liked her thoughts on obstacles and the path. I never thought of it that way...great wisdom she had. I have been married 37 years, we have 3 adult girls. I I offer my condolences and prayers. Blessings to you all, glen [toronto]
What strength and spirit Jane had! Her words can be the "wind beneath your wings," the remaining days of your life. Wishing all of you my deepest sympathy.
Thank you, Jane for your wisdom and your advice. Yours was a life well lived. Peace to you and your family.
She was truly gifted far more than we will ever know. I was touched and will always know to never fear the unknown.
Wow! What an Amazing Life Mrs. Jane C. Lotter had & has left for her family to cherish!!! Thank you Lord for such a precious gift in Mrs. Lotter... R.I.P.
Thank you for letting me meet you and learn from you even after you have been here and moved on.
How inspiring it was to read your obit today. Your love of life, family and friends above your many successes shows that you truly knew what the most important things in life are. I am sad you were not given more time to share all you had to give to this world, but you made a difference. Bless you and your husband and children. Peace be with you eternally.
This was a blessing to read. Thank you for the much needed inspiration, Jane. Thank you to her husband as well, for sharing her beautiful words with us. God bless!
"The notion that one will not survive a particular catastrophe is, in general terms, a comfort since it is equivalent to abolishing the catastrophe."
Wow ! Thank you for sharing this ...RIP where ever you are ....
Jane, SO sweet..So generous. Though you are no longer alive..I am lying in my bed here in Seattle..TOTALLY inspired by YOU. My love goes out to you. Gregory Hugh
We were history majors together at the U. of Washington. I remember you, but only now realize what a beautiful person you are. Thank you for these beautiful words--particularly the ones you had for your children about the "obstacles in your path ARE the path!" I may have lived longer, but I think you have lived richer. Thank you for your wisdom, which will continue to inspire me always....You attracted all that love into your life. Pamela A. Fuller
Thank you, Jane and thanks, Bob for sharing them.
My mother just died of cancer 1.5 months ago in Bremerton. I had to write her obituary and can appreciate the strength and gift it must have taken for you to write your own. I am touched by your beautiful words and wishes for your children though I did not know you. Thank you and Peace to your journey :)
Thank you for sharing your beautiful, wise words. It was an honor to read this. May you rest in peace.
You took one beautiful life... yours, and made everyone who read your pre-post-obituary stop and reflect on your brave and fullfilling life... and each of our own granules of rice... that we can stop. observe introspectively. and kiss you in heaven for...be blessed angel!
Mrs Lotter was an amazing woman , wish I could have met her . May peace be with those she left behind .
All I can say is thank you for reminding me of what life truly is.
MY condolences to the Lotta family. Out of the cup of human compassion we all feel the pain of pains. Thank you for your beautiful words! Love and light!
I'm at a loss for words - this is truly touching and inspirational.
"And may you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path." I've never looked at it this way before, but it makes perfect sense. Bless you all.
So beautiful- the world was blessed with you in it, such an inspiration.
What amazing beautiful words from an amazing beautiful woman. Thank you for inspiring us all. Peace, love and light on your next journey.
Thank you for your words; they are moving and beautiful. We all need to remember that the people we connect with and care about and love are the best parts of life-thank you for reminding me.
Thank you to Jane for realigning my perspective with wit, dignity and refreshing honesty. I have no doubt Jane made this Earth a better place. Beautiful day. happy to be here.
So, inspiring. Good show.
I cant help but be reminded of when I wrote a eulogy for my tooth before my first root canal.
Her obituary was very touching and may she rest in peace.
Condolences to your family Jane. What beautiful words and so inspiring. I feel privileged to have read them. Thank you so much. Beautiful Day, Happy you were here.
Well said. May you rest in peace and God bless your family.
Jane was blessed and able to tell all her friends and family how much they meant to her. She was grateful for what she had, she did not dwell on what she was leaving. Brave woman....an example for all of us. It reminds me not to wait until i am close to death to tell my family and friends how much i love them.
I am honored to have been touched by your words. May you find peace and rest. God has touched us through you.
Wow- you will continue to be a wonderful spirit who even taught strangers to love, live, and love and left a legacy of love for your family. Shine bright!
Thank you for sharing such a touching, uplifting moment in time. May we all face our mortality with dignity and acceptance.
I am blessed to have read your life story. I pray and I hope that when the bell tolls for me, I too will have inspired others. God be with you, and thank you.
Incredible, lovely & loving...a gift toanyone who reads it. God Bless & God Speed.
I didn't know you, Jane, but so glad to have encountered you through your beautiful writing. Sending love to you and all who knew you.
Going to look at everybody and everything in my life different because of Jane.......gil
Thank you for being here with us.
Thank you for your words.
I did not know you, but having read your obituary, I wanted to thank you for your words and actions. I know you are now in Heaven. May God bless your family.
This hill, this will it is the path.
These edges & smudges are not a draft.
These holes & moles & wicked ways
These groves & moves are not for play
This path so real I can now feel
I know now this path, these rocks, these turns these curves & swerves,
They are my way ...
My way to a God I shall see some day.
Beautiful woman. Beautiful words. Safe home Jane Lotter
Jane, I just read your obit, and was moved to tears. Thank you so much for putting this life, we all share, into such sweet perspective. What a beautifully inspired presence.
Sending love to all who knew you...
Thank you Jane for reminding us all to live a little more while we are here. beautiful parting words.
Godspeed Jane, thanks for stopping by.
Thank you for your bravery and inspiring words. I was diagnosed with cancer in March and your words have helped to give me strength to face what's ahead. Although we never met, I'm glad you were in this world.
Thank you Jane for sharing your loving words with all of us. May you enjoy being the Angel that you are, just in another place.
May you rest in peace- I was very inspired by your final thoughts. Your family and friends were very lucky to have had you in their lives!
I can only wish, I had your wisdom,humor,sense of whats really important when I enter into my last days. Your family is lucky to have had you in you all to short life. Bob, I dont know you but I hope you are smiling as perfect strangers enjoy the words of your great lady.
I just read your obituary and found it to be one of the most amazing collection of thoughts written. You were truly a wonderful person and the world was much better with you in it.
Wow. I am standing a little taller now, after reading Jane's wonderful 'letter to the world.'. Thanks Jane Catherine Lotter. And my sincerest regards to her family and friends.
So touched by what Jane wrote...here's to a life well lived! Condolences to her family and friends.
I did not know you but reading your obituary made me wih i had known you. May your vibrant spirit be contagious.
Thank you Jane, for sharing with us your precious memories; your life and death; your wit and keen wisdom. Your courage and grace gives me the strength needed to leave this world when it is my time. God Bless You and your Family!
So touched by her humor, good sense, and warmth.
Thank you for sharing your life with all of us who are still on that Path. You give us the courage and wisdom to just be and enjoy and cherish what we have.
Jane's spirit is still with us. I can feel her here, smiling as her words impact me. See ya soon, Jane!
-Marcie Young, Lincoln, NE
Beautiful day. Glad YOU were here!
Thank you Jane for writing this touching wise obituary, you were a great woman. Thanks for the inspiration for life.
Love and comfort to her family and friends....what a truly beautiful woman. <3
What an amazing person! Thank you for sharing!
Was really touched after reading it. God bless your soul.
To Jane's Loved ones,
May your sweet memories be your consolation.
I wonder how much she cried writing this . I cried reading it
Whomever was a part of your life was a very lucky and proud individual.
I too am fighting terminal cancer and my outlook has been shaky. Your wife/mother has given me strength to hold on to now and treasure the past, good and bad.
A beautiful person is now one of our Angels.
What a beautiful way of looking at her life and struggle. She put every thing in prospective when she said that obstacles were the path. I could tell by her words that she was one fantastic person. Sorry for your lose. I am sure she is a welcomed addition to heaven.
Your words act as a reminder to all that if cut thru the chaos and the grind that is our life, there are very few things which matter in the end. Rest in peace Jane.
Jane, you were and are definitely the kind of friend that my Mother would love to know, she and all the great energies and light will greet you as you transition to your next life. Thank you for reminding me of the celebration of life. Please hug my Mother for me :)
What a beautiful person who now lives in spirit with all who love her! I am in awe of her bravery and brilliance. My sincere sympathy to her family and friends.
"....obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they are the PATH."
Brilliant, thank you Jane; what a wonderful way to look at life.
I hope I have Jane's courage, wit and grace when it is time for me to "give it back." Aleha HaShalom
How fortunate your loved ones were to have such a beautiful being in their lives. Such a wonderful soul lives on forever.
Dear Bob & Family,
Thank you for sharing this obituary. I only wish something like this had existed when my own mother died of cancer. Jane's legacy lives on! You are truly blessed to have experienced Jane's gifted, sensitive and wonderful presence in your lives.
You are so right! We are truly all connected. Our spirits are ONE. I can feel your presence. You died on my birthday and I grew up in Seattle, lived my first two years just blocks from Northgate Hospital where you were born. I, too, have fond memories of Green Lake walks, also the fireworks there on Independence Day. The things you shared in your obit bring back fond memories of my own years lived in Seattle.
My most dear friend just had another surgery for his skin cancer yesterday. May you somehow console him from your place in the afterlife, as he recuperates from this. May you be a guide to me as I continue my writing. Thank you for bringing meaning and purpose to our lives.
A very brave lady. Condolences to your family and friends.
The divine organism's brightness is now much dimmer in your absence. RIP J.C.L.
May we carry the light you carried while here on this earth.
You are lovely-I feel your spirit you were truly graced. Only a grace filled God could allow you to feel peace through Buddah. You see it was Jesus all along as you now Know. May God continue to bless your family.
You ma'am, have raised the bar.
I was blessed to have been given the link to read the words of your beautiful and courageous wife and mother, Jane. Thank you for sharing your beauty. My deepest condolences and peace to you all.
Beautiful words. Rest in peace Jane and God bless your family. Sitting here in Pakistan I can feel each and every word you have penned.
Just read your Obit at HP. I was blown away. You are a truly beautiful person and led a happy joyous life. Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you Jane for your zest for life and peace in your death, we are blessed to know you now.
May you rest in peace Jane Catherine Lotter, and let all remember the joyous memories you shared with them.
Rest well, sister. I'm glad you had a good time while you were here.
Thank you for your graceful, grace-filled reflection on leaving this life. May your husband and children feel support in this time of loss for them.
So touching, so beautiful, so wise, and so inspiring. I wish her well :)
I was going to say "I wish I knew her" , but, I think , now, I do...."thank you" to her family for sharing the "gift" of Jane. We are better for, just briefly, being gently brushed by her spirit...
wow. what a wonderful woman and what a fantastic piece of writing. You didn't have to include any jokes, Jane. I got it.
I wish I had known you, Jane Catherine. It would have been an honor.
My husband and I read Jane's obituary today together. The beauty and humor of Jane shines in her words. My husband said he is going to print this as a reminder of Jane's eloquent thoughts about what it means to be human. Peace to Jane's family.
Jane, may you RIP in Heaven. I am sure you are missed by many as you obviously had a beautiful spirit and mind.
What a wonderful, courageous and giving woman. I didn't know you, but feel blessed to have read your words.
May we all be as elegant when we pass.
I was born the same year as Jane, and I would have loved to have known her. How wonderful for her family and friends to read her uplifting words.
To Jane posthumously and to the ones left to the mortal toil, the obit touched me. I think having Jane in the circle must have been special, I'm jealous in a way.
I'm feeling my own mortality more these days and this obit brings me closer to everything. I will die sometime but embracing the whole squeezes life's juices from the fruit. Thank you Jane for your words, hope to share a hug on the other side.
I happened by chance to see the last words of this Jane Lotter, they were beautiful and honest. I felt we could have been friends in another time. What a special person she must have been. John
What a truly blessed life she has lived!
I never even knew Jane, but her obituary helped me today. I am grateful for her life and her written words. Halimah
I was born Aug 12, 1952. I'm two days younger than Jane. Lost my wife to breast cancer two years ago who like Jane enjoyed her last days on earth in peace and spiritual connectedness. I am grateful to your words and couldn't agree with you more. We are all one with this earth and each other. I believe death doesn't change that, only how we live it (not just metaphorically). Be one with Earth, her peace and passions and we know not just ourselves in our deepest nature, but also those who have passed from their body but are still with us in Earth's great womb of life.
Jane, you were blessed with a gift of words and thoughts. Sometimes, there are only thoughts of loves we think are lost. Today, would have been my little brother's (John) Birthday. Your words gave me comfort, even after you left this world. There are no words to Thank You for helping me with yours. May God Bless you, your loving family and friends.
Such Courage and insight. Beautiful person.
God bless a beautiful person who lived a beautiful life and will continue to live on.
I never knew Jane, but she seems to have had everything in order and loved her family very much. I have been fighting cancer since March 2012 and at this time I am cancer free after having chemo. I want her family to know how important it is to keep her memory alive in their hearts and surroundings. Blessings are sent to you.
This is awe inspiring and a wonderful ending quote!
An amazing tribute...to Mrs. Lotter, to her family and friends. Though I have never met Mrs. Lotter I am amazed by her strength and courage. Be at peace..
Thank you, Jane Catherine for your bright light, your light heart and your love of life.
Thank you, Jane, for sharing some important pieces of your life with those of us who are still hanging out around here. Your years on this planet were far too few, but what well-lived years they were! I hope there's a great afterlife so that those of us who never got to meet you in this one will have the opportunity to do so in that one.
simply understated and beautifully magnificent just as in life. Bless her family.
How incredible that she could write her own obituary and say what she wanted to say. An Inspiration.
My brother died 2 years ago of pancreatic cancer. He was 38. He was first diagnosed wrongfully a few times. And when they finally got it right, his doctors still talked about treatment, "waiting for him to get strong enough to operate" and so forth. He died within 8 days. We never got the chance to say goodbye. Your goodbye letter, Jane, felt for me like the goodbye words he might have spoken, if we would have had enough time. He also was a life-loving spirit like yourself. I am aware that your message was written for your own loved ones and not for me. But I thank you for it nevertheless. Rest in peace, Jane.
What a beautiful gift she leaves for so many. My thoughts are with the family and friends who had the joy of knowing and loving her.
I never had the privilege of knowing you Jane, but I am sharing at least a small part of your journey with endometrial cancer.
Safe Journey Jane xxx
You are one of the most memorable people I've ever read about. I'm sorry we didn't know each other here, but maybe next time. Meanwhile, rest peacefully. You have done well.
I did not know Ms. Lotter, but could not help but be touched by her strength, dignity, and wit.
Incredibly moving. God bless her and her family at this time.
I heard of Jane's obituary through Q13's Facebook page and am glad I had the opportunity to read this wonderful final goodbye. I can only imagine what it must have been like to be a part of this woman's circle and cannot wait to discover her writings. My thoughts and prayers are with you all :)
Rest in peace Jane, thanks for sharing your beautiful spirit.
Maria Ong ( Hopewell Junction, N.Y.)
Beautiful woman, blessed to have had her spirit touch my life.
Simply beautiful and moving. Thank you.
"I was given the gift of life and now I have give to it back. This is hard" - Those words will stick with me forever. Those of you who knew this woman were lucky indeed; she seems truly remarkable.
Thank you to Jane and her family for sharing their lives, love and hope with all of us - a gift so many will appreciate.
Jane seemed to find freedom in understanding impermanence, she was able to "let go". Her obit was lovely, wise, funny. My thoughts are with her family as they cope with their loss.
Thank you for your bright spirit and humor in the face of ultimate illness. Coming to peace with my own death is the grace I hope to reach. Reading Jane's obit is one more shining star towards that path. So glad her words are touching so many people.
I too did not know Jane and was brought here by Buzzfeed.
I lost my mom to endometrial cancer that mestastized as well. Jane's obituary is very inspirational and it sounds like you were very lucky to have her in your lives.
Beautiful words from a beautiful heart wrapped in the body of a beautiful woman.
I wish I had known her.
This moved me so much. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I did not know Jane- one of my best friends emailed me this self written obit because it is such a lovely, honest, loving, wise essay. Jane's words are so true, down to earth and REAL. What a gift to leave to all of us humans lucky enough to read it. I am grateful to her husband and children for making it accessible to others.I wish you strength and peace. Thank you.
This is one of the most beautiful, moving things I have ever read. Thank you, Jane! What a great woman! For those who knew and loved her, I am so sorry for your unspeakable loss.
you had a beautiful wife, mother and daughter.. after reading her words it touched me in my heart..what a loving jesture on her part sharing her life and and passing with the world.. prayers to all the family.. and may she be watching over all my deepest sympathy.. jody from louisiana
I did not know Jane either but read her obituary through the NYT. What a beautiful spirit that shines through her writing. And definitely words to live by each day. I will print this to remind me of how lucky we all are each day.
Jane's positive and brave outlook on human mortality in this obituary is awe-inspiring. People like you don't come around very often.
Such a deeply moving tribute. I'm so sorry for your loss, but what a wonderful life.
I send so much love to Jane's family. I didn't know any of you at all, but read this VIA the NY Times, and am thankful it was shared. It was beautiful.
Jane's thoughtful words have brought a smile to my face and tears to my eyes. I would have liked to have known her.
Thank you for your courage, my heart goes out to your family.
Thank you Jane. This was beautiful. I've re-read it several times today, and each time it's made me cry a little. Thanks for your lovely words and for a life well lived.
You made a difference in this world
.........thank you jane.........i'm thinking of your family today....your writing has touched my heart today.
For over 30 years I have believed in the value of self-written obituaries, and tried to encourage others to write their own (authored "Have the Last Word: Write Your Own Obituary (and Learn to Live) Audible.com). It is obvious that Jane's has done more to accomplish that than I ever could have. What a great outpouring of emotions from so many that did, and did not know her. I certainly wish that I had. Superb obituary from a superb woman. You must miss her very much. My heart goes out to all of you.
Thank you for sharing. Have fun and adventure on your continued journey through the cosmos!
I guess when life gives you lemons; you make lemonade!
Jane, Jane, full of grace. I have read countless books on caregiving, death, and dying over the last year. I lost my husband of 31 years 7 months ago. I do believe we are all connected. I feel his energy, as I feel yours having read this obit. May your family find comfort in the knowledge that you continue to make our world more beautiful and the days pass.
what an simple, direct and inspiring message. Thank you, Jane, for having the courage to extend yourself in this way.
Jane,thank you for your words and your grace. I hope you are writing still where ever you are--and that your family is strong like you.
Thank you for showing me what courage means.
A sensitive and beautiful lady. Sad that I missed knowing you.
Thank you for your beautiful life - I never knew you but believe that we all live on in each other's Spirits.
YOU had a big life!
Love all around,
Jane, Thank you for this lesson-on-life. You have become my new-best-philospher- and-teacher on how to walk the path.
Rats. Now we'll never get to be friends, and we would have had such great fun. May your family and friends be comforted by their memories of you -- you were all so lucky to have had each other.
Mary Dillon Galbraith, age 70
This was the most beautiful obituary I have ever read. What a wonderful woman. Rest in peace.
What an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing your spirit, and for writing words of inspiration and comfort that this stranger needed to hear right now. If more of us had your outlook on life, this world would be a much better place. My sympathies to your family, and to all who were fortunate to know and love you.
Tough we never met, I'm greatly touched by your life and your death. Louis Zoellar Bickett
Thank you, Jane, for your beautiful testament to life and death.
Lovely and moving! Something I would wish for anyone, that is to write one's own obit. That being said, though it's WAY, WAY early, don't wish me an RIP when I finally leave. I have no intentions of "resting" in peace or otherwise. I FULLY plan on partying my butt off! May even make it back to this plane a time or two to 'poke' some of YOU! Actually looking forward to trying out that George Jetson Bubble Car with a Schnauzer pup named Astro!
Party on, Jane! See you on the other side, sister!
To Jane's family and friends, I pray only peace. Rejoice in Jane's life and love! I believe you know SHE is!
A beautiful, dignified departure of who was clearly an extraordinary person. Peace be with her and her loved ones.
Astonishing and beautiful. Thank you Jane and thank you Bob. We would like to include this obituary in our archive for A Book About Death, a project that is an open book on the subject of death. http://abookaboutdeatharchive.blogspot.com/ A life worth living...
What a lovely person and a great writer. I've taken the liberty of including her autobituary in my blog collection, http://ninalentinislifewithoutend.blogspot.com/. She is among wonderful company. My sincere sympathy to her family for such a great loss.
Blessings to you all. I am truly moved by your loving story.
Jane Lotter, in head scarf, bib apron and bell bottom jeans, unofficially ran the dining room at Julia's 14 Carrot Cafe. She quickly went on to so much more. Bob, Tessa and Riley, my deepest sympathy for your loss.
In intention and proactive choices, there can be great, great love. I admire the woman, and the courageous and affirming choice she made. When it is my own time, may I be as gracious, and as grateful. My thoughts to the family.
RIP... precious soul that I never knew.
I knew Jane in the 70's when I lived in Seattle. I spent some time at the Central Tavern with Roger and other friends, including Jane. Her obituary was beautifully written and very moving and shows a life deeply lived. My condolences to all in Jane's family.
I met Jane in 1995 when our daughters started Kindergarten. She always had a smile to share and calm about her. She was a great role-model for motherhood! I only regret that once the girls graduated from HS we no longer stayed connected. I admire her courage these last 3 years and know that she leaves behind a great legacy.
Tessa and Riley, your mom was a wonderful person and I know she has instilled you all the things that made her a great person. Bob, I am so sorry for the loss of your soul mate. May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived. - Shawn (Meaghan's mom)
In September, it will be four years since I lost my wife Laura to Cancer.
My thoughts and condolences go out to Bob Marts. Your loss like mine leaves a great hole.Be good to yourself. R.I.P. Jane Lotter
Sadly, I never knew Jane but her self-written obit makes me feel I do know her a little. Even after death she is giving people strength -- as I know she must have in life.
These words are a beautful gift to those us still in this 'rollicking revolving" world. Grateful for Jane's life.
Oh Jane, how I miss you. Life's demands and space kept us from seeing each other often, but I knew you were there and we could pick up the phone and "catch up". How I will miss those long phone conversations. I was your big sister, I was supposed to protect you and I couldn't. I'm sorry. My heart breaks, not just for myself, but for Bob, Tessa and Riley and all of our family. Tessa and Riley are just beginning to make their way in the world. How I wish you could have stayed to see them become the adults they will become and to guide and advise them. Today I saw a piece that made me think of them and you, as their mother. It is:
“Your mother is always with you. She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street. She's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick, the fragrance of life itself. She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well. She's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day. She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of the rainbow; she is Christmas morning. Your mother lives inside your laughter. She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's the map you follow with every step you take. She's your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you not time, not space. . . not even death.” -- Unknown
I love you, I love your family. Be at peace dear sister. -- Pat
Jane, it seems you're inspiring the universe, which is really no surprise. Along with the wonderful things being written here, I want to add what a great mother you were. Your spirit lives on in the hearts and minds of your children, who, like you, are the best: kind, loving, thoughtful and smart. I treasure every minute we had together, and will think of you every day. Love forever, Amy
I am a member of Jane's gyn cancer support group. I am greatful to have known her the last 7 months (for me remission from stage 4 ovarian cancer).
Her spirit, humor, example have/will help me handle whatever path my life takes. Thank you, Jane, plus for the most beautiful obit I've ever read (from a long time reader of how people's lives are summed up). You sure did it!
Love to you,your family and friends.
See you again. Linda Meller
Love to Jane, and love to her family!
This is beautiful and touching. May we all look upon the end of our time on this earth as courageous as you have Jane. I hope your family and friends found strength and solace in your courage and resolve. I didn't know you but the world has gone just a touch dimmer without you.
I am glad I took the time to read this notice. Jane Catherine Lotter, you are an impressive woman. I hope you do not mind if I take some of what you wrote and adapt it for myself when my time arrives. Because of you, I will learn Meditation and I am also going to read up on Buddhist philosophy. I also like what you told your children about the obstacles in their path. You have touched me Jane Catherine Lotter and I thank you.
I have never met you Jane, although it seems we have known each other for years. Yes Jane, we shall meet on the other side, until then tell my brother hello and we miss him.
I met Jane in middle school and our friendship took off from there. We enjoyed many adventures together, but what I will remember most are the wonderful conversations we had around her dining room table. And the laughter. Always the laughter. I will carry Jane in my heart forever. She was the best. Much love to her amazing family, Bob, Tessa and Riley.
Bob, Tessa and Riley.
Beautiful. Didn't know her but wish I had.
Family of Jane Lotter: I don't know you or Jane, but what an awesome testimony your loved one left behind! I hope her obituary takes off as a trend for others who are able to do this w/the time they have left on this earth. My deepest sympathy to you & your family. God bless!
Beautiful Soul! Thanks for sharing her words. So sorry for you loss!
Beautifully written, an inspiration to us all.
Dear Jane , According to Buddhist philosophy you are reborn somewhere in the world. Your every word made me believe that I will meet you someday in your new life. - Sandeep Badole , India.
What a beautiful spirit. I never met you, Jane, and don't know anyone in your family, but I'm so sorry for their loss. Like I feel certain so many other people have (and will), I read your obituary after it was shared by a friend online - shared just for the beauty of it, because it made us stop, think, appreciate, cry, wish we had known you -- all the things people are writing here. You've no doubt touched countless people, even after you've given back your gift of life. Your life is still giving, I promise you. I just wanted to thank you for making me smile to meet and grieve to lose a stranger, all in the course of reading your obituary. (The line about the column inches: so perfect). Your sense of humor was not lacking, and neither was your extraordinary humanity.
Oh, God, I am so incredibly empowered by her life and her death. Courage and beauty come in many forms but this is a spectacular evidence of both. I love you Jane, for the courage you have given me to fight more, love more, be more, and be a little like you. Rest, Beloved, Rest and know your message reached one heart and indeed, we are all connected. You passed it forward....
Jane, We have never met and yet I feel a connection. I, too, have had to face a battle with cancer, and live with the real possibility it will return and be terminal. I will always remember the zest you had for life. You were indeed blessed with a loving supportive family. Thank you for sharing your feelings. Thank you for giving me strength and the wisdom to appreciate my life and not dwell on a future that I cannot control. May God give comfort for your loved ones who will miss you terribly. May you rest in peace in the fact that you have left a legacy for your loved ones that will prove precious.
Jane, You touched my life without knowing you would. Wishing for strength and peace for your family and friends.
I didn't know you but reading your obituary made me cry. You will surely be missed.
That was wonderful. You were born one day before me. Thank you for showing me the right attitude for passing away.
Thank you, Jane, for having been here; those of us who've read your beautiful words, wish you an eternity of beautiful days. Love & Peace Forever.
I never met you Jane but your words have changed my life.. blessings to you all.
A bright light , a beautiful soul gone to soon. May she rest in peace . . .
Why I feel so connected to Jane, I dont know. My sis Cindy GrantMunroe died August 3, 2003 in Olympia, after 8 years of the battle. We both found peace in Buddhism, tho we grew up seperately. I can just say that Janes spirit is strong, and I feel the divine.
In your fifth grade year, I was so fortunate to have both you and your mom in my life. I have never forgotten either of you. Your mom was always so supportive, even when I got reprimanded for suggesting that you, my students, could write in favor of saving fire engine 16. Love your mom and you, such a kind and great sense of humor kid!! I have shared the inspiring words by your mom who has so much love to share with you, Tessa and your dad . . .
Reading her obituary was very touching and made me cry and think of my own loss of my Mom. I did not know Jane but her words ran deep in my soul. I pray for her family and know she will be watching over you all. God Bless.
Thanks for showing me how to see today more clearly.
What am amazing and spiritual tuned in person she was, she touched my spirit in an unforgettable way with her writing of her obituary. I wish I would of known her. ~ Judith B.
What a lovely send off. My deepest condolences.
"the love you take is equal to the love you make........:
Thank you , thank you, thank you for taking the time to post this. We all do wonder about our lives and deaths this way. Jane Catherine Lotter, a stranger and totally human person, has added to my life reached out to guide my moving through it. There are few times I believe that those who have been gathered up can hear us. I think she can. I think the energies all mix somewhere; quantum spirits making the leap and still being here at the same time.
Jane - I didn't know you, know your sister , Pat, only thru Facebook. I think we could've been great friends if we had ever met. Loved your book. Your writing is exceptional as displayed in your own obit. Much love to all of your family. They should remember how much you loved them all.
Jane's dying is an inspiration . Her words on how to live turn death into another adventure. Her words like her life are beautiful.
Tessa, your mother's obituary is beautiful. She makes me want to enjoy every second in life. I only met her once, but I remember feeling so welcomed by her into your home. Even from her writing, she has a glow to her that no one can deny. I can see why you admire her.
Thinking of you all the time,
This is the first time I've ever signed a guest book honoring the life of a person I didn't know. Bob Marts; from one Bob to another, sincere condolences to a lucky man.
A gifted individual with a lucky family. Thanks, Jane.
Bob & now Tessa, there are no words that I can use to express my condolences to you and your family. I'm just sorry I never had the privilege of meeting her.
I am profoundly moved by Jane's farewell, and by the sense her words convey of a life lived well and lived fully. It makes me want to live my own life with deeper awareness and appreciation.
I didn't know Jane, but wish I had. The link to her obituary was given to me as a kind of special gift, and I have given it to others.
Requiem aeternam dona eis, Domine; et lux perpetua luceat eis.
Bob, Tessa and Riley, my thoughts are with you 24x7. Jane was an incredible person and I'm so thankful for the joy and wisdom she shared with us. Life is beautiful, and long.
This obituary made me painfully aware of the preciousness of the gift of life, and of the incalculable loss Jane's loved ones are facing. Nothing I can say will lessen the pain. But let me just say--what a woman, what a human being, what a gift, and what extraordinary nobility of soul to leave such a goodbye letter. May her soul be bound up in the bond of eternal life and may God comfort you all.
Jane & I grew up together as next door neighbors & childhood playmates on NE 159th St - a real "Leave it to Beaver" neighborhood in the 1950's & 60's. My mom still lives in our house, and I learned the sad news of Jane's passing from her. Although we hadn't kept in touch over the years, we reconnected briefly in 2005, when she and her sisters came to my father's funeral. We traded highly shortened versions of where our lives had taken us, and I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation. Jane's wit, humor, and compassion made a difficult time much easier. My thoughts and heartfelt sympathy go out to Jane's husband and children, and to Pat, Barbara, Kitty and their families.
Thank you for being such an incredible friend and confidant to my mom. She would always call me to share your witty and poignant bits of wisdom after your walks with her at Greenlake. They will stay with me forever, as will your written words and your spirit. XO
I did not know Jane... until reading her obituary yesterday. It is the greatest I've ever seen. I fully agree we are all connected... blessings to her loved ones.
At Julie's grave (all those years ago), you quoted from Hamlet. Well, you always knew your literary references, and I find no better words than those today: “Now cracks a noble heart.”
May flights of angels sing you to your rest, Jane. Love always,
We only met briefly, but knowing and working with Bob, I could tell you and he have a special relationship -- I say have because I too sense the timelessness in each of us. It must have been strange to write your own "goodbye" letter to the world, but I am a better person having read it. I hope we can all achieve such a wonderful perspective before we depart from this mortal coil. Rest assured that the truth in your words, your life, and those you've touched will continue to be a shining light for those of us still hung up by this whole linear time thing here on Earth. Thanks for reminding us how precious and beautiful life is. Godspeed...
Dearest Bob and Tessa,
Jane's spirit soars though her words. I know you will carry her gift of light onward.
My words cannot express my deepest sympathy.
May Jehovah God comfort you in your time of sorrow.
dear bob - my thoughts & heart are with you and your family.
I was fortunate to know Jane in the mid-70s. With her pals, Linda and Karen, and a few others we enjoyed going to see lots of live music, discussing movies, art, philosophy, food, authors and writing, and really appreciating what Seattle had to offer back then. It was a time of relative youth and freedom for all of us.
She was intelligent, enthusiastic, funny, curious and had already started writing. I look back at those shared times with fondness. Always remembered will be her distinctive deep and often heard laugh.
Jane's words, full of peaceful & good thoughts about those of us still on this rock demonstrates the clarity & generosity of her spirit. Her heartfelt truth bespeaks a life of purpose; perhaps to join us all in the understanding that we are one & nothing truly dies -- simply evolves.
Bob, I know you and your family shall miss her walk with you on this planet & I wish all of you the peace & understanding that you are loved and never alone.
Sometimes I hear Jane's voice in my head even before my own reaction to something. I love how she'd say, "That's not cool." I say that now, or rather, I hear her say it in my head when I encounter things I think she'd think are funny (which is a lot. I'm better for having known her.
I did not have the privilege of knowing Jane, but after reading this obituary, I certainly wish I had. Donna Hood
PS: I ordered the Bette Davis Club and can't wait to read it.
Jane was a fantastic writer, a hilarious story teller, witty and charming conversationalist, an expert wordsmith. She was most probably my biggest fan whenever I appeared in theater productions. A loving wife and dedicated and adoring mother, she was all these things and much more but most importantly, my aunt. I am going to miss her but will forever love her and remember her and her laugh. Jane could really laugh. I wish grace and peace to surround all of Jane's family and friends during this sorrowful time.
Jane we only met a few times, but I have always felt welcome in your home and in your presence. Thank you.
How powerful that Jane was able to share her spirit and strength with us even in passing. I will be thinking of her often in the coming days and I suspect her word will and thoughts will surface again and again.
Dear Marts/Lotter Family,
Our thoughts are with you. She handled all of this with such grace and honor. She enjoyed life and deserved much more time with her family and friends. Thank you for sharing her with us.
Wishing your family your most cherished memories!
Jane, I only knew you as the protective wife of the best soundman in the pnw! didn't know you were a fellow writer, editor. So sad lose you. Thank you for your grand contributions and wonderful self authored obit. An inspiring gift to us all. Godspeed grand spirit
Jane- I remembered you fondly from high school days...I was so excited to find out about your book - just finished it today...I never knew you were moving on.... Thanks for the gift that was your life.
Dear Jane...I'd never met you before I woke up this morning but we've probably walked by each other a hundred times at Greenlake. That was the most beautiful thing I've ever read. You made my day.
I never met Jane but I miss her spirit alive on this earth nonetheless after reading her final published words. Bless her for all the inspiration she has given others and now me for the life she led as a child, young woman, wife, mother, sister, friend.
"Beautiful day, happy to be here" - words often spoken by Jane.
May the family be strengthen by the words of Jesus at John 6:40.